My Husband Has a Favorite Child and it Has Destroyed our Family

My Husband Has a Favorite Child and it Has Destroyed our Family
author: u/ThrowRAlostwife
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[@morganleanderblake678]

you know if OP's husband had just listened to his wife this could have been solved years ago.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

Don't trust the wife though. There is a reason why Kyle called his brother Mason instead of his mother.

[@lillia2479]

Honestly speaking, someone close doesn't always have the ability to knock some sense into the one being the issue, even if they're doing everything they can. Sometimes it takes an outside perspective for them to see it for themselves that they are the problem. ​@@gostavoadolfos2023

[@laynegrey2003]

​@@gostavoadolfos2023 yeah... she was at work. That, and he wanted out of the house for a while to get distance. His mother still lives at the house, she couldn't have offered that. She's been up the dad's ass about his favoritism for years dude, she can't force him to show each kid equal attention. All she can do is tell him off when he messes up and hope he fixes his own issues.

[@senbeisei]

as someone whose family aint so close to even though i was spoiled like sean (but not the favorite like how the father treated him), im glad the father could realize his mistakes and change right there and then. and how the siblings actually dont blame sean for it but held a slight jealousy at the moment, im glad they could get closer. it feels shit when you watch your family slowly tear apart right in front of your eyes.

[@lunawolfking1340]

The dad is dumb. He could join the zoom from his phone at the froyo place

[@armaggedon390]

That would require thinking about his other sons for more than 10 seconds.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

He is not dumb. He just tested how far his emotional abuse against Kyle can go and he didn't anticipate he would call his big brother for help. Can you imagine the social implications of the community finding out that a 15 yo boy running away from his parents home to live with his brother. His entire image of a family man and stand-up guy us going to crumble 😅

[@Owl_lover64]

That would be 1 if wonder why he didn’t use 1 BRAIN CELL for his other sons

[@kossettereaditte7552]

"He ls a good dad" proceeds to explain how he sucks as a dad

[@SeaFireK]

Well, he may not have been a good dad but he wasn't the worst dad. He could have been so, so much worse. And at least he had the decency to kick his own ass and try to get better, and seek therapy on his own.

[@kossettereaditte7552]

@@SeaFireK True I guess

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

​@@SeaFireKyep it could ve worse than emotional abuse for years. One of them is now an adult so he still have a chance to be the father of the year 😅

[@att6484]

Favourtism while bad doesn't make someone a bad father necessarily

[@puclopuclik4108]

​@@att6484That's exactly what it is.

[@neshaboo933]

Finally a story on here that’s not freakin depressing. Sucks that it took the dad so long. Can’t understand how the mom pacified the dad’s behavior. But it seems everyone is participating in repairing the relationships. Good luck to this family.❤

[@TheMormonSorceress]

Better late than never as they say.

[@dravenocklost4253]

Dropping a like because, while the drama is fun its very toxic, i have gotten angry listening to some of the bad ones. I am very happy to hear a good story, thank!

[@katara4907]

I relate to this so much

[@oreki22]

Gonna be honest, this story actually makes me angry that it got resolved. Might be something from my past I need to look into? But, it just annoys me that he was actively being told what he was doing was wrong for years, refusing to change or acknowledge, and then suddenly wants forgiveness after his actions (obviously) finally blow up in his face. Like, the problem wasn't just his blatant favoritisms, but that he consistently ignored/undermined his wife's thoughts and other kids feelings. Guess it just felt like he got off way too easy, I guess? The whole situation might just be a big red flag/pet peeve for me though, I don't know.

[@kiatequila424]

My cousins names are Sean and kyle. Sean is always the favorite because Kyle is an sociopath. End of story, let me find out this is my aunt.

[@senjuuzima891]

Is it? Lol

[@phantom8926]

And what makes Kyle a sociopath?

[@pupsicle5345]

Did he tried to kill a pet or threaten your other cousin?

[@marieguillou8808]

Does he eat pineapple pizza?

[@reyj2532]

Do you have another cousin named Mason 💀

[@league-of-shadows]

Mason is such a great older brother for giving Kyle a safe place to stay. It’s also nice to see that while Sean knew he was favored and enjoyed he didn’t become a monster. He genuinely loves his brothers.

[@smorphous8928]

If Op's husband literally listened to Op and his other sons none of this would've happened. but he had to pick favourites.

[@Baptisteog18]

OP hasn’t commented in 3 years. So we can only assume that things worked out for the better.

[@RagnarokAvatar]

Her husband accepted that he failed as a father, now he's trying to make things right.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

My heart goes for Kyle and Mason. Such sweet boys even afer years of emotional abuse they still carry a golden heart. OP is equally responsible for all of this. There is a reason why Kyle called his older brother instead of the other parent.

[@therealdeal347]

I think Shawn knows what he is doing

[@mattacus-g6g]

Finally a good marriage at the end

[@pawel2669]

I think the best strategy is to shut the father out if you are the kids. Maybe start calling him by his name

[@desuno2609]

this story genuinely made me tear up ;;

[@Burritofan]

Hey storylounge I miss the “uplifting story” with snowfall music. This had some good resolutions and would’ve been better with the snowfall music imo.

[@Joey15811]

The dad needs to take the other 2 on a bonding trip without sean to fix their relationship. Like the trauma from sean being ill made them bonded, now the other 2 need a bonding experience. Also gives mum and Sean some time as it seems Sean was a daddys boy. The favouritism is disgusting. Glad he is working on it

[@emperorconstantinexipalaio4121]

Interestingly enough, my name is Sean, I am the baby in my family, and I’m pretty sure I was my dad’s favorite. My mom opened up to me like a year ago that my dad was a pretty distant father to my older siblings till I came along, at which point he suddenly became super involved and amazing. I never understood this when I was younger because my relationship with my father has always been great but now it makes sense, especially seeing as my older siblings, especially my sister, still struggle from the issues they had with my father’s lack of affection towards them growing up. He has taken full responsibility for his failures and tries his best to express that he loves them but it’s just very sad because no matter how often he reassures them, they never feel as though he truly approves of them and seem to still desperately want that approval subconsciously. They never quite feel like they’re enough. I never had that issue with my father and always felt loved by him so it’s kinda made me realize that my family wasn’t so perfect and I got affection from him that my older siblings didn’t get. It’s been tough to come to terms with that and sometimes it makes me feel a bit guilty for never noticing it sooner, but I guess it is what it is and no family is truly 100% perfect. Not only that, but it’s not my place to struggle since it’s about his failures for them and their issues and needs, not mine. They never resented me for it, or if they did, they repressed it well, and I am truly grateful for that. My relationship with my siblings has always been pretty good and they were very affectionate with me too since I was the baby. My experience is very different from this situation but it was just interesting to me and I’m glad the family is working towards reconciliation.

[@peshivirginflower7]

Ops husband is a lost cause n op is just as guilty, both parents failed thier sons. I have no sympathy for either parent. Op still doesnt want to hurt her husband but he devastated her sons smdh

[@potatoes8414]

Nah go no contact for a few years or spice it up with emancipation letter or disowment or legally change you last name and if dad gave the name change that ish too and just keep adding all possible thing to affect your dad. Something similar is what my friend did he just kept sending letter after letter that says hes cutting all legal ties with them.

[@atl7368]

Isn’t there a version of this from the son’s perspective?

[@leahketchum4078]

If he doesn't fix it you should leave

[@Neyfufu00]

Honestly you should have told your husband down some more, you haven't done it enough. You told him for years to stop favoring one child and now it's starting to hit in his pathetic pee pee brain but he's being a terrible father after ignoring your warnings and only favoring one child and now he's whining about not wanting to lose his family like a pathetic child lol

[@LadyfoxMOCK]

Unpopular opinion, but why couldn't the youngest son wait till after the event to get frozen yogurt? It was mentioned that Sean begged, and the dad caved and took him. I'm not saying it's Sean's fault by any means, but I can understand why Mason and Kyle can't help but be slightly mad at him. It's one thing if Sean didn't know there was an important event, but if he did know, then I can understand Mason and Kyle's slight anger towards Sean. He seriously couldn't wait till after an event to get some frozen yogurt.

[@missytanner3501]

Mum should have told Sean not to bother the father at the specific time so he wouldn't miss the meeting

[@LadyfoxMOCK]

@@missytanner3501 Good point. If Sean didn't know anything about it, that's different.

[@aafinkle5162]

Kind of telling that the mom didn’t do sh*t until the kids walked out. As crappy as the dad is mom was an enabler for sure (as she admits a little under halfway through)

[@missytanner3501]

Completely agree, she enabled him

[@laynegrey2003]

She very much so was trying for years to fix the issue, she wasn't remotely enabling him. She goes out of her way to tell him how he's being a problem, repeatedly. The only thing she didn't do is threaten divorce before, and that's because she hoped this was a mendable issue and didn't want to nuke her family until it was falling apart on its own. Divorce isn't just something you throw around, its a huge legal clusterfuck that makes life hell for everyone involved unless it's the most amicable divorce ever.

[@missytanner3501]

@@laynegrey2003 She always back down,and even after they walked out she felt she couldn't confront him because she didn't want pile on like there sons were

[@laynegrey2003]

@@missytanner3501 he really didn't need to get shit on any more in that moment. The message got through, she didn't have anything more to add they didn't already hit him with. It's not about making him suffer, it's about making the message come through as clear as possible so he can finally realize how much he screwed up and fix the issues. Which was accomplished just fine without her input this time.

[@aafinkle5162]

@@laynegrey2003 you really think there was no middle ground between what she did and threatening divorce? And you think she wasn’t even *remotely* enabling… there’s really no nuance here for you? You sound pretty biased, maybe look into that lol. Have a good one

[@diovalobrando2005]

1like=1stroke You don't have toooo 😢

[@Alex_The_Barbearian]

Don't worry buddy you won't get a like from me.

[@inihilisme1511]

wtf

[@diovalobrando2005]

@Alex_The_Barbearian thanks bud I knew I could count on you 😉

[@Alex_The_Barbearian]

@@diovalobrando2005 man I hope you are doing okay you got 13 likes.

[@diovalobrando2005]

@Alex_The_Barbearian thanks bro your my favourite barbarian

[@Tu11iy]

Expected an actual destroyed family, got a happy ending. Disappointed.

[@ResidentWeevil2077]

You should be ashamed to call yourself human.

[@ResidentWeevil2077]

So you enjoy seeing pain and misery?

[@GarryTale]

Disappointed??

[@Tu11iy]

@@ResidentWeevil2077 if I'd enjoyed seeing it, perhaps I'd be off to fight a war in a certain country starting with a U. But reading/listening about it sure feels good at times.

[@Tu11iy]

@@GarryTale yep, it's not like I've misspelled the word too.

[@cuteizombi6946]

I blame the mom for being weak and she acts all butthurt when the boys leave? No just no

[@AW-xc1xc]

The dad should have been a dad to all his kids, the primary fault lies with him.

[@cuteizombi6946]

@@AW-xc1xc true but the mom kept begging them not to leave because they could work things out that's the weakest response I ever heard and it speaks for itself

[@tedbutler1761]

just a suggestion but i understand your husband felt he my have almost lost that son and it's only natural to want to give him everything and extra love , but he should explain to the other two he just over compensated and didn't understand how much he was side lining the other two , he should beg forgiveness and take just them two on a trip so they can rebond , and be their for them whe needed , that should bring the family back together ,however the yunger one must stay with you and be told it's so they can all bond together again and your there for him as well