WHEN THE NARCISSIST REALIZES THEY LOST (THEY DID!)

[@rebeccarobinson2608]

Andrew, another EXCELLENT video!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you..😌🙏⛰️

[@mdlg5043]

Went no contact. Quit going to church. Moved. Quit frequenting the places we shopped at. Took him off my health insurance at work. Got sick, so I was on sick leave for a while, so he could not contact me at work. Have not seen him in 17 years? Yep, life is wonderful!! Thank you Andrew!

[@marihunt4314]

I can totally relate when you said that you will get to a point when they will disgust you. That’s how I feel now. I can’t believe I gave the sick, twisted, deranged, predator the time of day! 🤮🤮🤮

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Mari..🙏🙌💯

[@jaygauld85]

Totally agree. I'm getting to that stage. Some days I feel she's just a victim of herself, but then I remember when she flirted with a married man right in front of me a few times, told me of her fantasies of 'the boss' then repeatedly gas-lighted me about him.

[@marihunt4314]

@@jaygauld85 My Ex fiancé had two dating profiles and was getting on sex hookup sites when my back was turned. Then, he had the nerve to gaslight me about it! I’m glad he is out of my life!

[@jaygauld85]

@@marihunt4314 its not right! There should be a law against this disgusting behaviour.

[@marihunt4314]

@@jaygauld85 I’m with you there!

[@cactusjackthedesertrat5601]

Right, I removed all toxic people from my life quit smoking and drinking and work out now and focusing on myself for a change, I'm finally happy after a year as well. God bless you brother

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you R.. I appreciate your honesty and kindness 🙌☀️💯

[@katheryngaskin6411]

Proud you've made a big change,Good inprovement

[@lilly7162]

Me too on the smoking /drinking do necessary to heal inside w/o any crutches when it forest happened to me I chained smoked just to get through the day I was beside myself but now nah I don’t need anything. I love myself never contribute to my abuse ever again. Walk with God my friends - it is a sin to abuse yourself. Self love is everything

[@JohnBowl14690]

Cactus - Everyone needs to read your comment and think about it. YES! Put up boundaries IMMEDIATELY and get rid of them. Then work on yourself. Consume yourself with improving your life as you mentioned. It will take your mind off ridding the narc. I found it hard to do, but once I forced myself to do it, life became so much better. Better physically, mentally and becoming more successful. It takes work, but well worth it!!!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

@@lilly7162 HI Lilly, I did the same thing you did. I smoked like a chimney, and I also quit smoking and started doing other things. Good luck to you...❤

[@carolclark5776]

Not wavering and confused by THEIR BEHAVIOR ANYMORE

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💪🙌

[@julieanthony3493]

He couldn’t get his head around the fact I ended it with him, and is projecting everything he did to me onto me , he’s the victim and I’m the villain, thank you for this video ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Julie ❤️💯🙌

[@ashergirlcharger1648]

@julieanthony mine was the same exact way!!! I'm so glad a friend gave me this you tube channel to watch!!! @narcdaily I am so glad I listened to my friend you are spot on!!! 22 year age difference between me and the ex--- you have amazing insight and you explain it so we can easily understand thank you!! Never been to Costa rica wanted to retire there! Thank you again

[@WhiteAngelLovesEarth]

I am harassed since a long time.

[@boogieuggie7865]

@@WhiteAngelLovesEarth get a restraining order

[@ZotchManAZ]

Are you single Julie lol

[@carol-xk3lq]

Indifference is key. When their mask starts slipping & they show you who they really are, we get confused & sad & angry & disapointed. All normal reactions & feelings after you realize their darkness, nastiness & cheating cowardly dishonesty. But when we start to understand the storyline we can close that book & live a new brighter chapter again. Of course they have no more right to any line in that new story cos they blew it for good. We cannot respond to them & their should be no more need to even care about them or their life anymore. It sounds cold, but indifference is what they deserve after showing no gratitude or appreciation for our loyal strong kindness & love. Shut the door to them & find a new path. Amen 💫💫💫

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message of inspiration and empowerment.. thank you Carol ☀️🙌🙏🙌

[@carol-xk3lq]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you for stepping up & out & explaining to the world what this mental disorder called narcissism is about - who would have thought such evil does exist & we unknowingly & trustfully embraced it for some time until we woke up, swallowed the red pill & from then on their was no turning around. Good. We are becoming more clever "warriors" each & every day & with the knowledge being spread & the personal insights of many on youtube the message can go around the globe & hopefully make this world a better & happier place. Thank you & kind regards from Switzerland

[@livelife5890]

"after you realize their darkness, nastiness & cheating cowardly dishonesty." Couldn't have said it better. That's what happened to me. I couldn't understand the cold hearted person, mine was. I was like "does my family member realize it's me ?" I didn't know what to think. It's when I ran into this channel and others that I was relieved of the impact they cause. I am so much more mentally healthy with no contact. It's been a blessing. It's family member that I hope gets delivered but for now, I have to protect myself. I was utterly shocked at the darkness, and coldness of this person. I was in disbelief for months. I'm a ton better now. My mind is healthy again.

[@lorina-janebuonanducci.1042]

("What a powerful message of strength and hope. Thank you for it.")🙏☀️

[@c.n.967]

@@carol-xk3lq VERY well-said! 👍 We are getting educated and we will become stronger than ever! Thank you Andrew for all that you do to share this important information about narcissism and how to protect ourselves from these toxic relationships!

[@piperofsimms]

I went NO CONTACT with not only the severe narcissist, but family members who possessed any like traits of one. I have now studied and learned what I was dealing with. I had NO idea that this extreme disorder existed. Thank you NARCDAILY.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@cavedancesinc.6775]

Her entire family didn’t reach out once after I did everything for them as the only male in the family, in the state, and a bunch of nieces, sisters, and her mother always needing me. They’re all very similar. It’s unfortunate that my family would reach out to her but she’s afraid I’ll expose her so must’ve told them to cut me off.

[@piperofsimms]

@@cavedancesinc.6775 Hi, They put so much time into planning what they are going to say to people. That and the fact that they don't have the mechanism in their heads to stop them from performing the horrible lies. They think that it is OK. to do. It simply doesn't bother them.

[@deathofathousandcuts4255]

Same here 🤗

[@carolinekamya2339]

its like a cult - my family is full of this disorder

[@michiellalove5402]

Blocking them felt like a portal from HELL had been closed..... That energy was so dark. Sadly you gotta be strong enough to even block people they used to keep the lines open too. Even if you liked some of those people. Your "peace" of mind and well-being is so much more important. This kind of abuse can cause irreversible mental & health problems. More than likely if your an empath like me, you probably have had more then once experience with this type of personality trait. It's a tough one because they are some of the most insecure traumatized people. Empathy & codependency go hand in hand... We must know the difference. We can have empathy but we must have it for ourselves too and first & foremost. Blessings~

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Michiella.. I appreciate your kindness and insight 🙏🙌☀️💪

[@twitchgrizz]

It's kind of eerie how when u block them u can feel the dark energy fading away

[@michiellalove5402]

@@twitchgrizz Agreed

[@tallchief22]

should i block their own friends i became friends with during the relationship?

[@adriannavarro2536]

@@tallchief22 this is what I’m wondering now. I just deactivated my social media instead. But if get back on those mutual friends are sure to post something with the ex in it. Already happened once, totally flying monkey crap too. All of a sudden people that never post started to post tagging the ex. So dumb. So I just saw my self out.

[@spirit_1111]

I just want to let you know you are the reason I am being strong right now and I can't thank you enough for your videos

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💪🙏😌💯

[@julielabelle2783]

Thank you. The hardest part, was to accept how much I had been played. I was humiliated. It took me a year to realize there was no relationship, nothing else than using and abusing me. Thank you for speaking up, it helps us relate and understand. God bless you and your viewers. British Columbia, Canada 🇨🇦 💙 🕊️ 🌎 ⚕️ 🌍 ⚕️ 🌏🕯️ 💙

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Julie 🙌💯🙏🇨🇦🇨🇷🙌

[@englishrose6627]

Yes my ex husband .made my life hell. I travelled after the finish for 8 yrs. I was alone and free. I met beautiful.people in various countries. I.hated returning home butbi had 2 children there. Since ive been under Psychiatrists and healing process. Ive learned he was abd is a narcissist and today im free and healing.

[@Addease]

What is truly humiliating is being that psychotic, dark and manipulative. Youre an angel for giving people the benefit of the doubt because the kindness of your heart. Don’t ever forget that. It takes a real one to spot the bs and if people don’t find some real ones to surround yourself with.

[@rsj4192]

Everything you've said is me right now. This is extremely frustrating. Toronto, Ontario 🇨🇦

[@okgirl64]

I'm British Columbia 🇨🇦 too🙏💯

[@callumhaigh8233]

She lost me and she’ll always keep losing and she won’t have anything. That woman is a danger to herself and others

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

The narcissist lives concerning only about themselves..

[@biancaswart1101]

True. Narcs are a danger to themselves and others. That's why I drew the thickest line ever to keep the narc from violating my boundaries.

[@marafenton8178]

You talking about my X?

[@McAllen-dv8dd]

I agree 1,000 percent!

[@denisguay4315]

So true but he worst is what she does to the kids.

[@suemiller9743]

At times, they have such a narcissistic injury that they hoover and/or lash out with spreading lies and smear campaigns. Stay strong and stay No Contact. Don’t react to their BS. Break free by kicking them out of your life

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes 🙌 Sue☀️💪

[@kellyleighread807]

I was violently discarded. The ex husband didn't respect me. He came home on the first Monday in September 2017. I was told that the ex husband was leaving for two weeks. The N.S. took him away. When they were gone I found out more bad behavior patterns that are disgusting. I had prepared to get a divorce. While speaking to the ex husband he spoke. I have no memory of what was said. I called the NS and told her to get him. That I wanted him dead. Being told what a horrible person I am while they were gone the NS told the ex husband to call the police. I was takin to jail for overnight. An order of protection they had taken against me. For a year I couldn't speak to them etc. I had taken a Court mandatory class on DV. I passed the class, and learned:. Never contact him in anyway. There will always be someone else to blame. That the ex husband is a danger to my life. I've done all no contact. The ex husband didn't think that much of me while married 36 year's, I don't think he ever will. I'm thankful for the law. The ex husband took out the O.O.P. He must abide by himself. Yeah 👍

[@deathofathousandcuts4255]

Amazed on every one's talk of them,we all feel the same all comment's are from, Andrew's♠️ beautiful Light,his Healing has become structure for a Thousand thirsty knowage seekers!! Happy for all party's 💯🙏🤗

[@bloodymary8540]

They hate it if somebody closes the door for them forever... They think they can always come back no matter what happened, no matter how much time went by... Just keep ur doors close and never communicate to them ever again then u show these creatures who was winning the game in the End💪🏻stay safe❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you bloodymary85 ☀️💯🙏💪

[@bloodymary8540]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone ♥️💪🏻

[@kevinowens6010]

I take it to the extreme. I moved. I disabled my FB account. Blocking does nothing. The Narcs simply borrows a phone or laptop. I remain a Mystery forever.

[@chloerodgers692]

forgiveness is not permission. they don’t seem to learn this.

[@gayleloreno4864]

I loved hearing I will be a winner for the rest of my life.

[@freebird5469]

I was reminded of the quote while listening to you: "The one who cares the least in a relationship has the most power." So true. When you genuinely don't care anymore about the narc person(s) it strips them of their control/hold/power over you. You won, they lost their foolish game.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@kevinroosen6199]

Absolutely!!!

[@biblestudieswithdomlaf3310]

Well said 🙌🏾 🤗

[@deathofathousandcuts4255]

Nicely stated,we are blessed with power, and it's Amazed me truly the best gift we ever received from another human soul!,♠️💯🙏💪😍

[@gilliangiles7589]

Yes they lost.GOD is Always on my side. Thank you YAHWEH. ❤❤❤❤

[@Maine_Grammy]

BINGO!! You are spot on with everything you said!! I was the puppet! I was so broken and lost for the 15 years we were together. When I finally woke up and realized what was happening I got away with my 3 kids!! It’s been 16 years since I left. I never ever ever ever looked back and thought I made a mistake. It was the best decision I ever made! I wish everyone who is going through a break up with a narcissist all the power and strength the universe has to offer!! ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 🙏🙌💯💪

[@shanejoseph3432]

It's true, when you're with a narc, they own you and control you. I was in an addictionship with a narc who controlled me without me even realizing. You're so trauma bonded that you do anything for that dopamine high of the love bombing. Thank God I'm on my healing journey and now know my worth and that I got rescued by the discard.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message of healing and growing 💯🙌💯🙏💪

[@CPRforYourFaithMinistries]

Yes, it is. But the knowledge we are arming ourselves with and the knowing we are better than that, and closing the door to such abuse is the beginning of our healing journey. I have surrendered all the broken pieces to God, where they will stay, and He is using it to help me heal, because now, after going through this, I know I am worthy of much better and so are you. We've got this.

[@denisguay4315]

Yes Shane, i am at the same level, kind of, as you. The discard is the best thing to happen to me since i met her.

[@not2longnow]

🎯🎯

[@mtc-j9i]

This gives me hope. I needed to know how I should feel if I’m making adequate progress through my dark night of the soul healing process. I am definitely there! Disgust and indifference is all I feel. The anger is subsiding. I have worked on forgiveness - I expect no closure or acknowledgment of wrongdoing. He can continue his victim smear campaign and take whoever else he wishes to take out of my life. If God allows it to happen, it’s for a reason. I’ve cut out all mutual contacts and gave him our mutual friends. My family sided with him, and he can have them too. I’m starting over, and it is a blessing. A narcissist kind of reminds me of a little bully playing with a lizard on a playground. The little bully tortures the lizard and then decides to kill it by chopping off its tail. The lizard makes its escape, without its tail, and the little bully is stunned and runs off to tell his parents he’s been torturing animals but the animal lived lol. I’m the lizard and I made my escape - had to leave my tail behind, but I’ll grow a new one.

[@lc-bb6bd]

Mine was covert and controlled me covertly. He withheld affection and wouldn’t talk. So subconsciously I was trying to win his affection back so I was jumping through hoops for him. I was trying to get his love back. I was very sick by the time it was all said and done.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this l c..💯🙌🙏😉

[@CPRforYourFaithMinistries]

I know what you mean about the withholding affection, seems giving me the silent treatment was his favorite thing to do, like it's all my fault, no remorse whatsoever, I was messaging him trying to tell him how I felt, hoping somehow he could accept some responsibility, but it's like their brain can't even handle that concept. But looking back, it's so obvious, all the sarcastic remarks, starting arguments, while throwing out those "in love with himself" comments. But this supply machine just closed for good. We've got this. We are on our journey to healing, and we are not alone, we share this journey together. Hugs.

[@cautiouslyoptimistic1962]

15 years. He withheld affection 15 years. He used my faith and beliefs against me, I didn't stray. I just wanted him to love me. He never did.

[@lc-bb6bd]

@@cautiouslyoptimistic1962 I’m sorry. You deserve so much better

[@tameekagamble5487]

@@cautiouslyoptimistic1962 He withheld intimacy, sex and time. We only could have surface level conversations. Anytime I would try to have a conversation about the reason we haven't had sex in 8 months. He would future fake saying we'll have sex "soon". Don't worry, it's me not you. Then 2 months later, asking the same question. He pushes the time frame out agian. This is with EVERYTHING! future faking, devaluing my feelings, intimidation to get out of the discussion all together. He mishandled me for too long. Time is up! I'm taking my life back, totally done! Stay strong and stay focused on the Lord. He is the only one that can heal the pain. God Bless You 🙌 🙏 ❤

[@Madders23]

You are so right. After 7 years and his relationship ended he emailed saying how sorry he was for what he put me through and how much he loved me, yet there was so much on the letter how it was my fault, it was pathetic. I didn’t respond to the 4 pleading emails he sent and wow how empowered did I feel. He disgusts me to this day, 10 years later but seems so much longer than 10 years. I’m a different stronger person now and very happy.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this.. maintain your boundaries and continue to move forward 💯☀️🙌

[@Madders23]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you and you too ❤️

[@sylviaking8866]

They always blame their victim. They are pathetic.

[@AZDC99]

@@sylviaking8866 The classic blameshift

[@sylviaking8866]

@@AZDC99 My soon to be ex had an affair made sure I found out 4 days before last Christmas and then constantly talked about her to me as if I was not his wife. also was going on Ashley Madison looking for women willing to have affairs. But somehow it was all my fault that he committed adulty. They are totally incapable of self-reflection. Are very low in empathy and are very dangerous when you decide to leave them for good. I am still in shock at just how vindictive and abusive he became when I decided to divorce him. I would rather be single and face the world by myself than live like that. I am lucky I have a twin sister who has been amazing support.

[@rockybalboa4593]

Losing and tasting defeat is a major blow to their ego

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💪💪😉

[@ladyoftheveil8342]

Amen I want absolutely nothing to do with him ever

[@catlady715]

Idk if this one has realized it yet but he has lost a good wife, a good friend. Someone who truly cared about him and always gave 100 percent. Good luck to him finding someone who treated him as well and did as much for him as I did.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💯

[@noemisanchez5054]

Thank you, GOD bless you.🙏🙏✨✨

[@NigelWalton]

This guy knows what he is talking about!!!! I totally agree with him!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@jacquesfrederik]

We should all be thankful for social media and people like you sharing their story. I'm 44 now and only now have I come to realise how manipulative and narcissistic my family was. I never understood until today why I was so much happier when living abroad until I came back to my hometown. The process of remanipulation was slow and subtile, and due to the death of my mother I became even more vulnerable. I'm living abroad a 2nd time and never been more free. No need to sacrifice yourself for covert narcissists for the sake of "it's your family" Good luck to all and stay strong.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Frederik..💯🙌🙏

[@jameshogue1639]

Yep

[@kimnewis6882]

Narc family narc husband, narc daughter.

[@micksikora5212]

Perfect ! Absolutely perfec !! Thank you

[@michaeloneill5877]

Ignore them, Completely Block them, Throw away any/all photos of them and Move on to Peace & Love !!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Amen 🙏

[@kevinowens6010]

Absolutely

[@teeahtate]

Yes, I burned the pictures that I had of us together. Don't want any memories. I also wanted to burn the connection.

[@Tommytwostroke]

The narcissist blocked me after I called them out on their BS, was sick of the gaslighting and lying straight to my face.

[@Leesa1303]

I pray daily for me to heal from this foul sh*t and I pray to never have to deal with it again....:(

[@pamelalawhon3536]

Nine months after I divorced him, the pandemic lockdown started in March 2020. He hoover texted me, all concerned about me as a health care worker on the front lines, and I just shut him down. I had broken free from the trauma bond, & knew I had to hold a boundary of no contact. And he knew…he knew. It was over and he had lost. Imagine going into that two month lockdown with that punch in the gut, sitting there alone in an empty house that I had helped make beautiful. Signs of me everywhere. But I was just absolutely… DONE. You’re right, indifferent is the most blissful place to be.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Pamela 🙌💯🙏

[@chloerodgers692]

I have the same feelings. He kept the house and I bought a new one. He has to remain there…a home we built (literally with our own two hands) that is now just an empty shell. There’s no warmth, no love, nothing….empty places where furniture once stood, nails on walls where pictures once hung, etc. .I am glad I didn’t stay in the house and could start over. 35+ years of marriage gone.

[@yayaedwards1090]

I told my narcissist that he is going to regret losing me. And he said laughingly. “No, I’m not!” Like I was nothing. SMH. I helped get him out of jail, got him a new phone, let him use my car to go to work. And then he was texting another woman telling her that he wanted to be in a relationship with her. I let him go right on ahead. He did not want to come get his clothes from my house. I texted him everyday. I even contacted his new supply for him to come get his things. I blocked him on everything! I believe the woman he left me for is a narcissist too.

[@rosemarievincent4496]

That's great 👍 he'll get a taste of his own medicine.🤣🤣🤣

[@Zero-Fox-Garage]

The two faced monster in my life was my Mother, a covert narcissist. They are a lot harder to identify when they were the ones that raised you. She is 80 now and has mild Dementia and ironically that has allowed her mask to slip enough for me to see her true self. After an episode which shone a spotlight on her true self I went "no contact", revoked "Power of attorney", and informed the monkey troop around her that I want no contact from them either. Her immediate response was a smear campaign against me with my extended family trying to paint me as the villain. I am one week in and on one hand the relief is amazing, a weight has been lifted! On the other hand I have been revisiting childhood memories and seeing them with open eyes now. Old memories, fresh wounds.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌

[@SydneyDiva]

Have had this realisation only just recently - my mother is extremely controlling and doesn't take me ignoring her very well. She has zero boundaries, rocks up at our house unannounced any time she feels like it - turns it around on me when I object to this, like a mother shouldn't have to make an appointment to see her own daughter and grandkids!! She says things that are hurtful and when caught out, makes excuses instead of apologising. It's almost as if she misses having someone she can control. She does do a lot for others so she's not completely narc, but she'll often remind us of what she's done and then set up guilt trips. She uses flying monkeys - my sister, husband and kids to try and contact me when I ignore her!

[@katmcdonaldkennedy7283]

As soon as you stick with boundaries and say no oh that f's them up. ;)

[@zibam6687]

We love Andrew ❤ thank you

[@annacarter4879]

He still call once and a while i go no contact and i thank God everyday being single is not that bad. It been 5 months single i finally realizes i had enough. your theaphy helps a lot keep me stronger. Thank you Andrew

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Anna…☀️

[@becca7038]

My ex was "butt dialing" me too, every so often. I chose to change my number and deleted my social media for a few months. I haven't heard from him since. Yes that's when he called. When I wasn't even thinking of him. Idk how they know but they don't take the time to heal after the toxic relationship, so that tie that binds never snaps for them. So in their minds, we still belong to them. And one day they will come for us.... But when that day comes, we become the one who got away. But we must stay away to have that title!!

[@therryandpaol3430]

@@becca7038 . Keep staying no contact 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@jazzywazzy1998]

I'm 4 months single going on 5 months. My ex reached out once from another number a few weeks ago and I ignored him and blocked him. I want nothing to do with him anymore. I am strong.

[@MiraculousAngelTarot]

What you don't realize is that during a relationship with a narcisist you're alone, it's a one man show.

[@zetalady86]

Going through this no contact right now. I love it here and I'm thankful.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Brittany 🙌🙏☀️💯

[@king-qo8fi]

“This is your shining moment…”. I LOVE HEARING THAT Thank you !

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@huei-yipan]

Everything was always my fault, and nothing was ever Mark’s fault. I know now that is not the case at all. Thank you again Andrew for your videos.

[@wandagarcia2003]

It's a blessing to disconnect from them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@ann-louiseidman-soysal7819]

This is a beatiful message for all of us empaths(whith capitol 'E:s') who have been brutally abused by a narcissist. It took me years to reach the level of awareness, self-love and empowerment that you are displaying - good going! You are so right: the day you realize the true colours of your narcissist, the amount of abuse you have been subject to and when you start recognising all the ways in which they manipulate and play on your emotions, and you finally say: No more of this BS! That is a truly life changing moment!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏💯🙌

[@teresadvorak6145]

Wow! You said it Ann ❤

[@ianandrew4368]

You are a beautiful Andrew because you are so caring and put the experience you have been through into a language that connects. Your way of putting our thinking into clarity is such a gift . I have shut off so many people after listening to you ,thinking of a world I can create for my son away from deceit ,control and lies . The films are such a comfort to gain strength each time.They have list a bea

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏

[@BlackWolf91-kz6mf]

God bless you and your channel. Best thing I have subscribed to in forever and everything you express is true to the tee.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 😌🙌🙏

[@BlackWolf91-kz6mf]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I have been struggling with addiction for 10 years and I didn't realize that I was becoming a narcissist. I wasn't full blown but I definitely look back and see my mistakes. I don't take the victim stance anymore even though I have known nothing but trauma. I didn't realize that my defense mechanisms we're turning me into an obsessed fool. I was in love for 3.5 years and the relationship was definitely one sided. I did everything I could to help her grow, but I didn't realize that I was being hurtful until I couldn't mean my apologies anymore. All I wanted was for her to have what she wasn't given and my selfish afraid self became resentful. I now truly see how others hurt me and how I hurt them. I would do anything to make her realize that I am a different person now and come back into my life. Though, now all I can do is heal from others and myself.

[@sarahmeadows2866]

I broke your with him while living with him. He made my life a living hell. Forced me to sleep on the couch for 6mths, took all my money, savings, thousands, He destroyed the house, abused my kids, eventually a magistrate made a violence order and police removed him from the house. A week later he started a smear campaign. He got a violence order against me, rang my boss and told her I was an alcoholic etc. It has been horrific.

[@susanmcmahon4733]

Agree again my ex husband just digusts me wouldn't want him near me I would be physically sick.

[@basicinfo2022]

This is why I'm so skeptical of dating divorced men because it's usually a woman who escaped him and his hell... why would I want a man another woman ran away from?

[@AZDC99]

"You'll get to a point where they flat out disgust you." I used to excuse this as happenstance or coincidence. (Whether it is or isn't doesn't matter.) Yet a part of me knows that they would not TREAT other people like this in my position. They ramp it up and jabs in the form of it not being a jab at the end. At some of the worst moments it could happen when you're discarding them one by one, if you're me. I used to vent to one of those types thinking they were not a part of the mess. The head nodding and NO HEART behind the supposedly supportive words should have been or was I mean, the final sign I needed to walk away

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Walking away and blocking them.. going NO CONTACT.. is the best possible way to move forward with your life ☀️🙌

[@barbaraviniegra]

I cannot wait to be indifferent. No contact for almost 3 weeks. It’s been so hard. But I know it’s the only way forward. And I hope you are correct that he will never find someone as great as me. I gave it all as you said in another video. It just wasn’t enough.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue to move forward and become educated.. this takes time.. you will get through it.. 🙌

[@barbaraviniegra]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you. I am so educated on this I can be an expert. It’s accepting the lies and that I fell in love with a fraud that is killing me. But thank you for your channel and your responses.

[@vaughn7130]

@@barbaraviniegra going through it too sis, here to support, we will fight and we will win✊

[@barbaraviniegra]

@@vaughn7130 thank you! Yes we will survive and thrive! Some days are better than others. Cannot wait to get to indifference for sure!

[@shanejoseph3432]

My therapist described the healing journey as "hills and valleys ". It's a process and a journey and it takes time and effort Barbara. We all go through those times when we feel down or discouraged and you know something exciting? It proves that you're making progress and you're still moving forward on this journey. Indifference will come, you're 3 weeks into your journey and we're all proud of you. It's hard in the beginning but keep going, do not break no contact please. In the end, you will look back and realize that remaining no contact was the best thing you did to help yourself along on the journey. Persons who break no contact ALWAYS end up regretting it in the long run as it sets them back on their journey and gives more fuel to a monster who thinks s/he is a God. Stay strong Barb, all the best!

[@pikurown]

You are so right. Saying no without explanation and saying goodbye and never look back life begins

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯🙌

[@robertafierro5592]

It literally knocks the wind out of them!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@sharondrake5794]

I was the world’s best puppet. Now, 5 years post divorce, I still miss the good parts of him. But the chapter is closed. I am no one’s puppet, and never will be.

[@tracychamberlin3502]

Yes the good parts were they real?

[@sharondrake5794]

You bet, good parts real,

[@sharondrake5794]

Six years post divorce we remarried!! He was able to change because he really wanted to. We are very happy.

[@MNPonyLady]

This is so awesome. I didn't realize when I was in the relationship that my husband was a narcissist. It wasn't until after he discarded and then hoovered me that I went absolutely 100% no contact. It's been a year and a half and feeling SO peaceful and free. After watching this, I realize now that these random mutual "friends" were flying monkeys. They were trying to give me updates but I really didn't care. It wasn't until after the no contact that I realized the depths of his cruelty and saw him for what he is. What a horrible way to live. Thank you for these videos. They are awesome.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@recadu1770]

Oh, my God! It's so... me!

[@shivmc4466]

you're a beautiful soul Andrew God bless you always 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏😊🙌

[@christineking6218]

This is so True. The disgust and No, it’s goodbye. I am still legally married to the narc but there is no level of a relationship. He tries every once in a while…only to have his feelings hurt…he has a huge trail of broken relationships all throughout his life…

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing 🙏🙌💯

[@kakashifight6907]

Very true especially the part about us realizing those are not the people we knew.

[@tripsyvision]

So, for my awakening of this was using the education of what a Narc is, then seeing it in person with the Narc. The proof behind the puddin. I went to bed confused… I woke up at 4am, out of my sleep, blocked and deleted. Didn’t even question myself. I realized my higher self had enough. I was tired. I went back to sleep saying, I’m done I don’t have it in me anymore. We need to get angry!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Tripsy.. thank you for sharing this …🙏🙌☀️💯

[@jayneweaver8695]

I have been NC for 7 months and counting. I've had the worst urge to call my dad, 84 years old, the narc, his b/day is coming up. He's called me a crook at the family dinner table more times than I can count, made fun of me when I lost all my hair from chemo, I get very frustrated with myself, your video's help SO much. This time when you said, "you're NC to help you heal" along those lines, it pulls me back from the edge. Thanks Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Jayne 💯🙌🙏

[@EMGEE718]

My brother you are amazing!! You are the epitome of strength and resilience. The greatest part is you share. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!! ❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏🙌

[@Anonymouse428]

I truly wish complete no contact were possible. I’ve minimized as much as humanly possible.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💪🙏🙌

[@patriciaearley4177]

Crazy how these narcissists think! Thank you for the video🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Patricia..🙌☀️..thank you 💯

[@kevinroosen6199]

You're the only person I'll listen to... you hit the nail on the head with every aspect of a narcissistic relationship. You address every situation to a T with every situation I went through....Thanks!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌🙏

[@marycarolhouston7137]

Thanks for explaining this for me! He had me thinking I was going crazy! Wow

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙌🙏

[@annikapitts7701]

I love your energy Andrew and authenticity…so refreshing

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏

[@bobbarker1798]

Some narcissist never admit that they lost.

[@AZDC99]

it's crucial how you mention the flying monkeys that they'll send after you one by one. I've been discarding them one by one. They'll often present themselves as your allies on the issue or disown you . I always suspected that this might be the case. But there's no absolute proof of it. Yet they had evidence of what I was going through and they behaved how they behaved anyhow! It's some of the indirect stuff that's a form of gaslighting from them too. my gut told me when I was getting half-assed support and just words and NO FEELING behind those words. IT'S ALL LIKE A PUZZLE SCATTERED IN 100 PIECES AND ONCE YOU PUT IT BACK TOGETHER, YOU SEE WHAT YOU WERE REALLY DEALING WITH WITH 20/20 HINDSIGHT

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Be careful with the flying monkeys.. many times people don’t have our best interest at heart..

[@jessicawoerner1384]

Thank you for helping me take my power back, after being abused for four and a half years. Your videos are spot on and empowering and I thank you for all that you do.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@cindyski4413]

I think for me personally, I can get rid of any friend type of narcissist. It’s the relatives. People who are related to us. It’s painful because it hurts not to have these people we’ve had through out lives and then just cut them off.

[@annikapitts7701]

That’s the goal for sure 🙏🏻

[@franceshaggitt3104]

He would say...I'm not perfect and..I'm.not a monster you know

[@dulceandersson8877]

YES!!!! Feeling digusted!!! I felt it, and I had to Pray to get that feeling away. Now it is gone. Thank You, Andrew for sharing this video. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Dulce 💯🙌

[@maryholliday5929]

I’ve been disgusted with my narc hubz, for some time. I pray 🙏🏼 to God, every day, to forgive me for having this hate in my heart. I used to cry.. FOR him. I’m tired of crying. Too old for this 💩.

[@hashbrownburgeryt2120]

It’s okay not to care about them or others. All we have is this one life, and it’s possible to put the care and compassion where it belongs. Thank you Andrew!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@LethalHope]

My mother is the narcissist, and every man I have ever been with have also been a narcissist, but my mother is the nastiest, most horrible person ever...

[@imaginary_friend369]

Sista!

[@Angel-nr8td]

I had mother and sister are narcissist I cut them off completely best thing I ever did I took control now no more toxic nasty controlling people. So I understand where your coming from suzanne

[@miraclesforus]

Suzanne..do you think this is genetic? Obviously you suffered abuse and trauma and didn't turn out this way. I feel it is a demonic affliction, just simply evil and the root is spiritual. I'd like to get your insight.

[@wilfridjoseph6172]

Lol your super power is attracting Narcs hey?

[@cathysilva5011]

@@miraclesforus I’m glad someone is seeing the spiritual view. Your on point. The evil is supernatural. This personality could even be capable of murder. Be careful

[@simplechatelaine]

To get the love and adoration you deserved you must NEVER have contact with them again. They will pine for you the rest of their life and the best part is you won’t have to endure their abuse anymore. They will suffer for everything they put you through but only if you stay no contact. You got this!

[@Iwasonceacarpenter]

I wont have to worry about him sending anyone around- I never met one person that was his friend in the real world ever in 15 years- so I will not have that issue thankfully.

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

Good! You don't have to worry about the "policing people" who come to make you obey, like what happened to me.👮‍♂ The monkeys become the police to tell you what you did wrong and punish you for stepping/(stopping you) out of your box of complete control.

[@skaz0046]

Free of the flying monkey....it took 30 years. Insidious is the most appropriate description, especially for the covert narcissist. I am absolutely strong! 💪🏼😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Susie you for sharing this beautiful message of inspiration 🙌🙏☀️💯

[@skaz0046]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone some people never get out. I stayed in it and put my own happiness on hold for the sake of the children. I didn't want them to grow up in a broken home. When the kids grew up and left, it was time for my own happiness again. I did it. I made it. With the help of a wonderful Npd-knowledgeable therapist who helped me figure out what was wrong. (Again... insidious.) NPD abuse by a covert narcissist is like Carbon monoxide poisoning. You know something is wrong. You know you're sick but you can't see it, smell it, taste it until it's too late.

[@arrowmax6189]

U may cheat on him,,tell ur past story,,, Lots of narcissist person also here to comment as normal person to blame her ex for self satisfaction... 90% narcassist,golddigger are girls ..

[@jaime3452]

I cant wait to say, it's been one year but it really feels like 10 years... I just can't wait. It's only been 1 month of no contact

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Understand this will take time and commitment.. you are doing great.. stay focused and maintain your boundaries.. 🙌🙏☀️..

[@daniellestaley9432]

Awesome video! I’m about four months no contact - the trauma bond severed about three weeks ago. It took a couple of weeks after I broke up with him before the bond to really took hold and the cognitive dissonance kicked in. That’s when I knew what I was dealing with because this happened to me once before. Since then I have literally spent 100’s of hours pouring over videos, podcasts, articles, etc., everything I can get my hands on to educate myself even more about narcissism. The difference between this time and the last is my decision to refocus on loving myself and healing my core wounds. I started doing shadow work and regular morning meditations on top of prayer, and have been having weekly therapy sessions with a love and sex addiction therapist. Its been an incredible challenge accepting what happened, and that the person I loved and the relationship I thought I had was not real. I’ve struggled with not blaming myself and not being better or more understanding… but I have pushed on relentlessly to do the work to recover. Some days are great; others I’m just numb and can’t wait to crawl in bed and cry. But today was different… I actually woke up almost feeling like myself again. Hardly any rumination, and when I caught myself getting a little teary over some song that came up on my Spotify, I turned that crap off asap. There are times when listening to these videos will also trigger me into an anxiety attack, and it happened once tonight even, but interestingly enough, I went back to another video and more reading, and I realized that today was probably the first day I really could care less about ever going back. The disgust and indifference is starting to kick in. I’ve been here before and I know at some point, hopefully soon, I won’t care at all. He will be a distant memory for me - and then I’ll wipe it all away. Best position I could be in and I look forward to that day.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Danielle.. I appreciate your kindness and honesty 🙌🙏💯😊

[@georgeallen116]

Wow I feel same way my wife was one been two weeks of hell like an addition she could care less ever day I get a little better. Thank you

[@not2longnow]

❤🎯

[@claudiacanales2662]

What an inspiring post. I hope God is continuing to heal you

[@lourdesecheverria6209]

Something truly amazing happens when we no longer care. When we are indifferent to anything that has to do with the narcissist and nothing can be done for us to ever reconsider the relationship again. Is the ultimate freedom, like nothing we have ever known before. Is like Andrew says...."is a beautiful thing". Blessings to all. Stay strong, disconnect, no contact, no matter what. Love yourself and move on to your best life! ❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😊😇❤️

[@shivmc4466]

Perfect Andrew everything you said is true that moment is priceless 👌 my super power 🔋 is stronger then ever I feel like I can fly.And I can't stop smiling 😀 😊.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙌🙏💯💪

[@LOVETHYSELFDAILY]

It's a relief when I made no contact and I am determined to never be afraid of what they might do. No more emotion/supply on this!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful and inspirational message thank you 🙏 🙌💯☀️

[@MC-pd4sr]

I'm several months out from one narcissist and a couple of years from my narcissistic family, and I'm still feeling the black and blue bruises left on my soul. They beat you to a pulp - you HAVE to go!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏🙌

[@riverfallyeshua7985]

This is my 2nd time I watched this. You have been so encouraging me..gaining my confident of myself to stay boundary. All I need to learn to love myself to grow myself..no more Narc. and their flying monkey. They belong to their "Wizard of OZ"...saying goodbye to them for good! Blessing yours~

[@dawnhandelman308]

Awake and Grateful 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😊💯

[@54suzie]

Wow your video’s pop up at the most important time for me Thank you so much Day 39 out on my own 🙌🙌🙌

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..🙏😌💜

[@stefangebhard7074]

You’re quite right about your assessment when it comes to the narcissist. They become blinded by their brilliance, underestimating your silence to be a weakness. Never will they come to terms with their loss, because they make it their ambition to win at everything in life. The more effort they put into maintaining this ‘undefeated’ image to everyone else around them, the more apparent it becomes to others of how ridiculous the narcissist treats their defeated circumstances in life through the vain form of claiming a victory.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Stefan..💯🙏🙌

[@HollyBird29]

I've only been gone for 2 weeks. And it's wonderful!!!!! I made it 2 weeks before but then got hoovered! I will never be hoovered again!!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯💪😉🙏

[@courtneyk3584]

This is happening now and it's been a almost a year. All of sudden I'm recieving texts and calls. Your right I noticed the tone of the texts and I could see him unraveling. It's the craziest thing , no contact with me for months and now all these love bombs. I will keep being silent and hopefully he will give up. Thanks, namaste !

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue to maintain your boundaries..💪💪💪

[@cherisimon2168]

It's like the fog lifts, you're mind is clear and you can identify the toxicity, you may have missed or ignored before. I'm 3 months no contact and I am glad, he tried to hoover last month and I stayed strong and stayed absolutely silent. You can do it❤

[@marcusarelius]

None of this outline is what I experienced. I was discarded. 2.5 year serious relationship that came to a halting end. We went on a date and she was all over me throughout the date (love-bombing). She made the comment, "I want to be the best girl for you for the rest of your life". 2 hours later, I get a phone call from a mutual friend who had information on all the cheating she had been doing. She was right there when I got the phone call and I asked her about it. She lied at first, then started crying, then told me: "Hit me". At that point, I awoke. Awoke to what I had been dealing with for 2.5 years. Question for you: What is the narsissistic trait that would have her respond in that manner once confronted...."Hit me" I had a few more emails and maybe one more phone call with her after that confrontation and I remember that she called me psychopath (projection). LOL. Yea, I'm the psychopath. LOL. And that was literally it. No more communication. Her sister and niece, 4 years later, contacted me via Facebook but I did not respond. People, in my opinion, there is nothing more evil in this life than someone who looks in your eyes, says they love you, but have every intention of causing you pain and suffering. To lie so effortlessly and callously without care or concern is the very root of the word "evil".

[@jamesrutter4100]

If you HAD hit her she would have you TRAPPED in a guilt loop

[@janmcleod8198]

Bless. You.i trust your pain will ease overtime.

[@moiracistola1112]

It is such an amazing feeling to know I have him in the past and I truly flat out don't care. I am living my best life. I win.

[@MrIlgenis]

Love the part when you said "No trace of the narcissists." Soul alleviating.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙌🙏

[@sungyultaylor1354]

Your videos are FANTASTIC!!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and thoughts on this subject!! You're helping SO SO MANY around the world I'M SURE.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌💯

[@sylviaking8866]

Thank you, Andrew. You keep us all strong.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Sylvia 🙏💯🙌

[@michelleelfazzate178]

Thank u Andrew, don't know what I would do without ur videos at the moment,your the only thing keeping me going.been in no contact for 2 months now with the help of the police,I still cry every day and I hope things will get better soon

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌🙏💯

[@badabbelt]

As much as it hurts to hear your words you are spot on with everything the you're saying

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏

[@donnacook7066]

Andrew, what a blessing you are. Message is spot on 👏, Narcs hate being treated with indifference! When they know you know👍🏽 Narcs plan everything, but not everything goes as planned👏❣️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this..🙌🙏😊💯

[@marykuhn4979]

It is the most wonderful feeling ever, it took me two years of no contact, but I did it. God bless you for all your doing.❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Mary 💯🙌💪

[@cindyalexis616]

This is so empowering my husband goes back-and-forth back how much he loves me how sorry he is so he never realized what he put me through until he put himself in my shoes but then when I catch him in another lie and I call him out on it it goes right back to the blame game it’s all my fault or my sons fault that he did everything he could to Get me back meanwhile we haven’t gone to counseling we tried he goes to a few sessions and then figures everything is fine or OK after just a few sessions there’s nothing wrong with him it is hard it has been a 35 year relationship and I was truly in love with him but we have been apart now almost 2 years and the more that I distance myself from him the more crazy he gets Then he start sending me pictures of our wedding but again it is like dual personality the minute he doesn’t get the answer he wants

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌

[@BeTheLight624]

HELPS❤️…Thank You, Andrew!🙏🏻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome ❤️🙏

[@catlady6938]

Thank you, that is how I feel now, indifference and disgust for this person.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏😉