Narcissist Knew You're a Good Person Right from the beginning

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00:00 introduction
00:33 How a narcissist knew from beginning that you are a good person
00:56 clip reaction
01:53 Clip discussion
03:48 They put effort into you changing your view of yourself
04:42 They scanned you for your good qualities in the beginning
05:35 Why are they cursed one ?
06:29 There is nothing wrong with you
07:16 They PROJECT bad things on you
07:58 The conclusion

[@narcabusecoach]

Book a session with me: linktr.ee/narcabusecoach

[@LoveAlways333]

How do I get in contact with you to setup a session?

[@gigantopithecushominoidea8779]

They are torturing you for free, they are assholes and believe it or not, their brain doesn't process reality the same way.

[@lilyflower6511]

At the end of my marriage, I cried to my husband and asked him why, why is he soo cruel to the kids and I? He said do u really wanna know and I said yes! He said because you make me soo fn sick to my stomach, your soo fn genuine. You give everyone the benefit of the doubt, you are always happy and find the positive in everything. I cant fn stand you, my family cant stand you. And those fn kids are just like u!! They are our kids btw and im glad they are genuine and maybe naive at times like me, verses being a crappy person! Stay Blessed!

[@wendyhannan2454]

They are purely hateful spiteful people, the more I was down and out of action, the happier he was. Thanks to Danish, for making people aware of these narcissistic evil people. I relate so much to what he has to say.

[@winterrose9070]

Wow! Amazing he told the truth! Mine constantly lies! I still want to be that loving, forgiving, caring, etc…person, but I need a lot more discernment about people. They are truly wolves in sheep’s clothing! I will not be destroyed!!!!

[@minajeetjemineetje3002]

what the hell...

[@godschildyes]

Oh this is so very accurate! Everything you're saying resonates with me 100%! When I was married to my ex-husband, I knew that he knew I was a good person and that he was taking his own self hatred out on me! I just could totally tell! I could only take so much of that! He thought that getting me pregnant would keep me. NOPE! After only a little over a year and 3 months of marriage, I took the new born baby and escaped! Never looked back and that was 18 years ago!

[@happyhealthyblessed]

Good for you!! Good for you!! 😊❤️

[@Kathi833]

Dear ❤ i have a question of you some of my members of familiy make a missuded on me since i am 16 years Till ca 30 years is going the members missuded me by the way of missued that i am in soul bond missuded thin very Bad things happened in my life and thid members do not let me hand out it happened Bad Thing that i am in alot of pains in me dear Mr danish and very in Trauma AT all i since then i can Not drive a car or are free of all i need help of this misuded Thing of them in me they want bond me to missued me what is to Do

[@Kathi833]

This members is so Bad dear danish i can Not explain you how

[@godschildyes]

@@happyhealthyblessed Thank you so much! 🙏💜😊

[@godschildyes]

@@Kathi833 If you have any true friends, it would really help if you reach out to them and tell them about everything your family has done to you. Also, maybe you might have some friends who can help you? You could also find a counselor or a very wise person to talk to about it your pain. It sounds like your family is very unhealthy. I understand because I was raised in a very unhealthy abusive family also. I have No Contact with them and it has been over 25 years. My life is much better without them in it. I feel like your family does not deserve you and it might really help if you would pull away from them. So sorry for all that you have been going through. My heart breaks for you sweetheart. 😢 I'm praying for you to get all the help you need. 🙏💜

[@luminyam6145]

Yes!!! This is so important. The narcissist knows you are a person of value otherwise they would not be bothered with you. Victims have been so beaten down, they don't realize just how valuable they are. You simply cannot make enough videos hammering this point home. This is an important video and I wish everyone who has been a victim of narcissistic abuse could view it and take it to heart. Keep this up Danish, we need to make victims feel better about themselves, they are really persons of HIGH value. Thank you so much Danish.💖

[@luminyam6145]

@@caroleminke6116 Believe it, they would not have anything to do with you if you were not a person of value. That's the way they roll, they are empty inside.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

have you ever wondered if the chicken came before the egg? well, I believe in past lives aka "reincarnation" and I believe we attracted narcs and people who criticized us and "beat us down" because we felt on some level that we deserved this or that we were unworthy. we are then attracted to where we left off learning, so we attract the family or parents that will best present us with the opportunity to continue to evolve. I know it may seem "heartless" but in reality, there are spiritual laws in the Universe that God put into place and one is, "what we put out, we get back", so even if we are unconscious of the fact, if we "hate ourselves" or feel that we "are unworthy" or we "feel guilty" - we attract the mirroring of our thoughts back to us. we literally "resonate", we are "energy beings" and we never die, we just get to continue our lessons here on Earth until we become purified or "enlightened" and can become "One with God" again. Edgar Cayce taught about the effects of our actions and thoughts in his thousands of "readings" he gave to Americans (and others, no doubt) during his lifetime. He was called, "The Sleeping Prophet". helps to understand why we go thru the things we do and it proves over and over that God is merciful and gives us many chances to redeem ourselves. God bless us. if you understand, you know this already.

[@luminyam6145]

@@JustMe-uu3bh The egg came first. I only do science.

[@mtc-j9i]

❤🙏🏽

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

true religion is proven by science - there are proven steps........the western hemisphere has not caught up yet spiritually but it will. meditation opens the door........to God within and it is provable. I know for a fact. God bless you, stay open to the Truth. @@luminyam6145

[@monaj33]

You were the light that attracted their darkness ✨..now you learned wisdom and they learned they will never be the light 🕯 💡 😊

[@summacumsoap8983]

A good one! May I borrow it!! Short & sweet, so easy to remember 😊

[@Yash0030]

My narc ex tells me how terrible I am every chance he gets. I’m the one who is a liar and a fake. He’s the one who lies everyday and cheated. A deadbeat yet tells me he’s sorry for our son to have a mother like me. He don’t even buy milk for his son.

[@mollienight]

So true and resonates with my experiences over the years. I have attracted bad people over the years. I have only ever wanted to help people, but this is what narcs/sociopaths/psychopaths are searching for. There's a quote - “The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool.” ― Stephen King.

[@HuHWhat-yi8cp]

@Mollie. Yes & what an ugly world the narc seems to want everyone to live in.

[@user-wv6ke2iq6z]

Me too lately in my life only have bad people,😭😫

[@danmurray1143]

"I have only ever wanted to help people," says the woman who keeps attracting narcissists to herself 😆 That will teach you! If you want to start repelling narcissists, time to start acting more narcissist yourself (i.e. set up boundaries you don't bend on anymore). I was doing the same thing. Flying around with my cape like a super hero saving everyone. Then wondering why I had a long line of narcissists wanting to enter my life 🤔 Gee, I wonder why.

[@user-dy6xc3kt5g]

I have dated 2narcissists in a row now. The first one, was easy to leave. The second not easy to leave at all. I feel the first one was preparing me for the second woman. Divine intervention maybe? I would probably not be alive now.

[@blessycherian7330]

True massage for me they know iam loyal but due jealous they get Angey put blame me all their mistakes.i was becoming sick depressed.i trust in God for ups and downs but they don't faith in God . due to fear they become sick and blame me.loss accident due to over speed.to please others he rejects me

[@theresacrockett8559]

Everything you said is exactly what my sweet mother would tell me when I was in an abusive marriage with a narcissist for 20 years. If I did not have her kindness, love and wisdom I would have never have made it through. He desperately wanted me to marry him. He would say I was the kindest, prettiest etc... He was so wonderful to me. When I married him he became a raging angry monster. I came out of the marriage a former shell of myself. It feels so good to be free.

[@janedoe5229]

Me too.

[@wendyhannan2454]

That’s what they do best, the lower down you become the happier they are. I’m glad your mother supported you. My mother knew I was unhappy, but never once offered to help. Bless your wise mother, glad you’re now free. One thing I’ve learnt, I can now spot an narcissist very easily, and believe there’s many out there.

[@DayOneOutOfOne]

Setting boundaries is disrespect, being scared is disrespect, talking to my family is disrespect and friends. Also crying is disrespect.

[@LadyVonRad]

Mine was *obsessed* with disrespect too!! It was so weird and almost comical. Nobody who deserves respect even talks about it. I completely understand your frustration.

[@2_blAck]

I would laugh at him, that’s my nervous reaction to confrontation🤦🏽‍♀️😂 That would piss him off so bad, because laughing is disrespectful😂😂😂🤣

[@karenlynch8348]

Yup I understand. Hugs 🤗

[@healing-mq4ml]

I saw a saying that said. Get out of your head and back on your feet. Remember who the heck you are. I agree. Hope all here can do that.hugs

[@etaokha4164]

I have what my ex will never have. EMPATHY

[@emmarae4322]

They wouldn’t screw with a bad person, there is nothing to tear down which gives them enjoyment.

[@carparthero]

great truth bomb of a video by danish. the bigger a loser of a narcissist they are, the harder they will attack you. because if they had something good going for them, they would have no need to bring you down. and they were quite aware of your potential from the get-go, even if you weren't. they were hoping that you would never see your own potential to do and be your best. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[@HuHWhat-yi8cp]

💯

[@carparthero]

@@HuHWhat-yi8cp thanks. -all the best, steven

[@Dawnsnitzart]

I noticed that everything he would accuse me of he was really talking about himself.

[@2_blAck]

Yes😂 He would accuse me of sleeping with my coworkers🤢🤮🤢🤮 That’s disgusting, that was him

[@clintonnagy1662]

Same for me. She would project her insecurities onto me. I knew I wasn't those things but after months of hearing it, I believed it.

[@davidhynd4435]

I have recently (three weeks ago) separated from my wife of almost 32 years. For most of our time together I thought that I was the reason that she kept treating me so poorly. Most of the time I would just absorb the hurtful things she would do and say because I really hate conflict. If I did speak up about those hurtful things, she would often just deny it. Or she would find some way of making it my fault, or she would tell me that she was doing it FOR me. "You're too sensitive. That's why I have to shut you down when you talk about your emotions." About 18 months ago I stumbled across an online article about covert NPD. It was like a huge weight lifted off me. She ticked every box and suddenly all the weird garbage made sense (it still doesn't, but you know what I mean). Looking back I can see that I've exhibited behaviours during our time together that aren't normal for me or are exaggerations of the faults that I can identify in myself. I've even apologised to my children, because I can see that I wasn't even as good a dad to them as I should or could have been. NPD is such an horrible disorder. It destroys lives and makes people miserable. Thankfully, I have five adult children who witnessed their mother's behaviours and, now that I'm able to talk to them about it all they've been able to say, "No dad, it wasn't you and we could see that mum was doing these things to you." Thank you for these videos. They're very helpful.

[@nocternbemsi5619]

NPD is not a "disorder", it is a character trait. NP is the right term

[@helenmcdonnell2585]

It's spiritual, they demonically possessed

[@owennugent1893]

You have described my exact situation of 23 yrs of marriage with my ex wife . All of these videos are helping me to finally get closure. I have been divorced for almost 15 yrs . This is all finally beginning to make sense to me .

[@noormohamed2991]

Yes it's such a horrible disorder! You can't prove, difficult to diagnose and causes so much destruction in the process 😢

[@Jen-nc7fg]

Congrats on getting away! I can't imagine 32 years of this stuff. I suffered through 7 and didn't think I was going to survive that relationship, and luckily, I have no kids with that fool. My mother is also awful to my father. I don't think she has NPD, but she has similar. My sisters and I tell my dad that he's great, and the problem is her. I hope that helps him. He has been married to her for 49 years. He was going to divorce her years ago, but he changed his mind and told me he couldn't do it because he didn't think she'd be able to make it on her own. That's very true, but I wish he had escaped and let the cards fall where they may. After all, for all his sacrifices, all he hears is how stupid he is, etc., from her. Best of luck to you on your healing journey! It takes time, apparently a lot of it. I've been recovering for 18 months already and have no desire to date and don't think I can trust anyone now.

[@Garycooperthestrongsilenttype]

I know they do because mine told me, she literally told me after everything was said and done that she knows I am a good guy, make it make sense, there is absolutely no way to logically explain their behavior. Just leave and never turn back. It will never get better. It’s the illusion of hope that keeps you stuck.

[@Garycooperthestrongsilenttype]

@@jbrown2908 In the case of malignant narcissists it definitely is

[@bbjoyce-je1vx]

Thank You so much Danish ❤ You expressed clearly what has happened to me at the hands of my narcissistic mother & my narcissistic sister. I was a different person than I am today. I was happy, caring, & loving. My mom & sister bullied & belittled me daily. I married to escape them. Turned out my husband was also abusive. When he died, my mom & sister returned and took up the abuse again. I was so beaten down by them, I no longer knew who I was. They kept telling me I am a bad person. I couldn't understand the new labels they placed upon me & why. I was told I was selfish, a liar & hateful. I knew that is not true. They beat me down, then they began acting like the " me" I used to be before the abuse began. They are still promoting themselves as the " old" me. Your video is Amazing and very inspiring. I am taking my identity back!!! I KNOW I am not the horrible person these 2 evil ppl tell everyone that I am. Thank You ❤

[@happyhealthyblessed]

No contact is the best way to deal with them two.

[@bbjoyce-je1vx]

Thank You, I'm glad I finally went no contact. It will take some time to get through the emotional & psychological abuse. They denied it and it makes you scratch your head. You know they abused you & they know it too.

[@summacumsoap8983]

​@@bbjoyce-je1vxYou are a strong, fabulous woman. Stay the course. My sister has ramped up the narrative since mother is gone. Claims I "bought into all the psycho babble out there". She's out of weapons since I'm thousands of miles away and haven't engaged for long time. Expect she'll try soon over holidays, but - I'm ready 😊

[@bronwynsimons7028]

This is so hard to accept and believe One can actually feel sorry for them for being so broken But on the flip side hate them for breaking and destroying us😢 Such a sad sad psychotic story

[@jacquelinemarie1078]

This is really, so true.

[@janedoe5229]

I don't feel sorry for them. They knowingly take a happy, giving person, and use all their energy to destroy them, and then blame them, and then look for someone else. I want to make everyone around me happy. They want to make everyone around them miserable. No pity from me.

[@richellepeace4457]

You have one of the Best perspectives of these demons....They were knit for a purpose....

[@drewhunkins7192]

There's good news and bad news when dealing with a narcissist in your life. The good news: it's pretty easy to deal with them, simply disassociate from the savages. The bad news: more often than not, it's not easy to disassociate from the narcissist bc they're inextricably linked to your life via family or employment.

[@wisegentle7859]

100 % Accurate. This is one of my most liberating topics you speak on concerning Narcissistic abuse/deception...it hits the core of my relationships with narcissistic personalities. I always wanted to believe somehow these certain individuals had goodness in themselves....futile, I can now accept and let them go. Shine the LIght into the darkness.

[@wingsly]

me too, but they only fake goodness to manipulate for supply or to execute malicious behavior from an unsuspecting target.

[@Keith_Mikell]

How do you get to the point of not believing. I understand cognitive empathy vs real emotional empathy. Something in my head keeps telling me that for some reason I can make an impact. I need that gone.

[@vijayarao4809]

This is like you are being prisoned lifetime for your innocence.. Danish, thanks a ton for the awareness you are creating, otherwise many like me, would fall into the guilt trap.

[@victoriam9319]

You have just described the -father' and the 'sister' of the narcissistic family system where I grew up. They both seek to destroy me. They are evil, horrible. Thank you, Danish.

[@lauraantic1384]

I was reading that they were abused as children ,and then i know many of them who were abused are good people today they choose good

[@janedoe5229]

Now that I am can spot their sneaky way, I have noticed that the narcissists I know who are married, their spouse is the sweetest, kindest person in the world. They picked that spouse because they know a regular person would never put up with their crap.

[@truthiseverything9511]

I want to upvote a thousand times!

[@SamanthaWho]

My mother patiently waited fo it to seem that I was down to try and kick me. All this after I supplied her financially for years. She tried to crush my self esteem. We no longer speak and I maintain no contact.

[@summacumsoap8983]

Sorry Sam. I know about this. Stay strong --and Stay Away ❤

[@SamanthaWho]

@@summacumsoap8983 Thank you 😊

[@1stBorn538]

Yeah I know they know, I just needed to remind myself so I can stop putting up with their foolishness

[@SuperGingerBickies]

All this is true, Danish. I wish I knew this years ago.

[@annajaworska3627]

It is rather about feeling it. I am sure you do

[@tigertail1056]

He knew I was a good person & he told me: You're not going to like me when you get to know me!!"

[@thandekaskosana7143]

I 'am a new subscribe from South Africa, "The healing has began" I 'm finding myself at age 51 I 'm reinventing my self every day you are very good

[@fainitesbarley2245]

Good luck. Try Sam Vaknin, Joe House too

[@kalena26]

This is one of your best videos yet. Thank you Danish. In the end my ex narc had ME believing that I was actually the narc and he was the victim. So twisted. It's been a few months now and I am finally beginning to heal and get to know myself again. Healing is possible.

[@LexiSanat]

How is this so accurate…. And I still somehow can’t accept it and get over him… it’s driving me crazy

[@teresitaekim2565]

Wow! You're so freaking right, Danish. Every detail that you mentioned happened to me, but it didn't work for him. He's relentless, but I'm resolute to defeat the bastard. My life is full of challenges. Why should I give up now? Too bad for him. I told him he can find another woman to abuse but not me.

[@Lyrielonwind]

The problem with adult scapegoats is that, although we can remember who we were before the final shock, the one that made us run away, is that since the abuse started at birth, we don't know who we are because we were never allowed to be who we can be or as some New Agers would say "what we were meant to be".

[@medirobot96]

My ex narc girl broke up me 1 and half years ago.But, since I am alone, i am getting the past thoughts often.But, your daily video make magic by shifting my more towards reality.❤️

[@bossbabies347]

this was soo on point Danish you answered this question ive had for the longest so beautifully and accurately 👏🏽🙌🏽💯… i remember ly someone told me “btw he hates you” ill never forget those words but if only they knew the truth that he really hates himself and all the things he’d done to me as well as his self in the process… its soo true a person of that evilness will further destroy themselves trying to destroy you.

[@strongmom3711]

Correct 💯 I totally agree my husband was physically disabled he has club foot I loved him soo much that we have one yr old beautiful daughter. Still he destroyed our relation and took divorce forcefully without any maintenance. U r absolutely right 👍

[@cherylberk4593]

This was a great episode. It was also timely for me. One thing dealing with multiple narcs in a lifetime is the loss of trust in yourself. The inability to know who you are or are not. Could you give your opinion on using the Meyers- Briggs Personality Test? Or perhaps another. I took the test (for free online) several times. I am a rare type esp for a woman. After I knew for sure my type I did research, including Jung's archetypes. I found this extremely helpful. Sometimes we are so battered by these narcs we question, forget, or lose sight of who we really are. Actually, I was all the things you describe. Recently I had a bad incident with a "friend" including gaslighting. To my surprise at myself, I spoke calmly, clearly called them out and broke off the fake friendship. My general anxiety plummeted! I have been sleeping much better, more confident once I understood myself. Maybe this and other insights from you on knowing our real selves will help us all heal faster and better. Thank you a million times over for sharing your personal experiences and support in overcoming these monsters.❤️

[@highplainsdrifter699]

Male INFJ. T, ... 54 years old and traumatized by narcs all my life. I have no idea who I am anymore. it's Just me and my dog now 🐕🇬🇧

[@benjaminashlock3682]

Your words are eloquent Dr. Danish. Very profound in the “there is nothing wrong with you” section. Thanks for the positive affirmations

[@nalinidharanipragada1997]

Thanks for the morale boost. This is exactly what I needed in this low moments in life🙏🏼

[@dirtyj1234]

🙏

[@IsabellaPiesch]

Never will I change for anybody. Yes they may try to make you a bad person - but you know exactly that you aren´t. In my case it was 50:50 - because the narcissist also said horrific things to me. (So we sure were equal in this). And I never shut my mouth to unfairness or bad behaviour... I always set boundaries and said no ... But those people always go above boundaries and even don´t accept any no. I can tell you: Better to be single than with such a controlling and manipulating (toxic) person. Thank god I am free again - because lies always have short legs. (And I figured everything out at the end). I will only write this: Other people wouldn´t fall in their trap - mostly naive and kind people do (they know that and use that).

[@audiooddball]

The mirroring part: I've never heard this from anyone yet. They want you to become them, for them, so that they can hate themselves through you. wow, what an insight. It is something Ive been unsure how to put into words for a few decades, and have recently a few months ago figured it out or cracked the code. Thank you for putting that into validity and into words for me. Its all so clear to me now. God bless!

[@sreenathatirunarayanapura9296]

Everyone is little bit narcissistic when it comes for survival. But once they survive then they will become growth oriented and help others to grow.

[@emmarae4322]

This is about NPD, narcissistic personality disorder.

[@Keith_Mikell]

You just described how mine sucked me in. It was almost supernatural. Glad to see you getting subs and growing on here man. We are all in this together.

[@safasafiya1]

Thank you so much brother! Your videos are helping me immensely in my journey of healing the wounds of 12 year marriage with a narcissist . I still need to learn to forgive myself for wasting so many years and precious life time for an illusion of a marriage

[@noormohamed2991]

Consider yourself lucky...some of us have wasted 35 years 😢😮

[@barbaragentry1188]

Shared. I keep sharing hoping my predator gets it. I got it through enough videos.

[@beastie824]

I needed to hear this message today♡ thank you Danish.

[@jacquelinemarie1078]

These videos are so important because we have been told all is our fault. We need to hear that we are the victims, and the narcissist is the offender.

[@lesliekupchanko5001]

Danish I'm so glad that you are getting the attention you get. You have genuinely earned it because you give advice from what you've lived. I'm sorry you got so hurt, but am happy we can all learn from your experience. Have you ever heard the saying: "A snake may stop biting, but a snake will always be a snake"?

[@andilee1512]

i really really have to thank you for the content you make and share with us. i have been able to show myself a kindness i’ve never felt before, like truly grateful for turning out who i am despite growing up with some absolutely heinous and brutally arduous life experiences. i would never have thought of any of my “flaws” in a more forgiving way; and for that i am forever grateful in ways i cannot express fully. thank you

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA Thanks again Danish! GOD Bless, you always always always in Jesus mighty name.

[@warriormom5843]

Thank you Danish. Your wisdom always positively redirects me when I’m slipping into a dark day. You are so appreciated 😇🙏🏼💙

[@jacquelinemarie1078]

Lets try not to have any more dark days. It's easy to say, but we need to be good to ourselves. Hope you days are bright and sunny, don't let anyone bring you down.

[@warriormom5843]

@@jacquelinemarie1078 Amen, Jacqueline! 😇🙏🏼 -Laura 😊

[@sharonjones7138]

Becoming my authentic self, has encouraged me to keep my precious self safe from these people. They are vampires…all they wanna do is suck me dry. Nope!!! They can have no more of me. The rest of me, for the remainder of my life, is for me ❤️🩷.

[@mikaellindqvist5599]

Exactly what my ex did to me. Shes pretty damn good at this satanic practices. She managed to bring me down to her level pretty much to the point that i thought maybe im the narcissist. I know better now but man it was one hell of a ride. If anyone reading this needs advice then get out of your toxic relationship immidiatly i was innit for 10years and probably would have been for longer if wasnt for me getting totally burned out and financially ruined and thus discarded. Dealing with the shame and then teying to find your self again aint no pretty task i promise you. When she discarded me she gave me to reasons 1. I was manipulative! And 2. That im just to nice of a person! 😮 In my world thoose two doesnt even go hand in hand. 😅 Who dumps someone because their to nice? Well a narcissist will.

[@jacquelinemarie1078]

I appreciate that you hit on points that others haven't spoken about. The face exercise was great!!! In one year, I have developed bags under my eyes, I aged several years. I now look very old. I have been doing the fish face exercise, it think it may be helping.

[@BeesPlanet]

It's somehow funny to think about, that it could only be about doing the "right" boiled egg. No it's not funny. It's not funny when you are always trying hard to fit the right boiled egg and it is never being right boiled. Because if it is not boiled right, it's bad enough but when it's boiled well, you are just too perfectionistic and laughed about. This is just a small explanation on how you get confused of trying to do something good for a person but it'll never be enough...

[@BeesPlanet]

And thank you so much for sharing all your advice. I alwys expeeiwnce a " Oh, holy, YES! this is it!"

[@BeesPlanet]

@@caroleminke6116 It starts with a wrong boiled egg and ends in sexual abuse, lying about finances or cheating. If this is funny to you, go for it.

[@ravenmeyer3740]

I never hung onto it because I already know my faults and who I am.

[@josephhale9198]

Exactly so be a good person and tell the toxic person to get lost very quickly

[@stargazer3887]

Exactly how it is! What a nightmare! ☠😰

[@sharonjones7138]

Such an important video!!! Thank you for your work and insight. I’m sorry for you that you had a crummy abusive childhood, that brought you to this work in your life. But I applaud you for what you’ve accomplished….healing 💙💙. Continue to practice lots of self care dear one.

[@dclarke1896]

Thank you for talking about this! I have spent the last 6 years of my life being called a liar over and over by narcissistic men. They would do everything in their power to make me out to be a bad person, and when they could not, they would rage it was such a horrible experience. I don't think I will ever date again because of this.

[@drewb5845]

It has taken me so many painful years to see this. To see that he knew all along that what he was saying about me just isn’t true. He knew that after 20 years of living and woking away I moved back home to take care of our sick and elderly parents just because I loved them. Not, as he has repeatedly told me, because I am “nothing but a waste of space, a work-shy sponge who didn’t want to work anymore and moved back home just to live off of his inheritance.” I see. So when I spent twelve years feeding them, washing them, changing their soiled clothes, doing everything for them I was being lazy and work-shy. I. Don’t. Think. So. Not anymore. Unfortunately, due to shared assets I’m still in the thick of the nightmare.

[@oldsoul3733]

When my parents attacked me I would give them the silent treatment and they HATED it. Sometimes I would just agree with everything nasty they said about me which they HATED. By the time I started school I was aware of what they were, gaslighting, evil and full of pure hatred. I didn't understand but i knew my family dynamics was very different to my friends family dynamics. Children are far more sensitive and aware of evil than adults. They hated me being kind, empathetic and generous to anyone and even banned me from having the cat sleep with me because they hated the bond I had with animals and the love I gave and received SICK

[@theohmeyegods]

I try to watch your content twice: once from my point of view and once from my ex's. I was called a narcissist multiple times amongst other names and labels and I've been pretty worried I might be one. This video helps alot. I remember changing through the relationship trying to figure out the "right way" to respond/disagree/be a person. I'll probably never stop questioning myself but I'm sure that's normal after 8 years of conditioning. Thanks for the content. So glad I found your channel.

[@a1b2c3d4905]

Omg, I needed to hear this ❤. This is what happened to me. I gave many chances.. And I never gave up on my values, love and believes, but he was trying to breake me down. He always said you are so or to sensitive. And I always answered In a cool way, yes and this is who I'am ❤.

[@Mirkalicious84]

Wow you seem to be the one narcissism KZbinr that truely understands my world and what I went through.

[@leviwhite3553]

You are a good person. If you need to hear that validation then you are going to get it from a person you don't even know. It's okay to hurt and to feel. It's okay to become so frustrated that you can't close the lid of the coffee. It's okay that in that frustration you cry. All control of your life was stripped of you. Dammit that lid needs to shut and damn these tears. You control the pressure it takes to close that lid just as you control the pressure it takes to lock that door and feel safe again. You are a good person.

[@Lovewood100]

100% true.. its a sick world full of nasty awful bullies & their actions change you over time to the point of not knowing who you are or how to get your confidence back.. The lies that have been told about me are appalling.. this made me try to defend myself but only made me look worse.. Still trying to heal, I'm not going to feel guilty anymore for their actions or for being too nice to them so that they would treat me the same.. but there is always a nasty sting with these people who don't want you to feel strong or confident in yourself.. that says it all really..

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

I wandered into a forum for people with NPD ... they claimed that all people who do good are secretly bad and ranted about how much they hate empathic people. I take that as complete proof that they envy goodness in other people.

[@1stBorn538]

They know you're a good person and hate it at the same time

[@stephenmorris9018]

I thought this was your finest video

[@robinchilds7492]

He told everyone he got a good one this time. Then he threw me away like a bag of trash. But now he is alone because his other supply left him.

[@LoveEndures7]

How people treat you is how they feel inside their heart. When u eat food, it goes into ur mouth, down through your body, and out the other side. What comes out of your mouth, the words you say, comes from your heart.

[@ayeshajamil6023]

So true

[@proobuio]

Im crying.. thank you for this clarity.. months and endless scrolling of youtube vids of narcs. This one brings so much light!

[@susanmunoz7688]

Thank you Sir for this, they are cursed but cannot take the Blessings from us.

[@deepikaramchandani1551]

Danish bhai how come narcissist he will be rude to spouse ,but in absence they will talk high to increase their own value.Wnen they are confronted with this they deny.

[@happyhealthyblessed]

Thank you Danish ❤

[@sohinisen3042]

Extremely insightful and one of the best videos. Thank you so much. 🙏🏻

[@anaruperto1417]

This is a very very important video for people to see. This explains it ALL!!!! Thankyou

[@Deborah-vx8tu]

This is why they decided to cling onto me and put me in a corner.😢

[@andreeailie9053]

Just had a quiche meeting with my life time narcissist and I just smile and kept very positive and funny 😂🤣 while she was keep getting nervous and nervous and criticizing me constantly: you look like that , your face is blablabla and so on. The same topics like a parrot 🐦🦜, but I kept smiling and very polite , until she was fed up and left. Extremely insecure, very low self value and seeing them self in a negative image, Thus projecting all these negative trades towards outside them - in this case ME. Don't let it influence you. Keep smiling and live your best life with love and peace 🕊️🕊️😊😊 Thank you so much for your knowledge. Your videos really helped me understand better things and open my eyes 💖💖💖

[@Fat2Fitgrl]

I’m so mad at myself for spending 5 years trying to explain common courtesy to a grown ass man.

[@wwrafting]

Well done! Thank you.

[@joycealphonso3402]

Thank you for increasing self confidence

[@BF-vg8sx]

Just discovered this channel about month ago. I come back to it often. Not only do you explain the processes that cause the most confusion, but you also provide hope at the end.

[@ron3537]

Amen, brother! Keep up the good work.

[@Fat2Fitgrl]

8 months of healing and I’m trying. I’d say “I know what love feels like, and it doesn’t feel like you love me” and he’d say “who ever loved YOU? Did (ex husband) love YOU???? Insinuating I’m not worthy of love and have never been loved.

[@sharlaschultz3958]

This was SO helpful Danish! And yes, it was very insightful, as it makes great sense. I don't feel quite as crazy. Thank you!

[@christinevandenberg8]

Very well put. I'm sorry that you and all of you had to experience this pain.

[@casowmya671]

Thanks for posting this video....For a long time, I thought I was wrong...even after walking away from my ex years ago..it took me years to realise he gaslighted me and fed those thoughts....I never knew I was with a narcissist even when that relationship ended....your video explains my ex s nature very clearly...

[@bigmama2918]

Imagine guys, one day he said about his honesty: "I am pure like milk!" 😂😂😂

[@fiyepjio6194]

You're words are so detailed, truthful and exact!

[@sharonjones7138]

My narcissistic mother did it….now covert narcissist sister does it. At least she tries to. Learned that golden girl grew up in mother’s shadow so she’s the same person 😬…scary. So, I keep it light and fluffy with her. Not in her company too often.

[@palalechat]

What an incredible message, thank you so much.

[@marylouleeman591]

I now can believe you. I know this is true. Reality is clear to me. But I had to forgive them and learn to give them unconditional love in spite of their sick treatment of me. I am so excited for all the help I have had. You are saying it true. Their whole idea was to make me hate myself and then they could toy with me all they wanted.

[@kumarrabhishek]

This is an appreciation comment for your work Mr Danish Ji. Your videos is no less than a therapy session. ThankYou🙏🏻

[@stupensardi2783]

Oh Danish. Your explanation is so clear. And thank you for your kind words.

[@beenapeter6180]

Great truth..all your videos are insightful..thanks a lot dear..for helping us to survive.

[@haritha9433]

Very informative than anything else on this subject. Very insightful