My TERRIBLE Thai/British MARRIAGE

[@milkncookie]

Remember gentlemen, she is not yours, it's just your turn.

[@nickpace3417]

Three minutes in....."I fell in love with a girl at a soapy massage place".....could see where this was going straight away

[@philm7213]

So streetwise aren't you ..

[@rozakhan2811]

But sometimes people do get their lifeline their... He was unlucky that's the issue.!

[@adZHARRISON]

@@rozakhan2811 i doubt it - im sure they're all unlucky

[@theelizabethan1]

​@@philm7213 Not even .... "book-wise" yields sufficient credulity to see through such a scenario.

[@marccleeland9923]

He’s a pure dweeb 😂🤦🏻

[@spanglestein66]

The moral of the story is maybe “don’t fall in love with someone that works in the sex trade “ just a thought

[@KanyeKetchup]

😂 it's true

[@fs5775]

Or, if you are unattractive, don't expect getting someone out of your league doesn't come with strings attached

[@BorisTheSpyder]

lol..."maybe"?

[@jackvincent5427]

@@fs5775 That also goes for fat, unattractive women who aim for attractive men, wealthy men?

[@dunner079]

Thought she was a nurse?

[@betttina33333]

THAILAND: WHERE A LOOSERS LOOSER SUDDENLY BEOMES BRAD PITT AND A WALKING ATM

[@oz457]

One question never asked. Is the daughter HIS daughter? Did he do a DNA test. If his ex had 5 or 10 bf at the same time, it might be a baby from another bloke.

[@Nessyk01]

Being premature is a dead giveaway 🤔

[@kayakcobber524]

Well came up to my mind as well. Right in the beginning of the story. Good boys pay the bills, bad boys give her thrills

[@cyberfox843]

test was done as when things got uncovered i myself questioned it... and i couldn't shake the thoughts.. it was super scary because at this point i already been a father to our baby but thankfully the test came back 99.8

[@sagefi1]

I agree, they should do a dna test at birth in my opinion. Definitely before any child support is paid! Can you imagine - if this guy isn't the dad... he could be raising some other man's daughter. And wouldn't the other man have the right to know? There are too many women like this out there.

[@soup-nazi6824]

It is likely someone else's daughter-he needs to do a DNA test asap as women defraud men all the time..

[@OsmiumFist]

If I had 20 baht for every guy like this I've met over the last 35 years I'd be a millionaire. I long ago gave up trying to warn guys about certain girls as they just end up resenting you and accuse you of wanting to ruin their happiness etc. I was always right of course and it nearly always ended any relationship I had with the person as they were too embarrassed to admit they were blind to what was going on.

[@mixalis6168]

Yea, met so many over the years married to western women, who destroyed them a the end !!

[@kayakcobber524]

Same here after 30 years of Philippines li(f)estyle. Always amazed by the creative solutions the girls come up with to get their goal.

[@kleerogers]

I agree, Nobody would listen anyway, I know I would not have listened 21 years ago, I knew I was making a mistake, and I did it anyway

[@GARRYLREID]

🤣😅🤣This guy is an Idiot..some people will never learn,they do the same thing over and over,i think we all have done it but the result is always the same.Ive been that stupid more than twice like alot of people.that little patch drives men crazy

[@kayakcobber524]

@@kleerogers yes, my girl is different we all think.

[@russiandrivers9986]

Some people should just stay away from Thailand

[@toohp]

Pete you should have leaned forward and slapped him stupid !! Lol

[@TrippyandDa]

Proper LOL moment

[@cyberfox843]

OMG i wish he did that would been so funny and epic 😆

[@L-Nino]

It would be impossible to slap him Stupid. The doctor did that at birth.

[@BangkokPat]

All the cleverest editing in the world still can't make this guy look smart

[@cyberfox843]

i know right... i was worried about this myself when Pete did the interview 😅

[@adZHARRISON]

@@cyberfox843 hey , you know humor - that was a great reply

[@marccleeland9923]

Guy is a full on muppet 🤦🏻🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@seanallan6188]

@@cyberfox843 do you have any other interviews/updates on how this has panned out for you? If I am honest, it doesn't seem like a good mix, would be surprised/delighted if it worked out for you, one year later.

[@jonv570]

omg how dumb is this guy

[@stevenhull5025]

Three months in Thailand then returning to the UK with no permanent job, no house of one's own and still living with his parents. Marrying a Thai lady (a qualified nurse) who no doubt realised what a BIG mistake she had made once she found out his true financial position. Now he has a new woman in his life (with barely any physical contact) and expects to marry and support his second wife by selling second hand toys on Ebay. James needs to find either a permanent income to support a) his daughter and b) his current girlfriend or learn new skills to earn a decent income whilst in Thailand. If not I can see the exact same thing happening again.

[@timg5581]

He would never be able to get her a spouse visa

[@easyware]

exactly!

[@bufordmaddogtannen]

He could teach English like any unskilled "expat" in Asia, but it's probably easy to keep the digital nomad/entrepreneurship dream alive. /s Edit: I feel sad for what happened to him, although I don't think being in Thailand he will have the same amount of opportunities to get skills, a good career and economic stability. Which is pretty much the same situation every young westerner in Asia is in, no matter if we are taking about Japan, the Philippines, Indonesia or Thailand. I'm my opinion being happy making less money is perfectly fine when you are young and single. With kids I'd try to to earn as much as possible and plan for the long term.

[@Bekindloveis]

@@timg5581womder why u say that since he got his first wife a visa ? 😮

[@KanyeKetchup]

😂 Bumbaclaat Award for these guys ffs

[@PaulWalliswriter]

Diving into a cross-cultural relationship with the first girl you meet rarely works out.

[@no_clot_shot1128]

True.. so does diving into a same-cultural relationship with a fifth girl you meet.. Western world divorce rate is over 50% if I'm not mistaken.. 🤔

[@TrippyandDa]

Thankfully it worked for me but you’re 100% right. He’s gonna learn the hard way over and over again.

[@followyourbliss973]

I wish Pete had asked him a little of Fa's background, ie. Issan, bargirl, poor, etc. Sounds like this guy's suffering from 'Thai fever!'

[@no_clot_shot1128]

@@followyourbliss973 he said he met her in a soappy massage parlor..

[@blazefairchild465]

Why are the girls with nursing certificates working in massage parlors?

[@thebign8886]

You need to interview him again in 2 years, by then he will have had another kid another divorce and have be engaged to another girl he met on tinder

[@_Alfa.Bravo_]

YES , indeed. Those run in a cirle and never learn from the past ....

[@silverfox6883]

$imps never learn ...

[@_Alfa.Bravo_]

@@silverfox6883 ... The most important things in life,are not those, you get for money ...

[@adZHARRISON]

don't forget the massage parlor

[@ligsy9072]

lol towards the end of the interview you can just tell Pete is just thinking 'are you mad'!

[@TheJay37]

The guys sounds like a simpleton. He fell in love with a girl that works in a 'soapy massage' shop. Says it all really.

[@jackdobson1992]

@@TheJay37 you might as well fall in love with a bird from nana plaza....what a mug!

[@silverfox6883]

Towards the end? It was obvious in the first 30 seconds ...

[@rasputinswalloper475]

James was incredibly brave to put all that out there, and perhaps being on the Asperger's spectrum explains his frankness and honesty? Life must be incredibly confusing when you don't pick up on social cues and can't easily differentiate between people who are good for you, and people who are not. So despite what some commentators say this is not a typical Thai - Farang story, as James might not be equipped with the skills to pick up on red flags, of which there where many. I wish him well with Fah, whilst wondering if he's making the same mistake all over again?

[@chendaforest]

I was thinking the same. He might have been an easy target especially if he had limited relationship experience in the UK. Fair play to him for been so honest and I hope it all works out for him.

[@merg-vh5sx]

Aspergers isn't an excuse for being a porn soaked weirdo.

[@picadosinferno]

I have the feeling he's gonna do the same mistakes over again, his current fiance was giving signs of disinterest, and settled for him. If you bring her to the UK (he probably will) same story will happen again.

[@mikeyboy3054]

True that.

[@gregoryfrancisjames5071]

Unlikely to have sufficient funds to support his own daughter and a new extended Thai family. It takes time, but sooner or later the buffalo dies, her dad gets sick or her mum's roof needs repair Sorry to sound cynical James but you are carrying too much baggage.

[@giriyoong]

@@gregoryfrancisjames5071 ...like that part how the buffalo died...hard to believe unless she got many buffaloes.

[@johntheaccountant5594]

Worse thing you can do is bring a Thai or Philippine girl back to the west. Best to leave them them in their home country.

[@blockchaineducatedintervie2714]

What you on about do you know their relationship?

[@awashuen]

no matter where you met your partner, thai or uk, from tinder or face to face dating, spending time PHYSICALLY together is very important before you decide to marry someone. hope the same thing not gonna happen to him again

[@dotcom2528]

The guy must spend time with her (Faa) 10 years 24/7 before even thinking about marriage.

[@glentiller349]

I’ve been in Thailand for a month and haven’t been keeping up so I just binge watched your last 5 interviews. Really good stuff Pete. You never fail to entertain. 🙏🏼

[@Simon-vt1zp]

It all starts with a friendly soapy massage.

[@KippaxInThailand]

This should be played on the plane when flying over to Thailand. This video is a warning to everyone. Hopefully with technology they'll not be able to get away with destroying people's lives as much. The more stories like this are told the better. I wouldn't like to be chasing love in Thailand. He needs to grow up and stop this stupidness.

[@jimshelley8831]

I live in Thailand , and not every Thai woman is like that but there are many who are .There are not always two sides to every story .

[@BangkokVice]

This happens in the States, Europe, Australia etc etc all the time.. Should the airlines play a video for these fools flying into Las Vegas, Amsterdam, Greece? He picked up a girl from a massage parlor. Did he think this was going to be Disney fairy tale ending...he better look in the mirror

[@no_clot_shot1128]

The idea of hope for: 1. men to find a woman that's the ultimate source of pleasure and happiness 2. women to find a man that's the ultimate source of money and security can't be beaten with a video played on a plane to Thailand buddy

[@KippaxInThailand]

@@no_clot_shot1128 You're the ultimate source of speaking utter nonsense

[@no_clot_shot1128]

@@KippaxInThailand you be the judge.. better-than-though type right? ..and smarter than all too?

[@ThailandFoodWalk]

I fell in love with a Thai girl in a massage parlour. James..NO!😒😒 I've only listened for three minutes and I'm worried for you already :-( Sounds like she put you through the meat grinder. You say she was soft spoken and mild mannered. A good rule of thumb is never to take any notice of what words are coming out mouths, or how they portray themselves in the moment. Watch their actions over a period of time to get the real picture of what they're like, goes for all ppl. As for you not getting jokes and the humour there's nothing wrong with you. Over the last few decades the so called comedy, and the new breed of comedians for the most part aren't funny. People just laugh when they watch that stuff because they've been conditioned too. So don't beat yourself up about it! Anyway best of luck to you!

[@stephaniesamra7960]

Agreed… 👍

[@madmattius]

Married young, married too early into the relationship, but survived to tell the tale. Im surprised U.K courts gave him custody. In Australia, you could say with 90% certainty it would have gone to the woman, regardless of his incone or anything else.

[@Jopacob]

Australia 99% gone to the Mother and you would also have to provide house and bills. The Thai women here (and I am sure it’s the same for Philippine ladies etc) they have Facebook groups to work their way up the ladder from sponsor to BF/fiancé no.2. The Immigration department has cottoned on so it has become harder to stay and get PR when the pattern is revealed. Be aware, be real otherwise that Fun Thai holiday can cost you more than a lot of money, it can cost you years too.

[@portlandGTR]

@@JopacobUSA also. Women have way more rights than men with regard to marriage and kids and court. I’ve paid child support for 13 years to a daughter I’ve never been able to meet cause the mom just disappeared and besides hiring a Private Investigator which I did twice the courts won’t help at all with letting me know where they are. Last I heard in the southwest states. I’m in the north west. Sucks. Can’t even petition for custody rights because she doesn’t have an address in the state I live. Long story. But at least they get the check every month. White girl not Thai

[@portlandGTR]

Didn’t mean to waffle on so much there lol waiting for a plane back to America at the moment at BKK airport

[@nickplumridge182]

His parents must have thought “ oh ffs not again “ 😂😂

[@highbrand]

Maybe a follow-up interview after his next divorce?

[@cyberfox843]

i can tell you now.. i would be willing to... if i continue to mess up then im happy to be the spectacle for others to learn from 🙃 but Fah is a good lady if it goes wrong this time it be my fault 🙏

[@highbrand]

@@cyberfox843just hope you're not making the same mistake twice. Maybe I'm reading more into it, but felt some of Pete's questions were also a note of caution.

[@heleng9940]

This started like 'another British guy looking for girls in Thailand' story, and of course he found them (or they found him). But James was just looking for love like everyone does, especially as young as he was. He needs to stop trying to mask his personalty, with cultural or language difficulties etc, and try harder (and probably harder, slower, more difficult) to find some one who actually loves him the way he is. Best of luck James.

[@merg-vh5sx]

Bollocks was he looking for love. He thought his sick fantasy could be real.

[@chendaforest]

@@merg-vh5sx sick fantasy??

[@merg-vh5sx]

@@chendaforestMaybe you don't know what kind of men get "addicted" to Thailand? They have a sickness of the heart, mind, and soul. I'll leave it at that.

[@fixedoddsman7452]

@@merg-vh5sx the jealousy and seething resentment is dripping from every word. Feminism is dead, deal with it.

[@merg-vh5sx]

@@fixedoddsman7452 It's really not cool when men hate women with normal traditional values. Like, how degen do you have to be to blame feminism for morals in 2022 aaaaaaargh

[@amyodaniel]

Don't get married, James! Be logical - What kind of girl accepts a proposal of someone she doesn't really know?

[@stewartcameron1516]

He could find it hard for a new wife to accept his baby from his 1st marriage as her own - cultural thing with Thai women- its not like is child is from an English girl that he married previously - but good luck to him from his story he obviously deserves better.

[@KippaxInThailand]

A Thai girl that's who... All you have to do is look at the guy most are not that good looking it's clear as daylight. They just don't look right together.

[@themountainwanderer]

The fact that he got full custody of his child makes his story much more believable. I feel bad for him and his entire family. What a terrible ordeal. It's easy to watch this and judge, but it's human nature to let love take over and sweep rational thinking aside. These women are very skilled manipulators and can manage to play multiple guys at the same time. Personally, I think it's much too risky to bring them home. I wouldn't do it.

[@trekreview]

There are a lot of issues going on here that we seasoned Thai expats can point out. But remember when you first come to Thailand you don't know a lot, everything is new. The first relationship is usually hard and it takes a few to really find a good Thai girl. I look back at my first years in Thailand and think man I was dumb I know so much more now.

[@destinationsroadslesstraveled]

A story that has been told a thousand times and yet years later. Met more than a few guys like James and hinted to them to have fun and move on. My best advice learn to speak the basics of the local language that should at least scare off some the women that are only in it for the $$$.

[@Rai_Koroshiya]

Good advice.

[@hasslefree1848]

Yep... same advice I have provided for all too many men that are *love struck* with Thai Women.

[@mixalis6168]

Same can be said anywhere in this world !!

[@mrmicky1172]

they are all in it for the money to show off to their villages I've found one

[@mrmicky1172]

They all in it for the money

[@grahaml6072]

Wow this guy is a few sandwiches short of a picnic

[@rozdoyle8872]

There isn't even a loaf of bread to make the Sandwiches.

[@Patricksstealthvanlife]

I think this should have been called' living with aspergers in a foreign land ' Those afflicted with this condition are so very easily misunderstood. And I think this video has contributed to that. That blow was softened by your consistently compassionate and emphatic approach Pete which is always a joy to listen to. That said a person should not be sum total of their condition and I don't wish to sound like I'm suggesting that here. I just hope he benefited from sharing his life mistakes online more than viewers will benefit from judging him. 🙏🙏🍀🍀

[@155gerard]

Pete is very kind which makes him even more handsome. A patient, empathetic interviewere and a good listener who avoids putting people on the spot.

[@Patricksstealthvanlife]

@@155gerard ps I know this. He interviewed me once 😉

[@Chris-to7qs]

I have aspergers aswell and iv never had an english girl for those same similar reasons due to my aspergers and not meeting there criteria so i have never dated or been out with an english girl i was always rejected when i asked a girl out it blew my confidents like i cant tell you, anyway i came to thailand when i was 18 back in August 1999 for a 2 week holiday after that i came twice a year and to cut a long storey short i am now 41 and been happily married to my thai wife Da for almost 3 years i now live with her in thailand.

[@portlandGTR]

Same age as me, just finishing a month here for my first trip outside the USA. I envy the fact you came here so young. I wished I had done this 20 years ago. 1982 for me. First international trip to Thailand January 10th 2024. Plane home leaves in about 6 hours. Man I wish so much that I had found this out at 18. But, at least I’m not 65 for my first trip and can still date attractive young girls here genuinely. Met one and had to leave after a week cause I was starting to get feelings. Learned on my first trip and not living here that emotions are dangerous. Man, legit 10/10 woman and all green flags. Not a bar girl or freelancer. But, I cut it after a week. Best week of the last 10 years with her in Phuket

[@BadApana]

I love this video. I too am a mild ASD (aspergers) person who married a Thai because my social behavior is deficient and still tolerated by my sweet Thai family. Great interview.

[@thegoldcoastvibe]

A hard lesson learned. Good interview Pete. Tough subject.

[@alexk9295]

Nothing learned really. He's doing the same again with Fah

[@xenajade6264]

Yes 🙄

[@pepelemoko01]

This might sound cynical but it seems to me, that the cousins she was meeting in the first place, were really the other UK guy all along, and she hooked up with James to have an anchor baby to stay in the UK, as the other guy might have been too old or does not want children. But if she was a nurse, she shouldn't have had too much trouble getting a working visa for the UK.

[@footit]

James, your not in love with the girl. Your in love with Thailand and they're two different things.

[@silverfox6883]

you're = you are ...

[@portlandGTR]

@@silverfox6883ellipsis goes next to the pause… like that

[@fightmilk8613]

He’s in love with the idea of a girl being in love with him and he saw Thailand as his best chance of finding a woman to fit that role

[@dummymsf8895]

James is not the brightest bulb in the room, is he?

[@user-sh3vz3ol3j]

Cultural differences have nothing to do with fundamental morals/values which make a good person.

[@portlandGTR]

Well said. Values, goals, and integrity are universal regardless of culture.

[@toohp]

What a disaster !!! I'm glad I'm single and I'm staying that way ! 🤣

[@KippaxInThailand]

Couldn't agree more especially looking for it in Thailand.

[@Philippinesadventures]

At least the man isn’t afraid to take risks

[@adZHARRISON]

@@Philippinesadventures he doesnt know what risks are - thats why he's doing the same thing again

[@Globaldave1970]

@@KippaxInThailand LOL. Most Thai women dont work in the sex trade, and make great wives.

[@HburgMMAInstitute]

James, I've read quite a few of the other comments and now feel terrible for my snarky remarks. Please, disregard and accept my apology. I've noticed how much care you've put into your responses and also how you've managed to stay respectful even when others haven't extended you the same courtesy. I find that very remarkable, and I hope to continue to improve on my ability to control my emotions/reactions. If you would entertain a little more unsolicited advice...careful putting so much weight into opinions of others. Especially, online. You can drive yourself mad by assuming someone you're responding to is deserving of a serious response. In my experience, I've found interactions online with strangers to be wasted energy. Take care of yourself out there and thanks for sharing your story!

[@javiervidal366]

Great job recognizing what you could have done better and apologizing. A rare trait indeed

[@KanyeKetchup]

😂

[@charlieosburn1232]

Never take sand to the beach and don't bring the beach home.

[@tobyprice1092]

I was with my Thai missus for 4yrs before I though about getting married. This lad may get burned again.

[@Joel-z9q]

Going to a Thailand massage parlor is one place I never thought of to look for a wife. Silly me.

[@donkeystains7739]

She worked at a soapy massage and it didnt work out ? ? ?

[@thefatchap4675]

cashier mate.chinese family too.

[@carlmawson9038]

I’d have kept the soapy on a down low , didn’t put her in good light 🛁, soon has he said that , alarm 🚨 bells , definitely a sinking ship , or a bust lilo 😉

[@m.g.3913]

It's like jumping out of a third floor window and being surprised you got hurt.

[@carlmawson9038]

Definitely got a messy ending, but big props for telling his story , 😬

[@dekay21]

Except that wasn't his ex-wife. His ex he met online 5 yrs later and met her in the UK

[@samhortonlifestyle]

This is why understanding the red pill is so important. Marrying a 29 year old woman at age 23 was a big mistake.

[@samhortonlifestyle]

@@irishheritage893 read the book ‘the rational male’ by Rollo Tomassi

[@Candyman00191]

This is probably the best comment I've seen posted on any of these Thai marriage scam videos. The Majority of UK guys, western guys in general have no 'game’, they do no understand the female imperative in dating and marriage. Part of the problem in the west is that guys have become feminised and do not know how to be masculine, hold their own, hold their frame and do not understand their own value as a man or how to build their value as a man. If guys go abroad to find love (where East Asia, SE Asia, Eastern Europe or Latin America) they need to know ‘game’.

[@cdnhawk65]

Wow. He is a bit thick. Hasn't learned a thing.

[@cyberfox843]

i like to think i leant something but as it was over decade ago.. obviously i learnt enough to know that my story might have value to others to think twice, but if you referring to my current relationship with my fiance we have been living together after this interviewed was filmed and the wedding is not anytime soon 🙏

[@KwakaRallye88]

He's been through the mixer and come out the other side whilst all along dealing with his own anxieties. Raising kids on your own is hard as hell. Best of luck to him in the future

[@lizajane1878]

Great interview. This guy saw all the flags and ignored them sadly.

[@michaelchristophergutierre7244]

Marriage is a bad investment for a man. If it ends a man will come out on the short end...you can still have all the benifits without the state government getting involved

[@shabbos-goy9407]

Never get married

[@bigal2417]

I would disown this guy if he was my son , I'd be so ashamed of him.

[@margaretbabaran3666]

My Italian husband sent me this. I guess no matter how good looking and rich he was when he was in his first marriage with a Thai. There would always be something wrong. I met him poor, it didn't matter to me that he couldn't give me the luxurious life he gave his Thai wife(he'd tell me about his past of how wealthy he was). But it didn't matter to me as long as he's a good provider and loving. There are materialistic women in every country in the world that would always only want your money. It's a little different than Filipinas because most of them are looking for men that will accept them for being sex workers and Filipino men don't want to settle with Filipinas that are passed around. Those Filipina always end up with foreigners not because they have high standards but because they were not accepted by decent Filipinos.

[@Globaldave1970]

The vast majority of Thai ladies and Pinays are NOT sex workers. Quite a lot of gullible naive falangs never get past the bars and massage parlours. I am lucky that I have worked in both countries.

[@Paul-dv4dr]

"I collect pose-able action figures" You certainly do, James.

[@Globaldave1970]

LOL!

[@saddq1]

I recognized in 5 minutes that he has ASD. No surprise there when he announced it.

[@mangoking787]

Hello Pete, I think James burnt his fingers the first time with this Thai girl. The onlhy thing, if he goes to Thailand with his daughter. I hope he knows that the laws are different from Western laws, and if she knows that her daughter is with him in Thailand. She could go to the police station over there and she would be granted custody of her daughter..When I was looking for a property to buy. I was told if I marry a Thai girl. I could have no problem buying a property. But the house and the property would be in her name. Then I asked this question. What happens if the marriage does not work. Then I was told everything belongs to the Thai wife. So men please becareful.

[@alexk9295]

You can also put the house in your thai child's name.

[@Wilko11]

Sorry but I'd be doing a DNA test on the child. Chances are maybe there was another boyfriend when she first went to England. The string of lies to someone she married is a big red flag.Have been going to Thailand for over 30 years, it happens regularly.

[@genokemp2433]

Had to stop watching this for so many different reasons 🤦‍♂

[@kennethh2366]

I understand. It’s because this whole thing is self inflicted. He didn’t help himself

[@thefrugalgolfhackthailand5430]

Yea I got into my Thai ex's email... she was cheating on me for 2.5 years with a brit in Singapore and a guy in Switzerland. Told her to get her shit out of my house. That was it. Dodged a bullet. She is married now, and I have a feeling the guy is bailing her out of multiple thefts from her employers like I did. 🤣

[@Roberto-xc5xy]

He's talking about Legal Aid. It provides legal assistance for low-income people. Nothing to do with the legal dispute per se.

[@cyberfox843]

i might be wrong but i believe didn't that remove legal aid to low income some time back in the UK? it might be in family courts i think still provide it for legal courts but honestly i don't know just thought i vaguely heard something on those lines while back

[@Roberto-xc5xy]

@@cyberfox843 www.gov.uk/legal-aid/eligibility#:~:text=You%20have%20the%20right%20to,education)%20or%20on%20certain%20benefits.

[@aussiethaibangkok1434]

Sad story. This guy needs some serious help.

[@_Alfa.Bravo_]

brain is not falling from the sky ....

[@cdenver]

12 minutes in and Im finding it hard to follow this guys story. Its all over the place and he talks very fast. It could be anxiety I dont know. Just finding it hard to listen to.

[@cyberfox843]

yes its my anxiety and i myself struggle to follow it when trying to watch it also.

[@fulltimeforeigner5640]

What an awesome interview. Takes a lot of courage to share your anxieties and social struggles. This guy is pretty inspiring. All the best James!

[@rogerparis]

Inspiring??????

[@mosu9133]

You cant be serious 😂😂😂

[@jamiebrowne5161]

Why does he want marriage?, for Fs sake again with the new girl. He’s gonna get screwed again by a Thai girl. Marriage is only a piece of paper

[@kerrysum1952]

I can relate, went through a nasty divorce with my first Thai wife of 20 years. She used the same excuses,but thank God the judge saw through it. I had a great attorney, once she caught on. My ex never signed the final divorce papers in California. I ended up divorcing her in Nevada, she lost by default.

[@adZHARRISON]

FIRST THAI WIFE !!?? - hows the 2nd one doing ?

[@conbob]

Great interview as always Pete 👍

[@graerindley6312]

Near the start James said he met his wife in a Thailand massage parlor, that pretty much summed it up for me.

[@ctb1977]

He said the first Thai girl he met was a soapy massage girl which ended after 3 months

[@L-Nino]

And No happy ending.

[@srgba244]

What a story!!! Guys, don't be weak, don't do stupid things!

[@AgNoSticPope666]

Stupid is as stupid does. Over and over and over.

[@taterrhead]

It's good to see that this adult male, who collects childrens' toys, learned his lesson from his first bad experience and he'll never find his life partner from a hookup app in a foreign country ever again ...

[@adZHARRISON]

and dont forget the massage parlor

[@michaelchristophergutierre7244]

Dude Toys or Action figures? Big difference. AND I got comic books to with many number 1 issues worth thousands.. My point is ain't nothing wrong with collecting toys .. 😂❤😂❤😂

[@barriegeorge4681]

Pete, I'd like to see you follow this interview up in say 2 or 3 years time, as a part 2 with James to see how or where things are going. I wish James well but I have a doubt it could be similar to what I've just watched.

[@NiiickTheGreek]

I bet you would you sick guy! 😀

[@markhanley5432]

rinse and repeat..this guy will never learn

[@johnsmith9246]

Definitely not the sharpest knife in the draw, history looks like it’s going to repeat itself.

[@Lovsnow]

Drawer John.. drawer

[@portlandGTR]

⁠@@Lovsnowlove snow, love

[@HaleRakDa]

This is going to end the same way. Does your Thai gf have a proper job and education. What is the reason she is dating you? Is she 'farang hungry' and for what reason....think about it.

[@m.g.3913]

And just quit when they start asking for things.

[@cyberfox843]

yes she works for a company but i wont share her personal details, i don't think shes farang hungry..

[@jdavies212msu]

Man that was a tough interview to get through, as a viewer. Certainly tougher for Pete. 😬

[@geofferyrobertson6608]

Geez !!!! he's doing my head in !! but I'll stay with you Pete 55555

[@TrippyandDa]

I was thinking the same 🤣🤣

[@cyberfox843]

me too, i cant even watch myself without wanting to slap myself 😅

[@TheArtofEngineering]

I am truly surprised??? He met a lovely girl at the soapy massage place …. A slippery but squeaky clean lass …. And ….. it didn’t work out??? I’m sure there are stories of bar girl/ massage girl meets man in shining armour, who rescues her (Pretty Woman style) from her desperate circumstances…. But most likely nearly as rare as 🦄 excrement! So many guys think they can eat, drink and copulate their way to a happy life…. It most often ends this way! It is so sad and dysfunctional at both ends…. The girls, who usually come from financially bleak situations (often from rural or neighbouring poorer countries) and the sad romantic fools who are emotionally stunted and rather than working on a relationship, just want to short circuit the process of relationship building.

[@kevinp8108]

Does James even know if the baby is actually his? I hope he had a paternity DNA test! This is what happens when you rush into a relationship, especially with a woman from another country.

[@responsiblerecovery6479]

Great content. James appears sincere to me. Best wishes to everyone

[@ComputationalThinking707]

We can judge, criticize and condemn this guy but let’s give him credit for raising awareness.

[@BorisTheSpyder]

...so he took one for the team in a sense?....that was his plan het? ...to educate? While his parents remortgage their home to pay his legal bills.

[@reread2549]

Don’t invest more than you can lose. Don’t base your life and happiness Soley on someone else.

[@NaNa-ek2cs]

Sorry to say this but why majority of Expat men living in Thailand chase after this type of woman/ bar girls? There are plenty of decent well educated with successful career Thai women out there.

[@oz457]

Some advise for James: 1. Learn the language before you go on 2. Learn to be a man (I super strongly advise you to read the book "The tao of badass". Believe me, this book will save you a lot of money in the long run, because you are doing it again) 3. Go back home, take care of your daughter and have the balls to do a DNA test. Where is your daughter now? With your parents? In that case, are you crazy. Do you realize what you are doing to your parents and what they are going through? They take care of you but you don't listen to them. 4. First be happy with your life ALONE. And only when you are HAPPY alone, try to find a girl. And just tell her straight in her face: you can come into my HAPPY life if you make me happier. If you don't, I'll kick you out! 5. Before marrying someone, take 3 to 5 years. Don't marry just because you have puppy love! The puppy love will subside and the real problems and issues will appear year number 3 to 5! 6. Get a real job. Once you have proper job, then you can start to think about girls. 7. WAKE UP.

[@MrSimonj1970]

Listen to this man, James! Good luck.

[@cyberfox843]

1. i learned very little and basic of the language now 2. maybe i still need to learn "to be a man" 3. it might not been clear in the interview but i do live in the UK right now and only part time in Thailand, a test was done 11 years ago during the court proceedings, I the carer for my daughter of 12 years she is with me in England or in Thailand when we are there. I have realised the shit i put them through and im full of story and regret but same time i have an amazing daughter and they got the best granddaughter which we would never want to undo.. how things played out was not pleasant but in end what we got is treasurable, and be thanks for my families support which is emotionally also 4. i been alone for most of 11 years and been very happy but for sure been depression for years again the ordeal but its all in the past over a decade now, also spot on what you said 👍 5. i will skip responding too much to this one because your maybe very right but in some known cases people can find love and live happy ever after in smaller time frame 6. not going to dive too deep into these either because im in a great financial situation, working for companies never been stable for me maybe because my aspergers and selling on eBay pays all my bills and more im not in any debt and im happy. 7. i have no response to this but maybe i need to wake up sometimes. your advise has been read and well received 🙏

[@JonnyElk]

Yikes! Where did you find this character ? Real raw life and we all know it happens too much. Keep ‘em coming Pete!

[@DerekCullenOutdoors]

What a crap situation with the earlier marriage and well done for coming through it James. All the best and great questions toward the end Pete 👏

[@MrTobypowell]

Best of luck to this chap whatever the future holds for him, it’s sounds like he’s had a rough time of it and I’m sure it won’t be the last time.

[@KanyeKetchup]

😂 he had it coming

[@Miguelruiz25]

As soon as he said he fell in love with a girl that slides up and down men all day covered in soap I knew we had a live one 🤣🤣

[@chicoingle8131]

Think he’s a wee bit simple

[@Patrick-xo8ht]

I was mesmerized watching this interview. I really hope that things work out between James and Sky. After everything that he has been through, James deserves to find happiness. My fingers are crossed. 🤞

[@d9918]

Did he get a DNA test?

[@cyberfox843]

yes i did has it was playing on my mind a lot at the time and i needed to know but it was one scariest things ever has i already spend year taking care of her as a father, thankfully results came back at 99.8 🙏

[@pq3586]

U got lucky mate. My advice for u now is dont get married. whats the rush.if in 2/3 yrs of being with this new girl goes well and u have checked her past out then by all means go for marraige again. If u find out shes ever been in the bar scene then run to the hills and be thankful u got lucky.

[@adZHARRISON]

@@pq3586 no answer from our man ??

[@methinks8175]

No "once bitten twice shy" for this man🙈

[@DanacyclingThailand]

I’ve been here 26 yrs. These stories never end. Helpless, hopeless. There should be some be some psychological test before you are allowed to come here.

[@marccleeland9923]

Gold medal 🥇 for Pete managing not to fall asleep or die of second hand embarrassment 🤦🏻😫🤣🤣🤣

[@garyroey4445]

The youth of today , 2 week millionaire, she got back to his mams back bedroom, and she bailed. Video games 🎮 🕹 👌 Belter

[@soldiermick]

Lots of som nom na type comments below. I thought he was very honest about it all. OK he may not be the first or last. But for the grace of god walk many of us. Good luck to him. We can’t predict the future and it may work out perfectly for him. Fah may be a lovely person who will stand by him. If not it’s just another of life’s chapters.

[@keithh2100]

Nice interview, Pete. Glad to see you’re getting over the cold.

[@metalextras]

Thank you Pete! James' risk taking decision is a bold one indeed, Perhaps the clash of cultural difference + ego, lust only last a month and both are not well-prepared for the long haul...

[@zentravel1515]

It never ceases to amaze me what guys are willing to overlook, rationalize and/or justify. Almost as though they've entered a strange parallel universe of denial where left is right, up is down, and round is square. Absolutely mind blowing.

[@chendaforest]

They are thinking with their (ocks and not their heads...

[@philread7668]

Did you say Foo-ket? Hoy hin and Patteya? And we are not 5 minutes in.

[@pq3586]

Great interview laddy. Need more car crash interviews like this pete and god knows there are thousands of guys out their with that same story. I hope you talked to him after interview and gave him some much needed advice. He seems like a nice enough guy who is just desperate for love but i think thailand women in the bar scene are just car crash stories just waiting to be written. Spend a few yrs with this girl and if its still going well and yoyr not being fleeced then have at it lad.🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪

[@no_clot_shot1128]

Hello Pete. Great admirer of your work here. Watched most of your videos. How to reach out to you with an interview suggestion? Cheers mate.

[@rcardoosuna6491]

This guy ignored red flag after red flag. It was plain to see it was headed for disaster but the guy kept going.