My Husband Is Cheating on Me (Is It My Fault?)

My Husband Is Cheating on Me (Is It My Fault?)
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[@thorneto2742]

To cheat on your wife while she’s 8 months pregnant is one of the most heinous acts humanly possible. Absolute scum of the earth.

[@kaidiver4306]

HAPPENS A LOT, MORE THEN YOU THINK

[@thorneto2742]

@@kaidiver4306 To betray your wife is one thing horrible as it is, but to betray your unborn child and hurt their mother like that is unspeakably evil. I’m not a religious person but sometimes I kinda wished I believed in hell

[@nbabombshell]

Mines cheated on me when I was 2 months post partum it's absolutely horrendous

[@desenagrator]

@@kaidiver4306 *than

[@sarahalderman3126]

Most men cheat… yes its disgusting but it is also very common. What is truly disgusting to me is that our society perpetuates the lie that marriage or family means anything at all to men.

[@trexxy9628]

He SMILED and said “you had nine years to be the woman I loved”. Girl, run like hell. Get an attorney. You deserve more than this sickness.

[@anneshirley9560]

That sounded super creeper. He sounds abusive.

[@tishataray]

Evil

[@ruthhamilton4882]

Absolutely abusive

[@probablynot1368]

He should be saying, “I’m sorry, I had nine years to be the husband you deserved”, as he now claims to want her back. Too late, the damage has been done.

[@subjecttochrist]

Demon possessed

[@chocolate9747]

How evil do you have to be to blame your wife AND taunt her

[@KittyInkel]

While she’s postpartum at that. Hopefully Karma spins the block for him soon.

[@daniakk193]

Narcissism, he is a narcissist

[@disco4535]

Why tf would she date and marry someone like this? Was she tempted by his money, height, looks? This seems so incredibly common. Its like women desire absolute scumbags instead of a decent person.

[@barb7124]

My husband did

[@thengokalumbu5606]

So women cheat it’s human nature, men cheat, it’s EVIL. Duly noted.

[@justincarrillo226]

This guy might think this girl from the gym is perfect in every way his wife isn’t, but no perfect woman would get with a married man.

[@amyeastman8764]

I’m sure she’s a 304

[@ineedhoez]

That's why he put out the wife. He was going to try to make it work with the gym chick.

[@diggernash1]

​@@ineedhoez I find it unlikely that he has only one side chick. And the marriage was likely never important to him. Her being what he wanted, when he wanted was the important piece to his puzzle. When her reality came out and she probably claimed some of her independence; he decided she didn't fit in his puzzle anymore., so he went and found other pieces.

[@justincarrillo226]

@@ineedhoez well it sounds like it didn’t work with the gym girl if he was calling his wife back to try and make it work with her.

[@camellia8625]

Sometimes people meet their best match after they are already in a LTR. It isn’t fair but it happens.

[@FortessofShred]

I'm going to scream this so those in the cheap seats can hear me: IT IS NEVER YOUR FAULT! DECENT PEOPLE DON'T CHEAT!

[@texasgina]

There are some people out there that cannot commit and they feel better about themselves when they can attract other people and most of the time they're not going to change I always tell people that if you met somebody and they cheated on their partner to be with you they're going to end up cheating on you

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

They don’t !!!! They solve their issues within the marriage.

[@reginasemenenko148]

Time to end it. Once a cheater always a cheater. Say it louder for the ones in the back.

[@emd5095]

AMEN

[@FortessofShred]

@Texas Gina Then don't commit. Being non-committal is not the same thing as lying to somebody and cheating on them. It's really not hard.

[@niftynic115]

The 31 year old with 3 kids having an affair with a married man needs to listen to this call. This caller deserves so much better.

[@graciousgrace7509]

Do y'all ever get tired? Of not holding men accountable???

[@standground8284]

@@graciousgrace7509 *The person who's knowingly involved with and sleeping with someone else's spouse is just as pathetic as the spouse who's cheating. The easiest way to hold cheaters accountable is to cut ties, go no contact and simply let the other person have them. Revenge or trying to make a cheater feel ashamed or notice their wrongdoings is completely meaningless. Cheaters demonstrate that you don't matter and that's exactly why they made a series of well thought-out decisions to betray you.*

[@monas]

​@@standground8284 The other woman is not the ones who made vows. She owes the wife nothing. The caller's husband is the one who stepped out of their marriage. Her husband is the one who owes her not the other woman. Her husband is the one risking his wife's health, risking bringing home disease, STDs. I bet it's the husband who pursued the other woman, since it's men who usually pursues and probably told the other woman a whole bunch of lies about how their marriage is over and how he is gonna get a divorce. The husband is the main one at fault here.

[@standground8284]

@@monas *The husband is pathetic and a sorry excuse who no one should seek a relationship with, that’s obvious. If you’re dating or sleeping with someone who’s telling you that their marriage is over or they’re getting a divorce, etc… you’re still sleeping with a married person. Whether or not he’s lying to you, you still have no moral standards or integrity if you’re dealing with a married person. The cheating spouse is a dirtbag, the person he’s cheating with is also scum, they deserve one another and the affair partner will soon be in the same boat as the ex spouse. The husband owes her nothin except granting her a divorce and taking care of his responsibilities after. She should be relieved to let the other woman have him. People should seek to never remain with a cheater.

[@monas]

@@standground8284 Real talk💯

[@Wyo2Wis]

Affairs don't just "happen." They are planned. The husband deserves no mercy.

[@MrMistajone]

Wrong. When women cheat it's premeditated & planned. Sex for men is like a hand shake, that's why it's much much worse when a women cheats.

[@tyrabandz2845]

i’ve always hated the “it just happened! ” excuse. such BS

[@annbow4064]

Never just happens there's a lot of cunning coniving lying going on.

[@aliparker3]

Her voice, trying to hold it together, is heartbreaking.

[@eljoshsfgaming6335]

I can’t stand listening to it. It absolutely breaks my fucking heart. Idk how someone can do this to another person.

[@Ss-dz6cm]

That's all I could think of. Her quivering, but beautiful voice absolutely gutted me.

[@bonnieoles4212]

@@eljoshsfgaming6335 That's what a narcissist can do. They don't have empathy. They don't care if they hurt you. They only care about getting whatever they want. So many people have gotten broken hearts because of a narcissist.

[@ASouthernBoyCanSurvive]

This husband sounds like a guy who never got punched in the damn mouth. HIS family should give him a little lesson about how to treat this lady.

[@brennanleyen]

Amen

[@coriettapadilla9977]

@ASouthernBoyCanSurvive I completely agree!! I have been through exactly what this woman has been through and I agree with you 💯.

[@ASouthernBoyCanSurvive]

@coriettapadilla9977 sorry you went through that..makes me sick on my stomach

[@SanGreal-Hanna]

Exactly, where the hell is his father!

[@KyleeDoucette]

Exactly what I was thinking. 😤

[@azteca6695]

My mom told her daughters. "Have cash stashed. You just never know" this is one of the reasons she advised us

[@EadsB7002]

yep! always be able to take care of YOURSELF! so you can leave the minute things get nasty! people are not trustworthy nowadays and good ones are few and far between.

[@chriscolbert2188]

My mom told me don't have money stashed because a woman will take it if things go south. It goes both ways, not tied to a gender.

[@FourSeasons04]

Your mother was a smart woman...I have always advocated for women to build and live on their own before marriage. They'll know they can survive if the marriage fails or any other unforseen event ocvurs.

[@Looiiish]

One has to have "f-k off money".

[@percheroneclipse238]

It’s unfortunate money is the reason woman can’t leave. Bringing kids into poverty is awful.

[@tahsinarahman168]

This "husband" is an absolute narcissist. Cheating is an active DECISION made and to talk down to her and make her feel like its all her fault is fucked up... especially when she was 8-9 months pregnant.

[@alluringbliss4165]

I’d say he is a low life

[@om617yota8]

100% NPD. Was thinking that while listening.

[@Plooky1969]

And probably only wants her back because side chic doesn’t want him full time because he’s too much. Typical narc move!

[@dcg590]

Well what about her? She PICKED HIM.

[@om617yota8]

@@dcg590 Don't victim blame.

[@courtneymurphy1023]

The hurt in her voice is tearing my heart apart. Her husband is disgusting! She needs to leave him.

[@krystalgardiner5591]

He wants to work it out bc the girl probably don’t want him anymore

[@prudencek7087]

This is exactly what I was thinking. The side chick probably had enough of him and now he wants his wife back.

[@pitbull7885]

Yeah he kicked his girl out and the baby out so he could bring another woman over to screw.

[@Lil-Whiskies]

Now that he is available, she doesn't want him. They deserve each other.

[@suzannelehavi8414]

Obviously she is in deep pain, we can hear how distressed she is, how can you not have some empathy for the wicked behavior her husband is putting her through. My heart goes out to that poor young women with a very young baby.

[@bonnieoles4212]

I believe this other woman didn't want him anymore (she saw his true colors), so he figured, "I'll go back to my wife. Someone is better than no one. I'll act like I'm sorry. Maybe she'll buy that story!" But he doesn't deserve her. He's a terrible person. Men who act and talk like him don't deserve a good wife!

[@John-du2mq]

He sent her to CA for a while hoping that if he divorced her and ended up working out with the other girl she would already be out of his hair. Cold blooded for sure.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

He had 9 years to act like a man . Don’t give me that bull crap . That sounds like a man that doesn't want to take responsibility and accountability.

[@kimberlyjones8152]

Exactly he should have communicated effectively that he was unhappy years ago no excuses

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

@@kimberlyjones8152 💯 .

[@BagznBirdz]

@@kimberlyjones8152 he probably expected his wife to turn into someone else for him, and when she failed, he got a side piece and rubbed her face in it.

[@megalopolis2015]

I don't usually condone divorce, but not only did he cheat and gaslight her about it, but once she found out the truth, he had the gaul to blame her for it, AND kicked her and his tiny son out of the family home for good measure. That player used up all of his lives on those loser moves. It looks like it's game over. Thank you, Dr. John, for helping her seek the counseling she needs so much. She deserves to heal, become strong, and move on. ❤

[@ineedhoez]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@deb9806]

And that was what she found, he'll keep lying, she can't trust him. I always think of money but she can't stay just for that and her son needs good role models.

[@Jannjari]

I was kicked out with a baby in my belly and a 1-year-old in my hand. He changed the locks. He said he did not want the kids. Then went for full custody

[@sarcodonblue2876]

​@@JannjariI am sorry that happened to you. I hope you doing well now.

[@megalopolis2015]

@@Jannjari That's horrible. I'm so sorry. Are you able to fight this?

[@denisesalles7248]

I can feel that this woman is literally sick about this. Her husband sounds cruel - how dare he say he wants to fight for his family and then summarily dismiss her by saying he doesn't want to deal with her. What a jerk.

[@orangesplaylist]

I'm biased against cheaters and I'm almost always to say leave them. But it's next level malicious to use your affair to hurt your spouse. This dude is not worth rebuilding something with. He took pleasure in hurting her (ie: "the most evil smile") Leave, he's garbage

[@cd-ramreacts3713]

He doesn’t deserve you or your son! You can hear the pain in her voice

[@krystalgardiner5591]

I was on bed rest for a pregnancy, and was told if I couldn’t satisfy him he’d just have to go somewhere else. Being young and dumb I panicked and did things I shouldn’t do.. surprise surprise he cheated the next pregnancy to, men like that don’t deserve to have their genetics passed on. I’m sorry I have no sympathy anymore.. it’s NOT YOUR FAULT.

[@chrystiafreelandscankles548]

Your ex-husband??

[@alluringbliss4165]

Many people, men and women, believe that the husband’s sexual urge is above all things. I’ve heard many blame the women when the men step out.

[@konye618]

After the first one you had another??!?!??

[@amyeastman8764]

Personal responsibility does play a part too. Another kid with a man who acted like that before the first was even born? Why?

[@jasminebaby3375]

Unbelievable! I’m sorry Krystal .

[@Girlgonewise]

I want to give this woman a hug….I understand that every story has at least two sides but if what she is saying is accurate, her husband is heartless.

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

I can’t believe you mentioned two sides when she’s clearly heartbroken 💔….there is no two sides to cheating. PERIOD!!!! The cheater is the problem!!!

[@Girlgonewise]

@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Listen snowflake, there are always multiple side. You’re the kind of woman that falls for the “believe all women” BS! I’m not. Let’s not act like men are always bad and women are always good. Her being broken doesn’t mean she’s completely innocent. How do you know she hasn’t cheated in the past? How do we know what else has happened in their marriage. I feel for her and I wish her the best.

[@itachi65ful]

​@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 You're coming at it from purely a Emotional standpoint where as the OG poster is coming from a more logical standpoint.

[@alluringbliss4165]

@@Girlgonewise Not too sure how you can justify cheating when your wife is 9months pregnant and shipping your new born child to a different state miles away. People with morals and integrity have standard of behavior.

[@alluringbliss4165]

@@itachi65ful Not quite logical, with that type of reasoning, any harm or atrocities is justified when others hurt you or make mistake. Last I checked, cheating on your pregnant wife is a disgrace and a sin.

[@Astro95Media]

This isn't fixable. Take your baby and run.

[@Astro95Media]

And I say this as someone who was cheated on. My ex lied about it for over a year and then blamed it on me when I found the proof. People like that are absolute scum and will not change. Run. Run. Run.

[@suzannelehavi8414]

This poor women may not have the choice financially, it’s not so cut and dry there is way more to understand about this poor women’s situation.

[@jessicascreenwritingservices]

The fact that he smiled 🤬 run and never look back.

[@MrJimmy3459]

I know the word psychopath get thrown around alot but this guy fits the bill with that smile

[@ineedhoez]

Facts!

[@ApriliaRacer14]

Sociopath

[@kaycee5469]

To the absolute tea..... that's exactly what I was thinking .,,he discarded he...r he's a narcissist sociopath he discarded her and the children... he probably had been treating her like s*** for years so she probably been in devaluation from the moment she married... and after a couple of months with the new Supply one-on-one he's bored ....and now wants to try to Hoover her back in

[@vaska1999]

Definitely a sadist.

[@Attabasca]

My husband said to me after I complained he never complimented me, "You look good, for a woman your age." I found out 3 days later he was cheating on me with a woman 14 years younger than me. It hurt but now I think - damn straight I do. Your husband had nine years to be the man you loved and in that one moment he showed what a callous a-hole he could be...it hurts like hell but you can get through this. Hold your head up high and take care of you! You deserve better!!

[@CaraJohnson01]

Lol please tell me that other woman dumped his sorry butt

[@joanna7307]

Same here😂 now he's alone...begging for coming back!

[@Hiker2110]

I always empathize, but this was the first call that made me teary. The pain in this woman's voice is heartbreaking. Anna, please don't go back to him. This monster has no remorse for what he did and he does not deserve you. ❤

[@MichaelJones-rn2pq]

DO NOT GO BACK!!!

[@thakorputhavithakot9721]

Congratulations, Dale Valskov I am relieved that you are out there fighting these thugs, We musttake every precaution to protect the elderly and the general public from these despicable con artists. Congratulations to You!! You deserve the Nobel Peace Prize for ensuring our security.

[@Lianne459]

Women who tolerate cheating are enabling bad behavior. She needs to get rid of him or she will never respect herself.

[@liz-vr2gz]

Exactly. Too many people tolerate it and forgive over and over. I hope this poor woman doesn’t take the loser back.

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

@@liz-vr2gzAgreed! Your forgiving is despised because they see you as weak. Run, run , run. Is what I wish I had done years sooner . Just run! Don’t stop to doubt or blame yourself.

[@amyeastman8764]

Or playing the victim becomes their identity and instead of becoming stronger they get better at playing that role and never stop

[@liz-vr2gz]

@@amyeastman8764 Good point

[@terriesmith2616]

​@@amyeastman8764 100% agreed with you. Some women, instead of leaving the cheater, they choose to become the victim and they use that victimhood mentality to gain sympathy and pity, instead of choosing to become a strong woman for herself and her kids. In life, we don't get what we deserve, we get what we're willing to tolerate.

[@marciabernard3820]

Self-esteem is so important..the pain she is feeling u can feel it..

[@courtneymurphy1023]

My heart breaks for her. I want to give her the biggest hug.

[@cherylschindeldecker5594]

Oh my God! I am in tears for this young woman and mother. To this woman, I say do not look back and walk through the fire again! Let him go. He does not deserve you or his child. It is his loss. I ask God to give you strength and mercy to move forward with your life without him. Your child needs a strong parent to show him how to love. Please get help to wash away the hurt you have felt ever since you were a child. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!! God's blessings be upon you.

[@throughmyeyes6953]

I actually teared up listening to this. Her pain is palpable

[@terriesmith2616]

Sounds like she married a psychopathic cheater. She's going 'round and 'round the loops, repeating and lementing about the emotional abused she suffered and how much of a cheater her husband is. Girl... you're marriage is over. How about you stop enabling a cheater and leave him. If you're not strong enough to leave for your own self respect, then be strong enough to leave for your kids sakes. In life, we don't get what we deserve, we get what we are willing to tolerate.

[@EadsB7002]

yep!!! and trust me, it NEVER gets better with people like that guy-- just a life of misery if she stays! he will continue to do exactly what he wants! I've seen it many times!

[@terriesmith2616]

@@EadsB7002 Exactly! 💯💯💯 He'll never change. If she stays, she's choosing a life of misery. If I was her, I'd leave. Kids or no kids, I'm gone.

[@ROYALsagarkumardas]

Account of mine also got hacked and I followed the method as explained in this video but I'm unable to proceed after recording the selfie video. Thank you Dale Valskov . It brings me immense joy to witness his name appearing frequently in comments, a clear indication of the commendable work he’s been doing.

[@lifeaccordingtotheo9643]

He is a textbook narcissist. He cant change. Dont let him hear this call or he will rage. Lawyer. Full custody. Counseling. Dont go back dont give in.

[@GentlRebel]

Exactly this. Get the best lawyer you can find. Do it for yourself and for your son so that you are equipped to give him the best life possible.

[@seadragon1456]

Man. This has me tearing up. He has destroyed her at the moment and we can hear the devastation in her voice. The smile that she mentioned makes me ill. HUGS momma!! You deserve better.

[@EadsB7002]

CLASSIC narcissist! she needs to leave yesterday!! things never get better with men/women like this!!!

[@minajan4316]

Cheating is a choice not a "Mistake"

[@vaska1999]

A choice can be a mistake.

[@minajan4316]

@@vaska1999 If you say so..😮‍💨

[@vaska1999]

@@minajan4316 You've never made choices you subsequently realized were mistakes?

[@minajan4316]

@@vaska1999 Yes I have but I know the difference between a choice and a mistake big difference. Cheating is a choice not a mistake but to each their own.

[@KendraSmith087]

This is almost the same thing I went through. My husband started cheating on my when I was six months pregnancy. I found out when my daughter was 2 months. He told me “what do you expect, you weren’t putting out”. Like, ya, I was pregnant and giant and then postpartum and crazy hormones. I never withheld sex from him, it was the first time I couldn’t even force myself to I wanted to. I left him a year later and finally healed and moved forward. It was hard and painful but better than trying to stay in a relationship that was shattered long before. I can hear the pain in this woman’s voice and know it all to well. It’s going to be ok, it doesn’t get better.

[@aqua6613]

My dad gave my mom chlamydia while she was pregnant...so much for oh its just cheating...you're putting people's lives at risk with that behavior. I came out ok but the antibiotics back then to treat the std could have done some real damage...maybe they actually did I'm just in denial thinking I'm actually normal 😆

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

Same here. He left me in the hospital with my baby on life support when he was the one who hit me and slam me down because I found out he was cheating. Sent me into premature labour at 7 months pregnant.

[@sarahsincerely2.0]

@@aprilchow-chee5281 wow girl, that's terrible. Are you and the baby doing ok now?

[@krystalgardiner5591]

yup I was on bedrest for pregnancy complications and he told me “if you can’t satisfy me I’ll have to go somewhere else to get my needs met” He cheated on me both times I was pregnant. They don’t change.

[@chelsmaria]

​@krystalgardiner5591 absolutely vile. I'm so sorry. I hope he is miserable.

[@raghwendrasingh3521]

Honestly, Dale Valskov I'm amazed by your consistent ability to deliver exceptional work every single time. Your willingness to lend a helping hand during my time of need is deeply appreciated. Thank you for your support and kindness.. I take pride in your capability to overcome any challenge and consistently achieve outstanding results regardless of the circumstances.

[@cellostrings2522]

My ex did the same thing. He had several affairs and when I found out, he blamed me!! He is a pastor and was able to turn church members and my own children against me. I am so sorry this happened to you, Anna. This is not your fault. Your ex has shown you his character. You are not responsible for his repulsive behavior. Run! And do not give him the time of day!! ❤

[@IamZubbu-oh8eb]

Your work speaks volumes of the kind of man you are. efficient, organized and result oriented well done , Dale Valskov you're soo good at what you do

[@manoflegacy]

Please contact an attorney today. Divorce him DO NOT attempt to reconcile.

[@LSSYLondon]

He SMILED and said “you had nine years to be the woman I loved”. He hates her. He feels contempt and obviously never wanted to have kids with her. Men like this need to be dumped. Divorce and take everything in a California court.

[@melanier7309]

He hates and doesn't love himself.

[@vaska1999]

He's a sadist.

[@Adhrojiya1]

It just kept glitching on me when I tried this video tutorial so firstly I would say thank you for the video and secondly, thank you Dale Valskov meeting you was a blessing in disguise keep up with the good work I'm sure a lot of people will be needing your assistance iin the nearest future after seeing this

[@Ankushpatel763]

As a person and professional you couldn't get any better than Dale Valskov is a very reliable person and an excellent professional in the IT field. He is the type of person you want to work that's passionate, hardworking and knowledgeable. You’re The Best 100%

[@rahulmy4346]

The TIME and EFFORTS you had put into this work that is beyond excellence . Take my cordial thanks! You are really an efficient, organized and result-oriented man. I haven’t seen such quality work in a long time. Great job, Keep it up.And i will make sure the world knows more about you and the good deed you have done for me, people like you Dale Valskov, with your help i was able to catch my cheating gf

[@pamelarangel7104]

Run! Run like your hair is on fire! He cheated, rubbed it in your face , then sent you away! This very same thing happened to my sister. Trust me, this guy is a sociopath and a liar! He does not love you. It sounds like he's not capable of love. You can do so, so much better. Please do yourself and your child a big favor and get as far away from him as you can. Oh, and he still needs to pay child support.

[@bonnieoles4212]

Yes, I agree with you Pamela. When my husband left me for another woman I didn't make him pay child support. I now see that that was a huge mistake! I felt sorry for him for some personal reasons. But now I see that he didn't deserve my kindness!

[@jasminebaby3375]

He is evil, disgusting and immature. You are so much better off without him. I know it hurts and unbearable right now esp with a new baby. Trust me it gets better. You deserve so much better. We are all praying and rooting for you. Good luck, you got this.

[@sumansing9119]

It's amazing what you do Dale Valskov We need a lot of people with your skills and set who have good intentions and spread love

[@nitarathod7894]

The efficiency of this Dale Valskov is next level. To juggle walk throughs of various angles on the topic delivered to-camera, differnet content per topic from various folks underneath the umbrella of the track list of the larger big band concert itself is engaging and refined. To make a dense taccess like this so digestible is really something. Awesome work jack!!

[@elliotsteeves112]

This is just about the most deranged husband I have ever heard about in my life. Geez.

[@alittlepieceofearth]

John won't tell anyone to leave their spouse unless there is abuse. I think this is one of those times when he, or someone needs to tell her to run. This is not going to get better. Just by everything she has said about this guy, this whole thing has probably been pretty sick right from the beginning.

[@EadsB7002]

the husband sounds like a textbook narcissist! and no, things NEVER get better with men/women like this!! she needs to jump ship like yesterday!

[@7somekindofsomething]

Her voice at the start got me… How people can cheat knowing the hurt it causes is completely beyond me. I pray you’re doing ok and an even more beautiful life unfolds for you after this.

[@krystalgardiner5591]

Leave that dude and take EVERYTHING. I usually don’t say this, but this call has me triggered bc of what I went through.

[@GRGamerroshan459]

I'm literally overwhelmed, You are a blessing to the world. I can't thank you enough Dale Valskov for helping me with my account recovery. My prayers will always be with you and your team. Keep it up guys. Love from Maldives. There are many people out there I pray everybody get help.

[@eventhere2788]

My husband left me when i was 6 months pregnant for another woman. The last trimester was hell. My obgyn was so concerned about my health, she was calling regularly between visits to make sure i was eating and getting enough rest. I had no job, no $$, an 18mo and pregnant. No child support either. After our 2nd daughter was born, he felt bad enough that he wanted to reconcile but by then my heart was too shattered to put anything into the marriage. It was over. True colors are shown crisis moments. I learned who he really was and we divorced. Sadly he carried the guilt the rest of his life and his parents never let him forget it. I'm sorry they did that to him. Took me 5 years before i was healed enough to date again. But the sun does rise and better days are ahead. All my best to the caller. To the cheater, I hope his eyes are eventually opened.

[@pauldirc..]

In other commen you stated your husband confessed his infidelity on Halloween morning 20 year ago , and you are still living with him and this comment you are saying different story that you divorce him , both comments are posted 5 month ago on KZbin, why are you lying

[@eventhere2788]

I'm sorry to have confused the issue. My first husband left me when I was 6 months pregnant with 2nd child, also unfaithful. We divorced. Lived 9 years as a single mom. I married my present and current husband who also confessed infidelity on Halloween. We have been married now nearly 30 years. Hope that clarifies Paul Diroc.

[@Nayahpooh012]

She said: “he wants to be in MY babies life” not our babies life. That’s a sign of how disconnected they are. She doesn’t even view their child as his. She needs to leave him and focus on raising her baby.

[@WillowT442]

Do not go back to this guy!! He sounds exactly like my ex husband! He said the same things, almost word for word. I am much happier without him. Please move on. I also had children, they were older than yours but it was devastating. I really thought we were a happy family we were not. My kids are both in college now and the 3 of us are great. At the beginning of our he pandemic he moved to Nevada from where his kids live. Our son was in his last year of high school. We are all much better off without his drama and psychological abuse.

[@AminurIslam-ek1gt]

In both personal and professional realms, Dale Valskov shines as an outstanding individual. His work within the IT field consistently showcases reliability and excellence. Dale Valskov possesses a unique blend of passion, dedication, and profound knowledge that distinguishes him from others. His unwavering commitment to delivering exceptional results renders him an indispensable asset to any project or team.

[@SuyelLaskar-ii6yq]

Dale Valskov . I really appreciate your efforts and dedication towards the work. May God bless you to keep showing your worth and skills like this in the future

[@Rocky_the_cat_sitter]

i just want to give Anna a hug, feel so bad for her

[@kcourtney6826]

My prayers go out to her. I’m glad she’s back with her family. I’m glad she only has 1 child with this person. Cheating is a choice it’s actually a series of choices because there is always a point the person can stop and redirect, which is why I think it’s the ultimate betrayal because someone is consciously making the decision to break their vows. Fortunately Karma is like a boomerang, things will get better for her.

[@aimeerebecca1]

Oh mama, no. This was not your fault. It will never be your fault. 💔

[@dcg590]

It’s her fault she picked him.

[@aimeerebecca1]

@@dcg590 are you saying she is responsible for his actions?

[@jackie41083]

@@dcg590It’s your fault you victim blame.

[@amendaalmonte2236]

The anxiety will never go away and I can’t live like that.

[@olivialam9044]

Run. My ex was like that too. And he is a cop. Did all that "overtime" coming home drunk or not at all....The smirk..... when confronted with his wrongdoing, then turn it around and blame it on me. He's a sick man. You deserve better. Get away before you get deeper and keep trying and your kid grows up to be like him or furious with you for putting up with it for too long. If not for yourself, do it for the future of that baby.❤

[@signedwithlovealiyah]

I’m so sorry, mama :’( No matter what he or other people say, it was his choice and NOT your fault. What he did and said was evil. He doesn’t deserve you.

[@janenns9831]

Praying for you Ana ! May God wrap you up in His strong arms and comfort you ❤

[@WhatTruthDoesForUs]

Yes, the one who can !!!

[@ReddingRed]

😅

[@NunyaBitness-xq9ed]

God could have prevented her pain.

[@sandriagutierrez2605]

Amen!

[@knownonsense2015]

You have all the power. Own it and leave him.

[@desareecrane8734]

My heart. I had tears in my eyes and so grateful she has a support system. I wanted to be on the first flight out … to kick her husband’s ass. Her husband is a total douche.

[@JupiterMuffles]

Man, I just wanna give this woman a hug. It's so hard cause you think "If I did this or that better, would he have stayed faithful?" This is the most vile cheater I have ever heard about. And that's saying a LOT

[@Apostylicpoet]

IDK if my heart has ever broken for anyone on this show, like it broke for Anna!!!

[@VanJR.]

What garbage husband and human. I hope she and her baby stay far away from him because he has a lot to prove himself for. But considering how callous he was, I wouldn’t be surprised if he doesn’t.

[@jamesboone3678]

Honestly, I'm crying for her. She felt so hurt that she had to put the blame on herself. I'm crushed, and I hope she leaves this guy and lives such a happy and free life with a man that will treat her better.

[@alexsandra7811]

I wish for no one to end up trusting their life to one person whom they marry to go through this. Like he was supposed to be the ONE person to never betray you and equally evil enough to make you feel like you betrayed him!

[@kittycatobsession]

Absolute trash…

[@sarahalderman3126]

Being that the majority of men cheat it is crazy that we’re still taught to trust them.

[@blueseptember2174]

When mine cheated on me im glad he at least kept the blame on himself. I guess there are layers to bad situations. I feel for this woman 😢

[@violetafernandez496]

He is gaslighting you. My daughter’s father cheated while she was a newborn. He was verbally and emotionally abusive. Walk away. I promise you that you will be ok.

[@EadsB7002]

yes! this is narcissistic behavior 1000%...and it only gets worse! they will just keep doing whatever they want...they don't care who they hurt!

[@erikhuisman2487]

Gather all the evidence you can and spend more than you think you should on a lawyer. My wife was in almost the same exact situation. The ONLY person who is at fault is him. Fight like hell for that kid. Keep track of literally everything he does thay could be used against him

[@jeromehenry4484]

Husband flat out told her he did not want his own son.

[@amyfuller3801]

​@@jeromehenry4484 Yeah, now when she's not fighting him. That may change later.

[@simoneXox]

This is pure evil 😢

[@adriana27100]

Ana, I hope you read all our comments bc you deserve SOOOOOO MUCH BETTER!!! I know right now, the pain and with a 8 month old baby, is no words… This man never deserved you and I hope you will realize one day that you’re going to do so much better in the future! This marriage needs to end, he isn’t remorseful and completely gaslighting and blaming you! He will continue to do this in the future and the faster you get out, the better it will be for you and your baby… I’m cheering for you! 👏🏻❤️👏🏻

[@texasgina]

Amen I agree with everything you said and she's never going to be able to trust him as long as she's with him and she can't work on her self-esteem being with someone like him who's going to put her down and she can't trust. I wouldn't think twice about getting a divorce. My dad was married at least six times he cheated he abandoned his children and he didn't have one child at his funeral

[@adriana27100]

@@texasgina you went through it and saw it first hand and what it can do to your mental health. It’s very hard to leave, but at this point it’s either your well being or being unhappy as long as you are with him.

[@davidsollers4435]

I can understand why she blames herself. I did after I found out my wife cheated on me for over two years shortly after our twins were born. It is easy to blame yourself.

[@ineedhoez]

She blames herself because she has no self worth.

[@terriesmith2616]

@@ineedhoez Agreed. She blames herself because she has low self esteem. Even on the phone call, you can hear her going on and on about his cheating but never actually deciding what she's going to do about it until Delony pressed her on it. It doesn't sound like she's ready to divorce him yet even though he kicked her and their kids out of the house. I mean, what more does he have to do before she decides to leave him?

[@blahblahblah4544]

Especially if you're all wrapped up in how much you care for them. My ex didn't cheat. He just treated me like absolute garbage but rode in on his high horse being like "Well atleast I don't cheat. Atleast I don't beat you up" Like really? These are the standards you compare yourself too? This isn't even bare minimum of healthy marriage :/ Ofcourse it took me some time to realize how much I lost myself :/ It was thanks to Jesus and loving friends and family who kept my confidence.

[@blahblahblah4544]

​@@terriesmith2616Some people just need a little love spoken into their lives. She might have a history amd is unaware what real love and respect is. What real love and self-respect is. I hope she finds that love somewhere.

[@standground8284]

@davidsollers4435 *Did you divorce your wife who cheated? Are the twins your biological children or the affair partners children?*

[@pamelatd]

😭 Anna I'm so sorry. You deserve better. You didnt do anything to cause this. Stay safe. 💜

[@tuneagewbij]

My mouth was agape when I heard this. I feel like this is something you hear in a movie/TV show so to hear it in reality is crazy.

[@mamajojoworld798]

Poor lady. i feel her pain. Her husband does not want her and the baby. He shipped his wife and kid out to run with strange and random women. Cheating is not a mistake. It is like you go to a party and the host of the party offers you liquor. You drink the alcohol, the police pulls you over and you put the blame on the host of the part. Cheating is not a mistake. He has caused some serious mental health issue to his wife and child.

[@KaraLW82]

If my son ever did that I would disown him.

[@tubeloobs]

There's no doubt in my mind that through neglect and mistreatment we can do things to make it easier for our spouses to step out on us but at the end of the day everyone has a choice. You can choose to try to work with a spouse that is mistreating you and if it seems like there's no hope, you can choose to leave. No one HAS to cheat.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Yes women often do “make it easier” to be cheated on, by expecting fidelity at all. I have come to the conclusion that men are mostly just trash anymore. I know only one man who has chosen to remain faithful to his wife, out of the hundreds I have met in this lifetime. Infidelity is essentially a given in this day and age. Heck it has gotten so bad that women are cheating regularly too now.

[@summersalix]

​@@sarahalderman3126or men turn to porn and totally neglect their wife and other obligations in order for their instant pleasure. It's disturbing how easily men are able to stray in various ways, punishing their wife in the process

[@ineedhoez]

Exactly. You can always walk away.

[@dcg590]

SHE picked him. She has responsibility in this too

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@summersalix exactly. Though to be fair “using” porn or any other form of sexual release is technically just a form of infidelity. It may not be the worst example of infidelity but it certainly is a form of infidelity. Fidelity in marriage is paramount.

[@WelshCorgi321]

Why is she not so pissed off? She needs to call a lawyer today and file.

[@pi8582]

File for divorce ASAP in Texas , Texas will split everything in half! Take it all! No people I'm not being rude, I divorced my other half many decades ago and got together right away. Guess what every is still to be split in half. That's the law in Texas and everything I've inherited he has sign when I sell, done it twice. So, lady take charge of your life.

[@marilynking527]

I cry with you. This isn’t your fault. Sending you love!!

[@gabrielbuckley6814]

I will never understand how some people can be so evil…

[@Petruskinhap972]

Wow. He’s nasty 🤮. No remorse whatsoever. Divorce and take every penny you can. Feel better by knowing he will do the same to the next woman.

[@WillowT442]

I wonder if he is related to my ex husband??? He said word for word he said. I told him he was a coward for having an affair instead of telling me he wanted out. That is exactly what yours is A COWARD! Please please do not go back or let him back. You do not see this now, but he is doing you a favor. My ex told me that I changed after I had the my kids. I said if course I did I became a mother and a really Good one.

[@TroyP20]

There’s nothing wrong with change just make sure you mention that upfront because I’m absolutely certain you were doing some wild things in the beginning to retain him

[@seadragon1456]

If people don’t change over the years that means there was no growth. As for the topic you’re insinuating…. Female hormones peak in their early 20s. After the first baby those hormones drop because another hormone sky rockets to encourage newborn bonding and then milk. Those hormones stay high for a couple years. OF COURSE the “fun” hormone doesn’t kick back in until that first baby is weaned. Then it starts all over… “FUN” and boom pregnant again. 🤣 After the first 2-3 kids that woman is phasing out of those peak hormones. Usually by then she’s hitting 30 which means the reproductive hormones start to decrease consistently. 35-40 is where women will see a rapid decline. So yeah…. Not being a wild young woman with the drive of a teenager @ 30 isn’t a bad thing. To expect that is delusional and and and…. FUN isn’t meant to retain anyone. FUN is for reproduction.

[@tiffanyburke2785]

Oh beautiful girl. I know the feeling. I was there myself. 13 years later what I can tell you. Is that you will be ok. I had a 4 year old and a 5 month old when it happened. And now I have lived the most beautiful life alone as a single mom. He also wanted us back at one point and I realized that he was asking me to do all of the changes and I couldn’t. I knew who I was. And I wasn’t going to change for him. You’ll be ok. I promise. Live your life away from him. He’s a terrible person and you’ll be ok.

[@DominickSpano]

Cheating is very lousy. That is for sure. It happens, but indeed it is lame as heck. But it takes a special kind of jerk to cheat on a pregnant wife. Come on, something like this makes me embarrassed to be a man. Despicable.

[@bm4551]

What a piece of work, what he said to her was so callous. I wish this lady all the best. May you heal and find someone who will truly treasure you.

[@om617yota8]

Your fault? Did you tie him up, blindfold him, make him think you were going to do something to him, and then have someone else come in and do it? His actions are on him, not you.

[@jasminebaby3375]

This is funny yet very true. This man is so disgusting. Karma will gets him back big time

[@EadsB7002]

typical narcissistic brainwashing...they make the victim out to be the villain!

[@FourSeasons04]

He's a classic manipulator, and she's easily manipulated. That's a destructive combination for her.

[@brightpage1020]

Being “the woman he loves” is obviously a scam if whoever that is gets cheated on and betrayed at such a vulnerable time as pregnancy and newborn child… He actually think that makes him such a gem?! Shows what he knows. Poor guy. This won’t end well - for him. I’ve seen these guys get old. It gets worse. It only gets worse from here, Love. Let him go, now. Do yourself that favor. He’s not worth it. He’s not man enough to face his responsibilities that he has created and signed up for. That’s what that means. That’s ok. We need to stop focusing on him, now. Let him be dead to you. Mourn the marriage. Let it go. Nails are in the coffin of that thing, thankfully. Better to find out now than after he does potentially more damage when your now newborn becomes a difficult toddler… Better this way. Trust me. Seen women go through this. You are sharp to catch it this early! Sharp tack! He picked a winner too smart for him. Oops. Let that be his problem. Now, you need to focus on envisioning what you want your life to look like just you and your kid. You can. Get help, a safety plan, build support… you can and you will, Pretty Momma. No need to worry. Envision it and work towards that as soon as you can because the faster you build raising this kid on your own 2 feet, the faster you’ll gain confidence in you and those helpers around you waiting to pitch in. It won’t be easy or perfect at first but you can make it good. You can and it can be sooooo much better! And it will ;) you’re not alone. Women will come out of the woodwork to help you who have been there. Let them.

[@princessgemz271]

Im actually concerned for her safety. Who knows what he’s really capable of. Hoping she is safe and keeps him away for good.

[@sassysucculent6291]

My goodness my heart is broken for this woman. To cheat when your wife is 8 months pregnant and postpartum is the most sick and cruel thing you could ever do. Foul. It is NOT your fault sweetheart. Not in any form on any planet.

[@ViolinfanaticOriginal]

This happens so often I am not even sure why people have relationships anymore. 😂 I prefer to not risk my peace and happiness by letting someone try to drain and inflict trauma on me. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@belindavandyke8363]

Please don’t think all people are bad. I’ve been married for almost 44 years (since I was 17) to a wonderful, trustworthy guy. Life has been Awesome! Don’t give up, someone is out there that will love you with all their being!!❤❤

[@SaystheTruth3]

Agree! Trust in a marriage is very rare these days unfortunately....

[@ViolinfanaticOriginal]

@@belindavandyke8363 OMG, I love that so much for you. Congrats! Sadly, I think you are the exception, not the rule. Most people won't find what you have.

[@EadsB7002]

good ones are out there, but fewer and further between nowadays! I'm with you though....decentralizing relationships and loving my life anyways was the best thing i ever did!!! you really don't "need" someone else to make you happy, contrary to what society tells us!

[@mjkingofmusic]

Hearing her talk broke my heart. I can just imagine how devestated she must be. Her husband is a scumbag, a POS. I hope she will leave him asap & create a happy & healthy life for herself & her son far away from that POS. He deserves nothing good. I really want to know how she is now & if she left that sorry excuse of a human being.

[@ruthhamilton4882]

I don't think I can listen to all of this. My father treated my mother like this and she died of cancer at a young age. I despise this behavior. 😒

[@Loveladylove]

I’ve listen to the same story over and over again. But these married women swear that they live the happiest lives, ladies, you have to properly vet a man and understand that you have to put yourself first always. This prevents situations like this from happening, when you’re much more aware of what’s really going on around you you can properly navigate and make the best move without so much emotion.🙏🏾. It sounds like she has a really low self-esteem, and unfortunately, many men use that against weak women, and that’s why he’s asking for her to come back, because most likely she will, and she will tolerate the cheating in the abuse all in the name of marriage. It’s not worth it. My grandmother was abused for years, and didn’t have any rest until my grandfather finally died, she was 75 years old by that time.