"My Mom called, I didn’t pick up; hours later she passed away" - Ifedayo of DANG.

Diary of a Naija Girl (DANG)!
Ifedayo Agoro has always inspired me - the way she has built her viral community for the authentic stories of women across the country, and how she has followed her spirit in doing that - building it into a constantly-sold-out product business.
But of course all of that authenticity comes from a depth of her own personal experiences.
One day her mother called her, but she was watching a movie and didn’t pick up. A few hours after, her mother was dead. This tragedy immediately triggered the anxiety she continues to confront to this day.
An emotionally draining relationship that she didn’t find the courage to leave compounded this - leading to insomnia.
And then there was the intense mental, emotional and spiritual crisis she contended with as she struggled with an oil and gas job she didn’t love… until she found the courage to quit and become the lioness of the tribe of Dang.
How has she done it all?
Heartfelt, honest, deep. This conversation may just change your life.
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[@josephcrack4332]

"I love this person. I'm into it with this person. I'm emotionally invested. You are all the things that a partner wants. Your partner is not the things that you want." Powerful words...very true! My previous relationships drained me emotionally and mentally also, until I found the true love of my life in the person of my charming queen Fatimat. My relationship with her has been amazing, sweet, lovely and peaceful. She has shown me true love and care indeed, she has brought me joy and peace of mind. In her, I find fulfilment in life! I admire her, respect her, value her, treasure her, cherish & adore her till eternity...I love her forever and a day! ❤😊

[@Asspace428]

Aww

[@heisgilson]

“Truly, when you’re naked in the bathroom, alone and afraid, we’re all just looking for one thing, it’s just to be happy.”….👌🏼

[@tega3200]

Authenticity is a beautiful thing and Ife radiates it. 💖

[@adeniketaiwo1205]

Now I see it, I have a lot in common with Ife. Talking about being in a relationship with a person who is not emotionally available & strategizing best way to communicate, but it still goes south. In short, almost everything Ife said resonate with me.

[@ogd247ibuilders]

For the first time, I am watching Chude and I appreciate knowing that there is a time to quit 7.7.2024, even as a MAN o, cause when u are trying and ur partner isn't...

[@Unekwu998]

I find myself always panic over little things. No body understands 😢

[@pelumipelumi904]

Both of you speak eloquently. Nice one

[@Meriven2416]

Dang mama ❤❤❤

[@barbarakafuidente4965]

Gosh I went through same thing, missed my mum’s calls whilst she was near death, as I was busy at work, next call I received was news of her passing. Yes I have anxiety n yes therapy seems to be helping. ❤& 💡 to everyone going through this. You’ve got this❤

[@itorobassey4471]

I'm so sorry about this. I hope you forgive yourself❤

[@chidera2551]

I’m so sorry

[@dakonwe]

As someone who deals with anxiety, it’s so nice to see that there are other people who understands how my brain works. Like this thing it’s obvious that it’s my mind playing tricks in me. 😂 but at this point! There’s absolutely nothing I can do about it. 😢

[@marysimon7144]

Me too

[@ibiminaabiye257]

There is. You can rest in the shadow of the Almighty. Give your worries to Him literally

[@dammieokandeji]

Then when you just stop talking, they’d start noticing 😅😅😅

[@adeyeyeoluwadamilola4735]

This

[@ritadankai7823]

Right…!!!

[@maryoghumu2229]

Just seeing myself in you. This is sooooo inspiring, Ife. Thank you!!😍

[@treasureprecious7343]

I am just going to keep showing up. Don't think it, Keep showing up. Thanks ife!

[@Foxy7154Xx]

Unrelated but please Chude, coming from a place of love and respect, don’t do that dye thing on your scalp again. I kept getting distracted.

[@rufinandongo5518]

He's trying to grow his hair back. Probably dealing with hair loss or something like that. Hope it works for him. Can't wait to see the results 😊😊😊😊.

[@Beyondbraids]

You can’t tell an adult what to do or what not to do to their body! It’s call respect. He’s not asking for opinion about his appearance.

[@coks4486]

😂😂😂 .. I knew my thought was here..

[@Foxy7154Xx]

@@Beyondbraids pele ma.

[@funmiade575]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@walatabig]

Not one person has understood my struggle with anxiety. Not one

[@SandyCoco1]

🫂

[@CanadaVisaClinic]

Courage, you got this.

[@vawor4471]

Nobody does. Suffered the same until I asked myself if I was born with anxiety. No baby is born with anxiety. It becomes ingrained in our psyches one way or another. So, this led me lead on a path to find the cause. I found that mine was a result of complex traumatic stress disorder. I can say I have healed considerably. Even people around me notice the difference.

[@Nanahauwa9]

@@vawor4471Thank you for sharing this. I would appreciate if you can share how you outgrown the disorder 😢. I know I have anxiety disorder. And I can say it’s as a result of childhood stress and traumas

[@vawor4471]

@@Nanahauwa9 it takes time and a lot of introspection plus being compassionate with yourself. I used to tell people that I grew up a generally anxious child. Used to bite my nails also, rather severely. In 2021, I got a job promotion but soon, I realised that I was having challenges handling tasks that I could do under normal circumstances and yet here I was, about to experience a nervous breakdown. So, I paused and asked myself, "Where is this anxiety coming from?" I was a victim of physical, verbal, emotional and sexual abuse. I did a whole year of reading on sexual abuse and its effects and how I was affected. Then, I got into healing. How to undo all these. I am not your typical Christian but I know that the Bible says something about God's people perishing through the lack of knowledge. This includes knowledge about the illnesses they face, like psychological and how to overcome. Most people think praying alone heals, it doesn't. There's a thing known as spiritual bypassing. The books on CSA - Childhood Sexual Abuse were an eye opener. They didn't take away what had been done, they showed me how I could recover. That was for the whole of 2023. Enter 2024, I continued therapy but with a qualified therapist. I did that for two months, together with material on complex posttraumatic stress disorder by Tim Fletcher. I am still listening to his material and he has a playlist on CPTSD and anxiety. I have lots to listen to until the year ends. But each episode breaks shackles. Lastly, I am working on my relationship with my Maker. Abuse made me feel that God had abandoned me. And since my childhood trauma from physical and verbal abuse was by my mum, it was hard knowing that my primary caregiver was responsible. This usually affects a child, when their primary caregiver gives anything but. Anyway, I had to forgive God for what I felt was betrayal and abandonment. Yes, forgive God. Which sounds strange but in therapy I was told that I needed to do it. Listening to sermons about how God takes care of us but the world is the way it is has been rather helpful. The sermons are by a local sheikh in my country. For whatever reason, God used him to teach me about His caring nature. I did a series on the names of Allah and got to learn about how caring God is. My faith was strengthened. Like Job, I also realised that nothing could harm me unless God allowed it and if He did, He knew I could handle it. Weird, I know but that's how I see things now. Everything that concerns me is in God's hands. I have nothing to fear. I wish we could have an actual conversation. I truly understand what it means to go through anxiety. I am also aware that our paths to recovery are unique and we all must walk those paths. I am here to help.

[@nelsonasuen]

The "God bless our provider" part took me out😂🤣

[@noelieassengone]

😂😂😂😂

[@BulolaOlujobi]

Thank you ife ❤❤

[@pampam7886]

Interesting interview

[@Soyou-rq1xm]

Great Interview!

[@TheStephanie112]

So relatable!

[@MsjennyForbes]

I know I need therapy for my anxiety 😢😢😢it’s bad guys and it’s constant😢

[@joyee33]

I've suffered anxiety for years so I totally understand. Not a good place to be honest but It gets better especially when you talk about it😊

[@bamideleoluwafemi4083]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Thanks so much for Everything Ife, thanks for dishing dix out 😢😢😢😢😢. Only few people can connect to dix.

[@gistwithtoryteller59]

Ife is such a sound and grounded person. Her honesty is so contagious ❤❤

[@tutsypie]

An Excellent Mind👌

[@okwaoshen7607]

Jesus will heal you if you come to him!

[@ValentinoFayemi]

God bless you sis I thought, I was alone

[@adebamipeadetoun2443]

Dang mama ❤

[@estherobiakor7244]

Still searching for the truth, one day i will find it.

[@user-dm4cm1hh6f]

Ife❤❤❤❤!!!!

[@Adebayobamidelealfredmoses]

Mhmm ! Life is unpredictable you know !

[@YOU_CanBeProductive]

Sis. IfeDee, 🎉🎉🎉

[@user-dm4cm1hh6f]

'God bless our provider' 😂😂😂😂😂😂 took me out

[@adeniketaiwo1205]

❤❤❤Ife

[@folasadejubaadeoye797]

The mum matter can be painful, man must move on. But for how long will moving from relationship end no one is perfect?

[@TheTblac]

Nice session with Ife DANG👍..But what is up with Chude's black head 🤣

[@iheomasoroibe489]

I just love Ife❤❤❤ My last moments with my mum was a quarrel that made me cry uncontrollably to work the Wednesday before she passed on all the because of a dumb ass son😭😭😭

[@lifeofronirae]

This video is too short 🤦‍♀️. I wish it was long

[@priscillaafraasiedu4688]

U will never understand, until u experience anxiety.itbis no jokr

[@DominicaOpara]

What is up with chude's hair though

[@efeabraham2191]

Na this babe dey trend say she call of relationship few months to wedding

[@xtooseasoned]

😢🤍

[@judithodinaka4028]

uncle Chude, what did you rub on your head?

[@patriciaorenisi]

Please I need to connect with Ms Ife...I can totally relate to her. How can I reach her?.

[@Tefera-hf8fw]

Your painted head is funny and distracting from the guest

[@emeka6084]

U guys should stop bringing all this people with thier failed relationship. We have had enough of that

[@Beyondbraids]

You can come and share your own successful story. The world is for everyone, good or bad. Failed or successful.

[@clickmama4857]

his partner?