MY WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY 👎 FAILURE 👎| Deciding on getting a second surgery 🍀

[@HouseofFI]

Do you think your relationship with food and money are connected?

[@artofthebudget]

i don't.

[@Arun71150]

🤔 how

[@Arun71150]

Thanks for doing this ❣

[@charlottebaker1942]

You are a strong, intelligent woman and you have gone through so much. I'm glad you are willing to be transparent about your journey. Praying for you that the process will go smoothly!

[@HouseofFI]

Charlotte Baker 💕thank you friend.

[@synchrogrl18]

Wendy, thank you so much for sharing this part of your journey. I can relate so much to many of the things you said. I'm so sorry about your friend Erika and your mom. Carry them in your heart. re: relationship with food and money. In some ways I think eating super clean is very expensive and I struggle with this. I try to tell myself that in the end eating really healthy and focusing on that is savings down the line - going to live a fuller life, easier on the body, etc. and that will also save money, too.

[@HouseofFI]

Lauren thank you Friend. I think about the long term cost of unhealthy eating too - it’s a struggle when I’m trying to keep my grocery budget slim. I admit I could do A LOT better in this area.

[@mtp910]

Wendy, that was tough but I applaud you!!! We consulted a popular surgeon in Colombia and he told us that Lap-Bands are barely implanted anymore bc of the amount of complications. You are probably better off with another restrictive surgery or the bypass but your doctor will help you with that. My husband and I are scheduled to do ours in the next few months. Thank you for sharing your story. Wellness and money are indeed inextricably linked.

[@HouseofFI]

Thank you! I wish you success as well. Please check in and let me know how you’re doing. 💕

[@bunnie1294]

I also struggle with food :( It's so hard. Tbh sometimes I eat and maybe the first few bites are yummy but after that, it doesn't even taste good any more but I keep eating anyway :( I have also tried every diet under the sun but my weight seems to always go back to around the 200lb mark no matter how much I drop down. At my best, I dropped down to 130lbs and was so happy but then I gained it all back within a year. It's so depressing when people judge me for having failed yet again. People seem to think overweight people lack self control. I don't think that's what it is. I think I am very good at self control. I think it's our hormones and habits that drive our eating. But even when I get my habits in check, my hormones come back to bite me eventually because I have PCOS. I don't connect money and food though but everyone just has different triggers.

[@HouseofFI]

I relate a lot to all of that. I know it’s not my lack of drive either. I have been able to complete just about every goal I’ve ever set for myself except this. So, I’m at peace with my decision. My daughter has PCOS as well - she’s much shorter than me and at her highest was heavier than me. Growing up she was very athletic so it wasn’t so much of an issue. But after graduating weight came on fast for her. It was extremely difficult. She decided to have the sleeve surgery about a year ago. She just text me this morning she’s down almost 100 pounds now. She working out regularly and overall is going exceptionally well. It’s wonderful to see her hit her stride.

[@boricua_in_wa]

Best of luck to you in your journey.

[@HouseofFI]

Leslie Linares-Hengen thank you!

[@so4reelz]

The struggle is real! Best of luck to you. I feel like it’s easier to save money than restrict calories. Everyone is different though.

[@HouseofFI]

so4reelz well we can LIVE on less but we can’t NOT eat, and food is so DAMN delicious! Lol That’s a problem. 😜

[@artofthebudget]

yes and saving money has immediate good results while restriction can cause hunger, binging and lots of bad feelings.

[@artofthebudget]

i'm sorry that you had a rocky experience with food. i've been following non-diet dietitians here and on tik tok (like abby sharp) and really enjoy their content on body neutrality and intuitive eating. not trying to solicit you! i hope you are able to find peace with food.

[@Flozzie]

I wish I had the courage to do surgery coz I yoyo with my weight too and it’s very frustrating. All the best to you Wendy

[@HouseofFI]

Flo it was not an easy decision. I totally understand the frustration. I appreciate your support!