My Secret Surprise For My Husband Has REVEALED He Has ANOTHER FAMILY! r/Relationships

[@janicewilcox8590]

We need to normalize announcing someone's (insert life event here) for them if they insist on trying to use your (insert life event here) to make their announcements. i.e. I want to announce my pregnancy at your wedding. Nope, I'll just announce it at the next family gathering or on social media for you if you keep insisting.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Who tells someone they are planning to get revenge?? The sister is disgusting. Don't invite her to wedding and go completely NC. You gave her 15K and she's being this rude and getting angry OP is threatening to disinvite her. She deserves to be disinvited and the relationship completely severed.

[@SailorMya]

Right! the sister is acting like a child that held onto a grudge, which OP paid for already, just to wait till its OP's wedding to get revenge... This is just sick... If this is her mindset then it wouldn't matter if it was a pregnancy announcement or not, she would have found some way to "ruin" OP's wedding to get her "revenge" as she calls it... Uninvite her because it sounds like she will disturb the wedding no matter what they do to foil her... I wouldn't take the chance... (Poor guy did NOTHING to his future "SIL" and she still wants to punish him in place of someone who is not in any of their lives anymore... What a welcome to the family...)

[@michaelwest2388]

Move the wedding and uninvite the entire family

[@fluidwolf]

@@SailorMya Heck OP shouldnt have had to pay anything to begin with. She didnt plan being proposed to or when or where. How are they all blaming OP in the first place?

[@SailorMya]

@@fluidwolf It makes me wonder if her family knows about the money OP paid her sister? (If they do BIG AHs ALL of them!!!) Yea, she shouldn't have had to pay but she did already so I'm coming at it from that angle because she literally paid her sister and her sister still thinks she has to get even more pay back for something that has been water under the bridge for awhile now... NC sounds better and better the more you think about it because the implications of what the sister wants to do says she was never "over it" and who knows what else she is not over yet...

[@damien678]

Right? Like OP went above and beyond to make up for HER EX's mistake. It's not even like sister can say she got no justice. She did, and then some. I'm honestly sympathetic to vengeful behaviour but this deserves no sympathy.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

S1: The thing is, to a normal person, taking care of three families is exhausting and draining. Taking care of one is hard enough, but three is practically impossible without something imploding. Which means, he ENJOYED keeping all those women in the dark. Cheaters love the thrill of duping other people and getting away with their behavior, so to him, this was probably a four-year-long adrenaline rush that he was getting a kick out of. He actively maintained this whole facade because the chaos MADE him happy. OP was right to leave him; cheaters don’t have any place in a home.

[@Laurels-id6qo]

Oh he will probably keep enjoying it,cam guarantee he will go out and introduce another women to the situation

[@cyrilmarasigan7108]

@@Laurels-id6qo right! And probably Amanda will be partner no.3 turned legal wife 2 but i bet the spark would gone out quickly and he will have another woman

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

At 12:13 in the video she says "He's a wonderful dad...I will do my best to keep my kids around Sarah's kids" and she completely lost me. This has become Sister-Wives with extra steps. She is dumb as a box of hair if she thinks this guy's an example to any kid anywhere.

[@faeriefire78]

Story 2: When does OP finally pay the debt she "owes" her sister for something was out of her control? She already rejected him, dumped him, and paid $15k, but now she also needs to let her sister get her petty revenge? When does it stop? This reminds me of my sister and I when we were little kids roughhousing and I'd accidentally tap her too hard, so I'd give her a freebie hit, but rather than giving one equal hit she'd whomp me hard, then go for hair, then windmill me, scratch, etc. until Mom pulled us apart. The revenge here isn't equal to the offense (which wasn't her fault anyway.)

[@robertx8020]

will the sister pay half of her wedding when she get's to have her revenge? And the family are clearly seeing the sister as the golden child!

[@raz7573]

OP should definitely tell the sister it will cost 15K

[@Russman67]

Exactly. What does announcing her pregnancy at the wedding actually do aside from showing that she has as poor taste as OP's ex? I mean the amount of effort that she made to make amends is massive. She paid her sister $15,000 because her ex wrecked her day. Honestly if not allowing the sister to ruin the marriage is going to wreck the family then guess what? The family's already wrecked

[@DisneyChar]

@@raz7573 30k since sister is planning it while op had no idea it was happening

[@raz7573]

@@DisneyChar I like the way you think. 😎

[@star3catcherSEQUEL]

OP was foolish to stay with this guy after learning about his engagement to Amanda, but there's nothing that can be done about that now. I would also like to add that I do not believe in this whole concept of, "they're a bad spouse but a great parent" -- no, they are not a great parent. Hurting your child's other parent is harmful to the child by extension, or at the very least, is at risk for being so. Your kids are connected to their other parents and how you treat that parent effects them too, so no, there is no such thing as a guy who cheats on his wife but is a "great dad" imho.

[@ginathecookie]

Well, they can be both a bad parent and a good parent So I think both points have merit and both have truth to them

[@philwill0123]

A lot of marriages have parents who love each other but are terrible parents, so yeah, you can be a bad partner and great parent. You can't say at this stage for next 16 years he will be a horrible parent based on a breakup.

[@LisaApril]

Story one: what a strong lady. I’m so glad she got out, and importantly also got the money she needed to support her family. And that icing on the cake of all the husbands friends ditching him for her, wow she must be a really nice lady for everyone to love her.

[@robertx8020]

Well finding out that your friend turns out to be a cheater will turn most of your friends away real fast

[@MONKEYDZETS]

Strong lady she married a dude she barely knew within 11 months then let him go away after she just gave birth that is not strong that is stupid these were red flags all over any dude that is trying to marry you in 11 months is trying to control you or him manipulate you so you don’t leave him any man who will leave you when you’re pregnant and about to give birth is up to something she was dumb as hell

[@ginathecookie]

@@robertx8020 yeah if not then at least distant from them for a bit

[@robertx8020]

@@MONKEYDZETS but at least she can still fix it

[@robertx8020]

@@ginathecookie like a 5000 mile distand? ;)

[@LunarisArts]

I would allow the sister to announce her pregnancy only of she paid for half of OP's wedding... in advance.

[@sammieh9695]

Half or 15k, whichever is more

[@DisneyChar]

30k she didnt plan the announcement sister is

[@sgm8265]

Take 15k and then OP can announce it herself as suggested in the comments.

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2: Going by the fact that the family think OP is the "petty" one it's obvious who the golden child is, especially after OP paid for half the wedding to make up for it. I literally had to pause to check if I heard that correctly at first honestly.

[@Resilient_Sage88]

I was thinking the same thing like she didn't even know that the EX (emphasis on that part) was going to do, but still felt like it was on her to make up for it. Says a lot sadly.

[@MrJpaynebb]

OP did what most brides and grooms would want in this situation and beyond. Rejecting the proposal publicly and dumping him definitely would have let the vast majority of newlyweds know OP or anyone else in this situation was sorry it happened. Covering $15k of the wedding afterwards is beyond what most people would expect and is one of the ultimate signs that you are sincerely regretful of what happened. NTA and the sister needs to move on. Also OP's new fiancee had absolutely nothing to do with this proposal. She wants to ruin his wedding for something he had no part in. Not a good way to officially welcome him into their family.

[@robertx8020]

this ..

[@susanmazei1834]

Unfortunately, for OP she doesn't have the loving family she thinks she has. The fact the sister even accepted the $15,000 in the first place is disgusting. The OP had no choice in what happened at the sisters wedding. That there is all this hard feelings years later with the rest of her family joining in is hateful. She will have a hard time believing it now, but she is forming a new family with fiancee and she is better off without sister and the flying monkeys of her so-called family.

[@hannahwishon9958]

Story 2 needs an update! I would blacklist OPs sister and whoever sides with her at least until the $15k is paid back. If sister still goes to the wedding, I would do as suggested by the comments and state that sister has an announcement, so she isn't in control. That's all the sister wants. Control.

[@pippo17173]

The sister lost her victim status for pulling that crap in story 2. Its one thing to still be mad about it, but its another when she still believe her sister is involve when she is not and is not even with the crappy ex anymore. I feel there is way more to this then just a ruin moment to me.

[@IndigoWhite]

Omg thank god his friends are sane and chose her 😩🙏🏻 that’s the biggest win of everything

[@aniko7125]

Story 2: it’s wild that OP’s sister has harbored this for years. It’s unhinged to just bide your time waiting for the day that you can “get revenge “ on someone who didn’t actively do anything to you. It’s not OPs fault that her ex proposed at sister’s wedding. He just did it on his own. Even though OP wasn’t at fault she felt bad enough to try to make amends by paying for half of the wedding. At some point enough is enough. Their parents should tell the sister there is no need for revenge and to get that thought out of her head.

[@MizTameRumors]

I love that the sh*ty dude actually had friends who are good people who sided with OP. She'll be more than fine, he wont. He'll have to leave his hometown.

[@catsithx]

Story one I have trouble doing things normally. How the hell do you juggle two families? That was insane.

[@smji5269]

Two families and a mistress. Probably more but he didn't admit since OP didn't know about them.

[@ineedhoez]

I mean honestly, she's a married single mother, so he doesn't have to do anything. He just works and sends money

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

How can he never mix up the names?

[@TriXJester]

Story 2: Dude, at that point, screw the wedding, elope with some friends for witnesses.

[@melinagranger8505]

Story 2 - absolutely BRILLIANT suggestion to tell her it will cost $15,000 and she can announce!

[@vincentender1486]

Never understood how people can go through such a short relationship and get married quickly. And then the fact he had a different fiance and didn't break it off till the new person? How can you go on and think that's ok, then get surprised when he is actually cheating with multiple people. It's ever so slightly her fault for letting the beginning not be a big red flag. But they say love is blind, sadly.

[@pippo17173]

Ya the love is blind is something that many people suffer a lot. Marriage is a gamble because you never know who the person you married is showing his/her real self. Rug pulls are the worst.

[@frazzledhaloz3184]

I have to laugh about the short time comment. I met hubby and married him thirty days later. 40 yrs later we are still married…. It does happen and can work…hugs everyone

[@FriedaMMartin]

Me and my husband did a long engagement and lives together for years before we got married

[@robinchildofgod5]

@@frazzledhaloz3184 Married my husband after 2 months, and have been married 26 years. Still going strong 😊

[@pansprayers]

Never fails to amaze me when people use their personal bias to victim shame. This is actually a 'long' relationship in many different communities, including the ones my husband and I grew up in. Long, short, average - it really doesn't matter. If someone is bent enough on doing this shit, they'll do it. This is ENTIRELY on HIM, not HER.

[@mofreeman223]

Not only did this creep have three families but also his position at his job would take an incredible amount of time. How the hell?

[@jocelyneangrignon2856]

I would one-up her. Tell the MC that the bride has a speech 1st and welcome husband and future niece/nephew to the family and that sis has agreed to pay ½ my wedding.

[@shannonbullock2202]

The wedding story made me so angry!! OP didn't do ANYTHING and responded correctly. She then got guilted into paying for HALF OF THE WEDDING!! She should've told her sister that if she does she'll be paying for HALF HER WEDDING. She is informed and will file a lawsuit if she doesn't pay within 1week!!

[@cheskydivision]

Honestly if it’s early on I’d terminate the pregnancy. Definitely file for divorce and child ASAP. I definitely would post the facts for all to know and call out his family too.

[@damien678]

Idk why, but it feels _beyond cheating_ to have 2 other families hidden away

[@brigidtheirish]

1: Mark, you aren't the only one. Pretty much every time something like this comes up, often in a crime documentary, Dad'll ask some variation of that exact question. "Who has *time* for that?!" Or the *energy,* for that matter! This is also a prime example of why paying attention to red flags is vitally important *before* getting married. Or having sex. The pill doesn't protect against STDs and condoms can be sabotaged. 2: OP thinks her sister was right to be upset with *her* over the proposal? The hell? The whole *family* turned on her? *And* she ended up paying for half the wedding? Now the family is against OP *again* because she won't support her sister getting revenge? Well, we know who the golden child and scapegoat are if nothing else.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: NTA. Op didn’t know that her ex was going to propose at sister’s wedding, op was right to dump him for not understanding what he did wrong.

[@nathanhinman9069]

on top of that she gave her $15K so sister has already been compensated even though sister shouldn't have been responsible

[@kaykay8855]

@@nathanhinman9069 so basically the sister is being petty just to be petty, though this isn’t petty it’s vindictive. And the sister’s brother and family are on her side either because they are petty like her or doing this to “keeping the peace”

[@nathanhinman9069]

@@kaykay8855 OPs family just sucks

[@abbie_joan]

makes me wonder if the sister got pregnant on purpose to announce it at the wedding

[@kaykay8855]

@@abbie_joan I kind of doubt it but possibly. My crazy headcanon: (I don’t remember how far into her pregnancy) but Sister isn’t really pregnant, she probably knows that you don’t propose at a wedding and since she’s already married the second option is to announce your pregnancy.

[@JSainte17]

She literally didn't pick up on him having a whole ass other family but says, "I can now pick up on some of his lying tells." all because she knew he was lying about being at said hotel... which she knew because the hotel told her as much. I'm sorry, but she's delusional.

[@alexa.9923]

Am I the only one sitting here looking at Story 1 OP like "WTF did you expect?" Like dude, You met him affianced, dated him affianced, and married him affianced. She was perfectly fine as the other woman, did anyone honestly expect him to be faithful? You lose them how you got them, you really cannot be mad. You were the other woman, there is no way you truly believed it was just you and he'd never get another one. People can claim manipulation, but you have to WANT to be with a taken man to perform the mental gymnastics required in believing half assed manipulation. She isn't strong or wise or anything like that. She got exactly what she wanted in the end. A taken man.

[@FlowersforCapitu]

Did you hear the story with your ass? Op clearly says she didn't know until they were already married

[@ineedhoez]

Agreed. The lack of self worth is pretty astounding too. She found out all of that information 7 months into the marriage. She could have exited then. Unscathed. She doubled down

[@zachf748]

Who on earth helps their son cheat? Mind boggling and the mom is just as despicable as he is.

[@enjolireyes643]

Story 2: love the options of having sister pay back the 15k to make an announcement. Or taking control and before the wedding party lines up have the best man or presiding personnel announce the pregnancy before the wedding party enters! See speech below “Before we start this ceremony joining two families into one. The bride and groom want to extend their sincerest congratulations to “OPs sister and BIL” who will be welcoming a beautiful soul into the world in approximately X months! Please “OPs sis and BIL” let the guests congratulate you both on your milestone in life. *Let the audience ooh ahh clap for two minutes.* Please let the soon to be parents sit…. *dramatic pause* Love allowed “OPs sister and BILs” union to be fruitful and we are here today to extend that prosperity by joining two beautiful souls in matrimony. If you will all return your seats. The ceremony will begin!

[@debrasedgwick4697]

You are nicer than I would be. I would post it on Facebook the day before the wedding, maybe the week before. "Not only am I getting married next week to the most wonderful guy in the world, I just found out that my sister and BIL are making me an Auntie!! Yeah!"

[@bun04y]

@@debrasedgwick4697 I like this...but also make sister pay back the $15K first. Then announce it.

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

Story 2: Imagine seeking revenge on someone who was on your side during the initial incident. OP's whole family are idiots. OP went above and beyond - WAY beyond - to make up for a churlish but momentary disruption that wasn't even her fault. She didn't even accept the proposal! Trying to hold OP and her husband responsible is unreasonable in the extreme. I like the suggestion - take charge of the sister's announcement, essentially making OP the matriarch of the family, around whom the rest of the family revolves.

[@astronautviolet153]

Story 1 How are these men having a whole other family's and I feel bad for all the women involved in children.

[@itazuranakisu]

Men can easily have multiple families and no one knows. They don’t show physical signs like a pregnant woman does nor are they limited to one pregnancy like a woman as they can impregnate an entire village in a night. In this case it’s more humiliating because multiple people knew and didn’t tell her after the first child.

[@pansprayers]

@@itazuranakisu exactly. THIS. So annoying when the proof that the wife ISN'T cheating is put squarely on her, and start screaming 'mandatory paternity test' while completely ignoring the fact that THIS situation is far more easy to pull off, and then the wife hears, 'well, what did you expect?'

[@Jace_the_mace]

@@itazuranakisu Not many people call attention to this issue of fraud concerning affair children from men, the finger on this subject always gets pointed on women, so I’m glad you brought recognition to this. She should sue him for all the years she wasted on him. She’s pregnant and finding this out can cause emotional distress. I will say though she’s partly at fault for continuing to date him once she found out he was engaged to his first fiancée while dating her. She knew he was a cheater and took the plunge any way so I’m not understanding her shock.

[@ineedhoez]

Because women have low self worth. The dont require that the men contribute much more than money. Hell, in the black culture, the men don't even do that. If she required that her husband be present, then it would have been much harder to do. These women do 100% of the child rearing. Sets you up for the okie doke!

[@franniefargo9454]

A traveling salesman! Ha ha. Always traveling salesman jokes.

[@Tyanna01]

Second story: the cost of ruining OP's wedding is half the cost of the wedding, not 15k. If OP had 15k to pay her sister all those years ago, I have a feeling her wedding might be more than 30k. If I was OP, I'd let dear sister know in advance how much half the wedding would be for making her announcement. Honestly though, OP's sister sounds like the golden child. She will get her way and the family will side with her. OP's wants and feelings be damned.

[@gerble36]

I would demand the payment of the entire wedding. Op gave her half her wedding costs when she wasn't the one that caused the drama. If op wants to make the announcement, that is a direct cause of drama, and hence worth more then the self imposed "penance" op paid out.

[@samoanjoseph1457]

I'm stuck on the part where she married a guy that didn't cancel his first engagement until he proposed to her. That would have been a deal breaker for me. It shows he had at least one other partner he wasn't done with. Or that he didn't have the decency to end things with one girl before dating another. It also means he was engaged the entire time he dated OP.

[@ineedhoez]

HUGE character fall

[@LeggoMyGekko]

“Can you please hurt my feelings so I can get a payout too?” 💀

[@justcallmebon2684]

I get so disgusted by mothers who enable this sort of behavior.

[@warnesia5276]

Story 1: OP continued a relationship with him while he was in a relationship, engaged, to someone else. This says it all. This set the pace of the marriage. Why is OP distraught? My best guess is, others have known about the other families, so Op is embarrassed that they know. OP sounded very happy until they knew. If OP was happy, OP could always continue like its a normal day and just ignore the other families. Husband seems to have managed this for 4 years perfectly. I say after year 2 and/or baby #3, in situations like this, there is no need to try to make right of this situation when the time to do so should have been when OP found out he was engaged. Celebrate the baby and continue to have a happy life with your family.

[@cheryltravels]

According to a colleague who doesn't like it. It's well known between the boys having other families is very common place. I would tell the other wives. Cause they maybe in the same place un knowingly.

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

I love the phrase “shittily impressive”. I’m gonna steal that one for later.

[@ssaharam]

Cleaning the room and these videos really pass the time

[@rebeccahayward9607]

I will never understand cheaters. One relationship is enough to keep me occupied and happy, so the fact that this guy has 3 (with children!) is just horrifying. And I LOL'd at all his friends ditching him. That's hilarious. I don't think they liked him that much, or OP is just that awesome.

[@Ravenishish]

Last story, work out your 15k with interest and then bill her an additional quarter of your wedding for the insult to the innocent party (half of your fiancé's half). Knock it together as an invoice and call it her pregnancy announcement fee. Tell her that the 15k was for the damage your ex caused to your relationship and since she's planning on doing the same kind of drama that deal is now null and void and that since your fiance is innocent in all this here's his bill for emotional damages.

[@puli_dreadhead]

How do you speed run relationships like this. My coworker got engaged after 6 months and posted it online after leaving the company. She was 19 and I was baffled because to me you need to see your relationship go through hardships before tying the knot.

[@Callimo]

Eh, it happens. Some humans click instantly with others, some need that long path to discovery. I'm a fan of taking my time as well, but that's probably because I just want to enjoy being with a person and I'm not looking as marriage as some sort of "end goal".

[@pugsabi]

My father proposed to my mother after 3 months and they got married 3 months after that. They've been together for 38 years this year.

[@ineedhoez]

Yeah, all of these people in the comments talking about my parents dated for 2 weeks and then they got married are all old as effing dirt. It's 2024, and people do not date and marry the same way they did in the 1900s. Let's stop the stupid. The average house cost $400,000 today, and you could buy a house in 1950 for 93k, in today's dollars. Shit changes. Cell phones didn't exist. The old rules of dating don't apply. At this point, if you are in a relationship that is moving incredibly fast, you can guarantee your partner is a freaking narcissist/sociopath. You can guarantee you're being loved bombed. You can guarantee you're going to be abused and financially exploited. I bet my life on it. The harder the push, the more they want to you to be intoxicated.

[@kateemma22]

Story 2 is why I cherish my completely normal and sane relationship with my sibling.

[@aylanae4797]

S1; ESH outside of the kids. When someone shows you who they are belive them! I can't feel bad for OP. And for those who have been married happily for decades 🎊 Congratulations 🎊 just like to add the timing makes a difference, so if you've been married for 10,20,30 etc..times were different the values, morals and even family mattered we are living in strange times, but I love love so to those who've found their one continued happiness and blessings, for those who are looking... love yourself enough to find your complimentary other half and never settle. Otherwise Mark may have some more stories to read 😉

[@roelthas]

2nd story is a lose-lose situation for OP, I'm sorry for her, she's gonna have a bad time whatever she chooses.

[@crem-crem4070]

Story 1: if you enter a relationship through cheating you will end the relationship because of cheating.

[@KittenUndercover]

She didn’t.

[@ynmonroe]

@@KittenUndercover Right. Not knowingly anyway

[@diamcole]

She had no idea they were together, he lied. Which honestly shouldn't be terribly surprising to anyone since the man hid the fact that he had an entire family on the side.

[@ineedhoez]

She eventually found out. She CHOSE to stay.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

If someone proposed to me at someone’s wedding, I would grab them by the ear and drag them out. Tell everyone to celebrate the happy couple and just break up with them. I would punch them but I don’t want to get arrested lol.

[@unchained_wings]

How much money is this man making to be able to afford two families and a girlfriend and at least two of them have no idea?

[@jaybea365]

Story 1: OMFG how do people manage this?!? I can't keep relations with a single partner working, let alone juggling 2-3. I am not sure if I should be impressed, or simply saddened by what our culture has come to.

[@semideadnat]

In cases like the first story I always recommend getting in touch with relatives. If you're stuck in another city or country you can have your family try and get you a ticket to move back to a place near family who will support you. If that is not an option I recommend looking into places you can stay at and programs that can support you.

[@dedrickjackson3556]

It’s very hard for me to feel sorry for people like OP in story 1

[@helenlewis2510]

So op in the first story stayed with him even after learning she was the other woman? Because that is what she was if her ex husband was still engaged to Amanda when they got married.

[@thatonecooktone]

Right? I honestly don't feel too bad for her. She knew he was engaged and still married him 😕

[@zebnemma]

If anything she was actually the mistress in the story, not the way around. She knew that... But now she's sad that it's affecting her negatively when she had no problem being a marriage wrecker herself... Hoe got her karma if you ask me. The second she found out he was actually already in a relationship with Amanda the right thing to do would have been to tell Amanda and then exit the situation gracefully.

[@segarasan]

OP's ex-husband was engaged to Amanda for the first 11 months of their relationship, making OP his affair partner, yes. he broke it off w Amanda and proposed to OP around the same time. - BUT - OP didn't find out she had been the other woman until 7 months after the wedding and ex hand-waved it away w "i knew you were The One but i was so afraid to hurt Amanda bc we'd been together so long and she really loved me". i wish OP had seen through his bullshit and realized he was just a serial cheater right then and there. just to make it clear, she did not know he had been engaged to someone else while dating her until months after the wedding, but yes she chose to believe his words and stay after that.

[@elaexplorer]

Yikes, 3 children in 4 years.

[@duboisstewart8265]

What a doormat. Why would you stay with someone who's ENGAGED to someone else WHILE you are dating? When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Man walked all over OP

[@romonaelrod7870]

Hello all of you cheeky Waffle loving so and so's. Hiya Mark and Poppy. 🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇

[@Denuhm]

I’m with you Mark, the amount of TIME these people have

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful day

[@JohnSmith-xq1pz]

This checky so and so shall Do This super quick fast before getting back to yard work **Bonk!!**

[@maggpiprime954]

I'm sitting here, eating lunch alone in my apartment, giving myself indigestion arguing with OP's petty child of a sister.

[@luckyassassin1]

I'm with Mark, how do you have the time and mental ability to cope with 3 families, and that's not even acknowledging how much money it involves to pay for all that.

[@stonefox2546]

I can see who the golden child is in story 2... "You're being petty for not letting your sister take revenge on you for something that you didn't do and you also paid half her wedding for!"

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 2: tell her if she pays for 1/2 the wedding before hand and as soon as the check clears she can announce whatever she wants!

[@heathermiller5765]

The first story kind of reminds me of the film _Frequent Flyer_ , except in the movie the guy is legally married to two women and has a new fiancée

[@Zaddy-Lu]

I left a marriage with a 2 year old, a newborn, a stroller, and a duffel bag. It was rough! But we are all okay now, and I'm definitely glad I did that. Because being homeless for over a year with 2 small children was still better than where I was. I also hadn't worked in almost 4 years and had no access to the money my spouse made. Sometimes you have to lose everything to become who you truly are.

[@Love2Banime]

S1: reminds me of that one episode from Law & Order SVU. OP's ex was trying to grow a harem. Disgusting.

[@sjbatleyshirl888]

I cant believe he had 3 families, who was he married with first. What a shock ! Take one day at a time.so proud of you kept the baby. The Lord would be pleased too, so double blessings to you and your family. God Bless.

[@JSainte17]

You thought he was a sweet, domestic kitten, then learned he was a wild bobcat and were still like "Awww, can I rub your belly sweet little kitty?" and now you're surprised he ate you?

[@honeypot8524]

Story 1: why is OP even ask what to do? Obviously divorce is the answer, it's always surprising when people don't realize that they get half of everything when they get divorced

[@ineedhoez]

This is not true. Half of marital assets acquired during the marriage.

[@cyberspinosaur1145]

'He is a VP of sales for a company that produces something that's in every house and building in America' . . . People? Guns? Water? Cheese?

[@Snowshowslow]

Cheese 🤣 Dutch approved 👌

[@julianne089]

😂

[@micaelagauthier4964]

Security systems?

[@jenniferrichards2122]

I am thinking it is appliances like a refrigerator, stove or microwave. Could even be kitchen tables.

[@micaelagauthier4964]

@@jenniferrichards2122 true

[@msredux]

We married to quick and now I see the red flags 🙄🙄🙄 that's why you need to take time and pay attention to the warnings

[@Zodikal]

Oooh I loved the advice in story 2 that someone should announce the sisters pregnancy at church before the ceremony starts! So clever!

[@jazzyg7202]

Second story: op should tell her she can announce the pregnancy as soon as she gives back the 15k. But If I was op if sister keeps up with revenge I would message everyone invited that knows my sister and announced her pregnancy.

[@roelthas]

For the first story, I feel sorry only for the kids because I have I hard time believing OP didn't willfully ignore quite a few alarming red flags.

[@kalinaphillips9779]

Story 1. OP, GET A GOOD LAWYER!!!Divorce your husband, get as much money as you can (child support, emotional damages) and NEVER allow unsupervised visits. As your MIL covered up for him, she DOES NOT deserve to be the grandma to your children. Story 2. OP, include your sister pregnancy information in YOUR speach!!! That way she will have the announcement but you will be in control.

[@pansprayers]

You mean, get a good attorney who understands that 'emotional damages' aren't a term used in family court, and do what they - not what Kalina who has no idea what Kalina is talking about - tells you to do? Unless you can prove that he did, in fact, apply for a second or third marriage licence, this isn't going to be enough grounds for you to demand supervised visits. And your insistence on playing hardball with the grandmother will only piss a judge off further. You can't have both pieces of advice hold true here.

[@kathymonahan8024]

Those type announcements should NEVER be announced at someone else’s wedding.

[@teacheschem]

Sister with baby announcement at wedding, she pays for half your wedding or $15,000 whichever is greater.

[@devchekhov7512]

Story 1. Wow...just wow Story 2. Same

[@pitviper2]

Jesus i can't imagine working and juggling 3 relationships at the same time, how thirsty can you be?

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 much love m8 hope you've been well 💜💜🤗🤗

[@Mewse1203]

Be kind, be safe and take care of yourself. Have a great day

[@gcarr1089]

Story 2 - OP should tell sister if she hasn't made her pregnancy announcement before the wedding then she can't go to the wedding. I wouldn't trust her to not say anything at the wedding no matter how much she promises.

[@Silence-1170]

Hi waffles hope your staying safe today! Wishing you all well!

[@laurenjones9924]

The multiple family thing… yeah… when my niece was a toddler and would be running around acting crazy I’d call her every name except her own including my dogs names just trying to get her attention. I can’t imagine how many wrong names this man will say to husband children.

[@paden1865able]

While I disagree with snooping in general, I can't find it within me to blame OP for digging through things to get the information about his cheating. She should make plans to get out and stay away from him. I wish her the best,

[@stay1080]

Mark, thank you for your constant and reassuring presence in my life. Thanks to you, my days feel less lonely and I sleep well at night ;)

[@tiredbylife.5589]

Story 1: He isn't a great dad. He is a terrible role model and has two broken homes to take care of. I guess he is doing the bare minimum of being in his children's lives...but that's about it. I wouldn't want his sons to pick up on his cheating and lying behaviors. I hope, if he has a girls, that she would accept this treatment or play along in this.

[@PrincessLioness]

Right. There’s no way he has time to be a fully involved parent for 2 different households while also traveling for work. He provides for them, but that’s it, especially if he went to the reunion 2 days after the birth of his child. I’m sure he’ll become less involved as they get older, especially if gets remarried and starts another family.

[@reallyisay]

A cereal cheater, Girl Run ..he won't stop, he can't it's who he is

[@CarlottaHall]

Mark, I hope that you can keep an eye OT for updates with that last story on the wedding. I would love to see how OPs sister justifies accepting that money from her and still feeling entitled to make her announcement at OPs wedding as "revenge". Sis wants revenge, she needs to go make her baby announcement at OPs ex boyfriends event and not her sisters.

[@Vallyrah]

Story 1: Advice Companies don't want to be associated with pseudo-polygamists; especially in upper management, like a VP. Offer him an NDA (non-disclosure agreement) in exchange for generous alimony. Courts generally will allow alimony if the husband is offering; just make sure that the NDA disappears if HE and only he tries to change the terms of the settlement.

[@ineedhoez]

Oh yeah that's probably in his contract probably got a morals clause

[@ItsMadyAgain]

Story 1: I'm so happy OP had such wonderful friends to fall back on and that her relationship with her mom is healing! And I'm so, so happy that she's out of such an awful situation! Being a single parent is one of the toughest jobs out there, but I believe in her. Those boys are lucky to have a mom like her.

[@Boe-Temeraire]

Oh my god. Stories like that first one make me think that having a life partner - married and legally tied or not - is absolutely not worth it!! Like damn!!

[@theshaddowedsnow6838]

i think she should go "Now, I didn't want to do this, but my sister insisted. So, I'm happy to annoucne... that I'm pregnant!"

[@plurpball3958]

Story one: “wasn’t in my way for four hours”. Yikes. How tf is that a description of a “good father”

[@ineedhoez]

Bingo!!!!

[@Atlquotl]

Story 2. "Hey sis, sure, you can make the announcement if you pay for half the wedding" 😂😂

[@listenquitely2888]

S2: have sister pay u upfront before the announcement or she will be uninvited.

[@zenya9620]

You'd think women would realize how dangerous being a sahm truly is😂

[@ineedhoez]

Whatsmore, being a stay at mom to a known liar and cheater!!!!!!

[@lauriehallberg5807]

There is an old movie with Clifton Webb (?) Called "The Incredible Mr. Pennypecker" about a man with 2 families. Based on a true story.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@FlamesofJagger]

Stay positive and take care as always Broken. Much love 🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗🤗💛💛🤗🤗🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@FlamesofJagger you too m8 much love 🤗🤗💜💜

[@maggpiprime954]

You are a flipping SWEETHEART 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@maggpiprime954 thanks m8 much love 💜💜🤗🤗

[@amilikestea433]

I think announcing the announcement is perfect. Before the speeches start OP can make their own. "My sister has a big announcement and I know some people think it's bad form to do this at someone else's wedding. But I love my sister so much that I couldn't say no." Then walk over to sister and hand her the mike OP looks like a good sister and a saint to share their special day, all while taking away her sister's power

[@NightcoreNewbie]

Story 1. I find it somewhat strange that friends of 20+ years didn't say something about the serial cheater earlier. They've known him for so long and barely decided to say anything about it only after OP found out herself. He's been cheating for years and those friends just stood by and let it happen. I think it's nice that they decided to help after OP after the divorce, but they could've saved OP so much heartache. At least OP got out of that relationship and living her best life.

[@ineedhoez]

Not their place. They were not her friends. Also, she knew he was cheater 7 months into her marriage. She chose to stay married.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark