My Story & Insights About Thai Women, Most Are Narcissistic Parasites 🙈 BEWARE 🦠🦟🇹🇭

[@thaitalkwithdan]

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[@taccntb4345]

This makes me not want to move to Thailand. I've lived in Thailand for 6 mo. in the past... There's a lot of truth in this story.. Lots of dysfunctional girls etc...

[@theguynextdoor4978]

Based on these stories, I can smell narcissism from afar. 1) Lack of empathy. 2) Poor boundary recognition. 3) Entitlement. 4) Cheating and constant need for external validation (narcissistic supply). 5) Lack of accountability. 6) Blame-shifting. 7) Controlling. 8) Verbally and physically abusive. 9) Starting smear-campaigns. 10) Can't stay single for extended periods of time, and is likely to monkey branch to another farang if he serves her better. 11) Love-bombing. They try to lock a guy down as fast as possible so the mask can drop. 12) They act like chameleons who adapt and shape-shift depending on people they are with, and environments they're in. Just some observations.

[@lifeasithappens]

Excellent observation!!!

[@bighoss9705]

Indeed

[@markmelanson6785]

your description is pretty much accurare and what he is trying to describe in this video is the same, Dan seems to be taking a more neutral position these days or wanting to be politically correct or something like that, so he can please all his viewers . An older lady at my condo, she had the police on her side for a long time, but the more complaints there were about her, to the tourist police, she got evicted.,charged and her businesses closed, she seemed to making good money but got greedy stealing deposits, double renting units,, not paying landlords their shares

[@stevekostakis2983]

Best description I have ever read.

[@guru604]

Gday guys apparently theres a Utube channel that explains and goes into great detail how to extract the most out of foreign men its hosted by a Thai national women its all in the Thai language has anyone come across this channel ???

[@doctorwatson1000]

When you're told that in Thai Culture, you must pay a dowry, and you must understand Thai culture, try responding with... "really! , we also pay a dowry in my culture, but the woman pay the man's family and farangs are very expensive."

[@Frivals]

💪💪💪

[@KuriosDiogenesJar]

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[@stevenreid1785]

Hi I’m Steve . After 15 years married to a Thai I would agree 120% with everything above you mentioned . I have studied narcissism now for nearly two years as I was severely mentally abused. Once I understood not who but WHAT she was I told her to go . I’m still being abuses even with total no contact through the courts . A Narc never stops trying to milk us . Lol .

[@brentonlett3417]

where did you meet your Thai wife and did she have friends who had been or are with farangs?

[@markmelanson6785]

Sorry to hear about your experience. Being with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic family members is the worst kind of experience you can have. Sadly in thailand this is so imbedded in the culture and also in Ph

[@Johndoc.]

He says “men are always expected to pay”…….Farangs, yes…Thai men are NOT expected to pay..for anything..ever. These girls are sent off to provide for their brothers and their fathers (who are sometimes only around 40 years old), and there’s nothing left for them. It is an impossible situation for the girls and totally unacceptable for any foreign partner. Philippines the same, from what I can see.

[@bigmack-oq1nt]

Maybe the farangs should start treating the Thai women like their fathers treat them (like sh*t). You'd probably get much better behavior from them.

[@keepitrollin3977]

This is thailand

[@getawaysnaps]

Excuse me, don't generalize women from the Philippines or any country in Southeast Asia. It depends on who you are dealing with (i.e. class, background, etc). You need to meet every single one before you judge.

[@patienceobongo]

Correct. Why Europeans think they will assimilate, adapt or fix this ancient culture is bizarre

[@carolinaramirez3686]

​@@getawaysnaps hahahaa don't generalize you know who they are ,haha

[@josephalmond3759]

There is more actionable truth in this video and in its comments than is found anywhere else. Listen to it once daily until fully absorbed, men. Pure value here. Dan is a savior. Literally.

[@markmelanson6785]

thanks its my story

[@MarkL71]

Long before I knew Thai girls I knew how to counter various states of abnormal psychology. But on the point of a Thai girl's (false) sense of entitlement, guys will either allow it or not. The thing to analyse isn't the girls - it's the guys lol. I see guys tolerating waaaay more from these girls than they would a male friend or other platonic relationship. The majority of girls have a profile of ferangs that's been set by soft ferangs who need to be wanted and want sex and it's spread amongst a certain generation, class and culture of Thai girls. And what are most guys doing in all these stories? They're reinforcing it and enabling it. Imagine if instead, this was the status quo.... 1) when I girl asked her ferang to visit their village, she'd be worried they'd hesitate or say "No! I don't want to meet your family until we've been together a lot longer" (or never if they're just a passing freelancer/bar girl) 2) if they asked for extra money (besides what they're getting) the ferangs said, "You can pay that with what I've already given you - your expenses aren't mine. 3) when they sulked, we triple-sulked back or kicked them out. 🤣🤣 [If a chick gives me the calculated sulks, she'll discover she's living in Antarctica when she comes out of it.] (Guys, here's a freebie... attention-seekers must always be met with rejection!) 4) if they weapinise sex, we weapinise generosity. Don't give in to demands. There is always another 1000 girls to choose. A man who surrenders to "snatchmail" is weak. Guys need to change the profiling and they could all start today. So although Dan presented a valid story he received, I can only laugh at the concept of, "an entitled Thai girl." They ain't got shit to be entitled about, and even less than any western ferang has too. Guys need to stop enabling this psychological terrorism. Any of you who know the bar on Soi Buakhao, Pattaya, called, "Sick Buffalo"? Been open a few years now, and guess what? QED I've not heard the "sick buffalo" story in Pattaya for a while 🤣. Maybe we need to open a string of bars with apt names to show these girls that their bullshit is viral. I'll throw it open to the readers but here are a few of mine. Screw Sin Sod My Mum Is A Pimp No Sex No Cash Sulk You Go ✌🏼 Brothers

[@user-jo3pc6cj8i]

Poetic bro

[@MarkL71]

@@MichaelKristofersen if all the "they died" stories were true, the death-toll would've reduced the pop by 50% 🤣🤣

[@spartanx169x]

I have came to the conclusion that most of the men that get taken to the cleaners, had very little to no experience dating women at all in their home countries. Most married young, and divorced late, and or went through more than one marriage. They never dated a lot, and and thus never learned women. Women in America can and do pull the same stunts. What I call the pity stories. The worst ones will get knocked up and have you paying child support for 18 years. I dodged that, but many don't. Once a man realizes there are 10,000 just like the one he is talking to, he realizes he has all the power not the female. But few come to that realization.

[@MarkL71]

@@spartanx169x true, and weren't street smart in their country either. Because bullshit so stories are the same in any language lol

[@keith-kb1zl]

No Sick Buffalo

[@fruitloops3718]

The problem is that western men try to treat relationships the same as back home. The key is not to get emotionally involved and don't invest in real estate or business. Anytime someone mentions money just tell them you don't have any. This is solid advice otherwise you'll get ground into hamburger meat by the se Asian machine.

[@rickhilton2447]

True but the same thing is true for Western women now. I have been asked for money by farang more than girls

[@guywilliamallison]

I would say Thai women have changed massively in the 14 years i have lived here with using Instagram etc. They have become like Western women that is the difference. Aggressive, self entitled, materialistic just like women in the western world.

[@tyvid]

Narcissistic Thai women - I have to agree this is definitely an observation and experience that I have had over the decade being in Thailand. I even began to research psychology and looked into narcissism and sociopathic disorders a few years back because of their behaviour. These traits I have observed in many Thai women. A lot of foreigners agree, but there are quite a few who downplay and excuse their behaviour, virtue signaling and even condoning bad behaviour ("they are poor, they need money" etc). There are a lot of lies, deception, fraud. Immoral and unethical behaviour that any civilized society would never condone. Sure, women in other countries exhibit these traits too, but overwhelmingly it is a lot more rampant here. Narcissistic women has exponentially increased IMO from the advent of social media as well. Women are hooked to their phones like an IV line in their veins, addicted to messages from men bending over backwards to get their attention. As a retired expat with a very modest income, I don't cut it with the educated, professional Thai crowd, so relationship-wise I am mostly limited to the lower socio-economic uneducated population of women - and that is where the troubles lie. They have been raised to scam, lie, deceive, swindle. So many of us are exposed to the 'trailer trash' segment of the population. 'Dog eat dog' mentality. They don't care about you. We are expendable commodities.

[@keepitrollin3977]

How true

[@markmelanson6785]

agreed, glad others can see these traits, they are inherited

[@jamesmcglynn5825]

Mate agree 100% I was with a girl , supervisor in a massive hotel chain . Done everything I could to make her life better helped her clean debt , rented a fantastic apartment close to her job in nai Yang Phuket . Flew Every few weeks from Australia where I live to see her . Didn’t go for 3 weeks and she cheated , Blamed me for not going to visit her every 3 weeks and at the same time telling me she loves me until I accused her , stay away from Thai girls . They are sluts , philipino much better ❤️

[@grantr7682]

@@MichaelKristofersen I've certainly done this too and enjoy it greatly. Not criticizing you and you probably already know this, but it's much better to just leave and potentially to ghost.

[@johnctex]

I married a Thai women and now I'm going through a divorce with her. We have been married for over 15 years and I was blinded by love and didn't recognize the signs of narcissism. Everything you talked describe the Thai woman I have been married too. She can't see past the nose on her own face to see that she's a narcissist. Now that we are going through a divorce our mutual friends see the truth now. She definitely has that since of entitlement and is very manipulative. I can't say that for all Thai women but the one I married definitely is.

[@bitemenow609]

I have first hand knowledge of this situation. The very old worn out men, who have money to burn, Allow their 20 year old girlfriend to burn it for them. I see them everyday. But men who are substantial and able bodied should be smart enough to know when they are being abused. I am 62 very well off, and in good shape. My guard is WAY up on any woman. I think myself a very honest person, and expect to be treated the same way. So knowing your parameters is very important with being here. DO NOT settle for anything less.

[@markmelanson6785]

absolutely, same here, im kind as well.once they abuse my kindness or see it as a weakness, i let them go...

[@bitemenow609]

@@markmelanson6785 Kindness is almost always mistaken for weakness. In the USA when I was dating a lot in my 40s and 50s many of the girls were looking for a macho jerk. They made me shake my head.

[@donnazukadley7300]

Not all of us American women seek a macho jerk. ​@@bitemenow609

[@emeldahay]

A cancer diagnosis is more positive than 90% of Dan's stories. Lol.

[@keithd1219]

🤣🤣🤣

[@lifeasithappens]

That’s the reality of dating or marriage to a Thai woman !!!

[@AlexofCharmCity]

​@ Life As It Happens its the reality of increased views/traffic come from negatively skewed videos.

[@johncitizen9996]

​@@lifeasithappensa Thai hooker you mean. Thai women are lovely and don't care about stealing your money.

[@Wonderwall36]

@@AlexofCharmCity Yes, you could be right. People LOVE negative videos, makes them feel better about their current situation.

[@TonyKeepingItClean]

Probably my favourite of all your videos so far and I find most of what Doug said to be true. It’s all about using you for what they can get. Sometimes that can take a while to sink in, but anyone with any sense will see that their heads and hearts are pulling in different directions. It was only when I returned to England and took a step back, that I realised what was really happening. If you let the Thai lady take charge, you’re probably going to get your pants pulled down, and not in a good way.

[@flexmesss]

Let any woman take charge you are in trouble. Name a female animal that leads over the male species. Exactly.

[@TonyKeepingItClean]

@@flexmesss very true. And when that happens, they tend to lose respect for you. Doug also said that they are child like, which I thought was also true. Always testing the boundaries.

[@markmelanson6785]

Absolutely..they are brutal

[@markmelanson6785]

thanks im doug, its very true

[@WillyEckaslike]

" Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another. " Henry Lewis Mencken (1920)

[@genestone4951]

So true! There's really only one woman, in billions of bodies all over the world.

[@retro7924]

I remember on my short 6 months in Thailand I met an English guy through his gfs sister a former student at the school I taught at . His apparent gf was his secretary who she had to keep secret from her family that they were actually in a relationship even though he had agreed to build a house for her mom(Insane). He was very cocky and full of bravado but she was controlling him at every opportunity. We celebrated new years together in the countryside at a bar not far from the town where I worked. I enjoyed the company of the locals as they were very funny and we lashed down the alcohol but her behavior was annoying and at one stage she slapped her farang boyfriend in the face all because he didn,t clap after her awful kareoke . He was crying in response ,it was so pathethic . For a then 26 year old ,it was a good lesson learned.

[@paulfoley7780]

Love your channel Dan, I think it’s brilliant what you do. You keep things real, keep up the great work, hopefully you have saved a lot of people from making big mistakes in their lives, thank you

[@johnbev2]

My first time there, I was told one rule… if they ask for money they are bad. leave them find a good one. I did meet a gal she was super. I really like her she never asked for money. I could have fell for her. But I came back to the USA. Keeped in contact with her. Then one day I got a email from someone, asking if I knew where she was. She had taken someone for a million plus. And they were looking for her. I would have never ever though she was that kind of a lady. It sadden me she was like that. But for the most part 99% of the time its about the money.

[@user-tg5ck5hh2n]

Mine asked for money 8 months down the line. She was playing the long con with me. Pay for car 300000 baht and debt 500000 baht. The clever ones size you up and wait for the right time to pounce.

[@glen7849]

The most I agree with here with your comment at the end, we're still a visitor living in their country and should keep our values towards a relationship but not get upset about the culture of the country we choose to live in but I've never had trouble in my marriage to my wife here, took my time and I did have the advantage of my brother being married to a Thai woman here for 30yrs so she pretty much made sure I was okay with my choices and gave me serious advice on who I dated before meeting my wife, I think most of the problems with men moving here and meeting women is most are over 50, expecting a beautiful 18 to 29yr old being in love with them for them, I'm not saying if you're 60 find 60yr old women, just don't expect a girl to be in love with you, find someone over 30 at least if you're much older and definitely don't find a woman in a tourist area, you have less than 1% of it working out

[@thaitalkwithdan]

Wis advice Glen 👍

[@carolinaramirez3686]

I know someone who married a 30+ when he was 40 but again she made him buy a house and then call the police, 😂😂😂 you are an exception UNTIL NOW but don't push men to do it since most will be over abused

[@glen7849]

@@carolinaramirez3686 you just never get pressured to buying the house in the wife's name unless you're willing to lose that amount of money and it won't effect your finances, what you're talking about happens every other day here, there's too much family pressure on the daughter's

[@brentonlett3417]

You are 100% right. I'm 65 and my Thai partner is 50. She never asks for money she often pays. She works 12 hour shifts as a nurse. She is loving and caring. She wants companionship like most of us do. She has a home she owns. Most who complain about Thai woman have problems because of how they meet them. You wouldn't get a farang coming to Thailand and moving to Mae Hong Son straight away then looking for a girlfriend, they go to where other farangs are and meet girls there. The Girls go there because its where they will meet farangs. The type of Thai woman who move to these places are in it for money. They don't come from Pattaya or Phuket, its not their home town, they're not locals. They move there for opportunity and the farang is opportunity. Often they are schooled up by professionals who get a cut. I was staying in Chiang Mai where I met my GF outside of any tourist area, we got on well and are similar in nature and needs, we are well matched. This guy Dan is a KZbinr and needs the clicks so he does topics that attract traffic. His topics do have truths but are slanted.

[@bigal2417]

Ur comments at the end were the fairest and honest and pretty much spot on I've heard from you Dan.

[@jonhobson3592]

Well said , my gf works, earns ok money , I buy her some clothes sometimes , & most of the food , she does buy things for me occasionally.. I have said before to her I am not rich , 90% of my money stays in uk , live off monthly pension ..

[@smileoften-ft3hq]

Balance is good 👍

[@davidcarlton946]

Fully agree with your comments at the end Dan. I actually fast forward through the story as it was starting to do my head in. Lived here for 10+ years and have learnt from experience. Wish there had been channels like this 10+ years ago! Would have saved me some cash and time 🙂

[@Wonderwall36]

Dan is saving me some future cash & time. Dan's practicing preventative medicine. I'm going back there in January 24. Thank you, Dr Dan.

[@fruitloops3718]

After reading the comments, I am happy to know that my thoughts are similar. I was starting to thing I am a bad man for having these thoughts on how to treat these people. Thank you for this great video.

[@markmelanson6785]

Not bad at all...its reality here it is just shocking and unbelievable its accepted as culture and close family..

[@dorothyrubyredmunchkin]

Well said Dan, referring to your end comment. My husband and I retired here last November from the US and absolutely love this country. I am totally addicted to your vlogs. They have helped me as a woman have a better understanding of what this culture is about, so thank you for that. And I know the stories are not and do not include all Thai women just like everyone in the US is not a gangster or gun enthusiast. As a 'mature ' woman myself with a daughter and 2 sisters I know all women can at some time in their life be a little moody, jealous, controlling ect. You fill in the blank. I can only speak for myself but I don't know how my husband puts up me sometimes; but he does and I love him deeply for it. Anyway I'm starting to go off in a different direction...my point is: Thank you Dan for your hard work on this channel!!

[@hsorhaug]

I've been happily married to a thai woman now for 6 years, and the story Dough sent you, is very different from my experiences. I am quite shure that he is only talking about poor Isaan girls from the bar industry. We are living in Norway, and my wife is working full time here. I trust her 100%, and my family loves her too. I think all depends where you find your girlfriend or wife. I don't agree with Dough at all, but maybe I was just lucky 😊

[@charming_farang1071]

My partner is brilliant complete opposite to the stories on here. I couldn't meet a better woman than her

[@lifeasithappens]

Even a blind squirrel finds a nut sometimes 😂

[@mclarenF1race]

I was happily married for 6 years... until she got citizenship... I wish you all the best in the future but keep your eye on things brother 😊

[@sidudumba]

@@mclarenF1race sorry about that,that’s what most people looking for a better life do.

[@mclarenF1race]

@sidudumba she already had Swedish citizenship... I think she's collecting them lol 😆

[@vickarch]

Thank you! A very factual video. One of your best video.

[@stevekostakis2983]

Dan…I have listened to this video three times this morning. It’s 100% TRUE. This is your finest work. Well done

[@markmelanson6785]

thanks btw im doug

[@Sick_Buffalo]

He is absolutely correct! Excellent analysis. Tribalism, herd mentality and narcissistic parasitism. That pretty much sums it all up.

[@paulineryan579]

After reading these comments there seems to be many men who are very aware of the pitfalls of associating with Thai women. What I don't understand is why you keep falling for it? You reap what you sow guys. Wake up!

[@rogertse7617]

Thank you so much, I can relate a lot to this experience.

[@BillyWarpinjur]

PT Barnum: "There's a sucker born every minute" Could be YOU! Thanks Dan

[@genestone4951]

There's a new sucker landing every minute at Suvarnabhumi airport.

[@bijanbayne3259]

After two invigorating days in BKK, I'm in Central Pattaya across fr. Witherspoon's

[@ScorpionX669]

The author of this story is brilliant. Bravo

[@markmelanson6785]

thank you, that would be me

[@rtube420]

You look less stressed and more health. Your face has got a glow and is getting clearer and clearer by the day every since you left that woman

[@bitemenow609]

They are raised like this. Some do not see anything wrong with their desires to get better. Mine was a good girl. She did not see the wrong in anything she did. I dumped her. Not because she was evil. Just like most women in the west. They have expectations that include, House Cars and fancy things. Yet, Men in the west understood this requirement and put up with it. Its best to keep it on a business level with Thai girls.

[@user-tg5ck5hh2n]

The difference is that these girls are sleeping with 4 or 5 men at the same time and have you on a roster and don't give a fuvk about your feelings. They are con artists and will sleep you and everyone else without a condom to give you the girl friend experience to hook you. This is prostitution. Sleeping with men you are not attracted to for money in the form of a salary and car repayment.

[@HairyPixels]

"other sources of income" probably means credit cards. These people have so little forward thinking they can't be trusted with credit cards or debt in general.

[@tgpok4r]

Hi Dan, another good insight into a relationship with a Thai lady,,, my experience is they can say anything, ie i don’t need your money i have my own etc, this is to win you over once they have done this that attitude changes, and if you DONT give them what they ask for they will drop you like a hot coal and walk away, most do not understand the word truth, ,,, sad but true,

[@markmelanson6785]

once you know why they are attracted to you, and its not about who you are rather what you are,,, and when they know you know that,,,the relationship ends, its important to block them though, they ll come back to you if they dont find another source of supply, im sure they have friends coaching them as well...

[@user-tg5ck5hh2n]

100%. This just happened to me now after 8 months. Patcha 44 from ubon ratchathani. Be careful.

[@riccardoklytta923]

This story sums it up. I didn't want to admit it for a long time, but unfortunately it is as described in the article. This applies to barmaids as well as to women with a normal job

[@stevekostakis2983]

100% true…I have experienced this.

[@Freedom-33]

What he says about Thai mothers and daughters is 100% true. The mothers bleed their daughters dry. Treat them as a commodity

[@keith-kb1zl]

I remember reading a comment from a guy who had been with a Thai girl for a long time who was so emotionally cold towards him, he said he asked her one day if she ever even really loved him . her response: “ I have no use for love, I can’t buy it, I can’t sell it , I can’t eat it, what is love , it’s worthless “ or words to that effect.. my friend was in a relationship with a Vietnamese Woman , very similar cold, distant, emotionally detached, he gave her flowers for her birthday, she just chucked them .

[@Freedom-33]

@@Rodderz1 A lot of contributing factors go into it which make it what it is. -Lack of a pension system -No/limited social security -Most families hold onto land and keep it within the family for generations (so the children are getting pay-back in those situations) -Heavy loan-based culture. On average, the country has some of the highest consumer debt in the world. Household debt to GDP = 91.3% -In most cases, it is a culture of the young take care of the old (admirable) -Gambling issues -In some cases, young being taken advantage of. I "think" some see their children as their nest egg but even in those cases, they are paying for education, trying to teach them English, trying to get them abroad to better their lives bunch of stuff to consider

[@sidudumba]

I am just a woman enjoying listening to your subscriber stories as my ex married an EA woman and am here to hear the stories .it didn’t end well for him though.It’s been ages,moved on but worry for my nephews and recent tick too trends of passport bro’s.

[@bighoss9705]

Getting a good laugh aye? 😂

[@sidudumba]

@@bighoss9705 I am 😊

[@JamesBondEsq.]

@sidudumba Agreed about what's coming for the Passport Bros! From what I see on KZbin, the walls are already starting to crumble on these brothas. They're learning the hard way that many Thai ladies are fit, feminine, ruthless and ferocious. 🤣

[@sidudumba]

@@JamesBondEsq. time will tell

[@marlothedobermantv6992]

@@JamesBondEsq. check out travel time wit paul channel. He speaks about this very topic.

[@Fredthedog]

Love the council estate birds comparison, classic!!!😅😅😅

[@Chronicstate187]

Brilliant and absolutely 100% true

[@markmelanson6785]

yep i know i wrote it

[@soidog154]

Great story, very well written and I have to agree with this the Thai issan woman are totally wired differently the mother will always come first they will beg, borrow and scam to keep there mothers happy so you have to look at the beginning of the problem it's there mother's , so if you find a good honest issan girl you will probably find she has a good hearted mother behind her who has taught her good values and sin sod if you love the woman and don't make some sort of payment she will not marry you as her mother again would say man no good remember mother is God

[@jonhobson3592]

‘Council estate type bird ‘ 😅 funny comment .. invest little £ ..

[@rickylee6129]

Good Video Dan 😊. Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏

[@pauliepaulie6588]

I get it Dan & agree to an extent …. I’ve been with my Thai wife for over 6 years & never been happier. We are now living in Melbourne, Australia but met in Nonthaburi (about 1hour from Bangkok) as she’s a government worker but did grow up in maha sarakham in issan (country). We date for almost 3 years before we made the move back to Australia,my family adore her & she is loving, caring & respectful, she works here & very smart with her money , we both respect each others culture & celebrate each other’s holidays . Whenever she wants something she asks if she can buy it, I reply “it’s your money” she replied in my country I must ask the husband before I spend money & I though the sentiment was sweet & appreciate that she thinks before spending. My wife is a very traditional lady & I must say being that she is educated & has a bachelors & masters degree does have a difference compared to the other ladies I met before meeting my wife , she doesn’t ask for money or expect it but every 6 months we both put together a little money to her parents not for anything but to show appreciation for how they raised their daughter. She values the traditional gender rolls & I never have to ask her to do anything as she knows her roll as that’s the way she was brought up & I know my job as a provider & protecter so we get on really well. If there was a disagreement of any kind which has only been a few it’s discussed like adults & she doesn’t hold a vendetta against you like the Aussie Girls do here for months. Like Dan said , you can find a good one but have to take your time & look in the right places. I guess most of dans car crash stories relate to bar or ex bar girls / massage girls which my wife never was but I can understand why they think this way, my father use to say “hang around trash or con men & you will become it “ I believe not to discriminate but in my search before I met my wife it was easy to tell the non educated ones from the educated (not in every case) but it raises your chances of success if you can find an educated one who has a simple life (NOT HI-SO). DO YOU THINK I GOT LUCKY OR DO YOU THINK THIS IS ACHIEVABLE TO A FARANG ??????

[@smileoften-ft3hq]

Lots find wonderful loving relationships. Dans style attracts more the failed relationships that Dan proritises to report. Enjoy your relationship and love life ❤🙏

[@thaitalkwithdan]

It's all o get bombarded with, I'm currently uploading a happy story now but I just hardly get any or hear about any living here

[@smileoften-ft3hq]

@@thaitalkwithdan ok. Will work on that. My story is happy only its a 69 farang with a 60 thai lady and in relatively early stage. U think you would get two views and one comment on a story like that 🤔 Appreciate you sharing your soul searching as that applies to any age is my thinking. Remember peace, love and understanding ( ok I am bit hippie) Take care.

[@thaitalkwithdan]

I don't care about the views mate I just like to share with everyone as long as it's a true to life story someone will enjoy it 😁👍

[@smileoften-ft3hq]

@@thaitalkwithdan Good 👍 will write sometime with my big meat hooks as me mum called my hands , now on a tiny smart ass phone 😁

[@garyroey4445]

Doug is bang on. Married divorced , all down to mother ,or the daughter thinking she had to provide for her . I wanted to build something with my wife ,with all the restrictions on ownership . Western men are obliged to trust these women . If the government alow men to own their business , house land , the place would boom . The best advice is to find an orothange, Because these families will have the hand in your wallet, till its all gone . You would think that if you start a buisness with a lady the family would be happy and let it grow , so eventually you had made money and could help them . The only way is ownership rights . Wake up thai government this is harming thailands reputation and investment from the west . Cheers Dan

[@alexandersmith9499]

Not sure why so many people have such horrible luck with Thai women. There are MANY fantastic women here who are faithful, true, open and very warm and loving. Sure I have seen and heard of the examples you expose on your show, so I know they are true stories. My point is that it is very easy to avoid, IMO. BOTH of my wives are wonderful women. For nearly 25 years I have had a wonderful life with them. There are ups and downs like any relationships but I think it is fairly easy to an aware man to know who is worth trying for a relationship....I am NOT rich by any means. They are clearly not in it for the money. Everyone hopes for a stable and financially secure life - western woman and Thai women. Gold diggers are not unique to Thailand. Narcissism is common everywhere!

[@John-rr9nq]

I don’t see the problem of giving a young beautiful Thai girl a monthly donation if she is living with you and your 50 something and she is 20 something My wife costs me and lately my 21 year old daughter is costing me more Face facts all women are money pits The pressures they face from family is huge and it must be appeased with a monthly sacrifice 🤣

[@genestone4951]

You will do fine in Thailand. Many/most men won't. Women are indeed money pits; in Thailand tho, YOU have the money and therefore YOU make all the rules. If you EVER give up that leverage (usually from buying her a house that you pretend is yours), then you've given up the only leverage you have. Even the farang victims of this mostly never truly understand what I'm saying.

[@carolinaramirez3686]

I do agree but some of them do until the point to ended up living on the street at 50+

[@keith-kb1zl]

Yes, men complain about high maintenance women in the states and they get deceived into thinking a Thai or Philippines girl will be happy with a bowl of rice and they can live on 600$ a month in a third world country. then they complain about women over there costing them money 😂😂😂 if you’re not willing to spend money on a wife or girlfriend just get yourself a dog 😂😂

[@msporter1]

Narcissism as a culture... Mind Blown.

[@kevkloster3259]

100% every word correct 😊

[@freedomformen2548]

Very interesting video. This is what I also experienced every day in Thailand. Except for the few good people I have met in the last 23 years in Thailand, most of the people there are very greedy, selfish, crooked and narcissistic. I can write hundreds of stories here about how incredibly selfish and how they use people in the most devious ways. They are real monsters. Cheers Dan 💪

[@thaitalkwithdan]

Yeah you have to experience it to truly understand it 🤷 loads of mental issues here 🙈

[@Boom38119]

Question. Since you've been there for a while, how do you navigate that dealing with most of the people being that way b/c i've been called an asshole due to being very blunt and honest and I have no problem telling a person to F'Off when they show their true colors.

[@markmelanson6785]

true

[@michaelwright5976]

Hit the nail on the head 100%

[@raymondturner9441]

Well said Dan, you're reply to the story is spot on

[@HairyPixels]

I love the economics and philosophy on why the 3rd world is the 3rd world. I've spent so much time thinking about this over my time living in Thailand. These stories are very welcome for me.

[@thomasonderko1063]

Hello Dan,TJ here.Im American and have better unraveled more of my life black holes through listening to your vlogs . I'm currently maturing a thesis adult interaction always has opportunity for setup. Thanks I believe so many of our life interactions can be awareness enhanced through story telling. I'm life plan altered myself.My once dream life got repacked by getting within a females influence zone. Perhaps the selfish crushing interaction from others can be in advance stopped by sharing the outcomes you present from your contributetors . Thanks coach!!

[@cfc1001001cfc]

3,000,000 THB = $88,028.19 U.S. Oof! It seems that the essential key to being successful in life in general, and life as a long-term expat in Thailand in particular (i.e. not a 2 week millionaire scenario), is self-control. Can you really limit yourself to X number of drinks per day or per week? Can you stick to doing ST once or twice a week and avoid any longer term arrangements and adhere to your monthly budget? Can you walk away from a beautiful (but insane and/or manipulative) woman when logic dictates that this is the right thing to do? It's easy for some to think they can, but fall short when these sort of temptations are offered to them.

[@TonyKeepingItClean]

Good point. We need to take responsibility for our actions always.

[@nostringsguy185]

This is a very good point. You might start out with the best of intentions, but there is one thing that is absolutely corrosive when it comes to rules and intentions, and that's loneliness. That can break down the strongest set of rules and lead to very bad outcomes.

[@NicolaSturgeon-pl4bs]

Thai Chinese women are completely different. Finding any partner shouldn't be based on race or looks but a common bond. Words of wisdom aside, Thai Chinese women are totally different but then it's a lot harder to bump into them and start dating them. They tend to want to date their own kind or men of a similar age and with a decent salary. Dating pretty, young, Ian girls isn't going to end well if you are a low income, middle aged man.

[@Nordic_Sky]

If you're a high-income, middle-aged man, it can work out quite well!

[@NicolaSturgeon-pl4bs]

@@Nordic_Sky not sure what point, if any, you are making.

[@Nordic_Sky]

@@NicolaSturgeon-pl4bs What point "if any" you're making? OMG. Too funny.

[@NicolaSturgeon-pl4bs]

@Kris A move along...nothing to see here.

[@Nordic_Sky]

@@NicolaSturgeon-pl4bs You're absolutely correct. Nothing to see here.

[@johnexpatthailand2142]

Spot on. What about the compulsive lying without any guilt

[@Masta2A]

Great story and well put together and read

[@L-Nino]

Doug! Well said!! You are preaching the gospel brother, and the only thing I could say, was AMEN!!!!!!! But never invite the devil into your home. If you have a girl moving in? That is a deadly sin! whoever does that with these girls will pay dearly usually in blood and treasure. And only misery will follow. If you want to cohabitate with a female anywhere in the world, The rule should be one year after sex. And after spending at least 1,000 hours with a girl you will know everything you need to know about her and if you still think it’s a good idea go for it!

[@brianwarshow129]

It is not only the women. I had long ago tried to make peace with the concrete understanding that in Thailand, you do in fact pay for kindness/"love". While it is common in the rest of the world, in LOS, it is the rule. Even in the market, if you buy some mangoes from a different seller and they see it, their blood will secretly boil. How dare you give your money to another? Yes, jealous over a few mangoes. You are a pet that pays it's owner, that is how you are viewed. This is problematic narcissism defined. In terms of "love", It simply does not exit in the delusional way westerners think it does, it is always 100% transactional by design. The only comforting fact is they do it to their own family, friends and neighbors as well. You're only special and easier to pull the trigger on because deep down inside they know that you are sort of sub-human, you're not Thai.

[@swayp5715]

Well put !

[@treangeles5922]

Very true.

[@rodneybradbury2880]

Thai girls are not all the same i have been with many but agree that most of them will suck the life out of you financially. But the Thai woman i live with in Australia i have been with 6 years and married 1 year is the best girl i have ever had she works here and pays the bills very generous woman even to friends she always wants to give them things and looks after me like a king i was married before to Aussie woman for 31 years and i can tell you there is no comparison and i will never have another Weston woman.

[@stevemorris3751]

Good one Dan

[@guyvandercruycen2830]

This man did the right thing. Stay single and enjoy Thailand. Just say "no" to the Thai woman. If she really wants to be with you on your terms she will be with you and live with you.

[@jeromesalem4369]

Dan thank you I love your insights. And i love the little animals you pepper in with your videos!😂😂😂

[@burrosification]

Fantastic break down of the psychology of the situation. Same in Colombia

[@markmelanson6785]

yes

[@senianns9522]

Would you ever run around with such a type of woman in your own country? Probably not --unless you're totally inane! So why get involved here?- Just look at some of the videos of all the old Farangs walking about in Pattaya with young asset strippers! Do not get involved --it will cost you dearly!

[@stevemorris3751]

Great information Dan will be in Thailand next July to Chiangmai

[@user-mw3bc7ks3m]

Well said , 100% Correct

[@onetrubrit6151]

Doug, oh you mean the Legend who is also known as Doug 👏🏼 not a single lie told and analysis spot on.

[@Wonderwall36]

Nice to see you love your son to bits.

[@thaitalkwithdan]

Thanks mate, I'm loving having him with me, it's day 7 today of having him full time on my own and it's been fun 😁

[@JamesBondEsq.]

Good luck trying to get a man's head squared away before (or after) he sets foot in The Land of Smiles. Just as a military does it's best to train and condition soldiers for the rigors of combat, upon first contact with the enemy, it's said that many soldier's brains "turn into liquid and drain through their ears". Same thing happens when many men make contact with a pretty young thing wearing makeup and perfume. The power of the "p" renders some men completely powerless over their actions and emotions. The "p" is pure kryptonite!

[@user-tg5ck5hh2n]

And their "p's" do not look like elephant ears like those of big boned western women. That's the allure. That's yellow fever. Sweet , tight Asian "p"

[@user-hv3uj4uj7x]

This bloke is the first that is spot on for me ...also as believer in Buddhist values it amazes me that Thai people act and do so much that is against Buddhist principles. In a survey Thailand is supposedly 95 % Buddhist. I'm yet to see this in action.

[@Takumawakanda]

I was just thinking this a second ago hearing all these stories and thought about the Buddhist religion it’s nutz … but then again same thing for the west Christianity and all the other religions are tainted to hell nowadays even Muslim I knew some Muslims out there having sex before marriage being Haram 😂 there’s hardly a belief in these systems ….. im in spirituality and even that is screwed and twists it it’s own ways but it is what it is .. polarity and duality … can’t have good without the bad doing it’s thing somewhere lol the Human experience

[@kyms9390]

As a western woman these popped onto my feed & I find the stories interesting. I do wonder a couple of things though, once the lust has died down and they are nagging at you in broken english for money & also the fact that they do seem quite socially inept, sit on thier phones and act quite juvenile what do you actually manage to talk about given that apart from the lust you would have little in common with them, doesnt it get a little old ? Secondly how does thier life turn out when they have this scam, love for sale, money obsessed nature....do they ever want or get a nice mutually respectful, loving and happy relationship or are they just living a shallow prostitute life till thier old age.,,just curious ??

[@NeilSkeldon]

I think for many that is the case, just had mine act in a bored attention seeking way 20 mins into a 1976 version of the film we will be going to the cinema to watch tmo. Making me wonder what the point in venturing out to cinema for quality time is worth.. add any venture out to see do things to that logic and well, yeah. Fyi im 2.5 yrs into the relationship where ive lived there for 20 years and we’ve met in Thailand and are both in UK now, the UK time together has exposed and aplified the negatives tenfold unfortunately.

[@shitestirrer6973]

Thai bar girl scamming farang must be a rare event 😂

[@MickSchwager-gu5wp]

I agree with his dude, i wouldn't date a Thai

[@lizmacleod8903]

As an British person living in the far east for more than 3 years, it may be helpful to understand for example the Thai people and their reasoning. In the West and Europe, we take it for granted that the basis of all our cultures and laws are based on Judeo-Christian values. Not the Thai people are bad , but their reasoning and actions are based on Bhudist teachings to some. Some loosely adherent to Bhudist teachings. Please understand the difference.

[@markmelanson6785]

Dan, you described this video in your opening as controversial, and that you possess a different opinion than the author of this story. You also indicated that his story was more about poor girls from poor villages. Please do not only warn your viewers about poor girls or bar girls. I am sure it is not limited to them. In a previous video Doug described his relationships with Thais, and that he never dated a lady from any village other than Bangkok. He dated professional educated women. I hope after reading all the comments below, and in time that you have an even deeper understanding of Thai women, particularly from these enmeshed toxic greedy families, which is a large enough segment of the population. These sociopathic narcissistic traits, are genetic/inherited. This applies to all classes and income levels and is wide spread in SEA, and passed on to the next generation. Narcissism is not a poor mans disease. Narcissists engage in behaviors that provide immediate gratification, that they can gain something from, that are financially beneficial to them$$$, for increased social status, ego, power over others, and life is a game to them. They simply care about the rewards, and themselves. And enough is never enough.They also dont care about their reckless behavior or whose lives they destroy in the process. Some of these ladies become actual heroes to their family and are a type of surrogate spouse to them. This is a fact, and a symptom of the narcissistic family system. I know this is the case for many ladies I dated and know. And they are not from poor villages. They are living with a parent and like a spouse to them.There are some better Thais, more enlightened that are not ignorant, to how many of Thai women are, and the culture itself. Myself, I met a Taiwanese lady at Changwattana, she worked at a university, told me it was disgraceful how her colleagues shared ways to take advantage of foreigners. I think the author of the story was brave to share his insights and concerns, wishing to warn men of their abuse. You also made fun of his use of the word WARY, at the end of the video. In some ways you discredited him. As far as your comment at end as well; that we are here and cannot criticize their culture, that doesn't make it acceptable. For you information they would be very offended if people used and treated them the way they treat others. I will leave you with this: “Unfortunately, the truth offends some, or they will insist it is not abuse in their culture, and rationalize it somehow as they do in Thailand and the Philippines. However, I am sorry but ABUSE is ABUSE, no matter where you are, and it’s the same for all humans.” Don’t get pulled into it, because they call it culture, or close family. Don’t let your judgement be clouded for the sake of political correctness. This will only cause damage to you or others by doing so. “Cultural evolution”, constitutes the process where traits vary, and are inherited via social learning, beliefs, customs, attitudes and so on. Similar in aspects, but not the same as biological and genetic evolution. “Cultural inheritance”, is defined as storage and transmission of information, imitation, teaching and learning. Which is transmitted by the mind verse genes. A genetic base does exist though, in determining the structure of the brain (Peedicayil, 2023). The fact is, being in a relationship in this culture it is not about love. Just like their daughters have, you also have a role as the boyfrien or husband, in this narcissistic family hierarchy, and you will always be treated as an outsider to them. The more you are willing to open your eyes, the more you begin to see. It may seem unreal, unbelievable even, but it’s not. They are a lot of domestic family issues, single parenthood, teen parenthood, poverty, and other social problems that exist here. It’s is definitely their GREED, self- centeredness, sense of entitlement and family influence that has caused most of their problems. Thank you Doug for sharing your story

[@michaelcampbell2676]

thats a nicely worded e mail...agree with it all....good video again,,,,thanks

[@markmelanson6785]

thank you

[@UPROAR1]

Nailed it!!!

[@moneyfornothing6793]

Good advice Dan. Go slow, don't be splashing the cash. Unfortunately some girls are very devious. I made plenty of mistakes. You can still have fun and decent relationships if your sensible.

[@crbbaldwin]

Spot on article and true

[@GUITARTIME2024]

In America, we'd say "trailer park" women, or maybe "ghetto/hood" chicks.

[@keithd1219]

Nothing bitter about the title of this video 😂

[@Meanredmachine8]

Man I musta hit the lottery then. My Thai wife of 13 years is nothing like any these stories on your channel.

[@chrisnamaste3572]

You got in just before social media took over. Men seem to have no clue.

[@Meanredmachine8]

Man you hit the nail on the head!!

[@Meanredmachine8]

@@Rodderz1 lich man?

[@Meanredmachine8]

@@Rodderz1 still dont understand. Must be a British or Irish slang?

[@M.R.T.V.Videos]

Yes very very common in all of southeast asian countries

[@internationalfranchisealli5547]

Council Estate type 🤣🤣🙂😂🤣

[@tonnyluca]

I am having a Thai girlfriend too and I tried to understand as much as I could about her Thailand and their culture. I am fully agree with the analysis made by this person. There are many not so right characteristics of this Thai culture. The main point I want to make is this: We are not compatible, Everything what a man tries to do, it will be a hard work. We will never ever change the nature of their character ingrained their brain. If you think you can be lucky find a good one, it is like winning a lottery, how many winners and how many losers. The only real option for us in Thailand is to have fun and nothing else. I did't listen to this advise and now I am in a relationship with a beautiful much much younger sex toy and she is having all the problems everyone are talking about. I know it will never last, and I am preparing myself to exit this in the least painful way...

[@philly1776]

Come on man we all should know the deal. Every single one of them has snakes in their head. The key is to find the one with the least amount of snakes. And it is always and forever about money. What you have to hope for is that what she brings to the table is equal or close to equal with what you bring to the table.

[@J.mac35]

I have to say its a strange way the parents operate with there children, I heard a story on a different page about one girl who works in a bar but rarely goes home because as soon as she does she is completely emptied of any money she has because her parents and brother completely clear her out ! The thing is they go on spending sprees and basically waste everything she has which in my opinion is pretty sad. There just doesnt seem to be a thought fuck the parents let them take care of themselves and how about getting your money and settin yourself up for the future, go get a education set yourself up but im guessing the cycle just keeps repeating itself

[@robertsearle1898]

How true that is, not everyone - but too many times the girl of the family has to support the brothers and parents.

[@J.mac35]

@Robert Searle very sad indeed , I can understand help and take care a bit of course but I can't really get my head around how the if the girl has a child her and her parents aren't trying to put money towards that childs future so they can finnally break the cycle and get them out of poverty but they just dont seem to think any into the future but im guessing thats all they no and dont really want to change 😐

[@singas2854]

I find it totally irresponsible of the parents not to plan for the future

[@nostringsguy185]

Very much a live for today approach, handed down across the generations, isn't it. Breaking the mould seems almost impossible for them.

[@nikopotts1399]

Third world countries family comes first regardless, you will never be family only the ATM.

[@soup-nazi6824]

Just got back from Thailand a week ago & the longest I kept a woman around for was 2 days & that was too long because she was already starting to ask for more money & get annoying 😅 so I ditched her & didn't look back...

[@internationalfranchisealli5547]

That is the way to do it... period.

[@fulldakait1408]

Gotcha seinfeld.

[@ATIWatchReviews]

There's some truths there that's for sure. And no culture, economic system or people are immune from criticism, just because you're not a native.

[@user-vl5ny7zx4n]

Hi mate was really touched by your video on losing custody of your son. If you have time please give me an update 😢😢

[@haroldgregory4807]

I would never never date a Thai lady I live in Thailand for 18 years.iv got a lovely loas lady been with her 12 years And yes am 64 she 54 works out well😊

[@stevend8785]

I heard no lies here. You can say you don’t like it but you can’t call him a liar. You can say most of the same things about Filipino women. They might be better actresses, at least in the beginning.

[@eddiejohnson4434]

“Freeloading lazy parents” sounds harsh. But if you knew western parents who were okay with what their daughters were doing as long as they sent them money, you’d have harsh words for those parents too. And I don’t just mean bar girls, most westerners wouldn’t be okay with their daughter sleeping with random foreigners to give money to the parents.

[@mclarenF1race]

Bet this guy gets married to a Thai bird next year!!! 😂😂😂... or maybe not lol