I Was Abandoned By My Mom So She Could Focus On Her New Family r/Relationships

[@salicaguillotines]

*First Story* Op: you're all dressed up nice, where you going? Mom: Oh, nowhere Narrator: 10 minutes later Op: *catches the family red handed* Where you going? Mom: Just to the park Op: _In your Sunday Best?_ BS! Narrator: later Op: *in uniform* Mom: Where are you going? Op: nowhere, just the park

[@kyriacarica5862]

One day, OP’s mom is going to come crawling back with her hand out expecting money or a kidney. OP should tell her to go to the park so she’ll feel better.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

OP has a good head on his shoulders and it seems like he’ll turn out okay. I just hope mom and stepdad don’t try to worm their way back into his life, he doesn’t need such horrid people around.

[@DryPaperHammerBro]

OP 1'll be fine

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

Story 1: Proof to the saying that "While every child deserves a parent, not every parent deserves a child." I honestly cannot understand the stepfather to love such a woman. If he were to die or they were to get divorced, she would treat his children the same way in lieu of her new family.

[@kaykay8855]

But you see, op isn’t his biological son. Op isn’t his responsibility, at least that is what he and op’s mom are thinking.

[@Allmightyimortal]

Story 1. Hope both kids realize how bad op's egg donor and their dad treated op and their are consequences for that.

[@wildblue0]

The 4yo is too young, but there's hope for the 10yo. Especially if OP is allowed to write to her.

[@partysuvius]

@@wildblue0yeah that 10yo will remember the way their mother treated their brother. There will be grudges.

[@poohbear4515]

That’s pretty heartbreaking to hear how this cruel pile of trash treated OP like he was the gum on the bottom of her shoe and her other kids like gold. It also angered me that even his step-dad never did anything to help. He shouldve been a good father figure to him, but that “mother”….I really, really hope in the future when she is begging for a donation to save her sorry ass life, OP, the only one who can do it, can look at her and say before leaving her worthless self “I’m not giving my organ to some stranger. I don’t even know you at all.” Thank you for your service, OP.

[@Davtwan]

I wouldn’t be surprised if step-father was the catalyst honestly. (I.E. Not wanting to take care of someone that isn’t “his.”)

[@SasoAkasuna]

Story 2, that's how my mom found out too, her partner's alarm went off and he asked her to get his phone, then she just saw the notifications on the screen. There's soo many levels of disrespect on this, they can't even care enough to be more careful, they either don't care if they get caught, are stupid or think their partners are stupid. I hate it.

[@DemonAngel]

Um.... why the hell would the mother go into OP room at all? This was a sadistic move in the Moms part. Like barffff omg

[@judelbugsrutter6727]

I hope OPs mother finds this on reddit or here and realises that the internet thinks shes a bad parent. My nephew joined the navy this year and had so much love from his family... i wish we could have given some to this OP. But im glad his dad is out of gaol and trying to get straight for his son

[@robertx8020]

Ppl like her won't care and simply will say that they are all wrong

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: When your mom comes back asking for a kidney, tell her you don't have one (since she doesn't have an issue lying to your face). And if you do have kids one day, don't bring them around your mother and stepdad! You know your mom will treat them the same, especially after your stepsiblings start having their own kids. S2: Unless you own roosters, you know what you saw. He's gaslighting you. "He refused to let me see his phone. I told him that tells me all I need to know then. He said no, he's just not going to play this game with me." Response: "Proving your innocence if you have nothing to hide is not a game. But if you prefer, we can play the divorce game, because I refuse to play the married to a man I can't trust, game."

[@partysuvius]

I would have silently begun moving out, dividing marital funds, and going through my prenup. Get the gparents in the know if I can trust them to be silent abt it and help me quietly leave. Right before I’m out, I’m sliding the divorce papers to him, unsigned, and tell him that this is the civil option. The only civil option. Divorce amicably, or I’m taking full advantage of our prenup and let the courts know he cheated, he betrayed the contract, and he will be punished. (Because I refuse to marry anyone without making my own prenup, the gov’t assigned one can easily fuck over the innocent spouse).

[@gracieshepardtothemax1743]

Establish a way of communicating with the siblings through email or something the mom doesn’t “control”. My sister does this with her kids. If she’s mad I wont give her money or a tv or a gaming console. She cuts communications to my nieces and nephew. I now know their email so they can reach out if they need anything or just want to talk

[@SnowyWolborg]

Even though they are being treated as such, it's good that the half siblings do not have the _mentality_ of golden children. OP needs to keep this close relationship with them, because if they stay on the right path, they will become his biggest allies in the future when inevitably the mom gets called out on her neglect and the siblings confirm that OP was always on the outside.

[@travishylton6976]

no cut them all off

[@GrimmestOfReapers]

​@@travishylton6976Low tier bait

[@amandarose4469]

People are often against joining the army, but it is an excellent way to earn a trade. They need mechanics, plumbers, electricians, IT people.

[@Mia-dt3gl]

They’ll hit him up in about 10 years for money.

[@thanos8077]

Story 1: op is better than me if my mom treated me like this the love I had for her would dwindle down to nothing over time

[@wildblue0]

Story 1: Part of me hopes the 10yo fishes mom's letter out of the trash and saves it. In 8 years, when she goes NC for something else, she can give it back to her.

[@adrian_k9195]

Story 1: OP unfortunately has a stable head on his shoulders and is mature because they had to parent themselves and because of all the trauma they went through. People who act very mature and hypervigilant are often the ones who needs the most help and support. I'm glad OP got out of that toxic household and I hope everything turns out well for OP❤️

[@HackiePuffs]

If the siblings decide to reach out to OP when they’re older I’d say give them a chance as it’s not their fault any of this has happened but as for the mom and stepdad and especially the mom they knew exactly what they were doing they lost their right to another chance. I also really hope the second OP can find a way to do what’s best for her and the kids. Sounds like she’s in a really hard spot where she feels like she’ll be screwed no matter what. I hope she has family or friends that can help her out with the kids and then she won’t feel so pressured to stay with the husband so she won’t have to handle the kids alone.

[@bonefetcherbrimley7740]

Story 1: Holy hell, that poor guy, he deserved better.

[@Davtwan]

I know it’s too late, but I would have advised OP to leave a letter for his siblings to give them hope. I wouldn’t put it past his “parents” to intercept letters and make OP look bad to them.

[@taylorslade961]

I hope things work out for OP. But I also hope he doesn't fall into the military trap of marrying the first woman that says yes and pumping out kids. He should look into mental health services once he's in.

[@NeloBladeOfRanni]

He should just do the rest of society a favor and only date other people in the army

[@brandonshelp4682]

When hastily joining the military as q young person: DO NOT GET MARRIED RIGHT AWAY. Also, if you get the itch to buy a car, check in with your platoon sergeant for some guidance. In general, don't be stupid.

[@bricksloth6920]

Story 2: it sucks, OP. Good for you for your bravery.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 I heard this whole saga. All the luck to op.

[@brandi5126]

S1: My heart breaks for Op. No one should be treated that way by their own parents. S2: Glad you got proof. Don't sit on your hands. Get a good lawyer and get out. He won't change.

[@atex6175]

Op hate to tell you this buddy but if the army doesn’t work out for you the Marines damn sure won’t. Keep your head up bud you’ll be fine

[@shonnie81]

😂

[@joannwall6333]

All she has to do is contact the cell phone company. It is not that hard to catch a cheater. They can't wipe it away. It can be subpoenaed by a lawyer, and a forensic accountant can find any and all monies spent.

[@sgtjarhead99]

Hope things worked out for OP in the Army. Had a very similar experience myself, only I left for the Marines. Wounded up staying away for almost 9 years.

[@terranbishop5549]

I wonder if OP’s poor treatment by his mother is why he is such a strong, clear, intelligent thinker? I am NOT condoning what she did. However, It’s not as much as the hand you are dealt as it is how you respond to it. My son went into the army at 26 and went right into Ranger training after basic. He worked so hard to redeem himself after making a bit of a mess of his life. He is now a full-fledged Army Ranger and I am one proud momma!

[@Sensansenkai]

Oh man. I'll be curious to see how long it takes the mom from story one to figure out where her oldest kid went. My bet is not until he's out of basic and able to use his phone/social media again. She doesn't even seem like the type to be concerned enough to ask his friends (let alone know who his friends are) or contact his bio dad. That seriously stinks for him and I really hope he's able to find his own family somewhere out there. And that the other two kids get the story and stop talking to her the minuet they turn 18 lmao. It's what she deserves.

[@madambutterfly1997]

Considering her attitude towards you all these years I doubt she'd care that you're going to the Army so there was no point in trying to keep that a secret

[@betheguy_posts]

me, beginning of story 2: "Oh hell yea, he's cheating and he's gonna get his. Love that." me, end of story 2: "I CRAVE JUSTICE! WHERE IS THE JUSTICE?"

[@mbyerly9680]

OP has young half siblings who care about him and may need him when the mother turns her toxic behavior on them. He shouldn't nuke his relationship with anyone.

[@travishylton6976]

not his problem

[@ronhall5395]

Last story, dude ruin his life for some cheap sex. I never understood that mindset. I feel bad for OP and especially bad for the little girls. Am I crazy or did this dude get his wife pregnant so she was stuck at home while he screwed around on " business trips". I have done many a business trip and I admit they are boring. They are also exhausting. Who has the energy to travel put in 12 HR days, then go screw around at night? I never did the hotel bar thing.. Seemed rather sleazy. I eat, went to my room and watch all those cable TV shows my wife hates. No not the porn stuff. Company would take me to HR for that and wife always checked my receipts. Mostly to make sure I was going to.get reimbursed for my expenses. That would be painful to explain.

[@boi1796]

If my wife asks for my phone I’ll give it to her idk why people would do this. My wife will probably only find good searches on how to do a certain thing in a game

[@ShirleyBrady-sn8si]

As a Navy mom is my son was in do not marry don't let any woman be on your bank account other than you and maybe some trusted family member most of the guys that my son was with your parents robbed them I did not we had a joint account put the money in and when he was overseas on deployment I took care of his account he come back had tons of money and he he was so proud that he had all that money that I stored for him while I was on deployment and I didn't steal it from him like all of his other people

[@catsncrows]

Please don't be the commenter who told him not to be angry at his mom. Emotional neglect and being treated with disgust is trauma and anger if not processed can go extremely sideways in so many ways. He said he wanted to be a good parent and that's when anger and sadness start to come up because people realize everything they missed out on and it slams into them all at once

[@damien678]

I think it's because hate can really ruin you if you indulge in it. Even if it's warranted. Especially when it is.

[@catsncrows]

@@damien678 Exactly. If you hang on to anger it can turn into hate. If you supress it because people tell you you shouldn't feel your feelings that's what happens. They also get stored in your body and can affect your physical health

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Op saying they had a pathetic life Fukin broke me. Crying so hard RN feeling his feelings. Being an empath SUCKS. I don’t pray so sending lots of love and light to Op. they are going to rock basic and become a thriving decent human being. They are already far more emotionally intelligent and capable then his bio mom and step dad. The “miss ur 🐓” comment made me puke a lot in my mouth. Women and men like this so crass and disgusting. The side peice has no couth or dignity

[@wiresculptor5951]

Oh wow i feel that OP that video title just explained one of the most painful parts of my life

[@jazzie-sanbelle99]

Sounds like op got a great head on his shoulders good luck op for a nineteen year old young man you are the better adult. S2 I feel sorry for ya I suggest you walk away sometimes toxicity is better left far behind

[@salomerodriguez5145]

Just watched Mark's video with the same story, are you two on a shared posting schedule? 😂

[@mbyerly9680]

No. Reddit posts new content or refreshes old content, and that's where KZbinrs get their stories.

[@willgroody5296]

OP be vindictive when you have a great life let her know she’ll never ever be a part of it, kids you’re a pathetic excuse of a mother so can’t trust you to be a grandmother. Also keep younger siblings on info diet and at arms length as they’ll report back to her

[@littlegreycat]

I hope he did write to those people and life is going well.

[@carlrood4457]

Leaving for a job technically isn't lying. Edit: I can see telling that to the little sister so she doesn't worry too much. Not sure why bother keeping it from the mom. Not like she cares, anyway.

[@LaviniaKing-hz9ue]

Make the Army your career and keep in contact with your siblings. Tell everyone you have joined the Army and not that you got a new job. Since bio dad is back you will have someone besides your siblings to write to. My maternal grandfather was in The Army WWI, dad WWII, BIL Korea, brother and 2 cousins Vietnam, nephew now in the Army.

[@telinhajp]

Good night, Markee! Wishing you a wonderful Wednesday!　 おやすみ！❤️😴

[@BLuddenify]

If you write to them your siblings the will remain family unfortunately your mother is an emotional cripple and your step father is no better or he would have made things fare for you. I would keep in touch the sibling but on the condition that they do not share it with your mother. If your mother forces contact on you refer to her by her formal sir name since being Mrs. stepfather and the father of his children, then give it to her both barrels between the eyes. Not all woman are like that, its tempting to take that kind of upbringing on the woman in your life, you might seek counseling before you settle down. He is cheating, look out for your GYN health and make sure you know what your finances are and where they kept. The way this has gone he will continue to cheat until he can rape the household to launch a new life, leaving you flat a single mom with nothing.

[@stellamccoy5259]

S3. Go through the phone bill and call all the numbers and see what happens. If the police can get copies of text messages, why can't we? I never hid my phone from my husband and he never kept ot from me.

[@cheekyweb8055]

I like the Halloween background!

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

OP got screwd by both parents. It is sucha shame they missed onbhaving a relationship with a fine young man. The bio dad isn't promessing, the military schedule is not favorable to rebuild an entire father/son relationship from scratch. OP should focus on building his own new adult life.

[@InvasionAnimation]

Hope the dad does not sell his stuff for rug money.

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

Tell your siblings good bye. Go no contact with your selfish mother. Enjoy your life in the military. It can be fabulous

[@stephjovi]

Typical. Knocks wifey up 4 times she sits home with the babies. He travels for work and has fun

[@jennieforthesox]

Forgave the person who did nothing for him but angry at the person who raised him. She wasn't a good mom but it is still 1000 times better than that of his biodad. I was w/him until then. He picks and choices what bad is bad and what bad is good. It's giving rex pill energy.

[@kiraalexandraruizburgos1236]

🦐

[@jemase7931]

Joining the army in secret is a pretty lame revenge. But it's probably the best for OP. What kind of man is the stepdad that he sees his wife treat her son like that andstill has kids with her?

[@kumikor3392]

It's not revenge. OP is just a 19 year old who has no support system. This is just a way for OP to get a leg up in this world

[@w7100]

19 without a job? I think I see why they are acting this way of late, but my biggest problem is the convenience of the father getting out

[@laucorn123]

Story 1 is a perfect example of why I am utterly convinced that mothers should just remove themselves from their children's lives after birth. Ive seen far to many examples both irl and in these stories that mothers do not have their children's best interest at heart.

[@billcipher_w]

Way too much army propaganda in these comments. You didnt have to read so many.

[@materhead5051]

Story 1, you're an effing ADULT!! Get s job and move out lmao.

[@HackiePuffs]

With this economy I wish OP ALL the luck in the world with that because it’s damn near impossible nowadays at that age

[@damien678]

He... he did? He literally fucking DID?