7 Weird Behaviours of a Narcissist

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00:00 introduction
01:18 1.What will neighbors think ?
03:10 2.Showing unexpected clinginess
05:22 3.Walking ahead or behind you
07:15 4.Constantly sneaking into your personal belongings
08:59 5.They'll always portray themselves as hero or victim in conversations
10:36 6.They'll intentionally destroy your belongings
12:34 7.Responding to your questions with questions

[@simonpegg1196]

1. Playing dumb when it suits the narc. 2. Putting certain people on a pedestal for no apparent reason. 3. Tarnishing certain people's reputation for no apparent reason. 4. Acting single while being married to one person for decades. 5. Associating with people much younger than the narc. 6. Leaving people out in the cold over and over again, and taking no accountability when put on the spot. 7. Never caring for anyone but themselves, while pretending to philanthropic humanitarians.

[@Jana-zi5ff]

This one hit home, it’s bewildering.

[@jiaraja7686]

No 7 is right

[@jewelsmickey1265]

Nailed it!

[@lindaclark568]

I've seen quite a few of those things, didn't know why - just got sick myself, than I just stayed in another room and they didn't bother with me. I didn't bother with them, then they moved out.

[@redpillbox1882]

No. 7 for sure! Always volunteering for some committee at church so he could look pious and caring, when all the while he was looking for supply, and other people's wives to hit on. You can't make this stuff up.

[@Free2BeRiRi]

It’s strange that I was never physically abused and was never cursed at, all the name calling and financial abuse withholding made me feel like I had been beaten.

[@simonpegg1196]

In certain cases, narcs might start with physical abuse, but quickly stop before the victim develops any bruises, and turn to more sophisticated techniques of abuse, like emotional and financial, which leave no marks behind, and render the victim absolutely helpless. That's way worse than physical abuse, as the victim has nothing to show to prove abuse.

[@Free2BeRiRi]

@@simonpegg1196 right and when you call for any type of assistance, they only offer help for violent situations, so it makes it feel like what you went through wasn’t valid or real.

[@jackiepowell7513]

Open rebuke is better than concealed love- Proverbs

[@MyStoryMyLifeMyJourney]

Yes. When people ask me why I am going through divorce from the narc in my life.. it's tough to answer that question as many don't understand how the mental, emotional abuse or financially making u depend and then handicapping us is also equally a horrendous crime that these narcs put us under.. I feel, an educated narcissist plays very safely, Wil not show any signs of physical abuse as he needs to have a support system and gets validation from society that he is a good man.. my narc husband says.. I never drank alcohol, never hit u.. so what wrong did I do?? And he always tells this to the world..

[@Free2BeRiRi]

Same! He literally said you act I smacked you up every day. Boy Bye! You might as well did! ✌🏽

[@stupensardi2783]

One thing is for sure they do not like to get challenged.😢

[@Skysmeller1]

Ask a narcissist a question that makes them explain why they are accountable and they will always say “ What are you talking about?”

[@simonpegg1196]

I once put narc mother on the spot about something really important, and all she had to say was, "I can now say anything about that, what can anyone do about it?"

[@jackiepowell7513]

Or: " you re overreacting, I d say " you re under emoting"

[@theunknowngamer5477]

My list...That never happened, That is the way things are, That is none of your business.

[@sharicoburn5475]

Clinginess is hoovering. They draw you back to discard you again

[@reb_d1143]

My Narc Father used to do that. When we genuinely needed his help and advice he would not help us at all, get all fidgety and say "I don't know, figure it out yourself" but when we didn't need any help and had figured something out he was always giving us mountains of unwarranted advice. It was so strange and confusing.

[@user-q992]

My father who was a secondary narc ( created by my malignant narc mother) was also cruel to my poor cat to teach me a lesson. He kicked it so viciously once that I couldn't stop crying for hours when I saw it go flying through the air. I thought it was dead! But when when she sneaked into my bedroom at night as usual purring with happiness to see me, I was so relieved. My father went horribly mentally ill in his old age, he had to be placed in a mental hospital for more than a year with no one to visit him ( because of Covid) and finally died alone. Karma!

[@alicethomas6645]

Stealing and hiding my personal things on Christmas day, I had some gifts laying on my bed that needed to be wrapped. I had to make an errand, but after I got home to finish gift wrapping some of the things we're missing and I believe without a doubt that my covert narcissist husband hid them. It's insane how low these BACKWARD WALKING BUZZARD can go. It's a struggle every day. But I have faith and believe that the Almighty Powerful God will help me threw this❤

[@Free2BeRiRi]

Snooping through my things/phone. Taking all 7 name brand purses he bought me and hid them. Took the watches he bought me. Anything to make me miserable. So glad I left, because he was not going to change. I’m now 1000s of miles away and living my best life ❤ My best encouragement would be to get away and don’t allow them to take any more of your life.

[@simonpegg1196]

@@jbrown2908 Actually they do change... for the worse.

[@lindastrehlow295]

Thank you for being out there for all of us!❤❤❤ Actually, I have experienced all you outlined here, and more. I came to the conclusion that any of us that had to experience this, did not deal with a human being. These are empty vessels that carry demonic entities. We experienced hell in its entirety. And it is about time that the so called professionals in the psychiatric industry acknowledge this fact. There is absolutely nothing they can do to fix these people. It is entirely spiritual. Many blessings and much LOVE to all of you who have or are still experiencing this encounter with evil.❤❤❤

[@Jess-yp9fo]

Yup. My Narc mom got 'fixed' Only when God flipped her car over. My young self immediately said 'Karma' after not even really understanding I was going through Narc abuse. turns out I was right!!! It was only after she lost her car, home went to live with my grandma & got kicked out again that her spiritual awakening HIT. She said she screamed 'If you're real God, then show me!' and he/it did. Definitely a spiritual battle

[@aleigha9141]

I 100% agree. I’ve been through and continue to go through these 7 with my mother. I have learned to set firm boundaries finally after 51 years. May God bless you and keep you safe ❤️🙏

[@beautybalance7]

Very true, these are demonic entities disguised as human beings. There is no way to fix them, no amount of therapy will help. The creation or makings of them is intentional. To have a narcissist close is the worse thing that anyone can experience in life.

[@Jess-yp9fo]

A malignant narc is purely Evil. Im sooooooo sorry Danish went through that! I can't even begin to imagine what that was like! The fact that you're even alive, giving back to us by teaching us what narc abuse is, is a phenomenon in itself.

[@Magnificento03]

I blocked that person, the problem is we go to the same uni. And I realized every time I am about to go he does something confusing.

[@helensales2872]

These narc people drive us crazy! 😢

[@N1S4444]

Small thing that really stuck with me was when I left years ago to an abuse shelter hub and his mother went through my things and MIL took a necklace of mine. It wasn’t expensive or anything, but it was just the simple act of going through my things like she was shopping when I had left to live in an abuse shelter. I stupidly mentioned it and of course I was crazy that wasn’t my necklace it was hers.

[@karenlowes7802]

That's just sick!😮

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

SOOOO SORRY YOU went through all this stuff Darnish. We appreciate you very very much, HUGS FROM JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA

[@jackiepowell7513]

Danish I believe

[@user-pv3px4nb2m]

…it’s Danish.

[@ArchivesofGoldAssetsofOld]

Yes, i unfortunately i have to bring things with me that are not replaceable with me everyday when i leave the house

[@ArchivesofGoldAssetsofOld]

Oh yeah I don't know you lose things all the time, from dying my jeans to shrink them or buy washing my new unopened packages with something with color r so now that piece of clothing is no longer the color when I bought it

[@stiffmiester300]

I was kicked out into the street when I was 14 years old. My parents both emotionally absent. It was like living in a haunted house where every conversation was turned against me to make me feel as if I was going crazy. They never respected my personal space. They tried to control what foods I ate. They prohibited watching movies. Things I enjoyed like video games. Even taking walks. They shamed me for everything. They go out shopping EVERYDAY and keep buying useless items. There house is a hoarders house. They still keep stalking me. They lied to cops and courts to lock me in a psyche ward five times I nearly lost my life. Don’t underestimate these demons they are dangerous and know they are bad people. I never can. Grasp why someone wants to cause others financial distress harm. Stealing my belongings making my living environment feel unsafe. Trying to embarrass me as a teenager and young adult in public. They are seriously disturbed.

[@rogerr.8507]

How can they stand each other?? I swear it must be demonic

[@shahp84]

Are you talking about your real parents or step parents?

[@doggymommy6219]

I’ve had many of these experiences as well from the many mentally disordered individuals I’ve dealt with. Your father was so sadistic to do what he did to you and your innocent pets…terrible!

[@pinkposey8134]

#4 happened to me by a woman in her '60s, last year. She decided to sift through my belongings during post surgery caregiving, this includes my car. 14 missing items, gone with the wind. Was staying at a mutual friends house. Perp. planned very well, constantly "helpfully organizing" suitcase, car when mutual friend was at work. Person took me out to eat (I paid), she switched dinner plates when I was away from the table. Know what food I order. All these items missing and I am basically bed bound? Live 150 miles away. Could not wait to be strong enough to leave, missing items piling up. Would reach for something (sunglasses, snow brush, lotion, cash, etc.), simply not there. Thank god I learned. These people I have known for years, scary. 1yr no contact! Have lost nothing else, not one item. If personal items are missing take careful inventory, make sure, create a list immediately. Move on, no reason to ruminate. Thank you Danish, for informing all with such clarity!

[@maryamk2407]

My goodness, what was wrong with your father!? I'm sorry you went through hell. Look at you now, emerged like a diamond. Your voice is reaching millions

[@myshihtzudontstink]

When I was 14 I had a job at a skating rink and bought myself a couple remote controlled cars with the money I earned. I came home from school one day and my mom had thrown them away and not just in the trash where I could get them back out no she drove somewhere and put them in a dumpster or something. I asked her why she did that I bought them with my own money and she told me that she didn’t give me permission to buy them. No wonder I’m the way I am…

[@araxxi27pogo86]

Well that timing was just bizarre. Although I have experienced a LOT of these behaviours from my current partner, one of them actually just occured literally whilst you were mentioning it! He had literally spent the entire day today (as he so frequently does) sending me abusive, insulting, accusatory, downright mean and nasty text messages and audio messages all because yesterday I had said that I wasn't feeling well (which is true) and that I had to clean at my mothers house for her rent inspection (she's unwell and can't do it herself) so I wouldn't be able to see him that afternoon and this has spilt over from beginning then and still going now well over 24 hours later, anyway to cut a long story short he said he wanted to come over suddenly and I replied "But what for? You've spent the whole day being horrible to me and have outright told me you couldn't give a f**k how unwell I feel so why would you even want to see me anyway?" And he answered my question with a counter question. "Have you ever thought that maybe you are just insane and that's why you think you're not well?" *Sigh*

[@fightingfiresusa2961]

Danish, I’m so sorry for what you went thru❤ty for sharing. I know how hard it is❤ My spouse choked and punched my dogs. It’s so hard to talk about, I’ve only told 2 people. I fought for them cause they are my babies, but it is one of the most evil moments of my life. I don’t understand how they think anyone can love them after that?

[@careyshea8605]

I have experienced all you mentioned. My mother was the narcissist and sociopath. Now I have Complex PTSD and 4 TBI’s. Your videos ring true for me. I am considered the scapegoat in the family. I have 3 siblings and I am the oldest and it hurts.

[@stupensardi2783]

Oh Danish I feel so sorry you had such a horrible childhood. You are such a kind soul.

[@cherylberk4593]

All of the above. As you went thru the list I started to get very anxious bcs these are every day "normal""narc behaviors! You listed 7, it could be 27 because of their relentless nature. Now that you have educated us with your own experiences we realize the tsunami of abuse and harm they cause. Unless we go no contact they suck the life out of you. This is an excellent video. I will watch it again and again. Many thanks for sharing.

[@Matldathestrong]

Indeed I believe that no contact is necessary for our mental health otherwise even gray rocking is painful as they throw guilt on us for not being engaged

[@Jess-yp9fo]

@@Matldathestrong Yup! I've been Grey rocking before i even knew what the term meant. So much so it became my identity! But now im gray rocking my grandma's 'Christian' narc self. These people are batsh*t insane and don't have a relationship with the most high AT AWL! They just know OF the most high and think they have a relationship yet do the complete opposite of what the bible teaches. Hilarious and sad

[@racheljones509]

4 - 7 for sure Listening to your parents and abusive father brings me back to my childhood. I have understood for a while that my father is/was a narc growing up. He beat my mother all the time, etc. I noticed I have attracted this type of man as a result. I've been more emotionally, mentally and financially abused rather than physically abused by my husband and ex's - yet it's all the same. Definately good to hear YOUR growth and strength enduring this childhood. My heart is shattered at the thought of my children and the effects all this has brought on them. As I work and safe up to leave, there is always a reason he finds to use the money OR I fall for his insane strategy. Having two children under 4, and 5 children all together, it makes it near impossible to get away. Everytime I start to get a job and work...its the same cycle. God help us. I am so ready to be gone for good and pray never look back. I've learned my value is FAR more than even one day of this! Where there is a will, there IS A WAY!!

[@bigmama2918]

🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@auroralights9291]

All these behaviors make sooo much sense. I used to ask my partner about going to therapy with me because he was showing these toxic behaviors and he would always say that if the therapist was female she would side with me… you being a male and being clear that it doesn’t make a difference if your male or female… these behaviors are toxic… thank you for sharing

[@sandragranger2181]

I would talk about going to a therapist and he would tell me, its not going to turn out the way you think and they are going to think bad about you when they hear my side. He would tell me all the time that I was just like Hitler and even tell me how evil I was, thats why my clothes would disapear, and money...

[@redpillbox1882]

I went through this. My ex narcissist husband would say that he didn't need to go because there was nothing wrong with him, it was ME who had the problem. He said IF he went, it would only be because I had the problem. I wound up going by myself.

[@nopereradicator]

I used to make my narc ex hold my hand when we were out. He’d hold it for maybe 30 seconds before he’d shake it loose and walk ahead of me. Fun times.

[@user-cz6qu8ns5d]

Responding a question with a question

[@tammywallace5611]

I put up with my ex narc on and off for over 40 years. He recently raised a belt over my dog for chasing a rabbit and I screamed to stop him from hitting my sweet innocent best friend. I knew in that moment I was done forever. I never want to see his face again.

[@englishteacher3253]

As I always say no one has as brilliant an understanding of narcissism as you have, here you are, bang on! I remember as a ten-year-shy, weak, child finding myself shedding tears silently, fearing I would lose my father on our way to the bus station when my narcissist dad was walking way ahead of me out of his bloody, fucking arrogance that could have taken my life that day. We had to go to another city that day. Upon catching up to his speed, we finally made it to the bus station, By the time we reached there, I had wiped my tears on the way. His friend looked at me and told him that I had cried on the way maybe due to XYZ reason, I was not interested, but he replied, no. Thank you so much for exposing these monsters to the world who come across as angels. I salute you for this act of bravery! I am one of your fans and admirers from Pakistan. Sending you love!

[@margaretgreason1785]

I'm sorry you had to live like this! My narc ex of 31 years did these things too! They all use the same play book!

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

Thank you like always dear Danish. Sooooo appreciate you. From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA-

[@Matldathestrong]

Omg. You always amazed me with your talks and how relevant they are to my childhood experiences. I remember one occasion of screaming and crying and my father tried to cover my mouth and asking me to stop crying ( he slapped me in front of relatives and cousins) as he was afraid of being judged by others… also walking away, always happened and he never accompanied us in walking. Also about caring when I was far from home, when I got married and left home my parents were becoming superficially caring and catching up with me!

[@Matldathestrong]

I’m so sorry Danish for what you have been through, I can understand your pain but I’m so proud of you for guiding us and lighting our lives by knowledge

[@angelakeely5859]

I'm so sorry 😔 you were put through so much growing up, and that you experienced that with your beloved pet, horrible 😏🚩🏃‍♀️

[@chrisstillings6767]

Exactly!!!!! So spot on!!!!!

[@megpi72]

My father and mother didn’t physically abuse each other or me but I remember my mother saying “what will the neighbours think?” to me different times throughout my childhood when she didn’t like how I looked and dressed because I stood out from people in the small town were we lived.

[@RS-sv5my]

Danish,from my heart,your father was a monster and I'm amazed you rose above your childhood trauma...God has his hand on you...I love your channel,accuracy on the narc is sooo what they are❤👍ps...one more thing they do is have people follow their victims...they all have hell waiting for them....!!!:)🔥

[@theunknowngamer5477]

I could add two behaviors to the list....Eating food and Hygiene. These two experiences, with a narcissist, removes them from being qualified as a Human.

[@_soupdumpling_]

My "father" exibites all these behaviour. the smugness he shows after threatening me and forcing me into being submissive to his mental, emotional, verbal torture. His ignorance to me and all my feeling, his sudden act of love when I go no contact and i swear when I was still a teenager every single day he got mad and yelled at me because I didn't bring him tea as soon as he woke up. Last year he very scarasticly said I was selfish because I didn't make something he wanted to eat........he blames my cats and dogs at every chance he get. The fact that I can relate to video till the end says a lot about the kind of life I am living

[@shelertkitchen2250]

It true what you said .thank you so much

[@amandachilds5290]

OMG...they all are spot on, but the second one makes so much sense now! He would say we had to go away, he needed us, me and kids, to leave him so he could feel what he was supposed to and needed to feel when he was acting manic and wanting to divorce BUT he was also cheating so I thought he was just saying it to not feel guilty sneaking around and feeling scared to get caught and me to get proof or possibly let the mistress realize she was a mistress and he was feeding her a pack of lies. I always suspected that was the real reason BUT now I hear you explain it I think he was actually being honest but so weird he was trying to trigger his own neediness by forcing us to leave so he could stop cheating and get us to come back when he was sad and depressed and ashamed but that was part of the trauma bonding push/pull situation where he would be so needy it would trigger me to drop everything to run to his side like I normally would but he had done it too many times I had become numb and once I knew he was cheating there was no rescuing him and returning for us. He got it forgiven one time, the second was not going to end in a reconciliation without some sort of major diagnosed, set of amends and admissions to those he was conning and post nup agreement, etc...he was never doing those so I knew NC was it...

[@vishalgovindan1073]

Going Through the same even now. My sadistic dad hit me till the age of 22 Sometimes i bled. Now smeared me. Always kept account of what I ate starved me isolated me . Blamed me for everything caused by him . Outside world everyone thinks he's an angel. Sometimes I wished if I had a gun I could end my pain. But the Bible urges me to push on wait till judgement.

[@Jess-yp9fo]

Not to be a bible thumper or anything, but later in 2023 I discovered that God (a higher power) is in fact, real & the manifestation/Law of Attraction/Law of Assumption folks have literally took excerpts from the holy book (The Bible) and applied it (Example: You believe in it, and it shall be yours) or whatever they be saying. It's the same as 'Have Faith,' just different terminologies. I say all that to say, I know it hurts excruciatingly bad right now, but it does & WILL get better the more you learn about narcs, narc abuse and God (Good vs Evil Aka high vibration vs Low vibrational people) You're probably infantilized by your father (As I was by my 'mother') so getting away from that toxic environment isn't 'realistic' for you right now. Hang on to your faith that this will change (cause it will) and believe that with your entire being. See your 'father' for who he is and not what you want him to be. A father is just a 'title.' See him like a stranger on the street. I also advise meditation. Be easy with yourself as a father would a son

[@Jess-yp9fo]

@@jbrown2908 yup!

[@destinyneema9563]

So sorry

[@lizapedersen8435]

You are so spot on, Danish 😢🤗

[@velvetgardenia]

I once asked my spouse, the narcissist, what percentage of things outside of his control did he attribute to his current station in life. He said 95%. So, he took only 5% responsibility for how his life turned out. Of course, because everything that happens to them is "someone else's fault." Pretty shocking to me.

[@KerryM-xi6nh]

Wow, it took me a while to process that. I never even wondered why my Mother walked behind or in front of me, or on the other side of the road. She often prodded or pushed me while criticising my posture. She ate different food from us during the week, saying that she had eaten at work so would “have something light”. It wasn’t fewer calories, just better quality/more expensive. “What will the neighbours think?” and “How can I hold my head up in the village?” were common refrains. I once ran home, excited because I’d been picked for the school’s hockey team. She was furious. She wanted me to play netball because a colleague’s daughter did. Always trying to social climb but not knowing how 🙄 I’m very sorry to hear that your father mistreated your cat so cruelly. Thank you for all of your help in explaining narcissistic behaviour patterns. I hope you realise the positive impact you have on so many survivors lives 😊

[@jennylaas2606]

Mine put my Yorkie in the microwave and laughed..sick f

[@lynneross6411]

I almost started to cry about what happened to your cat by your father.. so very mean..

[@charmaineandrews5435]

So true❤

[@pinkposey8134]

Thank you! This is one of the best topic presentations. Recently, was wondering if ex husband would treat someone else the same way. The answer is yes! This describes so well. Appreciate you. #1. My husband would use, did not fully understand. In the workplace; #5 can sometimes lead to non disclosure agreement (NDA) as described of #6, to keep it quiet.

[@ArchivesofGoldAssetsofOld]

Or throws Away my food

[@summersled5635]

I am so sorry Danish that you too had a father like this. I remember one horrible incident where we were at the cottage and having a wonderful time playing in the water on a 105 degree summer when my father suddenly announced that our friends had go home. Captain Von Trapp had decided that we were going berry picking. He lined us up from smallest to biggest and gave us each buckets and ordered us as if were playing out a scene in the Sound of Music and ordered us to march down the cottage road, singing "The Ants go Marching Two-by-Two. I was not singing. I was angry. And I was the biggest and at the tale end with him behind me, kicking me in the shins.............all so that he could give the illusion of being a happy, compliant, family with a severely twisted father. No one else saw all the terrible things he did to me, as the eldest daughter. But I will always suffer the memories of the horrors he perpetrated against me and others. Thankfully, my mother was a beautiful loving human being who simply got trapped.

[@tijanag7893]

Thanks God and to Yourself and to Your good family members who You became! I pray for my little children, and doing the best what I can for them, to become real good persons. ♥️

[@kellyk7482]

My parents did horrible things to my pets as well… I am so sorry to hear you dad did that to yours. It’s very hard to think about my pet and not cry…

[@LilyFisher4]

Thank you Danish 😊 You have helped me so much. God bless you 🙏🏼

[@sherryannnagassar1824]

Yup that's my husband he does all of them , only God can help him.

[@User-vibes1523]

So true! Thank you so much Danish for your continuous life changing motivations💕

[@khaledbejdough2694]

Thank You Danish, you hit every 🎯

[@flyharvey6666]

Good what you are doing man. Power to you and your mission

[@raavia85]

Yes so true. Whenever I started Any healthy discussion to figureout how can we improve this relationship, he always cross questioned me and said you need to change . You need to behave properly. You are the one who is creating mess in this relationship. I told you many times what I want from you, but you never obey me. You question me and want me to change. I have changed myself alott and there is nothing to change. Can you believe he sort of dumped me long time back, and that was me who was chasing him just for the sake of love and affection. Even when I am independent women , I don't need his money and property at all. I am happy with whatever I have. I am taking care of my old parents, living with them peacefully. But like every other social women I also dreamt of having a supportive male figure as a husband. What was wrong in that. But that monster narcissist broke my all dreams , crushed my all feelings. I cannot trust anyone else now. Just because of these psychos.

[@barryballinger5912]

Brilliant you are spot on with what I am going through ,thank you x

[@irenahabe2855]

Very well put. Spot on. 😊💛💥⚡

[@martinmajewski27]

It's not entirely true that a narcissist cares about their image in front of neighbors (as a family, as whole). My father used to physically attack me just because I looked at him the wrong way. I didn't understand it back then, but despite my father only completing elementary school and me holding an academic title as a researcher, he loved to humiliate me in front of our neighbors. For example, I was fixing a car, needed to check the battery, and required a replacement. A neighbor came over with a battery to help me, and when my father saw that, he started mocking me strangely, belittling both me and my abilities (My father approached only because he wanted to humiliate me in front of the neighbor, fully aware that the neighbor respected me.) . I didn't grasp this earlier without a deeper understanding of narcissism, but I'm almost certain now that they enjoy projecting - I think he was projecting his fears onto me, assuming that I cared about what the neighbor thought of me. This is a somewhat convoluted tactic of a narcissist because by belittling me in front of the neighbor, he diminishes the value of the family in the neighbor's eyes. Unfortunately, delving too deeply into the psyche of a narcissist is challenging because it is very convoluted and destructive. Everything a narcissist does ultimately leads to their own destruction. In reality, a narcissist only cares about themselves. They prioritize their own image, often at the expense of those close to them. In reality, they are life's fools because mentally, they are literally four-year-olds.

[@kuibeiguahua]

One time I shrieked so hard it stopped my father after he had unlocked the door That stopped him straight and now I know it’s because he knew the neighbours could hear

[@777pickupman]

Your videos have turned my life around. Thank you!

[@pattyh1039]

Thank you for your Chanel. It has been very supportive .

[@namitasubhash632]

You are so right about walking not with you. Bull's eye

[@oceanwater2wave]

Omgggg the neighbours!!!! Sooo true!

[@user-xv4gu9km4s]

I've seen all of those behaviors, thank you for sharing.

[@user-kj2be5vi9v]

Your a very honest and humble to show your past hurt you thank you for your videos truly❤

[@sandradorsey5001]

Very good 😊👍 video and right to the point.

[@jackiepowell7513]

Well done

[@NHPhamousPolo]

Not the door Danish😂😂😂 this is so funny, but so true…..they will blame anything

[@annaclaire9927]

Thank you for opening up about your childhood. I'm still trying to come to terms with mine.

[@ms.texassoldier7203]

Oh my gosh you were so right on every single one and it just brings everything all together and it reminds me that this man that I’m married to is still doing all these things the clinging he does this when he goes to work like all of a sudden he’s nice when he’s at work but when he comes home he’s a different person and I ask him hey: What happened to the man that I was talking to this morning?the other when they walk behind you I know that I’ve said hi to people just because I’m friendly and he’ll say oh you’re just flirting with those men or that man and I’m not flirting I’m just being kind and friendly. And then the mean things they do he’s let out my pets when it’s raining and he knows that they can get sick because they’re old and he does it anyway and he says oh I’m sorry I was just trying to help you’re so right on all of these points Amazing!!

[@cynthiabrown5981]

Exactly! My husband refuses to eat my cooking for no aparrent reason, but to say No to me😂

[@keithe2150]

I love the answering our question with a question. I have tried to do this with friends, and it is extremely difficult to do it for more than a couple seconds but when you’re dealing with the train person who knows how to do this because that’s the way they live their life it’s just constant questions never any answers. I actually laughed out loud. When you said this, I did not know this was part of the whole thing, but thank you so much. Take care. Did you like my question :-) just kidding.

[@helensales2872]

omg I’m so sorry about your cat! 😢

[@sophiamcleod1841]

On point

[@navneetakumar1814]

Dear Danish thanks for help and I found all 7

[@karenzilverberg4699]

100-percent correct.

[@farmeenjafar4929]

The bitter fact that it's totally relatable 😭💔

[@lonelyplanet2021]

I so feel for you....❤

[@raavia85]

My experience is quite opposite. Whenever we had arguments , he use to shout and cry alott to show his neighbors that I am beating him and he is victim. To proove I am monster. I still remember He stood in middle of the street and kneeled down like a dog and starting barking like a dog and started shouting and was saying "i know you want me to behave like a loyal dog".so that neighbors can listen everything . I was shook to me core that time , when I saw his facade and his Melodrama. I still don't understand From where it came and why he did that it was not needed at all. He blames me for every bad thing in his life. Even when I helped him alott in many serious and tough situation. Everyone calls him.psycho and stupid , no one likes him at all. Only I was trying to be beside him . But he disrespected me Every moment.

[@vickit3124]

All so true ….. little things like walking ahead, breaking my things …. I never understood those until now 🙏

[@beautybalance7]

Or misplacing or throwing your things away even if you constantly ask them not to, just to get under your skin.

[@malcolmwaddilove1822]

Regaining control,yes !

[@caragare3214]

Yes

[@Neuro_Spicy887]

Hi Danish. Please consider making a video on how the use of objects allows the narcissist to establish a symbolic form of control over their victims. By associating a specific object with themselves, they create a constant reminder that they are still present in the victims' lives, even when physically absent.

[@redpillbox1882]

All of it resonates of course, but right off the bat, counter questioning rings a bell. I can just hear the condescending voice saying "well what do YOU think? You tell me." and then the psychological games begin. Walking ahead of the family and especially the wife, so it looks like you are single. Anything so he could look single at any given time. My mother does the fake tearful "I miss you so much!! I miss spending time with you", even though when you spend time with her the entire thing is about her quest for new shiny things that she doesn't need or picking fights about anything, taking the devil's advocate position on any topic.

[@yvonnepaquin3606]

Spot on! ❤✝️

[@ladyloungealot5119]

I took my mother on a shopping spree. I didn't expect her to appreciate all the clothes I bought her (she didn't). I invited her to a café and showed her the menu. Mum, what would you like? Oh, I don't know, what does one have here? Anything from this menu! Just tell me what you want. Oh, I don't know, you decide! After some more of this dilly dallying I had enough, and decided, since she didn't know what she wanted, we left. I was fed up.

[@teresitaekim2565]

No way I will not accept beating. That would be the last day of the relationship. He can't control my finances. I worked for my money and I manage it. I don't ask anything from him. He's actually jealous of my success. He tried to put me down but he failed. I don't stoop to a coward.

[@user-er8uk2lh7x]

First viewer first like sir thank you

[@b8akaratn]

Mom told me I had to get rid of a security blanket as a grade schooler. Can't be sure if it was her idea to torment me, or if maybe she was satisfying something in her own dad, as this did happen at his house, and it was only with the help of his dog did i manage to shred Blanky. Would NOT be the first time I'd be asked by one thing I loved to destroy something else I loved, all while having me make another third thing I loved be complicit IN its destruction. ...i think i really get where you are coming from. Every1. 😢 (Edit: i still love dogs, & F those 2 ppl for their sicknesses perpetuated.)

[@MrReggie184]

All of the behaviors you mentioned

[@user-jj8zi6hp6g]

Everything was right on. Very enlightening. What to do?

[@jenniferwilder3227]

I've been through all of them, my husband has now passed and for the last year I have been trying to regain my mental stability

[@gaurs230]

i have had one friend who has called me controlling

[@Nevertoolate949]

1. He'd sometimes shout abuses at our baby in the middle of the night if she cried out loud and it woke him up, which in turn would get me traumatized and I'd end up threatening to leaver her to sleep alone just to shut him up. 2. He doesn't just walk ahead, he does these funny insulting things like letting go of doors at the right moment so that the door would hit my face. 2. He broke 6 of my phones and said "you made me angry that's why i lost control" or "i hate your phone because you play games on it and i want you do something productive" or "you were about to call a cab home and i don't want you to leave". 3. He'd buy me a new phone the next day and say "i always fix what i break. That's the difference between me and others and you want to remember that." Once he bought me this really expensive phone and he ended up breaking it too, he blamed me saying that i make his money go into drain by triggering him into such rage. 4. He pushed me and kicked me while i was pregnant, didn't even apologize for it because, hey, he was just drunk and it wasn't him, it was the alcohol that did it. Sadly, I'm still with this guy because i can't get out of his quicksand like grip. But now that i have awakened to the truth, I'm making my way out of here bit by bit. Looking at the bright side, his dismissive behavior and insults, etc have made me strong, I am learning to make stronger boundaries. It's like they dig their own grave.