My Wifes Behaviour Suddenly Changed And Now She's Gaslighting Me r/Relationships

[@maximumnightmare3874]

Am I the only one who finds it weird that the wife didn't try to get him help. He came home from a trip acting weird and progressively got worse. She apparently didn't contact his family to see if they could do something. She just left him home alone.

[@meredithf4604]

No, it's very weird. I hope he dumps her. She doesn't sound very nice.

[@dimsufferer9951]

Especially since before this her sense of “humor” seems to have been lying to him

[@enkiimuto1041]

Right? I get being afraid of him but he clearly has a brother and her own father cares for him. One phone call would have sorted it out. Even in his hallucinating state he wanted to talk to her parents to see what they could do, and she just left him there hallucinating and being a danger to himself... WITH THE CAR KEYS.

[@wvanyar1801]

@@enkiimuto1041 , I agree with your last statement, the husband/OP was hallucinating and she just left him. She did not care about his safety at all only her own. This is not a good partner to have in life. Divorce would not be a good thing right now for OP but I believe divorce will most likely be the results of this as the wife has shown she will run at the fist sign of something wrong. Most likely the wife will divorce OP.

[@MemristerBoogieDown]

Devils advocate here… Schizoaffective bipolar type. I don’t think you understand how scary it is for the average person to witness an episode. They usually don’t have any idea what’s going on, like at all, and it can be terrifying sometimes. It would’ve been great if she had done better but knowing how things can go, I can’t blame her. Except for the Seroquel in the wrong bottle… wtf? Even if she did that in the middle of an episode, that’s not acceptable. If she can’t keep up with her meds properly, someone else should be in charge of them.

[@theseeker9442]

Wife saw OP in story one acting EXTREMELY strange and didn't call a Doctor or something? Why would she just straight up leave him for a few days without calling anyone to check up on him?

[@jackchop1576]

Because abusers target mentally ill people more often than not.

[@ThatsViews]

Because she knew she had messed up and didn't want to face the blame?

[@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh]

@@ThatsViews this!

[@KittenUndercover]

@@ThatsViews that would be incredibly evil, to continually put her husbands life and health at risk so she wouldn’t be blamed. I seriously doubt it’s that.

[@luvondarox]

I'm hoping it was one of those "I'm just going to stay away for a night so we can talk about this and come up with a gameplan" ideas that whoopsied a bit. Reading other comments, overdosing that hard on Benadryl can cause mental wonkitude, so it might have been something that was building up slightly over time and when he took her _mislabeled psych meds_ it just threw the whole lighthouse off the cliff. I'm glad he's getting better (hopefully), but the cats gotta go, man. That level of allergy med abuse is not sustainable.

[@emcustard]

Story 1: My first instinct was that the wife was sleep-walking or having mental issues of her own. I kept wondering why the husband didn't try to get her help. Well, now I'm wondering why SHE didn't get HIM help

[@dillongage]

Oh. Oh no. I just started the video, but this comment is very ominous. 😂 this is gonna do a 180 isnt it?

[@francb1634]

I feel like the wife in story 1 is dropping the ball here. her only reaction seems to be fear of OP, with no concern for his well being. also, playing switcheroo with medication containers is a serious no no.

[@ameixsell]

Why the hell do you have pets your allergic to? High dose benadryl will make you hallucinate like acid

[@michaelwoods3651]

A lot of women abandon their men when they have any kind of issue. For better or worse means nothing. They perceive weakness, they run. Sad.

[@SidereusOfTheFallen]

Thank you, I just commented this in another thread.

[@quinnthefox3846]

@@michaelwoods3651 Actually statistically men are six times more likely to leave their wife if she were to fall into serious illness, such as cancer, than the other way around. Don't go around spouting stuff just because you can. The wife in story 1 is obviously rather dumb by putting a different medication in a marked bottle, but you really should look into the statistics of something before saying things like that.

[@LovesGaming37]

​@@michaelwoods3651 that's not true at all. It's actually the reverse. Males run all the time. Women stay

[@FoxFireNaruto]

And that kids is why we don't mess around mixing up meds and bottles. Labels are for safety.

[@agewawainaina]

Is it just me or is there a sinister motive behind the wife's switcheroo? I think I'm too paranoid to believe it was a mistake. Could she have been looking for a reason to leave the OP?

[@Yume10605]

Im actually thinking she has been using the Seroquel to get high as people will use that drug to do just that. And that would explain why it was in a benadryl bottle.

[@CadenceTheSloth]

Hear me out: (if I remember correctly) They got into a weird argument where she was tossing and turning all night, then he went away for a bit, came back home, she was out, he looked for his meds, which he couldn't find or weren't there, checked his wife's stash, she had some /which were similar enough to pass/ so he took his usual dose; she then got home and didn't notice her meds gone? What did she do when she went looking for hers? Did she notice the bottle missing? Was she taking them?? Then she gets home to him being crazy, and just... Ignored him? Till she records him??? Then she runs away not informing anyone of what was happening??? Not trying to get him help????? ThEN IS SURPRISED TO SEE HIM?? then only realises "his" mistake when he mentions the original medication in front of the scary doctors?????? If this is all in my imagination, I need to write a book... Cause it seems to me she got weirdly mad at him and decided to try make something look like an accident, or maybe a set up?

[@puli_dreadhead]

Everyone talking about the tissues but aren't talking about how management failed to notify employees about bringing animals into the workplace. Management should notify people who could have a potential allergy.

[@meredithf4604]

It's an esa, not a service dog. There shouldn't be an issue at all.

[@wvanyar1801]

Yes, the manager failed. I raised a wheel chair assistant dog, black lab, for 1 and a half years. I had to clear with HR and security before I could bring the dog into work. I had to produce the state issued service tags and paperwork that the dog was an assistant dog in training. I was allowed to bring the dog in on Tuesday and Thursday. I was to stay in certain areas of the building, my desk and the computer lab I worked at. An email went out highlighting what I was doing and how I was doing a community service. This was actually sneaky on their part as they informed the entire company about the dog, so those with allergies or that were not comfortable around dogs could avoid me on Tuesday and Thursday. Since I worked in IT most of the company knew who I was. I did notice a few people avoided me on the days the dog was with me. I also notice dog lovers would stop by my desk on days I had the dog.

[@samoanjoseph1457]

The weirdest thing about this is if somebody told me "better hoagie down" and then handed me a lunch bag that DIDN'T have a hoagie in it, I'd think they were crazy.

[@ineedhoez]

😂😂😂

[@richardhandcock]

I'd personally hoagie down regardless

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

Any supervisor who says "My friend gets her way, screw you and your health and comfort" should immediately be designated as unfit to manage organizations, people, or animals.

[@ginathecookie]

Agreed

[@trout512]

I... Why was the Seroquel in a benodryl bottle? That's incredibly stupid and dangerous on the wife's part. Even if I'm traveling and have to split up my med dosages, I still make sure they're all stored in clearly labelled containers. Darwin award candidate right there. And her stupidity apparently caused her hubby to go through some kind of psychotic break. I feel so bad for that poor guy.

[@ameixsell]

And then she abandons him

[@fnjesusfreak]

Also I think in some places, prescription meds legally have to be kept in their labelled bottle.

[@13thMaiden]

That and keeping 3 freaking cats when both are horribly allergic. I love cats too, but I'm terribly allergic, to the point I'm not allowed in the cat room in the rescue I work at (I work with all other animals though). 1 cat is enough for an allergic person, and that might be too much. 3 is asking someone to overdose just to freaking breathe!! Seriously this couple was asking for something to go wrong with their meds, it's a wonder it hadn't happened sooner!

[@ThatsViews]

Yeah. "Oops! Accidentally stored my super dangerous meds in my husband's med bottle! I mean, what on earth could possible go wrong?" (Nobody accidentally does this.)

[@podunk_woman]

Right!? And instead of focusing on that they look at HIH history. Wrong meds can cause the healthiest of people to have issues. It was Seroquel, not tums or cough drops ffs

[@mattiekarwin3667]

Fucking hellfire. The posts from the pov of the person experiencing a mental episode freak me the fuck out. Adds a little extra paranoia to literally every action and experience because 'what if it isn't actually happening'.

[@nikkideede7972]

Damn dude, I didn't think about. Now that's all I'm gonna be thinking that

[@83gemm]

As someone who struggles to tell what is real (no clue what disorder that is), those stories scare me to death.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Don't worry, as someone who has had many experiences with psychosis, hallucinations and has very close family who have them even more frequently...they don't happen like this. You would not repeatedly have the same hallucinations and have only one person notice it while you go and interact with people at work with NO other symptoms of delusions. If you were experiencing delusions they rarely follow regularly and you don't selectively choose a single person to be delusional with and then snap out of it for the rest of the day.

[@crisrodriguez5693]

​@@ZoeAlleyne thank you. I was expecting so see more comments similar to this. I don't know much about schizophrenia, but I was wondering if it was possible to have such consistent delusions, to the point he can write about them and post it, and for it to be impossible to tell that there's anything off except the wife's behavior.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Hoagie down needs to be a real everyday phrase tho

[@OBS1D1AN-ohngod]

Since no one is mentioning it here, and the doctors didn’t mention it either, taking that much benadryl regularly can cause psychosis and deliirium, as well as seizures, coma, and death. I used a lot for my dermatographia and started experiencing side effects like it, and my doctors perscribed me a different allergy medicine to take (hydroxyzine). If this is imdeed the problem Op may get better while off it.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

Thank you. The number of people assuming the wife did this deliberately and ignoring the fact that he routinely was overdosing on a drug known to cause psychosis on its own is just mindblowing.

[@meredithf4604]

They need to get rid of the cats, too. They are both allergic, it's just crazy to keep animals you are both allergic to.

[@luvondarox]

Whoa. I didn't know those kinds of side effects were possible, but thinking about how many folk use it as a sleep aid.... it makes sense.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

@@luvondarox A lot of people assume that just because something is sold over the counter, it must be completely safe, and ignore the dosages. But that's not how it works. They're relatively safe IF TAKEN ACCORDING TO INSTRUCTIONS - but even then, you can have bad reactions. Overdosing, especially multiple times the dose, and on the regular, is just ridiculously reckless.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

Not to mention all the side effect of taking an antipsychotic when you dont need one, and overdosing on that. (The symptoms he mentioned at her parents house sound like liver failure, dizzy, sweating, slurring, loss of fine motor skills AND he fainted!)

[@lovelywolv]

Story 2: Emotion support isn't a service dog. She should be the one working at home

[@enkiimuto1041]

Grey line there. Some animals can be trained and then formalized to be there for someone in some places. Considering it is very clear the supervisor didn't notice HR about the situation that would be a nightmare if the woman had even a psychologist note requesting the accommodation.

[@wvanyar1801]

In the US there are new laws about the emotional support animals. But they need to be licensed by the state. I raised a service dog, wheel chair for 1.5 years. I get rather upset when I run into people claiming that their dog is a service dog or a support animal without tags. Certain types of dogs are used as assistance dogs or support dogs, this is based on the breeds temperament. The most common used for wheel chair assistance is golden retrievers and labs, because of their disposition. You step on these dogs tails or paw and they will not bit you if trained correctly. Dogs like Pitbulls, German Shepherds, and Dobermans are not used because their temperament is more aggressive or protective. But I run into people trying to pass off a pitbull as a service dog, with no tags (of any kind), a cape that is fake, a chock collar on the dog, and the dog is out of control (not trained sitting patiently next to the person waiting for a command to even move).

[@utatanepiko7087]

@@enkiimuto1041 "Support animals" that are licensed by the state are called something else. Psychology dogs or something like that They're not called emotional support dogs since emotional and mental issues are two separate things, something I learned in a health class in college before I inevitably dropped out They did teach about signs of physical, mental, and emotional distress and yeah, it's particularly the reason why dogs that are "emotional" support and dogs that are "mental" support are treated separately since emotional problems are temporary while mental problems can be treated but are always present. It's not a gray line Since the woman is only bringing her dog in now when OP is at home is proof enough that she doesn't need her dog and therefore an ESA, not something she needs for a mental illness. If this was the case, either she or OP would be working from home all the time. As more proof, she never even got a psychologist or physiatrist to request for the accommodation (like you said in your comment) and was allowed to bring the dog in because she's friends with a supervisor is even more proof she doesn't need it. Edit: Not to say you're wrong. It's not the case here, and that's what we're judging OP on, not actual licensed support dogs used to help with mental disorders like autism, clinical anxiety/depression (saying clinical specifically since people can experience depression or anxiety but it's not permanent like someone who has it clinically), ADHD, or PTSD to name a few examples. But this is just to explain that there is a difference between emotional distress and mental distress and why ESAs aren't approved by the state

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

@@utatanepiko7087 yea, she got a puppy when they were working from home and now doesn’t want to leave the dog alone. Dog probably gets separation anxiety and tears the place apart, so her solution is to claim it’s for emotional support. I have heard a few ads on KZbin about getting your pets approved as ESA animals through their doctors, but the one that totally pisses me off the most is from a dog’s point of view about the family going on vacation and he gonna get to go too cause he’s licensed as ESA. It’s the way it worded that makes it look like they get pets registered just so they can take the pets along…not that they are actually doing a job as support for say anxiety attacks or such. This woman should have gotten a puppy that was allergy friendly, such as a poodle or Bichon Frise. Lots of people are allergic to dogs and cats and this woman only thought of herself in this situation, then turned nasty when someone dared to say something about their allergies. I sure would feel bad if I was the cause of someone having to deal with watery eyes and a constant runny nose.

[@CrimsonAngelWinges]

At the very least OP needs to go to HR about the office manager not moving OP or the coworker with the dog to a new location.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Story 1 is scary! I hope OP gets diagnosed and treated soon. The only thing I don't get is why you'd have 3 cats both of you are allergic to.

[@SidereusOfTheFallen]

I would have cats even if I was allergic to them. Some people are just so attached to their pets.

[@Lillireify]

Diagnosed of what? Eating Seroquel his wife put in mislabeled container? She's irresponsible AF and I feel bad for OP for what she put him trough.

[@Sugieb]

@@Lillireify it was hers on her drawer he should’ve asked before he threw back 5-6 pills 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

​@@SidereusOfTheFallen My husband's allergy turned into allergic asthma after he moved in with my family. He was allergic to our cat. Now it's gotten to the point that he can't enter a house with a cat without getting an asthma attack, and also the allergies to other stuff worsened. Allergies are not an innocent thing.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

​​​@@Lillireify Diagnosed for schizophrenia. The medicine could have caused it, or triggered it. A medical doctor needs to determine which. That's important because if it's caused it, then it probably won't happen again (except when girlfriend does stupid things with medicins again), but if it was triggered then it can happen again with other stuff. My mum had that with pregnancy. Her dad had epilepsy, she didn't. Except during pregnancy. Pregnancy was not the cause of her getting epilepsy, but it did trigger it. Since OPs grandpa had the same issues as OP, the medicine probably triggered it, meaning it can happen again in the future, triggered by other stuff than just this medicine, if it isn't properly medicated or at least overseen by a medical doctor.

[@honeybelle1203]

TO BE COMPLETELY FAIR TO THE FIRST OP, "it's cold out there, better hoagie down" sounds *exactly* like something tumblr or twitter would come up with. something in the same vein of dreamt up memes that became a thing for a while. like "bode" or "there are many benefits to being a marine biologist"

[@missmax2492]

As a twirling tumblrina, this is so true lmfao

[@phatcavy98]

On story 2. I'd have gotten a medical note that says I can't work in an office where there is a dog, then I'd take it to HR and breathe hellfire. That supervisor would be getting my full fury.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Easy peasy HR complaint. I would at least get them to allow me to work from home.

[@terramarini6880]

I am surprised HR didn't tell her to get a doctors note for the dog or it gets the boot and even then she has to work around her colleagues not the other way around. There are no legal grounds for an undocumented ESA for an undiagnosed or self diagnosed condition in the work place. Supervisor got a new sphincter muscle because of the legal jeopardy he put the company in with this favoritism for his "friend" that resulted in a coworker having to take meds that affected their performance. It's crap like this that fouls the water for people with actual certified service animals.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Hell to pay because the higher ups were unaware there was a dog in the building to begin with. Can you imagine the boss’s boss’s boss asking why someone has a dog in the office without prior approval? Oops!

[@TraceyBoyland]

Yes

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

This is like the third post I’ve heard of where a relationship conflict was actually caused by meds.

[@PaintSplashProductions]

Moral of the story: talk to your doctor

[@francb1634]

meds, brain tumours, carbon dioxide poisoning.. these stories are sadly fairly common.

[@Sirevanacc]

Well, to be fair, if you are taking 6 pills of something voluntarily from the get go you sure are in a problem already.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

@@francb1634 Carbon monoxide. Though TBF, too much carbon dioxide is bad for you too but it takes far more to cause you problems than carbon monoxide. Source: I suffered carbon monoxide poisoning for nearly 3 years, and my doctor told me that if I hadn't slept with my window open because I struggled to breathe at night, I'd probably have died. It took YEARS to recover and there are still chunks of my life during that time that I have no memory of.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Because they are fake creative writing stories.

[@happyfriar]

Story 2 is infuriating. The coworker is bringing their pet to work, and it's negatively affecting OP's health. "Emotional Support" animal has become code for "I don't want to find pet care for the puppy I bought during lockdown."

[@sweetoleander9048]

I know right? If you can't function in public without an animal to cuddle, then you need some serious therapy.

[@Azulakayes]

I agree.

[@CeruleanStar]

I have an ESA, and story 2 left a bad taste in my mouth. ESA's aren't service dogs. If this story took place in the USA, having an ESA only gives you the right to have that ESA in housing that normally doesn't allow pets, allows you to travel without a pet fee, etc. It does not give legal right to bring said ESA to all places. If a person wants to have an ESA in a public place, they need permission to do so, just as they would for any other pet. ESA's are not service dogs. For example, I have permission to bring my ESA to my church if I want, but I'm not going to bring my dog to the grocery store because she isn't a service dog and is not allowed. Honestly, I'm not even sure the dog in the story is an ESA. For a dog to be an ESA, the owner needs documentation from a doctor or mental health professional claiming that the dog is a part of their treatment. It sounds like the coworker didn't have that documentation. Even if the coworker did have documentation and permission to bring the ESA, that does not give her right to disregard someone's dog allergies. Even people with service dogs (who would have a right to bring their service dog to work by law) need to accomodate for those with dog allergies. They don't have the right to place their health and safety above someone else's. People abusing the ESA label is hurting those of us who truly do need their documented ESA. Mine helps to treat my autism, ADHD, depression, anxiety, and possible epilepsy. My ESA is a necessary part of my treatment. If people who abuse the ESA label keep forcing organizations and the law to limit the rights of an ESA, I may be forced to look into getting a service dog in the future instead, which is much, much more expensive. I'm not sure how I could afford it.

[@happyfriar]

The way they act also makes me doubt it's even an ESA. People with ACTUAL ESAs that I know are super considerate about it. Mostly people take advantage of the fact that people can get in trouble for questioning support/service animals to become immune to pet restrictions in stores, hotels, etc.

[@sandracox4341]

@@CeruleanStar, if you find a dog that can alert you to you about to have a seizure you can get them obedience trained to take with you. There is no licensing or registration for service dog. They have to help you with a specific task and be well behaved in public.

[@owl7072]

Story 2: Op: _dying basically and just trying to survive_ Supervisor, for some reason: God you're so passive aggressive. Quit being so attention seeking and just suck it up.

[@Listrynne]

I've taken Seroquel for depression and anxiety for years. It's never been a high enough dose to cause hallucinations. From what I know of it, high doses are used to treat psychosis, and ironically can trigger latent psychosis. Brains and brain meds are scary if you know what you're doing. They're terrifying if you don't know what you're doing.

[@mouse2482]

Medicine induced psychosis is rarely correctly diagnosed and I feel that they will fail to see this as an accidental overdose of Seroquel over the short time span he was taking it. In this instance the overdose was caused by the wife's lack of properly storing her own medications and could be viewed as negligence, whether it could be viewed as a crime is a whole other matter.

[@petitmains]

Yeah, I had a doctor try to throw this at me for sleep issues and unfortunately for that doc...my primary neurobiology focus was psychopharmacology. So it was a huge "No and who at Seroquel company is paying you to chuck suicide level doses on a medication management patient who is over 40?" It was diagnostically inappropriate (new psyd's always think they're gonna rediagnose apparently) and therapeutically inappropriate and I had disclosed suicidal ideation on similar meds in the past.. if there is any serotonin sparing component of Seroquel (combined literally any MAOI inhibitor/similar medication) OP likely gave himself serotonin syndrome (vivid visual hallucinations are a Hallmark)

[@IMCS8]

I have just recently stopped taking it after years, I have BD so it was tremendously needed. But the possible side effects are scary af, if someone doesn't need it they should under no circumstances take it. Hell, even if you need it, it HAS to be supervised. The paranoia, mania, severe mental fog and hallucinations are incredibly dangerous, and may trigger any dormant disorders like schizophrenia or BD. OP is lucky he got away "easy". Plus, I have friends who suffer schizophrenia, unless the Seroquel was a really tiny dose, OP really took a shiton of it, more than even my friends have to take.

[@LivBee.]

@@mouse2482 I'd argue yes that it is a crime, I think it varies by state but at least in Georgia, for example, it IS illegal. I study psychology (not really a neuro gal though lol) and haven't gotten to take a psych & law class yet, however it sounds like it could potentially get her in serious trouble. Especially because even though it wasn't intended, she was allowing a prescribed medication to be abused due to her own negligence. Wife for sure dropped the ball though-- I get being scared, however this is also a situation she created and I think OP really needs her support right now. It's seriously the least she could do--- why was she even storing her seroquel in a benadryl bottle?? It's almost like it comes in a little bottle with a label and everything lmao.

[@lilyanna203]

The guy in this story was taking 5 or 6. The pills come in a wide range of strengths (like could've been 25mg or 400mg). Either way this guy was taking a LOT for someone who's never taken it before

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Op realy said she's not mad him like it would be reasonable for her to be. She was the cause of this! Mixing medication is no joke, I myself od'ed from something like that a year or so back.

[@charityquill4965]

Imagine if they had kids! What if they had a kid, kid got sick and thought "mom has some over the counter cold meds in the drawer, I'll just use those".

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

@@charityquill4965 Dang I didn't even think of that. I wonder if then she would take responsibility for doing something so incredibly reckless. One can only hope

[@RaizelSX]

​@@browhattheactualfu-2659 I had to look up what the meds are for just for a follow up, and I think she did this on purpose. So the meds are primarily used for schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and / or depression. As we all heard But here's the big thing, she's also allergic to her cats, why would she put Seroquel in a benadryl bottle knowing that both of them reach for it because of her cats, and then instead of her calling anyone for help, she videos him and goes to her parents house. I wouldn't be surprised if she gave him some already in his bottle and then he found hers

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 1: As another commenter on here asked, the wife saw OP acting strangely and didn't think to call a doctor/family member to help? Why leave him alone for several days without having someone check on him? The wife seems a little fishy to me.

[@AngelaVEdwards]

Especially since SHE was the one with the anti psychotic medication. What was that all about if it's OP who is the crazy one?

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

@@AngelaVEdwards Wow. Ableism ftw. Calling mentally ill people "crazy" is obnoxious and I guess that it's too much to expect you to spend 20 seconds to Google and see that Seroquel is used to manage depression, bipolar, and severe anxiety as WELL as schizophrenia... Also, amazing how you're taking the word of a guy who is literally delusional and hallucinating - or did you miss that he was already behaving strangely (and therefore already in the throes of psychosis) while he was away on his trip? So therefore it wasn't any "Seroquel in a Benadryl bottle" that made him psychotic and in fact, was WAY more likely to be the massive overdose of Benadryl that he was taking for days on end which is KNOWN to cause hallucinations, delusions and psychosis in overdose on the regular. And are we also going to ignore that there ARE no Seroquel (nor generic versions) that are bubblegum pink like Benadryl? But sure... blame the wife. Without hearing her side of the story. Without knowing what she did or didn't do because the only storyteller you have is LITERALLY floridly psychotic and hallucinating because of overdosing on Benadryl for days on end and who we KNOW is unreliable. And even if she did leave the man who suddenly was acting erratic and violently aggressive towards her - tell me, do you also berate women for staying with violent partners instead of leaving them at the first sign of aggression? You have literally no clue what or if she tried to get him in for a medical assessment (and that's ignoring the fact that she may have been too afraid to do so). Maybe withhold your judgement of a woman you know nothing about when the only information you have is from someone who is still openly stating that they're not fully lucid and are struggling with what is reality and what isn't.

[@LokasennaCole]

​@@JustAnotherBuckyLover I think the point that they're trying to make is that the wife has experience with mental illness and hopefully would be familiar with what that medication can do and what it's supposed to treat. And I agree that it seems especially suspicious that she just happened to know that her husband takes a lot of Benadryl, Plus for medication in a Benadryl bottle and then doesn't immediately call a doctor or someone when their husband starts acting completely different to normal when they already have experience with mental health issues. Don't get hung up on the wrong thing like using particular terminology. There is clearly something insidious going on with the wife not having immediately recognized some kind of schizophrenic or psychotic episode when she's literally on anti schizophrenia medication.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

@@LokasennaCole No, YOU are missing the points, plural, which are that not everyone who is prescribed Seroquel is schizophrenic nor necessarily familiar with someone undergoing a psychotic episode. You are ALSO missing the point that you are asserting reasons for her behaviour based on an entirely unreliable story from someone who clearly is struggling to determine fact from hallucination and delusion. You are ASSUMING that the Seroquel aspect is even true, let alone suspicious or deliberate, despite the fact that I have yet to find any evidence of bubblegum pink Seroquel pills in any form - or did you forget that he was ALSO convinced about the "hoagie on down" thing? Or her taping the note and lunch to the door? Or her being in the bathroom when she wasn't while he hammered on it and scared her so badly she was afraid he would harm her? Or her gaslighting him? Or in denial about his own aggression? And yet you SOMEHOW believe that this is 100 percent accurate, without any confirmation from anyone else involved, when he's still an inpatient because he's still actively psychotic? That is my issue. It's that you're all missing these facts and oh-so-willing to assume that she's somehow at fault when you don't KNOW if she tried to get him to see the doctor but he dismissed it under the "gaslighting" part. You don't KNOW that. You just ASSUME she didn't bother. And I have to wonder, have you ever BEEN around someone who is floridly psychotic and really struggling? Because you make it sound oh-so-easy and I guarantee you, it's not. Not even slightly. You're all also missing the point that he admits to abusing Benadryl repeatedly, at 5-6 times the dose, for days (if not weeks) on end, and he was doing this (and his symptoms started) BEFORE he returned home. Therefore the Seroquel, even if it exists, has NOTHING to do with his psychosis. And even - for ONE moment here - even assuming that she put the closest to pink generics of Seroquel into an old Benadryl bottle... a) they're pale peachy-orange or salmon coloured, not bright Benadryl pink, b) most of them are round, not elongated rounded rectangles like Benadryl and c) they are all at a low enough dose that even if he took 5 or 6 of them, it wouldn't be enough to overdose. It would be - at the MOST - a regular starting dose that would make him woozy. And sure- nobody's arguing that taking Seroquel when you don't need it is stupid and risky because taking ALL medications - even OTC ones - carries a risk and you have to measure the risks against the benefits. And no matter how stupid it is to put meds into other bottles, especially without relabelling them correctly, it happens All. The. Time. All the time. There's nothing dodgy about it, other than terrible judgement (and even then, generally I would trust the adults I live with not to randomly take medication from my room or drawers without checking first because that's just good manners as well as common sense). But instead, it seems like you all are really saying that HE bears no responsibility for repeatedly abusing a medication KNOWN to cause psychotic symptoms at the doses he's taking them at, for taking random pills that anyone else would have noticed don't look ANYTHING LIKE Benadryl like he's some kind of child? Sorry, but nope. That doesn't wash. If you think he's coherent enough to trust about the rest of his story, then he's sure as hell coherent enough to recognise that the "Benadryl" he's abusing aren't the oval bubblegum pink monstrosities he usually takes. But no - instead of this, you're all going the ableist "she MUST have known" and "all mental illness must be the same" and not for ONE moment considering that maybe - just maybe - his psychosis is the consequences of his own actions, and his story has holes because he's actively hallucinating and delusional.

[@LokasennaCole]

@@JustAnotherBuckyLover no see even with all of that, Even if everything you're saying is 100% accurate, Even if she was taking it for whatever reason, The fact still remains that as someone who has had some form of mental health issue The fact that she didn't immediately see a complete reversal and switching of personality and the way some would behaves as a mental health issue from the get-go is extremely suspicious.

[@blandoatmeal1273]

Story 2 Gotta disagree about the tissues in the bin, especially the comments saying poor cleaning staff. Those tissues are going to be made anyway and have to be cleaned by cleaners at the end of the day, since they're already exposed what does it matter whether it's at his desk or the coworkers to them. Then it could very easily be argued that those tissues are being made because of that coworker so maybe they should be the one to deal with them.

[@TsukiKageTora]

It sounds like the pad issue BIL (the OP’s brother) mad his SIL (the OP’s wife) for putting her pad in his trash in the bathroom. What do you expect them to do? Carry it around instead of putting it in the trash?

[@jay2thaudy]

Yeah that was an idiotic comment

[@sonialinsey8083]

Poor, poor cleaning staff. How dare you rely on them to do the job they’re paid to do? Literally if you don’t like cleaning don’t be a cleaner. It’s actually a great job for certain people whose brains work a certain way including not being squeamish about snot/trash. Carrying the tissues around with you would actually be worse because then the snot goes everywhere you go, can fall out of a pocket, you touch it of you rummage around in your bag or pocket then touch something else. Yuck.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@sonialinsey8083 surprised they didn’t go after everyone for putting their germ infested things in the trash at home and make the garbage man “deal with their germs”

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

@@sonialinsey8083 I work as a cleaning person at a catholic school and I do it because I hate people and their attitudes (work by myself)! But anyways, there are these things called gloves people can wear if they don’t want to touch trash. I personally don’t wear them unless I am cleaning toilets. Chances are you are not touching tissues or trash when dumping trash cans or changing bags!

[@fufufuaru]

wait why get THREE cats when BOTH of them are allergic??????

[@liacaburian2092]

People who love cats will do anything to get them in their life. Though the severity of the allergy of cats depends from person. As you saw op and wife have different forms of medications

[@BobaTEA-o7r]

Yup but most actually don’t work properly since so many people keep overdosing on benys and such for allergies and end up in hospital or dying or having manic episodes. Like in ops part it’s so common I don’t know why people continue, I can see it being different for a smaller allergy for them but not being able to breathe just to sleep at night is wrong

[@luvondarox]

Right? Mild allergy is one thing, but having to chronically overdose on medications just to be able to breathe while sleeping at night? No. Maybe OP could look into getting the jab, too, since it seems to work for Wife, but no more "6 Benys to Sleep" nonsense. Doesn't that affect the liver / kidney, too? Wonder what else kind of chaos is happening because of the med abuse.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

Some people get pets and then develop allergies to them. Perhaps the first one or two pets didn't trigger a reaction and the third one did (some pets are more hypoallergenic than others but it's not actually dependent on the breed and you can't figure it out until you spend time around them.) The allergy may have started out mild and then became worse over time requiring more substantial treatment. Note: if you're thinking of taking 6 at one time, *_don't._* You could have seizures, go into a coma, or die. Taking excessive diphenhydramine (Benadryl) could lead to kidney or liver failure. If there are alternative treatments, such as the shots mentioned, probably safer to go that route instead.

[@Whistlesonthewind]

WHY is it that people don’t take animal allergies seriously?! Just like peanut allergies, people can die. Smh

[@wildridegaming]

Story 2 - wtf this workplace sounds so toxic, bosses dont give a shit, co-worker doesnt give a shit.

[@colleens1107]

That last story, OMG. Why wasn’t the woman told to leave the dog home if it wasn’t actually a licensed service dog and was only given permission because she was buddies with the supervisor?

[@0potion]

Because in a lot of States it is straight up illegal to even ask for proof of documentation even from your own employee. This emotional support animal service animal b******* is ridiculous and I don't understand how it can possibly be offensive to ask for proof that you need the dog. But I have actually had someone to try to Sue me over not letting them stay in a motel with a dog. I let them stay because they insisted it was a service animal and I'm not allowed to ask for documentation but I did warn them if it barks because a service animal is trained not to bark if it barks you have to leave.... Guess what the dog did not even an hour later.

[@Lisa-nm8ij]

Power trip of the supervisor, I guess

[@maggpiprime954]

Apparently, emotional support animal licensing is not actually a legally recognised thing in many (most) regions. Service animals (guide dogs, alert animals for medical conditions) have strict guidelines they are specifically trained for and easily assessed for official licenses. But emotional support animals don't have universal guidelines, much less training. Emotional support animals might as well be a childhood stuffie as far the (regional) law or government cares. Source: Looked up how to license my cats as support animals a couple of years ago, and learned it would be cheaper, and hold as much legal consideration as just declaring them myself and putting a cute dollar store sticker on their carrier. Laws might change in the future, but nobody cares about covid anymore, so there won't be any push for accommodations until long covid is officially recognised. But that's a rant for someone with less brain fog than I have.

[@sandracox4341]

@@maggpiprime954, there isn't actually a valid licensing requirement for service dogs or emotional support animals. Anyone offering such a license or registration is pulling a money making scam. But emotional support animals do not have the same "rights" as a service animal.

[@maggpiprime954]

@@sandracox4341 Yes. Emotional support animals do not have any accreditation. But different countries do have varying legal training requirements for service animals such as guide dogs for the blind & visually impaired, and the licensing proving it.

[@Findabhair1313]

Story 2. Emotional support animals do not have the same rights as service animals. The dog should not have been allowed in the office. Period. The change of desk should have been approved due to a MEDICAL DISORDER. In Canada, this would have been a Human Rights Commission complaint and the company would have been in deep trouble.

[@Yume10605]

Thank you. I'm getting reather tired myself of the whole emotional support animal thing. As I could claim my pet fish is my emotional support animal. There is no training no certification, nothing to make them real besides a Dr note in some cases.

[@ArcaneNim]

​@@Yume10605 It's getting annoying, and that's coming from someone with an ESA. The misrepresentation of what rights an ESA actually has frustrates me to no end. They're allowed on flights and get exceptions to no pet rules in housing. That's it.

[@Yume10605]

@@ArcaneNim yup also as there is no regulations on esa alot of times they are wild and unpredictable.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

DO NOT take Seroquel. My doctor put me on it, and it felt like I was drinking a 5th of vodka everyday, and I started having delusions. I would sit in my living room and have conversations we my dogs, and thought they were answering me. It was terrible, and it took a month to get me weened off of and completely get it out of my system. My poor husband and kids went through hell thee week I was on it. But, I loved the Battlestar Galactica series, both original and remake!

[@ivorynk752]

Just curious, what kind of dosage did they give you?

[@britnicox3929]

1: this story is my worst nightmare ngl both as a person and as a partner. That I could just change on someone without realizing it and my perception of reality will be warped against my will. I wish the best for him 2: this is why you go through the regular procedures bc it would have been resolved a long time ago if she had just gotten approval from the beginning. Also wtf is up with that supervisor? Glad they helped OP a lot

[@leaflet1686]

But he didn't just change... She was just an idiot! Don't mix meds... Don't take meds from others... If you run out, tough luck! Get new ones and now deal with your bs. If she didn't put her meds in the wrong bottle none of this would've happened!

[@hayden_ann1339]

I take Seroquil for depression, and I get drowsy when i take it at night to the point I can't even keep my eyes open. I can't even IMAGINE what it would be like to take SO many of them all at once, and for several days at that. Hope OP from 1st story is doing well now

[@justlooking1299]

Am I the only one who feels like Op was correct in his initial statement, “ my wife is gaslighting me?” Imagine mixing up the medication and not telling him about it. Like, isn’t that a medication she takes often? Like she didn’t notice six pills a day missing? He’s Being played and I’m mad for him

[@FinnishLapphund]

1st story: Such big holes left in this story when update ended, e.g. Why did OP's wife have medication meant for Schizophrenia or Bipolar problems in a Benadryl bottle in her nightstand?

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

Irrelevant. Her medical history isn't important. Also, Benadryl alone in overdose can cause psychosis and delirium. People routinely use old bottles to keep meds in. It's a shitty bad practice, but it's not rare. It's likely he triggered the issue initially by overdosing on Benadryl then worsened it potentially by taking Seroquel. And of course there are holes, FFS, the only side you have of this is HIS and he was floridly psychotic for most of it. Why would you expect there to be anything else? LOL

[@jessig.6791]

Seems like the medication the wife hid is used by some to get high, the wife might be a druggie

[@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh]

@@JustAnotherBuckyLover why is he taking that much Benadryl?!?! Hmm 🤨 The cats The effing cats Can guarantee she wants to keep the cats over everything She knows she effed up The Benadryl caused the psychosis most likely But the Seroquel almost and would’ve killed him! Whose fault would that have been?!?!!!!

[@meredithf4604]

I keep meds in old bottles, but they are the same meds. I will buy Advil in the large bottles and use the small travel ones to refill. She has no business keeping that medication in a bottle that isn't labeled correctly. I hope he drops her like a bad habit.

[@AngelDeed]

​​​@@meredithf4604 he has no business taking someone else's pill from someone else's cabinet. That's like medication and safety 101, even a child knows that. That and not checking to see if they are the right ones... And nobody forced him to live with cats. If he can't take it and the wife doesn't want to compromise, he can divorce or move away?

[@rachael8646]

In OPs shoes, I would feel very angry that my partner had put prescription medication in an over the counter bottle, especially knowing that he takes a lot of benadryl to be able to live with her cats. Then to not even help look after him when it causes him to have a psychotic break.

[@MMKMoore1]

Story 1 - That was terrifying! Poor OP. TBH, I got mad at the end, where the wife is basically abandoning OP to his brother. She holds some responsibility for what happened to OP, with storing her medication in a mislabeled bottle! I'm shocked that OP didn't overdose from it. Story 2 - I would have gone to HR first to report both the coworker and the office manager. If the way the coworker is acting because of OP's health problems that she and her dog caused isn't the definition of "hostile work environment", I don't know what is. The tissue thing was unnecessary. I'm glad the supervisor got raked over the coals for this. If someone tells you that they're having health issues that affects their ability to work, you believe them!

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

No. She doesn't bear any responsibility for his choosing to abuse Benadryl which is absolutely what caused his symptoms, not the "Seroquel" (assuming that it even exists) because he was ALREADY showing symptoms before he got home again from his trip and he admits that he's been abusing Benadryl, a drug that is KNOWN to cause psychotic symptoms in overdoses that he'd been taking, WAY before his post. Also, you're literally taking as gospel the words of someone who is still psychotic and struggling to separate reality from his hallucinations and delusions - or did you miss the fact that he's STILL an inpatient and trying to find medication that works for him? And I'm sorry, but did you also miss the part where he was threatening her and getting so aggressive that she was too scared to stay in the same house as him? Does her safety count for nothing? It's not "abandoning him" to ensure that she's not in danger when she'd been the target of his aggression. I bet you'd be right up there asking why she didn't leave him and saying his mental illness isn't an excuse if he'd actually beaten her and SHE was posting for advice...

[@pragatisingh8467]

@@JustAnotherBuckyLover in one of the other comments this crazy bitch is talking about being ableist and now saying that we shouldn't believe op because he went through psychosis. Girl pick a struggle 😭

[@joshuasemprevivo6964]

These people and their fake ESA's are going to make it harder on people who actually need service animals.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

Before the update: If this is a prank it's not funny, the phrase "better hoagie down" is kind of silly to say once but after that it's not funny. I'm genuinely confused here lol After the update: WTFFFFF this story is so crazy.

[@copercurlz]

Oh wow, I didn't expect that twist for story 1. I hope the doctors can properly diagnose OP so he can get the help he needs. I can only imagine the fear his wife went through. I can't imagine the fear OP is going through now. I hope the best for both of them in these hard times.

[@linpittsburgh2375]

I expected carbon monoxide! What a terrifying story.

[@raydenn6027]

I think that it would be really frightening to have undiagnosed mental health issues for both OP and his wife. I hope that the condition can be managed with medication and therapy so that he can have a proper relationship with his wife. The wife will need counselling to be able to support her husband. I hope that things work out.

[@copercurlz]

@linpittsburgh2375 I was worried the wife maybe had a tumor or something. Or a stroke. There was so many things that would lead to this and I think that adds to the terrifying part of the story.

[@Yume10605]

​@@raydenn6027 sadly I'm getting the vibes the wife isn't going to want to stay op's wife for long. A lot of people can't handle their so's having a mental breakdown. Also why did the wife have an old bottle of Seroquel? What is or was mentally not right with her?

[@SidereusOfTheFallen]

@@raydenn6027 I'm spitting mad at the wife though. She put a dangerous medication in a bottle of a drug she *knew* he used and then fucked off when he was having a breakdown and told no one to get a wellness check on him? Wtaf.

[@candypettynettie487]

I'm trying to understand why an emotional support animal is at work. This is not the same as a service animal. HR should be notified right away.

[@shells500tutubo]

Story 2- Why does no one suggest the most reasonable solution? The dog CANNOT come into the office. And if you can work from home two days a week, why not all days, or the days you do work in the office the dog stays home? She did not have the dog before the pandemic, so this is a new thing. This office and especially the supervisor are ridiculous.

[@a.d.6637]

I love how they are acting like it was just because he's crazy and that overdosing on the drugs is not the main issue. Those drugs do serious brain damage. It didnt "set off" anything, it caused brain damage. I was put on an antipsychotic as an off label adhd treatment and it lead to the worst experience of my life. I even took the prescribed dose. Akathyisia is a waking nightmare. People kill themselves to escape. I ended up in inpatient care for a week. It took almost two years for my brain to recover from that. Im worried at that dose he might never, or it will take a very long time to recover. His problem is purely from the drug overdosing. I'm furious to this day that I was treated like a mental case when it was a life threatening drug reaction. Anyone who takes those kind of drugs and doesn't need them can be damaged by them, not just those they assume have "latent" mental illness.

[@dimsufferer9951]

And why did the wife have Seroquil in a Benadryl bottle in the first place? There's literally no reason.

[@pragatisingh8467]

@@dimsufferer9951 not just is there not a reason but it's EXTREMELY dangerous to do that. Gets me thinking if she has a drug problem because why doesn't she have the container for the other meds?

[@kennethbarkley1491]

Story 2, OP needs to go to HR about this unsafe hostile work environment. He is NTA.

[@babybookworm003]

Story 2 that supervisor should have been fired because op came up with reasonable solutions to go along with his problem and he refused to actually help op until the union and higher ups got involved

[@Yume10605]

Story 2 I was thinking the coworker with the emotional support animal was friends with a higher up due to the way op wasn't even allowed to move desk. Which is telling me the coworker didn't get full approval of having the dog their. It's also very convenient that she gets a emotional support animal right at the start of middle of the pandemic. I bet that dog was a lock down adoptiee.

[@InfernalPume]

i know op is keen to blame himself for what happened but he fact that the wife drugged him, took videos of him acting irrationally never sent them to him, and just ran away and told eveyrone hes an abuser is so unsettling. the fact that her sense of 'humor' has been gaslighty this whole time just tells me that she's gonna milk the absolute shit out of his potential schizophrenia diagnosis. Partners of adult diagnosed psychosis will often use it as an excuse to become controlling/abusive over time. It isn't even malicious-- have you ever been in a fight where you swear that you didn't say something, only for there to be proof that you did? Imagine having a golden ticket of getting to be right in every argument because 'obviously i didn't say/do that because i dont remember it, and you're too crazy for your judgment to be trusted.' It takes a lot of work and communication to have a healthy relationship with these kinda disorders, work and communication the wife clearly doesnt think the OP deserves. He needs to get the fuck out of there before she starts taking advantage of him.

[@charlessaunders7061]

I thought I was the only one who thought this. Technically he is now "gaslighted" into thinking he's nuts now when you think about it, and honestly I can't speak for the whole male population, but if I were him, I never would of came back to post I was wrong because I'm too proud for that. 😜So I wonder if the story is fake. If it isn't I find her switching drugs "convenient".

[@katalinapedroza3396]

This!!! I understand feeling scared for your safety, but once she’s gotten away, what’s stopping her from calling people to help OP? What was her end goal? Was she never going to go back? Why did she never notice such important meds gone? Why did she have meds hidden in another container? There’s too much missing…

[@InfernalPume]

@@katalinapedroza3396 honestly my twisted brain is thinking she drugged him on purpose to get him to act irrationally so she could leave the marriage, but then when he overreacted to the drug due to underlaying psychiatric issues she's now panicking and trying to shove it all on him.

[@katalinapedroza3396]

@@InfernalPume I can agree; it just feels too.. coincidental

[@charlessaunders7061]

@@kittymcmeowmeow1 I had to google Seroquel because I never even heard of it!

[@PuppyKatt]

NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER. Did I mention to NEVER put ANY medication into a different box/bottle/package of another medication. This man is very lucky to be alive.

[@irishgirl25891]

I feel bad for op. He went through a difficult and scary time. All because his wife put her prescription medication in a otc pill bottle..and then shes afraid of him because he had a bad reaction and wont care for him? Damn

[@BlankBrain]

Story 2: Having a support animal at work is BS unless they're blind or have seizures.

[@LovesGaming37]

Emotional support animals are not protected by the Ada. People need to start learning that so they can call out the crap that these people pulling. Is not need to give exceptions for emotional support animals but they do have to for service animals, which are two totally different things

[@ImmortalBeloved101]

Story1.... like wtf.... could you imagine your wife pulling a "prank" on you turned into being hospitalized!

[@meOW0131]

Story 1: So the wife mislabels her meds, has cats she shouldn't have and basically forces them into OP's life even tho he's also allergic to them, then sees that OP is clearly having some mental issue so she leaves him alone instead of seeking help. That wife is all kinds of awful.

[@clairebear-96]

Omg that first story was unsettling, I got chills when he explained the videos his wife took, and then that he was home alone for 2 days

[@terramarini6880]

That is where I lost sympathy for her, she left him there for 2 days, he would not have got the help he needed if he hadn't shown up at her parents door and they felt the concern that she should have at the start. Sure, get out for your safety but you don't just leave someone who is obviously and newly mentally unwell to stew in their own juices all alone. I would have been raising a storm and riding it back in for my husband WTH?

[@clairebear-96]

@@terramarini6880 Yes you’re so right, I could never just leave someone, especially a spouse, who’s so clearly having a hard time, alone for so long 💀 even if she was scared, it’s like… girl that’s your husband, do something to help

[@RockinTheBassGuitar]

Story 1: "my wife isn't mad at me..." SHE TRIGGERED IT! Who psyche meds in an over the counter bottle!?! WTF! Edit for story 2: the office manager is a ligated to accommodate your medical needs as your coworkers medical needs. You can sue them or make a stink at HR. It's not OK.

[@ivorynk752]

My mother does that. She re-uses smaller bottles for her perscriptions as an improvised travel-size bottle. This story reminded me of shen she stored her buproprion in a Claritan bottle and my brother kept taking it thinking it was allergy medicine. However he only took one pill at a time instead of six, so there was no psychotic break down, just ended up my mother had to refill her perscription sooner because he caused her to run out more quickly.

[@RockinTheBassGuitar]

@@ivorynk752 it's rule number one for anything that is strong and/or psychoactive to make sure that it's not mislabeled for exactly this reason. Even more so whe. You don't live alone. Putting something that dangerous into an over the counter bottle is asking for trouble.

[@pragatisingh8467]

@@ivorynk752 tell her not to. She can buy reusable small containers to be used instead that she can put named stickers on. In some places, it is actually illegal to keep meds in other bottles which have different names.

[@szade3433]

People die from allergic reactions everyday. It is terrifying to feel your throat swelling, and be unable to swallow. Ive had people not take me seriously about my allergies. " You're not really sick it's just allergies".

[@shirokusanagi3901]

So we're not gonna question how both halves of the couple have cats they're allergic to??

[@dragonsoul4529]

Both my husband and I are allergic to cats me much worse than him (perma plugged nose). We were raised with animals and the companionship and care as well as the relationship built with them its worth it. I gave up on allergy meds 😂. My grannie was actually allergic to dogs if I remember correctly as well. I remember her going for allergy shots (I was 14 when she passed its hard to remember now)

[@NotGamgee]

Seroquel is INTENSE stuff. I was briefly prescribed the smallest possible dose as a sleep aid and it knocked me on my ass SO hard. I can’t imagine taking 4 or 5

[@ameixsell]

2nd story, they didn't take you to task because they were afraid of the huge lawsuit you could have had because of that mid level supervisor

[@faeangel7649]

Why am I not shocked the support dog is not likely to be an actual officially documented one

[@ivangrozyny]

Note that that guy in story 1 managed to keep his job the whole time, which tells something about the psychotic nature of corporate America.

[@OmneyasWISH]

JFC! As soon as OP said Seroquel, I was like, UGHHHH. That shit made my life miserable. I have BPD and the meds make me worse. I lean in hard to those dark thoughts. I hope he gets the help he needs

[@zachf748]

Wait, so was he going to work in that manic state? No one at work noticed?

[@ivorynk752]

I wonder what his job is.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: Damn. Edit: Oh damn, that's even more wild

[@nekolalia3389]

The gas is coming from inside the thinkmeat

[@owl7072]

​@@nekolalia3389 "thinkmeat" I love that

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

Then damn doubletake. 😂

[@meggammacisaacrylie7869]

What kind of person leaves their partner/spouse alone for 2 days when they're having a psychotic break? Most people would have called an ambulance at the first sign of trouble if they saw a loved one like this. 🤔 Also, who puts a drug like Seroquel in an over the counter container; specifically one that their partner uses on a regular basis for allergies? Anyone else thinking the wife's actions were more than a bit sus?

[@Yume10605]

I think the wife was abusing the drug to get high but the op abused it thinking it was benadryl and she freaked for serval reasons.

[@dimsufferer9951]

She seemed like a malicious person even before this incident. Who finds lying to someone gullible, and or trusts you, funny? That's not a joke, it's just mean

[@seikouchan]

He is hallucinating and still able to safely go and return back from his work in the office for 1 straight week...? something do not add up about this story.

[@hollowkid97]

He prob didn't actually go to work

[@RenEmell]

That first story was an INSANE thing to listen to while getting ready for the day

[@charitynordstrom5734]

When someone plays stupid mind games with you, don't give them the satisfaction of getting upset. Maintain a perfect poker face and say nothing

[@jessicarickman8588]

Seroquel is serious meds. My family has a history of suicidal thoughts and actions while on it. My 14yo brother was taking it in dhs custody and only survived 4 months on it before he died in 2009, it was an overdose by the foster parents and case worker that was forcing that shit down his throat, tried covering it up by hanging him from a basketball goal with sand in the bottom of it. He was hallucinating real bad the day he died.

[@jeremys2029]

These emotional pet thing has gotten out of control, a woman here just had half her face removed by an "emotional support" dog at a home depot. Now not only is the owner going to get sued into oblivion, so is Home Depot for allowing it. Pets have zero rights inside stores unless they are certified guide/seeing dogs. And stores that allow it are setting themselves up for litigation.

[@Draggonny]

The stores are kind of screwed either way. I hope that enough fake ESA animal owners get sued into oblivion that people stop faking them. I'm a dog owner. I've adopted messed-up pups with severe separation anxiety. No, I don't give up and take them everywhere with me to stop them from trashing my house while I go to work or nip to the shops. I trained them so they're less anxious. Coddling the dogs isn't helping their mental health issues, it's feeding into them. All dogs should be safe to be around the public, but medical support animals should be among the most highly trained and emotionally stable ones around. Having an out of control dog is a crime.

[@sweettea3223]

The 1st story reminds me of the op who took Benadryl, NyQuil and liquor (?) together and ended up hallucinating her boyfriend leaving her and a house party.

[@kuno3336]

OP's wife is at fault, from start to finish. Having pets both she and her spouse are allergic to, keeping her PSYCHE MEDS in a BENADRYL BOTTLE, and all that on top of whatever she's done to him to make this guy blame himself for all of it? Christ

[@hannahdavis5725]

Honestly I'm also concerned about this guy's liver if he takes that much Benadryl too.

[@Mkable01]

That’s super shady. Something criminal is happening in that story of the wife drugging the husband

[@TriXJester]

Story 1: I'm mostly shocked that the wife didnt act to intervene sooner, if my SO suddenly was behaving in this way I would of been on the phone with a hospital almost immediately. Maybe that comes from having a parent who is a medical professional, but yeah, I cant believe she let him get that far. He said he collapsed in the house after she had left, what if he had hit his head or fell on his back, vomit, and asphyxiated? Like the OP could of seriously died at multiple points in this story and his wife did nothing.

[@travisricherson6406]

I would be fuming at the dog one like the office manager should change her desk and accommodate them

[@birdy2068]

Seroquel is very sedative and is sometimes used for sleep. I took it for sleep in a lower dosage, and I was out of it. It didn't make me super drowsy, but it felt as if I took a ton of nyquil/ cold medicine. I would just stare off at nothing. Oh, yes, it does make you feel dizzy. I hope Op checks his cholesterol cause it increases it. Also, it makes you gain weight quickly.

[@carlrood4457]

Something seems off. She had to knew that he took Benadryl to sleep and puts heavy medication in a Benadryl box? His usual supply was gone, conveniently.

[@fishsticks3729]

Op might not have schizophrenia, he might have overdosed Seroquel which causes hallucinations, dizziness and fainting. Furthermore, I question why the wife had Seroquel just lying around in an incorrectly labeled bottle. As far as I know, it’s used to treat schizophrenia so isn’t she calling the kettle black here? (Ik it’s used for bipolar and other disorder too)

[@samoanjoseph1457]

I would think if ANY sort of animal is going to be allowed in an office, EVERYONE needs to approve of that in case they have allergies. Because the easier fix is that person with an emotional support animal, not work in that area if it interferes with two or more people. And if a manager makes no attempt to ease the situation, I'd go over his head to someone who has to.

[@Drezha3]

Story one: well this didn’t end anywhere near how I thought it would

[@pickle_pup8187]

OP needs to follow up with HR. The manager should have moved OP as the allergy to the dog is very real.

[@sandeesandwich2180]

S1: Just the 5-6 Benadryl alone could cause some of his symptoms. Normal dose is 1-2 tabs at a time max. Too much Benadryl has been known to cause dementia like symptoms, particularly in older people. S2: I think some people don't think allergies to dogs are real. Doggoes are adorable, but if I'm in a house with dogs within a half hour or so, I start having trouble breathing. I don't have asthma like the OP, so I can only imagine how hard that was for them. ETA: people who need an "emotional support animal" should seriously think about investing in a teddy bear.

[@pilyq2079]

Story 2: WTF???!!!! It's allergy!!! Not that OP dislikes dogs??? Why isn't those place exchange??? Why??? That manager went mad or it's just laziness???

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #2: Yeesh, people, I love dogs at work as the next girl, but if someone's allergic, that's just not doable. The dog is *not* a mandatory part of the workplace. The coworker is extremely lucky she still gets to bring the dog in some of the time, and she and the supervisor are damned lucky they still have jobs. OP seems happy to get to work from home part of the time, so at least they don't have to deal with the drama, anymore, but it shouldn't have got to that point in the first place.

[@dimsufferer9951]

OP could have, and probably should have, sued

[@paulastiles5507]

@@dimsufferer9951 Probably, yes, but they likely would have had to leave their job as a result.

[@glitchyglitchy3925]

Funny thing about medication- some of them can actually cause symptoms of the things they're meant to treat. This sounds terrifying for everyone involved. Being unable to trust your own mind is one of the worst things a human can endure.

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace ☮️, hugs 🤗 and love 😘!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

💜💜🤗🤗

[@christina1764]

Thanks have a great day everyone 🩷

[@Warlady_]

Right back at you 💜🌌

[@TheThyckVixen]

Last story glad it worked out. I have horrific allergies so I’m pretty sure I would have been flipping desks and acting a fool if they told me to just grin and bear it. Good on him for trying before being p.a. lol

[@cheshirehancock4752]

Literally my first thought at the first story was effectively "CO? CO2?" (I can never remember which one causes what symptoms) so I wasn't surprised it was some form of altered mental state at play, if more of a "wife decided it was a good idea to keep psych meds in a fucking Benadryl bottle *knowing the husband consistently takes Benadryl* and thought nothing was doctor-worthy when he started acting weird" than a "something is leaking and they both might be affected" situation. Tbh I think the husband should be more scared of the wife than the other way around, like, yeah, ok, he probably looked pretty scary, but he was visibly having some sort of mental health crisis, she effectively caused it (whether through negligence or malice), and she just fucked off to her parents' house?! As someone who struggles with mental health issues (though thankfully not ones anywhere near that severe), I would dump someone like that on the spot. I wouldn't want to see her ever again, forget when I'm "better", don't wedding vows typically have "in sickness and in health"? Oh, but when it's psychological, then it's fine to just leave someone in immediate danger? I wouldn't do that to a stranger, let alone a loved one! Literally, if I saw a random stranger who seemed to be having a mental health crisis, I would call the paramedics (obviously after trying to talk to them if it was safe to do so) because I know just a tiny bit of how scary those moments are and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 2: NTA. This does not sound legal. OP needs to contact an attorney. Yay!!!! OP is in a union! Glad the inion came through for union. Hope Supervisor and Coworker got wrtten up!

[@n3rdv10l3nc3]

In one hand, I get the wife being freaked out, but in the other hand she basically abandoned her husband the moment he started to get sick. First she left him alone while clearly having some kind of severe episode (that would have lead me to think he had a TBI or something, were I her!) for two days (what if he had had a brain bleed or something that has been causing a drastic behavior change and ended up dying there in the house) while she went her parents; then she decided that she wanted no part in his care until he was better... despite the fact that her (INCREDIBLY FOOLISH) decision to put medication into a different medication's bottle was a huge, huge catalyst in this happening. She's kind of a bad wife. She helped cause this, but is quick to shirk the "in sickness and in health" part.

[@meadowsong8560]

I agree. If my husband started acting that bizarre and out of character I would call a doctor, his mom, his sister, anyone that could help me get through to him that he needed to see someone. Also very curious as to why she took her medication out of the bottle it comes in and put it in a Benadryl bottle. That seems odd and dangerous.

[@silverbullet3699]

It kinda seems like she also tried to turn and use her parents on him. But he looked and acted so sick they couldn't stay angry at him for "terrorizing" her and just called the ambulance out of worry.

[@ThatsViews]

Maybe her idea was that she could return home and find his body? "Ooopsie! Look what happened?" Wife's abilities to have poker face, pull cruel pranks, etc, might be an indication of a psychotic personality.

[@AngelDeed]

If she is a bad wife then he is a bad adult. He took some else's pills without checking if they are the right ones (twice...) and popped them in like they were candy. Even a child knows not to touch someone else's pill and not take 5-6 of them at once. And nobody is obligated to endanger themselves to take care of a mentally ill person.

[@silverbullet3699]

@@AngelDeed who puts pills in a different bottle especially ones that looks very similar to one another? She seems like a bad adult and wife....

[@kiwifreund]

Regarding the dog in the office: I have a medical condition called mast cell activation syndrome. It is a disease that was only named about 15 years ago, but I have had it all my life (I am almost 49). I am so allergic to dogs and cats that I get pneumonia and bronchitis. I am so allergic to everything around me that my body makes scar tissue internally because the histamine levels trigger scar tissue. It's the reason I have had 10 brain surgeries so far because of this disease. So the OP's reaction to the dog isn't for attention. Also, she could be taking a combination of meds at higher doses, but that's another story.

[@fs5miFi1dM4u5]

The wife in the first story is an absolute idiot... she put a different medication in a benadryl container didn't label it and didn't tell OP about it thus causing his breakdown. It was accidental sure but then instead of trying to get him help when he's cleary acting out of character she basically abandons him to his own luck and when he's trying to get help and needs her the most she's not there for him. She shows zero accountability and zero empathy for her "partner" OP should see that and leave her cause she's unreliable and doesn't seem to care about helping him. You never know he might be having a medical emergency like a heart attack and she'll just leave him there to die.

[@Nox.x_ART]

Even if it was the only free container (which doesn’t make sense because why wouldn’t she just put the seroquel in the container it potentially originally came in. Unless the container broke). She easily could’ve just gone out and bought one of those clear, unlabeled containers from the store, label it ‘seroquel’, and them put the seroquel inside it. If she could have done that she should have instead of putting it in a medical container she knows bother her and her husband uses and be shocked when, unsurprisingly, the two get mixed up. If she had seroquel she’d probably know the potential side effects they could have and didn’t think that the reason her husband was suddenly acting strangely was because of the Seroquel she put in a Benadryl container? Weird. People don’t suddenly start acting off for no reason, meaning she noticed this sudden change and didn’t think to call a doctor or do anything to address this sudden change.

[@kingsevil5255]

"Its cold out there, better Hoagie Down" is now inside my vocabulary and wont come out

[@DirtyUncleSAL]

Story 1: Why was the wife storing (hiding) her seroquel in a Benadryl bottle? And why did she then act like her husband was having a schizophrenic break? I bet she knew exactly what had happened within the first 72 hours of the while thing going down. She's probably gonna end up using this situation to get a divorce or to cover up and justify an affair.

[@crem-crem4070]

I kinda get it I do the same thing with my pills, depending on which country I’m in I get my pills either in packets or in a bottle, I prefer the bottle so I’ll empty all the boxes of packeted pills into which ever empty medicine bottle I have such as a recently finished bottle of vitamins I do this with the assumption that no one else will go into my meds cause I know what’s actually in the bottle

[@YourXavier]

@@crem-crem4070 But why use a bottle that would normally hold pills that look identical? And on top of that, a type of pills that you know your partner regularly takes? With no label or warning or nothing? Honestly, you have to at least wonder if it was deliberate.

[@crem-crem4070]

@@YourXavier I’ve been taking the pills for years now, I know exactly how many to take and I’ve never forgotten which pills were in the bottle. I highly doubt it was deliberate, especially since there was no way she could have known he would take her Benadryl instead of his own.

[@TheSergio1021]

That wife needs to be sued for endangerment in story 1

[@mommieminnesota3108]

Story 2 I feel for op I took suffer from server allergies to both cats and dogs I get what he gets plus my eyes swell shut and I itch everywhere

[@LakeGael]

Depending on where the second story happened, I'm pretty sure ESAs are typically not accommodated in public, since they're generally not trained or aren't required to be trained (which is why so many people take advantage of it). So I'm not even sure the coworker is actually protected here. I have ESAs, and from what I understand, that's how it works.

[@onxybunny]

Story 2. NTA: Yeah, that's terrifying. The wife is horrible. I feel like if she didn't notice that they were going missing when he said he was "taking 5 or 6 "benadryl" a day", than realizing he is acting off, and she didn't have common sense to check on the med she miss labeled and didn't properly dispose of. Plus, that many of her old meds a day. Scary, what if that had hurt him or worse. Then, the bit at the end blaming himself, heartbreaking.

[@justaperson4656]

Story 2: that is a hostile work environment. Senior manager has no regard for your health. Other manager is probably just following orders, but could accommodated you. The coworkers are actively hostile to op. They're forcing op to pay for more meds than he usually takes without compensating him for the expense they cause (assuming it's a brand name they're easily £10/week, or £520 per year if not counting days off/holidays). Also, as someone who is looking to get a service dog for multiple disabilities, that dog has no rights to be there. The owner is not entitled to him being there. An ESA is **not** a service animal.

[@guldobean1217]

Weird thought for Story one, because I know it's possible for some meds (it happens to me with Benadryl) But what if op in story one has an adverse reaction to the ceraquil??? Like, instead of controlling the hallucinations and manic episodes, it does the opposite for him, and was causing them??? Like, based on the story, they didn't fully start up until he took them??? Yeah, there's a possible history of this via grandpa, but........

[@dimsufferer9951]

With the amount he took, he definitely overdosed on them, which would absolutely cause brain damage. Combine that with possible latent genes for him being more likely to have mental health issues, it's no wonder he had a break like this. None of this would have happened if she kept her medication in the proper bottles and he didn't have to take a ton of Benadryl every day because he's allergic to their cats. And given the amount of Benadryl he was taking, he probably overdosed on that too, which can have very severe long term effects

[@guldobean1217]

@@dimsufferer9951 Yeah, tbh that was my second guess after listening again. Surprised that the doctors didn't seem to consider that a possiblity yet. Tho OP might not have mentioned it to the docs yet

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 2: NTA! "Emotional support canine" is code for "I'm incredibly selfish and I don't want to train my pet to be alone while I'm at work, so I'm forcing it on everyone regardless of health or safety concerns". Also, supervisor is obviously a dog nutter.