What Makes An Ex Come Back?

[@anthonyryan7285]

You’re the man Coach Lee! Everything you say is 100 percent accurate! I Followed you’re advice, and my ex reached out to me a few days ago, so everyone out there reading this, be patient and stay focus, NO CONTACT WORKS!!!

[@listen2898]

Ameen

[@joshmcgowan4376]

How long was it before reach out

[@MoreFunInTheNewWorld]

Sloppy seconds

[@thehavoc6331]

How long was the no contact?

[@louise2528]

how long was the no contact??

[@Glamyougirl17]

Prayer circle. I’m praying for everyone going through heart break in the world & their healing, and everyone who’s dating & in a good relationship I pray their love and happiness continues.

[@theresamischeski71]

May God bless you sis ❤

[@Glamyougirl17]

Chris Johnson sure!

[@nasym4096]

God bless you.

[@meosoukasene820]

I week nc im losing faith lol .just focusing on myself now . Lowkey. By the time she come back i dont think i want her by then

[@PatrickDKing]

Just prayed for all of us...to relieve our stresses, our anxieties, our chemical addictions (love/limerence), heal us, and make us stronger.

[@SS-iz3qp]

Sometimes we don’t want ex to come back ... we just need them to realise their mistakes and change for their own good ..

[@FreedominLove711]

Sumithra S I agree with you

[@rebeccajohnson5658]

Yup true my one ex has issues that need to be fixed.

[@bellayergashewa7676]

On GOD

[@brandonohara4122]

That's exactly why I wanna contact my ex. Just to let her know all the mistakes SHE MADE! I blamed myself when her and I talked last and this is eating me up but I'm getting better. She thinks she's so self aware but she's not, she turned out to be more selfish than I initially thought. She did take some blame and said that she's not pointing the finger at me.

[@zofiafredro9550]

Absolutely 💯

[@alexandrulupu725]

“You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.” - Thich Nhat Hanh

[@ifyify6073]

Please, how do you mean?

[@Kaioshin9000]

Coach Corey Wayne

[@phillipsmegan7764]

The process of understanding how to get your ex back does not need to be complicated. Usually people can figure out how to do this without creating a lot of stress for themselves. Reading the other person with respect and dignity is very important when trying to accomplish this particular goal. Visit *MyExLove. info* If you want to get back your ex back

[@alexandrulupu725]

@@blue_tongue_lizzy indeed. Amir Levine - Attachment

[@linc131313]

@@Kaioshin9000 Ha, yup! 😉

[@harrydurent8988]

Somebody somewhere is looking for you and will accept you just the way you are ; never force someone to be with you, for their appearance or for what they can bring, someone wants to go let it be, she or he wasn’t yours. It’s when they leave you they know what they have lost.

[@TyB-BT]

Harry Durent damn bro that first part really got me✊🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@TyB-BT]

Something my ex doesn’t care what she lost either, my motto is move on & move up. They’ll eventually see what they lost!

[@TyB-BT]

Something well to tell you the cold hard truth, it doesn’t matter what he thinks anymore. He did his damage to you, and burnt his trust with you. I was in a similar situation, I fell in love with the perfect girl and she told me she loved me and broke up with me within the same couple of weeks. The best thing I learned was I didn’t care what she told me, or what she thought of me and I’m doing my best to move on. There’s always better guys out there and I can promise that.

[@ozerilhan1]

No! dont really aggree. Relationship needs some little sacrfice from each sides comfort zone.

[@professormey2082]

@harry durent would you take your ex back if they changed ? And become more emotionally mature

[@PieterDeyzel]

I really enjoy your videos. Not necessarily to get my ex back but to deal with the break up. Your advise is worth more than gold.

[@mariyamfathima881]

Worth a life

[@prizescu]

And, have you dealt with the breakup?

[@leesteal4458]

Same here.

[@marlenengasia5300]

My ex told me he needed a break and after the break the few weeks past and he was on and off hot and cold, after our last conversation I started the no contact rule and ten days prior to my no contact I hear he was in a car accident and I just send a text to ask if he was okay and he told me what happened and told me thank you for looking out I appreciate it and nothing from there, was it wrong from my end cause I feel like an idiot for even texting him, plus I still have his apartment keys which he never ask for or pick up? I need to understand what's happening here.

[@LiLgPnoy15]

Same here man. These videos help me sooth my anxiety

[@oneputtsteven]

What makes an ex come back? They didn't find anyone better and they were unhappy.. Proceed with caution.

[@papichulo4022]

That grass ain't greener on the other side

[@tashajuliett2709]

Okay so I’ve watched your videos. Guess freaking what. My ex wanted me back and we got back together lol

[@RealCoachLee]

Tasha, awesome! I’m thrilled for you!

[@cccspwn]

Unfortunately, it looks like its only working for women. Only seeing success stories from Women. Congratulations though I'm happy for you.

[@molleechisholm9206]

How long were you in no contact?

[@melina1337]

u must be happy as larry...so what the latest...come on tell us..we want to know

[@mrlebosh]

@@cccspwn It happened to me for my ex a few years ago, took around 4 months. I'm hoping that it'll happen again with my latest ex!

[@YogiMDWanders]

I’m losing hope on attracting my ex back. Instead, I’m more focused on working on myself and attracting my future guy hoping he will finally be the one who I will end up with. ❤️

[@Oboy-b6o]

6:00 so true, but her dumping me made me stronger. Highlight my hair. Going to the gym. Letting her know i didn't lose her she lost me.

[@ShL548]

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[@michaelmiller8455]

@@ShL548 What does your ambiguous ellipsis even mean?

[@franczsolijon2341]

@@ShL548 *

[@marcoaslan2714]

Did you get her back after working on yourself?

[@Oboy-b6o]

@@marcoaslan2714 heck no. Sometimes we men that are faithful lets say, only think that theres no one else for them, i wanted Asian but not from the states most seems to have an attitude i was going to the Philippines till my flight was canceled all the time so i gave that up.

[@shkrsimpson44]

I'm not gonna lie. I'm starting to feel like I don't even want my ex back anymore to begin with lol. I feel like this is coach lee's plan all along. To either find yourself again and realize YOUR value or just get over the ex in general and them coming back is just a consolation prize, a bridge that you can decide to cross when you get there.

[@joshwilliams6517]

That’s when it starts working lol

[@brandonohara4122]

Facts

[@Tempcitz]

Just wanna say man, your videos are the only thing that has put everything I've been going through in a positive way. It's finally given me a light at the end of the tunnel.

[@waynesalisbury]

Stay stronger brother

[@hollydrucker8416]

Remember, you had a life before them....Make new friends ... and keep a log of your experience with your breakup it sure has helped me. I wish you all healthy and happy relationships. Thanks coach Lee.

[@joshmcgowan4376]

The only thing I hate is I found these videos too late ... I wish I could time travel just after listening to coach Lee

[@prranauvb6809]

Hey Coach Lee and others, This is just to inform you that no contact rule works. I got my ex back. "What you think is what you get". So be positive, radiate positive vibes. Coach Lee's video has really helped me a lot. I just followed the rule for a day. However it changes from person to another. But it will definitely happen. I want this to be the motivation to the people out there who are going through Coach Lee's video and doubting about it. At the end of the day you should be POSITIVE

[@moonstone_motivation]

When did you get a text from your ex after getting into no contact

[@ifyify6073]

Thanks fo the update man! Hoping mine comes running back

[@tellysantos2392]

k so it worked for u, how long was u in contact?

[@nathanb2167]

I was positive she came back asking how I seemed to be moving on so quickly thinking I was not upset when she was very upset

[@prranauvb6809]

@@ifyify6073 did she?

[@lala4461]

Absolute best relationship coach out there. Different perspective from the others. Everyone else just repeats exact same thing. You actually give sound advice and tools to implement reasonable outcome.

[@ayazmalik5260]

I totally agree ;)

[@KiKi-te9yd]

Also agree!

[@suryaananda108]

This Is Not Happening Very True. An he doesn’t charge the Earth for one on one. I think I’m going to go with Coach Lee & get his guidance. I’m in such a mess tho :( So low.

[@princhipessa1969]

Agree! All I ever hear is “work on yourself” we get it.

[@erosvera9945]

BOV hahahaha yes we get it. Lee is the closets to earth.

[@crist_toro]

I think people come back mostly because they feel lonely or sad and want an ego boost. Most of exes do not come back to have a relationship again with you, but because they are looking for validation and to boost their self esteem thinking that you are going to beg and plead again.

[@llo9491]

I'll except her back, but it'll be awhile before I give her my heart again.

[@lateashaevans4579]

Yup

[@bobsmith962]

Very good point.

[@graciousqueen8463]

Breakup is the most painful thing. U feel like the heart is being ripped apart. U think U won't make it to the next day. However it gets better with time. Stay strong actually don't want them back they will come to ruin your new self and leave again.

[@casiiebunnie]

I made my ex feel exactly how you said, trapped, I would get angry when they didn’t spend time with me and would ignore him because of this. And I feel so dumb, because while in the relationship I didn’t see it. I just wanted to be “sufficient” and everything he needed, without realizing we needed distance, and freedom. I hate myself for that. I don’t think he will come back, and now I realize all of this. We had an amazing two and a half years worth of love, and I started acting insecure for about 6 months. That’s all it took for him to get tired and break up with me. So devastated. 😔

[@randilatislaw4420]

This is exactly what I did over the last 3 yrs to my husband but I didn't realize it until just now as I watched this video and I hate myself for it too because after 20 yrs of marriage I found out he'd been cheating on me and lying straight to my face for almost 2 months and as I cried and begged him to come back home with me or to at least make her leave because she and her two kids, 2 dogs, cat and hamster had moved in with our 28 yr old daughter because they'd just met one week before where they both worked and she and her kids were homeless after leaving her kids' dad so my daughter moved them into her apartment where her dad (my husband) was living while on house arrest after Just getting out of jail... so he chose our daughters 32 yr old "best friend" that they'd both just met over me his wife and mother of his 3 children. And all 3 of our kids knew that he had moved her into his bedroom with him and that he was lying to me about it for 2 months but neither of them said anything to me about it and they even took his side about all of it. So now she basically took my place in my own marriage and family while I'm left to fend for myself by myself after being a stay at home mom for the last 20 yrs and he's paying for his and her share of the $900/month rent, utilities, food for her, her kids and her 4 pets. So yeah I fucking hate myself and I wish I'd never even met him because it hurts soooooo fucking much worse to lose the man of my dreams when I know that I had everything I'd ever wanted, needed and more and I'll never get it back because my daughter put her friend in the small apt with my husband who can only leave to go to work and then get straight home each day and she intentionally put herself in between my marriage and refuses to leave so I didn't and don't even have any kind of a chance to try to fix things between us.

[@THISSHOWNEEDSMORETITS]

Did you send an apology to him? If you recognize this now you could send it

[@Miswhitness0520]

Same here! Praying for both of us

[@mmm847]

Update?

[@naiko6700]

I want to apologise but I also don't want to break no contact...

[@fernandogonzalez6140]

What I love about your videos is that you are the only one that Focuses on self love and to make them experience the loss. And I think that is the key about all this.

[@campingforayearrenoheart5908]

Coach Lee , these videos should be watched before a relationship, such great advise , prayers for all the people confused and in pain

[@campingforayearrenoheart5908]

Why do I want my x back ? Sure I can give them space and they come back but it usually doesn’t work, best thing is learn your mistakes and move forward there are plenty of fish in the sea

[@77dris]

This is all true, but it also shows just how messed up human mating is... the whole "game" is kind of ridiculous.

[@lemotheemonemo]

Just don't even bother playing the game. Be aware that their are games out there so that you can tell when someone's playing them, and then walk away as soon as you detect them. Healthy relationships are not created out of these games.

[@sharamrock2580]

77dris Amen to what you said dude.

[@sharamrock2580]

rawrafied I want and must agree with you as well. I definitely don’t wanna be under the impression that all descents human being are all playing undercover games.

[@beamartino6880]

@@sharamrock2580 agree. Walk away from someone who seems to be playing the games. We all have faults and imperfections, illness, etc. Dumping someone when their situation changes is not love. It's something else.

[@tacobelle69]

I hate playing games. They are so immature...

[@robertoflores4546]

Again, Coach Lee. A life saver.. we have "broken up" a couple times. I lean heavily on him and have learned a lot from the Emergency Break Up Kit. I believe I have become more secure because of Coach Lee and have been able to handle myself better. Even after watching these videos after getting back together, they're STILL valuable lessons in learning about my relationship with the love of my life.

[@RealCoachLee]

Roberto, thank you for your comment! Would you be willing to email your story to Amber at [e-mail]? We would like to use an alias of your name and your story to encourage others.

[@robertoflores4546]

@@RealCoachLee I will when I'm at a computer and can better focus. Our relationship is still a work in progress but seems to build and get stronger with even more emotional connection after over coming these painful bumps, though they become less painful when you put things in to the perspective that you provide. Certain things in your Emergency Breakup Kit are very key I've found.... as you've taught me. Probably the biggest thing you provided for me is confidence. Thank you for being there.

[@annetteincairns3528]

I am the prize! I’m loving your advice. Sooooo very helpful. I now have clarity. Many many thanks for sharing your wisdom. I really don’t want the relationship with my recent ex, I just don’t like being alone and lonely. I’m bouncing back to the strong individual I’ve always been, thanks to you. ❤️

[@DanielleAshlyn]

My boyfriend is already on his way back to me! Just a matter of time 🌍🙏🏽🌈😌

[@adoliowoicho464]

Dr Steve Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him...

[@moonstone_motivation]

I broke no contact after 2 months and just came to know that she been dating another dude right after the breakup and that hurts so I'm on a permanent no contact forever! I'm done. Hope you all get your loved ones back🙏 *Update* She contacted me after and kept checking on me every months once while i was on no contact, after i had moven on and didn't find a problem i normalised with her and she kept talking and came closer ..... Then this months she said she wants to be just friends until we meet,she wants us to mot get close bc it will hurt one or the other ...so i decided not to talk to her and go for a no contact till I'm over her completely. Ik i made a mistake but i really care for her and she actually needed some emotional support so i never left ...i hope she be doing good. Idk what's in fate! But no contact definitely works!!!!

[@garypfleegor1634]

I'm going throw that now Dude. I was so pissed I wrecked his car

[@moonstone_motivation]

@@garypfleegor1634 😂 you need to learn having self control! Trust me it will help you your whole life ❤️

[@youtoo2233]

Glad you talked about long distance relationships. I think it's one of the main reason my last relationship fell apart. We had plans to meet for the first time, but this Corona thing caused her so much stress and depression to the point she ended us.

[@ailyndagatan5499]

Relate

[@jazzyjaz0105]

Did y’all make back up?

[@youtoo2233]

@@jazzyjaz0105 we sure did, thanks for asking, been together two years now

[@jazzyjaz0105]

@@youtoo2233 oh that’s beautiful! Congrats! 🎉 I pray my ex has a change of heart 🙏🏾

[@youtoo2233]

@@jazzyjaz0105 I'll pray for ya🙂, sometimes God will definitely change someone's heart through prayer

[@cocochannel8932]

“AN OPEN DOOR, is a closed trap.” took me years to figure out what my mother was saying. No truer words have been spoken!

[@geoffreychege5080]

Your priceless advices have worked for me. Thank you.

[@kadirigodsent5384]

I Know of a powerful man who can help you get back your ex in two days, he was the one who help me bring back my ex back and he can also help you. message him on WhatsApp [phone] now....

[@margesherwood5103]

I'm the prize.

[@29mirstudio]

After 10 days of no contact my ex just “liked” one of my LinkedIn postings. I’m not going to do anything about it. Liking a posting is not enough to start a conversation. I’m not that easy, she’s gotta do a lot more than that. I have my dignity.

[@gilliansanderson4830]

You talk a lot of sense . Feeling free is a human need

[@jacquelinema8137]

ive been watching everyday just to find comfort here, even if my ex doesnt come back, im feeling okay and can move on with my life

[@sharamrock2580]

I’ve done years of studying psychology and I am beyond amazed by coach Lee. I hope that his viewers truly appreciate the knowledge Lee is providing in his videos. Even though I’ve studied for a long time, I assure you that I have made the very basic mistakes that I could have avoided, and that’s why I admire Lee’s reminder. My girl and I never really argued or anything... she became cold and distant after being constantly brainwashed by her horrible “friend “ that somehow somewhere I would end up being a horrible person DESPITE THE FACT THAT I TREATED HER LIKE MY QUEEN. It hurts... then I finally decided to apply the no contact... haven’t spoken to her for about a 7 days... and that’s something that we never stop talking for more than 2 days. It’s crazy and I don’t expect everyone to understand our situation.... she started to show interest in me and eventually I let her in my heart... until the jealous friend of hers started to affect my girl’s mind and attitude towards me... we were fine, we didn’t even fight or anything... I miss her, but I know that I have to continue the no contact and regain my pride.

[@roshawngreene7069]

This is my situation with my ex-gf exactly!

[@olmanclifford218]

That perfect relationship is what caused the breakup

[@bahakam77]

Haha, going through the same process, because of different religions and cultures, hey friends kept talking shit to her and we didn't fight or anything, i tried taking to her and get an explanation but she seemed confused and didn't want to bother to explain so i just kept it normal in our last meeting and walked out and didn't contact her since then, she views my Instagram stories and i have been doing lots of things lately luckily for me, it's been 8 days now i heard from her after 2 days of the no contact she texted me about a video i posted and i give her a short reply, and since that day we both didn't contact each other, it was all good between us she is sometimes caring and sometimes won't bother to do extra but her friends kept at it, i met her mom and brother and they liked me alot i did want to engage to her after 6 months of knowing each other, anyways we are on the same situation haha just thought it was funny

[@HeDeRust]

Some update?

[@phillipsmegan7764]

The process of understanding how to get your ex back does not need to be complicated. Usually people can figure out how to do this without creating a lot of stress for themselves. Reading the other person with respect and dignity is very important when trying to accomplish this particular goal. Visit *MyExLove. info* If you want to get back your ex back

[@sharamrock2580]

As I have wrote it before: Coach Lee is perhaps a blessing for people who have opportunity to listen to him. Not all cases are exactly the same. The “No Contact “ that coach Lee talks about is something that the person whom has been broken up with HAS TO APPLY IN ORDER TO SHOW SELF RESPECT SELF CONFIDENCE PRIDE After a certain amount of time, perhaps the “dumpee “ might have to re-reach out because the “dumper” might not have the courage to reach back out. I might have known certain aspects of how to behave, but listening to coach Lee: reassuring me that I am doing the right thing was PRINCESS. Thank you Lee. You DO KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT and the fact that you are willing to help others in pain, makes you an amazing human. Love & respect to you. God bless you.

[@carolp3279]

Only thing that eases my pain

[@ellietrosales-parsons4940]

So I’ve been following your videos for about 2 weeks now. I’ve struggled with my mental health, and my ex came home and packed up all his stuff while I was at work and broke up with me when I got home. The best relationship of my life he just lacked communication, and felt I wasn’t putting in as much effort, which was true due to my depression. We broke up about a month ago and I could not do no contact but I did back off and tried responding only when he did. At one point I asked him how he was doing and he stated he was having a hard time and didn’t want to talk about it. I asked again the next day if he was doing any better and he said a little bit but I’m still going through it. This was late at night let me remind you. I jumped out of bed and went to the store and got him all of his favorite snacks as a care package and brought it to him. Since then he’s been talking with me constantly and we have a date on Friday. Figuring out what the problem was and working really hard on myself (going to therapy and back on my medications after the breakup) I think is proving to him that I’m putting in effort. Wish me luck and Thankyou for your videos.

[@johannoble174]

M.e.s.s.a.g.e m.e o.n W.h.a.t.s.a.p.p👇👇👇

[@johannoble174]

[phone]👊

[@ovigavril7191]

Update?

[@phill7487]

I have watched so many of these videos, not to get my ex back but to comfort my own mind about how I was never really the issue in my relationship. Just your words about how WE are the prize, motivates me to move on. My ex has been clubbing, going out constantly (because our friends of friends tell me without me even asking) and I just know she will eventually hurt the way I did when she broke us up. Thank you Coach Lee.

[@jarrodoberg2078]

Did she ever reach out?

[@phill7487]

@@jarrodoberg2078 hi, no, completely moved on

[@anachristopher2973]

Absolutely invaluable advices i'd make my rules. I'm not tired of listening you on repeat. You are just the most sensible person I have ever came across. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@cosmicchaos1090]

You're full of Knowledge

[@josephgioia4947]

What about when u have to speak to her about the kids ,

[@YanoLima]

Hey all. She reached out again and this time i said “id love to see you when im in town” and she said “Awh yeah i would too!!!”. Just know she will probably reach out. That doubt will always be in your mind, but she will probably reach out.

[@Haitiancowboyhtx]

Update

[@mariel9180]

My ex said multiple times, 'what if my parents don't like you' I learned during the relationship that his mother and ex wife had an argument, he took his wife's side, and his parents went totally silent and no contact with him or 3 years! No wonder he was petrified if they would even like me . Pressure on me or what!! 😫

[@christopherstahler5376]

I was with my ex for eight years. Most of our relationship was great, but then for maybe the past two years I became very insecure and did everything he described in this video. I don’t know why I started acting that way. But my ex has said many times I was smothering her and making her feel trapped and I was trying to control her. Now we broke up 4 weeks ago because she jumped straight into a rebound relationship. I’m doing EVERYTHING I can to change my bad behavior and become an even better version of the person I was when we first met. I hope it works to help get her back.

[@twisted4207]

Same here my last relationship lasted 5 years the first 3years where awesome but the last 2 something changed in me i was very jealous and also neclected her and our sexuality were gone the last 16 months.. I guess there no hope for me getting her back she changed a whole lot when i see her i almost dont recognize her. She broke up 2 weeks ago

[@twisted4207]

@Elaine nicholson if u aksing me? Shes in her second relationship now since 3weeks changed completly and hasnt reached out to me yet. I moved on let her live her life hope she finds what shes looking for if it wasnt me

[@twisted4207]

@Elaine nicholson well there no other option for me i still think of her on a daily basis sometimes more sometimes less. When i first met her she was the cute gaming anime girl kinda shy and wont really go out partying much now she changed to the complete oposite she looks totally mainstream by now goes out partying all the time and so on. For me im 25 i reconnect with old friends started with new hobbies (kickboxing, downhill moutain biking and learning to play guitar) Feeling somewhat decent few psychlogical problems though when it comes to dating new girls cause theres interest in me but they are not interesting for me i somehow always compare them to my ex when i first met her. But maybe i just need a little more time

[@BxJerseyShorefan]

Christopher Stahler update?

[@NintendoFan8877]

Christopher Stahler I was that pouty person whenever he went out and we’re in a ldr so I’ve got no hope

[@akaril5538]

My ex did everything under the sun to make me feel insecure and jealous - lies, cheating, "disappearances". I was very reactive , needy, desperate. Admit these are my tendencies, but I was never like this in previous relationships... It sucks that I lost control of myself. With all of these things, I still miss him terribly.

[@Tangeroise1986]

Why you beating yourself up for what your ex did to you? Please don’t! Wishing you lots of blessings 🙏🏻

[@emelkarincaoglu]

You're not the only one

[@itiswritten9423]

@Akari L By now you should realize that the things that are mostly bad for us are the sweetest and what we want the most. You need to be disciplined and let it go. Your self worth is derived from knowing that God, the creator of the universe loves you and that he was willing to give himself for your salvation

[@wislerdesir5080]

I really like this guy for what he does.

[@gerardoromero8494]

This man is telling the truth I agree 100 percent.

[@kellzc.466]

I could watch these videos all day. You need a talk show!

[@marcyallison5996]

You are so right about emotional attraction and making them feel free! I so needed this! Thank you!!

[@jerrylisby5376]

Coach Lee the No Contact Ninja!

[@hollydrucker3011]

That is exactly what he said the reason for our relationship ending... There is no future for us. Once again you are spot on!

[@lettyrodrz9940]

The question is how we can develop and maintain emotional attraction.

[@lorainebejar2837]

Thank you for keeping me motivated in staying in NC. Your videos are great and giving us strength during tough times. Blessed you. 🙂🙏💞

[@elf3296]

EXACTLY what I need right now. My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday over text, and today she texts me, saying I'm handling the situation really badly, even though I deleted her number, facebook and instagram. I'm confused, but thank you Lee. You've helped so much, even with just getting past this

[@RealCoachLee]

Hi Stefan, this video would be helpful to you. It’s on whether you should block your ex on social media. Be sure to watch all the way through: m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/a5LUiZ6Bg7iGla8

[@elf3296]

Hello, thank you Lee. I truly appreciate your videos, they're amazing. You're amazing. Unfortunately with my ex, she has become very resentful, she's very angry with me, I felt the relationship was going well, she apparently didn't. This Friday she broke up with me over text. I felt it coming for a week, she said we should stop all contact, so I did. Deleted her everywhere, blocked her everywhere, yet, the next day she contacts me. She says I'm handling the situation badly, and I don't understand. Through text I could tell she's going through a lot of emotions right now, as one of your videos suggested, I didn't ignore her. I replied in a calm, receiving manner, yet she continuously insulted me time and time again. I don't understand why, but that doesn't matter. I've accepted we've broken up, I don't think I want her back, but I'd be willing to give it a try, should she reach out to me again sometime. I just want to truly say thank you, because your videos has helped me a lot, even though the break up is still very new, it has helped me. It's made me feel less sad, made me accept things easier, and I know you're a Coach to get your ex back, but to me you've also helped me get over her, or started to anyway. Part of me is thinking she's saying all these things to make me resent her, trying to do me a favor of sorts so that I won't want to be with her ever again. A gift of sorts, but I don't know. She's twisting memories, saying I did things I never did, and gosh. I don't know what to do, I've deleted her number yet again since she texted me, and honest to God, I hope she will just leave me alone and let me get over her. Likely no one is going to read all of this, but I just want to say it.

[@tukku4417]

@@elf3296 just felt like asking. Did she ever reach out to you again?

[@elf3296]

@@tukku4417 Multiple times yeah, but never worked out

[@tukku4417]

@@elf3296 man my situation is kinda similar to yours. My girl used to love me a lot but after she dumped me she was like a complete different woman. She was so angry at me and acted as if she hated me her entire life. She lashed out at me and insulted me in many ways. She even said she wish I was dead. She didn't even acknowledge our relationship. She said I never loved her and it was all fake. I don't understand man why she is doing like this. I don't understand what made her brew so much hate for me. I don't know if she will ever reach out to me ever. I has been more than 4 months since breakup and 3 months of no contact. What's your take on this brother?

[@beautybyO]

Omg this is the reason why me and my boyfriend broke up. He said I was too controlling 😢

[@thomaschang2504]

Working on it.. 4 years toghter long distance. Im doing a 2 week no contact and it hurts O__O but its all for US gl on yours dude

[@Hey.its.Lala95]

Same can u update

[@kennethjohnson9446]

You're beautiful, but are you controlling?

[@summerbreeze6547]

If they leave you once..they would leave you again! They dont deserve your love..go find someone new!

[@antilaw9911]

Not true.

[@angelliew194]

So true

[@katiebryant8915]

I just had it happen for the 2nd time.

[@markjoggo7874]

I’m on 5 days no contact , very hard , she won’t come back , very stubborn plus she thinks she’s a princess , just watched Forgetting Sarah Marshall on tv and made me 75% better , good luck to everyone who are suffering , we will get thru this 😀

[@favourarinze9368]

Mark jog go, will come back to you but you can not do it by your self

[@favourarinze9368]

When I was in a problem like this before it was a friend of mine that introduce me to a very Powerful Man that helpe me

[@favourarinze9368]

Have my fiance back and restore our relationship and we now couple as I speak now

[@markjoggo7874]

Early days yet , I’m committed to the 30 days , lost weight , 2020 is going to be a great year with or without her , life’s goes on

[@favourarinze9368]

@@markjoggo7874 don't feel discourage ok WhatsApp The number I gave you him can make your life better

[@BambiOnIce19]

Honestly, i think it all comes down to how much the other person values you. If you are of no value to them in some way, they will not want you. If someone doesn't value you, why would you want to be around them?

[@tiinamettala1131]

I have been listening to you daily since my break up. You cave given me the strength to go on. This video is one of your better ones- it talked so directly to me and is bang on what happens in breakups. I love your work coach Lee.

[@dihya4402]

same

[@dihya4402]

@@chrisstella4820 how?

[@dihya4402]

@@chrisstella4820 yeah how to get the help

[@wadecahill3196]

coach Lee, you are the only person that has given me the best advise ever, I only wish I saw your video 10 months ago, I would have had my ex back by now, what a shame !!!! my biggest regret is not seeing your video earlier

[@thismyworld222]

Why what happened bro?

[@jkim1241]

For all the people counting the days or even worse, MONTHS of NC, you arent ready to be in a relationship with anyone. Learn how to live happily by yourself. Spend time with friends and family. Get sexy for your own self confidence. Dont live your best life just in hopes that your ex will see you doing well and be attracted to you again. You need to want to be the best version of yourself FOR YOURSELF, not a girl or guy who decided to give up on you. Whats crazy is if people made lifestyle changes like they do during breakups DURING the relationship, things probably would have worked out. Its like people feel their self improvement is only worth it when there is something to lose and its sad to see. Not saying Im not guilty of doing the same, but it makes you wonder why we live this way.

[@mathewsquires3896]

Everything I’ve heard in your videos is exactly the things she’s said to me while I was begging and pleading, for weeks I did this. But, I didn’t listen, I was trying to control the outcome and over analyzing and looking for the good and running with it. Thinking I was making progress when clearly she said “I would tell you”. It was me being selfish and letting my ego control it. She’s been in a rebound since about a week or two after our break up and today I have finally decided to start the no contact rule. And it is so hard. I’m gonna try it though because I feel like I’ve done everything else to no avail. I appreciate your videos and I’ll keep faking it till I make it. I hope it works because i do love her. But I need to learn acceptance and other things. We had a good relationship and it was only the last three months things went sour. And the break up for weeks was bad. I hope I haven’t lost my chance.

[@lesliejohns987]

What I Love about You!!!! Is You don’t make getting a Ex back a Scientific Project.. ! You are THE BEST ! You Are EXCELLENT!! The VERY BEST ! 🙏🏻❤️

[@antiglobaljoel532]

I don't know if this is a record, but five days after no contact, she came over to my house (she still had her key) and woke me up to talk. I want to encourage everyone. I can testify that this works. We're back together. The Tao Te Ching (which I've been reading lately) also says trying to "make things happen" doesn't work.

[@terrifinaboo4676]

He broke up with me about 3 weeks ago but i didn't do NC rule so started like 3 days ago. I can do this not only for myself but for him too. To realize that what he had with me was good. But i love him so much n hope he realize it! Good luck to everyone who is doing NC rule. I feel u guys

[@Shivani257]

Update??

[@SilentSchizoid]

How can an ex rebuild attraction towards an ex she hasn't had any contact with for a few years? She is in contact with my mom (she never even liked her)but, not me. We could never be "just friends" it doesn't make any sense to me.

[@JonesyAndy]

Doing no contact works sometimes but its entirely situation dependant. Once she is gone, its likely thats it, she is gone.

[@santmanu1460]

Thank you Coach Lee, my ex didn't come back, it's been five months, your videos, helped me to stay strong and not contact them, I feel better now, the world didn't end after all :)

[@EmilieWangHF]

such good advice, and can i say that the background music is very soothing as well? thanks so much coach lee, for helping me think things through after a sudden break-up.

[@omgurheadsgone]

What background music lol?

[@maximilianomorales1773]

@@omgurheadsgone bro I'm deadd

[@Vibenuggets]

@@omgurheadsgone 😂😂😂🤣Am also confused

[@apmagic8523]

Used no contact, after about a month texted her to get my stuff back when she poured her feelings out to me. 2 days later we were making out in a parking lot. Still talking and figuring things out, she’s scared she might feel the same way as she did when she wanted to break up- in a few months. But just playing everything cool, thank you for your help

[@jasong6967]

My guy!!! Coach Lee... We had an amazing relationship and didn’t miss a beat when we were together. I really want to reach out because she’s stubborn as hell. Should I or should I not?

[@supriyamane4883]

Coach Lee, you are so right. I made all these mistakes when I was in the relationship with my boyfriend and he warned me many times to not to do those mistakes but I was so blind to see the consequences and it resulted in break-up.

[@yaldap94]

Same.. he told me many times he didnt feel free but i couldnt love him differently.. how are you dealing with the break up rn?

[@lovingme6896]

Me too dude i messed up badly

[@martamanno22]

embrace your uniqueness do not allow others to instill in you a sense of guilt for who you are how you act what your standards are their attempt to shift blame / fsult on you you are who you are they have been hiding their mistakes by pointing the finger at you first keep it up, friends of Mr Lee's community thank you Coach for the good job 👏

[@naiko6700]

Same.. and he broke up with me twice... I'm making the steps to change but I don't think he's coming back..

[@supriyamane4883]

Patience is the virtue. Nothing else works best for self-healing. Anything which is meant for us will come to us. No need to wait or manifest. Just be urself and love urself. Universe is watching us, listening us and working for us. So trust the process.

[@kitaradepena6753]

A lot of times your ex wants what they can’t have.

[@RealCoachLee]

Correct.

[@christopherroane9271]

I’m not perfect but she fails to acknowledge her own shortcomings in our marriage. It’s only been about two weeks and she’s reached out constantly but only because she’s mad at me over something. I love this woman. We’ve been together for 11 years and have been married for four of them. I don’t know if I will ever get her back but I’m finding great comfort in viewing your content, Coach Lee. I am feeling in my heart that despite all of this and whether or not she returns to me that ultimately I will be okay.

[@rhettfreeman8186]

I feel ya

[@membering]

Thanks for another great video! ❤ I need to play your videos on repeat.. lol...actually not kidding.

[@rickidoyle7842]

membering same here every one of them every day, to ease this horrible inside pain. 😔😢

[@0110ahsh]

I have been watching your videos all day. I met a girl around 2 weeks ago, everything went very fast, I recently became 18 and she is almost 16. She is my first and as silly as it might sounds I fell in love with her, so I drived 8 hours to meet her and I did, after I told her I love her and that she loved me. So we met and I hired a hotel room and spent the best days of my life with her, it was so real and I felt undescribebly connected to her. Before I drove on my way back, she kissed me, hugged me and everything was just perfect until the curse occured, she blocked me on everything and My heart was shattered to peaces. I made a new accounted and asked why and I want to die and all that sad stuff ( I digged a very deep hole). She told me all that it's me not you whore shit and she still has feeling for her ex and I should move on but I do love her for real. I am broken and I don't know what to do. I stopped sending her messages but do you think there is any slight chance of her coming back to me? I am sorry for this long story but I am just lost, sad and having suicidal thought, please help, I trust you.

[@jimmygee3219]

What happens when I was the one that felt smothered, and controlled by her anxieties? I pulled back to get a breath of fresh air and she said I had mixed feelings (which may not be completely wrong for a period of time but I wasn’t going anywhere and I told her I was where I wanted to be) and then she ran? I never ignored her, we talked every day, I can admit that I had gotten a little distant during quarantine (we quarantined apart). I just feel so steamrolled by this whole thing. She dumped me via text, I was not happy about that and reacted to that probably worse than I should have. I reached out a week later asking to talk, she said no. I stated some of my feelings, both about the relationship and the way I actually felt about her, said I would respect her decision and went no contact. This one hurts. I’ve known and loved this woman for the 12 years I’ve known her and for the year long actual relationship. I’m just about 2 months into no contact. I haven’t reached out or tried to see her and neither has she. But I don’t really fit in this video. I would really like to spend my life with this woman. It sucks because I really tried to love this woman freely and did not try to control her AT ALL, I was not jealous (though I suspect she had a few moments where she tried to manipulate me by trying to make me jealous which did not work). She was by FAR the most anxiously attached person I have ever met and I’m sure she feels like I abandoned her or that I was going to when I wasn’t. I just needed to breath not end it. She was just so incredibly clingy, manipulative and codependent towards the end. I even talked to her about it which she took poorly. She never thought too highly of herself. She would refuse to allow me to love her a lot. She thought pretty poorly about herself and I was constantly trying to boost her up which was never enough as she would just never accept it. If I did anything or paid for anything she would act like she didn’t deserve it.... which really hurt. It really blows to be so in love with someone in ways they can’t even see in themselves but you can, being a slave to their anxieties and them just not realizing that you’re pushing for a healthier relationship. I don’t want to feel like I’m put on a pedestal. I don’t want to feel like someone is trying to buy my love. All I wanted was to love her, to be loved back and to have a partner. Ugh this sucks and my situation just doesn’t fit any of these videos I see.

[@priscillasantin9267]

What will help is getting up taking care of your self showering 🧼 eating 🍽 being happy not acting like your not fazed but like your okay with the breakup

[@brattybaby]

I’m on here again.. Because I’m missing him again and wishing he’s here with me. But I won’t contact him. Day 6 NC.

[@brattybaby]

Day.... how many days has it been since I talked to him?! Right, I’ve lost count. I’ve got other things on my mind so I’m thankful for the unexpected contrasts that gave me a little boost to finding relief! The Universe is awesome! It gave me a contrast to heal faster. It made me feel better about this object of attention, and I don’t feel as attached to this person anymore! Haha I feel good!

[@-khalid-1532]

That is beautiful, keep adding the dates up, it will make you stronger, I know it’s hard, refuse your self the urge of wanting to break no contact rule, instead keep watching all coach lee videos, you will love it, make your self busy , go to gym, hangout with your friend, watch movies, don’t check or wait any text from your ex, just disappear through the thin air for your own goodness, eat healthy, focus on yourself, love yourself and you will see and love the out come. Wish you best of luck and don’t but yourself down by breaking the no contact rule, let it long, time will tell. We are all sailing the same boat.

[@-khalid-1532]

Coach lee is the best and unique coach, I cant watch any other coach other than him

[@-khalid-1532]

I was meaning to reply to brattybaby

[@SoundsSilver]

34 days since the breakup, 20 since no contact, 12 since radio silence. Every day I am in overwhelming pain knowing that she feels she is better off without me. I want her to be happy. I want to make her happy and always be there by her side. I just want another chance.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

SoundsSilver, I'm sorry to hear about your Breakup. I know how it feels bcse I've been there. For my pain, I watched Coach Lee's videos and I went out with my friends. Also, get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. I know it's very tough and I've certainly been there. I want to suggest that you consider Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's such a good guide to help you so that you aren't just wondering on your own. It covers a lot of situations and has strategies that you probably haven't thought of. The link for it is myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wholeheartedly recommend it and wish you the very best of luck.

[@thefnaffan2]

The more I watch these videos, the I realize the mistakes I've made. I drove her away. I did have an affair with pills for 8 yrs and there is a lot of resentment there. I made her be the woman and the man of the house. I stopped around May and I've been changing for the better. As I was changing myself for the better, she was still pissed off. She left 2 weeks ago. At the same time, I don't know if I want her back cause she left me and claimed I stolen everything from her, I didn't steal shit, she walked away.

[@tsu1246]

Listening to this, it sounds like I did everything right DURING the relationship, but she still left me. I gave her complete freedom to do and hang out with whomever she wanted and never expressed jealousy or clinginess, definitely didn't make her feel trapped. And I never invested more than her, in fact one of the reason she gave me for the breakup was that she felt like I didn't invest enough and she felt like she always fought hard for me but I didn't fight for her. Maybe I just overdid it on accident.

[@MA7-6585]

Given they broke up with me, why do i ever give them a chance to do it again, by taking them back? That is the ultimate weakness.

[@LightWardBlue]

I think I have blown it all as he wanted no contact for his reasons and I didn't understand and emailed him things to vent my grief. I was mean and also truthful, I hadn't found Coach Lee then. It's only been a 11 days but I am doing things to improve me and I have done no contact for the last 9 days.

[@Soonvin1]

You are not alone. I am also doing NC. Keep doing it. Our own healing comes first.

[@LightWardBlue]

@@Soonvin1 Thank you. I will keep going.

[@candiscemenguito6485]

Hi Coach Le,, what if my ex said we are never getting back together? and we need to move on? should i do that as well? thank you

[@pattyryan6325]

My Husband left me after 16 years for a homeless women and they live with his x and his son he is a CHEATER SINNER I am still at lost just

[@prizescu]

Hi, Patty, how are you doing now? What happened ?

[@bobsmith962]

He probably feels like a boss

[@missa1589]

I broke no contact by humbling myself down..only to get disappointed in the end. NC for two mos. Now and everything is clearing up. What an ass! Can't believe i let myself be fooled for the nth time

[@priyankachauhan3443]

I don't want a relationship but i want him back in my life :(

[@will4evermoore]

I’m currently going through the problem that the parents don’t want us together. It’s because I’m from a different race and they told her I’m only after one thing. I care about her but I feel her turning on me because of it.

[@TyB-BT]

Wave Up bro! My exs parents didn't want her dating me because I was going to college and playing football. We ended up breaking up because of it, and it's for the better. It wasn't healthy on her. You do not want a partner with co trolling parents!

[@PGOuma]

@@TyB-BT they cant help that tho

[@jhgandy2653]

Wave Up damn man that sucks

[@kennypalacio7035]

Wow I needed this because am having a hard time letting go of her because I love her so much..

[@lanarudyk]

I love what you say about freedom here and hope very much to become a person who can learn to respect that aspect of another person. Your videos are very helpful, thank you :)

[@K.buildingthings]

Wow , I had the exact same long distance relationship break-up... However I tried visiting over for 3 weeks we broke up. Her reason was she felt very responsible .... Wish I saw this video before I went over ..

[@CS-dw4kw]

I clicked on your videos when I was feeling lost and vulnerable, and you have helped me feel a lot stronger and more self-assured. I am working on the mindset that I am the prize. In the beginning of our relationship, I was the “prize” but over time that reversed and he broke up with me. We kept in contact and he strung me along for months. I cut that off about a month ago. I blocked him for a week then unblocked him but didn’t talk to him. He reached out to me the other day apologizing for treating me like trash. He said I deserved a lot more and that he didn’t give it to me, and said he was sad. I just said thanks and said I was sorry he was sad. I can’t tell what his intentions are. I think he doesn’t know what he wants. I’m done being strung along though, I won’t provide support to him until he shows he knows my worth. Do you have any advice for me? Thanks

[@RealCoachLee]

If he reaches out again, it’d make sense to suggest a coffee “date.” You need to see him face to face. But don’t reach out to him yet.

[@CS-dw4kw]

Coach Lee thanks!

[@CS-dw4kw]

The only thing though is that I moved 2 states away since our break up. It’s only for a few months though. So the face to face thing isn’t possible except through FaceTime. I hope that would help if the situation arises.

[@professormey2082]

Would you take your ex back if they changed ? And became more emotionally mature and treat you how u deserve to be treated

[@cleopaehua9337]

That hair is just so extra! Love it

[@creativebeauty100]

Cleopaehua i just noticed it .. 😆.. that hair is quaffed and well behaved

[@cleopaehua9337]

@@creativebeauty100 yes girl, it's super snazzy 😎

[@ALLOUT_SOL]

😂😂😂

[@gregorythomas4366]

Mine coming back in hot pursuit...NO CONTACT IS POWER!!Thx Coach Lee

[@allaboardthegravytrain5987]

Coach Lee my ex came back again today. Im still crushed and heartbroken from his decision. I don't know if I can trust or believe anymore. I don't know if he's gonna change his mind again and it's hurting me even more than ever.

[@CmeOndabigscreen]

Where can I find the video about dating someone who is over analytical and over thinks everything and looks to far into the future? She has already almost sabotaged the dating relationship already.

[@Nadiajbosse]

What happens when you feel emotional attraction or love was not the issue? What happens when your step-daughter gave their dad an ultimatum? Showing emotional distress and manipulation that lasted for months until the father finally broke down and gave up ?

[@emmacarla1752]

Been following you always Coach Lee. Love all your videos.❤️

[@SuperFata]

I will follow the advice, your videos made me see clearer. Not only about myself, but understanding the whole thing from her perspective. If it turns out a happy ending, meaning we reunite down the line, I´ll let you know. Best coach out there by far.

[@minecraftgamers454]

Coach lee any vids on long distance relationship ex’s coming soon ?

[@RealCoachLee]

I talk about that in my Emergency Breakup Kit and will be adding some more to the kit on long distance relationships that breakup and get back together. It’s at myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/