My Partner Is Cussing Me Out For Breaking Up With Him After He Pranked Me r/Relationships

[@theproplady]

I've often found that pranking is just a cover up for sadistic, bullying behavior.

[@mbyerly9680]

Learned straight from his toxic mommy.

[@missflowerpower8724]

Yes!

[@flamenmartialis6839]

If both people don't laugh it's not a joke or prank.

[@childfreechick2980]

True. I don't understand adults who pull pranks. Maybe around April fools day or Halloween (days known for pulling tricks) but not just pranking people bc you can, especially cruel pranks.

[@TryniaMerin]

@@flamenmartialis6839 I wonder if they are addicted to the natural fear that being on guard for pranks involves.

[@Mia-dt3gl]

The way this is escalating OP needs to look into an order of protection against her ex and his entire family.

[@alsatful]

She should call them up and yell " You have been pranked " and then reblock them all

[@DocKrazy]

I know right? These stories are always terrifying, knowing the statistics of IPV and violent crimes against women. I really hope OP manages to get out of that situation safely

[@Davtwan]

I would take the threatening messages, see if they work in industries that involve helping people, and inform their employers with the help of a letter written and checked by a lawyer. I don’t trust people who make death threats with an oven much less with a person’s life.

[@lynnw7155]

I do think OP needs to get the real story out there. NO ONE who knew the real story could think it is in any way OP's fault.

[@ladyv5655]

If OP is working with lawyers about the house, she needs to consult with them about the harassment, too.

[@heatherdickau5335]

Story 1. OP'S ex told a very different story. This is why they think he is the victim. She needs to share the reddit link with everyone who attacks her.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Oh yeah you know you did not tell them the truth he lied his butt off to make her look like The Horde bully and him the victim

[@Symos]

Link?

[@puppetmasterey]

​@@juliearmfield2634is name fingers, point names, post it on every social media I have (with names and dates included if possible) . Hell, I'd make fliers, put an ad on the newspaper, get it on the news. Literally any legally exposure is good.

[@masterofpuppets5568]

So at no point in planning his 'prank' did the ex stop and think, 'wow this is a incredibly stupid idea that could completely blow up in my face' He has most definitely not given the full story to his family/friends. OP needs to take the redditors advice, lawyer up, screen shot the messages and expose them all for the scum they are.

[@BloodShed4REAL]

People who slowly escalate pranks like that don't think any further than 'this prank is gonna be hilarious'.

[@ingloriousbetch4302]

I mean, look at what/who he came from. Apple and tree, and all.

[@Aelitagurl]

Story 1: In my opinion, if someone starts with the, "No one will miss you if you died/kill yourself" messages, they deserve to be blasted on social media and lose their job. No sane person would EVER say something like that, even if they were given a false story of a situation. Their employers need to know what kind of person they hired and if they really want someone who thinks so lowly of others working for them.

[@dethkruzer]

Yup, names, phone numbers, addresses, address/numbers of employers. Same for any places if education.

[@grizbear4115]

Story 1: People like him are so self destructive when broken up. They be wanting to stay together, but then do anything that'll make their partner hate them (cussing them out, having family member cuss them out).

[@brittneybrat8911]

A prank like that would immediately break all my trust in my partner from that onwards. Imagine always second guessing everything your partner does to you, thinking that it may be a prank and thus you never take them seriously again.

[@buckeyenative1365]

And people would always judge OP and use the "just get over it already" card anytime she was suspicious of the BF.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: Why would you fake a proposal then still expect to stay together 💀 especially with the extent he went to in order to do so. He deserved that slap, as well as another one for his stupidity alone. Edit: "This was a small mistake-" this was an elaborate, expensive plan

[@zebnemma]

yep. He can't say it was a mistake because he literaly planned it out... Also can't say it's a mistake when it's a repeated behavior like most abusers do. You do not make the same mistake hundreds of times... But abusive people can still claim it was a mistake because you only held them accountable for it a few times or maybe just once, so the hundreds of other times it happened similarly doesn't count to the abuser and will deny it even happened, you remember wrong etc. If anyone for any reason starts gaslighting you saying you remember wrong or your feelings are wrong, you're overreacting (like OPs shithead ex said to her) when you're crying your eyes out you can safely say you're dealing with an abuser. A normal caring person would not say your feelings are wrong when they clearly see how hurt you are, it would gut them and make them feel super guilty. I can bet a million bucks that wasn't the only time that dude has been a shithead to OP during 5 years but until now she still hasn't seen the signs. Took me 5 years to dump my garbage abuser ex too, I started to notice the signs around 3-4 years in and at 5 years was when I had gathered enough "evidence" in my memory to finally see what was going on and that there was a clear pattern in his behavior that I had overlooked for the first 2 years.

[@audreynothepburn7663]

Markee, in story 2, if you have avoidant attributes of PTSD, it basically means you AVOID things that come with confrontation.

[@boooo13]

Especially if the guy wasn't getting treatment before finding out that not only does he have a kid - but the kid's mother also is dying and all on his wedding day. That is just one giant mess of stress all happening at once.

[@PowerStruggle555]

the fact his family and friends are calling her a "slot". He probably spun a lie like "I did a little harmless prank of (insert typical fun prank people like). she got upset with me and then I caught her having an affair"

[@Monsterbunnych]

20:25 the way he said let me be clear is sending me 😭

[@DrownedInExile]

S1: "But it was just a jooooke!" "Yeah? Well this isn't. Have fun being single!" Seriously I hope we see another update, where OP names, shames, and blasts her wretched ex's equally wretched family. She dodged a bullet.

[@insideoutcabbage]

that couch story really lives rent free in Markee's head 😂

[@dessnatazha]

I legit yelled f*** you Markee when he mentioned it 😂😂😂 then started looking for comments about it

[@HackiePuffs]

KZbinr Boze vs the World has this way of viewing narcissists: they have multiple different tools to try and get their way with people. It’s a pretty good way to look at these people. Already I see 4 tools this guy tried with crying and begging, insults, minimizing his actions, and gathering his family to rally behind him. Good on OP for shutting this down.

[@DullestStar9299]

A fellow bozo, huh?

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Hey fellow bozo lol

[@GermanMae]

For story 2, I have severe cPTSD (that is how my doctor said it to me) and I can completely understand why he completely shut down and shut evryone out. And awful as it is, he probably didn't fully trust OP (for whatever reason). While it was extremely messed up what he did, I understand it, and I'm glad he's finally getting help with such a complex diagnosis

[@YuToobVideos]

All my family, friends, and co-workers KNOW not to do any pranks on me. I hate pranks with a passion. I informed them that my response would be a "Disproportionate Over Reaction "🙃

[@catsncrows]

That prank was a sadism tolerance test and he and his family are big mad their potential victim said no and won't put up with it

[@susankaempfer8427]

This was the comment I was looking for. I think this was exactly what they doing. So glad she found she found that spine!

[@mayaya1613]

“I honestly believe he deserves the worst. Imma say it” 😂💀

[@nicksuazo4377]

Every reddit commenter 😂

[@Fallen_Angel_6]

Markee just wont let us forget about the couch.

[@Gumbier_Than]

😂 It was really bad though!

[@bleachparty8570]

Not the couch 😭😭

[@diamcole]

S2: Honestly, sounds like OP dodged a bullet. It’s definitely a shitty situation for the ex but if ghosting/avoiding seemed like the only option - it’s better she found out his severe lack of communication skills before they got married.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

He had a thousand solutions to solve his issue but he chose the only one which would cause her the most amount of pain for no reason. He is sick in both heart and mind and the idea of him raising a kid is scaring me!

[@league-of-shadows]

Not only that but he betrayed OP but he did so for a woman who kept his child from him for how freaking long!

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Story 1: "I'm not ready to marry you yet!" Said Andrew, the dumb shitheel, who will never be ready.

[@arieltran406]

The mom: how could you do this to him? You should have asked, "how could you raise someone who thinks a fake proposal would be funny?

[@Fireprincess161]

I think that couch story genuinely scarred Markee.

[@analisaacosta974]

The roleplaying parents live in Markee's head rent free 😂😂

[@sakurased101]

Story 1 Unblock everyone and hand over all this messegas to your lawyer.

[@starbird3939]

Story 2 Update Ooooooof. That… that was a hard one. Still wish that the ex groom told the OP prior to the altar.

[@wyvern723]

Fake proposal to your long time SO is horrible. NTA. Pranks should be funny for everyone involved, not to make the victim feel bad or humiliated. I would have been crushed.

[@janedoe885]

Listened to this on commute home and bro I fucking yelled when the couch returned. That, Paimon, and poop knife are Reddit cursed triad lmao. They’re just like jump scares at this point-I’ll forget for a while only for them to pop back out of the woodwork and haunt me the rest of the day. 😂

[@Markee]

There was an unhinged ‘king Paimon’ story that came up right around the time of the couch story and it really did something to me that’s for sure

[@tetraganii]

dont forget the giant cockroach fetish story. That definitely deserves to be up there

[@audreynothepburn7663]

@@tetraganiiI don’t want to ask this and I know I’m gonna regret his, but I already read the guy with “two broken arms” story 🤮. So what’s this story about a cockroach?

[@audreynothepburn7663]

@@MarkeeI vaguely remembered it but also I don’t for some reason. Don’t think it was memorable to me than the couch one.

[@audreynothepburn7663]

What’s the poop knife story?

[@FionaChandoll]

Amazing how a man can be with you for 5 years, purchase a house with you and still not be ready to marry you.

[@justine8387]

Sounds like he thinks he is better than her and is "waiting to see if he has to settle".

[@amemooress6291]

Last story - The OP is legit amazing. To feel empathy for someone who hurt you so badly...is amazing. And the ex really did well trying to make up for his mistake.

[@TerminallyOnline2077]

OP did not dodge a bullet, she dodged a whole friggin nuclear war. My god what a wild ride this was 😂😂

[@ZombieSazza]

Sending messages like “nobody would care if you died” would make me BLAST EVERYONE. I’d publish everything from the very start, the ex, the mother, the friends. Sometimes the only way people learn is public humiliation.

[@littlegreycat]

24:36 "i feel free" I'm so happy for her.

[@TheOddityFair]

Pranks are meant to confuse not harm. (Ex: Changing the laces of someone’s shoes vs. destroying said shoes.) On a different note, I don’t get these crazy families. My uncle had his heart broken once when he was young by a former fiancé. The most that was done was my grandmother cutting her out of all photos in the family album & house. That’s it.

[@fleurpouvior2967]

My ex was a terrible, horrid garbage of a person in the worst ways. After he was arrested, I was activly telling my family to not contact him in any way. If they need to write a letter chewing him out, fine, but burn it and don't send it. I am petty and vindictive, but relationships, when they are over, need to be over and no contact outside the minimum required.

[@legendarybushidobrown560]

HE CAN'T KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH THIS 😭 21:55

[@rmclearran1]

That family and his friends are dysfunctional af, I'm surprised that any of them can maintain a relationship of any kind. Op needs a protection order against them all.

[@emilybarclay8831]

If you treat your relationship like a joke or a prank don’t be surprised when it ends on a bad note

[@samx36]

Prank relationships sound exhausting

[@JadedJada]

I do not and will not understand how so many people think it's fine to have their friends and family members harrass someone for them. Or to BE that friend or family member doing that. If a friend of mine was dumped by someone, even if it was cruel and for no good reason, I would simply not see the benefit of messaging that person about it. Who does that help. MIND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS.

[@PowerStruggle555]

years ago my brother planned on to propose to his then girlfriend (now wife). he wanted to do something simple. the ruse was theyd go to a restaurant they liked to meet up with her parents (they were in on it). He put the ring box in the glove compartment and when they were in parking lot of restaurant. He asked her to get something of glove compartment. she saw ring box and she almost threw it out window thinking it was a prank. but he assured her it wasnt. he popped the question, she said yes. met up with her parents inside (they knew plan) and celebrated

[@ivorynk752]

Telling OP no one would care if she died? What the hell has Ex been telling these people?

[@burntblonde2925]

My feelings would be so hurt, I wouldn’t be able to trust anything he ever said or did again

[@audreynothepburn7663]

Markee , every single time I completely forget about the couch story, you placed the horrid memory right on top of the cringe files on my noodle computer. I hate you for it.😂

[@elzbietabetlej4085]

Story 1 - burn the earth as a revenge and expose how horrible he is. Lesson to learn not to be with a prankster if you are not consensual with all of this. And sue them all!

[@draconisdragonheart4248]

Story 1: OP dodged a bullet. The BF is TOXIC. OP needs to block all these idiots and get a restraining order.

[@biologyboggs3885]

S1: I'd have reacted the same way! Poor OP.

[@elsaflood6393]

OP you lost 5 years but gained the rest of your life. Congratulations.

[@rebeccahayward9607]

I legit gasped in betrayal when Markee said the couch story. How dare you, Markee?! I'd almost forgotten about it it 😰💀

[@jameyregier8054]

@Markee you had me cracking up with the throwback stories comparisons on the 'left at the altar' story 😅

[@bethb4432]

That couch school uniform thing just won’t die, will it? 😂

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

22:00 we will never forget nor move past the couch story 😂 I think it's funny that it's a running joke on this channel 🤣

[@kazzuo32]

#1. Never let nobody scream at you like that.

[@amyyaku5022]

S1: Ngl it's better than a self deletion "prank", but not by much 🤦🏽‍♂️And listening to the update, I bet he was the golden child or something. He dodged a bullet. S2: If I was OP, I would meet him...but work on my pimp hand beforehand 👀

[@sxatcychan1988]

When the family went after her, OP missed the opportunity to tell them that Ex was pranking them and they're actually "engaged". They'll probably go back to him, and he'll feel the pressure to tell them the whole truth.

[@adriennewaterhouse5174]

I know u didn't go there and mention the roleplyers!!! I'm literally dying laughing now thnx Markee

[@glass9137]

S1: i have a specific branch of my family (oldest aunts, uncles, and their kids, and _their_ kids) who would and have in fact, gone after an innocent party. They’re selfish, greedy, catty, demons. They love to be front and center for any and all gossip. If theres such a thing as an addiction to drama and scandal, they have it. Ive seen those aunt, uncles, and cousins go after nearly everyone in the family, even my parents. My mom in particular. They pile on the latest victim of the week and spread the drama far and wide, true or not. I cant explain why they continue to think its ok to act like a pack of animals. But they learned it at home. They’re the only branch of the family that acts this way. They all have some of the most insane and MESSIEST dirty secrets that they brought upon themselves. Its a truly pathetic and disgusting thing to see and hear about.

[@hincjr]

I wonder if I'm sheltered or is it being a non-US resident / cultural difference, but in every other Reddit story I hear "we broke up, then friends and family started messaging me". Who does that? I never met a person who would either go through that or do that themselves, I know so many people who would fight or break up with their SO and nobody ever interferes, unless there'd be some actual physical abuse. In what culture is it okay to meddle into other people's business?

[@notiddymothbirlfriend]

On story 2: I can guarantee you most people seeing OP get screamed at by the mother were either thinking: "omg what a psycho 😂" or "ooooh dramaaaaaa!"

[@jennaramos1229]

This ex thinks yelling at her having his family harass her is gunna makes her come back …. Tf wrong with some ppl

[@PowerStruggle555]

doing a fake proposal to gf is very bad. you can both be on it and do it in front of friends and/or family but never to each other. this will cause the person (like op) to be weary of stuff like that. even if its legit. anytime a bf proposes she might think its a prank when its not and ruin a relationship because she ruined a real proposal by expecting it to be prank and doing something like throw the ring box or something

[@tayganroberts5098]

S2: the commenters are seriously misunderstanding the concept of avoidance PTSD... "Oh i would have just communicated" *no you wouldn't have because then you wouldn't be AVOIDING it* 🤦‍♀

[@audreynothepburn7663]

This!!!

[@xxKillgorxx]

Still doesn't excuse him picking the worst possible option and screwing over so many people. I got no sympathy for the dude.

[@tayganroberts5098]

@@xxKillgorxx nobody is saying it's an excuse. Even he admitted he screwed up. The issue is people with hindsight saying what they would have done if they were in that position, ignoring that to be in that position *you would have extreme avoidance PTSD* It's easy to look at someone else's situation and judge based on your own personality and ability to look at the whole situation after it's already played out.

[@GalliaUchiha]

The entire prank was super well though out except the part where faking a proposal is a super shitty thing to do and makes no fucking sense.

[@charondusk5608]

...You just had to remind us about the Couch Roleplay Story, didn't you...? I'd finally scrubbed that horror from my mind.

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

Faked a proposal? Oh wow!!! Not funny. Publicly embarrassed OP. How humiliating!!!!! Never speak to him again. People, please never buy property with someone you aren’t married to. This has happened way too often

[@madambutterfly1997]

That’s what I’m concerned the ex has no actual excuse

[@KrisKASK]

NOOOOO NOT THE COUCH ROLEPLAYYYY 😂😂😂💀💀💀

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

21:55 *Damn you for reminding me that story again!!* 😭 (And, by the way...the infamous story featured a sundress that belonged to OP.)

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 1. Nta wow hope he really really dodged the bullet on this one didn't she. Imagine being such a pathetic loser that after you pull a cruel prank on your girlfriend that you supposedly love she breaks up with you because you're such an a-hole You have to call your mommy cry and whine and have your mommy try and fix it and yell at the girlfriend for hurting her baby😂😂😂😂😂

[@BrianLiamson]

The prank is a deep disrespect. He build up the expectation of doing something great and giving her hope. Then he crushes this hope and laugh about it. Yeah, that's really cruel. This isn't funny at all. He prank her and laugh at her misery. She was the expense for his joy and laughter. Anyone in her shoe should end this relationship and rightfully do so.

[@DespairDoctor]

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@elpisgalaxy8934]

21:56 I knew he was gonna say that again!🤣🤣🤣

[@carolscott9330]

pranked, you are lucky you found all this out before marriage. good luck

[@RealCurrencies]

re story 1: that's a nice thing to banter about when drunk with your mates, but not to actually do.

[@buckeyenative1365]

Prank = putting a snake in the fridge (loved the comment about the spider prank because i would be that person trying to levitate to avoid that can😅). A fake marriage proposal is over the top rude, mean and nasty.

[@BenKonosky]

I knew you were going to work that couch story in. That poor op.

[@maestech8605]

5:00 this person is a genius, all the additions are top notch

[@xEPICxNESS]

The best closure from an ex is a fat paycheque

[@kimbathemighty8651]

Managed to sneak that couch story in once again. 🤨

[@plasmocat1863]

"I'll take my parents on the couch role-playing as me in my school uniform ..." 💀💀💀💀😂😂😂😂

[@JessicaCaldwell-ib2sm]

Andrew's friends and family sound like dangerous people she needs to move, change her number and make sure she does not share her new address or number.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Yeah I'd be sharing all the screenshots on social media lol.

[@Lyoko2516]

There goes the couch, again

[@leruetheday377]

"I found it my father wants to screw me and my mother encourages that" is leagues worse than "I got left at the altar"

[@avalineriley6809]

I've seen a ton of relationships break apart over "pranks". They start off small and funny but someone usually takes it way too far and there is no going back from there.

[@heymrnickerbocker]

All she had to say to any of them was well ITS NOT LIKE WE WERE MARRIED!!!!

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

Can we just stoooop the stupid proposal pranks Or just stupid pranks in general Do something that everyone can laugh at. But nah, every time it’s brought up on Reddit it’s always someone taking it too far

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

And you can GUARANTEE everyone telling her to get over it would, in fact, NOT “just get over it” if they were the ones “pranked”.

[@jkim010100]

Never date a "prankster". Period. They are bullies that just change tactics. It's just a joke. No it isn't.

[@mbyerly9680]

The couch story. AAAAARGH! The mental trauma.

[@AprilSunshine]

Classic NARC smear campaign. I hope OP catches on and studies up on narcissistic abuse. Good on her getting the heck out of there!🎉

[@issecret1]

How people think you should buy a house with someone you're not married to will never make sense to me

[@SeraphsGenisis]

Good afternoon from west America! :D

[@renstreeter2012]

good afternoon from midwest america

[@carolroberts4614]

Good evening from the South of England!

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

Him: Oh no it was a joke, come back you effing B! Her: Somehow not convinced. Bullet dodged!

[@jeffreyrusselljr7713]

One thing I don't get, is just cause someone doesn't want to get married doesn't mean they don't care about the future.

[@Nerdificent]

OP was wise to dump him on the spot. His prank was cruel and heartless. I think she should get authorities involved wrt her ex's flying monkeys and block them all.

[@maxinemyers9215]

Thanks Markee !

[@Dan_Hazard]

I picture op smacking her ex-bf like Charlie Murphy Smacking Rick James(Dave Chappelle) and him going GOD DAYUM

[@yvonnefobbs6232]

Story #2: You should have kept the ring, took the money, blocked him and rode off in the sunset! It seriously sounds like he was hoping to talk her in taking him back because he needs a baby momma!!

[@audreynothepburn7663]

I think him talking with a therapist and him saving up to pay back the price of the wedding was just his way of apologizing and as a goodbye to OP.

[@TryniaMerin]

The degree of flying monkeys in this first story makes me think he had that golden cap all along. Frankly the whole family must be into the prank wars.

[@taylorslade961]

Markee, fight me. That fucking couch story haunts me

[@ogknightbro94]

Markee needs to just not mention the couch story