My Journey To Becoming Single Mom By Choice

Welcome to my channel! My name is Kaitlyn and I started this channel to share my journey to becoming a single mom by choice. Here is my story. Let me know if you have any questions.
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Kaitlyn Marie

[@amyscoville-weaver1313]

YES. Thank you for mentioning the grieving process. I have birth to my son five weeks ago through a sperm donor and I love him so much, but the grief has been real. It was very strong after I got pregnant and it continues to come up now and then. I’m so grateful you mentioned this. I have my own fairy tale ❤ So happy for you. For others reading this, I did two IUIs at the age of 35 and gave birth to my son Leo two weeks before turning 36. The decision was hard, but also right for me. Thank you again!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Congrats on your baby boy! I’m starting my 3rd IUI cycle

[@arianaraquel1958]

I exactly looked to be a SMBC last april of 2023, with 34 yo, turned 35 in May, started the treatment and IVF in July, thankfully got pregnant that first time 🎉 , now I am 34 weeks pregnant, never felt better and full of love of my family, everyone is waiting for my baby in my family and friends circle! You are going to be fine! I wish you luck!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Thank you so much! That helps a lot. Congrats on your little one!

[@ogbobbyjohnson7788]

I was raised without a dad. I’m 25 been doing heroin for 4 years now. Yeah kids don’t need a father if you want them to grow up to be homeless 😂😂😂😂

[@softlife45]

I know this is old I work for a mom who made the same decision as you. She bought a house, her career began to boom so then she got a sperm donor. I have helped nanny for her on several occasions. Congratulations, she has also joined a group of moms who've done the same

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

That’s awesome!

[@fayHoran]

Im 27. For over a year now the only thing im thinking is having a baby. Its not something i crave. Im PREPARED for motherhood. I had so many disappointing relationships and the current one is going down the hill(he is incredibly childish and toxic). The only thing literally stopping me from going to a clinic and having a IUI procedure is my parents. HOW DO I TELL MY PARENTS. Im greek and they are the average conservative greek orthodox parents who want their daughter to get married...im emotionally tired of trying to find the right man and then imagining me and him being a family and children and then disappointed. Most of them dont want children they only wish to travel the world and go after money.The clock is ticking within me and every day is even more frustrating. I want children so bad😢

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Hi there, thank you for sharing all of this. You are still so young! I don’t doubt that you want kids and are prepare for motherhood but you do still have time. Maybe start having the conversation with your family now. If they see how bad you want this I am sure they will be supportive in time. It may just take them a little bit of time to warm up to the idea. I think my dad is still warming up to the idea but I know that when I’m pregnant he will be so excited to be a grandfather. The other idea is that you can maybe to look to freeze eggs now to give yourself more options down the road.

[@carlylouise5042]

All the best with your journey to motherhood! It's the best choice I ever made. I'm also a SMBC, and I had my little girl at 33, my baby boy at 35, and I've just turned 36 and already in the process of having baby #3 ❤ Wishing you all the very best! As for the trolls, and negative comments, don't listen to them! There's always going to be some asshole trying to put you down no matter what you do. Best of luck ❤

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Thank you so much! ❤️❤️

[@ReadThis_]

Wow so it's a collection now !! That's AMAZING, YOU GO GIRL!!!

[@carlylouise5042]

@ReadThis_ it's not a collection. I'm giving my children siblings, I always wanted 3+ children and siblings are a blessing!

[@ReadThis_]

@@carlylouise5042 you re right ! The absence of a father is a blessing too ! Mainly for the psychologists!! You go girl !!!

[@themagicalcupcakeunicorn5755]

How do you go about childcare alone? Do you have family to help or if you take them to a center how do you afford the rates?

[@allie9609]

Thank you for sharing your story, seeing others travel this path and normalising this way of having a family is so inspiring. Wishing you all the very best for what is to come!!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Thank you!

[@feleshiadavis86]

Im 26 and i found a donor. I start next week and im excited❤. Ik my family and other people is going to judge me but i dont care. I tried waiting for the "one" but im getting impatient

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Good luck!

[@neonred7594]

Great video. More women should share their journey into single motherhood as this is happening nowadays waaay more than people think. And it's an amazing choice!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Thank you! ❤️

[@zaebos0079]

It's a choice, not more , not less.

[@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69]

Evil selfish choice. I am stuck being my mothers husband still at age 32 because she didn’t need no man, She destroyed me

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

I’m sorry that was your experience.

[@ogbobbyjohnson7788]

I was raised without a dad. I’m 25 been doing heroin for 4 years now. Yeah kids don’t need a father if you want them to grow up to be homeless 😂😂😂😂

[@starburst8675]

I just wanna say that you have probably one of the best cameras I’ve ever seen and I’ve watched KZbin for over a decade.

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Ha ha thanks it’s just m iPhone

[@starburst8675]

@@KaitlynMarie-ug3po wooah that’s crazy!! Well I love it!

[@samiachavessevarolli268]

What’s the name of the podcast you mentioned and where can I listen to it? Thank you and thanks for sharing your story ❤

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Single Greatest Choice 😀

[@oneman3587]

Worst choice for society!

[@extrememinimalism]

SOLO BY CHOICE with a toddler. I love him to bits and I know the SD. However, he literally just asked me if I want to send him pictures of my toddler and honestly, I said no. I wanted to please him or encourage him and thought orginally to agree to meet up and share his photo but now, nah. If he wants to keep up with my toddler, he will accept our request for a photo of him and a phone call to update him on my toddler. I say, my, because he has nothing to do with him.

[@ogbobbyjohnson7788]

I was raised without a dad. I’m 25 been doing heroin for 4 years now. Yeah kids don’t need a father if you want them to grow up to be homeless 😂😂😂😂your kid is gonna do drugs and die just like me

[@DJ-ub7gl]

Congratulations on making this decision! Hope it turns out well for you, I froze my eggs twice but I'm intending to pursue solo motherhood this fall, shortly after I turn 35. You definitely have to mourn what you thought your life would look like but once you have your baby im sure you'll feel nothing but love.

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Thank you! Good luck to you on your journey as well!!

[@oneman3587]

Felon makers unite

[@achuletafan12]

Thank you for beginning to share your journey with us. ❤ it’s so important for us women to talk about our journeys in order to empower eachother. Sending you lots of love and baby dust !!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Thank you!

[@tinydwellings]

Starting to accept this as my future realty as my current relationship is on the rocks. Appreciate you sharing this

[@Jaycarbrownie12]

Me too girl

[@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69]

Don’t do it. My mother screwed ne up big time when she turned me away from my father. I just never seen him since I was 10 and I was so messed up. I was angry I actually thought I should have been a woman because I felt so left out when my mom and sister did things together. I was overeating them on on drugs for my teens and 20s. I forgave my mother at age 31 but now I’m stuck looking after her as she’s broke and unable to look after herself. I am so lonely and no woman wants me because I live with my mother . She turned me into her husband . All these drug addicts and violent thugs have their mothers nature because they had no father to protect them from their mother . Girls turn out messed up too without a father, We need to stop promoting the traumatization of children

[@Aliciae411]

@@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69having a father in the picture and losing him at 10 is entirely different to being a single mum by choice as there is no dad to lose.

[@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69]

@@Aliciae411 I was angry because I had no father and even though I forgave I now have to be a companion to my mother or she would like me to be. She’s growing old alone and wants me to be the man In her life. It doesn’t matter if I never met my dad at all I still would have my mothers nature. Anyone who does this obviously has issues and the kid will grow up like her. Children that never meet their fathers still miss a father and are just as likely to be messed up. A father is there to protect the children from the mothers overbearing nature. I’m not angry because I know women have been brainwashed to believe men are useless and they can raise children alone but it’s not true and you are traumatizing a innocent child by being selfish .

[@Aliciae411]

@@Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69 sounds like you just had a bad mother. Also, you’re an adult and have no obligation to act as her “partner” now. You absolutely cannot say all children from single households end up traumatised.

[@abbemartensson3850]

There are no good men queen! Have your kid and find Mr Right. I know he is there fof you! Ready to love, respect and be willing to do anything for you!

[@Becks-and-books]

Just found this video! I'm 31 (32 later this year) and planning on starting the journey next year (need to wait for a surgery first) and hopefully start trying around my 33rd birthday (bc there's a long wait period in my country). I'm going to be watching through your videos now! I completely agree with not wanting to wait until 40s, my mom had me when she was 40 and she was so much older so much earlier in my life... and I don't want that. All these feelings that you talk about, YES edit: I'm also planning on IUI bc AFAIK I've heard my ovaries etc are in really good health, but that was a while ago... but so scary haha

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Good luck with your surgery and your journey!

[@softlife45]

Single mom by choice seems a lot more peaceful.

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

In someways yes for sure!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Definitely is in a lot of ways

[@softlife45]

@KaitlynMarie-ug3po I've come to the realization that men come with a lot of unnecessary drama, insecurities . I rather just have my child, friends and family. That's enough for me

[@ogbobbyjohnson7788]

@@KaitlynMarie-ug3po I was raised without a dad. I’m 25 been doing heroin for 4 years now. Yeah kids don’t need a father if you want them to grow up to be homeless 😂😂😂😂

[@anndenning3042]

​@@ogbobbyjohnson7788I raised by a single mum. I've never done hard drugs in my life. I have also never been homeless. I have my own place and worked hard. xx

[@alliedays217]

Thank you for sharing your SMBC story. I'm 34 and started the SMBC process last April. I'm currently in my tww, for my 6th IUI, so hoping this one works. If unsuccessful, I'll be moving onto IVF so your egg retrieval videos provided good insight for if/when I get to that point. Wishing you the best and I look forward to following your story!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Good luck getting through your TWW! Sending all of the positive vibes your way. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@desmomotodesmomoto2033]

Hi, Goatis just released a video about you and your single mother life style. Made me think. Possible if you do a review video of that?

[@chaolinchao8332]

Goatis who abandoned and tried to kill his own baby son, and who paid to disfigure his sons mother with acid. The audacity of him even commenting on other peoples parenting choices is staggering. He is the WORST father. His baby daughter is currently in danger. He openly advocates for horrific things to do with children. If you do review his video, please look into his past and who he is. He is a wanted criminal who is concealing his whereabouts. Lundi Forest on KZbin will be a good start.

[@desmomotodesmomoto2033]

@@chaolinchao8332 Do you have any evidence of these accusations? You just don't want to answer the points he made about you in his video.

[@ToXic-eh1sm]

@@desmomotodesmomoto2033 You must be completely r3tard3d if you deny these things. There are literal articles on the acid attack

[@truthonly313]

@@desmomotodesmomoto2033 there is a lot of proof but just ask goatis about this claims and if he blocks you then you know the answer

[@addielom]

@@chaolinchao8332 his son was kidnapped by the psycho and you say the opposite of what happened. That already shows who the liar is

[@tomm2330]

Hi saw your channel and decided to subscribe to it that's awesome you doing this I wish you nothing but the best. You going to make a amazing mom I just believe that. You have a beautiful soul and I look forward to watching your journey and process to become a mom🙂

[@capucineroy-peloquin9908]

I fully support you on your journey and you inspire me❤

[@misspiscesdreamz]

How long does the viles of sperm stay alive? Or is it frozen like eggs are?

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

It is frozen

[@AdrienneMbaeri]

Thanks for sharing Kaitlyn! My name is Adrienne I’m in Maryland as well. Getting started on my Single Mom By Choice journey too. This is so exciting!!! I’ll be sure to check out that single greatest choice podcast and please share the group you’ve connected in the DMV please 🙏🏾 thank you! And good luck!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Single mothers by choice DMV Facebook page

[@Hae_28]

"The fairytale is not over" made me think of Angelina Jolie. What a profound thought to leave people with.😊

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

It’s not over. It may be different but it’s just beginning 😊

[@babamuniru8564]

Im interested ❤❤❤

[@beatapanek]

Thank you for talking about the grieving process...grieving for the family I imagined... Im glad Im not alone

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

You are definitely not alone! ❤️

[@ana89512]

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[@beadri]

Thanks for your video. I’m going to the same process

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Congratulations and good luck on your journey!

[@SaraMaria83]

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[@supergirl2204]

Algorithm stimulus right here.

[@anndenning3042]

Alot of American men seem really intimidated by this. xx

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

For sure! They have egos and are insecure with themselves.

[@andrewearl8926]

na, its because she likely had many opportunities to settle down. But spent about 15 years waiting for "mr right" who she now realizes partially doesnt exist. Settling is so shamed by other women. But unfortuately anyone not seen as like the top 20% of men is seen as settling... This isnt just coming out of my ass. This is objective measureable data and metrics.

[@williamarmbruster3666]

@@KaitlynMarie-ug3po How are men insecure? You're the one who can' t find a man so you decide to create a child without the child's father showing you're own insecurity and fear of loneliness.

[@anndenning3042]

I sorry your having to put up with these nasty comments. It seems like you can't win. If you settle then you have relationship problem,these men will say you should have chosen better. If you don't settle they say your too picky. Just can't win. xx

[@anndenning3042]

​@@KaitlynMarie-ug3poI was even on a KZbin channel where a woman was talking to people about Employment issues and the incels where out full force and she said she was was getting attacked by them, even though her channel wasn't just for one gender. Seems like KZbin is infested with them.xx

[@WatchingTheWorldGoRound]

By Choosing, denying the child the Dad experience.

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

Unfortunately there are plenty of people that have a baby the natural way and have a very dysfunctional household. Just because they have 2 parents doesn’t mean anything. My child will have a strong male role model in there life with family that loves them. That’s what matters.

[@sararedbride9728]

​@@KaitlynMarie-ug3pomy father was present the whole time but he was a sh**ty person and emotionally unavailable

[@southernbelle2478]

​@@KaitlynMarie-ug3pojust because that may happen doesnt mean you just have a kid alone because you just want a kid that is a big deal a kid isnt just a babydoll they are a human they need both their parents in their life

[@carlylouise5042]

@southernbelle2478 cut it out! My dad was a total asshole growing up!! My brother and I were ALWAYS happier without him! As long as a child has love and other family members in their life, that's all that matters. My father has done some serious damage to me, so don't you tell me every child needs a father!!! My brother killed himself, and he had a father!!! Im so sick of hearing you "do gooders" put us down!!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

@carlylouise5042 you are so strong and brave! Thank you for sharing. You are 100% correct live and support is all anyone needs in this world.

[@darthpateta]

if u got money and people that also act like parents and family, while u are a single mom than it is ok if nah, than this is neglect

[@southernbelle2478]

Do you ever think about if you have more than one and you still have not found mr right then you will have multiple baby daddies that arnt in their life and they will ask eventually and may be made fun of in school

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

I actually have thought about that and that’s why i bought enough sperm so if i do have multiples they can be full biological siblings. Even if a kid comes from a traditional family, they can still be bullied in school. I was. A traditional family doesn’t make your kid less likely to be bullied or have a better overall life every family is different. The important thing is that the kid knows that they are loved and they have a support system that cares about them.

[@harjad9546]

@@KaitlynMarie-ug3po Yes, it does make for a better life. Every social scientist and early childhood educator worth their salt will tell you as much that a happy nuclear family, or preferably even an extended family, is the single most important factor when determining life outcome in terms of happiness and success. Obviously, we're talking averages and I wish you succeed.

[@samuelwardjr1879]

If you're a single mother by choice, you shouldn't get ANY help from we the tax payers!!! Stop this cash COW before it starts !!

[@KaitlynMarie-ug3po]

I pay my taxes and probably more than taxes than most. Definitely not looking for help. Don’t need financial help.

[@carlylouise5042]

I've always paid my taxes! Stop looking for a reason to put us down. Men are just pissed off that women now days don't need them to start a family. I had a mother and a father growing up, and my dad was an asshole!!!

[@Jaycarbrownie12]

You’re terrible ! You need to go to hell telling her something like that .

[@KayEmJaye]

There are literally millions of people spending their lives scamming and killing others and here you are spending yours pathetically bullying a woman wanting to fulfill the most natural human role of parenting offspring. Get your own life buddy.

[@Rene-cn4jc]

Your comment displays a lot of ignorance. As a person working in OBGYN/fertility field, let me share some information. Couples and women usually pay out of pocket for most testing, treatments, medications, and procedures performed. The average total cost is to go through everything once is $5k-$10k. Many people have to go through multiple rounds. The couples/women who go through this process are not likely to need the assistance you speak of. You can disagree with her choice but, at very least, educate yourself before making baseless comments.

[@myonlinetherapysessions9668]

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