My Religious Family Disapproves of my Non-Religious Husband

[@SamK31]

In my experience, the parents didn’t cause a scene and object publicly because they’re cowards and don’t want to look like the bad guys/be judged. It’s much easier to just be passive aggressive and foil someone’s plans and just revel in their unhappiness like it’s a self fulfilling prophecy you foresaw rather than something you personally orchestrated.

[@jennifertherrien2623]

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[@SamK31]

The audacity to ruin a wedding you didn’t pay for…

[@zurilyjones]

Where was her coordinator during all this? No one in the wedding party tried to stop it? The DJ didn’t say anything? How distracted were you that you didn’t see the room clearing out? I’m so confused on the logistics of this. Also, the guests that left didn’t say goodbye? After the 2nd or 3rd time me having to say “you’re leaving so early? We’ve got so much more planned” I would have noticed a pattern. Not trying to blame her, just not understanding how this all worked.

[@BisexualBeauty]

right lmao she must be missing a lot in life no way she did not see it sheesh

[@Aromatherapist_tris]

When I went to change out of my wedding dress everyone left our reception. Granted it was a ways into it but no one said goodbye and half the guests were gone. It happens. It’s not the brides job to monitor what anyone else is doing either, she is occupied and probably getting food for the first time that day. Not everyone has a coordinator either, it’s just not something everyone wants to pay for or even needs.

[@zurilyjones]

@@Aromatherapist_tris she mentions having a coordinator, though. That’s why I asked about it. It’s the coordinators job to notice that stuff and bring it to the couple’s attention.

[@LLynneM]

@@zurilyjones No she hired a cleanup crew for after, no wedding coordinator. If ur DYI decorating + fav food trucking the meal a coordinator wouldn’t mk sense. Too bad tho. That person would Hv been all over the parent trap.

[@zurilyjones]

@@LLynneM she definitely mentioned a coordinator. She said the DJ and coordinator felt bad for them and joined in the dancing so the pictures wouldn’t look too sparse. A lot of people hire a day of coordinator to handle details and arrangements on the wedding day because the couple will obviously be distracted.

[@GG-ip3ru]

I REALLY hope there is a “follow up” about this. I feel so sorry for this girl that she’s not as MAD as she deserves to be. She’s obviously upset, but it’s manifesting as saddens & self-blame. No doubt from a lifetime of her parents acting this way under the guise of “religious duty” despite them knowing deep down, they just want to keep their child from growing up and out of their control.

[@pelinmakarac8322]

Her parents made sure everyone saw them being supportive and sweet by participating at the wedding. Then tear it down acting like it is on purpose to ruin her wedding. The most passive aggressive thing i have ever heard.

[@maddyjoy7858]

Something similar happened at my wedding! My grandma told people that we weren't having a "traditional wedding" and ushered people to grab cupcakes during dinner and told them they were good to leave because we had nothing else planned. Large groups of people were leaving and I had no idea why. I had to physically pull my husband on the dance floor so we could do our first dance, father daughter dance, and mother son dance before too many people left. We had to do this an hour earlier than we had planned, this was less than 30 minutes after dinner started. Because of this, we didn't get to have our cake cutting, over half of the cupcakes were gone before we even realized what was happening and by that point we had lost all control. We didn't see a point in cutting the cake. We also only danced for about 20-30 minutes and left the venue 1.5 hours before the wedding was scheduled to end. I was so excited to dance but there were only 15 guests left, so we just did our send off and went and got ice cream to end the night on a happy note. I paid for the entire wedding out of pocket and made most of the decorations by hand, only for the entire wedding to last less than 3 hours. We didn't even get to say hi to everyone because many of our guests had already left by the time we got to their table. These weren't mean people, they love my husband and I, but they assumed my grandma was telling the truth and left thinking the wedding was over. I share the same sentiment as OP, it was a magical day and I am in love with the life my husband and I have created, but that part of the day was disappointing and is hard to look back on.

[@Melanie73Essex]

Unless the bride or groom says it's a wrap, I ain't leaving!!

[@blueer0se]

Day of coordinator and security guard at events like these are a lifesaver. I had both at my daughters, sweet 15 and they saved that day from unwanted family guests

[@ladymorrigan5950]

They have a wedding planner and no one stopped this from happening. It’s really bizarre. 😢

[@persgodiva]

It's very very strange to me that people just left. Like, strange in a way that makes me doubt that part of the story. Because if I got to a wedding and someone starts tearing down decorations, my first thought isn't "oh we better leave without talking to the bride/groom", it makes me think "huh, what's going on, let's talk to other people about it". I don't get that behaviour at all. You don't just leave without saying goodbye to the bride and groom either, so what - they just didn't notice all their guests were leaving abruptly?

[@lisam7667]

Yes this, why wouldn’t the bride have asked someone while they were leaving so early and then have the DJ make and announcement to the guests that the wedding was not over and to please stay and enjoy themselves.

[@ThisNarrowboatAdventure]

1st one how did the wedding co-ordinator, bridesmaids and groomsmen let them take everything down?

[@hayamirin6795]

They were most likely all drunk af

[@albaleria]

It's not your family anymore, your family is your husband. And that's your priority now. If anyone is jeopardizing that union, happiness, etc then it needs to be fixed (improve relationship by a proper apology) or cut off.

[@jennacisterman7479]

I grew up in a fundy environment like this (Lutheran school my whole life) and thankfully my parents have become much more progressive Christians in the last decade but those parents absolutely made an attempt to cut the reception short WHILE EVERYONE WAS GETTING READY TO EAT because they knew that there was going to be secular music and alcohol and they figured all the dancing and “inappropriate” behavior was going to commence after everyone was finished eating and the dance floor got crowded so they wanted to shut it down before then. The fact that OP mentioned that she had to inform them and virtually get their blessing that there would be alcohol and secular music and a dance floor leads me to believe that she has an idea that’s the reason why they pulled their stunt as well. Poor dear. What a horrible family. Im so thankful that mine ended up turning around and regretting the fundy Bible thumpy lifestyle because it’s no way to live and certainly no lifestyle to force on your children. I’m still terrified of going to hell to this day I’m always having an existential crisis about every sin that I don’t feel true remorse about because true repentance requires remorse and without repentance your sins aren’t forgiven and I’m almost 30 it’s a hard fear to shake and putting that on a kid is a lot.

[@CaptainPygar]

Thank you for sharing and good point. Just curious but what strict lutherans are like in your country? I'm fron Finland where most people are part of Lutheran but not very religious or st least strict about it.

[@NitherSpit]

There's a good chance they endured the wedding but cut the reception early because that's where the alcohol would be served. OP states they had to specifically warn parents that alcohol would be served 😒

[@lauraelliott6909]

Morgan, real absinthe does not cause hallucination. That's an urban legend rooted in the history of counterfeit absinthe that was made with copper salts and antimony, which are highly toxic. Absinthe has a fascinating history.

[@Luckyforus686]

I’m so sad for this woman. How awful. I can understand what it’s like to know full well what your parents are like, but to still hope that on something like your wedding they’ll magically be the parents you always wanted 💔

[@GingerPlease]

Ugh so incredibly crappy and disrespectful of the parents to do! Terrible that this type of behavior seems to be a pattern from them too This is why I always recommend a day of coordinator. They can nip this crap right in the bud so you can enjoy your big day and that hired person can make sure nothing goes haywire. You can even let them know what issues to look out for if you think someone might try to mess stuff up. A good day of coordinator has your back more than anyone that day

[@Jasthebas]

OP is just plain oblivious.. there’s a reason her family treats her like that. There has to be a point in she realized her mom was only there to jeopardize

[@LoveValentineXO]

When you grow up with people like that representative of what's normal, had your feelings dismissed as overreacting or told that things you don't like ate done only because they love you, and still have faith in someone to respect you as a person, it can be really difficult to recognize your feelings are valid and that you've been wronged.

[@PurpleHeartsOnFire]

Two people took down all the decor within an hour is kinda insane. How did no one close ask what’s going on? I would have snapped seeing my mom ruin anything at my wedding. That’s why I’m getting a wedding planner

[@Aromatherapist_tris]

I could never do this to my children. Never. I would be sending them a bill for the costs that were never used.

[@BisexualBeauty]

my question is how do you not notice people LEAVING...and you're telling me people didn't say bye? She musta been not in the room for her to not notice no way...how oblivious are you?

[@MsStrangeEmilie]

Where was the love for their daughter? Hope OP tells her parents they are horrible people and cut ties. No contact. The amount of disrespect.

[@maellemaistre3062]

I just don't understand maybe it's not the same in the US but I could never imagine leaving a wedding without going up to the bride and groom and congratulate them before leaving, you can't not notice like 50 people coming up to you to saying bye and leaving ?? Or someone close to them would have mentioned something about it being over so soon or whatever... idk it's weird

[@Mila-Rosa]

I'm American but also Hispanic and have only been to Hispanic weddings - you definitely congratulate the couple and thank them for a nice party and then hand them an envelope with cash before leaving lol

[@kantimeowpaw4693]

i see this wedding issue so many time, it important to hired wedding planner\management. so that way they can enjoy without worry and the wedding planner handle the issue. if see any suspicious activity, let them know. if anyone is oppose to your partner, cut them off. a bit of red flag is red flag. wedding is stressful or chaotic because they don't stand their ground or hired the professional. yes they are expensive but it save all your worse upcoming. get plan pick the right people, aka supporter have a back up edit: i was in a cult being abuse so yes i know a issue when you out and trying to figure out where to draw the line. for anyone reading this, if someone making you uncomfortable or unsafe that is a immediate stop. the parent ruin wedding by putting decoration down, that where should be kick out. no warning on that because it clear common knowledge to not take anyone decoration.

[@LLynneM]

It’s always the most pious who do the most damage _in the name of God._ They need a refresher course at Sunday School. Morgan is 💯 they didn’t want the heathen couple to enjoy their day but also didn’t want ppl to see it, which means they *knew* they were wrong but did it anyway. *Go no contact now cuz once they Hv kids it will be an absolute nightmare. Imagine her parents sneaking baby off to be baptized (w/o them) + teaching him/her that mommy+daddy aren’t good cuz they don’t (…) **_but u want to be a good girl, right?_** And they fill her little head up w/their beliefs.*

[@Raraking4796]

’m only 4 minutes in and those parents have been to weddings before and they KNEW that the wedding wasn’t over yet. They were being vindictive on purpose And I bet they did it the way they did so that they wouldn’t outwardly look like the “bad guy”. They wanted to hurt their daughter but this way nobody else that was there was a witness to them ruining her wedding because they could just claim it was a misunderstanding and say something stupid like “ honey we love you and clearly went to support you and even walked you down the Isle why would we want to ruin the day for you?”

[@idkayidkay]

I hope this woman goes no contact with her parents for this, what absolute monsters. They don't deserve her in their lives.

[@hayamirin6795]

Goes no contact after she gets her money

[@noprogressionisregression6854]

I know I've seen this one before in the longer episode but I will say the same thing. Part of me feels like the couple should have known better. If you know your parents are religious assholes, you had the warning signs and you ignored them. And this would be assigned to never speak to your f****** parents again. They cross the line. They ruined your special day. That's it. The end.

[@Lola24222]

I would have sent them the bill.

[@lcat9b549]

Im thinking in the parent's mind they cut the reception short to keep others from "sinning" by way of alcohol, secular music and dancing.

[@tryingtothrive157]

If I were OP, with the known fact of them disapproving the marriage, that moment of seeing the mother starting to take down decor, I would have taken the microphone and thanked but reassured the guests that the party is until such time and they can enjoy food and drinks till then. THEN an impromptu dance number so the decor takedown stops or would not matter. OP was too stunned to speak out but this was unforgettable and unforgivable until a sincere apology is offered.

[@mok6680]

This is crazy…I can’t believe no one else in her family or his said something or even came over to say goodbyes to give them a heads up. I’d definitely confront them & call them out, they did it on purpose & then even them just bouncing? Smh.

[@LissaMarie1223]

I need to know where her parents put the centerpieces & decor at? Like did she just toss live floral in the bin ? Did they put the streamers in their car secretly. Where did 15k probably is decor go to in the span of them eating or visiting

[@alanamacneill88]

Such a cruel act from the parents

[@ludododododo4166]

I feel like this video along with others already came out and it’s reposted

[@Bullen_3]

I would sue the "parents" for everything they own.

[@jillchinnt]

This story is a little confusing to me. Neither the bride or the groom had a bestie that said goodbye before they left? Or saw what was happening?

[@TheHestya]

Cruel. They were just cruel. And as an atheist, I'm not surprised. It was a breath of fresh air when I met my partner's parents and they were genuinely nice poeple. Like, the sort of people who actually match what Christians say about themselves. Kind. Not once have they had an issue with me being an atheist. They're good people in general so of course they have been kind to me. But I was worried, because I've certainly met some shitty religious people.

[@MkMagpie]

"These are fundamentalist good Christians" Jerry, sweetie. Precious man, you have a pure heart but just... fuck. You have no idea the things people will destroy in the name of religion.

[@paulamarshall3810]

I have to admit that I absolutely LOVE the new FKS set 🥰 It makes this THT set look old and unloved, sorry Morgan I know you love the sofas but they are awful 🫣

[@hellovik23]

In Christianity, dancing and getting drunk are Sins, makes me think that parents weren´t unhappy with him but with the sinful party

[@addysonct7207]

And they could’ve managed those feelings like adults instead of making it about them

[@AR-sz5lm]

Drinking isn't a sin. Drunkenness is. Dancing isn't a sin. In fundamentalist legalistic graceless Pharasee denominations they don't do it. But it's not actually a sin.

[@Mila-Rosa]

In Christianity every base human function is a sin. Suprised there's no rule about being excommunicated if you have the sniffles on a Sunday because it's disrespectful to Jesus or something

[@citytomountainsdenyc899]

Why does Morgan insist on relating to the post? After Justin and you’re dad say your first story isn’t the same, you just all of a sudden know someone who has the same exact experience as the post?! I call BS

[@hayamirin6795]

Stfu goofy. It's literally a podcast where they pick stories THEY can relate too

[@citytomountainsdenyc899]

@@hayamirin6795 that’s actually not true. They have several episodes where no one relates. She pulls relatable stories out of thin air and you can tell. You’re just a simp like her boyfriend who agrees with every woman’s point of view

[@issagarci2887]

This is the third podcast I’ve seen where her dad goes on and on and on. It’s so tiresome. Even Justin looks like he’s zoning out. Can’t this guy just stop talking for a sec and let Morgan make her points and move on.

[@gnatscrafts]

ahhhh i love jerry but god he interrupts so much and so (accidentally) aggressively !!

[@Starsongzz]

This is some baptist Bible Belt bullshit I stg. The south isn’t more polite, we just care about optics more🤣🤣

[@mikejames303]

This is when you disown the parents.