WHY THE NARCISSIST WON’T GIVE YOU CLOSURE

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Its a whirlwind of craziness. Overwhelming bewildering sick cruelty.

[@thrivingnow7395]

I was thinking the same thing today. It was just total chaos, almost demonic...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 🙌❤

[@eloisem3214]

It's mostly bewildering. God help those who are caught in its web now with little chance of escape. 😢🙏

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@eloisem3214 can't believe I sent that two yrs ago. I agree totally with your words.

[@cindyg3396]

To all the ones who are just getting out of the relationship, you will not be able to heal and move on until you completely block them out of your life. NO CONTACT! They do not care about you. I know it's heard to believe. DO NOT GO BACK!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💪💪

[@a.c.4732]

Yes Cindy , but it's sooooooo very difficult ; they are professionals - we are mere amateurs at "The Game" But I'm trying ...

[@emmaharper860]

Absolutely 💯 💯 💯

[@ssdavis02]

What do you do when it's an adult child?

[@cindyg3396]

@@ssdavis02 , set your boundaries and love from afar.

[@Pets-n-Treats]

Why would anyone want closure, just want them to go away.

[@NOR_CAL_MUSIC]

With a narcissist. THE PERSON YOU THOUGHT EXISTED NEVER DID

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@user-cz8gi2om3n]

I think more than closure, what I want is justice. I can't bear the thought that someone who benefited themselves at my expense, without my informed consent, did not pay a price for it.

[@vickymoore2520]

A narcissist will not give you closure because he wants to keep it open . And what is he going to say? I’m sorry for ruining your life while we were together ? You’ve been replaced .. they were discarding us from the day we met them . And then there was that final cruel discard . But even after that they want to be friends ! HA in time I will be fine, in time they are not . They are good at hiding and lying , my closure was how he treated me not what he might want to say to me . Namaste to Andrew and the tribe 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Namaste 🙏

[@Withallyourfaults]

Discarding. from the day I met him

[@PartnerWithAngela]

The closure for me is in educating myself and understanding the narcissist character and letting go of the past.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Wise words 👍

[@MaureenBonanno]

Yes I agree with you! Thanks❤

[@td2968]

No closure from the narc is either because they don't care to give it to you and or they want you to have them in your mind and or because they like to leave things open incase they want to come back.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯

[@lynnfincham6839]

Yes x

[@allthingsjana7870]

That's exactly it

[@margiestaff7373]

Ugh! This happened a week ago! Sucker punch (not literally)! No explanation, no nothing. As he stated it’s been great but all good things come to an end! After20 years that’s all you say? Good grief! Just getting out of the shock! I’ve learned so much within the week about narcissists. I’ll continue to educate myself. Lies, lies, lies, future fake, lies about loving me. And so forth and so forth. And he did run away. To another state. The cowardly lion has more courage then that narc ever will. Thank you for this platform.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙌🙏

[@1Tmally3]

❤🙏

[@katyams]

Big lies and empty promises. It's terrible.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Omg you poor thing. I hope you are ok. 🤗

[@myst2.0]

Enchanting entrances , dispicable destructive exit's out the lives of beautiful calm people. Sounds like the devil came and left. Now's a good time to get a double bolt lock. What's out, stays OUT!

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

I don't want anything from the narc including closure.... I close it myself ‼️💖

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

💪💪💪👍

[@janetc3916]

I made the mistake of asking for closure. After 3 years, I was told "I was more interested in the chase". It was in this moment I knew I was dealing with a narc.

[@joyb4847]

The Narcissist I was with just started to give me the cold treatment, silence treatment and saying things like hit me tomorrow when I was calling him to talk. He didn’t want to give the closure . I was crying and asking many times why he was acting like this. He wanted just to keep me around the house in case he needed... I was the one who said it is done after years with him behaving like this.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💪💯🙌💪🙏

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

👏👏👏👏👏💪👍❤

[@angelacahill9083]

There is no closure Andrew. They don't want to be accountable for anything! When it ends, it's like a total wipeout. They certainly cause destruction and leave you in despair afterwards, not understanding what's happen? During the relationship, I couldn't get a "sorry", let alone anything else? I know deep down there is no closure! You'll only find answers when you look within. We have to go through the pain to find understanding. Your videos are so helpful and I appreciate all that you do for us here. I hope one day to leave this pain behind me and feel ok again.. At the moment it's raw. I will keep educating myself and thank you everyone for all your comments. God bless us all. 🙏💜🌷💪

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Good luck Angela. I hope that rawness eases. With time it definitely will. X

[@angelacahill9083]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns Thank you John, I hope so too! There's nothing quite like this pain is there? Thanks for reaching out - I hope you're doing well? Take care.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@angelacahill9083 the pain is like nothing else. Day by day its getting easier. Hope you have a good day. 👍

[@angelacahill9083]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns Thanks John you too! There are no words or nothing I know of equates to such pain! It's off the scale for sure! We will keep moving forward! 👍💪

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@angelacahill9083 👍💪❤

[@Lovely-ku9rn]

You described my soon to be ex husband of 8 years to a TEE! I had to remind myself, "He is NOT normal." They do not have the same logic as we do. This is how I'm healing. Can't reason with them because they are incapable of feeling for anyone else BUT themselves.... hope you're all healing. Thank you for this video. Blessings 🙏🏼💛💫

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏💯🙌

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Good summary 👍

[@jannlewandowski5540]

@Michelle Donaldson The ONLY way for me to leave him was to tell him he's making me SICK and I can't take it anymore. I'm sure he was shocked, but that DID work fir me, thank God! Stay strong honey, and you WILL be fine! God bless you! Jann~

[@teejehoda9749]

#me too, l am becoming stronger each & everyday. 33years of bullshit and lm still here...its a miracle.🤣🙏💕💕💕

[@ilnazbarooni5846]

this has exactly happened to me. ending a 8 years marriage. It abruptly ended but i'm fine knowing now that i was living with an evil narcissist. it will take time to heal.

[@staciehulm4595]

The narcissist creates a dream (shared fantasy) because life is painful for them and a dream is easier to control than reality. They can't give you closure because this would require accountability, which would betray the fantasy. They are emotionally crippled and not strong enough to survive for sustained periods of time in reality. They can't admit culpability because their ego is too fragile to survive it. When you're dealing with a narcissist, you're dealing with someone with severe mental, emotional and spiritual illness.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Well said thank you 🙌🙌🙌💯💯

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Excellent summary Thank you

[@dollpartz4u]

Hello, I’ve been going through this for 5 years. He’s turned everything on me blaming me. Sometimes I forget why I’m where I’m at. My husband accuses me of doing things I didn’t do. I realized how toxic he is and how unfortunate for me to fall into it. I’m thankful that I finally saw the truth. I can’t change the past, but I’m trying to heal. I can change my perspective and get out! Please pray for me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Healing strength and energy sent..🙏💯🙌

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤

[@suzanne7277]

From one Suzy to another Suzy, my prayers are for you and for me 🙏❤️ This is exactly what the Narc I’ve been with for 2 years does to me, blames me for everything, says I’m not normal, turns it all around on me. ‘Toxicity’ is their middle name, masked by their first and last name, hiding the true middle name

[@coffeegirl6854]

I did not want any closure from these abusers. I just had to walk away. That was my closure. It sucked because enablers we're lied to. I will not spend my last few years of my life to knock myself out for those who should have known better. They are on their own to figure it out. I put those puzzle pieces together. Enough to satisfy me. Thanks Andrew. ♥️🐎

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙌💯🙏

[@ameliaruehlen9147]

I've said it before and I'll say it again...when my ex narc discarded me he literally said, "I don't owe you closure." Who says that?? People who are NOT normal. I fought with this idea of closure for months and have recently decided I'll find it for myself. And I am. It's a process but I'm getting there. I once listened to a podcast where the speaker talked about what we do when we can't get closure. In a nutshell, the speaker said one should (embrace) the pain/must live in it BUT also move forward in life. The key is not to get STUCK in it. I'm not doing the podcast justice here.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

You'll get there, baby steps, time and learning. I'm not there yet myself but it gets easier, I wish you well.

[@rdbeckett590]

Thank you 🙏 no closure here !!! Wrote them a nasty email and got closure for myself-- it’s been 2 years no contact --I am the most lovable person in the world and there is no love in a narc - Pyschopath !!! No remorse no self insight. Bully and coward is so true -- disgusting soul less demon. ❤️✌🏻 arch angel Michael shown up in 2010 I met the narc in 2011…..and spirit showed me through my third eye exactly all the disgusting dirty deeds they live by -- no morals! Love and blessings Andrew!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌☀️🙏

[@HellasGD88]

Even when he ran off and re married I had no clue he was a narc, nearly 8 yrs ago. truly sick.

[@wonderlady1422]

It’s stalking if someone will not leave you alone when you have told them too. It’s also in their best interest to leave you alone. You have every right to defend yourself.

[@ekaterinabalderdash31]

The best closure I got was talking to his ex two women before me. She was able to confirm that he was the same abusive narcissist hobosexual then that he is now. She described life with him on a day to day basis and it was much worse than I’d even imagined. I am so grateful that I never lived with him!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌😉

[@PartnerWithAngela]

This exactly happened to my i was the ex who was contacted by the new ex and we literally compared notes and unfortunately i was the one who spent 20 years with him and she only spent 6 months and was about to move in with him. lol

[@glendafell5729]

Same, but three previous wives

[@dianedeclare8541]

@@glendafell5729 i wonder why it is that some women r not open to discussion

[@angieRN73]

Thank you Andrew. I lived an 8 year lie with my ex. It's unbelievable how these type of people can wear a mask and be someone who they really aren't and then smear your name at the same time. He's done some outrageous things. I wouldn't go back with him so this injured his ego. He's obsessed with destroying my life in every way possible. He's destroyed so many of my relationships with lies. Stay blessed 😇 💜

[@lizzierose007]

Karma will get him and God will bless you... Make no mistake...💙

[@angieRN73]

@@lizzierose007 absoLutely! No doubt about that. Thank you 😊

[@lizzierose007]

@@angieRN73 👍

[@pinkpugginz]

10 year lie for me!

[@lizzierose007]

@@pinkpugginz Wow...thats awful. Try to get some rest. Thats helped me a lot, just getting some sleep. I had to take Melatonin for awhile due to the stress. And lots of walks by the lake and the woods. I feel so much better. I hope you all feel better soon...💙

[@elizabethbarringer2791]

Every word Spoken Here is the truth. Thank you Andrew I've been through the fire. The hardest thing was getting closure. I'm back today because of the ruminating. So I come back for the reminders that the person was a narcissist. And that their behavior never had anything to do with me. I'm getting well are recovering from the greatest shock of my life. I will never be the person I was. It has changed me forever. What I found behind the mask once I was able to see behind it. I found a demon a true demonic spirit in human form truly straight from the pits of hell. I will never forget the sly grin when I found out the truth and confronted him he never denied it.his grin told mission accomplished with a great sense of satisfaction. It was truly monstrous and Evil.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

They are evil. I hope in time you heal. When my ex's mask came off, I really didn't recognise her. Monsters .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 🙏💯🙌

[@shannonvanderhoof4810]

Yes. That 'SMIRK' 'SLY GRIN' .. Dr. Jekyll & Mr.Hyde . I never agreed to play charades at their " masquerade party. These people are SICK.

[@bradmcewen]

What becomes clear, is if they did provide closure, if they didn't triangulate you, if you never saw a surprise rage, if you were not humiliated in many ways, if they didn't lie like breathing, if the reciprocity wasn't zero, if being with them didnt give you cognitive dissonance, if you weren't wondering why you cry later then go back for more......they wouldn't have easily earned the label of malignant narcissist. A term used to describe symptomatic traits of NPD & APD. A combination that shows up as arrogance, the need to dominate, recognition lust, cycles repetitively through idealization, devaluation and discard and a pathological compulsion to exploit others. Plus a whole bunch more. The best part about writing a comment about the past is its just that. Past tense. Literally and grammatically.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight.. thank you for sharing this Brad..🙏💯🙏💪🙌

[@kimgordon3695]

Here's an E BOOK Brad ✓

[@kevinowens6010]

Fine line between Malignant and covert narcs for both crossover. However the sneeky Covert is far more dangerous in my dealings for I married one and dated three coverts. Married a Malignant and dated six. I don't do that anymore for a few decade. However having two colvert narcs poisoning me told me a lot about capabilities and the enthusiasm go to any length for self. Today I shit test any potential candidates for my picker was broke. "Not now." I do a complete background check on first date for $29 dollars right at the dinner Table. I don't care how pretty privileged they are or what manipulation comes out of their mouths. They have a problem with it then they are hiding their past. Therfore I excuse myself from the Restaurant Table and stck them with the bill. Liked your explanation of the Malignant Narcissist for it is spot on Brother.

[@bradmcewen]

@@kevinowens6010 Man thats some hard narcs. My belief is a rampant multimorbidity of the Cluster b spectrum. Its not worth the screening out crazy anymore. I understand we all have our luggage of the past but the difference is malevolence. Just getting out alive is no exaggeration. Some are so habitual they know nothing but repetition. I share this. I had a good girl, lost her to illness. So I tried again. I know what right feels like.. There is some good gals out there, but the chemistry not quite right. All the while I'm aware to introspect self. But the point of contentment came when I no longer needed any relationship. Man I can't tell you how many times I wish I left narconutz in a restaurant or a mall or f'in anywhere. The triangulation was constant. Inexperienced I didn't know what the norm is nowadays. Now I do. Now we all do who have been there, done that. We all could write a book about them, but better than that, ittold me what I had to accept and correct. The silver lining.. Heres the thing. They are still Cluster b and paying the price for it whether they know or care. We have had a significant experience. We may ruminate, albeit less and less, we may vent and tell each other narc stories, but I would never want to be them. Rock on. Stay narc free.

[@kevinowens6010]

Brad I Agree. The narcs I was involved with were before and beginning of the Internet. I have no pity for a abused narc or the Golden spoon narc. They absolutely have no pity for their victims. They all had their multiple chances when standing at the crossroads of mortification. That opportunity of realization to do the right thing or Power up with one of those attractive demons that gets passed aound was the better choice for all. Emotional immaturity may be the key. Research was not at the tips of the fingers back then and society nursed and Nurtured the idea of how humans act screwing eachother over for profit as designed. For Today it is accepted as the norm.. So yeah more Narcs than ever. Narcs don't come with warning labels at first. They do come from the first manipulation that comes out of their mouth with that first word Hello!. Today we get all the resources and free resurching to give us the patterns of these class B personality disorders with always a new approach and attachment given to Narcissism by those who pushed it along as the forfront as mentioned earlier. Yet all the while broke can't be fixed period. Maybe 1% of narcs have the cognitive awareness to even know they are a dumbass with a Crown. Theropy is usless for the Narc uses Therapy to polish up their skills at deception. I visit rest homes. I do this to see the effects of Karma. At least there I can see the difference between a Good person and the Narcissist. Abandon used up vessels lacking supply for the negative power they once had simply abandon them. Unfortunately there is always another willing participant the demon can pass to.

[@lizzierose007]

At first, I felt I needed closure. I knew I'd never get it. So in my last email to my ex. I wrote: "Goodbye"... I have never said that word in 29 yrs since my mom died. Goodbye feels so permanent so I never say it. So by me saying it, I knew I would never revisit that chapter of my life again...🦋

[@Leah-fw5kn]

Thank you for sharing, that was powerful.

[@pinkposey8134]

You will see the signs of closure they did not give to you; in your walk along your path in life. That will be enough. Look for them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@bradmcewen]

It seems like only the N's could provoke such poignant thought that actually is a further exploitation of one of the most solemn events in life. Been there with this too.

[@lynnfincham6839]

Thank you … your abs right x

[@christine11347]

The more I think about closure it seems to come in stages like the healing path. Each stage helps you to close the door to the past a little more until you reach that final stage, padlock the door forever and throw away the key. Forgiveness is an important step forward in being able to find closure. It is a gift we give ourselves so we can move on with our new and happier Narc free life. Have a blessed night everyone. Great video Andrew 👍 Love seeing you outside for this one.💪☀️🌴🌺

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯😉

[@katyams]

I don't think I will ever be able to have forgiveness for that person. My soul is full with hate right now, and I know it's not right, but I can't overcome this feeling

[@angelacahill9083]

@@katyams I will pray for you Katya. My heart is filled with pain too! I've forgiven him not for his sake but more for my own. I just said the words and gave him back to God and although it still hurts, I'm 11 weeks out, I've come to know, holding on to the anger, saddles me to him and I won't allow myself to let him have any more control over my life. I'm asking God to give you a grace to let go and let God take care of things. Be kind to yourself, that's what's important now. 🙏💜🌷💪

[@angelacahill9083]

Yes Christine, forgiveness is important in finding closure and I agree our closure comes in stages. I made the choice to forgive him for my sake. Holding on to the bitterness, will only change you into something we are not. It keeps their control over you alive, even when separated. I won't allow that.....the grief and pain I feel, is enough discomfort I want to feel and work through. Letting go and letting God is difficult because we feel the injustice inside of ourselves but by letting go we free ourselves and God has the last word and before Him they will be accountable. Have a blessed day with your family. 🙏💜🌷💪

[@christine11347]

@@katyams Good Morning Katya. I fully understand what you are feeling and it is definitely valid and justified. The tighter the trauma bond grips the angrier you feel. Forgiveness comes in time and in stages as well. When the trauma bond breaks, the fog lifts and you see things with more forgiveness of ourselves is so important. None of us deserved or knew we were being abused so to blame ourselves for staying so long or ignoring red flags serves no benefit. As for the Narcs in time we can forgive but we will never forget. We learn to move on from the hurt and pain so that it doesn't consume us. When you forgive the Nex you do it for you and not for them or to let them off the hook but for you. When you reach the level of indifference you don't want to feel anything for them. When we hold on to hate and anger it clogs us up and allows them to maintain control over us. The less room we give them in our minds and heart the better off we will be. With all that being said whatever we feel along the healing path is what we feel and that is ok. We each move forward at our place in our own time as Andrew's video this afternoon says. Take one day at a time and focus on healing yourself. Better days are on the way. You're doing great. 🙏💪🕊️✨

[@carolynfry4797]

He was with another girl right in front of me. I told him to tell me it was over....he said "I cant cause seasons change"! I blocked him after that, 9 months ago! Worst relationship of my life! It still hurts that someone could be so cruel!

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

The cruelty is inhuman. They are full of 💩

[@suejohnson535]

If I was waiting for closure from the narcissistic I be holding my breath !! I just know I'm blessed that I'm finally gone from the narcissistic completely for good . Thank you for all your videos & everyone comments here & everyone here hope you all have a wonderful blessed night 🙏

[@1Tmally3]

You too,Sue😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏💯🙌

[@1Tmally3]

Thank you, Andrew! The narc even caused problems with the owner of the business I work with! Then was passive aggressive with me, and others. That's the best, Andrew, no there is not one authentic thing about the narc, never will be. We all need to stay as far away from these toxic, dangerous, or potentially dangerous mutants! I'm closed off from the narc, and will never open that door again. Bless you all, love you all ❤💯🙏Namaste❤❤❤❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌🙌💯😊🙌

[@1Tmally3]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Sending you an abundance of strength for what you do❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@ingloriousMachina]

I never got a straight answer. Sometimes he claimed some moral highground, like "I'm leaving for your own good," sometimes I was dead weight (when I expressed a feeling of distress and betrayal at this one, he said "no need to be dramatic"), sometimes it was "we just don't see relationships the same way." In that last phase where we were "friends," where I expressed a desire to fix our problems and I continously encouraged him to get therapy, he just abruptly stopped talking to me altogether, and we've not spoken for a few months now.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

They haven't the strength to look internally and try to fix themselves. So when they are found out, they move on.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯😉🙌

[@matjazb.157]

All said here is 100% true. I had last 2 girlfriends after divorce, both narcs. I never got a final closure from them. They are too afraid to confront with reality they'd hear after revealing them. It's very weird and awkward feeling when you realized going through all red flags back with whom you were. That this person was all the time pure fake. Just stay away from them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉🙌💯

[@reneeboehm558]

The biggest gift I gave myself is getting away from this

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💜

[@MJ-qb5ph]

Power

[@edwardmills3221]

Your presentation is so genuine and accurate,,,,,,,describes everything I have experienced, Thank you for ALL your presentations as they are priceless.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙌🙏

[@cornishfudge39]

Thank you for another video. Gosh I am so up and down at the moment. One day I feel like I’ve got this, the next day I am trying to make sense of it all again. You know the light bulb moments… they hit me and I am saying wow that problem they created was because of that thing. Forever thankful for your content. ✨

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

I hope your down days lessen.

[@cornishfudge39]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏💯🙌

[@lisarichards3853]

One day at a time. 🙏 Thank you..

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@angstrom1058]

They won't give closure because they don't want to be held accountable, nor do they want to give the true reasons for disposing you and they also want to keep the opportunity open to hoover you later.

[@PartnerWithAngela]

Every single thing you say I feel like you are talking to me directly, this is helping me so much

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙌💯🙏

[@lindaj7559]

Andrew WHY do these narcissists have such loathing evil agendas ?

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue on the path 🙌🙏💯😉

[@lynnfincham6839]

Soulless

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

They are mentally ill and are angry and frustrated most of the time, they take out their frustration on us and seem to get energy and joy from seeing us being abused by them.

[@lindaj7559]

I really want the question answered. As to WHY any narcissist are able to be so hateful or use energy to mask and fool people. All of such behaviour is evil.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@lindaj7559 cos they are mentally ill! They were abused somehow as children and this is the reaction to that. But their behaviour is not acceptable.

[@barbaradalziel9421]

Learning knowledge is power and tough times don't last tough people do

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

👏👏👏💪💪💪❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉💪

[@ArcturusOne]

Some people have everything, but love.

[@lesleystandridge7950]

I don't need Closure, because they are done Forever! I have deleted them from everything concerning My life and have moved forward.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@aprilsky8474]

The narc wouldn't give me closure because he went straight into a new relationship. 12 months later, doing so much better. I forgave for myself to heal and move forward.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@rainedaysa6014]

Thank you so much for this message

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏😌

[@susanjaneterry1073]

I went no contact after calling him to specifically tell him I needed him to leave me alone so I could heal. He did as I asked for a few days. You are right, there will be no closure and he doesn't want me to heal. Or he would quit knocking on my door every day. Eventually, I think he will tire of the game. Meanwhile, I'm not ever going to answer. I'm busy healing despite his efforts to stop me. Thanks for always being here, Andrew. It's not linear and it's a long road but I'll get there.

[@1Tmally3]

❤🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉🙌💯🙏💪

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

If he keeps coming to your door you need to tell the police.

[@susanjaneterry1073]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns In a perfect world, emotional abuse would be illegal. He is 1/2 owner of my home and has every right to ring the bell. I have met with several attorneys regarding an order of protection. There's an old saying. "If you shoot the king, you better make sure he's dead." I read the court transcripts of the last woman's attempt to gain a restraining order. She died without it. Sadly, I know who I am up against and all I can do is bide my time. Thank you.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@susanjaneterry1073 good luck. 🤞👊

[@Artisane23]

Thank you, dear Andrew, for insight. Of course I know this, but sometimes you Just need tot hear it from someone who's been through the aftermath of a narcistic relationship. ❤️✨🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏💯

[@mell250]

Thank you. I made it through with all your help🙏💕

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌💯😊

[@jenqueenlychitra5855]

Closure for my own healing process. Thank you

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@riahorvat5207]

Thank you Andrew, what a good video!!🙏 The narc will never close the relationship. Even after 5 years, a few weeks ago there was this flying monkee talking to me. It still affected me then. Why can't he leave me alone!! And I defended myself towards the monkee, wich I did not had to, I know that now. These flying monkees always come unaexpected. But I made him run...😂💪 You can only close it yourself with knowledge, becoming stronger. Saying no is a good answer. Become stronger, step by step, day by day. Because the narc will never change. And flying monkees don't have the knowledge. They are the tools of the narcissist. Unaware of their 'task'.

[@janetblair7991]

Thank you ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome ❤️💯

[@kimgordon3695]

They just trip on that one foot... Out the door. On to the next temp. Skip the exit interview. Sit with your truth! #ReallyAppreciate #Andrew! #TY 💞

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏💯🙌

[@cafe4cat2nap]

just as a predator will save some of the carcass for later . . .

[@foodogslove2588]

Amazing video. Absolutely true. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙌😊

[@gerdafrizzell6966]

You are so right Andrew 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻TY

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏 💯

[@1o1carolina53]

I'm nearly out. It's getting worse, much worse DAILY

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌🙏

[@thrivingnow7395]

Good luck with it. Getting out and blocking them, changing your phone number, and so on...is the only way to have a chance at a future. The trauma bond will kick in, but know that you are already ahead of the game because you understand he is a narc. I had no clue until after I had escaped about the horror of what I had been dealing with. Keep strong. Keep quiet about your plans. Go silently...

[@lynnfincham6839]

Your nearly free - stay low key slip away no drama but when you get thru that door … party ok xx

[@michellemooney4225]

Thank u for this.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@wendylock6949]

Great video.. ♥️♥️ love always 😘😘

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙌😊

[@wendylock6949]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone welcome 😘

[@animalover1963]

Thank you for being a big part of my healing.🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@CB87.]

Thank you sir🔥

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@steveobaby6048]

It's like the song from Billy Joel you can speak your mind but not on my time and that's what I say to the narcissist

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯🙌

[@debieaves4788]

@SteveO Baby - Another great song is “I Don’t Care Anymore” by Phil Collins. 😉✌️

[@christine11347]

I like hit the road jack and don't you come back no more no more and Michael Jackson's Beat It. Oh the power of songs on the healing path, they are such a blessing🤣🤣🤣

[@debieaves4788]

@@christine11347 😂 🎶 ❤️✌️

[@christine11347]

@@debieaves4788 There are just so many of them. 😂😂😂

[@danaschield5090]

The last thing they want to do, is to at least leave the door open. Any chance you get, thank them for the closure. And walk! You win.

[@agatadelaparra1789]

Good, great! That's how exactly is. 👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌

[@91pinklipstick]

Nailed it

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌

[@donnawolfe9169]

Thank you for your channel.."do not be unequally yoked"..:)

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏 🙌

[@TheMisssy2]

I have finally realized I have to get my own closure. Thank you Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome ☀️😉🙏❤️

[@somerandomyoutubechannel5816]

I hate so much that I have to share custody with this monster. I want to completely cut ties with this person, but I can't. It's a nightmare, week after week. It's so exhausting. Thanks for your videos. It means so much to hear someone talking about these experiences. You really are helping me get some closure. I have so few people in my life now. I am grateful that my parents never stopped believing me. I keep holding on to that. They may not be the healthiest people, but their love is real and doesn't have strings attached.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌🙌🙏

[@amazingjane2703]

Sam Vaknin has detailed advice on dealing with coparenting with a narc. Best get clued up because once the hard work is done they're coming for your kids. Keep a diary of all interactions with the narcissist, for years if need be. Be aware of laws regarding shared care because their main aim is to reduce/eliminate child support and hurt you by taking your kids.

[@SandungaLuna]

Thank you so so much!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@ChrisPoffenberger]

Thank you Andrew this has been so heartbreaking but seeing the cycles and having your wisdom show me helps I appreciate you .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..😌🙏💯

[@vonettalcooks3536]

Thank you for helping me to get to the healing path 🙏 thank you for sharing your life lesson I moving forward 🙏❤️.peace and love

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙌🙏😊

[@sharoncarpenter158]

My situation is different. I made the mistake of telling my ex that he was narcissistic. So what did he do? He researched it to know how to manipulate it and not look narcissistic. So when I went no contact in the beginning he kept crossing the boundaries. But the last 7-8 months he did not contact me at all. He knows it will reflect really bad for him in front of his family. He knew I was done. He’s afraid I’ll expose him with some incriminating evidence of sick behaviour. So he’s on his best behaviour. In fact 2 weeks ago he filed for a divorce. Two reasons, he wanted to file so that I didn’t on the grounds of adultery and mental cruelty. And he has a new supply who could be high grade supply so he will want to marry her quick before his mask drops. He also wants to be in control and say he divorced me instead of the tiger way around. It’s so bizarre and their minds are on constant survival mode.

[@1Tmally3]

❤🙏

[@sharoncarpenter158]

@@Star_therian-89 who knows right? Their minds are on another level. They are spiritually darkened souls that are so empty. I sometimes think him and his family actually knew he had some kind of disorder try just didn’t know the extent of it. Even now they are protecting him and saying I’m the crazy one…there’s a textbook fact.

[@sharoncarpenter158]

@@Star_therian-89 I believe everything they do is premeditated too!

[@sharoncarpenter158]

@@Star_therian-89 yes I guess that’s a big trait of theirs. Mine was never on social media, he hated it because it was to open and overt. He’s a covert narcissist. But him and his family are doing a good job anyways. That’s ok, we tell our story and that’s all that matters. ❤️🙏🏼 that’s why I love these communities because it helps connect us so that we don’t feel alone

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🙏🙌

[@SunnyCzechD]

Sadly all true 🙏 hard path ahead but free at least. I had to get my own closure. Thank you Andrew 🙏❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌💯

[@katyams]

I was discarded after two years together. No closure, no anything. The person was gone like I never ever knew him. It's unbelievable. Still processing it, and it's been months!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy and strength 💯🙌🙏

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

13 years, cruelty. At the end I didn't recognise her. She'd become a monster. Hope you find peace. X

[@katyams]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you so much Andrew! Your videos help me a lot

[@katyams]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns thank you. Sending love and prayers to you as well!

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@katyams 👍

[@lumamudhafar7728]

Thank you for all these informations

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@ekaterinabalderdash31]

I said goodbye to my nex so many times. I meant it every time. About once a month for many months after I escaped him I would break no contact. I’m at 39 days no contact now. I hope I can make it permanent this time. The good news is that I have him blocked every which way, so it is all up to me.

[@glemay3629]

It can be tough, hang in there. What helped me was reminding myself that the person I cared about never really existed. The real person was someone I didn’t want in my life, in any way. All the best!

[@Leah-fw5kn]

I can relate, stay strong. They don't change.... you need to change your reaction, keep growing and it will happen. 🥰

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Maintain your boundaries and continue to move forward 💪🙌💪💯💯

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

The longer this person is in your life the more painful it will become. Stay strong this time please x

[@patriciavanheijst4311]

Its like an addiction..i have no contact since a month. One month sober. I speak with a psychologist to help me to stay strong

[@Bak23471]

I am strong and he never expected it I endured either through it I put up with it when it came down to the final moment I kept saying for your side maybe they didn't believe it even my family is going to say oh she thinks she's moving out she's not going to do it I did it

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@lynnfincham6839]

👍

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

💪💪💪👍❤

[@sandradouglas2755]

Every word spoken here is the truth Andrew thankyou I wacth you every single day Andrew helps you heal and move on

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏💯🙌

[@patrickallen107]

I did not know how to say no.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

I'd say no but she'd ignore it or threaten to leave me. My boundaries had been destroyed. Good luck to you.

[@carolinekamya2339]

Also, NEVER EVER give narcissits closure as well

[@1ajtg]

I'm on the path Andrew. I've done so much work this last 3 years but more has to be done. Closure is a big thing. My present difficulties lie with how the narcissistic father has abused our now grown up children. I couldn't see it, I'm now horrified and dealing with the consequences. Have a wonderful day! 🦋

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing 🙏💯🙌

[@jayjo77144]

If you share with a Narc that you'd like some type of closure ....... Oh, no, you will for sure never get it. They are very twisted individuals Andrew , Thanks for your hard work :)

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏 💯🙌

[@JanSwan]

Thank you Andrew... for sharing your thoughts & growth & lessons learned. I have found your videos supportive, informative & confirming! Blessings! Keep up the great work!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙌💯😊

[@zephyr187]

I've written a few versions and deleted them here Andrew. Thank you for sending a heart for the first version of my comment on closure. I went all detailed in description afterwards as I replaced the comment, but I noted it's because I'm still angry at why a human being can play with my life, my child's life, lie continually and beg me to take him back as he loves me yet all of it be such an act as in one email of devaluing comments his idea of closure was to say he's sorry he can't answer the questions. What he really meant is he doesn't want to take responsibility and answer as he's going off to find more supply.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy and strength 🙏🙌💯

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Youre 100% right. Keep him in your past.

[@zephyr187]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns thanks you John. I most definitely cannot believe anything he says if he ever got in contact again. He got angry that I didn't let him have my address or contact details other than email due to his behaviour and he called the police in my country and lied to them that I was harassing him. They worked it out in 5 mins what his country's police still don't understand and they ignored him. It's petty and cruel just as he didn't get what he wanted. To control me. I had never seen a grown man of almost 50 have a tantrum like a toddler and it was very alarming. Except he wasn't throwing soft toys he always had a coffee mug and enjoying hurling that around our home. I would never go back to that. I'm just sad I have lost a part of my life to his game.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

@@zephyr187 thats a common trait of narcissists, childish behaviour. My ex was 56 years old and a grown woman having a tantrum is childish but not the same as a child, its aggressive and scary as you know with your monster. Its not wasted time, you'll learn from this and become a stronger person. Time helps , oh and therapy. I wish you well and I hope you find someone who treats you properly. X

[@zephyr187]

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns I agree I never met a more immature adult in my life and it is extremely scary and not like an innocent child at all. I'm sorry to hear you also have had this terrible horror experience. I'm glad you got away from the monster too. I have had therapy from an excellent psychologist initially for the stress I was under in the marriage and it was very helpful as I think I got lucky really that the Dr turned out to be a specialist in NPD. I myself was in shock I think the whole time now I look back because I'm out the fog as Andrew calls it. I still have therapy to get over the issues with confidence and dealing with basically fleeing my home and setting up in my home country with nothing. It's been a hard slog the past 24 months during the pandemic also, but I'm grateful I'm still here and things could be worse. I am grateful people like you exist and Andrew to wish us all on this channel well to move forward. Thank you and although I am hesitant about someone new appearing in my life I'm not looking and I have learnt a lot your right. I think I call it a waste of my time as I wanted another child and that was the right time and it's gone now I'm 44 this year. I was 36 when I met the ex. I don't hold much faith in someone finding me as a partner in life, but thank you for wishing me that. Hugs and spreading the love back.

[@bicho.cosmico]

Thank you for your vídeos ✨ Greetings from Brasil 🇧🇷

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙏🇧🇷🇨🇷🙌

[@nahlarihan822]

Thank you Andrew. You are the best !

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@tonyroma7599]

Beautiful Andrew, God Bless🙏🏻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@Bak23471]

People that know my situation that are professionals have told me this is just the best I can do is set boundaries

[@Bak23471]

I'm not expecting anybody to tell me what to do cuz I will make my own mind up anyway but I just want to know what happens with other people that are a little older that are in relationships with family family children's birthday parties grandchildren's birthday parties and how do they deal with it I can go and not talk to him and look at him that's for sure

[@Bak23471]

The option of the divorce is another thing on itself and I don't want to pay any more for him than what he's worth he's taking that from me already that's what he's waiting for me to do I think

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯🙌🙌

[@christine11347]

@@Bak23471 It's best to grey rock and mingle with other people at the party. I think that once you reach that point of indifference it's like they are invisible even if you are in the same room with them. It's only awkward if we make it awkward. As I tell my family anyone can be there for their child or grandchild's special day and then leave feeling happy they don't have to see them again until the next major life event. If people say to me what's wrong with him I say everything that's why I left and leave it at that.

[@Bak23471]

Thank you my mind precisely he deserves nothing from me nothing nothing they're my family he can try to steal him but I'm going to be there anyway he doesn't take care of himself just tell them people 420 cholesterol I tried but he never listen to me

[@brendanelson8669]

Right again Andrew! God Bless you ✝️🙏❤🕊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏 💯😊

[@ginaschwartz5081]

Funny story for you all… about a month ago when he came to pick up the rest of his crap (and I mean crap) I told him to take the TV in the living room… well on the KZbin app on the tv the only thing on there was narcdaily LOL … Just kinda makes me giggle LOL And Yes, it’s sad that we were treated so badly and put up with so much. It used to be hard to hear you tell us they never loved us or had our best interest at heart, not because I didn’t want to believe it. But because I knew it all along and still dealt with it. Boundaries Boundaries Boundaries! Love ya, Andrew! Prayers for all as always!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 😉☀️💯💪🙌

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Tv app 👍🤣🤣

[@nikohoffman678]

Yea it's the most confusing thing ever and I made the mistake of chasing for clarity and answers. Never got it and was blocked. Thanks for the videos

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏 💯🙌

[@valeriedunn1763]

While watching this video, I had an epiphany. In my experience, when the narc was discarding their primary source, they were love bombing me. I thought this was friendship. I didn't see the triangulation that was going on. When I got discarded, I made excuses for the narc, like they were working a lot and that's why they ignore my communication attempts. Who did I get to talk to in those moments, yep, their primary source-who was always happy when I was sad because they were being love bombed. Thank you Andrew!!!! I think this channel saved my mental health! :)

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💡💡🙌💯😊🙏

[@johnfernandes4892]

Awesome words

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏

[@michellevivier9030]

Inspiring

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

☀️🙌💯

[@jinxjinx77]

You and your videos are just so amazing .. you have a wonderful gift - thank you so much!!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙌🙏

[@OSTARAEB4]

I agree with the exit interview being useless. It’s a waste of your time as a company isn’t going to really care about your concerns if your terminated or choose to leave for whatever eyes are open. Everything you said are very eye opening Andrew. The closure and the karma comes from ourselves or a higher power. Yes, real chameleons.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙌😉

[@susiemarkle6908]

I did get closure when I got to see him with his mask off. Peace out!! Block! Delete! No contact!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏💯

[@btrue8618]

Thank you. I have very much been trying to get closure from my Narcissistic husband. He just clamps up like a coward and admits nothing when questioned. I needed to hear this, so I can begin my own closure. This will save me a lot of more extreme anguish that I am getting by trying to get closure from him. I am near the end of my life, and just discovered that my entire marriage (life) that I thought was full of love, was nothing but a nightmare! My relationship with God is the only thing that will save me. I pray to Him for strength to do what I have to do. God bless you!

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@rubio9478]

Thank you for everything Andrew. ❤ And yes, closure from the relationship with the narcissist is incredibly difficult. They do an unspeakable amount of damage to everyone they come into contact with. I've been seeing a new woman that seems to have went through the same type of situation I have. Like a true empath, all I want to do is to help her heal from that old relationship & help her start anew. Namaste. 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Namaste 🙏 ❤️🙏

[@lynnfincham6839]

That’s beautiful x

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

Keep an eye open for red flags. I wish you well.

[@rubio9478]

I will John, thank you! 🙏

[@MS-dg7vv]

wow, I've only sort of felt healed after 18 months and still have my good and bad days, but things are getting better, I wanted closure but realised it would just set me back, I actually dont need it, all I need is my self belief, I need no explanation from him, the ex telling me yet again how useless and toxic and selfish I am.....na.........thats not closure, thanks Andrew, you deserve the best in life and love, thankyou for all you do

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙌☀️💯

[@soula912]

Such a great video

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯😉