My Key To Overcoming Overwhelm, No Nanny Needed - Train Engrain Empower

[@mdimonofficial]

I appreciate your emphasis on the importance of training children and empowering them. It's a great approach

[@AmaiMoms]

thank you!

[@skybeetle]

I recognize myself in this way of raising children, he's only 3, but making him responsible for tasks. Hard part is that our society and school thinks, I'm treating him older than he is. I got comments on that, and it's tiring to here them. Here it looks like the norm that 3 y should be monsters with no manners. Sorry this sounds brutal but it is, ofcourse we have our struggles but it puts my mind to rest.

[@AmaiMoms]

I love seeing how intentional you are as a mother!❤️ I have also gotten similar comments on treating my kids older than they are, but you as their mom know them better than anyone else and only you know how truly capable they are in that stage of life. Don't worry about what anyone else says and do what you think is best for their growth and development. It does seem that our society has lowered the bar on behavior so far that almost anything a 2/3 year old does is acceptable. I tell my kids "all feelings are acceptable, all behavior is not". Of course tantrums can be a natural part of that stage of life, but teaching, empathizing, and training can also be a part of it too! Keep up your great work!!!

[@skybeetle]

@AmaiMoms exactly, yes tantrums are normal but explaining or asking why he's upset is also teaching him emotions. I see this from the other side of the pond 😅 but the bar is set way down. ❤️ Thank you for the motivation! Sometimes being a mom is alot. 🥰

[@bcmathjunkie6173]

What would you suggest around praising? This was not something I abundantly received as a child, so I find I crave praise now as an adult. So I do tend to “overpraise” my littles… I want them to really feel loved!

[@AmaiMoms]

This is such important question! The key is to praise them on their efforts and not the outcome. This can make ALL the difference. Here is a great 3 min video that explains the effects of praise on mindset. kzbin.info/www/bejne/ioW7o4lmlJiIoLsfeature=shared Something else that I've noticed that has helped my kids feel a deeper sense of love is to praise them on more innate parts of their character or person instead of something more changeable. For example "I'm so glad you're a kind person" instead of "that outfit is really cute on you". Also, have you happened know about the book "the 5 love languages"? They have a a quiz that children can take to better understand how best the child receives love. Some of my kids top way to feel love is "words of affirmation", but others connect more and feel more loved through physical touch or quality time. I can tell you are a loving parent and care deeply about your child, and you are so valuable as a Mom!❤️ let me know if you have any more questions or if it would be better if I made a video on this to explain it better🤪 keep up the good work, YOU are doing great!!