Finding Passion Again: Embracing New Beginnings In Intimacy | Myesha Chaney

Divorce can be a tumultuous journey, and one of the aspects often overlooked is the realm of intimacy post-split. Join me, Myesha Chaney, as we delve into the challenges and decisions surrounding intimacy after divorce. From the emotional journey of rediscovering self-worth to the complexities of navigating new relationships, let's explore this sensitive topic together and find a path to renewed connection.
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In this candid conversation, I share my journey of rediscovering my sexual identity after divorce, my challenges, and my decisions. From the emotional rollercoaster of self-worth to the mastery of controlling desires, this episode is a fresh perspective on navigating sexuality after ending a relationship.
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00:00 Introduction to the topic of sex post-breakup.
00:50 Realizing the importance of sexual needs after divorce.
01:19 Researching post-divorce sexuality and the conflicting advice.
02:42 The emotional journey of self-worth and self-acceptance post-divorce.
03:44 The decision to abstain from sex and the reasons behind it.
04:49 The importance of self-love and reframing one's perspective on sex.
05:48 The challenges and benefits of practising abstinence.
06:34 The mastery of controlling desires and the benefits of abstaining.
07:38 The anticipation of the next phase in the healing journey.
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Video Title: Finding Passion Again: Embracing New Beginnings In Intimacy | Myesha Chaney
This video is about Finding Passion Again: Embracing New Beginnings In Intimacy. But It also covers the following topics:
Intimacy Post-Divorce
Navigating Love After Split
Rediscovering Self-Worth
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[@user-zy9is2nw8f]

I found the truest way of worshiping. I had to deny the desires of my flesh when no one is looking. I will wait upon the Lord this time around.

[@MyeshaChaney]

So good!

[@joannawofford]

Waiting on God is the greatest thing you can do because God will bring the right person in your wait. To value your self and to know your worth is a blessing that God also value.

[@cynthiay.turner203]

Waiting on god, you'll be waiting your whole life...lol

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes, it was absolutely the best thing. I had work to do and trauma to heal.

[@cemplygloria6261]

Divorced and celibate. About to be remarry in October 2024 and baaaaaby I'm ready for it!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Congratulations!!!

[@LoverOfTheLambMinistry]

If your 1st spouse is still alive if you marry another that's adultery. Please read the Bible and get understanding about this topic because your soul is at stake. Read 1st Corinthians 7:1-3

[@annettebuster2021]

Congratulations

[@themoonbleu627]

@@LoverOfTheLambMinistryare you a virgin , do you judge , do you drink , do you respect your parents ?

[@queeni5212]

@@LoverOfTheLambMinistryTHE TRUTH STILL MAKE THEM FREE!!! Thank you for this truth.

[@victoriaperry1256]

I'm in the process of healing from a divorce and cancer treatment. You are helping me. Thank you for sharing. ❤️🙏🏽

[@NicciTCarr]

ME TOOOOOOOO SISTER!!!! where are u located??? How can I pour into you on your journey!!!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Bless you. We are rooting for you.

[@luvte1]

I hope you receive the healing that you need, are you in the north ?

[@victoriaperry1256]

Thanks for the support. I'm in Cleveland, Ohio❤🙏🏽

[@pathenderson9093]

Healed delivered and set free

[@stephthecreative6312]

I’m staying celibate until I remarry. It’s tough though!

[@MyeshaChaney]

I’m rooting for you

[@roxyrussell-shanks5344]

Thank you Myesha for sharing this precious and sensitive topic with us ladies. I am 2.5 years separated from my now ex husband of 23 years. I was going crazy for awhile and begun to pray incessantly for God to come in and strengthen me. I am a 59 year seasoned woman who've prior to marriage had many experiences with trying colors, sizes etc. But I remember not landing a committed partner and I remember not liking myself when the noise stopped. So something told me that after God has blessed me with the amazing experience of belonging and feeling whole, just because my husband was a cheater I didn't have to throw away allll the work that I had done!! So I decided to rock myself to sleep 💤 at night, take long walks with myself and Not use the Rose at alll. Because I didn't want to lie to me and say this is a good substitute when I know I want a real body..

[@MyeshaChaney]

I’m so happy for you. Thanks for sharing this.

[@angelabarnes3121]

Well said 🌹 sex isn't just a physical connection it's a soul to soul connection. Yes I am happy to hear you say disconnect from your husband on every level.. 🙏

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes, Angela. It’s was necessary.

[@callen7709]

I am here to listen to your perspectives on women’s issues, challenges, and victories. I’ve never been married, but I appreciate your transparency. I have abstained from sex for many years because I haven’t met anyone I’ve wanted to share my body with. Great topic!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Wow! Thanks for sharing!

[@_edrinwilliams]

“Give yourself the love you’re seeking in other people!” A powerful encouragement! 🙌🏿 I’m praying for you on the journey!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes! Thank you!

[@nursecharlene]

I’m going through a divorce too. I’m glad you are SUPER honest about this subject. Great video ❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you for watching

[@jairuskaingo9576]

The statement on self mastery; "Whenever we deny what we have a right to for the sake of what we value most we build our muscle" was the pick up line for me. Thanks for sharing.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Love that!

[@user-lw2et9tj4l]

Thanks dear Myesha I love this video! It’s so great to hear from other women it’s really inspiring. I divorced 4yrs ago and I’m still going through healing process of which I don’t know if it has ending especially after being with someone for almost 3decades, 28yrs together married for 22yrs. I keep talking to my adult children about how I have been betrayed. But what I like now I’m no longer crying about it, they were and still my pillars of support when my tears were overflowing every day for 12 months after divorce but now it’s just a story. It’s so true when they say you don’t know your husband until you divorce him! Being disgusted by the lies, only to find that cheating and unfaithfulness is the main reason behind all the abuses: emotional, physical, financial and sexual because if your partner can sleep with you and still go and do the same thing with another person it’s nothing else by sexual abuse! Trusting, praying, loving and doing everything a wife would do to respect and protect her husband in everything everywhere. Then the worst part is when you refuse to look at the red flags and all the negativity and coldness you exposed to and keep telling yourself no no no not him not at church, oh no not at his work place he won’t do that after all he said? No ways? He’s always saying cheating is like trying poison and he will never try it he said what if it kills him, oh boy, I trusted him and I felt for it , I lived that statement and I felt sorted. Little did I know. And me fearing God above all else, I was submissive throughout all the storms. Still the lies escalated. Well, 4 years later no rose and no man I mean no touch not even on my hand! I don’t think S£x is good! This thing separates lovers and families. They forget themselves while stealing that thing and don’t even care about what they would lose no matter how far you come from, building up everything from the scratch together, planning for the future, starting family and all the commitments. When you are about to enjoy the fruits of your sweat… Bang! They’re just okay to break down everything. At 54 that’s me, Can you still try again, is it possible to get a lifetime partner with senses? But again for what big reason? Sharing your body is something else, trust is another but I know I love love and I’m so afraid to fall into that trap again! That’s why other people think marriage is just a scam? What about love? Love/marriage/stable-relationship/sex/money, who’s a scam here?

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you for sharing this. Wow!

[@trenaromain2817]

I love your transparency. I relate to you on so many levels. I am divorced after 23 years. In the beginning I engaged in sex with my Ex because I needed to feel wanted. In my head I felt if I had sex with him he would want to reconcile. All I did was start the pain over and over again. I would cry every time because I knew it meant nothing to my ex. He was just having fun. I then decided that I needed to stop this reckless behavior. I have decided to heal from within and not have sex. I had to let him and the past go. I learned that I would always use sex to feel worthy and loved. When it wasn’t love at all. It was lust. I feel so much happier from the inside out now. Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your story. Knowing I’m not alone gives me the confidence and courage that I’m on the right path.

[@MyeshaChaney]

You are awesome. Thanks for sharing this.

[@cj4127]

I really appreciate your transparency. Fortunately, I'm a happily married woman of almost 28 years, but in the event my husband passes before me, I've thought about intimacy and how I would handle it. You offer some great advice and I think you're making the right decision...a brave and very necessary decision. Too often, people dive into relationships after a breakup only to discover that they're even more broken because they never did the necessary work of healing from the breakup. They also give into "the hot girl summer" and "Stella get your groove on" mindset, which only leads to more heartaches. Again, thank you and I'm enjoying your channel.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you so much!

[@user-qn4cy9bh1l]

Thank you for being authentic and honest. This is truly what it means to witness.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you

[@mimibtiful]

I am so glad I found your video... I'm in the process of dealing with my recent divorce of 2 years and as a" church girl" I was ashamed of feeling those urges but listening to your video gives me hope that I too can overcome... thank you for your openness and honesty on this subject.

[@MyeshaChaney]

So glad to hear this

[@Theprosperityqueen]

Queen, your vulnerability and strength shine through in this empowering conversation. Your journey echoes with the resilience we all aspire to have. Rediscovering your sexual identity after divorce is a transformative odyssey, and your words resonate deeply. The emotional rollercoaster and the battles with self-worth mirror the struggles many of us face. Your mastery in controlling desires is not just a personal triumph but a beacon of inspiration. Your wisdom illuminates the path for others navigating similar waters. This episode isn't just a conversation; it's a revelation, a testament to the power of self-discovery. Your story paints a colorful mural of empowerment, reminding us that amidst the challenges, there's a surprising twist of resilience and grace. Thank you for sharing your truth and giving us a fresh perspective on navigating the intricate landscape of post-relationship sexuality. Your candor is a gift, and it's transforming lives. You've not just spoken; you've stirred a revolution within us.

[@pangiesmokie3350]

I have been divorced since 2006. It has been a long journey, sometimes happy and many times sad. But, today, I am grateful….teeeheee

[@MyeshaChaney]

I’m happy for you

[@idivorcedit]

This conversation was so necessary and powerful. We need to love ourselves before we open the love to door again. I’m learning who I am and I’m loving the woman I’m becoming. Adrienne is all that she needs. Period.

[@MyeshaChaney]

You are awesome!

[@esthersbeautysecrets4541]

I totally agree with your decision. I refrained from sex for 3 yrs after my divorce. I was married for 27 years. My life after divorce has been the greatest gift outside of my children and family.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Amen!!!

[@kathomas514]

Your ministry and transparency is a healing balm.. This is so desperately needed❤️

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you for saying this.

[@shalondariddle2639]

I like this Myesha she is powerful, god fearing, strong and is doing her work.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you

[@reneegathers4097]

I’m so so glad you are talking about this. I lead a group call Women On A Journey. This group meets once a month. We encourage, talk about women issues, and pray for one another. I lost my husband, Military related death. We were married for 20 years. After 20 years, I had to get used to a new norm as a Christian woman without a man. I went through everything. Dating, trying to fill the void, but God. He allowed me to walk through this process and I made it out sane and saved. Keep doing what you are doing. Women need this. I came to one of your conferences in Chesapeake Virginia a long, long time ago. It was so good. It was about lipstick.

[@MyeshaChaney]

So very cool. I’m glad to hear this.

[@HopeBCARE]

Such great points! It's so important and healthy for us to allow ourselves to feel those temporary emotional discomforts while we heal, and as we get a brand-new opportunity to discover/ rediscover who we truly are and ultimately, we will develop a stronger self-esteem & better self-control.

[@MyeshaChaney]

So true

[@mees2751]

Thank you, Ms. Myesha for your transparency and helping us women.

[@MyeshaChaney]

You are so welcome

[@Elliesteffen2023]

I was perplexed as well. You are so on par! I felt like you were telling my story. I had my moral compass that I always held close to my heart regarding intimacy but then I also had this yearning to be a free spirit and take off the ropes & chains of trying to be someone perfect…. I pretended I was for so long.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yessss!! I feel seen.

[@chryssokonofua1109]

You are just beautiful in and out; in character and content. Congratulations on your decision. You are matured.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you

[@lithabrown529]

Divorced for 4yrs and celibate since my divorce. My soul, my future and my children are worth me waiting until I say "I do" ❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

I love this for you!

[@lakrishagarner5807]

OMG!!!! This is a part of my healing journey right now…. I truly needed to hear this.

[@MyeshaChaney]

So glad about that!

[@lamareneahjordan8660]

I’m not waiting until marriage the second time around…I’m not sure I want to get married again tbh. I’ve never got to know myself intimately prior to marriage or during marriage. Just recently I’ve discovered how to take care of myself in that way thanks to my sister giving me a special gift similar to what a friend gifted you with. I love it here. 😊

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you for sharing this. I hear you.

[@sisteroflovea7215]

Yes Yes, Myesha this what I’m all about, helping women to save themselves and doing it God’s way!!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes! Thank you for listening!

[@cola_314]

I had a warm girl summer. I am working on myself, still healing. Not interested in a man or sex at the moment

[@MyeshaChaney]

Let’s goooo! Love this.

[@elphaba46]

This new you is sooo refreshing! You have emerged from that cocoon and it is fantastic to see!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Oh thank you! Yasssss! I am enjoying my life frfr

[@yolandajones1794]

This is beautiful to hear. To decide not to have sex, after the divorce. God does want sex within marriage. After prayer and repenting for past sexual immorality. I wanted God's forgiveness. Healing is what I need. Good advice for those who know what God wants for our relationships. 🙏🏿❤️

[@somethingbettertodaymarlene]

I did date after breakup but now I am so strong and I thank God I am waiting

[@MyeshaChaney]

Way to go!

[@sharlawilliams4597]

Thank you for your transparency. I appreciate your perspective.

[@MyeshaChaney]

My pleasure!

[@itsmeycb]

I love your candidness. 💕

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you! 🤗

[@deborahmccorkle3585]

Amen Sister! This is so needed for men and women period.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you

[@inspiringsista5047]

Thank you so much….I felt like that after my divorce. And I also decided to live a celibate lifestyle, and it was very challenging, but I wanted to satisfy the Lord and wait for what’s best for me. I truly thank you for your truth. The pain of my divorce was so great that I didn’t know if I was ever going to get over it but I am now healing.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thanks for sharing

[@SonAng113]

I absolutely agree with you Myesha, after my divorce I definitely got into another relationship too quickly and it ended you horribly. I realized that I didn't give myself enough time to heal, my self esteem was beyond shattered, but now I'm taking the time to heal, and after telling myself that I am worthy, it is helping me tremendously while I am waiting, because I believe in marriage & love again.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thanks for sharing

[@mariaprice8306]

I love this and how real you talked about this subject; thanks for being real

[@MyeshaChaney]

You got it!

[@MrsMuruli]

You explained this beautifully ❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

Glad you think so!

[@jrichy438]

Thx for your honesty and maturity ❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

You are so welcome

[@TheeEarthAngelBri]

This is what I love! The real and raw👌🏽

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yasssss!!!

[@tylamapp5317]

I really love that you are not judgmental. God bless your new ministry. Women need this safe space.

[@needmusicnmylyfe]

Wow so unbelievably transparent Thank you!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@pamelamiller1579]

05-26-24 ,This is so true,celibacy is needed. Decernment is distorted when sex is at the forefront.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thanks Pam

[@debrabond5029]

Absolutely helpful ❤️

[@MyeshaChaney]

So glad!

[@mcclendonhaus]

I’m doing what you’re doing, so much peace

[@MyeshaChaney]

I know right!

[@petulawaller]

Realist conversation ever! Thank you for sharing your journey Myesha

[@MyeshaChaney]

You are so welcome!

[@mzsonsie]

You're very brave for sharing this important insight. It's definitely very empowering and liberating to abstain even though it seems painful and hard, it actually is a beautiful gift that purifies the soul. People should try it

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you so much!

[@malindaworsham8148]

Good information

[@LeratoScribess]

Thank you for this 🎉

[@MyeshaChaney]

No problem

[@nanettewingard120]

I needed to renew my mind! ❤❤❤❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

So good

[@ronflowers3099]

Powerful!!!!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yassss

[@nanettewingard120]

Oh so real! ❤❤❤❤❤ let’s talk retreat ! Old Towne Alexandria, VA!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yassss

[@cobylee3057]

I totally agree with her. Take of yourself

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yep!

[@sanctuaryofhopeministries5438]

Powerful enough that we give up what we want most for what we want now 💯 🙏 😌 🙌

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes!

[@sonyajones6279]

I’m going to waiting on God. I don’t want to be soul tied to just anybody. Great conversation and love the honesty.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes indeed

[@jamelglover6617]

Myesha is a breath of fresh air

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you

[@PinkCollar]

Good stuff❤ love the honesty

[@MyeshaChaney]

Always!

[@reginachukwu3595]

Thanks to God you overcame🎉 Much love here

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes! Thank you!

[@preachingprophetayesha4576]

Glad you chose abstinence

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes, me too

[@JustBree716]

Thanks for being honest sis❤❤❤ my initial reaction was to judge. But thank you. Everyone's journey is really different. And doing it in a way thats not preachy. Im definitely the one abstaining not by choice 😅but it is at the same time. And not necessarily for religion. I was raised in church so my moral compass leans that way anyway. I gained alot of wait is part of the reason and my history of promiscuity. Long story but thanks for letting me share as well in your comment section

[@MyeshaChaney]

My darling. You are beautiful. You are worthy of love just as you are. I would love to believe for love for you. Abstinence has been lovely for me and healing. It has been a season of self control and discipline but we are wired for connection.

[@cherienichols7329]

I appreciate this

[@MyeshaChaney]

So glad!

[@shalitaanderson7932]

Love the transparency ❤Go Myesha!!! Let God use you...yes these conversations are very necessary especially in/coming from the church❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you so much

[@mzfee7521]

I respect this...its honest and you chose the right Godly decision.... kudos to you for real!!❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you. Still going strong lol

[@shalondariddle2639]

Great You have to know yourself and stay on the road. Looking inside is powerful remove all of lustful things

[@MyeshaChaney]

So true!

[@MissMy143]

So true and way to show up for the women. I myself is a single lady and loving it. Never been married cause by neglecting intimacy☺. Nonetheless, upscaling my differences in love/lust has been a challenge. My abstinence have truly been an fun adventuress ongoing journey....Just wanted to touchdown on the subject.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thanks for sharing!

[@sinovuyomyendeki479]

Loved this ….. I’ve never been married and in my 40s….i have dated but sex without commitment has left me empty and I’m In a journey to abstain

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you so much for saying this.

[@dawnie2302]

I'm so happy for you. Thank you for your transparency and for sharing your journey with us. Blessings to you my sister ❤️

[@MyeshaChaney]

You are so welcome

[@latoyawilson5176]

Amen sister

[@somethingbettertodaymarlene]

Thank you so much I really needed this. I’ve been divorced a while and it was so hard for me. I thought I would die! I hollered and cried . Now I’m in a better place. I too stopped listening to and watching anything sec related. I would love to be married again one day and waiting on God

[@MyeshaChaney]

I’m rooting for you!

[@somethingbettertodaymarlene]

@@MyeshaChaney Thanks so much. Must watch the other video uplorded this week

[@vlaja3777]

I was in a abusive marriage and sex was chore like at times. I divorced after 9 years and initially struggled with what to do with the itch but with prayer I am able to remain celibate. I noticed the triggers and quickly take captive the thoughts. It’s a process.

[@somethingbettertodaymarlene]

@@vlaja3777 yes we must pay attention to the triggers.

[@ScriptChamber]

I'm proud of you.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you

[@JustGifted342]

You have an amazing gift, you blessed me., May the Lord continue Blessing your family, in Jesus name.❤❤❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

I’m so happy to hear this.

[@shuntarenee3594]

I’m soo proud of you… and THANK YOU!!! 24 years married then divorced ughhhh!!!! I went on a hot gurrlllll summerssssssss!!And girlfriends “oh girl God know what you need” when I should have rannnnn!!! That 🌹 no joke!!! I cleaned out my drawer🙌🏽 and just started focusing on what was and was not pleasing to GOD!!!! And sexual immorality is not PLEASING to the one who CREATED IT!!!! Twisted world!!!!! So healing, self control and priorities!!!

[@MyeshaChaney]

That’s it!! You are doing your work

[@kimberlycollier-jefferson4091]

I’ve been wondering about this very topic for awhile. You are right no one is talking about it. I am going through an divorce after 24 years. My husband was my first and only partner. We were very sexually compatible. So not having sex is really a challenge. But, I agree with you saying no to sex is best.

[@MyeshaChaney]

For this moment, it is the best decision

[@eurspenc]

Been practicing it since my divorce after 12 years!! Only God!!🔥🔥🔥

[@MyeshaChaney]

Only God!!

[@aminataguerrier3846]

I am extremely happy that I came across your story today, your story is amazing it is helpful and helping me with my journey.

[@MyeshaChaney]

I'm so glad!

[@purposebyhisdesign7614]

Oh how I wish this conversation was available to me 3 years ago. I’ve made choices that were 🥴😬🧐 but I’m getting back on track. Thank you for your transparency❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

You are so welcome

[@warkeys9147]

Mistakes are a part of the journey as long as we learn from them. It appears you have. Thanks for sharing your experience

[@vittoria5210]

I thought we was about to have a hot girl summer 😂. Abstinence is a beautiful thing.... I tell God EVERYTHING how I would like my future husband to be like! Thank you for this....

[@MyeshaChaney]

Exactly!!

[@mrsataylor1980]

Myesha, I just love you, you are the sister/friend, I just haven't met yet...lol! I just love your transparency and authenticity regarding all matters post divorce. Your platform is needed! I'm a 2x divorcee and this struggle of singleness is real real. Especially after having continued (team no break, lol) companionship for the past 20 years. There is so much I would love to type here but well you know...lol! 🤣I appreciate your platform and respect your journal...Thank you you for sharing!

[@MyeshaChaney]

So very glad

[@dawnie2302]

I'm so grateful for this community ❤

[@MyeshaChaney]

Me too!!

[@denabrown3457]

Thanks for sharing! I relate very much to your decision to heal and abstain. I’m on a similar journey as I heal from divorce (almost 2yrs). God is a keeper and lover of my soul. I’m so thankful I’m learning to fall more in love with Jesus and myself! Blessings to you in your new beginning too!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thank you so much

[@kimberlyanderson1539]

This is the truth, It's important to heal jumping in the bed with the next,simply opens you up for new issues. Healing first knowing yourself ,and then when you meet someone worth of you moving forward.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Right!!

[@rachels.9602]

"Aligning with yourself" is great and sounds catchy, but is it not enough, and ultimately more compelling to align with the word of God?

[@MyeshaChaney]

I am aligned with God now that I am grounded and centered in who he created me to be. The word of God should lead you to the One.

[@elphaba46]

Myesha I’m watching this episode right now on YT on TV. As I listen, because I’m also rewatching Preachers of LA, it reminded me of the episode where your ex husband agreed to have and then did have, a vasectomy. Given the divorce I wonder how he feels about having that procedure done.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Listen! My womb is still open. I am thankful for that!

[@lovefelix1566]

Lol 😂. God bless you honey! 🙏❤️

[@purposebyhisdesign7614]

I think you have to know yourself and understand your needs and be comfortable in whatever space you’re in. I’ve had a hot girl summer with no sex it’s possible. It’s all in your perspective and as you said how you value yourself❣️💪🏾

[@warkeys9147]

Please share more. I like this comment

[@MyeshaChaney]

Love this

[@purposebyhisdesign7614]

@@warkeys9147 I’ve chosen to get cute hang out with the girls flirt with the guys and not end up in anybody’s bed‼️ Hot girl summer no sex‼️ We can be sexy know that we’re sexy them tell us we’re sexy and yet not allow that to end in sex. So I go out I have fun (lunch dinner brunch breakfast movies other events in the city along with church and church events). I’m outside‼️

[@MontarvoRobinson]

Good stuff

[@MyeshaChaney]

Appreciate it

[@louisemcfadden5740]

Good talk girl

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yassss

[@shewholivesinbliss3753]

God bless you for being real and transparent.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes! Of course.

[@mewa5798]

11 years for me

[@MyeshaChaney]

You are a champion!

[@carlenemccutchen4570]

If you say you are a Believer, Christian, Kingdom Citizen, Sex outside of Marriage is a SIN....... The Bible makes that very clear...... It doesn't matter what emotions you are going through. Obedience is better than sacrifice. Jesus states clearly, if you Love Me, you will Obey Me. People need to stop asking other people their opinion about things. If you are a Christian the only source you need to be getting information from is the BIBLE. The Word of God is the ONLY ABSOLUTE TRUTH. Let God BE TRUE and every man is a LIAR, if they are not lining up with the Word of GOD!!!!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Well I am happy to meet someone who obeys God at every turn always and never is even tempted to do anything outside of his will. All the best!

[@macoshal.brewer4230]

Straight up. It isn't anything but deception. People think they're going to find better and NOT. The Bible tells you valid reasons for divorce and if the reasons aren't valid, then you're wrong for divorcing, especially in the church..supposed to be an example to the world..and children. Either reconcile or remain unmarried just as the Bible says in 1 Corinthians 7:

[@GwenMyles2]

I’m not sure if you are hearing her. She was not married; she had divorced. And, she decided not to have sex outside of post-marriage.

[@laraescentsscentsyconsulta5789]

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 starts as saying Flee from sexual immorality. And in verse 13 of same chapter says the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord.

[@user-qn4cy9bh1l]

God's word is truth, yes! But, in this age we must meet people where they are. We must be honest about what we contend with and how we can overcome, or have fallen short and back into grace. This is how to reach others!!!

[@BjaaHobbies]

Thanks for sharing. i am really crying so much listening to this!! I have yet to divorce this year. i have a project and will fill one after but get my mind is ready, we have been separated for about 6 months and even though he deprived me of sex. the thoughts of the few sex we had come to my mind, and i masturbated today and dont want this part of me to continue. I want to do better with my future self. To keep myself is a far better choice. that was me before marriage. Was a virgin. Thanks for your transparency. God bless **lol i will not google the stuff you talked about either 😂😂.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Haaaa! We are all in this together. Please no shame. You were loving yourself. You are doing the best you can.

[@npblevins]

I’ve been separated for a year and I’m not thinking about sex or another relationship right now! I’m working on healing and I have a gift as well 😂

[@MyeshaChaney]

Good for you!

[@Bernadean12]

I’m grateful this is not on my radar! 😂. I will continue to heal and abstain until I meet the man that honors me, values me and and makes me feel safe! Period! 😊

[@MyeshaChaney]

Love that!

[@loisivory614]

Gave me clarity

[@MyeshaChaney]

Yes!!

[@tjoybell8448]

Good stuff! Best decision is to heal from the soul ties. It is a must!

[@MyeshaChaney]

Thanks so much!

[@whimsical_flower]

I'm the one in the moo moo at the house these days, lol, but I did go through the brief hot girl phase, but I agree it was unfulfilling. I don't necessarily have regrets, nor think I did it because I was broken, because it was a while after my divorce, but it was just... unfulfilling. I chose to focus on my career and getting this bread, lol. If love comes again, it does, if not, it doesn't.

[@MyeshaChaney]

So good! Thanks for sharing this.

[@k.c.43]

Thank you so much for your honesty. This was so helpful.

[@MyeshaChaney]

Glad it was helpful!