At the very least, I hope she does NOT go forward with IVF and having a child. I don't think either of them are ready, nor should a child be brought into this mess.
@Liveloud4Him Жыл бұрын
They may be hers from a previous relationship since they’ve only been married 2 years.
@shachede6828 Жыл бұрын
@@Liveloud4Himmore like his kids. Cause why she do IVF if she could have kids. Most likely his kids
@CrystalM1917 Жыл бұрын
@@shachede6828you can have secondary infertility. My friend had two and then couldn't get pregnant again without help at only 31. But yeah, they don't need to have anymore regardless atleast for now.
@Liveloud4Him Жыл бұрын
@@shachede6828 Good insight! True.
@AlannahGardener Жыл бұрын
@@Liveloud4HimThey've been together 7 though so they definitely could have kids...
@aelh123 Жыл бұрын
Jane, you’re married … and he’s out here LIVING HIS BEST SINGLE LIFE 🍾
@Erica-wz8yv Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@joelpineda4414 Жыл бұрын
What single life??
@theoriginalkrabbypatty Жыл бұрын
Facts! He put a ring on it to shut her up.
@thecramptons Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@andrea6053 Жыл бұрын
If he’s texting another woman behind your back and lying to you he’s already cheating.
@fabienfernandarodriguez2556 Жыл бұрын
Amen
@isay207 Жыл бұрын
Drs cheat alot
@Mmmmkaaay7 ай бұрын
Agreed. The whole point of being in a relationship is to have a safe space to create intimacy. And three is a crowd.
@mollyprysunka77417 ай бұрын
@@isay207what do you mean?
@brandiebrooks71357 ай бұрын
EXACTLY
@Hlaford2009 Жыл бұрын
after listening to this woman for 9 minutes, I can say that she desperately wants him to stay, but for him she is just a door mat.
@stephanie75728 ай бұрын
He is a doctor, he makes good money, are the kids theirs or hers from a previous relationship? I think her conflict is maybe what will happen financially if she splits.
@annstewart8506 Жыл бұрын
Emotional cheating is a stepping stone to the exit of a relationship. My ex husband of 23 years started this with a woman. I told him to stop and he didn't respect my request. Low and behold he ended up having an affair. All so.predictable. Trust your instincts here caller.
@michaelallen1154 Жыл бұрын
@annstewart8506 - how many days per week did you make $e×u@| advances on him? How many periods of time did you go for weeks without advancing on him?
@JKNat9004 Жыл бұрын
🙌🙌
@My_Secret_Sketchbook777 Жыл бұрын
Oops I misread he is your EX for a reason then.
@tatertot804 ай бұрын
I'm so glad he's your ex!
@annstewart85064 ай бұрын
@tatertot80 Ty. Nobody happier than me!
@katiejon17 Жыл бұрын
I’ve been a nurse since 2007... the second she said he works in an ER my stomach sank for her. Nurses, and some other staff who work long shifts together - are really prone to these imaginary beliefs of intimacy with their coworkers, simply because of excessive shared time together. I don’t know that I would be able to move forward with this man.
@lanaw7304 Жыл бұрын
Loyalty depend on character and morals not the profession
@katiejon17 Жыл бұрын
@@lanaw7304 In general, yes. Not every ER staff cheats. But there are certain jobs where cheating is much higher than others, and that is a fact not an opinion. ER staff and correctional officers are but two examples.
@mollyprysunka77417 ай бұрын
@@katiejon17I work in an insanely small hospital and yeah… there’s only been once but those two made the entire staff complicit in their extramarital affairs, and they turned the floor into a sitcom. Dragged other nurses into it. It was a mess.
@JudePi-jx7yo5 ай бұрын
How is this imaginary? Isn't time together time together?
@katiejon175 ай бұрын
@@JudePi-jx7yo You really did not comprehend what I said. I never said their time together was “imaginary” 🙄 I said they think their long hours together equals intimacy - and this intimacy is imaginary. It’s like movie stars who do a movie together, and have a passionate fling... only to realize that there intimacy was purely circumstantial and they done messed up. But this probably is going way over your head.
@Destiny-jf5pb Жыл бұрын
As someone who has dealt with a cheating partner multiple times…you never EVER forget how they betrayed you. The relationship will never be the same again. It’s best to just cut ties and move on
@MiahV007 Жыл бұрын
I’ll never understand how someone can go behind someone’s back and COMPLETELY destroy the other persons faith, love, trust, and companionship for the sake of minor temporary entertainment. How hard is commitment these days??
@natalieelliott1984 Жыл бұрын
I agree. I don't understand it at all.
@sarcodonblue2876 Жыл бұрын
Sadly men always cheated but it had to be tolerated as women had no other options
@andrew8168 Жыл бұрын
@@SarahConnor562she hit the "fake tears" switch on and off like a professional. They should divorce for both of their sake.
@Piccolo_Re Жыл бұрын
Weak, cowardly people who hate themselves do that. What I don’t understand is why do the people in relationships with these cheaters ignore all the red flags at the start. This stuff just doesn’t happen suddenly. There are always red flags beforehand. It’s a character issue. People have to start paying attention to character during the dating phase.
@Differentpaths74 Жыл бұрын
I’ve been married for 25 yrs and I adore and admire my wife. We are doing the therapy thing and trying to bring ourselves back, saying that I can totally understand why the other cheats. I can speak for only myself, loneliness and feeling unwanted by being ignored and rejected opens the door to thinking and perhaps taking action towards cheating. I have not crossed any boundaries but I have seriously considered it. We have had the divorce talks and she asks that we divorce if I was to be with someone else. So what options does that leave for a guy. Cheat - maybe get caught maybe not. If caught divorce. Do nothing - feel resentment and frustration, will end badly Open marriage - she feels resentment and betrayal or he feels resentment because she is giving love to others that he desperately needs for their relationship, this ends badly. For a guy divorces are very unfavourable and ultimately both lose. What both lose is possible parenting time, family home, financial distress/ruin, lose friends, and possibly your life. Suicide for men are at the peak when this kind of thing is happening.
@banana_hammock7158 Жыл бұрын
DONT TRUST HIM GIRL....I THINK YOU WILL ALWAYS BE WONDERING IF HES CHEATING..THATS TORTURE
@DogeUSA Жыл бұрын
Shut up
@lyndaslocs Жыл бұрын
There's nothing to fix here. You can't trust him. It's painful to realize that your relationship is over, but it's time to end it.
@alluringbliss4165 Жыл бұрын
Ive been single for a while and infidelity is one of the major reasons I am not eager to be in a relationship
@RoxiieSays9 ай бұрын
She doesn’t want to leave him. If she stays, he’ll just get better at hiding his infidelity and will continue to cheat until she chooses herself and decides to leave him.
@bbl20198 ай бұрын
This is so validating that I wasn’t crazy. I was gaslit so bad by my ex husband that I actually ended up gaslighting myself that emotional cheating and texting behind my back was not cheating. He said that the only cheating was physical. So glad to know I’m not crazy after all
@co9971 Жыл бұрын
She just needs confirmation that she's making the right decision to leave. End of story.
@phyllis97509 ай бұрын
It doesn't matter what he did. It's the turning the locator off that's, the key. WALK!
@user-semperfifly7 ай бұрын
@phyllis9750- Not walk. RUN!
@xvii-298 Жыл бұрын
Men and Women like this drive me crazy, they compromise their morals for pleasure. Your wife is going through IVF dude, that's so hard for so many women. My heart breaks for her... Absolutely stomach turning.
@lilystabile3594 Жыл бұрын
Cheating or not is irrelevant to me- if my husband ever sent my children to a second, undisclosed location and made contact with them or him unavailable, it would automatically make him an unsafe adversary. We would never do that to each other. We both know where the children are 100% of the time. And he would never use his mother to help him lie. This is ridiculous, regardless of the other details of the infidelity.
@dahliaherrod43014 ай бұрын
Yes! They skipped right over that very salient point
@laylarahman11 Жыл бұрын
This channel is my motivation for staying single
@nwandoe3599 Жыл бұрын
lol!
@Bluesclues-here7 ай бұрын
Omg, same here! 😂
@teresaf42517 ай бұрын
SAME! Never felt so good being single until finding this channel! 😅
@okaydude28636 ай бұрын
😂😂
@claudia35395 ай бұрын
😂
@lisabanks7742 Жыл бұрын
Lady, you deserve more than this. You can’t wasting time and energy babysitting this unfaithful man. If he wants to cheat, he will find away to cheat-you can’t stop him. You should move on save your heartache and focus on yourself and well being. You’d rather be single than be unhappy.
@boston312 Жыл бұрын
Should she take him to the cleaners in divorce court?
@claudia35395 ай бұрын
@@boston312yes 😂
@CarolinaHowe-Piper14 күн бұрын
This is so true🙌🏻 It’s better to be single, than with someone who lies, cheats and disrespects you …
@stefaniamalatesta8076 Жыл бұрын
Jane, your marriage is over. No one is worth this stress.
@jerusalem4492 Жыл бұрын
Except maybe the person you chose to start a family with. They have children, it’s worth a shot at least
@miss.teetee1166 Жыл бұрын
@@jerusalem4492 Why didn’t he think about his children and what it could cost them before he decided to cheat?
@ViolinfanaticOriginal Жыл бұрын
@jerusalem4492 Yeah, he didn't think about his children when he cheated, so she doesn't have to sit around and suffer further because he decided to have his cake and eat it too. Seems a bit backwards to have her be miserable for the children when she didn't even commit the crime 🤷🏾♀️ And, as they say, it's better to divorce than to raise.children in a toxic environment. When a partner willingly puts their partner through pain and anguish and betrayal, that is toxic and.not good for children. Leave.
@stefaniamalatesta8076 Жыл бұрын
@@jerusalem4492 He did not think about that when he was sleeping with someone else, why should she suffer for his selfishness?
@soni05131 Жыл бұрын
@@jerusalem4492 No, not worth the shot, he cheated and will continue to cheat and make his wife and children suffer. Nope, marriage is over, he lies and cheats....nothing more to discuss.
@tomnohmy1273 Жыл бұрын
Feel bad for her. Been there, cheating spouse, it can consume ur life if u allow it. I couldn't move on, possibly repair, some can. For me. Getting a divorce, best thing I did.
@debbiel8585 Жыл бұрын
If she stays with this man, she will never trust him and be happy.
@samuelzulu9731 Жыл бұрын
Who told you you have to be married to be happy?
@DKilgallen Жыл бұрын
Jane, I am going through this now. You should give me a call🤣💕 Married 23 years and filed last week. They don’t change. It won’t get better. I’m so sorry. You will not get the answers you are looking for. He will never admit to anyone unless caught red handed. Good luck💖You deserve so much better. He will make you cry again and again and then one day you are 51 with no career. Two kids that think he is infallible. And you see his texts for the first time. Leave now
@firefly98388 ай бұрын
Do women actually? Care about keeping a ball and chain on a guy? If so, why? I never got the obsession with hoarding one body your whole life. Gotta change it up to keep it interesting.
@stephanieshupe39852 ай бұрын
Absolutely agree. Gave my ex-husband 20 years of my life. Cheated on me with 3 different women, moved in with a fourth when we separated. You can forgive him left, right, and center, but if he wants to cheat and has gotten away with it before, he will do it again. And turning off a tracker that is always on, just to drink beer and play cards with a woman he's been texting? Forgive that without 100% proof that he's changing and he'll get better at telling lies and having alibis. Listen to this cheated on ex-wife: walk out now.
@bernadettehuff2984 Жыл бұрын
It's really hard to believe that someone you love, married had kids with, would do this to you. But once you do, you now have to face it and decide where you are, can you leave, can you survive? Trust me , you can.
@show_me_your_kitties Жыл бұрын
Yeah it literally destroys someone's reality. I loved him so whole heartedly and trusted him 100%. I was so disappointed that I got him wrong.
@RepentImmediately Жыл бұрын
From what I've observed, men tend to marry women who are easy (meaning, those who have low standards or few requirements) or who are considered to be socially acceptable meaning, they marry the kind of women they believe they should be marrying according to what other men or their parents tell them. Rarely, from what I've observed, do men make truly suitable choices when picking a spouse, nor does marriage equal commitment in the minds of many men. I get hit on my married men regularly so, I'm not quite sure why women tend to make such a big deal of "getting the ring." Is a proposal really a compliment? Or is it a guy saying, this is the woman within my range of options who will tolerate the most and expect the least? Or potentially, this is the woman I can partner with and not have to do the hard work of aligning with my authentic self because she checks the boxes whereas partnering with the woman who really gets me and meets my needs will require me to step outside of the status quo and I'm too cowardly to do that?
@Name-sb1fr Жыл бұрын
@@RepentImmediately The men you deal with, I could say the same for women who marry any slum just to be married.
@jemmajames67198 ай бұрын
I couldn’t financially that’s whyIve been stuck in an abusive marriage
@angiehernandez7671 Жыл бұрын
Young lady take the best advise from a very old lady. If you feel he is cheating he is. Move on you deserve better.
@megalopolis2015 Жыл бұрын
That sure doesn't sound like only emotional cheating to me, and it doesn't seem like a one time thing, but a lifestyle. The deception alone is reason enough to suspect the worst, as Dr. John said. It looks like this loser of a soon-to-be ex husband chose a broken home over his family. She should choose counseling, but he's clearly not interested.
@SamanthaLovesHerHusband Жыл бұрын
He’s probably got a burner phone to talk to her inappropriately
@firefly98388 ай бұрын
Or maybe she is reading way more into this than there is. She admitted she found no evidence of cheating and only found evidence of him doing the right thing. So either he has CIA levels of covering his tracks (and lets be honest, most people aren't that good) then she is reading way more into this.
@cindichean Жыл бұрын
Leave. My husband did this. I forgave so many times. They don't change.
@NinjaKiwi12058 Жыл бұрын
How do men like your ex husband even get married? I can’t even get a text back and never would do this.
@NinjaKiwi12058 Жыл бұрын
But women like you marry bad men and the good men are left to metaphorical die it’s comical
@superscaryrussianbot846 Жыл бұрын
@@NinjaKiwi12058, it’s because the initial stage of falling in love is both parties fooling themselves and ignoring faults. Questioning whether the person would cheat or not doesn’t even come up on the radar until much later.
@superscaryrussianbot846 Жыл бұрын
@@NinjaKiwi12058, I was always categorized as a “provider” by western women because I’m a wealthy good guy. But I was cheated on by women going with the more dangerous option for a sense of adventure. My solution was to marry an eastern woman and we have been happily married for over 8 years.
@alluringbliss4165 Жыл бұрын
@@NinjaKiwi12058Cheaters are deceivers and manipulators, they know exactly who to target.
@respectabletampodcast Жыл бұрын
Dear, you need to leave him. This won't get better. He will just find more subtle ways to hide his betrayal. He has shown you time and time again that he has no respect for your marriage. You cannot afford to play robocop with him.
@michellesimmons3150 Жыл бұрын
The marriage is over. He chose someone else and he is depending on your low self esteem to keep trying….he is NOT trying at all!!!!! He is USING his wife for the convince and comfort, he puts himself above you
@cherylspohr9821 Жыл бұрын
Do not have more children with your husband!!! Even if you decide to stay.
@schokococoa575 Жыл бұрын
This wasn’t the first time, it was just the first time she found out. His mother may or may not know, but his friends, coworkers and employees know. This is a case of the person who needs to know the most is the last to know. If she truly believes she’d be able to forgive and especially forget, then sure she can stay with him. But it’s already going in circles in her mind right now, I highly doubt tracking and going to counseling would help, given she’s already keeping such close tabs on his stuff and has zero faith in him. I hope she makes the best decision for her and her children’s mental well-being.
@uscitizen3252 Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@seadragon1456 Жыл бұрын
So true!!! Coworkers and friends keep that secret locked down so they don’t feel the heat. It’s soooooo unfortunate that we can’t hold our fellow humans accountable for their crap. It’s a burden to everyone holding the secret even if they don’t think so.
@susieq8008 Жыл бұрын
There is No Way on this Earth, would i bring children into this sad marriage. I would have to say "ADIOS"....
@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607 Жыл бұрын
If you want to act like you’re single, you can be single. He doesn’t want the life he’s in so find someone that does
@ViolinfanaticOriginal Жыл бұрын
Doctor, your show is becoming a testimonial for choosing "single for life" status.😂😂😂
@racheltarentino33144 ай бұрын
😂fr
@SilverGirlAu Жыл бұрын
So sad - similar happened to me and I hung on for 18 mths after HE left me, hoping we could get our relationship back... but I wish I had had better boundaries and told him it was over from my perspective because he crossed the line... I will never tolerate that again and I will make it clear to anyone I date this deception and breaking trust is a dealbreaker... run Jane run!! He is not trustworthy and if it's not her it will be someone else... and you will spend your life wondering...
@yayyareaa2997 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, he’s cheating At it may not be with just one woman
@JozelleRenia Жыл бұрын
I loveeee this episode! Dr. John hit it on the head & told her straight up what it was. No one has times for games, my hearts breaks for this caller. She wants her marriage to work but it’s evident that her husband doesn’t. We need to hear this kind of honesty!🔥🙌🏽
@Theescapist_87 Жыл бұрын
Hes still cheating. This is why married men and women should not have friends of the opposite sex. Even if it started out innocent, its an easy slippery slope into becoming an emotional, and usually, a physical affair.
@GixxerRider1991 Жыл бұрын
That's ridiculous. Some people have known friends of the opposite sex for decades before getting married and nothing ever happens.
@firefly98388 ай бұрын
@@GixxerRider1991 yeah these comments are ridiculous. She admitted to finding no real evidence of cheating and when searching found two times he maintained healthy boundaries with co-workers. Thats not something someone totally checked out of a relationship, sleeping around, would do. All she know for sure is that she thinks he lied about something but even then has no evidence.
@caligirllala12677 ай бұрын
@@firefly9838but he’s hiding something obviously because he turned his phone off for gods sake when he and this girl were in the car together for who knows how long????? He’s in the wrong here cus he just destroyed their trust as a married couple.😢
@Ashbrash19987 ай бұрын
By that logic ot should work for any friendships eith the same sex as well.
@mailmebaby555Ай бұрын
I have a group of friends since high school and a bit after college more joined in. There are both straight and gay men but most are women. We meet as a group. Otherwise it's just the girls.
@daynashannon9679 Жыл бұрын
There’s way too much deception going on in this relationship! Even friends are involved. Plus they still work together! How to you mend broken trust when the temptation is still right there in front of you multiple hours a day?
@uscitizen3252 Жыл бұрын
Very true!
@jacquelinemarie9655 Жыл бұрын
Temptation is everywhere though. The problem is he cheated at all instead of just going to his wife to discuss what he clearly feels is missing from their marriage. IMO The Other Woman could be anyone because she’s playing a role; I can’t imagine he genuinely likes her beyond how she makes him feel.
@Vbe796 Жыл бұрын
@@jacquelinemarie9655maybe it’s not an issue he’s having with his wife. He may just like and want attention…from anyone. Sometimes people cheat even when they are in happy marriages.
@jasminebaby3375 Жыл бұрын
I heard you saying while going through IVF. Please do not have any more children in with him. I have a feeling that he is going to cheat on you again. Proceed with caution. Good luck!
@sydizzle5212 Жыл бұрын
I don’t even think his friend was there with him.
@brightpage1020 Жыл бұрын
Listening with a friend. She is in tears - says she wishes she had advice this clear a couple years ago when she went through this. Thanks, Caller, for being so brave, and Dr. D. For clarifying things for somebody who might have lost herself in the fog of deception. Hope this lady’s family works out in a way that supports her needs, no matter what that might look like in her case. Hope their kid(s) heal from this schism quickly and completely as possible. Heal from his delusion that his lies pass the sniff test. Hope he gets honest at least with himself.
@JustinCase780 Жыл бұрын
Funny how the hubbie blames the other chic. 😂 Nice play!
@Chicky1234-m3f Жыл бұрын
They always do😂
@jet4415 Жыл бұрын
Gaslighting
@JustinCase780 Жыл бұрын
@@jet4415 or, just a full of bullcrap pro
@ericae4419 Жыл бұрын
Jane, trust your intuition….your gut. It’s difficult, at best, to work through infidelity and build trust again. Very difficult to not wonder, question, deny your feelings of doubt and so forth. It would be far easier to put forth that energy into a separation or divorce and hopefully building a new loving and trusting relationship some day with a new partner. I wish you well.
@thisis.michelletorres444 Жыл бұрын
She was trying hard not to hear the truth! I'd be like, you need to get out, you need to move, ASAP! She's making excuses and pseudo defending him. YES, CALL IT QUITS, HE'S SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE ELSE LADY! The cheating is actually less of a problem than the dishonesty, the crappy character and elaborate ruses he concocts and his complete lack of accountability!
@lisap36284 ай бұрын
Get a boyfriend!
@kcourtney6826 Жыл бұрын
As someone who’s been through 2 cycles of IVF and the stress that comes with it, do not have more children with this person. It takes two to have an affair, and he was a participating party.
@jenniferriester3159 Жыл бұрын
My wife continued to talk to a woman when she told me it ended. She also made jokes with this other woman about how I felt, when I said their relationship makes me uncomfortable. I ended the marriage, and she still doesn't think she did anything wrong.
@Judi4Him4Ever Жыл бұрын
Same thing (sorta) happened to me. We had family friends and called ourselves “best family”. Went to Disneyland: four parents, four kids. Adjoining rooms so the kids could “play video games”, haha. On the second day, my (now ex-) husband suggested he and the other woman take the two boys for the day, and me and the other guy take the two girls. I wasn’t for it, but they insisted it would be fun. Long story, they took the boys back to the hotel room, let them play video games and had sex in the adjoining room. Months later, when I became suspicious, I WAS THE BAD GUY for my suspicion and “ruining our friendship”. Total TOTAL gaslighting. Shortly after, they quit playing games and my (ex) moved in with her after her husband also figured it out and left. SMH
@ashleenicole71 Жыл бұрын
My reply would have been absolutely not and me and my husband would have fought.... ..or my reply would be...ok husbands go together then...
@whiskersredwood11 ай бұрын
So are they still together???
@firefly98388 ай бұрын
You should've slept with the guy as revenge on her🤣
@Mona148077 ай бұрын
disgusting behaviour of this type of cheating🤮
@devadii244 ай бұрын
I have heard of a few of these joint vacation trips that end in the spouses cheating…. I only travel with relatives…. call me paranoid but I know of too many….friends, sports coaches, even people from the same church! Cheaters use these as opportunities to hook up with their desired person….
@amarie6223 Жыл бұрын
Driving around with his female coworker and his location turned off? Oh no!
@larissagonzales6075 Жыл бұрын
In this day and age, its amazing anyone is faithful at all with social media. You can have so many virtual relationships, there are meet-up apps it's crazy.
@AmandaErrrrr Жыл бұрын
You deserve better than to wonder every time he strays from routine. You deserve to be someones number one choice. Go where you are celebrated, not simply tolerated.
@littlelam3691 Жыл бұрын
Taylor swift “Tolerate it”
@TheLuckyQui Жыл бұрын
People need to understand that no marriage is indestructible, he should’ve set boundaries with that woman early on, and this wouldn’t have happened. Pathetic of him to cheat on his wife while she is trying to conceive a child!!
@Mona148077 ай бұрын
I enjoy listening to this show. I am learning a lot about life and relationships and how to proceed going forward and not make the same mistakes again.
@BladDaddy Жыл бұрын
It’s all fun and games until you get caught. It is what it is.
@Emptytopfloor Жыл бұрын
You always get caught.
@ericabrewer9220 Жыл бұрын
She can do all those things to his phone, but he can just get a new one to do all his shady stuff.
@Yenya787 Жыл бұрын
I have a feeling she’s not going anywhere and she’s going to continue demonizing the other women while her precious husband continues galavanting around town. She is going in circles.
@amyalvar Жыл бұрын
I feel for this woman but I would've kicked him to the curve. We don't have time for this BS. Plenty of people out there or just by yourself. Peace of mind is everything.
@alluringbliss4165 Жыл бұрын
Peace is better, I have seen how sticking around has slowly destroyed some women.
@fh1980ram Жыл бұрын
"Plenty of people"😂 sure if all you want is an std.
@valeriezaric Жыл бұрын
It sounds like she wanted a baby though :(
@l-train7876 Жыл бұрын
*curb
@Dark_Souls_3 Жыл бұрын
The phrase is “kicked to the curb” like how you would kick this guy to the curb of the street
@kayn2756 Жыл бұрын
Girl, your husband sounds like a habitual cheater. It's only a matter of time before you catch him. You can stay and try to fix it or walk away and be a single mom divorcee
@greenAbbot Жыл бұрын
I really have to know: are there EVER situations where phone-tracking “for a season” leads to a better place? Because it seems to me like when you get to that point, either you are paranoid or your spouse is so untrustworthy that there are a thousand ways they can get around whatever electronic solutions to your relationship you can devise.
@stealthswim223 Жыл бұрын
I share location with my wife. I’m not doing anything shady so it doesn’t matter.
@alluringbliss4165 Жыл бұрын
From my perspective, it’s torture. Time to let go.
@NM-kl9ws Жыл бұрын
My spouse and I share location with each other, as well as me and my brother in another city. It’s for safety that we do it. If they are in a bad enough car accident, I don’t expect them to call me first if they can call anyone at all. This way we can get in contact with whomever to make sure they are okay. Also shared location with a friend who said they were going to do some shady stuff one night. I told them that if they were in a hospital or the middle of nowhere, I’d come get them. I woke up at 4 am to pee and saw they were, in fact, in a hospital. I thought it was a joke so I called them and ultimately went and got them from the ER. TLDR; some people don’t use it exclusively to track people they don’t trust. It has safety benefits for more than just your children.
@JKNat9004 Жыл бұрын
@@SarahConnor562It's amazing how weak even a strong person can become when someone breaks their heart and trust.
@greenAbbot Жыл бұрын
@@stealthswim223 I also shared my location with my wife for convenience and fun. I wasn’t questioning that policy in general; I was just saying that it could never be a real solution when trust had been broken. You need to earn that trust back through your daily actions, not by being put in a sufficiently tight cage.
@britneycollius Жыл бұрын
We need some update episodes!!!
@hillarybillary215 ай бұрын
As soon as she said 5 years together before marriage I already knew this guy didn’t want to be married to her.
@bjkarana Жыл бұрын
That's cheating behavior in my book and you deserve a lot better. If it were my wife in your shoes, I'm almost positive she'd serve me divorce papers and give me exactly what I _thought_ I wanted: unrestricted time with the new woman. And I also guarantee the new relationship would implode because it's built on a foundation of adultery, lies, and fantasy. She won't be the exciting "other woman", and he won't be the forbidden fruit. The novelty and thrill of sneaking around are removed. The pawning off of your kids to your in-laws situation is especially scummy; they're his effing _children!_ I had that happen in my own life as a kid and do NOT tolerate that for a minute.
@janetb2217 Жыл бұрын
I say leave, but that’s easy for me to say from where I sit. But I’ve lived your life and trust me…you will never trust him again!!
@ilykepink Жыл бұрын
She’s so desperate. Just leave him
@debbielockhart7762 Жыл бұрын
Why? It's her life.
@Mmmmkaaay7 ай бұрын
Seriously. Rip the band-aid. 6 months from now she'll be engaged to her dream man.
@budgiebirdy Жыл бұрын
He's a cheating loser and liar. You could cut your losses now (which you should), or continue to be miserable and disrespected for a few years before cutting your losses later.
@deborahjackson6108 Жыл бұрын
Come on lady, he turned off his location!! Wake the blank up!!
@cess4089 Жыл бұрын
For me healing would be he quits his job and gets a new phone number. We move if we have to and start over.
@marge3157 Жыл бұрын
I get it. I have been there. Draw a line, make a plan and stick to it.
@mistermanman Жыл бұрын
Therapy and counseling doesn't stop a cheater from being a cheater.
@joelpineda4414 Жыл бұрын
What’s a cheater
@Keeks4925 ай бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@sailorsallyrockinrarity2130 Жыл бұрын
It's the fact that he has never come clean about the events in December for me. There is no way to move on without addressing that completely. I'd also be willing to bet that he is throwing his own employees under the bus by asking them to send dirty pictures and then reporting those women for doing what he wanted.
@cairas.6142 Жыл бұрын
You can tell Dr. John doesn’t have patience for the obvious bull that ppl refuse to accept. Like you don’t need a professional to tell you your husband’s cheating. It’s more productive to ask, how do I move forward?
@brightpage1020 Жыл бұрын
Omg how common is this - like now and lately - is there an increase of this behavior in the last 3 years?
@elisee9935 Жыл бұрын
Social media gives couples the false illusion of an abundance of choice. Can't think about cheating if you're not exposed to hundreds of potential partners everyday.
@brightpage1020 Жыл бұрын
@@elisee9935 exactly - I'm wondering if there are any hard stats from like 25 years ago (Netscape, anyone? International chat rooms...), 10 - 15 years ago and in the last 3 since Covid. Anyone?
@blueseptember2174 Жыл бұрын
@@elisee9935I agree. Social media has basically become men's new p@rn. It's gross.
@mst-pierrem5729 Жыл бұрын
Aww I feel for her... She might be pregnant on top of that! So sorry for you.
@69429boss Жыл бұрын
I swear if you want your relationship to last these days you both gotta swap phones permanently or throw them in the bin
@Leaveitalone1382 Жыл бұрын
I’ve never once looked at my husbands phone. Never once.
@firefly98388 ай бұрын
I have never looked at my wife's phone once. If she wants to cheat, she can cheat. I'm not going to stop her. Her actions will show me whether she cares about us or not, its really that simple.
@kylehackett162 Жыл бұрын
How did this deceitful behavior not show prior to the marriage? It did, but it was swept under the rug.
@ibabymomx3 Жыл бұрын
💯💯💯
@Pt-117 ай бұрын
Trust in any relationship is like glass, break it and it will never be the same. Can you live with that? Also, girl.. get you some better friendships. Please.
@anunez34502 ай бұрын
I can not believe that HR didn't hold him accountable as well.
@theoriginalkrabbypatty Жыл бұрын
So he was with you for five years, finally proposed (probably just to shut you up), now that he doesn’t have to hear you complain, he can do whatever he wants because you go what YOU wanted. It’s not going to get better, he knows you won’t leave because you didn’t place any boundaries when he dragged his feet to propose!
@Jade7159- Жыл бұрын
They were together for 7 married for a little over two. They might have lived together first. That usually ruins everything. He doesn’t respect her. She’s going through IVF and he’s apparently planting seeds in someone else. She should find someone worthy to share her life with her.
@thatsawrap8 Жыл бұрын
Call it quits. You deserve better 💯
@arielevenson3108 Жыл бұрын
No you don’t just leave
@JustinCase780 Жыл бұрын
It all starts with dodgeball. Seriously, the guy is living a second life with chics and she's driving him nuts. Some women like this put up with it and the game continues forever
@boston312 Жыл бұрын
Life is too short to be tied to one partner for the rest of your life. Let the man live his life
@JustinCase780 Жыл бұрын
@@boston312 🤣
@ViolinfanaticOriginal Жыл бұрын
@@boston312 then be upfront and honest and live your life true to yourself (polyamory, open relationships, singleness). Don't present a false story and convince a monogamous person to be with you and fall madly in love with you when you know you won't be able to actually participate in monogamy. 🤷🏾♀️ Instead, he's out here exposing his unaware wife to possible disease and violence (yes, partners and misters/mistresses have murdered or even annihilated their whole families to be together) rather than being honest. It's terrible.
@JustinCase780 Жыл бұрын
@@ViolinfanaticOriginal Big time! Time to tune into Discovery ID! 🍿
@macaylarobinson223 ай бұрын
What I typically get is “why are you going through my phone?” “I told you not to go through my phone” I’m so defeated and heartbroken.
@jahleajahlou85886 ай бұрын
In December I asked him point blank and got gaslighted. End of January I find out he was named in a S/A harassment lawsuit at work, he is the boss. The case settling out of court $$$ (his company bailed him out to save attorney/court fees). When I asked he asked me to leave, no discussion, no explanation, NONE. Breaking our engagement (I had known him 30 years !). BYE. PS. He is completely impotent. He was taking viagra and going to work.
@Jimjam4824 ай бұрын
Sounds like a old porn addict that’s now got nothing left and it’s broken abused. Good thing you left
@shehnazahmad5213 Жыл бұрын
Watching from Johannesburg South Africa 🇿🇦
@rebeccaoprea9917 Жыл бұрын
Anything can go too far too fast if you don't entertain it or stop it right away.
@quantum_beeb Жыл бұрын
This is why if you want to f around, always be 💯 with your partner.
@jasmineosinski521 Жыл бұрын
I don't agree. This kind of betrayal can never be completely fixed. Maybe you tell the outside world you feel fine, but deep down inside, you'll be wondering if it will happen again. The bitterness will keep brewing under the surface and will erupt at some point. Just start over before it escalates to violence.
@djpuplex Жыл бұрын
66% of tinder users are in a relationship half of those are married. The vows mean nothing nowadays. Do not marry. Forever isn't forever nearly half the time.
@kamarwashington Жыл бұрын
Unless of course you find yourself in the 34%. Good women still exist. Don’t give up. Perhaps look in better places: a church, coffee shop; not a bar or club lol
@djpuplex Жыл бұрын
@@wordsalad01 Many people hide the fact. They have tinder.
@semosancus5506 Жыл бұрын
The institution of marriage is awesome if you choose wisely and know how to manage a relationship.
@Emptytopfloor Жыл бұрын
What % of the users are males? And what % of that 66% are females?
@djpuplex Жыл бұрын
@@Emptytopfloor My guess alot of women they get the most attention.
@Red-rose-garden Жыл бұрын
Professional men like that are a magnet for young women and young women don’t care! They are drawn to the power…especially in a work environment…the ego is powerful when it comes to being attractive to the women in our current society. How do you fight that?
@Nah-ah Жыл бұрын
Cancel the IVF!
@hillaryh.5197 Жыл бұрын
Dating for 5 years married for 2 tells me everything I need to know.
@BrendaKnoll Жыл бұрын
You are so kind Delony because she really wanted permission to believe this guys garbage. Such a bummer
@jhonilocran6077 Жыл бұрын
Lets stop saying emotional affair- its just an affair
@gosplesongs81537 ай бұрын
Hi Jane..... 😢 it's complicated. It's sad. Dr John is totally correct. Unfortunately your husband set the stage.. and girl, if you don't clamp down now... you'll be a very unstable, unhappy wife and mommy. Let me tell you my husband and I have been married for almost 46 years, after multiple "injuries" in our relationship...and the loss of a child..businesses..etc. If you are not prepared to really, really REALLY let go of the past because once, twice, three times?.. I held on... (If I knew then, what I know now.... I probably should gave left for my sake and my kids)... you feel you will never make it on your own??? Well, I committed to this marriage, and here we are. It can possibly work. I really don't wan't to place distrust back in your heart... but lying can come so easily. Marraiges and commitment just don't matter to many couples, and when there is temptation, girl... YOUR HUSBAND NEEDS TO WALK AWAY!.. and very importantly what Dr John said: you play alllllll the scenarios in your mind. You're constantly overthinking, wondering...DONT DO THAT! If you choose to go on... then move on. I would also suggest what Sherry said, you should'nt carry on with IVF. Not now. Your marraige is unstable. Serious. You are still in the raw stages and should you fall pregnant, that little baby will have part of your instabilities, they hear fighting, music - oh yes! God is amazing!.... and what He did for me and our marraige (restoration) He can do for you too. ...but it's not an easy road.... I trust that you will make the right decision for yourself and your children. I can't tell you to be strong - because it's hard - I've been there ❤
@Meggiebeth196 ай бұрын
Take the children and run. He is a liar. Be thankful you did not get pregnant while seeking infertility treatment. You deserve so much better. You are strong, intelligent and capable.
@lindalife4617 Жыл бұрын
Jane I'm sorry but you know it's time to leave, he's been sleeping around and will continue . He has checked out on you.
@rgncajun214 ай бұрын
He still not honest with what happened, how can you even trust him?
@AshleyLebedev Жыл бұрын
HE LACKS CHARACTER. Because of that, eventually itll happen again.
@GreenBean3141 Жыл бұрын
He cheated and speaking from experience it’s going to take yrs to find some peace of mind but it will always something that triggers your memories. I speaking on experience, to this day he still denies things but it’s obvious.
@kingbeastofburden9231 Жыл бұрын
This lady is so critical! She has her own issues and her husband has become her son. I would have her deal with her critical attitude so that her husband doesn’t have to lie to her. I’m sure she’s such a joy to be around. She is CRITICAL that’s a huge issue here.