Twist N Chat | Melanin Haircare Updates + Moving On Past Separation

[@Naptural85]

Hey guys! 😃👋🏾 Come twist with me! 🥰😘🤗❤️

[@DestinyAR]

Thank you for making that wonderful shower mirror

[@justfanni7777]

You will bounce back, and find balance. Just hang in there you're moving towards calming waters.

[@Leeniezmoneymatters2]

I’m so happy for you Whitney💓You’ve grown into a wonderful woman and mom while maintaining who you are. We’ve missed you so much and you preached a good word on all these social media platforms whew chile! All the best to and your family and I sure hope you will pop in a little more often. Take care, God bless 💕🙏🏾

[@Millah323]

@@DestinyAR 😊I gotta get a mirror maybe two; & more twisting- elongating style creme🥰

[@BeEnOn]

Beautiful as always! Wishing you many blessings on your journey to self-love ❤️

[@dnikki94]

I really miss how KZbin use to be. It was about creating! It was so organic. I got divorced after 20 years of marriage. I got married at 19 with him since 17. It took me four years to get my bachelors degree, lose 150 pounds, and become financially independent. It was a lot of work but I’m in a good place now! And I’m even dating again.❤️❤️

[@stephtom1607]

Congrats well done ❤

[@Lucky-r7y7w]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@christy7516]

Wow you're amazing and an encouragement

[@VenusNovember]

Congrats 💜

[@applejellypucci]

You're freaking amazing

[@rachelk4914]

“Introverts get really tired when they don’t get their alone time”. I feel like you’re talking directly to me!🤣🤣💜💜

[@deadlockshadow8998]

Fr!!!

[@TheItchyScalp]

Facts!!! 😂

[@Cocoacassie]

Me too!!

[@kuroe-chan5190]

The exhaustion is real! It’s so crazy how it works but it can be to a point I can’t function and I get stressed when I people too much. That’s why I choose not to own my own business….I couldn’t interact with people they way I’d need to to be successful. Even when you enjoy their company it gets overwhelming sometimes

[@MegaAshypoo]

Me too!

[@jeanettejbeauty6374]

As a single mother of four, I just want to say I’m proud of you. There’s a lot of ups and downs and figuring out what works best for everyone really helps (it will definitely take some time). Happy you got some mommy time too 🥰

[@Michelles_Daughter]

💜

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

💙💚💛

[@sydneybest9429]

Keep up the good work mom.

[@ChristinaPerkz]

Keep up the good work 💪🏾💪🏾, but I agree mommy time is important even if it's a few hours❤💙❤

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Wow 4? How do you do it?

[@MsAngelaCrystal]

I relate to this so much. I was with my ex for 18 years. Married for 13. He betrayed me in the worst way. I left with my two kids and never went back home. You are an absolute inspiration. Be kind to yourself. You're doing amazing!

[@Resilientlyblessed]

😔I definitely relate, he said I was supposed to come back home. When I went back in a few months for my furniture. I still question if I made the right choice as he’s always crying that he’s lonely 😩 but my spirit, my peace and tranquillity tells me yes.

[@MsAngelaCrystal]

@@Resilientlyblessed yes girl, he's trying to manipulate you. Protect your peace. All the good vibes in the world to you 🤗

[@UK-sm4co]

13? Like how?

[@chantelltaylor4461]

They were married for 13 years but were together for 18 years.

[@peachy_reina]

Been with mine for 12 years, have 5 children, and he's either cheated or flirted with other women all 12 years... I'm 29 now and so tired...i wish I would've left earlier. He's a wonderful husband and father despite the infidelities, but I'm just tired of wondering when it'll happen again. I'm a grown woman. Ain't got no more time for games

[@shauniebnaturalista6672]

You don't owe us any explanations but I thank you for the transparency.

[@DivaAP08]

EXACTLY, your fans, true fans, are just happy for you. No explanations needed.

[@Face_Reality]

Why do people broadcast their personal life all over social media to a bunch of strangers? Not being funny, I genuinely want to know the reason because I never understood it..

[@Kodak718]

@@Face_Realitywhy would you ask that question here and considering the topic? Plus i'm sure you watch documentaries and biographies some of which are literally made by the people in focus. Same thing different format. Expand your mind.

[@Face_Reality]

@@Kodak718 are you kidding? Documentaries and biographies are for educational purposes and mostly prominent figures. They also make tons of money from it the majority of the time. But people on social media broadcast their life for free or chump change and not for educational purposes.... You didn't have to get an attitude about a simple question. Obviously you have some traumas to broadcast and get off your chest. Care to share?

[@Face_Reality]

@CoilsFit4aQueen thank you for your mature response, unlike others. Your type of response is sort of the one I was hoping for. Thanks.

[@satinsumner190]

I understand entirely, you and I are the same age and my 19yr relationship ended a year ago. I have 4 children from 16 to 3. I never thought I’d be a single mommy either, but here I am. Here we are. You will be in my prayers.

[@WillOnAWhim]

these little emerald gems on the eye are so cute!

[@Naptural85]

XO! Thanks Will! 🥰🥰❤️

[@Millah323]

🤔I was wondering what that was... LOL 😂I thought her skin was shimmering or something...

[@floecizes]

Not my 2 faves chatting! Y’all better stop 😃 💕 love y’all!!!! @willonawhim

[@misslouk]

Hey so so sorry for the end of your mariage. Hopefully it was the right thing to do . Pretty sure Amazing things are coming your way. 👍 May good bless you and your children.

[@doThatGWalk]

Where can I get those from?

[@kevniwoodside5015]

"I didn't think either of us thought that I wouldnt be successful as a single mother. I know he didn't" YAAAAAAAAAAAAAS! SO PROUD OF YOU! GOD YOU ARE SO MANY GOALSSSSSSSSSSSS. KEEP GLOWIN!!!

[@OneJoyfulNoise]

WHITNEY IS SPITTING FACTS.. I was on KZbin in 2008 watching mostly singing videos and that’s what I was posting back then. And now it HAS become a narcissistic platform. Thankfully youtubers like you, other OGs, and other down to earth influencers exist to help the platform maintain some sort of depth.

[@Naptural85]

😩🙏🏾🥰 Thanks sis! Omg, it’s insane really - trying so hard not to let it push me away ❤️❤️

[@kenyalank]

FACTS.. thank goodness for the OGs like Whit.. some of the OGs have given into the “overpretty”, toxic for attention.. Whit is a breath of fresh air!

[@Deenique16]

@@demyoutubers it’s every generation unfortunately

[@BluDrop5]

True, True. Social media - or broadcast media as I would classify YT - was designed to appeal to the narcissists. Thus, this was inevitable.

[@misslaceyjc]

@@Naptural85 Whitney....yes!!! Sis is going off tho!!! I am here for the ENTIRE RANT!!! Please keep the reads coming!!! Read read read huni!!!! Yaaaaassss!!! *3 snaps up with a natural twist out*🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@jolene81]

Whitney, I went through ALL of the same self inflicted mind games with my marriage as well. I did the whole “just give it one more year, let’s see if we can do counseling, am I being selfish, how will my kids take it, how will I survive?” Its was too much. Well 5 years after all of those thoughts we became more toxic and I finally cut the cord with no regrets. I am happy and doing it with blessings from the most high. I needed to grow without him and I have! I’m proud of you and I’m proud of me!! God bless you love. 🙏🏾🥰

[@OneJoyfulNoise]

Before this starts, I just wanna say I am so proud of you Whitney 😭 simply for who you are and all that you’ve accomplished. I’ve loved you for years and that will never change 😭🥺❤️

[@Naptural85]

🥺😭🥰❤️❤️ Thank you so much Jeliyah!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I really can’t explain how much they means to me 💯❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@OneJoyfulNoise]

@@Naptural85 🥺🥺🥺 I’m so happy to just be a small part of the love that you receive. ❤️ Take care Whitney! 😭❤️❤️❤️

[@Face_Reality]

Creepy..............

[@godsamazing2090]

@@Face_Reality If you don't have nothing Nice to say, just don't say nothing at all! Who raised you? They should have taught you that by age 5 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@godsamazing2090]

So nice of you, Sweetheart 🧁 She is definitely a cool and honest KZbinr and business woman. Def someone to look up too! 😘

[@oluchi_assumani]

So nice to see you filming again Whitney! You're gonna get through this stronger i pray. I also feel the same about social media, It's becoming absolutely exhausting to keep up with all the apps and their frequent changes. I surprisingly like TikTok because I find the videos are super easy to edit and upload and people on TikTok are not expecting top notch editing.

[@gehanmorgan6105]

Hi Whitney! You're doing great! Btw Oluchi, I miss your videos.

[@EsiriE]

Going to buy your OWN products in a store is a humble flex 😍🔥😅

[@adriennee.martin3017]

I have always thought you kind and intelligent. I did NOT know you were like me in so many ways. I divorced my husband at age 46. I was done! Then married the man of my dreams at age 48! We hold onto the hardest what God himself is trying to tear apart. The good can flow when we let go! Thank you for this video! It was good to see you being so strong and loving you!

[@Simplylockd]

Whitney. Hire some help. A nanny, a house manager, or someone to come in and clean. I find we as women take on soooo much, that we run ourselves down. So much so that anxiety and nervous break downs happen. There is NOTHING wrong with hiring some help. It’s not like you’ll be sitting eating bon bons 😂 I have someone come and clean once week. Of course, we clean in between but deep cleaning. I leave it to her 🙂

[@Naptural85]

Thank you sis! 💯💯 I’ve considered it truly, but I have serious trust issues with strangers coming into my home 😩 And I can be really germophobic so I feel like it’s so hard for me to trust someone else’s cleaning. And trust that they won’t do something weird to my toothbrush… I dunno lol. I have trust issues clearly! I really would like to be able to get the help. I hired a nanny when Theo was a baby! For like 6 months - but I would never leave her alone with him 🤣🤣 She had to come with me to the office and the most I would leave her alone was in the living room while I filmed. It’s so hard for me to let go, smh…

[@MindfulMoments1444]

Thank you for saying this!! Especially with Black women, we feel the need to take on the world and do it all. We deserve rest too!!

[@Simplylockd]

@@Naptural85 I understand. Especially with the babies, there are some sickos out there. Heck, run a background check 😂 I truly just don’t want you to physically and mentally deplete yourself. You do the kids no good at that point. Self care is not selfish. Take care Whit 🤗

[@Simplylockd]

@@MindfulMoments1444 yes!!!! We are raised to “be strong “ and work, cook, clean, have kids, all ourselves. Even if dad is in the home, for the most part they go to work, come home and chill. I mean, it just has to be a balance and if one can afford it, there is nothing wrong with hiring help. I wish more black women would realize this.

[@Quiteinfamous]

I feel you! My mom is the same way, and while she did get something stolen from a house keeper once, it’s just things. I’m an operations and strategy manger now as an adult & ive learned that while it sucks to trust someone and be disappointed. That’s life! When you create a shell around yourself you keep out so many great opportunities. It’s important to learn to ask for help when you need it. It’s okay to make mistakes & be hurt. That’s life 🤷🏾‍♀️, but you keep out the good when you’re trying to keep tight hold on keeping out the bad. (But do your through research, I’m not saying that).

[@ti7481]

As an almost empty nester, you don't want your world to revolve around the littles...you blink and they've flown the nest. Stay encouraged an keep twistin! Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

[@Thisreadingcorner]

As a longtime (pre-Olivia 😭) viewer I’m so happy to see you happy, I never doubted you would conquer this new phase of your life. I have locs so I have left behind most products now but the towel, mirror, and oil have been great 😊

[@chocolat917]

Omg when she said Olivia is 8, I remember thinking to myself “I remember when she was born!” That’s how long I’ve been watching… loving her evolution!

[@idfwy5255]

Me too!🙌🏿

[@phoenixrising5336]

I have locs too now.but still love watching Whitney. Also I just wanted to like your comment, but it was at 222 likes and I didn't want to change that number.

[@mathskilz]

Yup same! Pre-Olivia and I now have locs (SL) as well.

[@tee6071]

Amen to this RANT... I'm not a content creator but I can relate to EVERYTHING she said about these social media outlets

[@1sava]

I had no idea you and Felipe had separated. It breaks my heart as someone who use to watch y'all's vlogs, witnessed the birth of Olivia, etc. When you've been with someone for so long it's inpossible to not experience loss when ending the relationship you had with them. My heart goes out to you and I pray that you heal fully and completely from any hurt, pain or distress this life challenge might be causing you to feel. I pray for the best for you both and for your children. You've always been such a genuine, kind hearted and amazing person, which is why I've been STANNING your channel for about a decade now. Much love and big hugs Whitney! ❤️❤️❤️

[@RachaelWhite-x5d]

Shoot i haven't seen her videos in so long I am just now finding out 😂

[@SimplyCharlette]

Omg I’m so sorry hearing about your relationship/marriage. Wow thanks for being so open and transparent with us beautiful xx

[@Naptural85]

XO Aw thank you Charlotte 🙏🏾🙏🏾 No worries, I believe everything happens for a reason 💯💯 It was time ❤️❤️❤️

[@SimplyCharlette]

@@Naptural85 babe you are a boss I know you got this and indeed everything happens for a reason! Can’t wait to see your new chapter and all the things you get up too! Wishing blessing towards you, your beautiful kids and business! X

[@Eshabee]

What oh no 🙈 I can’t believe it’s over!! What what this can’t be the truth

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

Chantelle I'm so sorry for her too yeah life ....🥰

[@metsnanatfanuel1420]

I was doing my hair as I was listening to you. I learn pretty much everything I know about my hair from you. My hair was damaged from excessive heat and coloring, did the big chop and learn how to style my own hair. I’m usually a silent listener here and on IG but I don’t want it to go without mentioning, what attracted me is your authenticity! I love your diy’s your products; thank you for always keeping it real!

[@miss__monique]

I'm divorced. It was extremely traumatizing. It feels like half of your soul is being ripped apart. It was excruciating. I use to say that I would rather go through the pain of childbirth then the pain of divorce and separation. But I learned that I had to be broken open to heal and find myself. I forgot how resilient and ambitious I was. I lost all that being a wife and mother. I'm still rebuilding and am so blessed, happy and grateful, in spite of the pain. Please be kind to yourself Whitney, you deserve it.

[@candyjamaican]

My gosh youd go tru childbirth pain again???? Girl THAT pain was PAAAAAIN. wow. I hope and pray my marriage stays intact. Im glad youre rebuilding and doing well.

[@miss__monique]

@@candyjamaican yes. That emotional pain was excruciating. I hope your marriage is a good and prosperous one. ❤

[@caseyt6210]

I'm going through a separation and our future is unclear and this is the worst feeling I've ever experienced. No ones words are encouraging. My faith has grown through this process but still lacking because I'm only praying for my marriage to work and not for peace if it doesn't. Even looking at my 10 month son makes me feel sad and sorry for him. This is hard.

[@JiGGWineFine]

I love the encouragement. Thank you 😊

[@JiGGWineFine]

@@caseyt6210 I’m sorry to hear this. Looks like a lot of us are in the same both. I’ve been separated for 8 months and I definitely understand how you feel. My encouragement to you is to take it one day at a time sis. Try not to think about what was or what will be. Really live in the moment. Focus on your young prince, on your friends/family and most of all yourself. Have a “me” day, a day that you only focus on “Casey” I know it may seem selfish but you need that time to think about what you want and what’s best for you. Also prayer has been the best medicine for my broken heart. Telling God how I feel, my fears, my highs and lows. God is the hearer of prayer 🙏🏾 You’ll get through this sis, you got this ♥️

[@geministar6167]

I’m so grateful that you’re talking about your separation from your husband. I used to feel ashamed about how lost I’d feel after a long term relationship ended. Thanks to you, now I know that that’s normal and ok and that it gets easier

[@candaceirl_]

wow Whitney! i appreciate you being so open and vulnerable about everything. so happy that you’re moving on and bonding with your kiddos! so proud of everything you have accomplished and i am so glad to be a supporter for i believe at least ten years now! can’t wait to see what you do next!

[@candaceirl_]

i LOLed at “veneered teeth” because why does everyone hate their natural teeth 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣

[@Naptural85]

Aw thank you Candace!! 😭🙏🏾 Thank you for the love all these years!! 🤗❤️❤️❤️

[@Naptural85]

@@candaceirl_ lol!! I went off on a tangent I swear lol! 🤣💯💯💯

[@TK-dv5pq]

I hope you realize your ex husband was intimidated and jealous of you and you shouldn't feel bad because of his weaknesses and your successes and strengths. Nothing wrong with being a queen. I hope you take the time regenerate and rejuvenate yourself. Also, know it's ok to invest or spend money to take your time back. If you don't want to do things, PAY someone else to do them and MAKE IT A BUSINESS EXPENSE. Level up now that you've lost the dead weight. You are a QUEEN 👑 never forget that

[@Liz-ic6jb]

True about business expenses. Childcare, house keeping can be business expenses, makeup and clothing for videos...

[@TK-dv5pq]

@@Liz-ic6jb Amen! Don't want her to burn out when it's preventable and business expense-able simultaneously. We all should be working smarter not harder. We do what we love for financial freedom and time freedom to be with our loved ones, not to be trapped and drained by it.

[@annagrace4226]

I have had this thought so many times, but wasn’t gonna comment. But since you did I have to agree, he was definitely jealous. Thank you for voicing (typing?) it. It’s a shame, but he will realize what he lost in time, because my goodness, look at all she’s done and continues to create! He lost an amazing and incredible woman in Whit, all because of a jealous ego. I pray she keeps going and doesn’t dull her light.

[@notthe1_orthe2]

@@annagrace4226 did I miss a video or something? How do we know her ex was jealous and that is why they are divorcing?

[@stacyr5134]

@@notthe1_orthe2 Wondering the same thing

[@sheala3446]

As a married women of 34 years, to a man I have be with since I was 17, I’m proud of you. I which other young women can be inspired to see the stages you went through, with the final conclusion that you and the children comes first. God don’t make mistakes, and you are exactly where you need to be, I’m only married because it works. Women can’t lose themselves because of a man. Love hurts from time to time, but not where you’re lost. BTW, I love all you’re products and literally get comments on my hair daily. I will continue to promote and support you, I only use Melanin. Thanks for all your hard work.

[@broadnax28]

I miss the old you tube. Whitney i love all your videos on KZbin. What you are saying regarding the attention getters, is true. I liked and still like authenticity not attention getters. What drew me to KZbin is I saw people who were not afraid to be them and accept who they are and were vulnerable and shared it. It really helped us all.

[@amira218]

Thank you so much for sharing! My relationship ended in a traumatic way as well, and I’m in the middle of a divorce too. Also, adjusting to being a single working introverted mom. It’s really encouraging to hear your story and to know I’m not alone.

[@a.b.2405]

I’m so sorry. I am going through the same…

[@kirylb1569]

Keep being strong @Kristen H and @Allah B. My mom's going thru the same thing and it's taking sometime but she's feel better and looking out for herself. Sending love and happiness to you guys!!!❤❤

[@Naptural85]

XOXO!! Hey sis! You are certainly not alone 💯🤗 Omg, this is the hardest life adjustment ever EVER! 😭💯💯 It’s the exhaustion and the anxiety. I feel you! We CAN DO THIS! It took me a while to get used to it, but it’s working! Just make sure you get your rest. I used to be able to stay up and work at night, burn candle at both ends, but now that I’m single I’m in bed (most nights - not tonight lol bc I uploaded) at the same time as them 7:30/8pm. And I LITERALLY still feel tired when I wake up in the am. But do what you gotta do to get that rest. I’m able to handle it so much better with my rest. You got this! 👑👑👑 And I’m really sorry to hear about the trauma and divorce. I hope that you are able to heal and get through it peacefully 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@brittneynorman3840]

Same here

[@sweetbrownsuga504]

🙏🏽❤

[@psychattack3381]

It’s shocking how many introverts are successful KZbinrs! As an introvert myself, it would be my worst nightmare but we are a versatile bunch I guess. I’m also shocked that that little bit of conditioner was enough for all that hair. Impressive!

[@Reneg8d_Locs]

Watching this video was like catching up with an old friend. Glad to see you're doing well. I agree, trying to keep up with the new trends is exhausting both mentally and physically. I'll just stick to what I know.

[@Charisma598]

Dear Whitney, I am so glad that you have chosen to put yourself first. We are often taught as women - especially as Black women, that our longsuffering and endurance is a sign of strength. There is beauty and strength in making the hard decisions to start over, change course, or reject the narratives of life should be to face what really is. Here's to peace, healing, and grace as you continue growing towards where you are meant to be. 💐💐🥰🥰

[@ONEOFAKYNDRA]

Your rant on the evolution of social media was spot on. The way Instagram and Tiktok shifted into their own little competition is wild. Mind you, I have a business as a social media manager lol! if they add any more features or even a new platform to figure out, I'm going to scream!

[@ruthyv1311]

This is how I feel about Pinterest. All of sudden it’s popping off and people are seeing great results but I’m exhausted enough with Instagram and TikTok

[@amatullahsaafir685]

Work. I agree

[@ONEOFAKYNDRA]

@@ruthyv1311 yes, it can be really exhausting trying to work all of these platforms!

[@ONEOFAKYNDRA]

@@amatullahsaafir685 right!

[@KimmieJ1920_LNC]

The grief process. You grieving the loss of a relationship. Especially a marital one is like grieving the death of a close loved ones maybe even worse. Been there. You grieve and you figure it out. I hope you have a support system to help you navigate and be a shoulder for you.

[@sensimania]

We've all gained weight! Everyone was literally stagnant for the best part of a year during the various lockdowns, lol! I've been slim my whole life, but now everyone that hasn't seen me in a while feels the need to point out that I've gained weight (like I wasnt aware 🙄)

[@moethomas143]

@sensimania yess me too. Slim til these lockdowns and same thing everyone has to point out I gained weight

[@Ebizzill]

I've gained SO MUCH weight, but oh my god, I've never felt so good about myself until the weight gain.. probably is because I spent more time working on my mental health that now its "okay" to let myself loose a lil, I'll get back on the horse soon, but im enjoying my transformation.

[@sensimania]

@@Ebizzill I don't mind either 💜

[@ravinj8625]

Its so damn annoying 😒

[@Grace_Zandile97]

I'm an ultra marathon runner. Sounds weird saying that since no marathons have happened since pandemic. My weight fluctuated . A male runner asked since I stopped running if I gained weight. I found it so insensitive because ppl are dying, contracting the virus and your concern is weight gain?! The pandemic is still not over

[@sabrinamcewen1981]

Your 'rant' about keeping up with social media platforms...yo my daughter could hear the video in the next room and she yelled "Momma that's your twin!!!" I completely agree and can relate to all you had to share today. Thank you for sharing your perspective, feels like I'm chatting with my sister...except you cant hear my responses...

[@talesia]

I still find it hard to believe Olivia walks and talks and had opinions about her hair LOL. Where did the years go!!!

[@JasmineIJ]

Yes, time truly flies. I remember when she was pregnant with her. I miss Baby Olive.

[@momof3littles]

Same🤣🤎

[@aviswerl6372]

Ikr

[@laurenlocd3180]

The past two days I’ve been checking on old youtube I used to watch . It’s crazy how life goes sometimes .

[@seethergenpan8651]

Being a KZbin watcher OG I feel like you hit KZbin and family influencers and social platforms right on the nail I miss the old youtube and I've been watching you since the beginning it's such a traumatizing change and it has truly become toxic

[@kittykatkattitude9777]

Not all storms come to destroy, some come to clear a path.

[@RacquelNM]

“Your journey is going to end where it’s supposed to end regardless of how hard you fight it...” truer words...

[@amzngmo.e]

Unfortunately, it is difficult to be a successful woman and maintain a happy relationship. Men require so much of your energy for them to be happy. It's almost more peaceful to be single. Love your channel. Your hair is gorgeous as always. Good luck with whatever the future holds. Much more success to you.

[@FTYC2022]

So true. Im so, so much happier single😊

[@sharonhart3858]

@Monica this is so true

[@indriadrayton1132]

It's also happier to be with a husband who is man enough to support your handling your business without little boy drama.

[@charmaineherstories4110]

Time flies, I remember when Olivia had the nickname "Oya" cause she couldn't say her name yet! So good to see how the channel and you have evolved 🥰

[@itzmeeeful]

I remember when she was bobbles because her head looked like a bobble head in ultra sound pics. Lol.

[@thisiscrystal3656]

Aww I remember that💜

[@shaye2685]

Wow! Relationship wise so similar! I appreciate you for sharing this! I am literally in similar situation it’s been a year focusing on my kids & healing. I’m much better than I was a year ago, very broken, diagnosed major depression, un recognizable to myself. I gave and gave, he took & took. Those men can be selfish if it doesn’t serve them anymore. They want to be center and apple of your eye. And they don’t realize they are. But there in lies the problem. I started dating my now separated husband age 19 married 4 years later, I’m about to be 34 now. My life surrounded around him & my children after we start having kids. You have a career whereas I let him lead in all areas, I left the relationship with nothing had to return with my mom to start over. But God is an amazing force, hindsight I needed to let that go. All my needs met & were loving in our own mobile home just me and my girls. I felt stress about cleaning and everything, but now it’s easier 😊❤

[@yasminroberts9841]

Praying helps when you are going thru difficult times....When I had to deal with my betrayal break up, I was so depressed but when I drew closer to God it really helped...I am working on my relationship with God which has honestly benefited every area of my life.....

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

Amen and Amen may you find joy , peace,and happiness sending you a big hug 🙅 💕

[@yasminroberts9841]

@@elizabethletsoso2558 thank you ....I did...single but happy

[@sylviajenkins4784]

Amen Sus

[@OROgoldenpair1]

Amen

[@ajharris4861]

Your transparency is appreciated. Still cheering you on! Wishing you joy, healing, and abundance.

[@briannacoleman]

As long as I've been watching you...I've always felt like you're just a genuinely great person. Just a great person period...in every role you play.

[@lilmamagc]

Just wanted to say from all of us, that WE LOVE YOU WHITNEY! ❤❤❤❤

[@babyleo8655]

I appreciate this so much. Coming from a young black woman, your realness is so refreshing. In a world where "happiness & progress" are shoved down our throats we never wanna go "backwards". I'm glad you made the hard decision to better your life. We've missed you ❤

[@DivaDen]

Melenin customer service is TOP tier 👌🏾 all issues resolved with no additional problems...always reach out to them 🥰

[@tanajsiaaa]

Damn, Whit! Love this rebirth on you. It’s been so wonderful to see this self-growth. HERE FOR THIS!!! ❤️ -long time watcher (since before Oya).

[@kimmydiunicorn]

This could’ve been longer. Like I would legit listen to this no edits. This deff was great in the background while doing my hair. We love you Whit and you’re doing great! As an entrepreneur/mommy millennial, I relate a lot to this! I love you! You’re deff my fave natural hair blogger OG!

[@DSN430]

As a digital marketer I really felt that rant. I'm no longer able to deliver the results I used to for my clients because of all the changes being made. You have amazing content creators with millions of real followers barely getting engagement now because we are all so tired of these things. It's overload. I'm pivoting my career 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@dezziefbby]

Same, same! I’m also in marketing and initially wanted to be a SMM but after the last two years, I’m OVER IT.

[@yanikeonpurpose]

Lool. Guys this is business!! Y’all expecting things to stay the same for our convenience forever & ever amen? That’s not how business works! Environments are constantly evolving. If you’re going to make social media your space of doing business, be prepared to work- constantly! Wanting these businesses to not drive their business forward so you can be comfortable is not how things work. I sell on Ebay & errrday these bishes changes something. I have 2 Shopify stores & am now grappling with Amazon. And all these businesses have social media accounts including Google merchant accounts. It aint a game out here.

[@DSN430]

@@yanikeonpurpose we're allowed to not like the new versions of things and not want to spend our lives on things we don't enjoy lol. Good for you though!

[@ad2094]

@@yanikeonpurpose Your entire comment just radiates condescending energy and for what? Chill.

[@yanikeonpurpose]

@@DSN430 girl I get you completely. My businesses are product based & there is a lot I don’t enjoy. I’m fairly new to entrepreneurship (2 yrs in) having spent most of my life in corporate, & I too was astounded at how much as a business owner you are expected to know & do. Sometimes I feel like it’s impossible! Like who works like this!? 🤣 Environments are constantly changing. But I realised that’s due to my corporate mindset, where you go to work everyday & barely anything changes. Entrepreneurship is like the wild wild west, & if you listen to most successful business owners’ stories, the stuff they went through to get there is shocking. It’s not easy girl.

[@gigireddick3239]

Hey Whitney, You are such a beautiful, intelligent, successful and fierce woman. Relationships can be very difficult so I glad you are doing what is best for your children and you. We here in the natural hair community and your fellow Sistas are here for you. Take good care of yourself and never be afraid to put yourself first. 🙌🏽👍🏾💗❤🙂😊🍾🥂✊🏽👑👑

[@mms985]

Whitney, your vulnerability is admirable. ❤️❤️As a divorcee myself, please know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Take the time to heal and be sure to practice self care. Thank you so much for your products and content. Sending you much love. 💕

[@thelasonj]

Sending you ❤ and strength, Black Woman. You are intelligent, wise,, and mighty. God Bless you. 🙏🏽

[@damselinadress2069]

You are a beautiful spirit and a strong woman. We have your back!!!! Nothing but love sis!!!

[@PixelPaperDesigns]

This is exactly how I need to nourish my hair. I don't recall seeing anyone take such precious time to nourish and moisturize their hair and make sure all the strands are given equal luv. I see alot of ppl discriminating on their own hair. They show luv on the outer layer and neglect the inner layer. No wonder they're fighting with their hair. Evey strand deserves the same right

[@ashleyroyster1071]

I remember seeing that we were going through the same thing at the time. The new normal is definitely an adjustment, but in so many ways I’m grateful for it. Keep striving Whit.

[@Naptural85]

Thank you Ashley! 🙏🏾🙏🏾 And you too! I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through this, and you’re so right. It’s so much more than I could’ve ever anticipated… but the love and real REAL joy that I feel daily makes up for the exhaustion. I’m really so thankful for it and I know the fatigue won’t last forever. The kids will grow older and so I try to enjoy every moment while they’re young, making warm memories, knowing I’ll have time to sleep later 🤣🤣💯 Thank you for your encouraging words! 🥰🥰 We got this! 😘🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

@@Naptural85 True and hey I'm so sorry for what happened dear 💕✌️

[@SimplyCrenna]

Thanks for being transparent and sharing your life💜!!!…. You gave inspiring words…May Blessings Continue to follow you in all you do and your kids!… Just bought your products and will be trying them out… I have been wanting to try them out for a while now …Looking forward to the results😊.

[@tayriobravo6204]

I loved this catch up video!! Your not getting old , your speaking what the mature crowd that’s been with you since the home made shea butter whip days is feeling. As a fellow introvert and mom of two , thank you for keeping it real!

[@poshpearls23]

The moment that Whitney encouraged me to put her on in the background....as I prepping my bathroom with all my haircare products to shampoo and condition my hair and propped her on my counter to play in the background....I- I just felt so loved and bougie and girls-night-in all at once. Finally....the fact that Whitney herself BUYS her own products like everyone else rather than using her personal "hookup...." ijs. Forever a Whitney fan. 🥰🥲🥰🥲 #teamWhitney #team character #teamstrength #melaninmomma

[@greymatters7039]

Yayyyy! It’s a beautiful thing when women realize we’re not defined by “having a man”. You’re going to be just fine. Keep up the good work. You’re worth every minute you spend on yourself. Congratulations on your business and looking forward to a healthy productive future.

[@riviwarner4472]

The hair massage 😍😍😍🥰🥰🥰 omg How therapeutic to watch

[@EsiriE]

What you said about all the different platforms is sooooo TRUE. Its like they're making creators spread themselves soo thin and it's sooo stressful

[@AhselAnneCrochet]

11:38- 13:30 🙌🏾 you should make that a short because everything you said…just yes 👏🏾 💚

[@nickynatro]

These platforms are getting on my nerves. You speak truth. I started creating shorts recently to get more subscribers and it has been a waste of my time. Too many changes. I create good content but KZbin hardly share my videos. People's attention span are so short they can't watch a video for .15 seconds. The day I start creating content for likes and clicks, I am done with this. It's mostly about the money and ego.I am in it for the love and fun. Thanks for this video❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.

[@BELLASTAR]

Listen! I! Am! Sobbing! Little Whitney who used to mix things up and put them in her hair in the bathroom mirror is a CEO of a hair care company! This is not news to me, but today I just really feel SOOOO SUPER PROUD of YOU! Girl, you put the customer service email address up and I just friggin lost it. Whitney, I swear…I’m so sincerely proud of you. Keep going! ♥️

[@pinkpoet14]

Love this background set up! Hope you’re well Whitney ☺️

[@Naptural85]

Ayye!! Hey sis!! 🥰🤗 Thank you!! 😘😘🥰❤️

[@gospel3067]

I was with you before KZbin was a thing. It became real when I ✋ perming my hair around 2004. Ppl probably can't fathom nothing really existed for naturalistas (except Carol & miss Jessie). We became chefs putting together potions for our hair thanks to your videos.

[@1231lena]

Your strength is showing and i love it. This was a really transparent and real conversation. Keep up the excellent work momma.

[@audiarenee7017]

I can definitely understand which is probably one reason why I never got into the blogging aspect of the social platform. You have made it look so easy despite the many pressures lol your videos are flawless and I love the way your hair soaks in the products😍😍😍 By the time I discovered KZbin it wasn’t as glamorous as it is now but I appreciate you for staying authentic ❤️❤️❤️

[@siennasong4370]

You've done the work to exit a relationship. You invested yourself in trying to preserve it. If it ended, it wasn't you. The relationship wasn't right. Now you can invest your time and energy into worship, work you enjoy and perhaps someday, finding someone worthy of your kindness, skills, and willingness to share what you know with others, For that, we thank you. 👏

[@rhodabaruch4]

7 years later returning. Thanks for teaching me how to go natural, take care of my hair and thus myself and others! Thank you for being so transparent. Good for you for moving on for what's best for you!

[@thewalkingmic5]

Im in high school and I love watching your videos/reading the comments because it always feels like I’m sitting in my living room having a girl talk with my aunties 😆 thank you for remaining true and genuine on all of your platforms. Not all influencers can say the same. I genuinely look up to you and enjoy the realness you bring to every video you put out ❤️

[@mercyh193]

I'm here for your rant! You're absolutely right about the falsehood and inauthentic and toxic feel of social media these days. I feel you. I'm 37 and was here before any of it and now it's turned into something else. It's too much!

[@trenice2693]

Whitney I have been watching you since the beginning and when you started I was married and my son was born.Now I am divorced and he is 13.Let me just say I feel u on all levels because I been there and u will be fine! You will see that being a mom is so rewarding and your kids get you through it all.Its a process,and take your time to grieve,heal,be happy,and fine yourself again!🙏🏾🤗🧘🏾‍♀️U got this Whit! 👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@nightangel3578]

I do remember when KZbin was a simpler platform. I miss those days. Also, thank you for your transparency.

[@jasmineb5697]

The new background has a nice warmth to it nice job… blessings and love Whitney we love you, thanks for sharing . And as usual ur hair ur hair ❤️❤️❤️

[@ahha1834]

I cannot believe how similar our lives are right now....wow! I tip my hat to you doing this with two young children. You rock...we rock. We will get to the other side.

[@jeanettejbeauty6374]

Love these juicy twists 😍😍😍

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

🥰🥰🥰

[@Face_Reality]

Juicy??

[@jeanettejbeauty6374]

@@elizabethletsoso2558 😊

[@CameshaAJones]

Missssssssssssed you so much? We all know you are doing the dog on thang! Praying and touching and agreeing for total complete healing. Love u girlie! ❤️❤️❤️❤️👑👑👑👑

[@gabriellebrown8767]

Missed you Whitney! Glad things are looking up. You got this girl!

[@quartzzhuit]

Finally Mama has said it. U are the only OG I listen to. Please REST whenever you can. Sending you much love 😘😘from Ghana. 🇬🇭🇬🇭

[@sharonab07]

I've been watching you for years and am so proud of you. I finalized my divorce 11/2020 and still feeling the whiplash. After sabotaging 2 relationships because of my brokenness I realized I needed to sat down somewhere lol. you are doing well by taking care of yourself, children and business and just enjoying these times. The King will come until then enjoy the queendomship lol

[@corinawilliams5025]

You don't know how much I love you as a influencer,mother,business woman and just a all around human❤️💯..I just want to say thankyou💪#truesupporter

[@Penny3131977]

I definitely missed you, so glad you opened up I’m sure it’s going to help someone else. Most women understand exactly where you are coming from, I always say we have to live in our truth. The transition from long relationships are trying but it’s so worth it. The freedom to be who you want to be is priceless and always demand only the love you deserve to surround you. Happy for you and your children. God bless you. 💕🦋💕

[@Umitelikeme]

@ What you said was so kind and loving

[@TabithaKay]

Penny, Whitney just don’t know we are her real distant cousins from Detroit!! 😂...

[@amberlove1129]

As a divorced, single, homeschool mom of 2, I pray for your strength and you coming to peace with everything. You are amazing, and don’t allow anyone nor yourself to steal your joy. It’s not easy to do life and business living in this season of your experience, nevertheless you will still succeed. Shine one ❤️

[@nickynatro]

Life happens love. You just have to do what you have to. You don't owe any of us any explaination. Life can get rough. I can imagine how hurt you were. You will get through it. Mom life can get tough but you will figure it out. I am happy that you are finding yourself. It's a new journey. All the very best and take your rest as needed❤️🤗.

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

Well said and Amen to that 🙏

[@votesudanusa]

Love her. THIS is the original hair queen

[@rjbennett3448]

.."bonding with myself and figuring out who I am and who I want to be." Love that and that's exactly how I feel now.

[@marj8665]

One of the reason I started following you is your transparency all around. Healing will come with time and non toxic practices

[@staceykimble2178]

Missed you sooooo much! Very proud of all your success with Melanin Haircare. I love all your products and use them religiously. ❤💜❤💜

[@MistressDay]

You have a Mallen streak in the front like me! I found your videos because I put Henna on my hair. It turned the Mallen streak a copper color because it was still not noticeable enough. However, once it gets a pretty wide band, it's on. The Mallen streak is beautiful and not many people have it.

[@seritanewsome8610]

Great video. Love the transparency and just allowing yourself to just talk. God bless you,kids, your business and most importantly your peace of mind.

[@Rabbit_the_Realtor]

I agree with you on how the platforms have changed it’s sad. I call Tik Tok “Tik Toxic” and it seems that these platforms are encouraging and rewarding Toxicity and clout chasing behavior. I’ve been on your videos from the very beginning

[@TBoogy-ex7yo]

I’ve not watched you in a while and when I saw you cross my feed I decided to watch. Thank you for sharing your story About your family change- I actually needed to hear that🙏🏾

[@jessicaaudate]

Same

[@DrSimpleBeauty]

I loved your rant. I think you were right on point. Single divorced moms can do anything. There’s nothing wrong for loving and living for a husband as long as that husband recognizes and reveres that love. You’re a wonderfully made woman respect ✊🏽 .

[@MrsDivaTurtle]

Rant Sis!!! You gotta a lot of skin in the game, tell ‘em how you feel. The need a dose of truth.

[@NourDette]

You made me cry. I admire your courage you were able to do something that I haven't had the courage to do. I'm praying for you Sis. God bless you!💛💛💛💛