My Thoughts on Shari's Book "The House of My Mother"

[@lauradeleon4407]

I think that the true hero is the younger brother who run to the neighbor house for HELP

[@carolinemeadows2478]

Hi is!

[@DanielaBodoh]

They both are heroes. Shari had been trying to bring this to light for a year, and the authorities kept failing to do anything. It took the younger brother escaping for the authorities to finally do something. Yes, he was a hero, but that doesn't negate all that Shari tried to do.

[@tourettehero]

Poor kid didn't go for help. He went to have them take him to jail. He was trying to turn himself in for further punishment. Luckily his courageous actions led to rescuing he didn't realize he needed or deserved.

[@derjoghurtmitderecke]

INCLUDING the neighbor and his wife please! They took action right away and made sure the other kids get immediate help instead of downplaying it or waiting. They saw the evidence and made the right decisions on the spot. The neighbor had more love for the little boy than his own parents if you listen to the emotional 911 phone call. He was the best that could ever happen to the kid in this situation, ultimately ending the horror for all of them.

[@lauradeleon4407]

That is true

[@lindamcwilliams3377]

Kevin is so guilty. Remember he wanted to press charges on Shari because she had a laptop or something stupid. Parents are meant to protect but both parents tried to ruin these kids.

[@breephoenix111]

Why hasn't he been arrested? He watched these kids being abused mentally and physically for years. He even let Ruby cancel Christmas.

[@JasminePeralez]

people usually marry people with their same ideals. If ruby had those ideals kevin probably did too.

[@ASLLover666]

​@@rachelkeaveney3994 nothing he says will excuse his behavior and the fact that he's getting away with it is sickening

[@Privateyoutube-z5z]

I remember watching them and Ruby would debate punishments and Kevin would condone it and tell Ruby to do what she feels she must. But people only ever blame mom for trauma, never dad

[@Maddddieeeeeb]

Right!!!!!! This is all I can think about.

[@beckymoran321]

I am also so very proud of Shari. She has advocated for the younger kids! Happy she is engaged and happy! She deserves all the happiness.

[@secretpal6039]

Bonnie, Kevin is not a good person. He let this abuse go on for years. He’s just as guilty as your sister and needs to be held accountable.

[@_Nat_A_]

It’s a fine line. I do hope that laws come into effect that protect minor children on this platform, just like there are laws for minors acting. It’s actually crazy there aren’t any in place already.

[@CarrieAnn_70]

💯% Agree No children should EVER be on the internet.

[@aws2026]

I listened on audiobook and she did a great job writing that book! I just wanted to cry the whole time. She is so strong and I just pray that they can all move forward and find happiness!

[@GuadalupeDominguez-fj7qq]

Where can I read it

[@Rainbowpandas]

I started reading the book at 8pm and quite literally did not go to sleep until 5am. I’d like to quote Shari here, because as a viewer sometimes I feel like one set of eyes of a million- similar to a biblically accurate angel. This passage made me think a lot about what I consume. What I shouldn’t consume. It truly was an incredibly written book, and we can all learn a lot from Shari Franke. “I wondered how the public’s consumption of others’ pain and suffering cross the line from empathy to voyeurism? How quickly have we, as a society, become numb to the struggles of others, our capacity for compassion eroded by the sheer volume of human drama we’re exposed to daily? We were just characters in a soap opera now, except the drama was real and the consequences permanent. Our grief had been reduced to a mere commodity, packaged and sold, consumed and discarded.”

[@Rainbowpandas]

If you do read the book, prepare yourself to smile, hold your heart, cry, and want to yell a battle cry for all survivors of abusive parents.

[@donnacoupe119]

This exactly.

[@annawilliams7568]

“Voyeurism” was an interesting word choice and I am confused by it. It certainly was a good read and well written.

[@e.m.b82]

Coming from an abusive childhood. Her book was hard to read, but I’m glad she was able to open up about it, seeing how so many others still haven’t opened up about what happened to them.

[@megantownsend3787]

I am still currently reading the book, but my heart breaks for them! I am too, so proud of her, and so happy she is finally able to have HER voice. One specific part I was reading I had tears in my eyes. I pray that she is still able to heal those wounds in her heart, that should have never been placed. I hope she feels the love from us all, and knows how much we support her, the siblings, and you! 💗

[@jackieh1530]

Sheri’s book is well written and inspiring. I congratulate her on her journey to wellness. I see a child with inner strength that most of us cannot conceive and a teenager fighting through chaotic circumstance’s and turmoil. Then a young adult striving to live her life under enormous pressure. I applaud all she did to get through a crisis some of us have no idea how horrific it can be, she succeeded in wisdom beyond her years. This book is the best read in many years, I hope it brings help to those who also need to see they are not alone in their circumstances.

[@debbiealtman5373]

Congratulations to Shari being engaged. I wish them all the best.❤

[@graceglaros8072]

Currently reading the book, from the first few chapters I read I truly had a deep appreciation and understanding of Shari. She is the oldest of the siblings, therefore she is the protector for her siblings. The very beginning when she talks about the phone call and driving to her house to see police, and ESPECIALLY when she says she thought that they would come out of the house with body bags is bone chilling!!!! I am not surprised that in a recent interview she said she will not have any contact with ruby. I admit that when this entire situation started, I was more concerned with jody, but now that Shari has come out and told her story about what she endured in the hands of her own mother, I have a whole new perspective on Ruby. I am very proud of Shari for not only having the courage to tell her story, but also tell the stories of her siblings while respecting their privacy.

[@leahfults3617]

I'm reading the book now and it is absolutely heartbreaking, but you're right. Your niece is so strong and is working hard to overcome. It's a great book.

[@breetown]

I'm guessing you don't have contact with them since you are wishing them the best through this video. Has it always been like this?

[@Hails85]

I’m not a reader, but I can’t wait to read Shari’s book. I’m so proud of her for her perseverance and finding a way to share her voice.

[@dakotarose8207]

If you can, try listening to the audiobook. I felt so many emotions!

[@iPodMusician]

if youre not a reader try the audio book and listen while doing housework or working out etc :) thats what i did and i easily got through it in about 7 hours on and off

[@amclaudet]

I was just shocked at all that Shari went thru and just wanted to give her a hug. I am glad she’s happy now. Prayers for everyone involved! It’s sad to see how everything went down.

[@laraeber929]

Immediately after the release, I got the e-book and read it and one sitting and right after I went on Amazon and ordered the physical copy and also the audiobook to support her with everything I can. I am so very proud of her and wish only the best for her and the entire family! Thank you so much for sharing your honest opinion! Sending a lot of love all the way from Germany ❤

[@KyleeMcEwen-1]

SO proud of Shari. That took a lot of guts. It’s hard walking away from a toxic person, especially your own mother. She should be very proud.

[@yvonnemccormack1043]

Wow seeing you in the RV speaking about this sis a full circle. I have listened to the book and am more than proud of what she expressed, to stand up the way she did for so long. She’s such a wonderful example of a woman.

[@ddgirl4135]

Kevin is just as responsible. He never stood up to her insane parenting. Yes, Jodi was evil, but so was Ruby, no mother puts a stranger before her children. I read Shari’s book, she is such a brave young woman, she had to agree with her mother’s evilness in order to survive.

[@amberchambers5422]

So so proud of Shari for speaking out and writing this book!

[@Banyo__]

I spoke on this, when all of this began to unfold in relation to people wondering, how can you not know certain things are happening to a friend or family member, and this is exactly my experience. I had a friend who was doing very illegal things. I saw him pretty regularly, and he was a police officer whom I'd known since I was in elementary. He had a perfect police record, highly recommended, pillar of the community and the church, all the things, but behind closed doors, he had a whole other life. No one knew except the people hurt by him. I was completely blindsided when I turned on the news, and there his mug shot was. It is incredibly painful to feel like you could have done more or wondering where would you have seen the signs. The guilt wrapped around that is immense and as much as even officers assure you, you couldn't have known, you feel like you somehow should have figured it out. It's tough. People need some grace in these hard situations. They don't just affect the people specifically hurt by their actions, but an entire community. So my heart goes out to this family as a whole, and having watched the video of this poor boy coming forward to his neighbors and opening up this case to begin with, and the siblings who tried to get help earlier, I wish them all the best. They are going to be living and grieving these moments for a long time.

[@angeliconda123]

Is it true that you did blanket training with your infants? Cause that's a pretty abusive thing to do so i hope not. Your words sound nice in this video. So i do hope that is false.

[@bonniehoellein]

Are you just regurgitating something you saw online that someone said? The video is still up. Go watch it. I never ever implied any type of abuse nor was there any abuse going on. Just people online LOOKING for something negative to say.

[@dr.7539]

@angeliconda123 I've seen this repeated over and over online and from several creators parroting each other. Blanket training as taught by Michael and Debbie Pearl is an abusive practice, but it is not the same thing as what Bonnie showed in her video. I've seen creators knowingly misrepresent Bonnie's video just to further stir up controversy.

[@angeliconda123]

@@bonniehoellein I will admit, I came with pre-conceived notions that I've read from online strangers. My question was meant to be genuine, but I can see that it still sounded judgmental and like an attack. I went and watched the video and it's not nearly the abusive practice that I have read about... it actually sounds like something I might try with my little one lol. So, I apologize for my judgments, and I'm sure you deal with it a lot due to the viral nature of the Franke saga, so I apologize for adding to that as well.

[@JmacBTRlover16]

I have wondered the entire time of promotion of her book and after reading her book i wondered your stance on not only supporting her but with how she feels about family vlogging. Thank you for being so open with us and sharing your support but also discussing with the family how to move forward. I’ve followed you and Ellie since the beginning and I never felt like either of you ever filled something inappropriate or out of place. You have always been raw and honest with us and it is absolutely valued. I hope to be half the woman and mother you are because you are so strong and brave and a beautiful role model. I’m so proud of Shari for sharing her story and being so vulnerable in opening up. I finished her book in a day and was amazed at how beautifully written and respectful it is. I wish her, Kevin and the kids a lifetime of love and happiness as they move forward and send loving prayers to you all. ❤

[@TheMaddiecrosby]

Do you still speak with Ellie?

[@amandapuddicomb3743]

I bought Shari’s book and the audio book! I hope to start it this weekend. I have been hearing nothing but good things about the book and I am very proud of her as well. I’m glad you made this video because I was also wondering how you felt about the book and your side of it all. I totally agree with everything you have said. You said everything beautifully. I hope your family can finally start healing!! ❤

[@21_f_aus]

I'm yet to get this book, for me I see Kevin just as guilty as Ruby, he could have looked and realised what was happening was no ok and do something about it... I do hope the best for the kids, I hope they heal

[@brookedavis2510]

Are you not able to be in contact with any of them? Kevin and Shari I’m mainly referring to.

[@Meghant3]

R is the real hero in this whole situation

[@AfinaVanDijk-f4o]

I've been listening to Shari's audiobook for the past days and she has me on the edge of crying for the most of it. Watching 8Passengers always gave me an unnerving feeling, now I know why. I cannot imagine the influence of this on your family and business, as well on your siblings and parents. This is the kind of trauma that makes you overthink every step and decision ever made. I don't believe in God, so I will not pray. I do, however, wish you all the strength that you need to find peace with this.

[@sometimessmiley9840]

i read sharis book in under 2 days. completely gripping. shari is incredible

[@GramCrkr22]

I listen to the entire book on spotify. What an incredibly strong young lady she is. The book was so well written in deep in my soul I felt so horrible for her and everything that she went through. The ending of the book like you said gave hope that those children and Kevin will be able to lead a better life going forward. I am praying for all of them

[@jessieigh]

I’ve been following you and Ellie for almost 10 years and could only stomach 8P for a few months, if that. It was a different world. A different vibe. Thank you for addressing this and for doing it so eloquently.

[@DrinaCarl]

While I agree that children don't belong on the internet, I can't help but wonder how much worse things would have been for the Franke children without thousands of viewers expressing concerns, calling the police and CPS, etc. I've read Shari's book and couldn't be more in awe of her strength and courage. Praying for peace for your family!

[@nicoleschrobilgen5216]

Great point!!!!!

[@Hannah-gn3vg]

I thought the same.. the abuse would of been hidden so much more.

[@indulgewithease]

you are doing such a great job, The only thing I can't get past is seeing Kevin on camera , telling police that Shari should be arrested for steeling from the house. what sort dad wants their daughter to be arrested. Shari, is doing such a great job standing up for her siblings. best of luck for their future

[@7809love]

My mom is an addict. Bonnie and Ellie, and eventually followed by Julie and their mom, were quite literally my FIRST examples of loving, compassionate, and empathetic mothers. It is hard at times, even now at 34 and a mom of 2, to come to understand and see what I missed out on as a child and still as an adult, but seeing their example has been critical to determining how id like to be as a mother and the relationship I want to have with my kids as they grow. And this does not come from a place of believing they are these perfect mothers. They have been much more vulnerable and real and willing to show the hard stuff (on their own terms) more than any of us deserve as strangers viewing them online. I am very grateful for their example.❤

[@AlyssaWharen]

I never liked ruby and never could get into watching her channel. I really don’t know what it was, i always thought maybe it was bc she was so much older but this whole situation makes so much sense as to why i never liked her

[@leahgates6618]

In regards to you saying at the end about how you don’t know where Ruby got her ideas since she was raised in the same home as you: it takes ALL kinds to make a family. My dad is one of 8 and he has some siblings that are horrible. I tell him often that I do not know how my dad and his sibling came from the same home.

[@vblacktravel]

I am glad you are supporting Shari. She is strong and I am proud of her too!

[@kimberlysmith673]

This was wonderfully addressed and so respectful! Her feelings are valid and so are yours! As someone with an uncle who is a predator of children and abusive in so many ways it doesn't always stem from their childhood..some people just sadly aren't good human beings due to something being twisted in them and it's nobody's fault but their own💔

[@donnasmallwood9793]

I never watched rubie channel before any of this came out. As for Kevin l, i lost a lot of respect for him when on the day he was questioned/interview he seemed more worried about rubie than he was his children, asking what was going to happen to her, and he loved his wife. Im like dude your children has wounds, and were being starved to death. Who gives a crap what happens to her. Just get me to my children so i can be with them.

[@FANOFCHRIS]

It was such a great book. I also listened to the audiobook and loved it. Hearing Shari’s voice made it that more real. She’s an excellent writer. I continue to pray for her and her siblings. It’s time to take back her life and grow into the woman she is meant to be.

[@jferneli]

It was written by a professional ghost writer. It's Shari's story, but she is not the author

[@SaraFig30]

Bonnie, I just wanted to say im so glad you addressed Shari's book and the whole situation. I can understand how hard it is when this tragedy is brought up again. Yes, Shari has every right to speak on her experience, but you navigate the situation with courage, grace, and we know where you stand on it. It would be simpler just to ignore the judgments and questions, but that isn't you. Bonnie, you are a strong person to speak out for your neices/nephew and speak out against Ruby so publicly. You aren't the problem, your other siblings aren't the problem, your parents aren't the problem, your religion isn't the problem.. RUBY is the problem. Jodi and Ruby are where they belong, inside a jail cell.

[@xxleoxxofficial]

Hi Bonnie, do you still speak with Ellie?

[@joanneclifford82]

I grew up with a very mentally ill sister. Who did some very difficult and threatening things. I would hope no one judged me by her actions. Congratulations to Shari on the book. A very healthy and inspiring way of dealing with the things she has experienced.

[@melsbeauty1]

You really do look like a weight has lifted Bonnie. It’s been so sad to watch this all unveil and I’m so sorry you’ve all been through this. Shari’s book is phenomenal and so well written. I know you can all rebuild from this time will heal but you will never forget. The family values and love you have for your family and your amazing relationship with Joel has been a privilege to watch from the very beginning. I will continue to look forward to every video which brings some sort of comfort to many people. You seem like you again in this video it’s amazing to see. 💕💕xx

[@87nidy]

Do you have a relationship with ruby’s kids

[@mandybnz1]

So guessing you aren't (??)🤔 talking to Shari or Frankes, seeing how you are addressing them in the video. Thanks for sharing, interesting to hear your viewpoints

[@ziingstudios]

As a person who has consistently watched only some of the Griffith's family vlog channels [Grandma and Grandpa Griffiths, BH, JD] as encouragement of what a family of faith's life can be like, my chief responsibility as a viewer has been to speak up if/when I saw disturbing things being done, and also to pray for the few family vloggers that I choose to watch--if they are more uplifting than disturbing. Personally, as a long time videographer, we chose not to show our kids' faces online, chiefly because life online was/is an experiment, and due to their early ages not being able to speak what they really know and feel about the entire process of being recorded AND publically published. That was our choice--as we watched the parenting experiment of so many other family vloggers, some seeming to turn out positively over time and others not. I cannot say that there were not things on Bonnie's videos early on that disturbed me, because there were. Those public videos are likely on record at YTube and will never go away due to the long life of computer records. The video of all the kids in a tub sticks out for me. Due to conscience, and wanting to speak up for children perhaps too small to voice protests if they even knew the types of people that would eat those videos up in the wrong way, I said something in the comments to BH at that time. So, I will not act as though this channel has always had the seal of ethics that it has begun to grow into. I do believe that due to the laws constraining us, and I hope due to moral ethics, that this family has evolved and grown regarding what they do for a living by publishing vlogs. My family has enjoyed seeing days in the life of other vloggers, including a few choice family ones--ones I know never were and never will be perfect. I pray for the best for all of us, as we're all just trying to get through this life and figure things out the best way that we can. Thank you for sharing your views, knowing that your nieces, nephews and so many others that have always been interfamililal "consumers" that are as great a part of your audience as others, will see as well. As a human, my heart hurts for all of this, but I am glad to know that you, Bonnie have begun to feel better sometimes the past year, and that you have hope. IMHO, life should never be without the hope that God can help us through this life someway, somehow. On Shari, I don't know if she has a channel--I never looked, but I won't be buying her book, unless I am led to, as I don't believe in her making a profit from sharing details about her family if she may claim that she doesn't feel others should do so in other venues. Everyone has their perspective, though and, I hope that her sharing hers has helped her, therapeutically, if nothing else.

[@emilywilson4021]

Ive been following your family through you and Ellie for over a decade. I follow Shari and watched her stories recording her audio book. I listened to it within 2 days om audible. Something special about hearing those words from her voice specifically. Some things i knew, some things i didnt, learning of new heartbreaking things Shari has been through. I feel so proud she can finally share her words. It was a beautifully written story

[@mkinder9557]

Everyone looks through their own glasses. Your - your - life formed your lens. Just as you chose to make this video, Shari chose to write a book! Not all of my family has survived our trauma from 40 years ago. I hope you do better than we did. I wish all the kids the best! ❤

[@theylove.giisell]

still praying for all of you all ❤️ we all love you guys

[@abbywallace4708]

That was so well said! You are right. Corruption can be in ANY line of work. What happened to your dear nieces and nephews was unacceptable and unfair and they deserved better but you explained it beautifully just because that happened to them doesn’t mean everyone is that. I pray that as they are healing they can find peace and that you and your family can find peace as well. I think Shari is an amazing woman, I think all of them are. Thank you for sharing with us. ❤

[@EyeWhisperer]

As someone with 3 siblings and my oldest sibling also viewing the world in a completely different way from reality… I get it Bonnie. I completely get what you are saying. It’s like their view of the world is so altered. Even when we discuss an old memory, they even take that as an opportunity to alter the past in a way that never happened. It’s hard. You try and try and try to step in and intervene. You try to get them to see things clear, it doesn’t work. It only makes things worse, they push you away, they gas light you, they tell you that you don’t know what you’re talking about. You are a strong sister, you are a good sister and you are a good mom. ❤

[@EllieKinard]

I would also say... you have changed your style of vlogging a TON over the years. I feel like you have done a great job adapting through the years and adjusting as you learned more about being a family on social media.

[@AnnaHutto-p9o]

Bonnie, I've been following your family for so many years now and have always appreciated the ways you parented your children. Obviously, we dont see that happening directly, but it is obvious in the way your kids are. They are so confident, happy and loved. Thank you for showing that this can be done the right way, even by ones who share genes with Ruby.

[@mckaelahuebner490]

Bonnie, I've been a silent viewer for many years ❤ I just want to say I am so proud of you for getting through this with grace. I have learned so much from you, things about motherhood, how to take care of yourself, style and how to protect my 3 children. I rewatch your old videos every day. Much love to you and your family ❤

[@gdukie9469]

Purchased it last night. Can’t wait to read it. Proud of you Shari.

[@turpinrachael]

It’s nice to see how mentally healthy you look this year on vacation compared to that heavy emotional cloud you had last year. You’ve honestly taken the time to process your feelings and find a way to keep moving forward. I pray you and your family have a peaceful and relaxing trip.

[@tiktokkfypp]

I actually bought the book and got it this morning I’m on chapter 10, it’s really intriguing and it really holds your attention. I know as when I was younger I used to watch your sisters family vlogs thinking how nice they seem etc. but to replay the scene of the youngest daughters birth and the video just played back in my head, very well written. I’m sure I’ll finish it by Wednesday

[@valeriecady8070]

Love and prayers to you Bonnie and all your family love ya ❤

[@trishavarga5076]

I love ur family and been here since the little room in the basement, but I do believe some aspects of family vlogging when it's about children needs to be taken more seriously.

[@katiejean011]

I can tell you have done a lot of reflection on the situation both before and after reading Shari’s book. I’m proud of you and your entire family (especially the 7 passengers) for getting through this extremely difficult time. Extremely difficult isn’t even enough to describe the pain and horror of what you’ve all been through. Thank you for providing a perspective from Ruby’s childhood that Shari was unable to provide from her point of view. I hope your family can get through this and come out the other side with respect for each other’s boundaries. Sending you so much love! ❤

[@katiehinnenkamp4874]

Currently listening and I am blown away

[@starkovichforster]

I was introduced to your family through your parents' Christmas vlogs, from which I began following each of you. I love your family and have prayed for all of you through many of the experiences you guys have faced. I believe that you guys are an inspiration to many families, and how you navigate difficult situations is also wonderful for others to take into their considerations. Blessings to all of you.

[@rebeccamarkwirth9475]

Do you and your siblings still have contact with the younger Frankie Kids? It would be so sad if they live isolated from you. Lots of love and strength to you

[@robertpeterson5310]

I am glad you are paying your children. I read Jill Duggar's book and how her father to advantage of her and did not pay her. I am going to read your nieces book too.

[@alexandriaschwab4994]

I listened to the whole book in one day. I couldn't stop listening. Even though it's very very sad it was written so beautifully.

[@MissesSniffles]

I hope shari sees this and knows she still has her aunts to be there for her. I’m reading her book now and it’s very impactful. I grew up watching 8 passengers and Ellie & Jared and your channel Bonnie. I pray for your guys family a lot❤

[@BradieeLee]

Bonnie you are so right and your way with words is amazing. I love that you include your kids in the conversation and actually listen to how they feel. I know you do not want to hurt anyone feelings but you should do what you and your husband and kids want. Those are the opinions that matter the most. Love you guys❤

[@mirandadelano269]

I dont know how i missed the fact that Sheri was writing a book but i cant wait to read it. I have followed all of your families for a long time and i cant imagine the strength it took to sit down and film this for us. thank you bonnie, because i didnt know i needed to hear this today.

[@angieallen5810]

Thank you so much for this video, your family has been in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so glad you continue to share your sweet family with us! 💖

[@sarahbowers5459]

I was hoping you would share your heart and thoughts. So well spoken. So graceful. So humble and forgiving. It speaks volumes that you still chose to speak on Shari and her book despite the fact that there is no relationship there (at least I don’t think). Your heart is beautifully brave, Bonnie.

[@FayMay-g2g]

I agree shari had a right to her opinion and perspective as do you. Thank you for continuing to share your sweet family with us. We love you! ❤

[@pamelamorris5021]

I worry for your mum and dad, it must be so hard on them. I really hope all this doesn't split you as a family, you all still need each other ❤

[@Kassiann1]

I am honestly very proud of all of you in the way you have handled and navigated what I can imagine was a horribly difficult thing to experience. I appreciate your perspectives and your willingness to be open about your thoughts and feelings. Both perspectives have brought so much to the table and have opened my mind and understanding to family vlogging and other topics. Thank you for sharing! Thanking you for being so gracious, honest, and willing to be part of the conversation. I wish nothing but the best for all of you moving forward!

[@deasully4]

Your “changed” words for Kevin shows that there is healing happening in you

[@FreakingLuna]

I think you are the most wonderful woman, mother, sister, aunt. When you said you didnt know if you could say your heart was full i looked at it as your heart healing. I always want nothing but the best for you and your family, Bonnie. I can't tell you how much I cried hearing you say you had some closure. And I can see your spark coming back ✨️ love always to you ❤

[@Salinnell]

This 👏 couldn’t agree more

[@charlenebrooker3532]

I love watching you as a family .i hope your mom and dad are doing ok as well i miss them love to all of you

[@sofiamaria194]

I had to pause throughout the book to think, cry, & really digest it. It was the most powerful book I have ever read. Everyone has to read it. I am so very proud of her

[@lindasparks7224]

I love that you are all able to see hope for the future!

[@dianesullivan1047]

I bought the audio version, I hope you listened too.

[@FreakingLuna]

@@dianesullivan1047 did you watch the video? Ofc she listened. 🙄

[@WhereHomeComesFirst]

I read the book in just a few hours! I just have to know did your jaw drop when reading about her relationship with Jodi? I feel like I can picture you in the car looking at Joel like 😳

[@gina2464]

Bonnie, I have always loved your family channel. If people don’t like the idea of children being on your platform they can follow someone else ,but Kevin needs to be charged with neglect and abandonment! He let this happen, he’s supposed to be their protector! He’s no victim

[@janetdamboise6225]

Oh Bonnie I love this video. Thank you for giving us your thoughts. I haven't got her book yet but I will be getting it for sure!! I really hope that this will make your whole family feel better about themselves! Especially your parents!! It's so nice to see them in your videos even if it's just a little bit. I sure hope that your mom and Dad will make more videos in the future! I love you all, enjoy the Keys!!❤❤❤

[@andreasupermommy]

Absolutely concur with your comment! I do miss her parents. None of know how we would feel or what we would do in their shoes. ❤

[@jennifermarsh1469]

I applaud you for giving your kids a say, paying them, and investing in their futures. I don't think there is the same answer for everybody. I think there is a way to share your family light and adventures while still being respectful of your children, their needs and wants, and their privacy. But I can totally see from your niece's perspective, that is not something that worked for their family, and not something she wants going forward. Much love and healing for your family! ♥️

[@bonniehoellein]

Not being right for everybody is key. Of course it won’t work for everyone, but it I possible for it to be right for others.

[@jennifermarsh1469]

@bonniehoellein Agreed!

[@jamesdavid1751]

I will always stand by this some people are not meant to be parents and ruby is a prime example the stuff she did to her kids might not be “generational trauma” it’s just that she is not meant to be a mom nor should she even be a mom and I hope her kids get the help and protection they need

[@brendafletcher2101]

I completely feel that your family’s vlog is pure and good. Watching your family continues to show me how to be a better and happier person. I love all of you guys and greatly admire your integrity and character.

[@OhhShootTiffiney]

Hi Bonnie and Joel. Bonnie, thank you for your vulnerability with sharing your thoughts and also showing support for Shari. As a long time viewer, I really appreciate you speaking on this topic as it really has become such an elephant in the room. As far as family vlogging goes, I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion and as outsiders, we have to remember that vlogging is literally how you guys support your family. Also, I think we have seen so much growth over the years in the way you guys put yourselves (and your children) out there, and that is what is important here. God bless you and your family, I hope you continue to heal! ❤️

[@alidrier16]

This was so well spoken. I hope you and your family can continue to be close and I hope you and your sisters can lean on each other throughout life. Everyone is allowed to have their own opinion and it’s ok to have different ones than your own family, it is possible to still get along. I love watching your parenting it makes me want to be a mom someday!

[@lindseycash4423]

Thank you for sharing this! I was just talking to my husband the other night about this! I told him I do not see you and your family anywhere close to how 8 passengers were. I have watched all of your family for a long time! Basically 11 years. I started watching when Jackson was being born. I have never once questioned your family vlogs like I did 8 passengers. I told my husband there is a huge difference between what 8 passengers did and what other family vlogs I watch do. It definitely comes across that your kids love vlogging and being a part of it. You have even said it before your kids wanted to video during your hard times and you did it for them bc they asked you too. You guys are amazing and you can definitely see your family is happy.

[@Rawfootageplants]

I loved her book. I listened to it day it came out

[@kathleenjbazan5563]

I just bought the book on kindle but have not read it yet. I think we will see Shari choose a career that reflects her voice and stance for laws and politics or maybe even some type of counselor that helps children. I just see so many doors opening for Shari, I hope all these children succeed and become healthy individuals. Thanks for sharing Bonnie, I so enjoyed this insight into your thoughts on her book.

[@hadrianwall-r7h]

Shari acknowledges the writer who really helped this book sing. She state, "I’m forever grateful to Caroline Ryder, my writing collaborator, for putting to words the raw emotions and dialogue I’ve held close to my heart for years."

[@haleycastro1316]

I heard she wrote a book and immediately looked it up on amazon and ordered it, it just got here today and I cannot wait to open it up. I'm so proud of her and so beyond happy she could FINALLY use her voice and put everything she needed to say into something the world could read. I think she is incredibly brave and strong (and so are her siblings) and the little bits I've read are written so well. She's a very intelligent young woman and I wish nothing but the best for her and her siblings, and her new fiancé, AND HER PRIVACY she finally gets to have!! Bonnie, I really respect the fact that you are actually paying your children and not just using the channel to have a bougie life and, obviously give them nice things, but that they are part of this channel and that they will have access to this money when they are 18. I would hate if you stopped showing the kids, and I do believe at least Olivia is completely at the age where she can consent to being on the internet, and Cody as well. I mean think of all the young beauty gurus from 2013 like Amanda Stelle, Olivia Jade, Claudia Salewski, alllll the teen and even tween girls posting beauty videos (I grew up watching 😭). But I can agree to an extent, I don't think it's safe or necessary for young children to be in videos. And it does make me sad when my favorite vloggers stop showing their adorable kids because I AM NOT a harm to them, but so many people in this world are and can be. So I completely see Shari's point. And her view may not be as strong if it weren't for the horrors she and her especially two younger siblings experienced. But I think of it from a hypothetical situation of if I were famous, for example, I would show very rare photos of my children on social media. I can see both sides. But Bonnie I am so proud of you as well, you are a beautiful, incredibly empathetic person and your love for your nieces and nephews really show, and it was really honorable of you to mention Kevin. Stay strong and just simply stay you ❤ and tell Shari how much we all are SO PROUD of her 💖

[@kaitlinpate3816]

Read the book in 2 days. So proud of all of you for getting through the trenches. And 6 beautiful butterflies will be able to thrive now that they’re out of that terrible terrible situation. Much love to you all 💜

[@gloriamcdowell7421]

i truly do agree with what bonnie has to say. i believe that shari and i grew up in similar circumstances (my life off camera but many similar core wounds and traumas) and knowing what i know, growing up with the mother that i did, i truly believe that ruby is who she is to her core, always has been and always will be. 8passangers or not, those kids would be working through traumas either way.

[@nancyquillian5531]

It is sad what happened to Ruby’s children. But I am surprised to hear Bonnie say that she was not a good mother, not that I don’t believe Bonnie but from what I saw Ruby was usually baking cookies for her children and was portrayed as a good mom. I guess I was fooled 😢

[@CarmAlg]

8:40 I don't think family vlogging is inherently bad. In Ruby's case, it exposed and exacerbated a selfish cruelty that was already in that house.

[@allisonchristensen3677]

I appreciate this perspective and support so much, Bonnie. I have been wondering the family’s thoughts on Shari’s book since her stance of family vlogging was voiced. I love exactly what you said that it is a completely different experience for her family and your family. So much love for your whole family ❤ enjoy your time in Florida!

[@jennarance6094]

I agree! ❤