My In-Laws Sold Their Home To Downsize IN SECRET But Plan To Live In Our Home r/Relationships

[@MarkNarrations]

FRIYAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let's go, have a great weekend all you bloody deserve it!

[@Flotton]

Friyay!

[@FriedaMMartin]

Don’t forget a good Waffle breakfast

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

I hope you have a lovely weekend too Mark 💜💜🤗🤗

[@MarkNarrations]

@@FriedaMMartin A waffle a day.....

[@MarkNarrations]

@@Flotton

[@TheArnaa]

Six months is long enough to establish residency. They will never leave because your vacation home is their planned retirement home.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Agree. Most definitely this is the retirement home.

[@linpittsburgh2375]

I was wavering until the mile long list of impositions and overstepping. NOT NEVER. Divorce husband first!

[@Lil_Kamikaze77]

I think op's husband will help them moving believing op will accept eventually like she continue to stay with him even after all the in laws progressive overs steps.

[@sababaratashvili8629]

What dumb laws you've got when owners have so little rights...

[@try1447]

@@Lil_Kamikaze77 i bet that husband already knew about that plan, and kept silance. OP is in an abusive relation, and will never be able to have healthy boundries. They last chance would be some familly therapy, that is maybe the last chance that husband would be able to wake up and team up with OP instead of his parents.

[@hiro4344]

"Dear Husband. She sent Tree nuts to my Father. That's psychotic homicidal tendencies. You realize that, right?"

[@KristenMSnyder]

Right? I would suggest any time someone tries telling her that she needs to be nice because family, "They literally tried to kill my dad." Just repeat ad nauseam.

[@MisterNightfish]

"Would it kill you to help us have a little joy?" "Would it kill you to live according to your means?"

[@judelbugsrutter6727]

😂 nice comeback

[@RaptureInRed]

"They gifted us a chicken" ...... ...... ...... ...... "We live in an apartment"

[@YellaBellaReno]

Any Puerto Ricans in the chat? Is there something I’m missing?

[@JuniperJadePR]

​@@YellaBellaReno From PR; this isn't a thing that people do often but I've heard of it happening. First word that came to mind was "jibara/o" (basically country folk) but my family is from the countryside & wouldn't gift somebody a chicken if they lived in an apartment because that's just waiting for a fight with the landlord. You can't keep it to lay eggs because it needs a pair & you can't eat it without causing a racket that will scare your neighbors. Giving nuts to a person with allergies ("allergies don't exist + dietary restrictions be damned") & interfering with her son's family ("parents, specially mom, are a priority") are things that I've witnessed a number of times growing up. OP's husband not really standing up for her/putting boundaries in place is also very common behavior because family is viewed as important & many dudes here are admittedly mama's boys. Hopefully, he'll realize that his wife & kids are also his family that need to have their own boundaries respected as well.

[@KG-VanityInKnickers]

OP didn't say a "live" chicken so my brain didn't go there. I figured they were springing for an uncooked dinner OP had to cook! You people are hysterical 😅😅

[@YellaBellaReno]

@@KG-VanityInKnickers I feel like the context denotes a live chicken. Not that a live chicken couldn’t have still been intended for that night’s dinner……… but if you’ve ever dispatched a chicken, it’s kind of a messy process, not ideally done in an apartment setting. 😉

[@KG-VanityInKnickers]

@@YellaBellaReno Yeah, that lent a WHOLE nother scenario in my head 🤣

[@LordBison98]

Story 1: This is not only the in-laws problem, it's also a husband problem. He is enabling his family.

[@julierichardson800]

Definitely suspect. I feel like they didn't ask either. They declared their expectations. I wouldn't be surprised if this wasn't as sprung on the husband as it was the OP!

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 2: *"They have expenses we don’t and “would it kill us to help them have a little joy?” Yeah. Not happening buddy"* So these people are deliberately over ordering to let others pay for them in purpose? They are not friends. They are AH’s

[@jonathanj8303]

I know - not like - people like that. Including a university lecturer who insists on paying last and steals the tip. I have a history of making things very awkward socially, and insisting on paying separately.

[@maranathaschraag5757]

First story - they aren't "family members in need". They specifically made this decision to hide their plans in order to emotionally blackmail op and her husband into giving them the vacation home, which is clearly their plan. They are not going to "figure things out". They've already done so and need op and hubby to go along with it. If hubby really doesn't see an issue with their behavior, he needs serious therapy to unbrainwash him. Eta: I love sweary mark. Lol. He really got exasperated by this family.

[@linpittsburgh2375]

They’re not in need, they have a cashiers check for a house in hand!

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1: It's good that OP finally put her foot down because hubby was just going to lay down, roll over, and let his parents assert dominance over him for the beach house. His wife knew they weren't going to look for a condo when they suggested staying at the beach house, it was going to be a covert takeover.

[@immapotato1]

I'm expecting a later update where husband tries to sneak in mommy and daddy while OP and family are out on vacation or something.

[@hi_stranger9156]

@@immapotato1 yup,OP should hired a caretaker.

[@hi_stranger9156]

@@holographicwing yup,this is marriage's problem not just in-law problem.

[@carpediem6431]

With all the add-on passive aggressive underhanded BS, the MIL has a major personality disorder like narcissism or BPD. Son has ignored and excused red flags throughout his life and marriage.

[@WPFLAWLESS]

Story 1: What OP's inlaws failed to disclose is that their retirement plan IS to live in the vacation house. They know they can manipulate their son so the plan was to say '6 months' and then in six months give him a sob story about how theyve settled in and made it a home. So it wouldn't make sense to move.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

Exactly, so OP's own family loses out on being able to go there or rent it out during the peak season. But I'm sure the parents will expect them to keep paying the taxes and maintenance on it as well. If the husband can't say no to Mommy, then let OP move to the beach house and peace out on this shit show.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Guests like fish start to smell after 3 days. I thought it was 6 weeks which is still way too long, but half a year!! Sometimes as little as 30 days gives you tenant rights. After 6 months they'll 1000% need to be evicted. And, they've SAID they'd love to retire here?? They'll NEVER leave. Major husband problem. OP should've gotten a divorce several years ago. HE is the problem. If he had checked his parents years ago, this wouldn't be happening. The husband isn't some saint. He's an enabling AH

[@jennacoryell4160]

In some states, 48 hours establishes tenancy.

[@sababaratashvili8629]

"Sometimes as little as 30 days gives you tenant rights" Truly idiotic laws of the west...

[@sylviajones6745]

Totally agree it's not just an in-law problem, but a BIG HUSBAND PROBLEM.

[@peachesnsht]

Are you hispanic?? We have that saying about fish in Mexico xD regardless, I agree. They shouldn't put a single foot in that place. If husband doesn't set boundaries with his parents, that house will become his parents house... Until Op actually serves him with divorce papers and sell the house. Well, that's just if Op stops brushing out that behavior.

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@peachesnsht Not to my knowledge. I heard the saying on Reddit a few years ago. I guess the commenter was Hispanic

[@JoJoGranum]

Story 1: it was intentional on their part. They want her vacation home as retirement home for them. And then guilt her into letting them stay. The entire things the in laws have done is suspect and obnoxious. The husband is enabling them. Stand firm OP.

[@floraposteschild4184]

Tell them "when you fail to plan, you plan to fail" or whatever annoying parental sayings they used about planning and responsibility to your husband. If they don't know what to do, they can buy a camper van and hit the road.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Splitting bill just pisses me off. I've never had a large friend group. I just go out with 1, max 2 friends. OP didn't do anything wrong. She asked about the leeches being there and was told they wouldn't be. How did some people interpret this as not helping friends in need? OP said her meal is usually one of the cheapest

[@sprats1241]

Splitting the bill never made sense to me, personally. I'd be less likely to order things I'd want that would add to the overall total because I'd feel I were taking advantage of the situation. This includes family members who I know will cover whatever I order and I'll still order less expensive items.

[@julierichardson800]

Nah I find its just less hassle but if anyone says I didn't have a starter or someone wasn't drinking we take that off separately then split. Alcohol especially cocktails vs a soft drink would be wildly unfair. No one is ordering steak or lobster in my group though! I often don't get as much as my friends but then they are veggies so theirs is usually slightly cheaper. For the sake of £5 difference on my bill I don't care. If it was everytime I'd be pissed though!

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

It only works when everyone is taking the same kind of stuff (example appetizer, main course, 2 drinks and a dessert). When the price ranges differ too much or one wants a lot more than the other, it will start problems.

[@julierichardson800]

@Nathan_Bookwurm or when your friends aren't dicks like these guys. This is a calculated decision which is what makes it not OK!

[@bunnyslippers191]

"Sorry, Server, I want a seperate check, please!" is easy to say. When one person's meal is $20 and others' are $75 it's people taking advantage. I pay for my meal at the very least and if everyone else wants to be or enable freeloaders that's their problem.

[@KarmaTheDragon]

op in story 1 should make a FULL list of ever single thing her in-laws have done, sit hubby down and tell him to not say anything but listen to her till she is finished, and list *every single thing* in a row, then end it with, "and now, they want to take over our vacation home, long enough to establish a residency unless we make them sign papers first."

[@SilverMKI]

I wouldn't bother adding that last part as it gives a potential path to the in laws getting into the property.

[@miker1167]

I love how Mark gave the In-laws the benefit of the doubt from the title, and it is so much worse, and he just says HOLY $hit. I laughed pretty well from that.

[@bunnyslippers191]

I love it when he says, "HOLY Shitballs!" I say that, only I say, "HOLY shitballs, Batman!"

[@huinismith]

HELLLLLL NONONONONO! What's their plan? Claiming squatters rights (or whatever is named) over the beach house?

[@oompaloompa83]

S2: I actually stopped going out to dinner with people for this very reason. It's always the people who order the wine, shots and most expensive main that want to split. No thanks!

[@carpediem6431]

🎯 how to say “I’m a classless obnoxious a-hole” Truly….. class has nothing to do with the amount of $ you have. It has everything to do with how you treat others and interact with the world. Lots of lower income people have class and some wealthy people, none. It is totally classless to expect others in a group situation to pay for things you’ve consumed.

[@truthseeker9249]

That's why you do your drinking at home and pay for yourself so no one can judge you for spoiling yourself with good food.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: Talk to the couple that runs up the bill that everyone splits. Once or twice I might go with the "so everyone can enjoy a nice meal out" idea. This is so regular that they are nicknames "the Mooch couple". Nah. Let them cover their own large ass food bill.

[@truthseeker9249]

Yeah that's only okay if everyone is in on it and okay with it. Everyone has to be okay with doing that ahead of time, you don't try to gather in secret with a plan to gang up on the most well off person in the group at the last second so they'll be too publicly pressured to say no. That is so scummy.

[@barbaraantonelli7782]

Story 1 NO, NO, NO!!! OMG! They'll NEVER leave!! They can find a short term lease within a short period of time. So happy OP put her foot down. And you're right Mark. This is NOT the end of any of this until OP goes NC.

[@try1447]

OP can't go NC as long the hubby is their puppet. They definitey are not on the same team, as husband and wife should be.

[@LeeLeesBanter]

Story #1 That Mom was pulling the classic "it's my sons beach house," and I'm his mother... Ummm, Nope!😂

[@nataliereeves3594]

Story 1: The op needs to change the locks and set up security to stop them from getting in and not tell the enabling husband. If he keeps this up, divorce him and tell him he can go live with the people he loves the most.

[@ebagentj]

Story 1: Watch that space, I guarantee that OP will eventually learn her husband was in on this plan, it's just a matter of if she finds out before or after she discovers they are already living there. Story 2: I have the opposite problem: I go out to eat with my grandmother fairly often. Never anywhere that expensive (most expensive place is a steakhouse). My grandmother makes more than I do, but she is also retiring at the end of this month and doesn't have as much saved as she should because she's a giver. We both are. So we usually end up trying to find covert ways for each of us to pay the whole check without the other knowing, or wanting to split the check because we argue which of us gets to treat the other.

[@SergioBicerra]

Compromise on flipping a coin AFTER the meal, or use an app to randomly pick a number, if ir pair you pay, if it's odd she pays. Either way, you have a lovely relationship. Remember what Adam Sandler said: "Whoa, you gotta love your Grandma"

[@jackwatt8988]

2: If I got the text "it gives everyone a chance to have a nice meal they couldn't otherwise afford" I would be responding with "I'm going to pay for my own food and you can do whatever you want. Please don't text me about this again. I'm not splitting the bill every again"

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 1. NTA! OPs vacation home is MIL retirement plan. As soon as OP said her husband is Puerto Rican, I know exactly what she was going through. I, too, am Puerto Rican, and kids are absolutely raised with the thought that mom knows everything and we must listen to them no matter our age. My husband's family owns a beachfront house in Cape Cod, and somehow that made my mom think she was entitled to stay there 2 weeks during the summer, for free! She wasn't happy when I shot that down immediately. Also, PR moms tend to spoil their sons and try to control their life, even as an adult. I also hate to say this, but its not uncommon for PR moms to fight for control with their sons wife. Many PR moms have the attitude of, "Whatever my kids own, I own as well." Now, I can say that this is the older generation, and the younger generations of moms are nothing like the older generations. Things started to change when I was young (now 52). However, the generations of moms after me have gotten even better. I made a promise to myself and have kept it, that I would never be the kind of MIL that mom, Abuela (grandmom), bisabuela (great-grandmother), and so on have been with their sons and DILs. I think a lot of it has to do with the way I saw how my mom was treated by my Abuela, and my assume MIL has shown me the kind of MIL I want to and should be.

[@Feralcottagecore]

I’ve been connected to my sisters since we were 14. We are now 31 and the one STILL doesn’t expect us to pay for her or invite herself or make suggestions to restaurants she knows she can’t afford. The other and I love to take her out to places she normally couldn’t afford BECAUSE we know she would never, ever feel entitled to ask and we want her to have those experiences with us. How do people just walk around with their hand out saying “gimme” like a kid in a cartoon?

[@paulclay4229]

Story 2: "oh well, your bad" 😂😂 If OP disrupted the group then thats a good thing.

[@Nonprofitgenie]

Looking forward to more updates on that first story!

[@jenniferkay9789]

I'm a broke single mom, ATM. I still don't expect people to pay for me! I was invited out, and said no (mostly because I absolutely want nothing to do with this guy). When I have gone out, and my son had to come with us, due to nobody to watch him, i paid for both of us. When did it become customary, to expect to split the check, just so you can get a more expensive meal?!? Even if someone did pay for me/us, i went for one of the cheapest options. It's not anyone else's responsibility to pay for our meals, but if it's offered, I'm not taking full advantage of them. Im just not that entitled!

[@ZombieSazza]

I’m a poor disabled woman and don’t eat out very often, if I eat out it’s with a couple of friends max and we just don’t split, we pay for the food/drinks we ordered ourselves. I’ve only ever met one person who believed it should be split to “make it fair”, and they were shut down because we all pointed out “you’ve ordered several expensive alcoholic beverages on top of a sirloin steak, Sorcha (me) ordered a soft drink and burger, I (friend Paul) ordered the same, Jason (other friend) ordered a soft drink and pasta dish, we ain’t paying for your drinks, you can go and -“ (Scottish swearing) We NEVER invited that dude with us again, it was just beyond rude to expect us to cover for him to essentially drink the bar dry, whilst we just wanted a meal and drink combo which is about £21 per person. It’s just massive entitlement and I’ll never understand how someone can be that entitled, “would it kill you to spend a little money for our joy”, like what?!? Those moochers were insane

[@DameNickum]

This is a play to retire on the beach. Hold your ground!! NTA. My mom had NO plan for self care when my Dad died. I will not go into all the crap that happened after my Dad died. The short story is that my mother is 101 now and in her 13th year of living with us. Her only redeeming quality is she’s my mom. Mean, miserly, emotionally manipulating and just a burden. Hold the line OP, you will not regret saying no. But saying yes may end up with you burdened with aging in laws who will absolutely lean on you for support.

[@hatsRcool747]

I always say "I'll need a separate check." It's not stop moochers, it's that way people don't think *I* am mooching. I have a restricted diet, so whenever I order something I have to ask the kitchen to alter the dish. My meals are typically more expensive, even before I add a larger tip for the staff and kitchen to split. Going Dutch is good boundaries. Good boundaries make good friends.

[@darylebrown3253]

Story 1 - OP needs to install security cameras that will notify her if someone accesses the house. She should also include the kind of locks that require a code not a key so she can change them at a moment's notice. I would not put it passed mother-in-law to have either copied a key or get a copy of a key from OP's husband and move in anyway.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

I can't wait for update 2 on story 1. It's gonna be a wild ride.

[@fatimamohammed5201]

Sounds like my in laws...makes me sick. They won't change and he will never see them as the bad guys, thus never develop a deep understanding of the crap they do.

[@dm9078]

NTA! Significantly more then their contribution? If they want to move in, then they need to pay whatever OP and her husband charge their Airbnb/Verbo renters. These people are not homeless they’re not in need. They are and entitled and OP needs to understand if she en her husband, let the in-laws in they may never get them out! Edit has the same goes and I know it’s cliché but OP doesn’t have an Inlaw problem. She has a spineless husband problem. Mark they have two children. The husband doesn’t see and he never will. Story 2 NTA! But when I am in a group always say separate checks up front. OP needs better friends! And those Brazilian steak houses are amazing. You can get an amazing meal just off the salad bar!

[@megnotmegan1966]

Good morning all you beautiful citizens of the Waffledom! Hope you all have an absolutely fabulous day! These in-laws sound like nightmares. Nope Nope Nope.

[@huinismith]

Waffledom! I love it!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🤗🤗💜💜

[@alyssachey8417]

Good morning

[@ThatgirlL18]

Good morning!!!!! And boy yeah! Can you IMAGINE? I’d be done too!

[@BIGarchitecture]

That gave me a chuckle

[@look274]

If you're going to a "rodízio" be prepare to eat a lot. The secret is not going super hungry, eat a fruit 1h before, if you go hungry you eat two pieces of meat and is full. And drink a Caipirinha there too.

[@aga3852]

Drawing and designing rn and these videos are some to best draw with!

[@maxinemyers9215]

Thanks for having updates Mark🌷 Happy weekend to all☀️

[@Gingerycarrotkitten]

Thanks Mark!

[@MarkNarrations]

Thank you so much, have a lovely one!!

[@megannason3649]

So i 100% guarantee that moving into the beach house full time was the plan. Its not that the inlaws didnt plan for retirement, this was the plan for retirement!!!

[@paden1865able]

Look before you leap, otherwise you can land in a massive pile of shite. Their lack of planning doesn't mean that you have to give them shelter, or maybe they planned on taking it over from the outset. Either way, don't let the pair of them move in. Ugh...

[@yuki109zel]

Wow first time being early to a video of yours. Love listening to you reading reddit posts.

[@tammier4707]

Story 2 - I could never imagine taking advantage of my friends like that - if we are passing as a group I will go out of my way to order cheaper than I normally would. Expecting someone else to foot the bill so you can have some fun is insane

[@DarthAndrew520]

For story 2, with online banking and apps like cash app or venmo, the whole we left our card or wallet at home excuse doesn't hold any more

[@LadyQuotes]

We always have separate bills. This is absolutely ridiculous.

[@sylviajones6745]

Love you too,Mark, "You cheeky so n so". I do love the way you give your two cents in. Keep up the good work ❤😊

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

The problem with the in laws is that they didn’t ask first. You cannot just assume you’re staying at someone’s home and just spring it on them like some cool surprise.

[@barbaraantonelli7782]

Story 2: I'm struggling financially. My family & friends know that & usually pick up the tab, but I never assume & always have enough money in cash or cards to pay for my meal.

[@carolbetarello]

Mark saying “rodízio” was awesome. That’s like “all you can eat” type of dining. We have rodízio in a lot of types of restaurants, not only steakhouses, so for sushi, chinese, “normal” food. 😂

[@franciebelcher4594]

S2. NTA. " Your bad" lol. Beautiful

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

2- I’ve split the check with friends before, but only when someone is broke and we cover them were sharing dishes or we agreed not to order over $30 each!

[@kieramaccourt8717]

That HOLEEEY SHITBALLS! made me giggle-snort!

[@CloverField83]

Story 2: My friends and I never split the bill evenly -- always separate checks, or someone will pick up the entire thing voluntarily. I've never gotten the logic of splitting the bill.

[@Amorcaecus-Est]

I got this thing with my friends, “I got you twice but don’t ask thrice.” I get that money is tight, but my money is tight too. We take care of each other, but not if we don’t have the means and we’re being taken advantage of.

[@Russman67]

So the parents were trying to take over OP and her husband's beach house to retire and hubby was going to let it happen? That's not an in-law problem. That's 100% husband for not having boundaries. Husband can pay to house them on his own in another house.

[@tsurah5408]

Story 2: I always prefer separate cheques, mainly because I like to have one or two drinks during the time in the restaurant, but quite often the people I’m with either just stick to water or soft drink. I’d feel uncomfortable ordering more if the cheque is split.

[@Bkgksan625]

I always ask before the get go if separate checks are possible and some places say no. But it also makes it clear to everyone not to go crazy with ordering and be a decent person!

[@Tammohawk1]

I always split the check unless otherwise stated BEFORE we go to dinner.

[@jameshutchinson2817]

My group had 1 friend who would break out the phone calculator and add up everyone's exact individual total, this always worked well, and ofton times if someone was feeling generous they'd cover a round of drinks.

[@MMKMoore1]

Churrascaria is amazing! I've been in mourning for a long time, since my favorite one here closed down.

[@AuskaDezjArdamaath]

If something is too rich for your blood, then abstain. Don’t mooch off others, expecting a good time you can’t afford on someone else’s dime.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

If the moochers want to "treat themselves" they're much better off buying a bottle of wine to have at home rather than pay the jacked up prices in-restaurant.

[@MCBRUCE76]

S1: This has happened to me and my wife, not with my in laws though, but with my wife's cousin and her spouse. They wanted to live free in our vacation property, until they were able to get on their feet. I told them that I am willing to help them get a house in our locality for lower rent, but not house them for free. They did not accept it, so I did not accept their offer and asked them to duck off. They and their parents tried to guilt trip us, my wife told them one thing straight that since they are their parents, they should house and contribute to their problems, as we had nothing to do with them. Thanks for my wife standing up on that day. Helping someone doesn't mean, you sacrifice your own life for their sake.

[@nicknitro86]

That wasn't poor communication, it was deliberate.

[@winterkind1772]

I'm dying of laughter because of the little pause in story 1 after the word chicken. I can just see Mark rereading the word like "hold on. What did I just read?"

[@mbyerly9680]

DP Gumby-- "My brain hurts!" Stop trying to figure out how some of these people think, Mark. It's too painful.

[@tineve2002]

#2: Does anybody remember the $4600 birthday dinner bill that went viral? It became an internet/viral discussion.The argument of to split or to pay for only your meal. My God, some people are very entitled 🙄

[@Otokogoroshi]

Holy shit those in-laws are absolute NIGHTMARE people!!!

[@ebayrose]

Story 1: "I could go on and on" Do so in written format and show husband it and this post and demand he go to therapy and show the list to the therapist and get help to fix his childhood yearning to fulfill all his parents wishes.

[@kmechwarrior1684]

S1: "No, you aren't living in, or even staying in "our vacation home". " They establish residency then you have a big fight to get them back out. They had no business selling their existing home BEFORE having the new place already lined up and resolved.... this was a calculated grab on the in-laws part. Consider the vacation home goodbye if you let them move in. Tell hubby enough is enough and put your foot down. If hubby can't be an adult, he's worthless as a partner. Chicken is odd, but forgivable. Expecting to spent the night with the two of you on Valentine's day? The switch to Low Contact begins. Refusing to leave the delivery room and having to be removed? No Contact going forward from there. (at hospital where we had our child, security would have removed her from the hospital and she wouldn't be allowed back to the maternity area again (secured elevators and doors)) Beans would have been returned unopened, and the bill would just be sent back, with "HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHHAHAHAHA! NO!" written all over it! You've let this ... witch walk all over you and your boundaries for years with all the crap in the "additional information" section.... S2: We pay for our own, unless someone has stated upfront they are paying for all. We NEVER do the "split the bill" nonsense. Ditch the group, they are all AHs (post-update: most of them)....

[@scrimp9890]

Story 2: that's not mooching, that's using your friends and taking advantage of them

[@krazycats564]

My group have a friend we pay for, well, me and my boyfriend usually do. He's unemployed because of his disability but again we agreed that we will treat him like our child and fund him.

[@justinecorrington4106]

Story 2: i get separate checks so I don’t feel obligated to stay within budget of everyone else. Sometimes i am the most expensive order, sometimes cheapest.

[@crawdaddy2004]

I’ve literally never “split the check” with anyone. Either we’re paying for our separate bills or one person pays.

[@drumsalive]

Nah no way! How rude of them

[@shay4068]

When I go out with my friends we go to restaurants that I can’t afford and they know that but they don’t have a problem paying for me so I started buying them small gifts to show them my appreciation and I don’t act entitled

[@Fluffy_Love]

Loved going to a place called Brazil Grill. They closed down after COVID. It was so sad. They were pricey but the food was epic!

[@1tommyday]

S2. I used to go out with our large social dancing group pretty much 2x month before going to the dance event. We never had this problem. If anything it was the opposite happening. A few friends would always put in way too much. Inevitably, we would hear..." why is there so much money here, I havent even paid yet". Then everyone would go through it and throw money back to the generous friend (s)! They were great people I miss being young. What is the matter with these people in this story?

[@libertyblake873]

My daughter and ex-son-in-law had a group of friends they used to go out to dinner with. My daughter and her ex would order cheap and only order water to drink. They already had one and a half children, plus they had a mortgage. their friends had neither. The friends always ordered expensive dishes and several drinks each. Because of check sharing my kids would end up paying more than twice their orders cost. After baby number two was born they used the children as an excuse to no longer go to group do nerd.

[@davetgit]

It is always better to call out split checks before ordering. That makes it much easier for the server!

[@trilbynhiss]

I've always been nonconfrontational, less so in my old age, but there's no way I would have silently gone along with a split bill like that. I would have simply asked for a separate check and if anyone had the gall to confront me about it, they would have been immediately ghosted.

[@bc6193]

Charge them rent at the going rate monthly!! You may will NEVER get them out!

[@Whykickamoocow]

2nd Story. Ive heard a similar story where op asked to split the bill but was shamed into agreeing so they ordered up big time, like $200 over there normal bill, so after that they all wanted to have separate bills. 😂😂😂

[@healing_and_humor4530]

Mark, Rodizio's is absolutely amazing!!!! If you get an opportunity to go there, DO IT!!!!!!

[@cannedraichus]

I love the slight pause after "they gifted us a chicken" lol

[@helenegrootenboersecondant5474]

“We split the check sothat people who can otherwise not afford it have a nice meal”, that only works if most of the group do not have an expensive meal. Oh and @Mark narrations: go get yourself a rodizio. So much fun and soooo good.

[@annecurry3466]

The bloody cheek of them. 😮

[@ChrisAndCats]

They absolutely don't have to "consult" op in order to sell their property. That is nothing to do with her. HOWEVER, they also have absolutely no rights to the use of your holiday home, especially without asking, once it's sold. They need another place lined up, be it rented or bought, to move into, immediately. Helping them is moving furniture, not gaining them in your house.

[@BlackHikariAngel]

The only time i split the bill is when im with my mom, brothers, my brothers fiance, sister, brother in law, and my 5 nieces. with friends unless they say im paying for it, its separate checks

[@MrsMonroe714]

Some parents are so entitled, they act as if their children owe them for being born 🤬

[@RadioOppy1]

Listening to Mark talk about Brazilian steakhouses while I’m here eating my cold chicken tenders from my lunchbox lol.

[@paulastephenson1862]

Have them rent an apartment until they "figure things out." No way would I allow them to stay there.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Wednesday I believe it was I tried my hand at pavlova. I'm not familiar with making meringue so I added the sugar too quickly 😬 I looked and tried and tried but everything said there's no coming back from that, you just have to start over. In this economy ain't nobody got eggs to be throwing away, so I got them on the baking sheet and said I'll see what happens. I couldn't pile it high bc it wasn't thick enough, but they came out like crunchy marshmellows. I put the whipped creme in the fridge until time to eat it. I put peaches and salted caramel on top and it was great. Even if mistakes were made, the end result was still tasty and delicious 😋

[@MarkNarrations]

As long as it tastes good mate that's all that matters. Sounds like it just turned into Eton Mess

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@MarkNarrations Thanks, Mark!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@andyawe13 oooo my mom loves those when I make it, so essentially you made meringue cookies but not as airy as it should have been but still really yummy, and what you did sounds so good. 😋

[@kieramaccourt8717]

As long is it tastes great is always my motto!

[@SappyDuder]

Story 1: I'm glad OP put her foot down because they 100% would have never left the place and would never have payed rent to OP and her hubby. Story 2: my buddies and I normally have food at each other's houses so we don't have to worry about paying bills. When we have gone out, we each get a separate check for our meals (besides the couples who usually do a joined check). On the rare occasion we've ordered food to the house, we all pitch in because it's something like a pizza which is split between us all. I would've gotten my own check on the first time out, as that is just easiest, and, when I do splurge and get a fancy drink or more expensive meal, my friends aren't left footing the bill

[@Peeges_]

Thanks for hanging out with us ❤

[@captainty21]

2 couples mooching at a BRAZILIAN STEAK HOUSE?! Idk about everywhere else but a bill at a place like that in the states for 2 can easily come up to $200 so a group a 9 people plus gratuity?!! Hell no

[@TheHellsHobbit]

Story 1 NTA, 6 months will allow in-laws to claim residency, this is a scam to stay there as their retirement home

[@Melissa-rv1fl]

The six months thing. If you want to do something insist on a six month lease. Then go to month to month lease. So if they try to not pay you have legal recourse.

[@monicalara1115]

last story: I would have said yes you are allowed to have joy but your joy has to remain within your means.

[@ceciliabrowndog7412]

A group of friends and I used to do split the cheque dinners. Everyone was absolutely fine with it. Everyone drank alcohol. Some would have starters and others dessert or a night cap and we all thought it worked quite well and fairly to all. Well, until we found out that the member of our group that would always "I will take the cash and pay with my card so I can get point." then go up to the register to pay was actually using part of our tips (we tipped generously) to pay his portion of the meal. We did think it was odd that he would go up to waitress stand to pay but had no idea what he was really doing. Needless to say we promptly kicked him out of the group.