6 Ways a Narcissist Uses Sleep To Cheat On You

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@lindaclark568]

Yes, I have experienced similarities, and I knew it was happening. I couldn't do anything at the time. That's over. They are out - sad but I can't cry, now I have the to think about where I will be going from here. It's been so hard and it's not over for me....or them, but not together. Not going back.

[@KanchanSharma-jp8pu]

Danish I just want to get out of this trap . I need ur help.

[@blocc316]

Why do cheaters stay with thier parter if they want to cheat ? Why not be single and so they can do as they please?

[@muhammadhishaam5862]

The 5th one is the most evil.. i went through it

[@harvey2539]

I think a disclaimer on how common Narcissist is or isn't would be helpful. This video will make people diagnose without professional help.

[@honestlyharsha1633]

The fact that they can sleep with their partner crying all night is true and so cruel. They are monsters pretending to be humans. Every word is true sir.🙌🏻I hope these videos help people to come out of this deadly fog of narcissism.

[@gigiarmany]

well said

[@lindabradley6937]

Oh my God that's when I saw red flags getting totally ghosted and then going to sleep. He was a monster I am so blessed he is gone.

[@shaquevionafreeman2523]

I was in a 5 year relationship where All this happened to me even in our first year & All through the relationship. I never thought & still can’t believe the things that happened to me being in the relationship. I never even knew an would have never found out but I have always searched for answers. I was 22 when we met now here 2023 world have been our 6th year. I was ghosted 3 days before Christmas. But yess all that u spoke on is true & I went through all that an more💔finally after being ghosted & cheated on more times then I can Count Im finally Doing the No contact an today is Day 23 this is the longest we have went without talking/ me not calling or texting to see how things are but day 20 I received messages from the person I dated & yes they out in a new relationship an No I didn’t respond an not. I’m trying to heal & it is very hard but I know the person is evil so that helps me to understand why to continue the NO CONTACT.

[@lindabradley6937]

Yes they are possessed with denomic forces. Lust, greed, anger, jezebel, selfish ness etc. Believe it. Get away. Dont even let them in anywhere anyway. GOD will take care of them. Pray for yourself and pray some more.

[@junelledembroski9183]

My soon to be ex husband did this to me almost every night or he would move to the other side of the bed (his head at my feet), I cried every night and he would be sawing logs.

[@prettyroze81]

Them falling asleep while you are hurting and crying has to be the most painful feeling ever 💔 😢

[@Linda2]

Robing you of sleep and little peace you can have is despicable.

[@nicholealbers1252]

It truly is❤😢

[@johnredbeard5074]

What's so sad is as a man I was on the receiving end for 12 yrs and tried to save our marriage b4 realizing what she was

[@jeannahutchinson4125]

I was very ill a few yrs bk telling my partner I couldn't breath! He just ignored me and fell asleep 😨

[@prettyroze81]

@@jeannahutchinson4125 that is terrible 😢 I'm sorry you had to go through that. How are you doing now?

[@charlottehicks9162]

This " Sleep Cheating" talk is so "spot on!". They do a multitude of things like pretending they are too tired, or sick, in pain, or a hard day at work

[@stephaniesimmons3818]

My husband does it every night. I usually wait up for him so I can ask him how his day was. He tells me I am very very tired, rolls over and faces the window. Yep it is way too accurate!!!!!

[@NatzTalk]

Yeees. This was his main excuse and he COULD fall asleep at the drop of a hat after upsetting me.

[@jlh82]

They also use sleep to ignore you, blank you, negate you and dismiss you. Sleeping "at the drop of a hat" regardless of situations or circumstances. If it means they can disengage and upset you, they'll use sleep as their weapon, and you'll be left wide awake, with emotions to the extreme.

[@Sexy-Chocolate23]

Yes!!!! My ex did

[@deborahleroux8484]

Absolutely!

[@RoadLessTravelled-o2p]

yes! spot on

[@kellykajander3115]

🕵️‍♀️wow...yes I saw the narc use anything 2 play the rude game of ignore & dismiss. constant IDIOT..used the phone the dog on & ON...but sleep is a new one on me....i NEVER got that b 4...i remember the narc would b gone constantly playing with the lives of others becuz NARC could no longer play with me I had long stopped caring and in fact I was so busy in my own life i just didn't have the time tho i notice the NARCS ENDLESS NONSENCE.we lived separate lives becuz NARC WAS FORCED 2 FIND VICTIMS ELSWHER ..but narc claiming these druggies and nuts were his many "friends"..no way! it was all FAKE.. fraudulent no such thing as an authentic friend in thier world..what a joke they R..i am so glad I was so focused on my wonderful life..i grew made alot if progress and I learned detachment long b 4 NARC showed up in my world so i was very lucky that way..of course i did get a shock a few times but I had do much training do much self esteem alot of money 2.. i was very strong and i am grateful that NARC WAS almost never around..i was always a busy loner by nature

[@christinegeorge2298]

Wish I knew this before but unfortunately had to experience it. This is sooooooo true.

[@JesusfavQueen]

I grew up around narcissist and the best way to deal with them is Never claim them and always ignore them

[@lindawade1203]

2st Red Flag ....🏃‍♂️ Run

[@aishasidiyaro6276]

I was married to a narcissist for eight years and those were the most difficult years of my life. I was screaming and shouting for help. I thought I was going insane. His "sleeping" is "cheating". I am glad I got the strength to leave. I left him a few months ago and I am healing well. I am now enjoying the meaning of life with my three daughters.

[@anitaforson2311]

I pray God opens different streams of income for u so u can take care of ur kids without having to fall back into his hands again, l know how it is, with my 3 kids and being separated for about 4 months it has not being easy financially but life is definately better than being in a toxic relationship

[@nadine1339]

I have the same story and also 3 kids Nadia much of love for everyone 💞💞

[@aishasidiyaro6276]

@@anitaforson2311 thank you

[@michk.s5501]

I hope to be doing same soon with my son and daughter God bless and strengthen you

[@nadine1339]

@@michk.s5501 thank you so nice of you ☺️❤️

[@scottdogfl]

Another thing they do is to make sure that YOU don't get proper sleep, thereby affecting your work, emotional well being, and then they blame it on you when they intentionally keep you awake before a major presentation at work or a friends wedding or party, etc. My ex used to blast movies on high volume in the middle of the night instead of using headphones. But if I were to do that, there would be hell to pay.

[@aroseisarose7713]

Lack of sleep from worry was his favorite tool. Or to keep me waking up expecting his texts at the same time every morning so I woke up like an alarm clock, and once your use to them...they stop, but you can't sleep. My work was so hard to endure daily, no sleep, no concentration, no focus, and then seeing him walk around with other possible supply in front of me all day triangulating to drive me even more crazy to say I was jealous for no reason when it was his soul purpose.

[@gogosylvia293]

My ex would set his alarm at the loudest setting to go off at 4:30 a.m., three hours before his work, then would hit the snooze button for two hours. I worked nights and often didn't turn in until after midnight. So his alarm, along with all the other nonsense, really messed with my sleep. When I noted that I was consistently running on about three hours sleep a night he accused me of using meth.

[@Dana93Korn]

Me too

[@shakirajameel8042]

So true..always hang me up and leave me..never let me shine..always disappointing..

[@ejacobs1975free]

This is so true. My husband never let me sleep. He’d constantly wake me up…and I’m talking about every night.

[@simonpegg1196]

Just this morning, I was thinking how a narc uses the most simple things to manipulate or exploit their victim - sleep is definitely one of them.

[@debrabostwick2250]

Endless errands are another.

[@simonpegg1196]

@@debrabostwick2250 Narcs are actually notorious for working their victims to death, while just pretending to work hard themselves.

[@jaisonstanley]

I once went to my narc gf bedroom just to give her some food and she slightly nudged her phone beneath the sheet and kissed me. I knew at that point something wasnt right.

[@SondraC-jj8kz]

And food

[@TheOneJPtv]

So true. Phone died, lost phone, stolen phone, phone cut off due to bill, they were sleeping, do not disturb mode, straight to voicemail, the lies are endless

[@mimisha3253]

Endless

[@desireereyes9043]

“I go to sleep at 10pm” 😂

[@mz.necie1976]

I’ve heard it ALL b4😂FR

[@thomasanderson4499]

I'm really impressed that you called it evil. Not many people have the courage to call it what it is. Cold and evil. We all do selfish things from time to time but when the selfish behavior is every day or almost every hour of the day, we have an evil person that lacks empathy

[@cleocatra9324]

He knows the deal he has experienced it! Thats why I respect him above many psychology professionals who refuse to call evil evil

[@vict0ree]

"They will constantly accuse you of the things they are actually doing" is the Golden Rule. In a narcs mind, everyone has the same motives and dishonesty they do so they are abnormally obsessed with accusing you of those things. My narc ex cheated for years and I was naive and convinced myself my feelings were a problem with me. Coupled with them accusing me of cheating all the time when I was devoted to them and made every effort to be with them 24/7, I was a confused mess.

[@SaInTDEmYSe]

Mine were more sneaky as in, she would be like let’s sleep over FaceTime, but this was subtle projection. She wanted to see if after I hung up would I be calling someone else, it’s because they would and that’s how their brains work. They want to ascertain if you’re the same, before running game on you. Pretty fucked up stuff.

[@recoveringsoul755]

So when I was accused of being homosexual...he was confessing? It actually would make a lot of sense to explain very odd behavior and his very clear preference for male company.

[@SharkE747]

My ex wife did exactly that. I told her many times over the years that "those who accuse are usually the guilty one" and she ALWAYS had a reason, excuse, as to why it wasn't even possible. Yeah right! After all of the videos that I've watched about these demons, I see it all!!

[@meghasanyal4861]

You are talking about mirroring. Reading your story I suddenly remembered an incident from childhood. So as a teen I taught the moves of chess to my younger brother who is 3 years younger, he learnt new so used to loose to me which is natural he was learning. But one fine day, he started a very annoying thing of playing the moves exactly mirroring my moves. If I played a pawn, he would play the pawn at the exact same position on his side and it became impossible to defeat him. He started playing tournaments later within the locality. I realised this thing that Narcissist creates an environment where they alters the reality in their mind to you cheating and then mirrors that in their moves. They Gaslight you to believe that reality and voila like the chess game you can't win because you are playing against yourself now. Evil knows no bounds.

[@Pyrrhic537]

Except is they are not actual bona fida NPD sufferers.

[@gigiarmany]

your distress actually helps them sleep better..👾 it's like soothing music to the narcissist, they sleep & snore while you weep..evil creatures 😈

[@mateba5647]

Accurate comment

[@natthebratster]

The worst of them seem to snore so loudly it's unbelievable.

[@rgjr.6055]

I caught my narcissist smiling with glee after making our friend cry. Thats when I knew she was evil.

[@styledbyhustlerlocs]

Demons!

[@Rubipearllove]

😂 they are just such sad miserable demons

[@Dee-iu4eg]

My husband slept on the couch for years while he was having an affair. He complained that his shoulder hurts , and the couch helps him feel better. He is very flirtatious with every beautiful woman he comes across, especially when he takes me out to dinner, he ends up flirting with the waitress the entire time. And yes he does sleep a lot!!! and he is always grumpy, mad & tired, but as soon as the phone rings, he doesn’t realize that his tone changes and he is the funniest guy on this planet.😅

[@DJSHIREEN]

Have seen this type. They have a special.palce in hell reserved.

[@mateba5647]

Turn off his cellphone withouot he noticing!!!

[@peggyeldridge4827]

Sounds almost like my ex.

[@marciasimpson8852]

Oh yea. Ass holes at home but in public the most charming

[@anneofgreengables1619]

Oh yes the raucous laughter on the phone versus the bad tempered indifference when he talks to you..

[@tonyale749]

1) cheat all the time, but say that loves me 2) would go to the bathrooms or to his parents’ house to play on the phone 3) avoid the phone, sleep, to avoid talking 4) fake sleep: weird sleeping pattern. Once I sleep then he would be on his phone. He would constantly check my phone. 5) calls me drama queen, other names 6) gaslight… been there 7) yes, he could careless about my emotions but I must care about his emotions

[@mz.necie1976]

IKR😢

[@ninab.6609]

Same here that’s crazy I didn’t understand why😢

[@shamikae9241]

It happen to me. They lied so much. I was so hurt cause I didn't do anything but love them. I did everything. Everything you're saying is on point. So accurate their frauds

[@rasham.1174]

Once you're out of the relationship with the Narc you can find some humor in all of the effort that they put into maintaining all of their madness lol. I honestly am so very grateful that I can find peace in living my own authentic/honest life. Shoot, I can feel joy just sitting with a hot cup of tea. I can't imagine spending my entire life being a fraud to every person I encountered just so I could gleam a speck of joy from their suffering and misguided trust. I pity them... The karma can't be good.

[@tobascoheat6582]

There's no FN humor to be found. None.

[@makaylaforbes6719]

Absolutely! The amount of time and energy it takes for these frauds to do what they do is mind-boggling. Imagine if they spent that energy coming up with solutions, instead of creating more problems. There would be no such thing as poverty, hunger, or having to drink toxic water

[@pallavikanak7139]

Absolutely agree with Rasham..!!!

[@SuprEmpth]

Dang that’s deep!!!! Good way to put it. I was just feeling down. And your message cheered me up.

[@nicoleowens2318]

That was so perfectly put. You're right, it is very sad. I needed to hear that today. Thank you.

[@Erchyful]

Yes this one is also spot on 👌 My ex abuser used to take me to my parents house and ,,suddenly get an invite from his pals to go have ONE drink,, and never came back until the next day saying his phone,,died,,. Or suddenly checking all my social media accusing me of all sorts of stuff end refusing to talk about his wrong actions. Oh and never posting pictures of us together and presenting himself as single on social media was a constant! To all the ladies out there from me: If he is ,,hiding,, you and keeps his social media presenting him as single with no proof of your relationship whatsoever - HE WANTS TO COME OFF LIKE SINGLE and it is NEVER true when he says I KEEP MY PRIVACY while his profile is public and he posts all his party’s pictures with all his buddies, lunching and other outings showing clearly his locations and people in his life… DONT TAKE THAT CRAP LADIES HE LITERALLY DOESNT GIVE YOU THE VALUE BECAUSE HE DOESNT SEE YOU AS ONE!!! ☝️

[@janedoe5229]

Twice in my life I fell for that. The first was my teenage boyfriend. He said he was shy and didn't want people to know he had a girlfriend. No, the truth was he was playing the field and he was telling all the girls that. The second time I was much older. But again, he had his excuses, He was not "ready to commit", so he wanted our relationship to be secret. Again, he was doing the same thing. If I wanted to hold his hand in public, he would accuse me of being clingy and demanding. Even though, in private, he wanted me around. THEREFORE, if the person you're with is not proud to be seen with you in public, there is something going on.

[@nancysayad9960]

@@janedoe5229 They just want supply from everyone if possible including their partners ....no love or emotions ever exist in them

[@nancysayad9960]

Supply ..Supply ...Supply ....they cannot exist without supply ...they use social media to get supply ....so they fake as bachelor even if married and have kids

[@HotHot924]

Yesss this is true especially the coming off as single on social media he would always make new social media accounts and wouldn’t post us anymore or wouldn’t show no indication that he was in a relationship with me at all. The funny thing is he would block me from his new social media accounts he made but would only allow me to see the accounts he wanted me to see

[@JackyP15]

Spot on!!!

[@m.pellicier]

Narc ex husband slept quite well. But he went out of his way to do EVERYTHING he could so I didn't sleep at all by PURPOSELY keeping me awake all night on the weekends, for 2-3 days straight. I experienced EXTREME sleep deprivation during my marriage. My brain started to get foggy. A few months after I left him, I learned that sleep deprivation is something narcs do to the victims of their abuse.

[@OkieDokie-ft5pm]

Classic sleep deprivation torture (with plausible deniability of course) that Narcs known for! BTDT

[@7w7-2]

Unfortunately, infidelity tends to go hand in hand with narcissism. Especially, somatic narcissism. Narcissists believe EVERYTHING they need is external, including self-worth, self-esteem, validation, etc. Those things are what make up our inner world and we are supposed to develop and cultivate them within/on our own. Narcissists DEPEND on people to supply those things for them. Because we cannot (nor, are we supposed to) supply every want/need of a partner, narcissists are always on the lookout for "better supply". They will always gravitate toward anyone they feel can meet the needs/wants their spouse isn't (and can't). Narcissists are unstable and they cannot soothe themselves. They cannot meet their own needs and their needs/wants are constantly changing. Narcissists are black holes. They are human abyss' of unmet needs/wants. Even if you gave them everything, they'd still want MORE... All while giving NOTHING in return. Narcissists are also pathologically bored. They do not experience boredom the way normal adults do. They're like children. Once they become bored, they tend to throw their toys (people) in a corner to collect dust. Then, they search for new ones... Untilllll, they realize that their newest toy isn't as fun. Or, it doesn't function as well as the old toy did. Then, they'll go digging in the corner to find that old toy (the reason their relationships tend to be off and on). People are objects meant to keep them occupied and entertained. The newer the toy, the better/more exciting it is. However, EVERYONE will inevitably lose their shine with the narcissist. You must accept their reality and realize that it's NOT ABOUT YOU and it never was. This is also the point when it becomes crucial to sit your ego on the curb. Your ego will want to fight to be seen. Your ego will want to fight to prove you're enough. Your ego will feel it's "worthy" of the narcissist and fight to "keep" them... But, again: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU. Most narcissists are extremely irresponsible. Many of them marry to secure stability. Or, to have someone they can count on to help with bills to free up their resources. It also ensures they'll have somewhere safe to land when they fall - because they always f*** up... Do yourself a favor and pull that rug of security out from under them and save YOURSELF. Narcissists do not have a moral compass. They do not respect the union of marriage. It'll always be a one-sided arrangement with you being the giver that's making their life easier and them being the taker that's making your life harder. We deserve the same love, attention, support and understanding that we give our spouses. You will never get it from someone suffering with NPD. Moreover, if you feel sure that your husband might never cheat on you, you might have to rethink. Most wives in marriages are shocked when they find out their husband cheating, and it happens more with people who never thought they would cheat. This is why you have to take the tiniest suspicion carefully. If your husband is cheating on you, the best and probably the only guaranteed way to catch him is to spy on their phones. However, spying on a phone is not something you can do without any external help unless you have the James bond level of spy skills. In such case you will need an expert phone spyier Metaspyhub@gmail. com for the purpose,,,

[@stayready4017]

Everything thing you wrote is 100% fact. I'm just getting over dealing with narcissist over the past year. Between the video and your comment, the process will go much smoother. Thank you so much.

[@Lil-ie6xw]

you could not have said it better. thanks.

[@KhaleesiKimi]

My ex was definitely number 5. He could fall right a sleep right after he spent the past few hours screaming at me. And using me to regulate his anger. 😢 I’m happy to be free from that burden 🎉

[@susanjones8489]

..and he used me to regulate his anger. This is another huge warning ⚠️ narcs do this regularly.

[@mz.necie1976]

AMEN 🙏🏽

[@aladyinthemeads]

Danish, l’m speechless: everything that you are talking about, not only in this video but in every video of yours (I’ve watched at least 50 of them so far) applies to the man I had been with for 5 years. It’s devastating to me. How on earth I was blind to all these…? Hibernating, sleeping long hours or not sleeping at all with the phone on, spending far too much time in the bathroom, compulsive changing of the passwords, deleting browsing histories, being absent-minded etc. etc. A discard from his side was/is and will be a bliss. What would have happened if I had married him… Thank You, Danish. 🙏🏻

[@alinegomesbatista8160]

As someone who has been there... Im hrre to asure you, its not your failt, dont feel ashamed for what he's done, you had no way to know it and even if you did, its their specialty to mske us doubt ourseles. Just focus on healing and learning even more. You are worthy of love and respect. ❤❤

[@littleRadhamadhav]

Lucky u...stay away and no looking back

[@aladyinthemeads]

@@alinegomesbatista8160 Thank You so, so much for your kind words and support! It means a world to me. All the best to You in the new year! May it be peaceful for all of us. ❤️❤️❤️

[@aladyinthemeads]

@@littleRadhamadhav You’re right - thank You sooo much!

[@ti5197]

I felt the same way. For six years I slowly and progressively started to question my own sanity. It is NOT your fault, and you were not blind. You loved this person, and this person betrayed you, and guilted you for having any suspicion. Your love and trust were weaponized against you. So no, you weren't blind, you were being deliberately wounded so that you could not focus on the what and why. It's as if they were throwing sand in your eyes, and then manipulating you into believing you drew first blood, (by having valid concerns), and that you deserved it due to your lack of trust.

[@aishasidiyaro6276]

Exactly, Danish, he automatically falls asleep after an argument. He blocks me out. I am glad I finally had the strength to leave before I become completely insane.

[@mvoyage7282]

Samee! They don't fall asleep they just pretend to sleep.

[@lafemmepetunia]

Sadly, yes sir, everyone of these happened to me. It is pure evil. People do yourselves a favor and run far away if this is happening to you. Don't let the trauma and damage continue. Set yourselves free and love on yourselves first. Peace and blessings for your escape and freedom. You can do it! Nothing and NO ONE is worth losing your peace ! 🙏

[@zest4organic]

Oh my heavens! I never heard any of this before and after a good 14 years having escaped my very evil, criminal, dangerous narcisstic ex-husband, this brought it all back. He did all of this and more. I remember lying in bed next to him with a stanley knife under my pillow, in a (in hindsight) very, very sad attempt to be able to protect myself, in case he tried to kill me in my sleep. I kept catching him and calling him out, never submitted to the bullying or crazy making and he hated me more and more. Eventually I saved all our lives by managing to trick him into leaving and thinking I would stalk him, but it was absolutely horrific and I had PTSD for 2 years afterwards, did not tell ANYONE, including my adult children for well over a year, until I was sure he was really gone and had moved on to another poor victim. It took 10 years to repair our family emotionally and 14 years later, although I feel completely healed, I still live alone, quite happily, but have never even dated another person. On the positive side, I can identify a preditor at 100 paces now and either run or make them lose interest in my very, very quickly. Thank you for this video - it was incredible.

[@dennishoyt2348]

The only hate that should be - is the hate that one feels to see a poor tortured soul...

[@roshanramnarain2540]

Recovering from an arranged marriage, with a narcissist. Sadly his extended family which we lived with was a mixture of narcissist, manipulators and enablers. I just thank God for the ability to deal with all of it. Thank you 🙏, and stay divinely blessed always 🙌

[@Superlife1369]

Yeah, I was cheated on by a “sleeper” whose back hurt all the time. I was taken all the way back when I found out because I was always around and I hardly slept so I have no idea when the time was found to cheat on me but alas, it was found and was going on for months. I was suspicious once and so I asked, I was told “how can you even think that? My back hurts and I can barely have sex with you so I can’t be having sex with someone else!” Oh yeah, at that time I was barely getting laid once a month! Crazy! I’m celibate now because I don’t wish to endure that type of torture again! (I’m not even telling you a fraction of what I went through…)

[@elkebanhart7045]

My x covert narc (when he visited me and wanted to sleep in his own bedroom)... At 1 I've heared his phone ringing while he seemed to be asleep in the guest room. I said "hello, your Phone has been ringing. It might be urgent." Then I was sad and shocked and went to the bathroom and took a big swallow of cold water. He stood there and said:" It was just the accue weather." I was so shocked about his stupid excuse, went back to my room and was crying (silently) until morning. Btw, he's got 10 social media messages per minute during the day... Cruel, disrespectful, when his visits were seldom and only a long weekend.

[@saraliburd7752]

Yep -the nex always complained his back hurt-such bs

[@ti5197]

I'm so sorry. It is truly horrible, and all of the things that go untold are unfathomable to most.

[@earthrooster1969]

Oh! The beauty of life after choosing to go celibate...SO uncomplicated 😀👍

[@sunnyadams5842]

@@lorireed8046 oMG can I relate!! I know it's not funny, but ya know, if we don,c,t laugh we'll cry for the rest of our lives- your tales cracked me up!! I have so many similar ones. Mine loved to disappear in the middle of social functions. Invariably I'd find him asleep (?) in the bathtub if there was one to be had where we were. I knew he drank a ton more than it appeared, and I'd chock the bathtub thing up as passing out, but that was a crap-fit excuses and I knew it. Exactly how damned drunk do you have a to be to get into the tub in the first place?!!! Pretty dang lit, I'd say. But he never stumbled or slurred. His behavior just got more and more bizarre. Idk- there were tons more of the sexy cheating crazy shit type incidents but The Bathtub thing always sticks out for me... One thing about being with a Narc- it's never boring!

[@brendacarey5207]

So true all of it. So hurtful to talk about divorce and he just rolls over and snores like 20 years and our family was nothing

[@chrisycar298]

They have No conscience, pretty much inhuman. And very cruel. I also have 21 years invested in a marriage with Narcissist

[@nadine1339]

@@lorireed8046 be strong, me 10 years, I feel you❤️🎈

[@hannahhughes4801]

​@@chrisycar298me too, 30 years, we are seperate now, and he is still cruel, I just hope our sons don't grow up the same as him, he's heartless.

[@fightingfiresusa2961]

Wow. Narcissists are really sick SOB’s. I wish I knew this information earlier in my life, but I’m super grateful for these videos ❤

[@davidcross2341]

I agree. I wish I knew about narcissist earlier.

[@cincyfanjunglecity9871]

I always knew dealing with a narcissist was bad , but I never knew the extent of just how bad and twisted these kind of people really are. The cheating , the killing of feelings and emotions , the mental abuse , the disrespect , and the killing of your self esteem. There’s so many negative things that goes hand and hand with being with a narcissist.

[@brit0309]

Wow- it was truly all bullshit

[@kennethwilliams2738]

I don’t know, but the very fact that I am watching this is troubling enough

[@scorpiolove674]

100% on the always being " tired" from work [ was cheating not working ] and 100% on the hours locked in a bathroom [ but still had bad hygiene]

[@ankhofmotivation]

😂😂😂😂 true

[@MagickandMediums]

Omg my ex was in the bathroom for HOURS! I knew he would be on different forums literally trolling but who knows if he was doing more... I NEVER had access to his phone.

[@shereshamarks4517]

😂😂😂😂

[@Sam-qr4dr]

Yes one of the worse hygiene

[@vict0ree]

Yep

[@charlesbobo2781]

Wow… You are truly excellent on every point. I was married to a extreme narcissist for 24 years. He cheated on my from the beginning. He started disappearing for short intervals of time, and gradually for hours, then full days and later 2 weeks. When he finally appeared he acted like Nothing has happened, while he had cameras set all over the house watching and listening to my normal life. Your point on cell phones are accurate. My ex was high tech guy so he had multiple phones, email accounts, credit cards I had never seen and trips all over the world on my dime and acted as if they were work required. The level of deception was sickening and unbelievable. Thank your for your wisdom which validates my experiences which I thought was unusual but now I know is common behavior for them.

[@sunnyadams5842]

Honey, we are SO all in this together!

[@brit0309]

Me too

[@gogosylvia293]

Danish, I have a lightbulb moment almost every day, watching your videos. I'm finally facing the probability that my ex cheated almost from the beginning. I was so gullible. Saying he didn't show because he fell asleep and didn't hear his phone was a frequent excuse. I believed him every time and let him have his space to deal with his exhaustion, his body aches, his moodiness, etc. During his scorched earth moments (that lasted hours) he would insist I was having sex with multiple partners. In other words, he handed me the truth about himself.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Its all part of the brainwashing, initially I even believed my ex when she'd say she didn't hear her phone or receive my message. Yet when with me she'd hear all her messages. I believe subconsciously we don't want to believe what our eyes can see. In my case I would have never believed my ex could be such a liar until the end when she showed me her true self. I was devastated.

[@gogosylvia293]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns How did she show her true self, and how long was she able to keep up a front? My ex showed me who he was, without question, six weeks in. You are right about the brain and our own eyes having a disconnect. I chose to believe the good parts that he played, and tried to downplay the obvious red flags that defined a very dark character.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@gogosylvia293 hi gogo, its such a long story of extremes, business failure, house loss etc. She showed me quite quickly she had anger issues but I never had any worries about her cheating. Cos of all the financial problems I suppose she was depressed and spent so much time at home. It was only near the end where she started going out, starting to wear nice clothes, becoming evasive about where she was, not answering texts or calls. All the time expecting me to be on call at the drop of a hat. Its all a bit of a haze to be honest. I supported her thru all the negative things but when she started going out again she decided she wanted someone other than me. She was obsessed with money so I think this is what she was looking for. Devastated me.

[@sunnyadams5842]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns mine's a bit hazy, too, truth be told. At first, after I got hip to the shit that had really been going on, I was like a pitbull, determined to unearth every detail of every day of 17 years. I wanted the Truth about my history. I was indignant at having been so intentionally dragged around, then being made a fool of for...believing him?! I felt I had a right to know what had happened, on my watch, that I'd missed. I soon chose never talking to bonehead again over finding out more. Not to mention, when the other shoe dropped and I understood just how much he lied, I knew The Truth never existed in the first place and would not be told now, if he could even remember! It's Nice to know I'm in good company. Thanks for that. 😁 Cheers All

[@sunnyadams5842]

@Dear You YAY,!! I LOVED YOU REPLY!! You're a hot ticket!!

[@nicholealbers1252]

Of course, because then if you question anything you are the bad guy for disrupting their "sleep" and the reason they are "tired" all the time

[@allanoor7107]

Right on point, literally. Thank you for this message, it's exactly what I needed to hear after 2 years being divorced. I was also married for 9 years, I had given birth 12 hours of labor then emergency C-section Dec 2020 (covid times). I'd beg him to sleep in our bed to help me with our newborn, plus, I had to go back to the office for work 2 months post-partum. He was at home physically, he'd sleep on the sofa in the living room. And was never asleep every 2 hours that I had to get up to attend to our baby. I'd literally beg him just to hold our baby while I prepare a milk bottle. He'd look at me in disgust, point at the TV, and say, "Are you blind or something? Can't you see I am busy??" There was this one day where I couldn't sleep because of the extreme exhaustion and anxiety, I started vomiting uncontrollably. He was there next to me and said, "I have these sleeping pills I was given after the previous surgery I had, let me get you one so you can rest a bit and ill keep an eye out on baby." He gave me 2 pills. I had no idea what happened other than a spiral of havoc, unable to breathe, unable to stop the ever growing anxiety. The baby cry and me shaking so badly, I couldn't carry baby out of the crib. I was screaming and crying for help. Went to the living room in utter panic fear state, and he was snoring, Turns out, he had given me some sort of drug for the nerves that actually do the extreme opposite of sleeping. He watched me suffer while making me suffer some more and watched me quiver, suffocate, cry and plead...all while our baby was screaming in the other room. Evil. Run. Never doubt your intuition. I promise, it does get better without them. It does. You get to move on and live. It's all about you from there. Much love and deep appreciation ❤️

[@munchey99508]

That’s absolutely heartbreaking! 💔😭 I’m so sorry that your ex treated you like this after you gave birth. You deserved to be loved and cherished…you still do. Narcissists are evil!

[@hajnalkajuhasz5833]

Horrible...

[@allanoor7107]

@munchey99508 Thank you, you are deserving to feel me as deserving. Thanking you for hearing me. It's a blessing.

[@allanoor7107]

@hajnalkajuhasz5833 Right? Like surely that's a soul that sold itself to the devil. Only to be deceived by his own kind. The prisoner set free, the prison governor imprisoned self. Did you really think you could compete with the ultimate Creator? 🥰

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

Wow what an evil sadistic monster. What if he had killed you with those drugs. Too bad he wasn't charged with attempted murder and child neglect and locked up. I hope you got away from this monster and never have to see him again.

[@leonapietsch4367]

Yes that’s what happened to me. He would sleep in his recliner at night. Said his back hurts and he can sleep better on the recliner. That’s not even the half of all that he did. He had two affairs that I knew about. Could have been more that I didn’t. Told me to F off. There was a lot of emotional abuse at the end when he was discarding me for the new supply. So many red flags during our 42 year marriage. Has no idea until my eyes opened after I left in November 13 2020. Starting watching videos on Narcissism. Filed for divorce and have gone no contact. God is good. I’m free❤

[@gertruidamulder8823]

Hi I left after 34 years. 11 months out now, but the healing is slow. I believed him all through our marriage, was so traumabonded and gaslighted it is hard to comprehend. I am finding damage inside myself that I wonder if it will ever heal.And trying to find who I am through all of that. You are right though. God is good and without Him holding me up I would have been lost

[@PatriciaNowlin-cd6tk]

Isaiah 61 healed me internally & Psalms 32&42& Proverbs 6:1-1🎉6-

[@PatriciaNowlin-cd6tk]

Proverbs 6:1-16

[@Connie-wn4so]

Their old brooms that don't sweep clean. They're not all that after all those years. Probably on drugs.... Viagra 😂

[@muhammadsteinberg]

Excellent!!!...Glad to hear you had the strength to regain yourself after so many years. You are an inspiration to me. 26 yrs now, and I'm in the beginning stages of divorce. Eager for it to be finished.

[@deborahleslie6257]

You nailed my childrens’ father right smack on the head!!! You are so on point!

[@lurlinesmithhylton5290]

Yes all of them happen to me ... cause he sleeps over his mom he is my husband... I av deserning spirit so everytime he cheats I know ... when ask he got really mad but I know the truth hurts

[@lurlinesmithhylton5290]

He even tells me d lady name but I know before he told me ...abomination

[@wai7691]

Yup experienced it all... He's on Tinder now.... So good luck to the women that he comes across and fall for all his narcissistic character. I'm just glad I took out the trash and moved forward... 💯👍

[@carmenscottie2678]

Yes. It happened all the time. Hours in the bathroom. Sleeping on the couch because of "his back problems". Sleeping in a different room and always "sleeping". Multiple trips to the bathroom during the night and then acuse me of being sick in the head and paranoid. Now i just laugh and feel so thankful to God Im no longer in that relationship.

[@roncarlson9341]

You are so accurate. It's amazing how different people, that don't even know each other, but have the same illness, can act exactly the same. Thanks for posting this.

[@soumyaananthanarayanan4366]

All of the above is 100% true. #5 was the first thing I noticed when I first got married. He fell asleep immediately after our first argument and that was humiliating as I wanted to resolve things. He did this repeatedly until I realized he would never change.

[@Tigers_Eye_Lady]

This has definitely happened to me….he used to make out he was tired so I would leave and then he would be on line. He had options I later found out and that’s why he was too tired to be intimate with me! Liars and cheaters

[@TheSassyKlassyChick]

You are so spot on. Thank you for your content. When I explain how I feel like I have PTSD people don’t understand the damage and the mind f*#k that you go through being in this kind of relationship.

[@isidredicus6159]

I was actually diagnosed with PTSD and I went through pretty much all these things mentioned in the video and more. The damage is real.

[@CharmNestedDiaries]

It's definitely a mind fuck at its finest level.

[@althea12573]

Peace and blessings. He leaves in a huff so he can make his calls. And then calls accusing me of being the one to cause a quarrel, that forced him to leave home and then pretend he just want to come home to the woman he loves. It's just surreal

[@ryujin2135]

This video hurt so much to watch. It reminded me of a lot of the shit they did. At one point I was working 10-16 hour shifts to make sure the build were paid. Some nights I wouldn't get out of work until 3 and home at 4 am. But I was the lazy one because I couldn't get up before 10 without help. They cheated on me with another person and it was my fault because I couldn't fulfill their physical and emotional needs. I wasn't there enough or I never gave them enough time. But I needed to keep making more money so I could treat them the way they deserved for me neglecting them. One night they were awake when I got home around 4 and berated me that they didn't get the time they deserved from me and I'm a horrible partner and they didn't even want me in the room that night. Don't let a narcissists get in your head the scars take a long time to heal.

[@heatheranson6629]

This explains so much! Even after I figured out about the narcissistic abuse, I never thought about this going on while he “fell asleep on the couch.” He also works out of town and would instantly pick a fight with me by phone, no doubt so he could cheat in peace. What a horrible monster.

[@purelight8791]

100% true....I have relived every word in the last 20 years

[@MG-hu9pe]

So true about their use of the bathroom for privacy. Hours at a time.

[@nicoleowens2318]

This is so on point, wow. My ex slept in the other room and cheated on me my whole pregnancy. He basically told me that if I were less disgusting and understood him more he wouldn't need to do either of those things. Then he said he was going to get food for me after I had our baby (I couldn't eat all day) and didn't come back til the next night, about 30 hours later. His phone was off the entire time. He said he went home to get something and accidentally fell asleep, his phone died then had to go to work then had to run back home..etc. He knew he had to deploy in 2 days and didn't even try to take paternity leave because he was cheating with a girl on his team. I later learned that he was at a party with them, and her. Later on, he assaulted me on two separate occasions BADLY in front of our daughter and both times he dragged me out unconscious in front of her and closed the door in her face. The first time she was only 1, and he threw her that night. He went straight to bed with her still screaming "mommy" and the cops told me she was still screaming it an hour later when they finally got maintenance to let them in. He physically threw me out of the door and locked it, closed the door on our screaming child, and went to sleep. They said he was sleeping like a baby when they went in, after creating hell on earth for us, then made me feel like sh!t for not taking the abuse better. I thank God for this channel. There are so many weird things that I didn't know we did or suffered because of narcissistic abuse. I just blamed myself for being weak, I had no idea about the level of sophistication there was to their manipulation. I was literally driven insane by someone who did it on purpose. It's so hard to comprehend that people could be so selfish as to think this way. It's literally incomprehensible. I have brain damage and this mofo is just living his life believing I was the whole problem.

[@nottoday7801]

Im sorry you went through that, hope you and your daugther are out of that situation and doing well

[@seachelle7222]

I love that you say "If this isn't evil I don't know what is"..because this is exactly how it is. Evil.

[@dayz4030]

That just gave me horrible flashbacks I wouldn’t want anyone to experience that nightmare ! Thanks to your wonderful videos of red flags individuals will know what to look out for .

[@jrashmirani9123]

Thank u Danish. I too lived 8 years with a narcissistic husband , spent another 10 years for court. If i am knowledgeable about these things i would have broken my engagement only. You are explaining deep issues in very simple and understanding manner ,so that common people too get awareness. God bless you Danish.

[@yakopro49]

I said this before, you give great examples which helps so many of us understand the devilish narcissists

[@mariaschrock5784]

I have listened to so many of your videos, and you have explained in great detail the torturous 15 year marriage that I have now escaped. I have never heard anyone. Describe my situation so perfectly. You understand for sure! Using sleep to escape, was one of his most evil tactics along with many others.

[@jenniferrice1658]

I was in the emergency room, with what turned out was a serious illness that needed immediate surgery. I woke my sleeping husband to get a nurse because I couldn’t breathe. He got up slowly stumbled to the nurse, shouted “hey my wife can’t breathe.” Came back and went back to sleep with his back turned to me. The look on the four people that came running to help, when they saw him snoring away.

[@jessicajackson1201]

Idk why I didn't realize these patterns. I was in a horrible wreck 7 months pregnant with our daughter. He showed up at the hospital for 5 minutes and said he is happy we r ok but he has to leave to go home so he can go to sleep to b able to make it to work the next day. I was like "wtf? Why aren't u taking off?" He said it would b a set back to his constant working and climbing to the top. He had a plan to tackle and couldn't stop. I felt selfish for wanting to ask again to take off bc after all he was doing all this hard work for our the benefit of our family. 20 years, 8 kids, 2 passed away and 6 living. Our 13 year old passed away 3-5-23 may she rest in paradise, it wasn't until then that the snake came out for real, for real. When I needed him the most he horribly tried to destroy me. I'm still in shock. I feel there has been a curse put on my family for real like. Demonic feelings all the time and weird shit happening. We were righteously married under God when all of our children were conceived and born. Same mother and same father of all my babies. Our family was bonded very strongly. Somebody told me that that is a huge threat for the devil and he will stop at nothing until destroyed. I swear that is what I feel is going on. I need help to defeat this. I feel so helpless.

[@shakirajameel8042]

Definitely happened to me, I suffered so much....I used to call him all kinds of things without knowing about narrcissism...it was unbelievable.. He's such a horrible person..omg..so true...he sleeps while I cry and talk all night after working all day and night and never cared or answer any questions..

[@denisj6089]

Yep, can confirm, mine would disconnect calls randomly and then would be gone for hours. Would sleep at the most bizarre hours and then said she had a medical condition that messed up her sleep, then came back, love bombed me and would offer 0 explanation as to what had happened or where she was.

[@saisei5724]

Thank you Danish,i went through this for almost 13 yrs ,it is all about my husband, you are spot on Thank you for giving us light🙏🙏🙏

[@JennyNewby-m6x]

I'm so thrilled I'm not dealing w this crap anymore! Thank God

[@janeanhenley9534]

Every.single.one. Currently tecovering from a 2 yr relationship with a narc. He used every one of these tactics with me. Thank you for bringing the traits of the narcissist to light, because it validates what me and others lived through. May we all continue to find peace and healing during recovery!

[@taramarie4493]

I am in complete and utter awe after listening to your video. It's as if you exactly described in detail what my ex used to say and do! I mean, it was as though you described him and his excuses to a T! Thank you for taking the time to put the information out there! Just knowing that I am not crazy or imagining things is such a relief! I am now 2 years away from Him and I still catch myself thinking of him. The trauma bonds that I've fought against are an ever present reminder of the long-term effects that we suffer at the hands of ones who are genuinely toxic and evil.

[@truffaut650truffaut6]

Exactly

[@SquishyGrayMatter]

Yup. 😢

[@marionrome3850]

Omg my ex would use sleep as excuse to ghost me and be with his new supply

[@wendydaniel1110]

This world desperately needs real "alpha males" who is confident, strong, compassionate and courageous like you Danish. Appreciate all of your videos that speaks truth empowering all who watches them. The "distorted damaged masculine" Narc, only wished they could possess even one admirable quality of the real "alpha male".. Thank-you

[@lilianafodor6833]

This is so true !! They can even take pictures of you while u re asleep and send it to their hidden supply!

[@chriss5212]

Just some stupid shit

[@indigoseti]

The monster they are, and the monster we become are not the same. They build a beast hungry for destroying fake, while they gladly embody it.

[@livialil9957]

So true. I was in LDR for years and at the end, I was feeling weird about his change of sleep patterns, and this all makes sense, even if the story with him is done since months now, i would not be surprised that he actually used his sleep to cheat on me. Thanks for the informative video this is public interest!

[@bizhelpguru]

Just had this happen. Once they said they dropped the phone in the toilet; it is uncanny you said this... These things happened with more than one narc. Glad I'm out but hindsight is definitely reframing and much truer to my reality. You are really delving into what others don't say.

[@sunnyadams5842]

Delving into what others don't,t say!!! That's it!!! Danish, how do you know??!

[@Dee-iu4eg]

I have no words to express how grateful I am for your videos. It is the only time I laugh at every sentence is because you literally nailed it. Everything that you ever say in any of your videos, is telling me volumes of what I have been through in life. It is a like a rude awakening 😢

[@DivineOne-lt3wf]

The last example was spot on. He would always slink off the to the other room and just wait for me to get over it by myself. One time I was completely devastated sobbing over catching him cheating and he was just trying to sleep in the other room and he says “geez you need to calm down I’ve never heard someone cry so much.” Like there’s something wrong with me. Sometimes he’d bring me some tissues and just set them there before walking away. I never really understood that. Thanks for mentioning pornography as well. It’s a form of cheating and I thought it was refreshing to hear you say that it’s something you shouldn’t be doing when in a committed relationship. Like now I know I’m not going crazy thanks!!

[@edgreen8140]

Some don't go to work but meet the new supply.

[@SugaSuga008]

I caught bad anxiety behind my ex because of all his lies. I was in a long distance relationship (never again) and he’ll randomly say he have a headache or he’s tired very early at 6pm at times. Dealing with a narcissist is a full time job especially when trying to catch them in the act.

[@renaewall4477]

My EX would act like a little boy. As soon as he came home from work. "I'm sick! Feel my forehead. Am I running a fever?!" This would happen every day for such a LONG TIME! I got to where I hated seeing him come home. Because I could predict what he would be doing...

[@jaclynkrupa2469]

@@sarah06ish ugh mine would do this too. He'd ask how he looked getting out of the shower and want me to tell him he was handsome...probably so he could feel confident doing his cheating!! He took selfies constantly which made me suspicious...then I found him on a dating app and found out about his cheating with multiple women. Sickening...

[@mateba5647]

I always responded oh mee too iam feeling sick too , Turned around and left him alone

[@DeliaPope]

😢😢Oh, God! Everything you said in this video TO THE LETTER, everything happened to me exactly as you described it and it happened during my last relationship as well as ALL THE OTHER relationships I've been in... 😢Your video activated sad and long-forgotten memories and it hurts just as much now as it did back then 😢 Maybe even more now because back then I had never heard of narcissism and trauma bonding, I wasn't aware of what was actually happening and even though I was feeling hurt by the levels of disrespect, rudeness and calousness received from my partner, I at least had "the escape" of putting these acts in the category of "he cannot be that monstruous and mean and ugly, maybe I'm just interpreting everything wrongly or I'm exagerating the meaning of what he is doing, or I'm just analyizing everything too much, or I'm too sensitive or too selfish or too needy and clingy and posessive and jealous for no reason.... 🙄😏 ... Back then I remember I kept justifying in any and every way possible every act of cruelty or contempt, indifference and deceit... because if I couldn't find some way to justify all that injustice I'd be left with nothing else than to just accept that I was in love and carrying and worrying deeply for a BEAST, a MONSTER, a heartless and souless ugly creature - and THIS THOUGHT was simply impossible to bear! 😢 How ironic that the victim would rather bear the cruelty, indifference and deceit, than bear the thought of nurturing soft and warm feelings for a monstruous creature that couldn't and wouldn't care less about them (the victim) and their feelings. Yes, it hurts much deeper now that I know all these, but inside, there's a little part of me that is celebrating the fact that I had the strength to bear everything I've had to bear in order to come to this point of complete awareness of what I have been dealing with throughout my life and hopefully my last toxic relationship really was the last one of it's kind and now I can actually get to also experience an authenticly loving relationship, based on the same values that never changed for me: respect, trust, confort and safety. Thank you, Danish for your so wonderful work! 🤗🙏

[@pamelaheriges3654]

My daughter was so trained to beg and accept her narcissists love at whatever level he extruded it. She began to voice the idea that his cheating was acceptable as long as he "loved" her. He texted other sources when he thought she was sleeping, he went as far as to refer to my daughter as "what's her face" while texting. She was so well trained she accepted what ever ridiculous explanation he gave her. Thankfully he got tired of her and moved on to a new source.

[@meghasanyal4861]

He used intermittent reinforcement to get her to accept to that level. Finally she could get rid of this evil creature. May God bless her with healing.

[@imaanhussain5198]

I would say you’re the BEST person with the greatest insight into this type of abuse.

[@gailmoran6623]

While I am sorry for those who suffered through this abuse, I do know exactly what it is like. I'm still struggling. Yes, my partner would leave the house while I slept.

[@styledbyhustlerlocs]

Omg!!!! Now that you say this. I think my husband was doing this to me!

[@1711-n2r]

Hoe did you find out.

[@happygoesalwayslucky5966]

Seems like you have done special training of the narcissistic operating system. Whatever you have mentioned happened to me and i will tell u my version tomorrow. Thanks danish for bringing relief to so many peoples for giving them the closure that they needed from the narc. Love and regards from India.

[@orgazmik1967]

Spot on! I was with a narc for over 12 years, had 2 children with her. I found out the truth & wow! Everything you have said in this clip I experienced for 12 years. I left her, best thing I ever did. Thankyou for understanding. 🙏🏻💙

[@itscflow]

Thankyou. This is helping me understand the toxic hole i was in. I have been in constant self reflection trying to fully understand my fault and disgust towards a few people in my life but the truth is i was far far far too tolerant and gave the benefit of the doubt to several narcissist in my life too many times. But this brings light to the situation for what it really was and i feel empowered to free myself. Also i feel the anger coming back because i was treated so unfairly and gaslighted for so long, but i dont want to be angry so im gonna let go of that too, shine like my true self again, and never question myself, and keep boundaries that protect my internal peace because i know i deserve it. I spread love with conscious intention so anyone being hateful does not belong in my life even if its family. I Dont let people play stupid they know they are hurting the people around them.

[@melissanguyen4904]

After I found out about my ex husbands secret life, everything suddenly made sense with the sleep. He would pretend that he couldn’t wake up so that I would leave without him when we had to be at an appt or agreed upon outing, then act like he was super pissed at me for “not waking him up” when I woke him up four times or more. Then he would leave the house because he was pissed at me. He was using that to cheat on me. But at the time I was so confused because he would tell me I needed to help him wake up and be unmovable no matter what I tried and even got his friends to tell me it was my responsibility to help him wake up.

[@MariaS-rv9zb]

I cannot believe how right you are. Omg I thought I was crazy. It’s so clear now. I feel like you saw my life and your commenting on it. How is it possible that you are so on point. I am totally amazed at this video. Everything you said happened to me with my ex narc. I am totally in shock. This is unbelievable.

[@mohammadisteshhad6622]

with so precision he told our story, I am shocked to listen him i believe he was there with me

[@MS-hf4ft]

OMG so much relatable when I was in a long distance relationship 😮

[@ashmitanepal2174]

Its so overwhelming to find so many people going through these things. I felt so confused, overwhelmed and alone. I blamed myself for not being understanding. He would also weaponize the fact that ' i would not let him sleep in peace when he was obviously so tired '. I nearly lost my sanity and i glad that i am recovering now

[@melissagillett8444]

Hits home. Hard. All the ways. I knew it was manipulation but your descriptions are very validating. Thanks for sharing.

[@denisechaoub90]

Your one of the best narc support channels on you tube !!!!👏👏👏👏👏🤗🙏❤️

[@user-bk3xs4gd1v]

In my experience it was either "I was tired and fell asleep or" I was charging my phone" that's usually when I couldn't reach him for 6 hours or longer during the day.

[@01splitpea]

Totally beneficial. You are gifted.

[@1foxylady7]

Wow! The last man I was with did all of these things. The whole time he made me feel like I was the problem. He even went as far as saying “you overthink a lot”. Lesson learned!

[@rupalichopra5495]

Whenever I watch your videos I feel I am not the one who is dealing with toxic people and I am not exceptionally dealing with this category of people. Many people are dealing with this. I love to listen to you and thank you for spreading the knowledge.

[@RaggaStyle89]

So true. He'd do all of the above examples given. One of the last things he had done to me before I escaped was attacking me for the fact that I cried, I sat in a corner of bathroom under the shower and cry silently - that was still too loud for him. He stormed into the bathroom and stood over me for hours, yelling at me for crying. Later I asked, why? Surprisingly I got an answer, which I can believe wasn't even a lie this time. He said that "MY CRY was making HIM FEEL like a BAD PERSON". All the bad things he's done had nothing to do with it, being evil and rotten to the core had nothing to do with it. Just my cry...

[@meowmeow7212]

Yes this is exactly what he used to do. He never answers my calls. The communication happens only when he calls. Whenever I call or text him he is never available. And mostly either his fone is switched off and unreachable when I need him and he gives the same excuses that you said "I was sleeping", "I needed rest", "I was too tired". He has never been available for me in my relationship of 12 years and he was very abusive too. He had driven me totally crazy & I ended up attempting suicide. He was the love of my life. I have gone no contact and now he is pursuing me saying that he loves me. This really confuses me. But I am always very scared of him coz he is always threatening me as well of dire consequences.

[@janedoe5229]

He cannot be "the love of your life" if he will not pick up the phone. Someone who LOVES you will pick up the phone. In reality, he is the "addiction of your life". I am saying this because I was right there too.

[@queenofplantbasedvegan]

Stay no contact. He is not the one for you!!!

[@kimcrochets]

You loved yourself, deeply, and he reflected it back to you and pretended to love you by mirroring your behaviors and emotions back to you. The real him was the one gaslighting, ghosting, ignoring, silencing, isolating, and stifling your needs, wants, and healthy relationships. Pour all of that love back into yourself and dip out and stay out. You can do it. I dipped on my mother and on a looong list of toxics 9 months ago and the wounds are almost closed-up and healed and I feel like a brand new shiny human being. Get some. Go no contact. ❤️☮️❤️ Everyone deserves true love. Only God and yourself can truly, deeply love YOU. Had to find out this harsh truth brutally, you don’t…Listen to Danish and to actual narcs on KZbin daily and you will gain understanding and strength. Peace and hugs…

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Trust your gut, you know you shouldn't be with him, stay strong and free, your life would get worse if you started seeing him again. Good luck.

[@michellejones8320]

@@janedoe5229 Truth.

[@rogueregenerativeagriculture]

Yes this has happened to me. Towards the end of our relationship my ex was staying up later and later when normally they came to bed at a regular time, I felt something was going on. My ex was working a night shift at work and started coming home progressively later and later until I called them at 3 am only to find out they were w/ another man. They played it off like “I was just hanging out w/ a friend at work”. I asked how would you feel if I was out w/ other women at that hour? “oh that would be scandalous..” Double standard cheater! Needless to say that relationship split shortly after that.

[@nicoleowens2318]

My ex would do this all the time, tell me he needed to have close relationships with women and be on the phone with them all hours all night, party all night with and even lock me out of our bedroom to talk to them. I, on the other hand, wasn't allowed to talk to men because I was a "wh0re" and couldn't be trusted. True story. It's amazing what people can make us believe if we're trusting and empathetic people. It's so hard to believe people could be capable of ruining others just to use them as tools.

[@poushalimaitra6323]

Exceptionally brilliant insight in narcissism and so well guided to educate people.

[@tamirobak1717]

I wish I knew all this. 30 years of abuse. Thank you. You’re helping me heal. And yes ALL of these things happened to me. It’s as if you knew my husband.

[@tfSmudge]

It's damning that their easiest form of manipulation involves their phone. In fact my nex had three. One didn't work but was always in her bag, the other a work phone. But her main phone had WhatsApp, her app of choice, constantly pretending to be playing that game when secretly in conversation with whoever. Even in bed I'd turn over and she'd quickly swap screens. If I tried to get her to share the joke she'd scowl at me for asking. The deviousness didn't stop there...

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

She would fall asleep about 9pm but wake about 2am till about 6am then sleep again till lunch time. She always had her phone by her side, unless I was texting or calling, then she'd just say she left it somewhere or simply didn't receive the message. BUT if she text or called me and I didn't answer within 5 mins she'd accuse me of playing games and tell me we were over!! So infuriating so unfair and when it got to this stage we didn't last much longer.

[@Radiant.Disruption]

My husband does a version of this. Falls asleep super early, then is up the majority of the night on his phone, then exhausted the day after and then needs a nap. A grown man who naps on the regular is the epitome of narcissistic behaviors.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@Radiant.Disruption I hope you can free yourself.

[@callmecon7105]

I get oh ur busy texing someone .

[@lauranhill3240]

Superb video! I’ve been out of the relationship for a few months absolute no contact, my ex did all of those things,, feels good to see it clearly now. Thanks for your video

[@MyLifeIsATrueStory]

This is exactly what I’m experiencing RIGHT NOW. So spot on..

[@dkmk2969]

Omg...this video is an eye opener for me....now i know ..why he did this sleeping excuses with me too...thank you sooooo much for your help