WHY YOUR SILENCE IS DEAFENING TO THE NARCISSIST

[@AmyMcillwain]

Thank you so so very much Andrew. Because of you listening to you everyday several times a day helps me to go no contact. Before you I always thought that I was to blame because he made me believe that it was me but because of you I know and identify with all the things that you said

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..😌💜🙏

[@neilarmitage6632]

When you show the narcissist you don't care, this drives them crazy. Just ignore them and do your own thing. Silence and independence is power.

[@belroyale]

When you’re finally done. You are done.

[@gingerspeidel-ys6et]

Narcissists hate to be ignored. They have to be the center of attention. Go no contact. It drives them crazy.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌

[@Tatjana.B]

My silence will last forewer.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌💯

[@deborahpellerito6117]

Yes

[@SolitarySoldier]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlonedo narcissists make burner accounts? I have a hunch my ex is a fearful avoidant and narcissist and i think she made several fake accounts

[@shirlspark_stardust]

Yes I stand in agreement

[@cathyferran7291]

Mine too, I had to find the strength at first then we lost 2 family members and that was it, I was done

[@dashaott849]

Recognize who they are and stay far away from them. They will never change. They are weak and small minded people. They would not have latched on to you if you weren’t an amazing person. Now give back to yourself and make those boundaries like a cement wall. Be very picky about who gets close to you.

[@JFlovesjesus]

Had no idea how bad this demonic entity was. Took over a year to see how it was taking.

[@racebannon96]

Your clarity will continue to improve. It has taken years for me to see and understand what I was going through. Married/living with a narcissist will break you down. It never gets better with them.

[@JFlovesjesus]

@@racebannon96 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 “Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. Matthew 11:28,29

[@beverlytaylor1745]

Silence, detachment, and indifference are a combination that becomes the nemesis for the narcissist.

[@ladyllf48]

Can you break that down for me.

[@beverlytaylor1745]

@@ladyllf48 Hi 🌷 Dr. Ramani has videos on these topics that are very helpful. The bottom line is shutting down 'access to you' by protecting your thoughts, and feelings. The abuse most of us suffer translates to an awareness that the abuser doesn't love us. I stayed for 18 years for religious reasons, and left due to the discard. Others stay for various reasons of their own. If you're going to survive this your going to have to make the narc play their sick game alone. They will try to draw you into some sort of drama. If they see you're not playing their game ( look up gray rocking, and yellow rocking the narcissist ) they will be frustrated. Be careful. Some escalate, but most deflate. You will have a resentful person on your hands either way, but you will have started taking back your power from them. At best you will be distant roommates. Staying or leaving is a personal matter after that. There's also Lee Hammock at Mental Healness, and Ben Tay.or at Raw Emotions, who are self aware narcissists that give excellent advice. They, Andrew, and Dr. Ramani were my educational choices while figuring this out. I thank God for rescuing me out of the abusive marriage. I've had my own place for 7 months, and I'm starting over - at 65 years old. I'm happier than I've been in years. Godspeed. 💖🙏👋

[@cherylthompson2731]

@@ladyllf48 Acting like you don't care.

[@a.zavala2355]

@@beverlytaylor1745 Dr. Les Carter is a great resource on KZbin as the others you mentioned. I love Andrew....immensely insightful from his own experience.

[@beverlytaylor1745]

@@a.zavala2355 Hello 🌷 Thank you for the reference. Yes, Andrew's experience makes him a unique mentor, and we're bonded to him as a fellow survivor. I recommend him to others when I can. Have a great day 🙏

[@JosephtheDreamer-h3r]

Silence, detachment and indifference. Knowledge is power .

[@GinjaNinja01]

SILENCE..is impossible to argue with. It just...says it all...by not uttering a syllable. Well done, these folk are not worth any form of effort...just...CHILL...silently! It's a win/win...YOU have nothing to regret saying...that is powerful ...you've left NO HOOK for them to manipulate into a battle imho.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌💜🤫

[@truthbehindthelie7511]

It was the strangest thing. He had all female friends. All married, but all female. He always was busy helping women who could not help them selves! Now he lives off his dead wives SSI, and plays other women for their money! Sick man. He is on welfare, but hate women and children who receive it! I would guess his mother is the reason he is a narc!!! Thank you so much for your help! I might be 62, but I deserve better..

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@theearthauger]

Hello Truth Behind the Lie God bless you. You really went through it as well. No matter how old you are, you don't deserve any of that. No one does, Never forget it. We are Survivors now. We've come along way. We are Forever Young and we are on the right Path. Thank you for sharing your story, the Auger 👍

[@tranquility9325]

They are a walking talking hypocrite

[@truthbehindthelie7511]

I have learned that part of my healing is being able to forgive and move on! Thanks.

[@drevil1980]

My ex was the same way it was always males in her life an ex’s would always show back up constantly.

[@sunnyflower1979]

This video is spot on. I simply stopped talking and it drove him crazy. I wasnt being spiteful or giving the silent treatment. I simply just didnt care anymore and had no energy. I started walking on my own journey and reclaiming my life. My ex-husband went down the drain and took his flying monkeys with him. I lost family and friends but Im finally free.

[@racebannon96]

I’m sure the “friends” you lost were not close ones. Most relationships have a expiration date.

[@ApplePie..]

I really don't think that the narcissist cares if you're giving them the silent treatment and you have healed and gone on, they just moved on as well. Their mantra is "oh well" and then then they find a new source of supply.

[@shirlspark_stardust]

Their cursed repeat they never learn miserable demons

[@MaryAnderson-xs5wd]

Their ego hates to ever lose anyone. It is a numbers game. They like to say they have so many women chasing them. Other people notice when even one walks away. I am sure some laugh at them and say they lost one of their women. SAD.... SAD... SAD!

[@rodneyjarvis676]

My schooling of hard knocks with narcissists has been a long, difficult and painful lesson; and finally, I have my masters degree in narcology. Knowledge is grand and truth is freedom. Peace is the reward. Blessings of peace to all the soldiers fighting the good fight of deliverance.

[@TheAshesArt]

💪🏾💕

[@michellekoinegg2627]

Amen to that!! 🙏

[@jeynjohnston8085]

Thanks ❤

[@maybee...]

Well said.

[@sandrajennings3842]

Thanks

[@robinbethka6818]

I DID IT! I did it today , every picture is gone every text is gone! and he’s blocked! I swear to god my phone literally feels lighter just from the diminished data to hold and my soul does too!

[@MaureenBonanno]

I am so happy for you! I am with you! It’s terrific isn’t it?

[@Cowboy19735]

Awesome 👍

[@flowergarden-1]

I'm following your example ❤🎉Congratulations!

[@howarddavies782]

Good. Your phone feels lighter too!Love it. Keep going.

[@starrababy31]

🎉🎉🎉

[@chameeher879]

Wow!!! Very powerful!!!! Please continue to make more videos. You are helping and giving sooo much wisdom to all of the us! Thank you!!!

[@sjla2009]

I've told them I'm not texting all the time anymore. And they just trigger me! Then texting saying sorry. After they hung up on me! For heavens sake. 🙄🙄🙄

[@HH-iv6mf]

You just described my Boss. His entire family is in shambles. The employees are leaving so much drama

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Silence is peace and love and compassion and strength and courage and life force. Thank you 🙏 Andrew. God bless you❤

[@BoT-ez5lw]

"Remember, no matter where you are on the Planet, you are not alone" ❤❤❤ Thank you, Andrew!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😊🙌🙏

[@BeTheLight624]

Excellent advice, Andrew. The narc loves an audience and attention. Don’t give it to them. As one viewer wisely said here: silence, detachment, indifference. Starve the beast

[@jdt8983]

I don't wish people harm because I don't believe in free will in the first place. However I do believe in creating the life you want which is both healthy and enjoyable

[@gmariet1391]

My x narcissist liked making plans with me and then letting me down last minute . Keeping me hanging . I learned to say nothing so I wouldn't have to hear what I knew were lies . IT FEELS SO GOOD TO NOT LIVE LIKE THAT ANYMORE ❣️❣️❣️🌼🌿🌺🌿❤️🌿💖🕊️🙏😊

[@kindheart9676]

@GMarie My narc ex made me cancel our dinner booking at the last minute, many times. Why do they do that?

[@sandyoi5301]

@@kindheart9676 Control and Domination is Narcissist Supply! Wishing You a Loving Peaceful Healing Path!!! ❤ ✨ ❤

[@kindheart9676]

@Sandy Oi Yes, he was certainly in control of our outings and social life. But i had the power to walk away! There was no togetherness, or true partnership. Thank you for your reply and God bless you. ❤️ I wish you Love, wisdom, clarity and understanding on your Healing Path !!! ❤️💕

[@marybarton5651]

There's a classic movie called, "Gaslight" is highly enlightening, except for the rescue of the victim at the ending...which is not realistic. You must rescue yourself from the narcissists clutches...before you are completely destroyed. Death is the total silence, but once you heal and reach the state of indifference, taking back control over your (my) life, with your ending any and all contact, you will finally get closure...Block, gray rock, shut and lock that door, change the locks if you need to, and for your own personal peace of mind, NEVER open that door again. It's so freeing! Even though the narcissists and flying monkeys periodically rearing their ugly heads will not induce you to allow them to gain entry back into your life...I have more important things to do in my life than to be the puppet of some evil puppet master...I am completely done...the narcissists wanted me dead, well I am officially dead to them...gone...they have no power over me anymore.

[@websurfer5772]

Oooo good point. They want me dead too. Happy Easter! 🌻🐣🐰🌻🕊

[@marybarton5651]

@@websurfer5772 narcissists want us silent, so I figure that since they trained my sooooo well, I would just give them what they want...silence...but, my way. Not theirs...lollollol

[@websurfer5772]

@@marybarton5651 Yes!! I am with you 💯%!!

[@shirlspark_stardust]

Puppet masters 😂 yes

[@AuntyBek]

Andrew - woman from the UK here. THANK YOU! Sincerely! For taking the time to produce these videos! My situation became so unbearable, and so desperate, that I took drastic measures to put an end to it (even though I really did not want to - it felt like the only way out!) Since then, I have had the curtain pulled back to reveal actual reality which highlighted the incredible level of control the man had over me! This resulted in a level of trauma I cannot explain as it was so hard to comprehend! Your videos have been a shining light! I am so, so grateful! Your videos are empowering! They cut through the B.S. and get straight to the nitty gritty answers. They challenge thought processes. Keep up the tremendous work. Thank you to you. And to anyone else going through this journey - stay strong! We're going to get where we need to be x

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯💯🙏🇬🇧

[@leftykeys6944]

My narcissistic brother has learned the hard way, I'm not "trainable" and not "groomable". He tried stealing my inherited retirement nest egg and failed. It's taken me almost 15 years to kick him off the Trustee's throne. It's not over yet but the lady judge is onto him. Not every scenario like this has to do with romances and marriages.

[@hope46sf]

I appreciate your mentioning reactive abuse. My long term n ex h would "throw a verbal grenade" into a peaceful family time to see the reaction. If I tried to explain, or defend, he would say, "Oh now you're being defensive!" This would spiral down into him, saying, "See, I'm being calm. You are the abusive one." This was particularly painful in front of our children bcz he would say, " see what your mother is like?!".. It all was compounded bcz he was a pastor for years and thought he spoke for God. I've been free for 13 years now!! Thank God!! He died miserable and pretty much alone 9 years ago. I would encourage anyone in a narcissistic relationship to get out when you can safely do so. My children suffered and still do because I thought I had to stay in the marriage. I now know that God doesn't want people to be abused!! Abuse does not have to be physical. It comes in many forms- emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, spiritual, verbal, etc. Be safe!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌💯💯

[@ERnarcfree]

Thank you Andrew !! It was your counseling that got me out of narcissistic abuse cycle from a 25 year abusive marriage!!! I was lost and broken 18 months ago. Using the wisdom from the 1:1 sessions, journaling several times a day, watching hours of your videos and crying until I didn’t think I had any tears left I now feel happy. I did not know what this meant. Thank you ❤

[@ianfink9277]

Your silence clearly tells the narcissist GAME OVER...🙏💪

[@observer4497]

Andrew, I keep finding myself coming back to Your videos because I can relate. Without me telling you my story, I truly wish that I had the Internet back in day and I heard all of this Great advice back in the day. I went through Marriage Counseling, in and out of the church - but No One knew what Malignant Narcissist was back then. I readied myself before the last Discard and Escaped 🙏 Thank You for All that You Do.🙏🙌. Namaste

[@hj8501]

❤Thanks.for sharing human behavior from lack of teaching love and security. We can know continue to recognize darkness and chose light...Amen...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌💯

[@susanparker9877]

Andrew, you speak of the dark night of the soul. After I kicked my ex out, I passed through a terrible night, where the narcissist called and texted non stop until I turned off the phone. I told him I had chest pain which seemed to increase the attack. I felt as if the devil himself was after me. I didn't sleep, just tried praying, which was not easy under such concentrated evil. My dogs stuck by my side like glue. Next morning I went for my shower and 15 minutes later, found my big healthy male dead on the floor!! I believe he took charge of the event and it killed him. Needless to say, I could not ignore the message from God, even in my grief and devastation. The whole experience changed me. I could not minimize the horror of the night, or the dreadful morning. My boy was a pure light spirit and protected me with his life. Narcissism is pure evil.

[@truthbehindthelie7511]

Love you and enjoy your lives! You did not deserve what they put you through! I am so sorry. Now let's take care of Us!! Have a wonderful week everyone! Much care...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😌

[@ericamedina4486]

❤😊❤

[@AStephT]

Ditto! 🎉

[@josephineperez7225]

Thank THE LORD FOR YOUR ❤️🙏

[@truthbehindthelie7511]

Thank God for everyone. There has to be reasons to why the narcissist is this way. Childhood abuse seems to be the Key to a lot of so called metal illnesses. Thanks.

[@leviwhite3553]

The silent treatment is a nightmare that is difficult to understand. When you are attempting to get help while in the relationship it is a form of punishment. It is all a punishment. In the end I was hoping a level of understanding from who I thought was my significant other. The willingness to fix things isn't what they want to hear. The level of self reflection on both parts is too much work for them. Don't beat yourself up for trying and being given silence as a result. You aren't a narcissist for trying, you just kept believing in the false reality they spun for you. I'm trying to be gentle on myself now as I work through this and I hope you are too. The silence is deafening to us too.

[@wayneelliott1180]

Social Media has provided an enormous gateway for the narc and their manipulative destructions.

[@maidenmarian1]

YES I experienced the dark night of the soul. No Contact is what these people earn. That is all.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙏

[@jlroussin]

Went no contact with 3 family narcs 2 years ago. I'm really starting to enjoy being my authentic self, and enjoying nature and making my art. So peaceful!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌🙏

[@MaureenBonanno]

Lightbulb moments! I remember when I was discarded in a different state, with no job, no drivers license, I had to sell the items I shipped to the apartment to feed my kids. And after all my efforts to have a marriage, I realized it would never happen. I laid on the floor in the hall and cried for 3 hours. I am finally healing from this and letting go of all the questions I had about the insane 14 years of turmoil I had experienced. TY Andrew you are a flame piercing the darkness! ❤

[@fisherkieds6282]

Its difficult to realize that being logical with a narcissist doesnt work,trying to reason with a narcissist doesnt work,trying to negotiate with a narcissist doesnt work....its difficult to accept

[@rkellycentral]

I was prepared and meant to have gone through this because the life lesson is huge! And the lesson is that I am a bright shining light. The moth wants to get rid of it.

[@lysaholly]

They honestly don’t care about us at all the most painful truth. They never cared. Silence is also protection. These people want to hurt you and see you suffer. Thank you again, such a great video!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏💯

[@Heal..Restore..Moveforward]

Yep..that's how it is.

[@SeeCSeesCC]

I found my silence was my power, and it used to make him so upset. He would say you won’t even argue… dang right he was a dangerous individual and my silence and my absence, proved valuable to my healing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙌😌

[@CanadianBear47]

Assertiveness fucks up their day

[@teresadvorak6145]

😅🤣😂

[@jethropeters4686]

I am just now in a choice of my own to ignore an heavy narcissist. He does not react back, but if he would never, it is totally ok for me. It's clearly his turn to react, and i know he is waiting for me to give him more attention forst. But i won't. And then i saw this video. Great man! Thanks!

[@julieannsheridan6438]

They are parasites.. they suck the living daylights out of you. I’m total no contact and it’s very empowering.. Ty Andrew x

[@bradmcewen]

When you return to maintaining your own life, 12 hour days are not even close to tiring as an hour spent in coercive control. The fog, the brain freeze, the rage shock, etc. etc. Plus the affects of taking it home if your so lucky not to live with them. Its a miracle a permanent life disability injury did not occur. An absolute miracle.

[@ERnarcfree]

Andrew- I mention the toxicity of narcissistic relationships whenever possible and appropriate. I feel that you helped me to find the answers to one of the “ biggest secrets of the universe “. I can’t help but want to share your channel with others who need it. Thank you always ❤❤

[@anitacharles-takingbackour9003]

This topic makes me Laugh Out Loud!! MY SILENCE IS DEAFENING TO THE NARCISSIST! Lol! My turn Now….Forever!! Thank you Andrew for the knowledge that empowers us to remain INDIFFERENT. This is what “Happier Ever After” really means. Thank you Andrew🙏♥️🙏

[@gratefultobehere]

❤love this

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏😌😊

[@websurfer5772]

Anita Charles - Taking Back Our Nation -- I like your username. Happy Easter!

[@anitacharles-takingbackour9003]

@@websurfer5772 Thank you 😊

[@anitacharles-takingbackour9003]

@@gratefultobehere Thank you 🙏

[@charlie-girl72]

From narc abusive parents , to further of such for years indeed, you magnet those until you wake up and then the process starts to come in ACTION with the inactivetvity to THOSE. Early signs you see them quicker than before the only positive thing on this torture is, you get wise enough that one day you see them coming and maybe first heal yourself so there is no ' F ME ' anymore on your forehead, to build up self esteem again like long ago you once had, i did. And maybe meet the love of your life. I'm to young to stay single. Thank you andrew i was afraid to even sub on your channel cause it becomes a TREND that to many THINK they are an expert. I trust you now. Sorry i didn't right away ❤

[@Jackiewerkout]

Whether we ever hear from them or get ‘hoovered’, it is a guarantee that the loss of them getting to inhabit the beautiful bubble of our energy will be felt. And now we know what a gift we have and are more careful with who we let share that space with us. I feel like they leave once they’ve poisoned that space and once we get it cleaned up again, here they come to muck it back up with their chaos and darkness lol. Hard pass!

[@lindawillis7006]

I am silent to him and it feels AWESOME.

[@truffaut650truffaut6]

Happy Easter to all of us Survivors and these who are on the healing path.❤

[@websurfer5772]

Happy Easter 🕊🐇🕊🐇

[@shaunlucia524]

Happy Easter to you too!& Thx 😊 for your sweet words.

[@nrosa4051]

Thank you Andrew 🎉 God bless

[@juanblignaut4606]

I have firsthand seen that my silence, post narcissist relationship, really drove her crazy. I clearly stated that she stays away from me and puched through the no contact strategy. It became such an issue that she even tried to use flying monkeys to get my attention. She is quite aware that i know who is behind that despicable mask. She can not deal with the fact that she can not control me anymore. I publicly made known my good time with my kids and grand kids, re-discovering my family relationship with them. That drives her insane as she knows I'm moving on without her. Needless to say that she tried to find out what my future plans are..... wait for it..... the message went out to her.... "it has nothing to do with her...." My silence is my POWER and confidence to guide me through to live my best life, focusing on matters that matter for me and my family that deserve to have their dad and grandpa back in their lives. She tried to alienate me from my family, though not successful. The result is that she is the empty, lonely soul and shell left, her own doing. Andrew, thank you for your teachings. Namaste and God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤️ 💖

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌😌🙏😊

[@alexandranoone3195]

Ive been doing this for coming up 5 weeks of looking after him ,when he was very ill ,now out polishing his car ,my god i can't believe it ,i had to laugh ,my god im learning although friend tryed to have me back and forth ,a flying monkey ,yep took high road again ,god bless you ,namaste so so spot on

[@elizabethy2912]

I think mine is just a parasite with a grovelling, people-pleasing trauma response. He's a hardcore narc as well. No wonder I was so damned confused for so, so long. It floors me that I really loved him, and to find out I'm just someone to control is sickening!! Your video has helped me fit some more pieces to this stupid puzzle together, Thank you!

[@EricNorthman-h2f]

I can't get over how he refused to talk to me. He tortured me with being silent for days. Now Im giving it back to him. I have been no contact from about 8 months ago. He's tried a handful of times now. Im not answering.

[@carlosgiron1246]

Great video Andrew. Yes in the narcissistic relationship I was definitely silenced, I had no say in anything. If I tried to ask him anything about why he was so abusive to me he would explode and tell me how sick I was and that I was lucky he was even paying attention to me. Now after being discarded I left and haven't had any contact with the narcissist. He's trying to contact me but I just ignore and delete everything. It's difficult but I'm managing. Thanks everyone and thank you Andrew for your kind words.

[@janetgd]

Block him. As Andrew says if not now, when. They are energy vampires. Every message you receive and read and delete is energy you are leaking straight to him. Heal your inner child, reparent and turn your love onto yourself. You can do this.

[@CanberraProtest-dm6hu]

❤🧡💛

[@emilywilson7308]

Hope you are settling in to your new life!

[@jlroussin]

prayers! it gets better and easier in time. Stay strong, and don't go back to him.

[@staycool163]

It's easier on you if you block their #, emails, any way to contact you. When you have those moments of thinking, "oh it'll get better, they'll change" immediately STOP that thought process and remind yourself, NO THEY WON'T! Even say it out loud! The more time you're away from them, you'll start to realize how much more at peace you are, how much happier and healthier you are because you'll be more yourself and more relaxed! Stay strong... You can do it! It's time for you to live your life the way you want to! 😊

[@heartoftherose-rc7iq]

After riding the roller coaster with my narcissistic husband for over 40 years, my empathy has been sabotaged for the last time. I've been working hard on myself for two years. I didn't feel loved or seen as a child and bit by bit I've had to come to the realisation that there was no love in my marriage. Only psuedo love. It's soul destroying. The last straw was today when he tried to stir up an argument out of nothing for his entertainment. I finally reached my limit. I'm not afraid of him anymore, just angry. It's pathetic how they have the audacity to do what they do to another human being. He's stolen 40 years of my life. I have no money and nowhere to go yet, but he won't be pulling my strings any longer. Thank you Andrew for your caring words. You made me feel loved and special. You're a beautiful soul. Love and strength to anyone going through the pain and confusion of narcissistic abuse. You are not alone. Start to heal by first gaining knowledge. Learn to love and care for yourself and find gratitude in the little things. You WILL heal and overcome this. God bless you ❤🙏🦋🌻☀️

[@thebigh9635]

They are empty vessels that use supply to feel powerful . If you cut off the supply they STARVE ! It's fascinating now looking back how my narc had me completely hooked to the point I had no reality of my own , I saw everything through THEIR eyes , their control was that strong . Now more than two years on I finally have my OWN outlook and truth back ! The trauma bond is a very powerful thing , it haunts you LONG after they have gone or you have walked away ! With the right guidance , support and information from forums like this , I am living proof that you CAN rebuild and protect yourself moving on . If I can do it , anyone can 💪THANKYOU SO VERY MUCH , ANDREW ! Happy Easter 😎🙏❤️

[@colleenrobinson8372]

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[@jacklimcortez7660]

This just happened to me as I am moving forward 🙏❤️ trying to be peaceful with all people This will help I pray and leave things in God's hands I know this is necessary to heal and grow God says do not be afraid I will help you 😊it is important to know the truth about people to protect ourselves THANKS for sharing your wisdom 💙 have been through that before without knowing what was going on very helpful ❤️😊🙏🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌🙏💯

[@coffeegirl6854]

Again. Let me repeat this. Thank you dear Andrew.❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome ❤️🙌

[@LoAnnCook]

By the grace God i have a sound mind. I finally accepted the truth of who he is it was hard to believe the truth.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌🙏

[@masonjr3]

It's taken me 50 years to realize my dad abandon me when I was a baby. I've always tried to have a relationship with him & always criticized me for the dumbest things.

[@zazagabora2]

'Begin living your best life' That sentence is so empowering after getting out of the clutches of a narcissist.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏😌💪

[@nanam9179]

When I was quiet he used to tell me "You don't have anything to say?" And when I spoke He started filming me with his cellphone and telling me that he was going to show everyone how crazy, low and the type of woman I was... now he is gone with the Thai masseuse that he met. We were married for 21 years. Hell on earth.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯😌

[@Light_1966]

As I’ve healed and grown, your content has resonated more. Thank you

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌🙏😌

[@catebartley9865]

My best weapon is silence now he loved my pathetic incessant calling during his two hour trip to store.

[@tamerastone4732]

My silence is golden!!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@marcialussier2467]

Once again thank you Andrew. I'm still struggling. After not seeing him for over a year, I allowed him to come and visit me where I moved 2,000 miles away. I was now sober for three years, and I was able to view him from a completely different place, his Monumental ego, his strange habits, boring as hell if he wasn't drunk or high, heavy drinking, just strange. And yet of course I'm still struggling. It seems so absurd. I remind myself of all the awful things he did. I still need your messages to keep me afloat so I don't drown. Thank you so very much again for giving your time to do this wonderful work. Much appreciated.

[@MrJunkspamo]

I am in love with my boss who is a narcissist psychopath. He love bombed me at first. Loved everything about me. And complimented everything about me. Then turned psychopath. Today he shouted at me in the most violent way as he chased me around work. I wish I had recorded it. So I quit my job. I really liked my job. I really loved him. So sad!😢

[@Mickey-hl5gv]

I like to think of it as being selective silence. What I mean by this is that they love it when the silence benefits them. As long as your not exposing what they are doing to you and/or others, they're fine with you being silent. However, when the silence is about you refusing to give them the attention they want, when they want it, and how they want it, that's when they have a problem with it. They ABSOLUTELY HATE IT!!💯🤟🦋🔥

[@Mickey-hl5gv]

When people can, they should stand up to the abuse and not stay silent. That's what the narcs want you to do. When their victims aren't able to stand up to it, that's when the narcs love the silence is what I was saying

[@kathleendubois7128]

Definitely agree!

[@Cowgirlkate]

Finally able to do this now; it takes time, and developing the essential boundaries. Peace and blessings to all. Thank you, Brother Andrew! 🌸

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏😌🙌

[@tracybonner9148]

Peace and Blessings to you, also! 🙏😔💔💕💞❤️‍🩹

[@rickm6076]

When you understand them and you see these tactics, they use in action and get the Hoovers etc. you realize how truly pathetic they actually are. Like it’s actually sad.

[@bethmcbride9637]

Ll0ooo

[@sharenee7428]

I’ve been silent for a year and a half now meaning I blocked that a.. and since then I never looked back! That’s my silence, him never being able to speak to or attempt to contact me 😂❤

[@treelover1050]

I found what and who he really was. Once I was away from him I knew talking with him was useless. So I decided to be silent and live my own life and use my energy on my behalf. He is a user who deserves nothing from me.

[@gigigogo41]

Andrew, thank you. ❤️ Great knowledge in wisdom as always . 😘👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..💜🙏😌

[@esmelouise9046]

i told my narcissist at the end of the relationship "i'm not a science project" and that was it she knew i knew and the mask was off and after that it was a half assed effort to put it back on but she just knew when the narcissist knows you know it's done...if you know what i'm talking about you've been through the same stuff i have

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@luzeyden6527]

Yes. So true. When he was caught cheating with one of Cáncer nurse ! Probably the 3rd one. He said: we are done, and I know divorce is the way! We were in the flat in Sandwich. I told him I wanted to go back home. Spain. He bought me the ticket, when I got home I block him of from Watsap, instangram, but he wrote a letter in my e-mail that we want to settle things amigable, I never answered, keeping silent. And I am working on myself. Day by day. Peace is blessing 🙏 thank you for listening.

[@starttakinnotez]

I don't take the high road you talk about. I say it's narcissistic abuse and I explain. I show proof. I tell them how to bait the narcissistic rage out of her to see for themselves. I educate everyone on narcissistic abuse. I also set boundaries with them and if they can't respect them I block them. Life is so great. A lot of people are informed and happier because of me!

[@rubymcclain5078]

Exactly. I’ve never known about narcissism until the last year or so. I’m empathetic to the nth degree so I think I’ve always attracted narcissistic friends and relatives. My eyes are open now after suffering depression, anxiety, low self esteem, and basically PTSD. I have to pray not to fall prey to these evil beings again.

[@kindheart9676]

@Ruby McClain You're a wonderful human being ❤

[@donnahalsted7718]

@@kindheart9676 AMEN TO THAT! Yes, shouting it out loud. You are!

[@ameliagrandma5197]

Same here 🤗

[@rachelmisc]

Exactly. I reached my limit + went no contact. Now living peacefully + feel better each day. Sadly, it was family members which is much harder but doable. 👍😎🙏🏻

[@karishort1891]

Once you realize you are being shut down or silenced -- it is a very good time to DETACH EMOTIONALLY!!!! Great video 🙏🙏🙏

[@BrendaBlack-sx7so]

Love you too, Andrew.

[@MAJENMOTHER]

Silence is golden! It’s how I’m surviving!

[@barbarakrall1184]

He did control my haircolor, but then you know that. Yup, I am taking the high road.now. But I can't move out yet.

[@boondock8082]

They also never say sorry! Im not sorry for setting boundaries! Thank God i have the strength

[@imnoel8214]

Dogs are wonderful (and cats too)! When it comes to a narcissist, unbroken silence is power. For me maintaining that silence has been crucial for healing, and it's gotten easier and easier with time, with growing knowledge, awareness, self love, and self trust. I've made lists of the ways narcissists have treated me badly, for reference whenever I've been visited by self doubt. Was I really right about them? Yes, I was right. They cannot feel like I would in their place; to them, I'm just an appliance that stopped working. Hard to accept, but true. Truth is the daughter of time. Namaste to all survivors and lovers of peace!

[@annadonahue4119]

TY for the suggestion of making that awful but necessary list... 👍🏻... for those times when my heart remembers what felt like their goodness.

[@tawanda001]

❤️

[@graveyardghost2603]

I went to a restaurant with my narc sister and a few others. I did my silence thing, and I could tell my sister was very confused! But it left me in peace, andi had a great dinner 😁

[@zazagabora2]

This guy is so good and everything he said is true, he is great! Can't wait for more.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏😌

[@alexandranoone3195]

Brilliant wisdom ,namaste

[@lindalonsbury5362]

Yes I am still stuck here and constantly silenced and told how to speak, and told how poorly I speak, etc. Ugh, because speaking is a right and they want to take your rights away because they are unethical and domineering and also cruel.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌🙏

[@lindalonsbury5362]

It is so wonderful that you are here each and everyday.....its a gigantic support ❤️

[@mrs.latoyamelvin652]

Im learning to protect myself from this evil, pray for me im trying to be strong now that i know whats mentally going on & being told to get out in my circumstances im experiencing this & pray God protects me

[@ninadallarosa3383]

you are correct they see ALL people as disposable. so true.

[@ting1084]

i am now silent with intention, ignoring and grey rocking ..

[@Unchained32]

I just escaped 6 months ago. You just described the same lady I wasted 6 years on. Wish I seen this video a long time ago. I Seen her yesterday for the first time this year. I said hi and finished doing what I was doing! It was my first test and I’m proud of myself. Thanks for the pep talk as well..

[@sandrablake2362]

You have much to learn yet my friend 😪! When you spoke to her you opened the door again to give her supply from you👎🏻😩! She knows now you are still within her control. Don’t be surprised if she doesn’t reach out to you again and be so sweet and apologetic! PLEASE DONT RESPOND TO HER AT ALL! TRY TO NIT FREQUENT ANY OLACES YOU WILL SEE HER OR COME IN CONTACT WITH HER😫! You will get sucked back in before you know it! COLD TURKEY IS THE INLY WAY TO FREE YOURSELF! ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT. NOT EVEN VISUALLY😤👎🏻! I know, I was married to one for 42 years 😪😫😩😱👹😤👎🏻!! I’ve been free 6 years and the only way I did it was ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT! No letters no calls no maybe seeking to find out what she’s doing NOTHING 👊🏻! She doesn’t feel the void like you do. She misses being able to run her toxic cycle on you. She NEVER LIVED IR CARED ABOUT YOU! ITS ALL A FACADE THE NARC PLAYS. Keep watching these videos about Narcs and it will enlighten you on more of their evil ways and tactics you need to be aware of so you won’t be victimized by her again. You are looking at her from your perspective of emotions and feelings. Narcs can’t feel normal emotionally about love affection commitments ect. Please be safe my injured friend 🙏🏼. God Bless

[@eduanolivier7462]

Thank you for your caring and experience Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@christopher6323]

My wife isn't a narcissist. Nothing of how you describe narcissists applies to her. I feel happy and blessed for this. Namaste!😊

[@n0_XcusZ]

So, if that is the case. Why are you here on the channel?

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@Gerald321]

@@n0_XcusZ He might have a narcissistic parent. I found these videos due to a narcissistic Dad x

[@n0_XcusZ]

@@Gerald321 that’s a possibility, but in this particular instance, he was referring to his wife. Which implies that something has gone seriously wrong in his relationship. I can relate. A happy person, in a healthy relationship doesn’t have any reason for being here. In my case, and speaking from complete honesty, I came upon channels such as this because topic’s like these begin to resonate with me in my own marriage. Yes, it’s the ups and downs, the bread crumbing, the makeup sex, and the promises of change, etc. and I wanted to believe that. That gave me hope. So, I would be on and off these channels a lot until I was just mostly on rather than off. Again, healthy couples don’t have a reason for being here. A few arguments ever blue moon is not going to bring someone here. The only reason I believe that a person comes to these channels is because something extremely toxic is going on in their relationship. Otherwise, what’s the point unless your working on a degree in psychology.

[@brendadrew834]

Thank you! "Silence IS golden" after 35 years of narcissistic abuse from my toxic dysfunctional family of origin and from toxic dysfunctional 'frienemies' and a 42 year marriage to a malignant narcissistic sociopathic real Dr. Jekyll/Mr Hyde! "Free at last, thank god I'm free at last"! There is a light at the end of the tunnel, the god/goddess force! "May the Force be with you!" Peace, love and namaste~

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome ☀️😌🙏💯

[@NinaXXX-t5f]

That is right, nobody should be silenced or told how to feel or think. ❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@catlady715]

With the first narcissist husband, anytime I dare stand up for myself I would be subjected to a rage fit. The second narcissist husband would give me the silent treatment. Both are hurtful & childish. The first narcissist passed away, that's how I got out of that Hell. The second one I divorced and all he is getting from me is crickets. I am working towards feeling indifferent towards him. Some days on my healing journey are really rough but this channel & community help a lot.

[@sandrablake2362]

Keep moving forward👊🏻! DONT KEEP LOOKING IN THE REAR VIEW MIRROR 😩! Focus on YOU because what you had with the Narc was a FULL BLOWN FACADE👹! He sent his representative out to meet you 😤😫! There’s no one home in his body😱! He’s a hollow soul who has been taken over by an EVIL DEMON👿! They can only do bad. Their love bombing period is very short lived. After that first love bombing you will NEVER HAVE ANOTHER ONE😪👎🏻! It’s on 😵👹! After that they will run the complete NARC CYCLE ON YOU AND REPEAT IT OVER AND OVER. THEY WILL SUCK EVERY BIT OF YOUR ENERGY AND YOUR PERSONALITY COMPLETELY AWAY FROM YOU IF YOU ALLOW IT! You will NEVER BE THE REAL YOU AS LONG AS YOU ARE WITH A NARC. I call it their refueling they do from you. It’s called supply that one gives them. Without it they dry up✋!!! Most of them when they age become meaner, more abusive and can take your life. When left alone in their old age and others have leT them be because they see they are disgruntled grouchy mean and evil. No one comes around them any longer and many end up taking their own life. What a sad miserable ending 😵!

[@moiracistola1112]

I speak OPENLY about it ALL now. My secrets kept me sick. I'm not sick anymore. I am living my best life with such joy. My now husband is the antithesis of what the narc was. I am aware the narc tries to spy in on my social media periodically and I just laugh...I am genuinely indifferent to anything about him. My life is so very good ❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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