My Wife Is Extremely Religious . . . But I’m Not

[@PoppiesAndSweetDreams]

She 100% told him she was religious before the wedding. And HE was not as honest with her. 😟😟

[@DuffyGabi]

Most of the people I know who are really good at saying “How’s your relationship with the Lord?” are obsessed with how you get to heaven but none of them seem concerned about children without healthcare, people who can’t afford housing, students who can’t afford to go to college, genocide in Gaza, the lonely person down the street, and on and on. Many of us have grown tired of religiosity.

[@alluringbliss4165]

People used to do that to me when I was younger and I was lost, trapped in this fear of eternity. I never had a relationship with God during that time. I stopped going to church for others and found god on my own later in life.

[@Kroh13]

That’s actually a common story !

[@Demetrius_Ambrose]

Part time Catholic is not a thing. She’s not pressuring you to follow her religion. She’s trying to save your soul. It’s not a matter of the usefulness of the religion, it’s about finding Christ and accepting a relationship with him, which saves your life. I hope you both prevail in this; may God bless your marriage.

[@austinite89]

My wife is religious, I’m not. It’s fine. I do my own thing and she does the same. She prays with my son. She prays for me. I appreciate it because it’s how she shows her love. I just don’t believe it. We both agree our children will grow up learning about any and all religions and they will choose their own path when they’re old enough. If they become religious or not, fine with me. Whatever makes them happy. It works for us.

[@wordsalad01]

I’m religious and my husband is not. It works because we are both very respectful of each other. Half of our kids chose religion and the other half didn’t.

[@brandonpetrille]

The Bible says you cannot be unequally yoked.

[@myleemoriko]

She had to have known he was not following the bible before she married him! Unfortunately she chose to be unequally yoked, but she can still honor her role as a wife and encourage him to know God.

[@Johndie547]

Also says you can sleep with 14 year olds lolz. Yet here we are in modernity with more advanced morals (Atleast some of us).

[@DuffyGabi]

My Bible suggests Trump should not be worshiped yet evangelicals do so I guess we’re at an impasse on the usefulness of the good book.

[@myleemoriko]

@@Johndie547 No, it doesn’t.

[@myleemoriko]

@@DuffyGabi So you believe if someone misuses the bible, that makes the whole bible useless? This is poor logic

[@LoriPHarris]

Thanks for this, I needed to hear this. Dating a guy right now and we really differ on a couple of pretty important things. Wasn’t sure I could continue to see him but we have been able to talk about it. We have done more than talk around the edges, but now I have some direction on a conversation.

[@RDCFemmes]

If religion, faith etc is important, let's stop dating people who don't. One of the reason, I ended my last relationship. I am a practising Christian, It's central to my life so part-time Christian man isn't for me.

[@laurab5849]

Yep. Came here to say this , I’ve been single for many many years because it’s hard to meet a man who prioritizes his faith. Recently I had a friend say “well what if it’s a good guy and has a good heart”…. Well if it was that easy then we would all get into heaven. It was a big mistake on her part to go forward and get married. I think she wanted to believe that he was a man who cared about his faith more than he ever told her he was.

[@CG-MP]

Grateful for my husband. We both grew up like this guy’s wife, but we both landed about where he is. This kind of misalignment was one of the chief fears holding me back from relationships.

[@Sara-x6t3s]

@@CG-MP yes it was for me as well, unfortunately I ended up with a man like this man. One who lied about the very core of who he was, in an attempt to avoid "conflict". In other words cowardice. It is truly unfortunate when people take this sort of decision away from us. Cruel and unfortunate.

[@andrear7181]

I am a full time catholic, I go to mass and pray the Rosary every day. My husband is not a hell of a catholic, and my husband knows I worry about his soul. My advice to the wife is better talk to God about your husband than talk to your husband about God. God will do the rest.

[@___Rebecca___]

@andrear7181 this is the best advice. Trust God. Nagging will never change someone's heart. Our prayers and humble example is what can soften the heart. My prayers for my husband were answered after 9 years, and he decided for himself to be baptized into the Eastern Orthodox Church with my me and our children. Glory to God!

[@shamanllama]

I worry about Catholics. Y'all are not following God's true teachings. ❤

[@TonyCox1351]

I could never follow a god who would throw my spouse in hell simply because she didn’t believe.

[@saradorris3554]

​@shamanllama i understand why you might be concerned. There's a few pastors who were formal Protestants but are now die hard catholics. One of them was learning scripture, church history, and Church fathers. There's a testimony about him if you are interested. His name is Scott Hahn.

[@shamanllama]

@TonyCox1351 God judges justly and she wouldn't go to Hell. At worst Limbo. It depends on why or the mechanics of her unbelief. If she simply has never tried or is unknowing, she likely wouldn't be cast straight to Hell. Hell is for those who adamantly deny and sin against God.

[@dk1828]

How has this conversation not been had in the 10 yrs they’ve been married? She’s gotta know how he feels by now…

[@Sara-x6t3s]

@@dk1828 unfortunately it does seem that she placed FAR to much trust in this man. I truly hope that she's strong enough in her Faith, to weather this storm and hopefully make it out unscathed. Learning that your partner has been lying about who they are at a core level can not be easy.

[@angelabarton5146]

They LOVE each other, but they don’t really KNOW each other. she doesn’t even know what he believes. Because he’s afraid she won’t feel the same about him. He’s trying to adhere to a standard he knows she has, but he doesn’t necessarily agree with. He’s afraid of being judged by someone who claims to love him. Valid concern

[@farmboyswaterfowlin9116]

These are huge differences, but it sounds like they'll be just fine. If they can agree to disagree and be okay with that.

[@therealad4342]

I have basically been a closet atheist for years now. We go to church on the big holidays and our friends talk about god and every time these things happen I’ve always waited for that moment of realization or to feel it and so far, it’s never happened. It’s kind of a hard thing to keep to yourself when you live in the south where everyone feels differently than you.

[@denesecardwell8532]

It's kind of odd that this woman would marry this man knowing that they are unequally yoked.

[@joane24]

It's possible she wasn't much devout when younger and didn't see it as that big deal then. Many women become more religious and active in the church later in life, in their 40s, 50s.

[@joygarrett8397]

Well it sounds like he hasn’t been sharing his true feelings/beliefs/self all along! ;-)

[@LoriPHarris]

@@denesecardwell8532 not really. It’s only a problem if she makes it one. The hardest thing for me to learn in my life is my partner doesn’t have to agree 💯 on politics although we do generally, I just take it further then he does with research because I want to know. I recently learned it’s fine not to discuss every single thing you do/learn with your partner. It’s not my job to teach him anything, or to instruct him how his ideas are right or wrong. That was a tough one for me.

[@AlanThomas-hp3fn]

Men marry, hoping she won't change! Women marry, hoping he will change. Nothing new ! His low spiritual labeto need not be a problem unless she makes it one . Let's cut to the chase. He is spiritually lazy and wants someone to clue him on how to shut her up without upsetting the eazy deal he has. Jesus said, " You are neither hot nor cold. I will vomit youboutbif my mouth." she is not the problem. She is the thorn in his side God intends to save him and her both

[@joane24]

@@LoriPHarris But politics it's a bit different. John said it well, it's about wanting to save the other person. If you'd truly believe that someone will be met with most terrible fate if they don't change/convert, wouldn't you anything you can to help them avoid that terrible fate? That's the mindset. They may not always go about it in the right or convincing way, but the intention comes from caring and wanting to save.

[@joygarrett8397]

They just need to be honest with each other!

[@1cesar]

This is why you need to marry with in your own religion. These people didnt even know eachother before getting married

[@amandagopinath6351]

My husband and I are this way. The way we do it is I do my thing he does his. 🤷‍♀️ works for me

[@Brianna_Little_Apple_Mama]

Mark, I would really suggest going to an OCIA class, together. Even if it’s just a few times.

[@agataparsons9427]

So true, I went with mu husband, and was the best thing we did together.

[@annarodriguez1201]

That's true. Years ago, I took an RCIA class. There was this guy, who you can tell did not want to be there. He would annoy the class and basically say the catholic church is wrong. That was his 3rd time taking it and his wife came with him to make sure he finished it. By the end, he was defending the catholic faith and he finally finished the program. It was beautiful to see.

[@frankalmanzar3492]

I’m surprised they even got together if he isn’t that religious but she is.

[@myleemoriko]

Wife is doing the right thing to share with her husband what she loves the most- God! She wants him to have eternal life, I hope he loves her enough to listen to whats truly on her heart.

[@alwaysyouramanda]

Some guys would kill for a lady that won’t leave them no matter what..

[@veravaughan5876]

I said that same thing right after your first statement. Salvation is what she is wanting for you

[@perspective9291]

I’m skeptical of everything even myself might be nice to believe I’m right and everyone else is wrong

[@greenAbbot]

It’s important to look skeptically at things. But if you don’t believe you’re right at the end of the day, you should change your position.

[@foreversurfergirl]

Find some christian hard rock. Red jumpsuit aparatus :"face down" was so good it trancended the christian lable. Watch o brother where art thou - coen brothers she will get a kick outta that and its HILARIOUS. Make it a point to discover new stuff together. As far as church and prayer. Choose one event that you are willing to go to regularly and participate to the level you are comfortable with. But outside of that event she can lean on her friends.

[@saradorris3554]

Darling, i completely agree with KLOVE.

[@amyfatheree3574]

God knows whether you have faith or not. You can’t force faith or to glorify/praise the Lord. You can only pray for someone to believe/grow closer to the Lord. The rest is up to God.

[@tomnohmy1273]

I'm not extremely religious and I'm single

[@joesillamanrs7189]

Fake it until you make it LOL

[@elsa_nyc]

She will keep pushing her religion on him until he tells her, "thanks but no thanks!"

[@nicoledunn4058]

Am I missing something or are these two the worst match-up ever? She needs to become a nun and he needs to find a woman who enjoys life outside of church.

[@joygarrett8397]

Why would you say she needs to become a Nun? Not everyone treasures the level of depravity that a lot of music/movies/tv shows have stooped to these days!

[@nicolemichelle198]

@@joygarrett8397 She doesn't have to treasure depravity, but just because a movie contains nudity or swearing doesn't mean that it has nothing to offer a thoughtful and contemplative mind. She's acting like a child.

[@laurab5849]

@@nicolemichelle198a lot of Christian’s believe in guarding their hearts and minds from impure things. I agree these two are very different but it doesn’t make her wrong .

[@jeretso]

So let her hang out at the church. It's mostly women at the church. You can watch more football while she is busy.

[@bananarama480]

Wow, this is so stereotypical and restrictive. Even if there were as many men as women in the church or even more men - so what? Only insecure people care about this kind of stuff.

[@greenAbbot]

I think he would be fine with that. The problem is that if someone believes your eternal soul is in danger, then they are going to suffer worrying about that every day, and you’re going to suffer because they’re going to keep badgering you..

[@jeretso]

@@greenAbbot I tell them the truth. Let them talk to their church friends and devise ways to convince me. The caller married her he loves her and the relationship will be OK.

[@jeretso]

@@bananarama480 Its common. I was at church last night. I also go to sports bars full of men.

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

I’d end anything where somebody is pushing their doctrine on me and say I’m wrong when nobody knows on this planet what religion is right.

[@wordsalad01]

I’m religious while my husband is agnostic, but in our relationship I’ve found his family is far more likely to force their beliefs on me than vice versa. It’s like they are so afraid to have anyone force their dogma on them that they come out defensive. It’s honestly exhausting.

[@GixxerRider1991]

This woman is nuts. Run!

[@elsa_nyc]

What is Caleb music?

[@ruthgonzalez6360]

K-Love is a Christian radio station.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

K love. It’s Christian music!

[@elsa_nyc]

@flashthecorgi2053 ok thanks! That is why I am not familiar. Thank you very much for the info!

[@codename495]

Oh it’s chloroform over radio waves. Absolutely awful, meaningless platitudes over acoustic guitar.

[@SilentStormParadox]

Religion/cosmology doesnt change how you live life. Whatever you believe you still have to take care of yourself and your family, and not mistreat others and be respectful of others. Then enjoy your interests and social life.

[@___Rebecca___]

Your religious beliefs absolutely affect how you live your life. An atheist has no basis for objective morality, so you telling them they need to take care of themselves and be respectful to others.. they could just say "why? I'm gonna do whatever I want" and from their religious view that's totally valid. Just because culture chooses to adopt certain behaviors to function as a society (usually some variation of Christian ethics) doesn't mean there is an actual justification for them without God.

[@greenAbbot]

@@___Rebecca___ Nobody has a basis for objective morality. The subjective basis for your morality is a desire to follow what you believe to be God’s will. The subjective basis of my morality is empathy for my fellow humans, so I don’t need a third party (divine or otherwise) to tell me to treat them well.

[@ga6589]

@@greenAbbot Thank you! Well put!

[@ga6589]

@@___Rebecca___ I think that if you need a god in order to know right from wrong, you're just a psychopath on a leash. It's clear you know little about atheism.

[@___Rebecca___]

@greenAbbot my objective morality comes from an ultimate divine mind and objective truth, which is God and my desire to be in communion with Him. There is an objective, unchanging metric to measure that in my worldview. It's nice that you've adopted, arbitrarily, some of those morals. But you have no basis to tell another person that they shouldn't live a life that benefits them while harming others. Why should they treat others with respect and dignity and deny themselves if they have no objective morality? If you say because that's what culture decided, then you're also saying if culture decides tomorrow that human sacrifice is acceptable then you'd have to concede. Your subjective morals are your preference, and without an objective standard, like God, your preferences can change, and what was once immoral can now be deemed moral.

[@leekshikapinnamneni4835]

Why did you marry her?

[@jatnarivas8741]

He ignorant of and inconsistent with the Catholic faith. I wish he studied the matter more.

[@joane24]

Yes. He already has access to the fullness of faith and the holy sacraments, and doesn't even know it.

[@nicoledunn4058]

UGH! Why do so many religious people insist on forcing their beliefs on other people? Some of them (like this poor man's wife) are relentless about it, which only pushes people further away. It's literally the definition of obnoxious. Just do what feels right to you and leave the rest of us alone.

[@ga6589]

I wish people wouldn't concern themselves with the religious beliefs, or lack of them, of others.

[@masterp711]

⁠@@nicoledunn4058It is a nonnegotiable part of Catholicism and Orthodox Christianity in general to evangelize-not in a way that’s forceful or harassing, but in charity and conviction. What those who hear those words do with them is not in a Christian’s control, and a prudent evangelist will not try to lead a horse to water if it won’t drink; but the fact that you would be so troubled to have someone approach you who has your best interests (from their perspective) at heart for a short time is somewhat confounding to me.

[@nicoledunn4058]

I disagree with John about this. This isn't about love, this is about control. She wants to control him. And he shouldn't have to go to a SINGLE bible study class just to make her happy. She needs to accept and RESPECT his position, PERIOD.

[@aisherwasher6959]

How can she respect his position if he hasn't shared it yet? I don't believe enough info has been given to conclude she's just being controlling. Where's that coming from?

[@nicolemichelle198]

@@aisherwasher6959 Actions speak far louder than words and everything from his lack of enthusiasm to his indifference to her questions should clearly tell her that he's NOT INTERESTED. A woman her age can't be this oblivious to obvious social cues, she's just ignoring them because she's hell-bent on getting him to see things her way. This woman sounds insufferable.

[@shellbythesea12]

I have a feeling this guy lied to her the entire of time they dated, and even now about bring a Christian. Hes a cherry picker "Christian ". Which means hes not actually a Christian at all.

[@laurab5849]

But where does her intuition or the Holy Spirit come in? There is no way this woman didn’t see through this guy and his lack of commitment to his faith. I think he gave her a couple answers she wanted and she turned a blind eye, excited to get married. I’ve done this many times while dating. I ask questions in a way that would allow a man to appear more religious than he is, only to later really feel the conviction of knowing it’s not true.

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[@DuffyGabi]

The 😊😊

[@rosamoreno4794]

This man needs to do better and give it a shot.

[@Sara-x6t3s]

She will likely feel entirely differently once she learns the truth about this man who calls himself her husband. This woman is far too good for this man. I hope he tells her the truth so that she can protect herself.

[@Totallyawesomefun]

Oh man so sad

[@nicoledunn4058]

I hope he does too because she sounds demented and dangerous.

[@Kittycakes22]

Because he isn’t into religion? That’s a stupid way to quantify someone’s worth.

[@greenAbbot]

This is one of the big problems with religion for me: so many believers define “good” based entirely on what you believe, and not on how you behave. if you can call yourself good without doing anything at all to make the world a better place, then you and I have very different missions of what good means. And the fact that you can judge this guy based on no information, except his beliefs tells me what I need to know.

[@dennischiapello7243]

That man is her husband in the eyes of God, if not in yours. Your disdain for him is not Christian. Why don't you learn from Dr. John's example?

[@GratiaPrima_]

Sounds like she needs to realize if he’s already a baptized Catholic, he’s already a Christian. And he needs to realize he needs to actually live it.

[@shellbythesea12]

Nope! Being baptized does not make you a Christian anymore then living in a barn makes you a horse.

[@angelabarton5146]

If he doesn’t identify as a Christian or any other religion, it doesn’t matter that the Catholic church did or didn’t do. They clearly aren’t involved in what he currently believes. The church doesn’t get to decide for him what he is or isn’t. What an absurd way of looking at it.

[@TXNanna3]

True, he doesn't understand the Catholic doctrine, so he can't answer her questions. Makes me wonder if he was Confirmed.

[@GratiaPrima_]

@@angelabarton5146that’s why I also said he needs to realize he needs to live it. Christianity isn’t just get baptized as a child of God and you’re good.

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