My Husband Is Accusing Me Of Financial Infidelity After I Purchased A Hobby Item r/Relationships

[@myrabeth77]

So he wants her to live like a devoted housewife who dresses up for him and caters to him, while earning like she occupies a C suite. Dude, that woman is imaginary.

[@lasmirandadennsiewillja9435]

And she's not allowed to be as happy or happier with her life than him. Even if she becomes a devoted, dressed-up housewife who caters to him while earning money - if she manages her time in a way that leaves her content and not exhausted, he'll be resentful anyway because it wouldn't be fair towards him that she isn't as or more miserable than him.

[@dandotvid]

Exactly. Just as imaginary as the women who say they want the perfect husband who helps around the house and father who is there for all the kids' stuff while also making a million dollars a year. Why can't people be realistic with their expectations?

[@Keyda3star.]

My ex was like that. Made me feel confident yet horrible all because of the expectations he put on me. Cook clean and pay everything 50/50 despite me working twice as many hours for half the wages he earned. Complicated man, his argument was that he was making me better and without him I'd go back to *insert trauma filled backstory here* without him there to keep me in check. I fell for it for two years before finally leaving after he tried to put his hands on me. Never went back.

[@sleepyearth]

Also he is already planning to dump her for a younger model wife.

[@Sherwoody]

He wants June Cleaver.

[@robins2819]

For anyone wondering, there was an update literally when this video was posted. As many of you thought YES, HE IS CHEATING. Big fucking surprise. The OP wanted to see how she would be treated if she did all the things he wanted so for one weekend she did a little experiment and dressed to the nines, waited on him. He never so much as thanked her and when she asked him about it he said, "its a start". Turns out, he's turning into one of those Andrew Tate douchebags because of the money he's earning. He called her a "low value woman" because she wasn't a virgin when they got married and that she needs to make up for it for the rest of her life, that she doesn't deserve monogamy or equal treatment. And, of course, that he had been seeing a woman already. OP is filing for divorce and told him to get the fuck out. On the bright side thought she did say that she doesn't think of herself as "low value" and she's going to be going to individual therapy, so somewhat happy ending.

[@tully6648]

Wow. F-k this guy entirely.

[@Puddlejumper]

Thanks for the update. I suspected he was already cheating too.

[@ScandalizeMyName]

I find it absolutely terrifying that after 10 years of marriage someone can change so completely and terribly. One thing I will say as a female with a degree and career in finance - OP’s ex’s attitude change is not surprising considering the type of men and the culture that permeates the finance industry at certain levels. I saw the Andrew Tate bullshit all through college and in the career field. It’s a boys world that encourages misogyny to the max. Seems OP’s ex was a weak minded and weak willed individual with rocky morals to have been swayed so heavily by the Finance Douche Bros. He’s going to end up like all the rest of them; A lonely bitter old man whose Married to a trophy wife golddigger at least 15 yrs his junior and a very expensive cocaine problem and kids who despise him.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

@@ScandalizeMyName "I find it absolutely terrifying that after 10 years of marriage someone can change so completely and terribly." Well, men _are_ statistically the most likely to cheat on their wives 11 years into the marriage.

[@robins2819]

@@ScandalizeMyName Agreed, those types of people are the creators of their own hell. I wonder if the more money you have the bigger that void in your heart gets. I mean they both live extremely comfortably and he could downgrade his job and still keep a worry free lifestyle. Judging by the type of woman OP is, she'd probably be more than happy to have him around more often. If you're not seeking happiness after having found a way to live comfortably, then the dude has actual problems.

[@charitynordstrom5734]

I'll bet if she was more ambitious about work he'd complain about her not doing enough at home. How is earning $200,000 a year not earning your keep, especially since she seems to have pretty simple taste? Dude just seems greedy. Nothing will ever be enough for him

[@sarahl88]

Yeah he uses his job to justify not doing the domestic stuff but then complains she’s not going further in her career but how would that work if she was because then she wouldn’t be able to do the same stuff at home using his own logic? He’s being ridiculously and unrealistically demanding and I hope she realises he isn’t worth it.

[@gmun2248]

Also, she said she inherited the house from her grandparents, I think (?). So he got a free house, which is why they are not stressing about saving for a deposit, or debating rent or mortgage payments. If she's brought a house into a marriage, that's the biggest contribution for most couples/ families.

[@Sherwoody]

Other than making money, what do they actually have in common. Are they Mr and Mrs Bland? Hell, at that age with a million saved and no major bills, they should be living it up a little together, not separate interests.

[@Threadworxs]

nah... the explanation of why he's bothered is WAY too specific/geared to imply OP might 'lose him' - simple truth is he's stepping out on OP and has gotten a fright realising OP must have a 'stash of cash/spare change' which would enable her to readily divorce him if he's found out!

[@technicaldifficulties368]

@@Threadworxs It's her house. He's delusional thinking that's gonna stop her

[@NovaGirl8]

Update: she recently posted that they will now be divorcing. He was cheating with a 'virgin' coworker and has since moved in with the gf. He called OP a "low-value woman" because she wasn't a virgin whem they first did the deed. Lol he couldn't have gone more "low-value" than a homewrecker.

[@spinshocker]

Brooo… the moment he mentioned that he’s “starting to notice other women” because she’s not putting enough effort into her appearance, that should’ve been it. She argues that he wasn’t trying to be hurtful because she had to drag it out of him, but he’s clearly threatening “if you don’t wait on hand and foot for me, and perform as a perfect housewife at every waking moment, I will cheat on you and it’ll be your fault.” There’s no fixing that.

[@iSelkiei]

Op just updated he is cheating with a girl from work

[@MemristerBoogieDown]

@@iSelkiei…shocking. Lol.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

​@@iSelkieiColor me (not!) surprised. Is she leaving him?

[@iSelkiei]

@@MaryTheresa1986 Yeah she canceled their marriage counseling and is getting a personal therapist and lawyer. He went to live with the gf

[@Sherwoody]

@@MaryTheresa1986 she can use her savings to get a good lawyer and take him to the cleaners.

[@lasmirandadennsiewillja9435]

Imagine having a partner who looks at you and says "I noticed you're happy and content with yourself, your job, and your hobbies while being financially stable enough to be independent. I hate that. I expect you to devote your money and time to your job and me until you're stressed and miserable."

[@LoveK1]

“I hate that.” I felt that in my soul. He’s such a jackass and that’s exactly what he was saying to her.

[@gmun2248]

tl; dr

[@vanzy01]

💯👍

[@Rose_Bride]

OP is REALLY setting herself up for failure. This marriage is over. Her "great" husband is actually not too great at all. When that one commenter asked her what her husband does to contribute, she couldn't even give a clear cut response besides listing all the things SHE did for the household. That was enough of an answer in itself to tell what kind of (non) "relationship" this is. 🙄 Sounds like he ALREADY has a wandering eye and I feel like he has already been having an affair and OP didn't even notice. The fact that OP was surprised that he'd noticed she'd stopped putting in the effort in setting the table and dressing up tells me that he NEVER bothers to compliment her or shows appreciation. He just EXPECTS it without giving anything in return. He is a TAKER. He wasn't even going to tell OP his feelings; he just wanted to start an argument to push her away so that he'd have an "excuse" to end the marriage and not look like such a "bad" guy. This is a tactic that many cheaters use, claiming that their partner "neglected" them. But if you're feeling that way, why not have a conversation about it? I also doubt that his "long hours" are ENTIRELY due to his job. I think he is out having an affair. On a subconscious level, perhaps OP has noticed this, hence why she has stopped putting in effort into impressing him as she recognizes that his attention is no longer on her. What has this man ever done to show HIS appreciation to OP, anyway? OP claims that his love language is "acts of service", but honestly it seems like only SHE has been doing all the "acts" and the "serving" thus far. OP really just needs to move on, as it sounds like her husband already has. Don't waste 10 _more_ years on this insecure *LOSER.* Get out before there are children involved. 😒

[@gmun2248]

At that first comment, I thought that was kind of sweet that she did those things & he liked it. It went rapidly downhill from there until he had lost all respect a few sentences later. I have a conplex chronic illness & I live with my parents. I have a small art& design business. I usually give handmade cards at birthdays/ events, I like to make them & I like that they are a little more personal. A few years ago, I bought a funny card for my dad instead, I thought it would make him laugh. He did, but he said, "You usually make my cards." I didn't think he really noticed that much - I feel the pressure now 😂😂! I'm kidding (although I do always make his cards now!), I just thought it was going to go somewhere like that with the way it started off. It did not.

[@stutikhanna987]

​@@LostSoulchild89i was sure about it

[@DrownedInExile]

@@LostSoulchild89 Well fark. I hope OP divorced him so fast, his boxer shorts had to catch the next flight!

[@chiquitaf16]

@@LostSoulchild89I figured as much. His behavior is similar to my ex husband’s. He started complaining about superficial aspects of me. Causing me to scramble to make changes. It was simply an excuse to pull away and because he was actually having an affair with a woman 14 years younger than me.

[@Rose_Bride]

@@LostSoulchild89 Thank you for the update! I figured he was already cheating. It's better that OP found out now than wasting any more years on this trash.

[@NovaGirl8]

Sounds like he wants a high earning, stay-at-home, Stepford Wife. He is going in for a shock when the new wife is not as great as he thought she was

[@karlat7880]

Yeah, he literally wants the best of ALL worlds. He thinks there is something better out there, he’s in for a crappy surprise.

[@chaudx]

@@karlat7880 what else would you expect of a "finbro" that wants to be an exec? They do 400K combined and it isn't enough? If he wants to go japanese style and work till he dies that's his choice, OP said she's more than confortable with 200K and all the rest she already set up + she has her own payed house...hope she manages to get a clean cut of this sucker keep her house and stuff...

[@sleepyearth]

Yea there is no such thing as high earning a stay at home stepford wife. A stay at home wife will not help him save to 7 figures but helped him drain that 7 figures into nothing.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

​@@sleepyearthyeah exactly! And he wouldn't be happy with a career-minded wife because all of her time is going to go to her career and he's going to come second to her career. She's not going to have time to spend ninety hours a week keeping a perfect house and making homemade meals from scratch for him every single day. There is physically not enough time in the day to do both! If he gets a career-minded woman who works just as many hours as him she's going to be too exhausted to do the housework and cook him homemade meals all the time. And he won't like that. He will never be happy because he hates having a partner who is happy. He doesn't appreciate everything his wife does for him, he's taking her for granted. She's going to move on and find a wonderful man to appreciate her and he's just going to be miserable. 😂

[@technicaldifficulties368]

@@WhitneyDahlin Hell, I'm a straight woman. I would marry the hell out of this woman

[@Intrepid_Explorer]

Ok yeah, OP's husband is throwing out all kinds of crimson flags here. He seems resentful of OP's better work-life balance, admits to looking at other women (hint: he's already cheating), expects OP to do even more than she already does around the house because he "might" get a promotion (and thus is already looking down on his wife), wants her to somehow be both a trophy wife and earn even MORE than she already does, made a mountain out of a molehill with her gaming setup instead of communicating, and just overall seems really controlling. Dump his ruddy ass.

[@Threadworxs]

yup, and what has set him off is that OP is far more independently financial than he cares for her to be and more readily able to leave him and ah .... hire a lawyer and get divorced if OP discovers he's cheating!

[@Chanteuse66]

"OP's husband is throwing out all kinds of crimson flags here." Yep, with scarlet lettering.

[@ladymorrigan5950]

I agree with the cheating probability. It would explain why he’s projecting this nonsense onto op.

[@lilolmecj]

I figure he didn’t get the promotion because his bosses see what his wife ignores. He is not a team player, but a self oriented , mean spirited troll.

[@MrJpaynebb]

She makes $200k but he feels that with future promotions he will far out earn her and she's not doing enough to keep up?😂😂 I really hope they work things out because if the husband decides with his upward mobility he'll find a better and more suitable partner he may find like many other do that the grass is only green because it's watered and taken care of properly.

[@thePhoenixQueen]

He's noticing other women at work because they're "posh" and "glamorous". Does he think they look like that 24/7? Some of the things that he wants his to change are reasonable, but I still think this dude is selfish af.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

I was thinking that too. Either those women are looking that way to due to professional expectations and then go relax when they're at home, or they're high-maintenance all the time. Either way he'd be lucky to get another wife as good as this one!

[@miminana-hd6nf]

I think he is already cheating, or well on the way to it. He wants a stepford wife, not a partner. He is putting her earning capabilities over everything else. She needs to take her half of all the money and boot his ass out of her grandmother's house. She can live a good life without him.

[@Iflie]

He's just bored with her and taking her for granted while other women see him as a catch. He'll never get what he wants and will regret losing her but the grass is always greener., He's going to end up with a gold digger who works ta the office who doesn't cook his meals at all. Anyone who ends up with this financially stable woman with her own house and aliking for cooking and housework who stays in shape and wears yogapants and tight shirts will count themselves lucky.

[@amandab8433]

What it comes down to is he wants the 50's era type wife, but also wants her to be the 70/80's Enjoli wife (look up the commercial 😂) type wife. Having to contort yourself to make someone happy just isn't sustainable without someone getting resentful. I know how in marriage/ltr you do have to give and take. That's just it though what is he giving to make her life easier? We just celebrated our 28th wedding anniversary, and our 35th of being together.

[@VIDEOVISTAVIEW2020]

OP, you deserve a better hubby

[@Armor_Wing]

So OP’s husband wants her to be a highly successful career woman AND a housewife that makes fancy dinners and cleans the house AND keep herself looking like a model on top of this? Good luck to her on trying to fix the relationship, but his reasons for lashing out are pissing me off. His personal issues sound like it’s more of his problem than OP’s.

[@ineedhoez]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sleepyearth]

I'd bet the husband isn't a model looking guy. He's probably with pot belly hanging out.

[@gmun2248]

The more comments I read under this video, the more outraged I feel for OP! She should make a list of ALL the work involved in their home, and relationship, plus financial contributions they make. She can start with bringing a house into the relationship and 100% of housework, cooking, cleaning etc. Plus an equal salary. Then divide things 50-50. Since he's a numbers guy, maybe seeing it written down on paper will make it clear exactly how much they each contribute. 🤬

[@Sherwoody]

@@gmun2248 what do they have in common?

[@Dina-lc4bt]

Yeah and don’t have kids. Then all of the fancy meals will go down the toilet and she will be bigger for a while because she can’t run. Then she won’t be able to work as much as he wants because of the baby, which he probably won’t want to care for. He sounds miserable.

[@bionicmagi6388]

"I make 200k a year, hubby thinks I might not pull my financial weight in the future" Leave him and marry me, bby girl, I'll cook YOU dinner. I'll cook you SO MANY dinners. You buy whatever video games you want, beautiful, holy shit.

[@ineedhoez]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kp2223]

💀💀💀

[@champslim]

Lololol

[@chinaking918]

Frfr hell I’ll marry her too. I’ll gladly enjoy Cornbread and Chili. 😂😂😂

[@rumooooni]

I might not be earning the same as her but sure as hell I will pay for her hair, nails, manicures, pedicures, help with cooking/ cleaning + praise her hard work 😊😂❤ and I straight but making someone proud and happy feels good too!

[@michal31131]

Depressing story, It's clear the husband doesn't see OP the way she sees him She deserves soooooo much better!

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

He was cheating. I posted the second update above. The guy’s a real prick.

[@pickle_pup8187]

He has the attitude of what is mine is mine and what’s yours is mine.

[@ingloriousbetch4302]

​​@@pickle_pup8187 commenter said she updated again and he called her "low value" bevausase she wasn't a virgin when they met and other BS. She kicked him out and found out he was cheating. So he fell in to the Andrew Tate alpha male misogynistic BS and she's definitely better off without him.

[@madambutterfly1997]

He wants to control how much fun money you have cuz his funds are always at ZERO

[@Sherwoody]

Golf clubs etc. are expensive, but it’s not like you buy new equipment every week. What are expensive are country club fees, the 19th hole, and clothing.

[@LoveK1]

@@SherwoodyI’m sure he’s drinking and acting like a big spender when he’s there with the other men. And don’t forget he collects sports stuff. I’m sure he goes out to lunches and stuff all the time too.

[@maryjanedodo]

While accusing her of being a future gold digger while they live in a house she inherited 🙄

[@technicaldifficulties368]

@@maryjanedodo But...but he works long hours and is gonna make a lot more than her eventually!!!! He wants a housewife who makes a million dollars a year

[@lanesays]

There’s actually another update. He was cheating and came up with all this financial stuff as an excuse, I guess? He wanted her to basically compete with his 24 yo AP. OP kicked him out.

[@julianne089]

He is entirely in the wrong yet it’s she who has to change to make it right. so gross

[@JK-sh8rc]

Agree, don't know why she even bothered asking for advice when she seems to be a human doormat......

[@kelsielucas1918]

Dude wants op to be the perfect housewife while also being a super ambitious carrier woman. This guy is unreal.

[@YuToobVideos]

He's comparing you to other women. He's complaining about your drive. He's worrying about your financial future (even though you contribute more financially to the relationship, i.e. house). Something or someone is the reason for this.

[@MidnightAndLuna]

I agree!

[@tranquility1967]

He is cheating!!! He admitted it and she kicked him out

[@AnymousScreams]

OP dresses better for remote work than I do at my own remote job. Her husband seems to just want her to only cater to him, dress up every day, and have no hobbies. Those dinners sound delicious, as a side thought. Yoga pants, a tank top, and a ponytail are fine for her. That just screams they divorce one day, or he smashes her gaming computer. He's noticing other women and that's her fault?

[@toothless3835]

yeah. I rarely change out of my pajamas for my remote job. Which is often a baggy shirt and maybe I'll have shorts on. I don't even shower until after work. But I'd probably be the same as her if I made 200k a year. Because that's what I do now. My hobbies aren't super expensive. I need to get into a different career.

[@gmun2248]

I'm sat here in leggings & a (nice, but sloppy) sweater listening. I'm single, mainly due to health issues, but the more I hear stories like this from real life friends, and the horror stories on reddit, the happier I am with my own space & some plants! 😂 Would I heck be putting on makeup & nicer clothes at 9pm just to greet a partner coming home from work. We're more than a few decades beyond that expectation.

[@tiryaclearsong421]

​@@toothless3835I only change to put myself in "work mode". But I change into a t shirt and yoga pants with a cardigan and fuzzy socks if I'm cold. Sometimes if I need to focus I put on a bandana to hold back my hair so it doesn't tickle my face. I have ADHD and my hair can be distracting. It looks goofy but who cares?

[@Draggonny]

It's all about juggling priorities. She's doing a fantastic job of doing everything at once. He wants her to do everything perfectly and consistently. He's asking the impossible. She can't prioritise climbing the career ladder, being a homemaker, and looking like a super model. If she spends more time looking good, that's less time for making dinner and brown nosing the bosses. She doesn't have infinite time and energy. If she redirects it to one thing, it has to come from another. She should spell that out to him. If he wants her to dress up and make a restaurant quality meal after a full day of work, he'll be cleaning the kitchen and washing the dishes after, at the very least. Honestly, he should be grateful she's doing as much as she is.

[@mrsbobanna]

How on EARTH is he concerned about her taking advantage, when what set him off is the fact that she saved a bunch of her fun money?

[@chinaking918]

Because it’s all bs. He’s just finding reasons to cheat. Edit: Just read some comments she updated and he was indeed cheating and that’s where all that nitpicking came from.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

Living rent free at her own house too

[@sarahl88]

Ugh, so she earns the same as him and does all the cooking but he resents that she actually seems happier in her career and that she is cooking some simple meals? Chilli with cornbread still sounds lovely to me but if he doesn’t like what’s on the menu he could make something, just like if he’s not comfortable with his career he could make changes. Sounds like she’s contributing equally financially and more domestically and he’s upset about some hypothetical future where he’s earning more and she isn’t, just inventing issues basically. What is really sad is when he complained she isn’t making the effort that she used to with elaborate table settings and meals etc but she said she never knew he cared about that. So clearly he wasn’t commenting and complimenting when it was happening, but just taking it for granted and complaining when it didn’t. His love language is acts of service but what is hers and how is he meeting it? I feel awful for her. The way that he is picking problems does seem to be justifying ending the relationship like some people said and it’s horrible because she just hears she has to try harder when he isn’t.

[@bantubrat343]

Spot on

[@diamcole]

Chili and cornbread sounds amazing right now lol not going to lie, getting distracted by that 😅

[@mrsbobanna]

And in that future it seems like he wants her to be contributing more financially AND domestically. What a baby.

[@LoveK1]

@@mrsbobannabut if their house is paid off and their retirement fund is getting plenty of money then why does she need to make more. Their living expenses aren’t going up so why does she need to keep raising her salary along with his? I don’t get it. He wants her to play housewife but also be career driven which is a oxymoron. There aren’t enough hours in the day for both.

[@lux0rd01]

Technically it sounds like she makes more than him. Shorter hours for the same pay.

[@maeahem]

Maybe OPs husband got spooked that she had enough money to possibly leave him if she wanted to and wants to reassert his control by gaslighting her into thinking she’s inadequate and not up to scratch as a wife. Why would he be mad she’s saving and not spending her money immediately? He’s obviously spent more accumulated in half a year! Also how does he want her to be a Stepford wife always dressed and with perfect meals BUT is afraid she won’t make enough to keep up with him even though she currently makes similar amount? Does he know most Stepford wives don’t work or contribute financially to the household? I do believe he’s already cheating and this was his opportunity to turn it on her. OP being a people pleaser will try, but I hope she sees this is not it quickly and bolts. He didn’t mention anything about her love language or what they can do as a couple. Didn’t even give a reason why for the financial abuse statement, just twisted it to “actually here are some issues I’ve been having with you”.

[@Khiarika1]

No I think it's an ego thing, considering all of the random criticisms that he pulled out his ass just following this. This woman is already a superwoman and he's still not satisfied.

[@maeahem]

@@Khiarika1 oh yeah definitely she’s not in the wrong AT ALL and is doing a lot as a partner in any relationship. He wasn’t ever going to be satisfied.

[@angelaa7388]

I would step on my husband's foot if he was "unhappy with me" because I don't put flowers on the table and wear t-shirts. The financial infidelity thing is because he thinks they are going to divorce soon, and he wants as much money in the joint account as possible so he gets more of her money. Edit to add: he is going to make a huge jump in his salary and so thinks he will be owed a younger woman who dresses pretty and whose only desire is to make him elaborate dinners and set the table.

[@ineedhoez]

Ayo! Imagine worrying about being financially taken advantage of by a woman pulling in 200k a year😂😂😂

[@AndyyWithAY]

If they get $1500 a month, 2k is just 1 month of savings. The husband just sounds overall ungrateful. Many people even in the developed world live paycheck to paycheck, so $1500 of disposable income for frivolous things is a ton. OP is doing the primary housekeeper and cook, so she's already doing more if they contribute equally to household finances. I couldn't stay with the husband. I plan to make a point to look good for my husband. But, that's a team effort. I could never be with someone who harbored resentment instead of talking to me and let me make the change

[@barbthegreat586]

The problem for him is that he wants a trophy wives. But trophy wives don't do housework, cooking and placing cutlery, and they don't work and bring as much dough as their partners. Somebody should point this out to him.

[@sallynguyen4403]

I read from other comments that he was cheating on OP with a 24 year old co-worker so now they're getting divorced. I'm glad OP is finally getting rid of this ungrateful shmuck and can now move on with her life. Honestly, I think the only real reason why he was nitpicking on OP so much was because he was feeling guilty about cheating. Maybe he was feeling so miserable because of the guilt that he subconsciously started coming up with these stupid ridiculous unrealistic expectations that OP will never meet just to blame her for her their failed relationship. Dude needs to get kicked in the face.

[@AndyyWithAY]

@sallynguyen4403 oh thanks for the extra info. He's definitely projecting or something similar. You know how we hear about cheaters accusing their partner of cheating. He's pointing out her "flaws" to give him an out.

[@sallynguyen4403]

@@AndyyWithAY I actually went on google to look for the reddit post and oh my god, it was BAD. I wanted throttle him partway through with how he responded to OP's efforts to "fix" their relationship. He went full Andrew Tate and called her a low-value woman who needs to make up to him for the rest of her life because she wasn't a virgin when they first got together. And because of that, she doesn't deserve to be treated equally and doesn't deserve to have a monogamous relationship with him and was lucky to have married him because she'll never find anyone to ever settle for her like he did. This was also where he told her of his relationship with his 24 year old co-worker too. The shamelessness of this man is unfathomable. Let's just hope that co-worker of his takes everything from him once OP gets rid of his worthless ass.

[@jackwatt8988]

They both make 200k and he is surprised she saved 5k? Weird. If I made 200k, I would be saving at least 60%, if not closer to 80%. All of my expenses every month are less than 1k, which would leave 96%.

[@erenssister.5535]

The husband is just bad with finances.

[@gmun2248]

This is kind of why his answer doesn't really make sense. So he is "more ambitious" and thinks the relationship will be less balanced if he makes more money...? But clearly she's managing just fine on her salary, so perhaps he's really seeing his idea of being the big earner coming home to the not-so-independent wife crash & burn. Clearly she doesn't need him to double his salary, so what does he actually have to offer? He's just seeing that & has managed to turn it from his insecurity to an attempt to make her feel insecure. I have to walk away from these comments, they're all making more relevant points that are making me more annoyed on OP's behalf!!

[@gou0630]

So if I understood the first story the OP has to contribute 50% of the bills and 100% of the cooking and cleaning 😂😂 and then gets mad about her having money 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂the audacity of that jackass 😊

[@ineedhoez]

And they live in a house that her grandmama paid for😂😂😂😂

[@vitaleje2]

Best summary right here.

[@madambutterfly1997]

She’s going to go out of her way to validate his otherwise invalid concerns.

[@Feralcottagecore]

Op: I know he was weird and shitty and said mean things, but I want to make it work! ALL of the internet: oh, honey…

[@AndyyWithAY]

TF even is financial infidelity?? OP didn't do anything improper or sneaky. Instead of immediately spending her fun money she saved it and put it towards a larger ticket item. Golf is a very expensive ordeal, so he uses his immediately. OP would be losing if she agrees to his new plan. Not to mention how controlling and manipulative it is to flip the script. I'd look at my husband differently. ETA that was more of a rhetorical question lol. But, y'all have had some interesting takes, so I've enjoyed the commentary all the same

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

I think he might be jealous that she's financially responsible and he isn't.

[@johnlastname8752]

I would also look at him differently from the other side of the table and signing the divorce papers.

[@AZUREPHOENIX777]

I'd say financial infidelity is probably spending money on something that is 100% off limits when it comes to the relationship in question (e.g. spending money on an affair partner, buying drugs and alcohol when your partner thinks you have a serious problem, gambling, etc.), which imo makes sense. This was none of those things though. She wanted a new gaming setup, she was able to afford it purely out of her fun money, and so she bought it. There was absolutely nothing wrong with what she did, and the husband is such an asshole for trying to tear her down.

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@johnlastname8752 based! 💯

[@DrewLSsix]

It's like emotional or sexual infidelity, and like those it's relative to expectations and consent. It's like consenting to an open relationship then being angry your partner does "better" than you and retroactively calling it cheating. Something we should recognize in this comment section lol.

[@AngelaMastrodonato]

Just today there was another update to this saga. Apparently OP started to suspect that giving her husband what he wanted would result in him moving the goalposts and was a losing proposition. So this weekend she decided to dress up and make the gourmet meals and get flowers for the table to test how he would react. Personally I would be way too pissed off to have the energy for all of that, but she learned more from his reaction. His response was lukewarm and he started calling her a “low value woman” because apparently she wasn’t a virgin when they met at 21?!?! Like whaaat?! Come to find out he has had a girlfriend for the past few months who is 24, and a genius at work in some management program with him and just happened to be a virgin when her started this affair. Of course OP cancelled the marriage counseling and called a divorce lawyer and the husband and his girlfriend are coming by to get his stuff. So many people couldn’t believe a 24 year old who had remained a virgin would suddenly give it up to some married man, but I don’t believe this story at all. So many commenters were suspecting he was having an affair and OP fed off of these comments for her latest update. The whole thing is so ridiculous

[@stirlingarcher7972]

Story 1: NTA but the update shows OP is a doormat. She’s wasting her life with her AH husband. So many people fall for the sunk cost fallacy.

[@LoveK1]

That’s sunken cost fallacy is a bish. It traps so many people into misery.

[@Araraki-Itto1]

The more I listened to the husband's "reasonings" I swear if my eyes rolled any harder it would look like I'm freaking possessed. This dude is so ungrateful it makes me sick.

[@NotoriousEKB]

100% this!

[@MisterNightfish]

Story 1 husband is just determined to be miserable. "Comparison is the thief of joy" is such a good saying for a reason. OP needs to realise that the husband is the one who has issues and instead of working on them he's trying to make those issues everyone else's problem. He's completely off his rocker if he thinks OP can make the same amount of money he does and also provide the prefect stay at home wife experience. Anyway, congrats to the husband for ruining a situation most people could only dream of.

[@vitterling]

Incredible that he actually got her to mostly agree when he both demands that she go all in on her work ambitions, AND wants her to be basically a fulltime housewife. Take your gaming setup and run, this is not going to end well.

[@carrieowen5895]

I cannot see this husband's point-of-view whatsoever she is the one who's being financially abusive And in all cases I suggest marriage therapy cuz somebody is not seeing the light.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 1: NTA - He's jealous. That's all. Just tell him 'no' and show him the numbers. ETA: Ugh! Actually, he's disgusting. I cannot imagine attraction and intimacy with someone who treats me like that. Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy, and bye!

[@MarkNarrations]

Howdy all, hope you're having a wonderful morning/afternoon or evening thus far!!! Much love

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

I hope you are too mark 🤗🤗💜💜

[@MissFabulousfeline]

Hey just wanted to advise there is an update to story 1 from 7 mins ago

[@MarkNarrations]

@@MissFabulousfeline Thank you for letting me know :)

[@Sherwoody]

@@MarkNarrationsare you going to post it for us?

[@MarkNarrations]

@@Sherwoody I'll probably wait a little time before doing a full re-post like that and see if anymore updates appear.

[@abigailmcinnis623]

I'm a Mechanic and the other technicians I work with enjoy listening to these everyday! We look forward every morning!

[@19nmiller1]

Jesus, OP deserves so much better than her awful husband. She seems like a lovely lady who's a huge catch for anyone. She makes 200k a year, is dedicated to her hobbies, genuinely cares about her partner and his feelings (even when hes being an ungrateful, borderline abusive AH), and is striving to live the most successful life possible without ruining her happiness. I know the sub is quick to shout divorce, but his whole response made me feel nauseous and showed his true colors. I have a feeling he'd have a *huge* wakeup call as to how much he's truly lost and taken for granted when OP leaves.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Actually, you and the OP are missing what the husband is actually saying and that is that they are drifting apart and he wants to prevent that and she doesn't really care about it as long as she gets to do what she wants. He is working long hours away from home and her and she also has some work traveling. She is running/working out quite a bit a week and then spending $5k on a gaming system shows a commitment by her to spending time on it rather than with her husband. He is doing something similar. They will be divorced in a year if neither of them puts in the effort to please the other and spend time with them.

[@owl7072]

​@@thomasjoseph5876"she doesn't care about it as long as she gets to do what she wants" You mean like he's doing? He literally never cared about what she did before because _he_ was benefitting from it somehow and then she goes and saves money to buy one (1) expensive thing for herself and he blows up and accuses her of "financial infidelity" while trying to limit her spending. On top of that, he tried to limit her spending then turned around and said she's not putting in enough "effort" for him. How exactly is she supposed to put _more_ effort in for him than she was already doing if she has a limit of 2k unless she gives up most of her hobbies while he doesn't give up jack shit??? He can go be with the women he's noticing if his life is "so hard" now that he's not getting lavish several course meals with fancy decor every night because _gasp_ his wife is a living breathing person with interests of her own.

[@diamcole]

​@@thomasjoseph5876 He's certainly got some interesting expectations, I wonder if he meets any of them himself.

[@sister_bertrille911]

@@owl7072 Yes, this. Also, he expects her to make all his changes, but I didn't hear anything about what changes he is willing to make. Where's the compromise?

[@nwilady1867]

​@thomasjoseph5876 you sound as senseless and toxic as the op's husband. He doesn't get to dictact how she spends HER MONEY. HE IS JEALOUS. If he truly loved and supported her, he would have been happy for her. Overjoyed she got something that made her happy that SHE worked hard for. Not him...

[@amytamas9191]

OP came up with yet another update, and basically who said the husband was cheating, was right. She kicked mu out and he moved in with his gf.

[@ineedhoez]

Really?

[@lux0rd01]

​@@ineedhoezyup. Even worse, he was an Andrew Tate stan and thought she was a low value woman because she wasn't a virgin when they met at 21 and she would have to spend her entire life going above and beyond to make up for being ruined for him.

[@champslim]

​@@lux0rd01ewwww

[@amytamas9191]

@@lux0rd01 that part got me so angry.

[@chinaking918]

I’m going to love hearing the update about how he tried to come back since that new young thang expects him to actually pay for things, doesn’t cook (expects him to cook or hire a chef), won’t clean (since he makes so much she’s want a maid too), and wants to spend a lot of money just to look cute for him😂. On the flip side I feel bad for the new girl when he start triangulating her with his ex wife. Saying how she (the ex) did this and that and how she’s not doing it. The beating her self esteem is getting ready to go through is sad😵‍💫. Especially since she’s no longer a virgin anymore. Heaven forbid they make children. 😳

[@TexasBoy484]

My favorite reddit reader is you, Mark. I love your waffles, your giggles, and when you swear. I don't know why but it's better with an English accent.

[@gmun2248]

I'm Scottish. I love Mark's channel too, but he has an ENGLISH accent. There's no such thing as a (singular) British accent!! 😉

[@TexasBoy484]

​@@gmun2248thanks for the info I will edit.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "I didn't know you saved so much! You should have consulted me!" Boy does Op demand you consult them before you buy your designer clothes or anything? No? Because it's from your personal account? Then why do you get to demand they consult you before spending any of the money from _their_ personal account after they buy the first expensive thing for themselves in who knows how long other than that you're selfish and god forbid Op have anything. Edit: "financial infidelity" Why does this feel like projection. I'm being so serious right now, that's what that sounds like. Edit 2: Dude wants to restrict spending while expecting Op to put more effort into their appearance and home stuff. How exactly do you expect that to happen sir?

[@nickharman4584]

Story 1 is a possible sign of financial control, major red flags

[@BulletTooth504]

The husband's expectations for OP are such a special combination of crazy and stupid that it has to be a gaslighting job. Trying make her think that if he cheats (if he hasn't already) it's her fault, trying lower her self-esteem so that she'd not leave after investing ten plus years with him. Or, maybe he's just been quasi-brainwashed by the corporate culture and needs to stop trying so hard to climb the ladder and get into therapy.

[@Redragingphoton1]

My initial though was that the husband would like to keep advancing in his career but is beginning to burn out and resents that he can't have it both ways. Then it got to the part of him not getting home until 9 o'clock. Nah, he's cheating.

[@momo382844]

So, what does hubby want exactly? An ambitious, career woman? Or Suzie Homemaker? Cuz he can’t have both ways. This will not end well; Hubby’s got one foot out of the door and OP’s falling for the sunken cost fallacy. 😬

[@ineedhoez]

He done fucked up because he had it both ways!!!! She's pulling down 200k in a pretty stress-free job. She's low maintenance and doesn't spend a lot. He could have just asked 43 nice meals a night and for her to put on something a little nice when they sit down for dinner. He also could offer to take her out to Nice places.

[@NovaGirl8]

She is already both, imo. She sounds like a woman who has all her shit figured out and as an almost always broke woman myself, I kinda envy her. The next husband or bf will be so lucky.

[@momo382844]

@@ineedhoez Real class act. Lol. Dude’s so salty that his wife is working smarter, not harder that he made up some BS about her becoming a gold digger. Completely erasing the fact that she contributes just as much as he does financially. Garbage in its final form. I hope OP wakes up soon. 🚮

[@momo382844]

@@NovaGirl8 Let’s keep it 💯. Hubby wanted an out but was too cowardly to do it.

[@pir8lifeforme]

OMG there was another update!: So, the more I thought about it, the more his requests - demands, really - were sitting poorly with me. I decided to try a little experiment over the weekend to see what would happen if I tried to meet some of his demands. NOT because I actually thought they were reasonable, but because I increasingly had the sense that the goalposts would just keep moving and that I was playing a losing game. So, Saturday morning, I went to the salon for a glow-up (haircut, fresh highlights, mani/pedi) then went to the farmer's market to pick up fresh flowers for our table and assorted other gourmet ingredients. Saturday is usually our date night out but I suggested we stay in so I could make us a special dinner, steakhouse style (lobster bisque, bread basket with several types of rolls/savory muffins made from scratch, crab-stuffed mushrooms, filet mignon, au gratin potatoes, white chocolate mousse topped with raspberries). I wore a lavender (his favorite color on me) sheath dress and high heels and fully done hair and makeup. For all that I got a lukewarm "thanks, it was tasty" and a kiss on the cheek. Of course I did all the serving and cleanup. Sunday we usually go out but he suggested I make us brunch at home. So I made French-press coffee, mimosas with fresh-squeezed orange juice, Belgian waffles with a bananas Foster topping, eggs scrambled with parmesan and fresh herbs from our garden, roasted fingerling potatoes, and maple-glazed bacon. I wore a blue sleeveless sundress, wedge sandals, again did my hair and makeup. Again I got a "thanks, it's good" and no help with serving or cleanup. Afterwards I asked if this is what he had in mind when he critiqued me before. He said that it was a start, but that I was "acting very entitled for wanting credit for basic adulting." He then dropped a bomb that he was being so hard on me because he had realized lately I had a lot to make up for due to my being a "low-value woman." I asked what on earth he meant by that and he said it was because I wasn't a virgin when we met. WHAT?!?! Keep in mind we started dating at 21, neither of us claimed to be virgins or stated that as an expectation. Except for very religious people (neither of us is) I don't think most 21-year-old college students are virgins. I was upfront with him then that I'd had two previous partners, my high school boyfriend (we went our separate ways when we went to different colleges in different parts of the country) and another boyfriend I'd had my first year of college. And that's it, both committed relationships and nothing casual. He then went on to say that because of my low value, I was going to need to be making it up to him for the rest of my life. That I didn't deserve monogamy or equal treatment and that I was lucky that anyone at all wanted to marry me. And - that he's "connected" with someone from work so if I wanted to keep him I'd better step up. I told him it didn't sound like there was anything to keep if he no longer loved me (or even liked or respected me). Told him to leave and he said he would gladly go to his girlfriend's place. I know SO many people here insisted he was having an affair and I just didn't want to see it, that his "complaints" were really all part of a campaign to distance himself from me. I feel SO foolish for just thinking he was going through a stressful time at work or that he genuinely wanted to work on our marriage. Anyway I have taken the week off from work to get my head together. Have an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow. Canceled the marriage counseling appointment but got a referral to an individual therapist who can do an intake session with me later in the week. He (and the girlfriend apparently) are coming this evening to get more of his clothes and things so I have to brace myself for that. Also, please be assured I do NOT think I am low-value in any way. I let my husband make me think less of myself on some levels for a short time but now I truly see it was a "him" problem. Obviously we don't share the same goals and values and he has become someone I don't recognize. I know the divorce won't be fun or easy, but I will be okay. Thank you all for helping me see that I was being played before I wasted too much more time in a marriage that was already over.

[@NotoriousEKB]

OMG...how did she not boot him right between the legs? I'm a stranger, and I want to claw his face off. At least with all that extra fun money she can afford the better lawyer. What an absolute manbaby prick.

[@crash92la98]

When that "high-value" floozy takes him for everything he has later..... 😂 What a POS he is.

[@pau.chimmy]

There's a new update on this story She decided to comply with all of his demands to test the waters and he basically said it was not good enough Said op is a "low value woman" and like many suggested he was cheating with someone from work Op is leaving and looking for lawyers and getting into individual counseling

[@nisaanisahmad9727]

there's a HUGE update to this story posted just 4 hours ago, and it's exactly as everyone expects :( OP basically tried to keep up with his expectations for a weekend as an 'experiment' but the husband showed 0 appreciation. he seemed to have fallen down the manosphere pipeline and said some horrible stuff to OP about her being a 'low-value woman', because she wasn't a virgin when they first met, and that she didn't 'deserve' monogamy. he admitted to having a girlfriend he met at work. OP kicked him out, she's pursuing divorce and scheduled an individual therapy appointment. my heart goes out to her but i'm so glad she realized her worth

[@boneymeroney2674]

I'm standing in the middle of the family room watching my 9 pups, both large and small quietly mingle around and listening to Mark. My Labradorks 😂

[@amethystanne4586]

Labs can be dorky. OldestDD&family have a red Lab. Brutus is such a good boy. He is 6y.o. I think you will enjoy this……. When he was a pup and the grandkids were younger, I would go to their house after work to be there when they got off the school bus, and to take pup out to go potty. When he was 8-9 months old, he had lots of energy and would run off, so he was on a leash. We had gone out like usual. Until he zigged, I zagged, I tripped, and fell on the ground. Brutus immediately came over to me, sat on my leg, and stared at me until I collected myself enough to get up. He got petted and praised. At a birthday at their house, I was eating something when I noticed Brutus sitting by my feet, staring at me. The song “Every Breath You Take” came to mind, with a twist to the lyrics : Every snack you make, Every bite to take I’ll be watching you.

[@romonaelrod7870]

Lol. Labradorks

[@MsOchy]

The OP made a new follow-up. The husband had a side-piece and called his wife low value for not being a virgin when they married. She is leaving him.

[@totallyjaded1658]

That story had me swearing 🤬 WTF. Hes delusional. Those career focused women aren’t going to be cooking his meals every day still dolled up after work

[@romonaelrod7870]

The Op needs to hire a private eye to see what her husband is really up to. I hope that there is an update soon. Red flags every where. She needs to separate all of their finances and make him pay her rent if they stay together since it is her house that she inherited from her grandmother.

[@aylanae4797]

Sheesh that part...OP is just sad. And I feel for her. Shes literally providing the roof over both their heads wtf 😢

[@romonaelrod7870]

@@LostSoulchild89 thanks for telling me. Maybe Mark will read it soon.

[@Sherwoody]

@@LostSoulchild89yeah. How much do you want to bet the new girl will drain him out of every nickel he has.

[@pee74332]

I hope she does😂. I hope she takes him for every cent he makes for the rest of his life. Or that he loses everything just as he feels he's at the top of his game. I felt for OP. She was internalizing his crappy demands and standards. No one should feel the way he was making her feel. What a loser.

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

It's another sunshine and lollipop kind if day! Great cup of coffee and sharing it with all of you all and our favorite narrator, Mark, makes every day awesome!

[@MarkNarrations]

[@nelsondoyle1377]

Its fucking wild to me that someone can think earning $200k isn't enough. Like wtf. These people are out of touch

[@BritInvLvr]

Story one: Hubby is getting a wandering eye. Reminds me of an old song from 1963, called Wives and Lovers, where the singer is warning the wife to not let herself go because there are “girls in the office” and “men will always be men”. I twisted myself up trying to please my first husband, till I got resentful and left him. My current husband comes home to me covered in dirt and sweat, from me working in our garden. He will even call me to see if I want him to bring home dinner, so I don’t have to cook. He appreciates what I do at home and we’re best companions. Took me till I was 50 to find the best person for me. I hope everyone finds their best person sooner. Best wishes.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@michellebolyard1388]

You are such a blessing. Hugs

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@michellebolyard1388 🤗🤗💜💜

[@telinhajp]

❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

​@@telinhajp🤗🤗💜💜

[@YellaBellaReno]

Thanks for the reminder. I do hold tension in my shoulders. You have a good day as well!

[@lornaaudley4236]

My hubby enjoys if I dress up, but after 16 years together he still thinks I am hot even dressed in a bin bag 😂

[@angelaa7388]

Right? I could be wearing sweatpants and granny panties and dude will still be feeling me up.

[@lornaaudley4236]

@@angelaa7388 to be fair he does also complain I am wearing too many clothes 🤣🤣

[@angelaa7388]

@lornaaudley4236 lol no amount of layering can stop an ambitious partner

[@madambutterfly1997]

Dressing fancy regularly, being more ambitious career wise…Omg this is pathetic.

[@livelovelife32]

Sounds like he's setting down the groundwork to justify his exit from the relationship. She needs starting to get her ducks in a row just in case of the worse scenario.

[@floraposteschild4184]

AND have a fancy meal ready when he gets home -- whenever that is.

[@ajzephyros7454]

Is Financial Infidelity even a thing? But yeah this marriage is screwed, hubby has checked out

[@Draggonny]

Financial infidelity is a thing if you both agree to do one thing and do another. Like spending the bill money on something other than bills, wracking up debt without the other's knowledge, or raiding the joint account without the other person's consent. This isn't it. He agreed they'd both have hobby money. She spent her hobby money on her hobby. End of story. The guy is a jackass.

[@ghislainedefeligonde5166]

At least reddit helped OP to see the manipulative ways of her husband. I hope they get a good counsellor

[@darknergy2477]

OP just updated their getting divorced

[@maryjanedodo]

Good thing she has savings

[@lilolmecj]

Husband is already engaged in an affair and laying the groundwork to blame her for a divorce. The term financial infidelity is very unusual, and very revealing.

[@dirkstrider657]

He basically wants a career oriented a-type woman AND a dolled up stay at home wife. My guy. Those are 2 separate people. You want your wife to do the work of 2 people.

[@heatherweir8726]

What does the husband in the story do to show he loves op?

[@momo382844]

Excellent question!

[@ineedhoez]

He aint providing because they are 50/50.

[@dancingonthe3dge]

I don't understand why either of them think it's fine to just waste makeup to have it on between the hours of 9 p.m. and when you go to bed? Midnight? What a waste of time and money and product.

[@CariAndLenny]

Husband : accuses wife of financial infidelity Also husband: is trying to financially abuse the wife

[@annaorbanes5070]

Thank you Mark, for the snowy, blizzard background. It’s very refreshing to see on a hot, humid summer day..

[@anonx2747]

Op your husband doesn’t do much around the house or for you? He can start by buying flowers

[@stealthpelt8524]

She just made an update! I'd definitely look into it!

[@meiwa2020]

Omg I looked up the username and they JUST updated and... Yup! He has a girlfriend ding ding ding! She's getting a lawyer and thanking Reddit for helping her see the truth. What a jerk and lowest of all low men. He said that she was "lower value" or something like that when they got married because she wasn't a virgin (!!!😱😱😱!!!). Glad the trash took himself out! 😡😡😡

[@MaryTheresa1986]

It begs the question that if OP was so low value, what does that make the hubby for marrying her? If he's so perfect, why did he feel the need to "settle"?

[@meiwa2020]

@@MaryTheresa1986 he wasn't even a virgin himself so not only was he gross in his thinking, he was a hypocrite. Such complete trash of a human!

[@cynthiaholland13]

I'm glad he was honest and willing to get marriage counseling because some of the expectations are unreal.

[@mbyerly9680]

Husband: You aren't putting enough into the marriage. Translation: I want you to be a 50s housewife and model who brings in a huge income. He's also looking to blame OP for the cheating he's planning. OP can't win here.

[@Keyda3star.]

Story 1: My take is girl run. I previously was in a relationship to split everything 50/50. He made twice my wage and wanted me to cook and clean do everything despite working more hours than him. After he hit me I said no and left.

[@nikkid7838]

Love doing housework while listening to a bit of Mark. In regards to the story… it’ll be interesting to see if there is any update. Red flags 🚩 🚩🚩 flying. Either it is infidelity or someone is having control issues. It like he’s expecting his life to be like an episode of Mad Men. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@liss2503]

Stepford wife in training. He wants a working trophy wife. Run girl run. You don’t need him.

[@telinhajp]

Good afternoon, Mark and Poppy! Wishing you a fabulous week ahead! ❤️🤗

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey Telinha, hope you have a wonderful week also!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too telinhajp 🤗🤗💜💜

[@My.Reddit.stories3]

How is she supposed to cook clean all of that for him and get a promotion. So she suffered to do all the housework and work. Is she not aloud to have fun?

[@Lemniscated]

So OPs husband wants her to 1) Be the perfect housewife who cooks, cleans, and make extravagant dinner setups. And also 2) Be as career-driven as he is. And 3) Be a barbie doll girl.

[@ScurvyRascal]

Hes pissed off she had 5 grand to spend because its her money. Not theirs....in the divorce! What a controlling man! Hes living his life with divorce in mind. I wouldn't be surprised if she was his starter wife, hence no kids, and he'll have children with the next prettier younger one trophy looking one. That poor woman is helping him get settled whilst hes refusing to look after her becaus of course, if she earns less, hes liable for alimony.

[@knitwit9447]

About to head out and go snuggle kittens with my friend, but first I need to sit and drink coffee and listen to this ❤ I hope everyone has a good day!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Awww

[@katherinekurzius290]

Whoa! "He's concerned that he has to work a lot harder..." NO!!! He's CHOSEN his work, which does not confer any obligations on OP.

[@Silence-1170]

Good morning waffles! Hope you are all doing well today! Stay safe and stay positive waffles!

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey there Silence! Hope all is good!!

[@Silence-1170]

​@MarkNarrations everything Is going well how are you doing Mark?

[@MarkNarrations]

@@Silence-1170 Decent thank you, just had a cheeky little midday nap so feeling good :)

[@Silence-1170]

​@MarkNarrations that's good! Might take a nap myself. Got up a bit early today.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

​@@MarkNarrations🤗🤗💜💜

[@ragdoll1603]

OMFG The update 8hours ago is insanity. calling her a low value woman because she wasn't a virgin when they got together. Because of that she has to make it up to him forever & doesn't deserve monogamy or equal treatment....i just....omfg

[@civivva4501]

that was a depressing story.

[@dimariahgunnemann3729]

I soooo appreciate that you didn't repeat the TLDR as some other channels do and it's totally unnecessary!

[@terramarini6880]

I think we just watched emotional/verbal/financial abuse go down and she took it like she was trained for it. I would have sent him packing at the return your stuff and put your fun money in our joint account, he would have been the one contorting himself, certainly wouldn't be me. Post left me with an awful taste in my mouth.

[@sirenblack]

There is an update! She does an experiment does all this elaborate cooking dresses up hair makeup for two days and all she gets is a thanks. When she ask him if this what he was talking about when he critiqued her he said she shouldn’t expect a Pat on the back for being an adult and called her a low value woman because when they got together she wasn’t a virgin and she would have to do this forever because no one else would like a low valued woman like her and he had connected with someone at his workplace and if she wanted to keep him she better keep doing this without complaining. Op tells him there is nothing to keep and told him to get out and he said fine and went to his GIRLFRIENDS HOUSE. Op has cancelled couples counselling but has signed up to individual counselling instead, her husband and his gf are coming to pick up more of his clothes

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Wow, poor OP and what a piece of 💩 her husband turned out to be! I love how she's "low value" for not being a virgin, yet him cheating, abusing, and gaslighting his wife are considered acceptable. I hope OP goes scorched earth and takes half of everything while exposing him for who he really is. I hope the new girlfriend is a golddigger who takes whatever douchebag has left.

[@madambutterfly1997]

DIVORCE!!!

[@epicXtrollface]

Did he really get pissy that she didn't set the table like they do in restaurants anymore..? Also, the hell man... Who expects their partner to be all dolled up when they come home from work every day? And for OP to actually consider the idea of doing her makeup and dressing up for when her husband comes home... poor woman. She sounds like an ABSOLUTE catch. She earns good money, loves to cook and doesn't expect anything in return, knows how to handle and save money and has her own set of hobbies that she does independently. There are VERY little people who are this satisfied with their life, so for OP to be one of the select few is amazing. I'm envious, honestly. OP sounds like one of the emotionally healthiest people to be in a relationship with, and for her husband to just drag her down over things that shouldn't even matter in the first place is appalling. OP has already worked herself into a position where she is basically set for life. There are more than enough men who would be thrilled at the idea of coming home to a lovely woman in nice yoga pants and a heartfelt meal. Not to mention, she's a gamer. I know that even the pickiest men would dream of a partner like this. She deserves so much better.

[@Netherdrop]

Kinda sucks being early, usually I love reading comments and see what everyone thinks 😢 Oh well, maybe that means it's time for me to leave a comment instead lol I feel so bad for the OP, her husband sounds really sucky... I almost would've preferred him to just be jealous of her ability to save instead of... Everything he said in the update. I hope he either puts in some work to make OP happy as well if she's gonna go through that much extra effort just for him, or OP realizes he's not worth it so she won't be stuck with him forever :')

[@WildWestRosie]

New update on this user 2 hours ago!! Mark, I love that you post the users name...I immediately went to see if there was an update, and there was an update that justified all the people who said he was having an affair!

[@SunnyD74]

I’d absolutely start “spending” the extra money. Take it out in cash and he has no clue where it goes from there. I’d lose my shit if my partner threw this at me. If I’ve lived within the agreement, in a house I inherited, saving piles of cash and setting aside money for joint stuff, that partner can deal with the consequences. Come to think…this sort of shit was part of my divorce 😂 Edit: OMG he’s planning his exit because he’s going to be making more and doesn’t want her to have half. Dump that dick.

[@lisadgingersnaps9843]

Her husband has gone stupid. (Story 1)

[@Bijecarli]

What is with these people abusing the word "boundaries", misusing "love languages"? I mean, I know the answer, it's control and manipulation. Her husband sounds selfish here. I hope he isn't cheating, and I hope this story IS fake.

[@ineedhoez]

That's what emotional manipulators do. They weaponize therapy in order to get their needs met

[@karlat7880]

So he’s miserable at his job and working long hours to “move up” and he wants her to do the same? But also to be glamorous. And make fancy meals with elaborate table settings That’s ridiculous.

[@patty-pat-pat]

The husband is so horrible to her bc she's better than him in each and every way and he knows it. Also, he wants a traditional woman with a modern woman income. He wants you to be submissive and stfu while making 500k a year.

[@dorothyj1304]

Cheaters always looking for the " wrong " so they can internally justify the "why" of their betrayal.

[@helenlewis2510]

Makes me kinda glad both me and my boyfriend are broke, we both know we’re not with each other for money

[@ineedhoez]

Remember though... If his income increases significantly and he feels that he can not qualify for better women, your ass is gonna be out the door. This is exactly what happened to OP. She was with her man when he didn't have shit She was with her man when he didn't have shit

[@HobieInTheBox]

She's setting herself up for failure if she stays with him

[@grumpypants2066]

As a fellow gamer not the AH