You say she is the most "thoughtful, caring, loyal person" you know. You need to get to know some more people.
@JamesL07174 ай бұрын
The problem is, many people are good at hiding their true selves, even against their own family. These people just need some push to reveal their true nature.
@VRDejaVu4 ай бұрын
I am actually worried that OP has never met anyone else, ever.
@paulefstathiou18194 ай бұрын
Hopefully the sex was worth it .
@littlemisstink9214 ай бұрын
Exactly what I said
@JimPippin-wc7fq4 ай бұрын
That ain't anywhere close to loyalty
@lordanubis14754 ай бұрын
If you ever hear "male toxicity" or "insecure" run fast, and get out = divorce or dump
@MrModamanReviews4 ай бұрын
Those are codewords that comes out of a cheaters mouth.
@littlemisstink9214 ай бұрын
Hell yeah
@jonvicmamon25294 ай бұрын
All her friends husband should know what they did and face the consequences
@SnowyWolborg3 ай бұрын
Look at how quickly the wife just came out of the gate with those accusations before anything could even happen. Her entire plan was to gaslight an emotionally manipulate this man from the jump.
@kimmogensen53903 ай бұрын
Oooh but but but PATRIACHY!
@SaintAnimus4 ай бұрын
Calling someone toxic and insecure for not wanting their monogamous partner sleeping around is 100% emotional manipulation
@-lord17544 ай бұрын
If emotional manipulation had picture in a textbook itd be the first line of this reddit post
@cyberhard4 ай бұрын
"Unless she wins the lottery and I find it in my heart to forgive her" 🤣🤣🤣
@kanish93904 ай бұрын
Bro wasn't Gaslit, bro was GasTorched
@penelopeisgoingofftopic67863 ай бұрын
Bro wasn't GasTorched, bro was GasBombed
@conq12733 ай бұрын
@penelopeisgoingofftopic6786 bro got warcrimed
@karishma_k4 ай бұрын
I can only image how tough it must have been for OP as well when his wife got diagnosed and treatment. Yet she chose to be selfish. How’s cheating on your partner of 20 years equals to “living life to the fullest”?
@OWnIshiiTrolling4 ай бұрын
"Living life to the fullest" is often code for doing whatever you want and pretending that there are no consequences. Just like the wife here was surprised that her actions had consequences.
@Haxkarl4 ай бұрын
Thats how you know that the wife never really loved him, she just settled for him.
@Dustin814 ай бұрын
You could say he lost is wife to cancer. She wasn't the same person afterwards.
@JimPippin-wc7fq4 ай бұрын
He lost her to the cu*ts that she works with. It was they who were encouraging her to do this. Not a single one of them was happy in their own relationship and they didn't think twice about convincing her to destroy hers.
@frankblasky12963 ай бұрын
This is the best comment made on this post.
@tanura58303 ай бұрын
😂 it's not the cancer she is selfish and primitive
@tanura58303 ай бұрын
This sounds like cancer is the one that is blamed but it's the women's own choice
@x-LINX-x3 ай бұрын
yo, so true. lost my mum to cancer. She's still alive but not the same
@DestGlass4 ай бұрын
She could have done some crazy stuff with her husband, lived life to the fullest with her husband, fallen more deeply in love with her husband after getting a new outlook on life. Nah, she decided to cheat. Tells you what kind of person she was/became.
@littlewifelora21824 ай бұрын
I didn’t even need to hear the details. You’re not wrong she is! LEAVE HER! Run forest ruuuuuunn!!🏃♂️
@Roshea3 ай бұрын
the west is ruined!
@cancerous3b4 ай бұрын
I am a 2 time cancer survivor. Been with the same person since high school and have been married for 14 years. This is just nuts. It's an excuse she is using. I have a feeling she has been hanging out with the wrong people, and she has changed her viewpoint and expects him to as well. I could never ask my wife for a hall pass after she stuck by me through everything and sacrificed herself.
@elade78574 ай бұрын
Goddamn, good on you bro for beating that shit twice! I hope it won't come back for another rematch, you've allready kicked it's ass!
@ciromaccarone74943 ай бұрын
All spot on, i bet her friends suggested her to go with that approach with him, to gaslight him in having no choice but to accept her affair, good for him to realize he had a choice afterall
@chrissherrill494 ай бұрын
There is never a "one time pass" - it is just a first time pass. Her level of disrespect toward you was amazing. It is incredible that the object of her infidelity was a fat, bald loser. Good on you for moving along with your life.
@jacksongunner71223 ай бұрын
Cheaters usually cheat down.
@FutureNaught3 ай бұрын
"I want your permission." "No." "I'm doing it anyway." Instant divorce.
@bud50843 ай бұрын
Even wanting to do it is cheating
@thelimey3513 ай бұрын
The way she cheated & her excuses & then refusal to accept the reality of an impending divorce afterwards shows a level of contempt for her husband that is quite extraordinary - he should never speak to her again…
@Yazevski4 ай бұрын
If this comment is seen by a single person, and makes the slightest difference in a single relationship, it will be worth saying this. People, when you cheat, offering your partner to cheat back, or offering them a 3-some, it isn't a quick fix, at least from my point of view. having been in this position, I didn't want to sleep with anyone else, or have a 3-some. I wanted something that my then wife was no longer able to give me no matter how hard she tried, her unwavering loyalty, as I had given to her. I was put in a position like this, told what was going to happen beforehand, and told I had no choice, but I did have a choice, to leave, and I did. If you crave someone else, then break up, or divorce, and THEN go do it, otherwise you're just a useless gardening tool, male or female, goes both ways. If you want someone else, that's fine, heart wants what the heart wants, but do it the right way.
@chetp84232 ай бұрын
Told you had no choice.... smh. Well done showing the cheater you did indeed have a choice. Very sorry you had to go through that - must have been gut wrenching.
@Yazevski2 ай бұрын
@@chetp8423 For a bit yeah, but I eventually got over it, we had no assets, and rented our living quarters at the time, so it was fairly easy to separate from the legal standpoint
@jameslyons66554 ай бұрын
So she is probably already in an emotional affair, wants permission to cheat and tries to gaslight/shame language him along with a not so subtle hint that he will pay a price if he doesn’t lay down and accept it. Yeah, she sounds like a real gem. The whole toxic masculinity/insecure thing would have done it for me. Yeah, don’t worry about that I can 100% guarantee you will not be exposed to that ever again.
@Tounushi3 ай бұрын
Emotional blackmail. That's an immediate grounds for divorce right there, as it's a fundamental violation of trust for the sake of hedonism.
@VeggieMama7224 ай бұрын
Someone getting cancer doesn't give that person the right to change the rules of a monogamous relationship.
@PreeSpunky4 ай бұрын
The fact this guy even has to ask is why I hate Reddit. Strong men don't even question themselves, they dump their girl the moment the words "insecure," "toxic masculinity," or "fragile male ego" come out of their mouth. And Reddit is 100% on board with people using those terms. Back to SSM.
@kimmogensen53903 ай бұрын
Oooh but but but PATRIACHY!
@DocMartn2534 ай бұрын
How was there even a moment where he needed time to think about whether or not you wanted to stay with his wife? There's not even a reasonable justification to try to put yourself in her shoes after making a request like that. If my wife or I were to ask the other if we could have a hall pass for any possible reason while one is still breathing and married to the other, we might as well rephrase that question with the words I want to divorce so I could sleep with other people. Because there's no possible way in hell either of us would see that as an option in our marriage and anyone who does, is either already cheating or planning on cheating whether you give them permission or not. The level of manipulation and gas lighting shown by this woman was clearly a direct result of being influenced by her friends and social media, which should have made it that much more simpler for him to remove her from his life. Women who take advice from their harpy friends instead of trusted and married family members, have a higher propensity to sabotage their marriage.
@ESNchris4 ай бұрын
divorce immediately. she's a cheater and probably never was wife material. You married an illusion, however painful it is. save you from future misery and save this 304 from a "toxic unsecure" uhusband
@urchbsmirch224 ай бұрын
I swear marriage used to be about love but now it's all about transaction Once the wedding happens the love dies off
@sproutedquinoa51793 ай бұрын
Yeah nah, for like one brief shining second after birth control pills but before social media, marriage was about love, in one small sliver of demographic, for one small sliver of western cultures. For all other times, locations, and years, it's been transactional.
@bud50843 ай бұрын
It is like a business with two owners, they end up trying to shite the other one out of everything.
@karishma_k4 ай бұрын
10:54 Wow the audacity 😪
@experiencedotaku1714 ай бұрын
I'm sorry but if my daughter ever told me to get back with a cheater I'll just ask her one question. "Will you change your last name or should i change mine?" Cuz that's not my daughter anymore
@derSchmarte3 ай бұрын
actually this are 2 questions... jokes aside, i think its clear that it wasnt a rational request of the daughter, but instead only bc noone wants mum and dad to divorce, especially in the very moment you get the news
@outandabout34623 ай бұрын
So let me get this straight: She wants something that will hurt him with a complete disregard for his feelings AND tells him he is insecure and toxic if he doesn't want to get hurt? Wild.
@fuzzedoutwjon86083 ай бұрын
Dude did the right thing. I was impressed by how he conducted himself.
@Vic-pg4rg3 ай бұрын
I remember this story. This story was out for a couple of years. OP's wife is truly a POS. She cheated on her husband who did nothing but the absolute best for her. Stood by her with the cancer and took her out for trips around the world. He could have just abandoned her and left her to fend for herself. But he didn't and what did she do to repay him? She tells him that she's going to have sex with some asshole that has been courting her for a while which she known because she says that she deserves it and it was going to happen regardless whatever he like it or not. She's no wife at all but a absolute despicable 403. OP really should have done more like tell her that if she does it, he divorces her. Especially he should have gotten out of the car to confront that asshole and lay down the law. If he had done anything of that, he would still be married or have a lot more self respect for himself. The wife's friends are complete trash too especially the best friend. I'm willing to bet that she's the one who told the wife to sleep with that asshole and cause this situation. The daughter really should just cut off her mom and completely support OP as he deserves it and he needs someone at his side. People, appreciate the people who stood by you through hard times. Don't ever pay back good with evil.
@vikingshark26343 ай бұрын
Spoiler alert; her comments reveal that she is in fact *not* the most intelligent, thoughtful, caring and loyal person you know. If you still believe that, then you should stay with her because you deserve each other.
@dolanuscaesar13263 ай бұрын
If you are ever sad that you are unwanted, unloved and single, imagine that you have long term relationship with "love of your life" and then you get backstabbed just because your partner is "bored". Only imagining it feels like living hell.
@anthonyburke56564 ай бұрын
Yeah/Nah, get rid of her NOW, engage a lawyer, ghost her and let the lawyer deal with it.
@kathleenbradley71423 ай бұрын
Wow, this woman is awful. He didn't want her to cheat so she decided to just do it and "take the decision out of his hands" wtaf, leave her dude. Christ
@drifter1393 ай бұрын
dude, none of those words describe her. if she were any of those things, she wouldn't be making demands to sleep with other guys while basically telling you to get over it
@MrModamanReviews4 ай бұрын
He took her to expensive, international vacations and now she wants to cheat?
@DisIzDaName3 ай бұрын
The wife offers him nothing a husband needs. Loyalty, honestly, selflessness, family, respect, peace... She can give him NONE of it. Get rid of her.
@penelopeisgoingofftopic67863 ай бұрын
i guess the cancer really did take his wife...
@LetsGoforDabash4 ай бұрын
Gaslighting 101 This is common tactic cheater use to manipulate their partner n to guilt trip them
@markmessina78954 ай бұрын
Say no Divorce is the only answer .
@galanoob72224 ай бұрын
Bruh, how can he even consider that this is okay?
@ibnkhaldoun43194 ай бұрын
there's no way in hell this would have been a one time thing if he tolerated it.
@markmessina78954 ай бұрын
Your marriage is over . PERIOD !!!
@mindassassin3 ай бұрын
He's the toxic one? That's some low quality gaslighting.
@noose66172 ай бұрын
No no, have as much details as possible and have it emailed texted, pictures and everything under the sun but don't ever explicitly agree. Then take it to a lawyer with irrefutable evidence of everything.
@christophernoble762 ай бұрын
bro kept his balls by divorcing
@thatswhatisaid89083 ай бұрын
I thought she promised to be faithful as long as you both lived on your wedding day?
@viodesa34 ай бұрын
She does not sound at all like the OP described in the opening of the video. She sounds like a terrible person to attempt a relationship with, I would advise not doing so.
@theshipper57973 ай бұрын
The way I see it? She can go back to the other guy if he's good enough to screw while she's married. Being married means you stick with the person unless there are circumstances that change things. But the funny thing is if you wanna get with other people? Break it off first. That way it's not cheating and you truly show how much you care about the other person by respecting them and not expecting them to be some safety net. Cancer or not, ask her this. Would she be ok if you used the same excuse while she was still dealing with cancer? Saying how your needs need to be met and she can't meet them? Would she have been perfectly fine back then? If no? Double standards, plain and simple.
@michaelmaehle14333 ай бұрын
So, she really took the "for better or for worse" part of those vows to heart, huh? Give her a permanent hall pass and divorce her.
@DCD7622 ай бұрын
Not surprised, some women are willing to give up even their children for a simple ONS so they can feel young again
@dcfmkyn3 ай бұрын
THEY don't need counseling. SHE does. When asked why she cheated so easily, her response was "because I could". That answer was a huge red fu#king flag...
@snakekingblues3017Ай бұрын
I do gotta say a open relationship only work when both party know from the start not after they been together then one person decided they wanted a open relationship and did not give their partner a choices
@Cerylyse2 ай бұрын
I had cancer, so now I need to take your dignity. I have actually had cancer and a widow-maker heart attack, and I would take either of those before being cheat on again.
@dolanuscaesar13263 ай бұрын
I am pretty sure she has been already cheating. She was only too lazy to actually try to hide it anymore.
@LumemDH2 ай бұрын
3:05 womp womp. Who cares? She wants to cheat/had already cheated. If that’s callous, call me Stallin because I will show you callous.
@Latte-dq1tb2 ай бұрын
People asking these questions need a therapy, not a relationship. It’s ridiculous
@ladyweasellou33674 ай бұрын
Deargod leave her
@chetp84232 ай бұрын
My first thought on hearing "male toxicity": utterance of the phrase is a manifestation of feminist toxicity.
@senecaarnold66514 ай бұрын
Op just make sure in divorce that you're ex wife has to return to her mating name.
@michaelharris66625 күн бұрын
Why just one time??? Give her a permanent hall pass on the other side of the door.
@SophiasHeir3 ай бұрын
Yes, tell her that you agree as long as she let's you do the same with someone she knows. Do not tell her who that person is because you don't want to ruin anything between them, but say you have been denying her requests in respect for you. If she proceeds, then go visit ahooker and ask for a divorce.
@alexandermarken76393 ай бұрын
This woman has likely done this before but knows she can't hide it. Divorce and ghost.
@Rbprofile3 ай бұрын
The moment she took it out of your hands is the moment you divorce. Your only choice is divorce.
@JRBDWD3 ай бұрын
Please pay attention how and army of women. Even HIS daughter made excuses for a cheater. And like OP said, "i doubt i would have been given those same considerations if was the one on her shoes"
@davidlloyd15263 ай бұрын
Hmm... Wife definitely wanted a divorce from the start. Otherwise, what's the point of telling hubby about the plans?
@aaronabbott14273 ай бұрын
The guy has kissed her feet so long she looks down on him like a pet instead of a partner. She's not a wife anymore, time for the 'Dog' to show some teeth... She wants a 'Break', it's called a divorce.
@Asperger08153 ай бұрын
I would really like to know what her AP has to say to this. Just out of curiosity... OOP was dealt a crappy hand with her...
@tom-qj6uw2 ай бұрын
Maybe the " most thoughtful, caring, loyal person you know" was all that because of the tumor and operating the tumor brought her real personality out!
@williamclayton95663 ай бұрын
OP should tell her, "Fine, I'll just be a toxically masculine, insecure single/divorced man."
@SeniorCharry3 ай бұрын
Guys need to stop putting up with this feminist BS. If a girl doesn’t respect you, then dump them.
@realfinalProphet2 ай бұрын
All these simps describing their cheating wife in paragraphs with honorifics is disgusting. The main issue was the wife was neither afraid it scared of betraying the SIMP husband. Which means this simp was weak throughout the relationship
@Glenn-us8zg3 ай бұрын
Just simply say " hallpasses do not exist in any relationship I am in" I would not need advice on the issue. If she goes anyway the marriage is over. This guy is a wimp. I detest such guys.
@shadopard75272 ай бұрын
Best reply would be ask if she's cool with you sleeping with her friend. When her face goes all wonky? Point out HER "toxic insecurity".
@jasonluckett22633 ай бұрын
gas lighting.... OP put her up on a pedestal and now she thinks she deserves to be there, regardless of her actions. She's just using OP. It's already over. Move on
@Sigma_Looksmaxxer2 ай бұрын
"Yeah honey. You can. But I want one thing in return. Divorce." "But honey! I have cancer!" "You don't have cancer. You are cancer."
@marcus67753 ай бұрын
No way was this a one time thing with this guy , anyone man or woman who suggest this doesn't love or respect you .
@nihil6322 ай бұрын
>understood the meaning of mortality and such things due to the cancer >does a really disgusting thing to nullify her mark on this world and ruin what she has been building all this time Sounds like a plan.
@AnthonySforza3 ай бұрын
The furthest distance between any two numbers, is 0 and 1. If he would have been fine with it, such a thing will happen again, and again. That said, a lot of the things he'd put kind of convince me as to why she thought thia would go over in her favor.
@MrBmic3 ай бұрын
Her and all of her friends, nothing but 304s.
@bud50843 ай бұрын
Tell you met a woman you want to get to know better and see her reaction.
@giorgarospanagakis95733 ай бұрын
It reminds me of the sister that slept with her sisters bf and used the escuse of cancer that she had as a child
@cdentertainment58943 ай бұрын
Time to leave her my guy. Sucks but it is time to let her go. She made her decision with out you thats not a marriage anymore.
@michaellunney968Ай бұрын
Male toxicity/insecure? What a load. More like toxic feminism, and selfishness. Get out! And her BFF needs to be blocked from the relationship.
@larissagomes4514 ай бұрын
The moment my husband asked for a hall pass is the moment our marriage would be over. I would leave him in the middle of cancer treatment or survived a bear attack, i don't give a single fuck. The way he was asking to many questions and begging her to not cheat on him a because she had cancer 🤡🤡🤡🤡
@swgraphics90592 ай бұрын
Cameras and Microphones (or she will blame you as of she never said anything wrong to you! No witnesses!)
@butterdtoast43883 ай бұрын
i mean ask her for one and she will show her true colors
@PhilipJFry585983 ай бұрын
Would have filed the moment she said that bullshit
@evanmurphy4632Ай бұрын
man should just kiss her forehead look into her eyes, and say, " do this, and I will never be faithful to you ever again. "
@kimmogensen53903 ай бұрын
stage 1 yeah f off i had worse and it never crossed my mind to cheat on my wife,,,,,god danm H
@trinity39344 ай бұрын
when will people understand that when your partner asks you to swing, open relationship, hall pass, you already know the answer no one should want to do any of these things in a real marriage. you had your answer when she told you about this stupidty
@hazuk68293 ай бұрын
When you heard words "male toxicity" that means is time to get a brand new wife. Congratulations.
@CanadianSpaceBoy28 күн бұрын
What i think is simple you shouldnt think too much into it trying to justify things. When you get into a relationship YOU COMMIT TO SOMEONE FOR LIFE. you willingfully give up these opportunities. Same with marriage but there you speak those vows outloud. Her decision is breaking those vows. Just like in business breaking a single rule nuls the contract. No questions asked, no need for excuses. The contract is black and white so are your actions there is no need for gray areas. If you had kids you could keep living i the same house as roommates for the kids but more than that and you give up your dignity
@themandownthehall2 ай бұрын
The first thing I would say back is okay first thing have to do is you have to find somebody for me to sleep with too
@phillipschwoerke83744 ай бұрын
it's good story but it's a recycled one. Third time hearing it.
@ESNchris4 ай бұрын
very true. answer is the same, dump the cheater, expose her and go NC. she can go take her fling for her old days,
@momohouse44komodocriss4 ай бұрын
All stories here are recycled
@chetp84232 ай бұрын
I've heard it before, too. Not sure why, but I binge on stories like this from time to time. Probably dealing with my own marital trauma (though not involving infidelity). I have rarely had a story make me more angry than this one.
@senecaarnold66514 ай бұрын
Tell your wife to Honor her marriage vow period or face divorce.
@kalabarigamohancharan3 ай бұрын
Yiu should simply ask for a "hall pass" as well, and then they're fucked. Just go see a prozzy or something.. that way, you can get back on her shit, and trust me: she will DEFINITELY respect you a lot more.
@PumpkinKing332 ай бұрын
I would have divorced hwr when she asked
@gabrielwense35064 ай бұрын
The wife perceived OP as weak. Thats why man need have iron fist in marriage, or will had too deal with this kind kf BS