Say These Statements To Collapse a Narcissist INSTANTLY!

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@belwillcoily6407]

My ex absolutely lost it when he kept begging me to tell him whether I still loved him. At first I refused to answer. Then I got tired of him asking so I told him the truth. I told him that I still loved the man I THOUGHT he was but I’ve had to accept that that man does not exist AT ALL! He stared at me in shock then screamed that I had no idea what the hell I was talking about and then retreated to another room for the rest of the day. I got three days of peaceful silence from him as a result which I’m sure he saw it as him “punishing me” with the silent treatment. If he only knew, silent treatment was a literal vacation for me from having to hear his voice! 😊

[@Gina71954]

And its so good not to hear their voice

[@LindaMcLean513]

"I trust myself" can be less confrontational

[@mj9412]

😮😂😆😆😆😆😆😆🫠

[@robinholz7858]

Brilliant ✨️

[@Angela-ul9si]

Amen. 🥰

[@MNJGaGa]

Im no longer playing Tom and Jerry. They will get haunted regardless. No need to get revenge, they will go down anyway. Be grateful you got a chance to escape them. Don't ever let that parasite back in your life ever again.

[@bintefiroz7319]

100% right.

[@JoniTevive]

Fly 🐒 monkeys

[@MonoFamily-v1r]

U r real advocate for souls like us

[@yuu_miran]

One can never be safe around a narc to say those things. Who knows what kind of darkness hides in them to be unleashed. You say one clever thing they will say twenty in reply, even if it will be an arguement its not healthy or helpful to argue with them. Instead of saying anything to them, let them learn from your actions. Those may as well trigger much of their anger for example leaving them or ignoring them.

[@heyafamilysfam5649]

Couldn't agree more.. narcs don't deserve any mercy.

[@Sunshine-uo8nv]

Exactly!

[@mj9412]

Only one is the right answer.

[@hopeforever0717]

You're right

[@Hopeishere77]

I had a death recently of someone I loved, I'm greiving, and since those in living with see me vulnerable they pounced on me with great force and evil.......yes narcs have demons

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

I can relate. Several years ago I lost almost everything in a fire. My 'loving family' went after me with everything they had trying to take control of my life for it. Their view of 'helping me' was to force me to give up what little I had left and do as they said for the rest of my life. It was insane.

[@Hopeishere77]

@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 wish I could get out of here. I have many "friends" with money but no one will help me. This world is about self.back in my day it wasn't like that

[@carolynmccraley1912]

So true - keeps coming back after shaming me, saying I'm useless, saying I deserve to be yelled out, etc. etc.

[@AngelEyes-xm7el]

Live in a house full. Being told they don't want you talking because they don't care.

[@raidenewalden4354]

Yes I told him I am a special gift for you, so you have to appreciate me being with and you have to look after me , once I’m gone no one can replace me because I got everything that you want . You have no time and years to spend looking for someone special like me .

[@MsTery-ul7pw]

They really do the bare minimum.

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

And too often not even that.

[@user-ly7en7bg1j]

I would also reaffirm that this can be risky too as some can get violent. I honestly believe it is the level they are at, whether they are from the psychopathic level or sociopathic side of NPD. As you said. We must be safe.

[@robinholz7858]

I didn’t say a word to him. I just got a restraining order and got to say it all in court before a judge with the narc present. He couldn't say a word back and since I used up all the time the hearing had to be continued. In the meantime, he broke the order twice. We arrived in the courtroom for next hearing (after he traveled 1000 miles to get there) only to find the judge was on vacation. Then he got arrested that afternoon. At the next hearing for breaking the order, he accepted the order for a year in exchange for no further jailtime, giving me full custody of the kids. I didn’t plan on it going this way, but it has given us all a needed break. They will eventually reap what they sow.

[@sandracrandall4561]

Stay safe & far away....they dont take defeat well & spend hours, days planning revenge. They are very unstable. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

They don't listen. They twist and then return these statements.

[@kaycarter492]

i’m glad you have these self survival sessions

[@YomaOhwovo]

The narcissistic knows that they need to acknowledge you for all the things you do for them , but they don't do so because of their inflated ego.

[@Gina71954]

There is nothing I have not done for him and our marriage and how he disrespected still !!!!!

[@lesliekupchanko5001]

At first when he withheld credible compliments, I recognized the 'salesman' in him and knew he was playing games. As the years went on, I accepted that behavior because I'm not the type to need validation or compliments for every small thing. I even let him take the credit for things I did. (As a couple, that will happen) ----- I'm 5 months out of that ten years of hell. It IS nice to get validation for some things. Your comment did that for me. It Was His Ego. Sick Sick Sick. And I WAS Sick thinking I was being the mature example and he would learn or see the truth. (I got a 4 page message from him listing all the things he did for ME this week....) (I only read the first two sentences) I recognize that he is mad that I don't acknowledge him anymore. Not the nice messages and not that (what else is new) ugly messages. I'm free from that ridiculous situation. Enough was enough.

[@naturalist369]

Good suggestions ! I called him out on everything as I got so sick of his delusions needing validation and I surely am not doing that anymore. I basically used slightly different variations of what you just said, and then I don't bother arguing if he tries to say I'm wrong by accusing me of something else. I just repeat the facts i know like a broken record statement and walk away or I tell him everything thats happened is all on him; that he set things up this way, because he's the sabatoger and despite me giving him everything out of love for love creation, he only opted for hate creation so he must be crazy if he thinks I'll be spending the rest of my life with him. Now anytime he starts spewing with his ego i just directly reality check with truth and walk away. I've taken my power back. Its too bad I need his rent money right now, or I'd make him leave. P.s. I stopped doing the dishes since i do all the cooking, so now when he wakes up, he automatically does the dishes and sweeps the floor before he goes to work, lol.

[@cindys.9688]

🥳 Congratulations on standing up to him by throwing the truth at him! In fact, you must have hit a nerve becuz you've even got him doing the dishes before he leaves for work!😏 Thank you for sharing. It's encouraging to see that it CAN be done!

[@margaretkinyanjui9237]

I would be dead by now if I ever told him that....thank God I left

[@Born2BeInQc]

What a great video, short, well explained, never seen the idea of explaining "how to do a collapse", I'm 3 years later but I still watch some of those narcissist video when the subject is good... This video I would have really liked to watch it 3 years before. To resume, I have done the #1 to my ex-wife without knowing she was a covert narc, I have begun to see that in our relationship everything was one-sided, we got a religious marriage, she was an SDA, but her actions and words never matched her faith, with time I began to find her past on the Internet, she hid her lesbian past to her faith and even to her family, always playing the victim on everything, even her own family was supposedly evil, she was always doing a silent treatment with her own siblings or nieces for I don't know what stupid reason. When did my boundary limit have broken? It is when I was asking her to do a call a day at my job, "Hey she didn't even have a job," but I was asking her, "too much," after months and months she was doing it like 1-2 times a week, I was not asking too much. A damn call a day...wow the drama, "I'm too strict," "me too I'm like you when you are at work, I do my stuff," with time she was even hiding me her days... I began to talk more with her family to know what she was doing. Oh wow the drama again, silent treatment after silent treatment, after a 2 weeks silent treatment I got enough, I have done the #1 but with witnesses, I sent everything that I was having against her to her family and her pastor and 2-3 years of WhatsApp + the money she spent on my back. Wow the final discard got really fast, I never got a word from her ever again, I was blocked from everywhere and she started a new online Facebook like I never existed, in a dating website she has done a new profile saying in big, "I WANT A TRUE CHRISTIAN." People around her told me that she was doing a depression but my psychologist helped me to know about a "narcissist collapse." Her pastor helped me in the divorce to make her sent back my deceased mother’s ring. (She took 2 years because she refuses to talk to me or my lawyer.) Her family explained to me about my toddler wife and surely that her dad was a narc too. The pastor made her write 2 letters to explain why I'm the evil bad husband and why we need to divorce...(very "clever" to make her be like the good one). I was amazed! In those letters not even a single "valid" reason for a Christian divorce, it was like a kid complaining about 2-3 arguing we got in our couples and that I was now too "strict"... I was so amazed that she could write this and not be ashamed, I will always be thankful to her pastor, those letters really helped me to free myself from her and helped my mind. I have been truly lucky to take precautions to not have kids. (We were both in our 30.) The divorce was again one-sided, thanks to the feminist law, she didn't lose anything when I have lost easily 3 years of salary...but oh well truly lucky to not have got kids, thank Father in Heaven! When I see the world of today and how couple and men struggle, I begin to really think to become a MGTOW. I have co-workers that have lost more than me, their wives were not even cluster-B... From 40 to lose the house in divorce 50-50 and pay for child support because the wife never wanted a stable job... that's the new reality. (Playing the Russian roulette with 70% of a chance for a divorce, no thanks, better to be eunuchs for the sake of a kingdom.) The last update I got from my ex-wife by her family, she is now in Thailand with my family name, she didn't even change her passport after the divorce and live with the money she leeched me. When I see the comments in all Narc Video on KZbin or TikTok, it is always 80-90% of women who complain against their husband when cluster-B are 50-50... how many of them are in reality cluster-B and doing projections to be an eternal victim? She has done a reddit of victimization against me, I fell on it recently, so funny people answered her that she was a narc. Some statistic says that women are more covert and men more overt...but we never have a good answer to that. If some men are reading my comment, BEWARE of victimization it is a "huge" red flag. Thanks for this video Dr. Danish Bashir.

[@cindys.9688]

💬 Thank you for commenting. I like knowing a man's perspective about narcissistic abuse when it was a wife or girlfriend doing the abusing. Men really do have to watch out. When it's about a partnership it's usually the women talking about the men. Where are the men talking about the women?? I'm a 63F, single, straight, and a Christian. I'll admit, some people use the Christian label for the wrong reasons. They're the ones who make Christians look bad. It's not a label, it's a lifestyle. Shame on those who use it as a worm on a fishing hook. I hope you've been okay and I hope you've been able to put your ex behind you for a fresh start. She sounds like "one of those".🙄 Dishonest, plays the blame game, won't admit she's wrong even if her life depended on it. It scares me as a "single/never married" to see marriages dissolve shortly after the wedding. I like to think I'm a person who can "read the room" so if the vibes are wrong between him and me, the wedding ain't happening. But what if I miss something? What if "love is blind, deaf, & dumb" and I don't become aware until after we say "I Do"?? What if shortly after I say "I Do" I wanna say "I Don't"?? Truthfully, I'd wanna throw up! Danish always has the best knowledge and advice. I'm glad he's helped you find comfort, understanding, and answers. We're truly blessed!🥳

[@KatherineGrey-pz9on]

The narcissist is capable of feeling infatuation, but not love. Once that cools off, and inevitably it does, they get bored and lose interest because they don’t enter the love stage like normal people do. They are just going to get bored laboring over you and thats precisely how its going to feel to them. You are like a novel toy that suddenly isn’t novel and they seek a new one. Of course if you damage their ego thats why they will move on. Even if you keep supporting their ego they’re going to want something better, or just different and novel. The narcissist doesn’t care about you, and, why settle for the adorations of just one person when you could get it from many? That is how they think. So, they will stop giving you attention. They will stop clicking like on your posts, stop texting, stop calling… sometimes they might throw you a scrap here and there while phasing you out just to keep a hook in, but it won’t be much. They won’t fake smiles or try to start conversations with you anymore. They might even slime you with negative remarks to create distance so that your attention won’t continue to annoy them. Basically, the novel appeal of a new toy is gone. That is all you are to the N. They never saw you as a human, an equal, because they don’t have the empathy it takes to see you as that. You were merely something to make N feel good, and when you aren’t needed anymore, thats that. Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective MetaspyHub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

[@MariaChicco]

Hello and thank you for the videos, lessons and insights. The one time I said " Sorry, but I have different values and a moral compass' .... did not go down well...... stunned silence. Another time I said " well if you are not part of the solution, maybe you are part of the problem".... stunned silence. The phrase 'NO...thank you" also has its merits.

[@jangunning1676]

WOW ! Very powerful Danish! There is much to learn, ponder and enforce here! Thank you so much! Sometimes all it takes is a change in strategy to change.....everything. Warrior on all of us Light bearers!! 🙏🙏✝️🙏🙏❤️🫂🕯️💪🫂🕯️💪...... ALWAYS.

[@h3arty]

Omg, I enjoy your videos so much 😂 you're awesome! Glad I found you

[@KhanAhmad450]

Waiting for every episode ❤❤❤

[@mrsramales]

Danish you got this down 100 %. Thank you ! You have a mayor talent to help and use words to describe the hell they put me thru!!

[@littlelittledeer1435]

Excellent! Oh to be brave enough to say this to him & not be manipulated back to square 1 again ! Someday...someday!

[@PNWWildernessJourneys]

Yikes! I'm pretty sure that the narcs I deal with would be totally triggered by all of those! I would like to say some of those things to them, but my gut tells me that I should just continue to remain silent. 🤔🤐

[@crucifire9224]

Silence is as loud as a war.

[@jbuntine1255]

My X at the airport asked me to reconsider the silence was defining.

[@ILoveAstronomy]

Seriously, the gut knows what kind of microbe cultures you are warring with. Always listen to your gut.

[@PNWWildernessJourneys]

@@ILoveAstronomy Best analogy ever! 🤣

[@aparna1170]

If people don't value us, then instill fear in them. That is what dad did and ex did.

[@SamSpray-jg9hz]

No, thats not what you do, you just leave for good. You deserve better

[@rajashreepalani4798]

Great sir i hav being telling all three but they don't care ....

[@mariannamurphy8969]

On point as always!

[@prr611]

This is helpful, Specially the second point is so so good, Thanks for sharing this

[@User414xz]

Never defend yourself If you are an emotional safe person 🚩🙂🌞

[@dakoderii4221]

Read Proverbs and Jesus' rebuke of the Pharisees. Narcissism(pride) in a nutshell and how to defeat it.

[@neohabilis7412]

among your best work. thank you.

[@audrablue515]

My narc ex recently found himself a new supply after I finally went full no contact. It took him about 3 months to realise I was serious. He even tried a last ditch attempt to Hoover me by trying to ruin a relationship that was important to me. It didn’t work so he gave up. I suspect he was in the throes of cultivating his new chick. She lives right next door to him in the townhouse complex where he lives. She’s 18 years younger than him (he’s 58 and she’s 40. He likes them younger). But I have it on good authority that she’s “not all there” in the brain department. At his age and level of bad health, he could easily charm her and he’s even “suggesting” she dress a certain way and dye her a certain colour. It’s sick and twisted but at least he’s lost interest in me now. I think she’ll be his last as they are talking about moving in together. I believe she will end up being his nurse when his body finally breaks down. He has high blood pressure, diabetes, and is at the risk of mini strokes and heart attacks as he’s had them at random his whole adult life. He takes medication for everything but like his nursing home bound father, it won’t be long before he’ll need someone to wipe his arse for him and push him around in a wheelchair. This poor chick is in for a world of hurt.

[@ericalbright7210]

Christine Albright Thank you🙏...

[@TiaBanks-c3c]

Ooooh that's a good one thank you

[@pamela7005]

They know they're not enough. They don't care.

[@subhashchandradubey8123]

The last one appeals to me the most lethal for matured npd

[@lecoramassamba]

😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾 you clocked it ALL!!

[@guarddvote]

😂🤣😂 *they R really cray cray* that....

[@HT-sg9pl]

I have to say this to you . I feel like you were living under my bed . Whatever you saying here . Exactly what I was been through . You are not exaggerating at all ! I know so much from your channel to learn how to deal with it .

[@RS-xe2uq]

Why deal with it, don’t settle with this person, you deserve to be free, make that choice before you spend your whole life in misery

[@HT-sg9pl]

@ well I finally can’t take it anymore . I took my leave! There still have time I have to live with it . Can’t just walk away . But thank you 🙏🏼

[@Risha-ig9we]

Oh my... evweything u are saying is exactly.....what happpens wveyday with me....and i tell exact answers...as ur saying..... Yea they have no values, no consciousness.....

[@aparna1170]

If i was not sensitive, i would have said u r not enough. But, if they think i am asking for too much then i can say u are not enough

[@subhashchandradubey8123]

At the age if 78 i studied PD and relise after 40 year living with a cleaver professional npd who deserted mine rather his owen parental family regards

[@Risha-ig9we]

Right now, my husband is gaining so much power and higher designation in office..he also started a coaching busineas and getting many many much attention.....he is trying to be a speaker...and his audacity is he speaks about morales and values...... when he has noneeee!! He shows himself as if he is women respecting person when actually he is abusser at home... and doesnt care even of the child... He portrays himself as the most idolist peraon on earth!! I finds him similar to BIRLA case who was rummning some scam... But i feel very lonely and tired and waiting to see when will he have his karma...... 😢😢 Since 6 years its only me who is suffering and hw is living eveey day of his life like last day........enjoying and im doing every responsibility task if house and child.......

[@hopeforever0717]

Isn't saying anything give them supply?

[@Theeunseenart]

Play damn and be indifferent

[@aniagrandprime7630]

Dumb?

[@Theeunseenart]

@aniagrandprime7630 yep that's right, you play dumb

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

@@aniagrandprime7630 Autocorrect hats us all.

[@Phillyphysi]

Excellent

[@jillallred7209]

First they take your physical privacy, then they take your mental privacy, then they take your emotional privacy. You feel hollow inside. Then they tell you how you feel. But I tell you! You are you and you are not their creation! You are who you choose to be! Transparent is not a crime or hopelessness. Hidden in my Heart is the Lord Jesus Christ. No one can overcome Him for He had already overcome this world. I put my trust in Him. I see small victories everyday. Revenge is the Lord's!

[@JodieKitchen-s3r]

Mine ended his life in his collapse

[@Risha-ig9we]

My narsisict husband tells me tgis all the tims...that im not enough ...then leave me... Get out of this house... Everyday...

[@MonoFamily-v1r]

Ok thanks alot... but why I'm able to leave him

[@chamanara3048]

Please isko hindi main karein

[@elisabethwyndaele5912]

Oef I know ❤

[@anithajob2408]

Sir Npd and paranoid schizophrenia is same

[@Abm-ms4bz]

No

[@grayirishgalt]

Sir unicorns and dragons is the same

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

The Venn Diagram is just a single circle with two lables.

[@lyndylulu2]

Too many words. Confusing.

[@naowright9308]

When you think about these sayings, you can consolidate them and use your own words. This is just the essence of phrases that will trigger them into a meltdown.

[@lyndylulu2]

@naowright9308 I wish it was the essence, which would mean the main ideas upon which I could expand. Generally great content here, so this is my first minor criticism.

[@sandracrandall4561]

Stay Free & Far away