My thoughts on Rachel Lindsay's divorce from Brian Abasolo, former bachelorette - listener rrquest

[@lovelynirvana2960]

As a chiropractor, the fact that he left his practice so easily and quickly tells me that he didn't have a strong clientele base, which tells me he was struggling with his business. The flags were blood red! Any man who is willing to become dependent on a woman he just met is not much of a man.

[@skylarkblue4853]

@@lovelynirvana2960 It's a tough business. A chiropractor in Hawaii recently killed his wife, 3 children and himself due to financial pressure. Covid did not help the situation.

[@teeburdtalks]

That part

[@karibu1361]

~ The bachelor franchise failed Rachel...They claim to vett their people... Was he vetted??? ... Facts: ... In 2014, the Florida Board of Chiropractic Medicine & the Fl Dept. of Health filed an administrative complaint due to Bryan keeping insufficient med records, rendering services that were excessive & providing treatment not appropriate for the patient’s symptoms & or age.. After paying the $20,000, he was ordered to take risk management classes, record keeping classes, & an ethics class.” A letter of concern was placed in his permanent record.”.. 2 yrs. later 2016, All State Ins. sued him... 1 year after that, 2017, he shows up on the Bachelorette.!!! …

[@FlorenceElu]

​@karibu1361 omg! Literally, red flag walking. Rachel should sue them, if she can, after reviewing her contract with them.

[@karibu1361]

@@FlorenceElu If they knew, they'd deny it...She got a bad set of men.

[@RebaAnneBuckner]

The choice of one's marriage partner is the most important decision one will ever make in life, and should never involve a reality show.

[@Abekeiya1]

There's an African saying that "What an Old person sees while seated, a Young person can never see while standing".... That's a reason to listen to Our parents take before making certain life changing decisions

[@Grace4thislife]

I like that Quote! mentally noted 🙏🏾

[@SamDavidJr]

Ooooooo, I like that!

[@Orewaokan]

Yes o thanks for sharing .. I am certain that is a Yoruba proverb 😊

[@lco09]

This is amazing wisdom

[@eneobande7433]

That's right..but I actually know it as '...a young person will not see it even if they climb an Iroko tree'..An Iroko tree is one of the tallest trees

[@glowingbutterfly7375]

I heard that she didn’t have a prenup. That’s hard to believe with her being a lawyer and her Dad’s a judge.

[@PJay138]

The narrative about what Bryan gave up seems weird to me. They've been married for four years without children, so it's not like he was at home caring for their children. It's hard to believe that an educated man with a successful practice couldn't establish sustainable work in four years simply because he relocated to another state.

[@anonymousgirl799]

I just read Rachel was ordered to pay this man $13,000 a month in spousal support. There were better men Rachel could have selected on that show, or she could have had a baby. Very unwise, having to take care of a grown man she isn't with anymore. Not a good look, yet she's intelligent?

[@thatbemefool]

No PreNup and she’s an Atty and her Daddy is a Judge? I’m SHOCKED! I would never….EVER. **Know the laws in your state people. The law is the law. It’s not based on gender.**

[@JustMe-dn9fh]

I was so surprised to here thst this young lawyer did not have a pre nup??!!! The level of exposure is enormous!

[@ECW1153]

@@JustMe-dn9fh exactly and her dad is a judge. I am verklempt. Never watched the show but I saw what she has done after the bachelorette.

[@SS-ii6nz]

Rachel had to sign a Prenup. If she didn't, her ex husband will take her to the cleaners. Where are her attorney skills.

[@wakandavibranium5053]

Maybe they were enamoured with the fact that he was not black, especially in the ridiculous climate of black gender wars

[@kevinharris3993]

Rachel did not sign a prenup. This is why they are fighting in court. As a licensed attorney, Rachel should be ashamed of herself.

[@teeburdtalks]

This divorce is getting messy. Unfortunately, Rachel didn’t sign a prenup, and one should have been signed especially because of how they ended up together in the first place…on a reality tv dating show! Wish her the best!!

[@aurorymack7138]

Potential will get you in trouble every time.

[@4LuvThySelf]

@@aurorymack7138 well said. 👍🏾👍🏾

[@Es_Elle]

Ladies, please don't sign up to take care of a man just to have one. Do you want a man or a son? There's a BIG difference!

[@OkiChick302]

She will most likely have to pay support for two years. I would offer him a one time payment and call it a day. We live and learn.

[@DorothyYoungblood-w4j]

I agree.. She has to 2 years any. That one time check will take of the two year amount. I'm wondering if had this planned all alone and did he had someone on the side. Besides there is no reason he could not find a job. He went to college to become a chiropractor.. There is no way he was able to find another job. He and Rachel separated December 31, 2023 to say the lease. Then he files for divorce on January 2, 2024. Since he filed he should have paid for his own divorce.

[@pixie9931]

Dating/Marrying someone from reality shows is just stupid, no common sense..

[@RomaRoach-Thomas]

Loved your analysis, did see the interview where she spoke about her therapist advice , looved it and thought she was smart, fun and quite intelligent. I pray she moves 🙏 on quite successfully to a more rewarding chapter.

[@aurorymack7138]

Parents always know…

[@valbonaivezaj140]

This was incredibly insightful 🎉

[@teeburdtalks]

This divorce is getting messy. Unfortunately, Rachel didn’t sign a prenup, and one should have been signed especially because of how they ended up together in the first place…on a reality tv dating show! Wish her the best!!

[@donnaroberts4513]

@@teeburdtalks I watch there Romance on TV and her husband really loved her that is why he gave up his profession to follow her especially when they just got married.

[@geraldinewinfrey1345]

He was a cheater, and womanizer, once a cheater its very hard to change.

[@Shelly_R]

I didn't watch the dating show but I became aware of Rachel from her podcast with Van Lathan, Higher Learning. It is interesting that in her references to her marriage while on the podcast, she did an excellent job of hiding marital issues. While dating someone seriously, it is so important to fully disclose finances and flesh out your financial priorities as an individual and then develop them together as a couple. The openness and transparency (or lack thereof) will tell you so much about their character. An unwillingness to discuss finances while seriously dating will lead to money issues in the marriage, which is the #1 cause of divorce. If you're serious about each other, this should be an important topic to explore. If there is still too much secrecy, that is a RED FLAG and it is time to go.

[@XFedgal]

I never watched that dating show and had very little interest in their relationship. However, with the impending divorce, I’m now curious about the guys Rachel turned down to select this dude.

[@angelangel4476]

I do that....take notes after conversations especially if the conversation raised a red flag. Great gem!😊

[@jcelestine832]

Rachel chose someone who wanted to be taken care of and so now she’s going to have to take care of him.

[@vt-yp7yq]

The quarantine was a litmus test for relationships.

[@josephgibson4095]

She got played

[@marymyatt3004]

BIG TIME SMH SMDH SMH

[@karibu1361]

Rachel will get through this & it's a lesson she won't forget...Thankfully, she only has to pay him for 2 years, which is why he's trying to get more money from her...His track record that the franchise should have vetted, would have shown that he is a scammer.

[@candacelerai]

Waist he has a record of scamming? Do tell!

[@karibu1361]

@@candacelerai He scammed Rachel & has a shady chiro med history... The Florida Board of Chiropractic Medicine & the Fl Dept. of Health filed back in 2014, an administrative complaint due to Bryan keeping insufficient med records, rendering services that were excessive & providing treatment not appropriate for the patient’s symptoms & or age.. After paying the $20,000, he was ordered to take risk management classes, record keeping classes, & an ethics class.” A letter of concern was placed in his permanent record.”.. 2 yrs. later in 2016, All State Ins. sued him... 1 year after that, in 2017, he showed up on the Bachelorette.!!! …

[@fah232]

Family/people on the outside of a relationship can see things you don't see. If majority of the people in you life are telling you about a person, at least keep it in a file in your head.

[@nsquared8643]

I wasn’t not going to watch the very first Black woman on “The Bachelorette!” I remember the comments at that time were that she was the most accomplished of any bachelorette who had ever appeared on the series. It was such a turnoff, though, when the suitors stepped out the limousine to introduce themselves. It was Brian’s turn & he walked up to her and planted one on her - HEAVY - like serious: tongue, spit, everything! It was SO GROSS 🤮 but not to Rachel, she gave him the ‘first impression rose.’ She confessed on the finale that it wasn’t even necessary for her to do the rest of the show ‘cos she was going to be choosing Brian, but that, of course, she was contractually obligated to complete the whole show. I was like, “Ugh 😣”

[@BeautyNBrains86]

Love all the gems you dropped on this video! 👏🏾👏🏾💎

[@JesseliButtler]

Very smart woman. Wish I heard her 10 years ago.

[@tawanabrown3650]

I didn't even know that they were getting a divorce. My first and only red flag is going on the show and "allegedly" falling in love in that short amount of time. Not saying it couldn't happen, but I think people go on those shows to jumpstart a Hollywood career! I hope and pray that she take time to heal, bounce back and find true love!

[@sophiaelayne9984]

God says to submit to your husband. That doesn't mean you stay in an unhealthy relationship.

[@KevonnieElaine]

“Don’t ask me how I know.” LMAO😭 messy lol.

[@Kysleen]

Rachel’s situation is reflective of what would have happened to Eboni K Williams if at this current time, with all her professional,social and financial baggage, had married a bus driver. He would have not been able to pay substantial bills, would have to move in with her etc… All those things that make Bryan a redflag to Rachel.

[@thatbemefool]

🍏’s to 🍊’s **Eboni is selfish. Her child will have to dumpster dive to locate their Daddy + all paternal family when she’s an adult. What if she has a terrible birthing experience or she dies prematurely? NO FATHER or Paternal Family🤦🏽‍♀️**

[@JustMe-dn9fh]

Eboni stood her ground and focused on herself and morherhood,instead of settling for a dust mop ninja!

[@deeniesmothers9310]

Rachel paid the mortgage, property tax, insurance, and basically Bryan paid the light bill. I can't believe that a professional man (chiropractor) would be there letting his wife pay all the bills.

[@candlecane]

31:34+ "Bookmark." After every date/convo, make notes. What did you learn? Blank? You weren't paying attention. Also, make decisions based on RIGHT NOW not based on potential that's never guaranteed.

[@zee-zm1io]

36:10 Agree. You see our mom’s generation will have us go for men who don’t love themselves because they believe it’s our job to improve them. Yes our families love us, but also check the success of who you are taking advice from. My family completely missed a predator after I introduced them. It was my friends who spotted it

[@simplygem8449]

I'm on summer vacation, and binging.... keep them coming😂❤

[@thugparty]

Rachael went off of looks and genes; she wanted someone good-looking (she's very average looking). Brian went along with it because he's a scammer; also this is payback for not being 1st. Remember, he was her 2nd choice.

[@simplygem8449]

She was so smitten....i never saw that in him😢

[@alanice22]

The only good thing about the spousal support is that it probably won’t last that long because they were only married a few years. It’s probably not gonna be ‘until he gets married’. There’s usually a cut off date.

[@jamillahwatkins2168]

You had me cackling about the good doctor and the rotten tooth. Hilarious.

[@geraldinewinfrey1345]

Rachel gave up a lot, by supporting him financially, she left her lawyer business behind in Dallas to move to Miami to help him out financially their. 1yr& 5 months through the covid pandemic, how can she stay home, she had to work to carry the load, and she's still is carrying the load, he has to figure away to prosper his business, no one can do that for him I wish he can do that for himself!!

[@littleeva]

Pandemic - Life got Life-y.

[@ChocoBeauty8]

It is regrettable that these circumstances occur frequently, impacting divestors. Some women opt to marry individuals of lower socioeconomic status to retain control within the partnership.

[@bawnfordays73]

This is true of both men and women that divest.

[@jrhaydon939]

Most of these shows wont have a high success rate, because its not reality(no pun intended),they will get tired of each other at some point,and they will run out of new ways to satisfy or keep each other happy forever.Happiness and peace is only found in Christ,so He must be center stage for any marriage to work.

[@CaribbyanDoll-xoxo]

Ive heard directly from a man: when you make more money and do better than a man, he gets jealous and bitter, which eventually ruins the relationship. Ive also heard that money is the biggest destroyer of marriages and relationships. Both parties should stay on top of their finances, get passive income etc.

[@chideraannugwu8570]

It's so unfortunate that they got divorced. Was rooting for them.

[@LucindaJones-ef1ym]

I feel sorry for Rachel Lindsay. Some black women just got to have a white man. It's disheartening to see how Rachel Lindsey's marriage to a white man, motivated by the expectation of increased financial stability, resulted in disappointment for her. There seems to be an underlying issue rooted in a lack of understanding of her cultural heritage. Instead of seeking financial security, she should have focused on finding a partner who shared her values and understood her history. Were there no black men available? Lindsey's decision was influenced by her husband's profession rather than genuine love. It's important to recognize that true love transcends economic status. It's concerning to see individuals prioritize economic stability over genuine connection and shared values in a relationship. Please, don't say, "I can't help who I fall in love with. If that same man worked at Walmart or McDonald's, would she have married him? Of course not. Marriage is about economics, not love. Furthermore, it's unfortunate that some individuals seek validation from a different race in their choice of partner, often leading to failed relationships. It's crucial for individuals to prioritize genuine connection and shared values rather than external validation when choosing a life partner. Ultimately, individuals must understand and value their cultural heritage while seeking genuine connections in relationships rather than prioritizing external factors such as financial stability or race.

[@Es_Elle]

I think he's Latino....

[@nancyelmon4544]

He is Latino not white even worst.

[@signifyanother4493]

I don't know her... but I feel like she is doing whatever to hang on to FAME. Making money off of that. I bet her ex husband was the one wanted babies and was serious. I bet she skipped fertility clinic appt and went on doing TV stuff.

[@traceywashington2818]

You know what her marriage could have work. She wanted to be a star ✨ She gets what she deserves. And didn't want to stay at home.

[@gailjacob-sampson1626]

It's unfair to say that she deserves this. She was the primary earner in the relationship. How could she stay home if he didn't make enough money?

[@KevonnieElaine]

@@gailjacob-sampson1626exactly. ppl don’t think things through they just want to run with a narrative.

[@TKOin2life]

For What ... so they can starve? How about he could have gotten a job?

[@geraldinewinfrey1345]

@@gailjacob-sampson1626 I agree 💯

[@donnaroberts4513]

Her husband gave up a lot to please her and she was never satisfied. She needs to be careful her biological clock is ticking.

[@gigif169]

I love the scare tactic. Always telling women to hurry up and choose someone. When it wnds badly...its "you should've chose better"

[@lovelynirvana2960]

Any man who can easily and quickly leave his practice and move around the country for her work has nothing to give up. Men are wired differently. They are not giving up everything that they built for a woman they met 8 weeks ago.

[@kabebitube]

⁠@@donnaroberts4513 but she has two kids from the marriage. That is enough for me. No more kids. Let the clock expire!

[@kabebitube]

@donnaroberts4513, but she has two kids from the marriage. That is enough for me. No more kids. Let the clock expire!

[@bawnfordays73]

I don't believe that Rachel has any children. She has mentioned struggles with fertility. ​@@kabebitube

[@freepro]

Hmmm.

[@trinamatthews4752]

I’ll be 55 and I’m single. I think I’m well rounded, did therapy and a cancer survivor. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your recommendation of taking notes after dates!!! Oh em gee, genius! Thank you…😉🤎🙏🏾

[@judithrevere9083]

My comment is some naive decisions were made. Bryan is an only child that was told in his information regarding his life. They talked about where to live repeatedly and they should have thought carefully before making that decision. Rachel appeared very forceful when making decisions and he allowed her to be the boss. Some women will wear the pants of the house when allowed especially we as women of color. She stated she wanted children immediately after the wedding I was surprised they had not which now is good they didn’t. I truly believe she made most of the decisions and her career turned a different direction and I believe marriage was not as important to her once that happened. He gave everything for her happiness and the relationship suffered. I feel bad for him. She was front and center on the TV and he was left with no life, no wife and no family. That was supposed to have been what happened. She spoke at the beginning how her friends encouraged her to appear on the show. Rachel appears to want the limelight and she lived a highly level of life. Bryan’s family were average working class family. I kept up with them and there is no winner in this relationship. Their goals changed and I believe she left him stranded after he gave up his life for him.🥲😇