In Love With my Friend's Wife

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Justin and Lauren ! This story is all about OP falling for his friends wife... but not everything is what you think
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[@thatonecatlady]

The change in conversation right before the update really killed me

[@jillchinnt]

Update starts at 17:14 if anyone feels the same lol

[@Mai-lh3xc]

@@jillchinnt thank you 🙏

[@victoriagabriella1103]

Literally began to forget I was waiting on an update 😂 thank you 🙏

[@sarahbeth7378]

This happened to my FIL, my MIL passed due to cancer and a few months later he started dating his childhood best friend who introduced FIL to MIL. He says how before MILs death, he never thought about his friend in a romantic way, how they argued all the time, called each other out, etc., and now they found peace with each other through the grief and started dating. My partner and his brothers find it extremely weird because they called FILs GF “aunt ‘Betty’” (not real name) since they were babies and now they have to deal with this incredibly new incredibly fresh wound of their moms passing and so soon after they have a new “step mom” whom they never thought would be with their dad.

[@yahayra7679]

The poop story seemed like a distraction from the uncomfy fact that Morgan had an intrusive thought and made the other two uncomfortable

[@jalapenowithanm]

I love their little tangents. My adhd brain loves to follow the breadcrumbs when it comes to convos. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but I like it. I feel like I get to know them and how they interact with each other.

[@test-kf2zv]

I'm with you. I think there are a lot of podcasts/vlogcasts that might be more appealing to people who want the focus to be entirely on the stories. THT has never been like that. Also, guys, Morgan and co READ these comments.

[@MORDIKAITHAMARTIAN]

I agree with you to !

[@lindseykdavis]

People say that grief is love that has nowhere to go, so it makes sense that those who grieve together may fall in love.

[@lallana2882]

I know someone who married her husband's brother after he died. That bond was created during their grief together.

[@kosmickobb8570]

After my husband passed away I spent a lot of time with his best friend and he confessed his feelings for me. I liked him too but it started to feel weird when he said he'd actually had a crush on me for years. Then he started getting pushy and I ended the friendship.

[@Crybabycry884]

Love y’all but y’all rambled a lot to this interesting story 😭

[@tittypotsticker8160]

They always do lol

[@paigerowe1090]

That’s why I unsubscribed to their main channel too

[@aisforana]

I fast forwarded every 10secs for two minutes of the video 😭 I could tell they weren’t talking about the story

[@jellosapiens7261]

OP needs to remember that the term "widow" exists.

[@User-yu8er]

I don't think what they did was a bad thing. They should just be mindful that although she says likes him back, she may be doing this because of her love towards her late husband, and his possible similarities / connections towards him, not a genuine love for the OP. This doesn't make her a bad person, because in these situations it can be hard to tell if it's actual true love.

[@paisleyrae207]

I caught the Billy Madison “quote” and I love you more for it Lauren 😂

[@dezareyarredondo2305]

have never been this early before LOL

[@RRR.0000]

SAME

[@wenniekeith888]

Love is unpredictable and if it makes them happy then let love win❤️❤️

[@gleyna21]

A small thing I’ve noticed , Morgan changes the topic and interrupts the co hosts a lot and sometimes I don’t get to hear their stories to completion. I love Morgan so maybe it’s something to keep in mind

[@breewoodward3651]

​@@morena162 omg she does that soooo much on her dad's videos

[@noprogressionisregression6854]

The thing that I have to remind myself of is that she's still what in her twenties? So she's still a pretty young woman. I mean I was extremely immature at that age. I'm astounded by the fact that she's done so much already. But, she's got a lot of maturing to do as does anyone at that age.

[@breewoodward3651]

@@noprogressionisregression6854 she is 28 or 29 I believe, I am 27

[@thepeopleslast2579]

​@@noprogressionisregression6854 she also has adhd, she's talked about how it contributes to how she engages in conversations

[@baileejaydee]

Yeah it’s a really normal thing to happen when you have ADHD. She’s brought it up herself many times and explained she doesn’t mean to. This is an older episode they’ve just cut up and shared. I think she does a really great job of being self aware now and I don’t think her people are bothered by it at all 😊

[@kotaaface]

I dated a guy, Seth, in freshman year of high school. I absolutely adored him. I adored his mom, his little sister too. We lived only a block away from each other and it was al;l so light, and romantic and fun. He had this friend, he liked to prank call my house until I'd get so mad I screamed at him. They were very goofy together. On January 16th, 2007- Seth and his goofy friend, along with another friend, saw that the lake nearby was frozen, and somehow a cart had rolled out into middle. So Seth and goofy went for, while other friend wasn't as eager to go out that far. Unfortunately, the ice didn't hold them, and Seth and goofy did make it out to the cart before it gave in. They both fell in. Other friend ran for help, goofy managed to climb up but couldn't see Seth, SO HE DOVE BACK IN TO GET HIM. This is the PNW so hes got hypothermia already. In the end, rescue teams had to pull them both back out. Goofy had pretty bad hypothermia but made a quick recovery, and sadly... Seth never came home after that night, he got too cold and no oxygen and couldn't get out. This was traumatizing for all of us, of course. But the goofy friend, who I had never met aside from the obnoxious prank calls, insisted to everyone that he meet me at the vigil that was held for Seth. So we met at this tree at the vigil, and became best friends. A while into that and we fell in love. It was so confusing. I was happy, but guilty, but thankful, but ashamed. I totally related to the feelings in this video. We ended up together (with a bit of on & off) for like 8 years. Had twin boys. Got our first apartment. It was a good ending for a while. Now hes a dick tho 😂😂 sorry to ruin the happy ending. I still have my apartment tho, and I'm going on 9 years with the love of my life, who loves the twins and gets along with the goof better than I do. But I get along with goofs wife, so I just talk to her instead. Lol. So I guess I would suggest to the op in that story... dont. I wouldn't take my choice back, because of my kids, but that friendship was SLAUGHTERED in our break up. So if he truly values the friendship, he should limit it to just the friendship and not gamble with it.

[@kotaaface]

That was long. Sorry for the novel 😂

[@Musicalsfangirl]

First one sounds like trauma bonding I think. They both went through grieving the death of a person who was so important to them. Sharing a traumatic experience with someone else makes your bond stronger. Like when a parent dies, the remaining parent and their child(ren) become closer than they were before.

[@Rose-cg9rf]

You mean they bonded over trauma. A trauma bond is when a victim of abuse becomes emotionally bonded to the abuser basically

[@Musicalsfangirl]

@@Rose-cg9rf oh right. Yes that is what I mean. Didn’t know there was a difference in the terms. Thanks for the correction, I’ve learned something new 😁

[@lexijackson7585]

Your shocked by a 30 min poop, my partner takes 1 hour to 2 hours on the toilet because “he gets comfy”

[@amiyahancock4500]

my entire lower body would go numb. how does he do it????

[@lexijackson7585]

@@amiyahancock4500 he puts on football and just doesn’t care! His legs probably do fall asleep along with his bum 😂

[@Jkittyxoxo]

Divorce

[@paisleyrae207]

ALSO- I think this happens more often then people think. I think part of it is the connection it brings to the lost loved one as weird as it may sound to someone who hasn’t been there.

[@TourettesMajestic]

I’m halfway through and so nervous for this OP

[@E_Nicholef]

Sooo I’m a widow became so 5 days after my 24th had been with S for 9 years. S had a friend H that I had met a handful of times. Never ever thought of H in any type of way who had just separated from a long term relationship. When S passed I delivered H the news. Some time passed and eventually H took me to get some food, a walk in the park, a drive I couldn’t avoid the feeling I had with him. A spark of more than something in such a period of nothingness I was going through. I didn’t want to say anything, but I could just feel it. He was a complete gentleman never made a move. Eventually one night I told him I think I like you like… like you like you. Expecting him to bolt. Long story short we’ve been together a couple of years completely in love getting married and planning a family. A life I thought I would never get the chance to have. I’ve never been happier.

[@alanamacneill88]

I mean, you didnt do anything while he was alive. And you didnt harm their relationship.

[@AishiCheemo]

🤨🤨

[@Umbrellahhh]

I have terminal cancer, and I’ve been sick since I was 14 with chronic illness and cancer on and off along with a bunch of other horrible things, I have had all abusive partners including my ex-husband, expect my current husband, he is amazing. If it was possible to like undo all the trauma those other partners did with how well he loves, cares, takes care of me, and genuinely wants for me not to suffer and tries everyday to make it so I don’t have to even though it’s not really possible, he would be the only person to be able to do it. I will die in the next few months, I am just hanging on for him everyday, it is actually scientifically proven having someone you love in your presence can reduce pain and make you heal faster etc, when he simply is in the same room as me it honestly is a world of difference. Now if I had a best friend that was like the OP described his friend group was, and my husband and her fell in love through the grief process of my death, I would be happy about that. Happy he was with someone I know would love him right, and appreciate him and take care of him, and he would take of her. The two people I loved most. My mom died in my arms of cancer when I was 19, she actually had a mutated gene that caused it and it was passed to me genetically. But my dad got remarried and my step mom has treated me like shit from day one of meeting me, due to me being sick and that takes attention of my dad off her, she also treats my dad not the best, and is just a very unkind person, unlike my mom who was a nurse, and very caring. My mom also wanted my dad to re marry, as she didn’t want him to be alone she wanted the person she loved to be happy and loved, I don’t want my husband to end up with someone who treats him like shit or uses him as he is very very generous and caring but the wrong person would and has in the past taken advantage of his kindness. So maybe don’t judge things have absolutely zero actual experience with? And if you do I’m sorry. Every other person with terminal illness I have personally met, which is a lot, that have a spouse have also wanted nothing but their partner to find love after they pass. So if it’s literally the person they trust and love second most to their husband or wife, or spouse/partner, that’s better than someone who will hurt them. A lot of people who make judgements have no idea how hard it is to take care of someone 24/7 everyday for years and put your everything into them and watch them die in front of you, just wither away. Or be the one withering away seeing the look of worry and stress on your loved ones face, hold them when they cry, and know you can’t stop your death from coming, when it’s all they want. And I’m so glad for that.

[@ThisIsKassia]

I'm a young widow (not as young as this girl, but my husband died when I was 33). My husband has been dead for just under two years, and I also have not dated at all. I still wear my wedding ring in fact. I honestly don't think this is strange. Grief often brings people together. I truly don't think John would be upset. I don't think the widow or the friend should feel guilt. They might still not want to pursue it, but I don't think they should beat themselves up over this.

[@ms.tinygiant]

Aw Poor Morgan to ever think that thought. Justin and Lauren seem very good to you but I don’t have close girl friendships because of that, and I’m in a relationship. Sometimes I don’t want to be in a relationship & sometimes I don’t want friendships because I am very insecure since people in my past that I was close to have hurt me in friendships in relationships. I have those type of thoughts from time to time and it really hurts my growth. Or maybe it’s a part of my growth. You are not alone in that intrusive thought but I’m sure they wouldn’t do that to you.

[@ms.tinygiant]

Correction: I didn’t mean “poor Morgan” in a demeaning way I meant it in a, I feel bad that she feels that way, way.

[@adriana27100]

Good morning folks! 🌻💛

[@curtjacobs8520]

Sometimes things just happen.

[@lallana2882]

Morgan ya gotta binge Australian Survivor. It's even better!!

[@Chaosuwu]

Family feud would be hilarious

[@StrangeSpark]

Demi is a thing. Basically you fall in love after getting to know someone. It can take days or years and no one knows how or for who. 😊 Also, say something. Honesty is often attractive (Unless you're an incel).

[@alanagsargent12]

They are human ❤️❤️

[@odiearbuckle4353]

OK need to say this. Thank you for the "you're not cool if ya haven't shote your pants" needed that. I have occasional "accidents" which are mortifying. This will and has just helped with that shame thank you. Ibs sucks

[@emmableazby4049]

LOVE tangents. Keep tangents and personal stories. Alejandra asked on the other video if we are sick of it. NO!

[@bun2526]

my ex bf was an hour and half on the toilet everyday 😭

[@Cici-pw1or]

Justin n Lauren do have .. an energy there tho ngl

[@leilanitauheed3334]

No

[@tiffmitch702]

I feel insulted for Justin the way lauren said - that would never happen 😮 idont think ment out of respect for morgan i believe its because lauren is stuck up and would never go for justin or anyone like him

[@phillipclark9914]

It’s like how I met your mother

[@meverly7834]

I’d like to see that wall behind Two Hot Takes be black… or at least a dark color….

[@Lk29412]

Goofy ah

[@F0CK3RS]

😂😂😂😂 YEP

[@kyra872]

29 😂😂😂

[@Greekgaylia]

Oooofffftttaaaa

[@KobiButKoKo]

Are they just trauma bonding?

[@leilanitauheed3334]

I think so

[@ML-yr9nr]

Hunter Biden…think they didn’t get married tho

[@slug1726]

early gang

[@deanna.rodrigues]

Early

[@morena162]

You talk way too much about nothing .I don't want to hear your personsal stories.I did subscribe but it all gets too longwinded and never gets to the point. Everyone who loves endless banter can keep enjoying this.

[@krissy55066]

No one is making you subscribe or watch their content... There are tons of other Reddit story channels on KZbin if you aren't satisfied here

[@jessicazimbelmann9681]

​@@Mokorii7 It's called feedback.

[@leilanitauheed3334]

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