Narcissist Feed Us to Their Family -

The narcissist's birth family are aware of the narcissist's issues and problematic nature, but will often sacrifice the narcissist's new partner's well being to obtain some relief from the narcissists demanding nature. Thus, the family may welcome you in, and also use your supply to feed their own toxic narcissistic dynamics.
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[@starseeds8121]

The covert narcissist DEFINITELY thinks they are a good person when they are not. I can validate that observation.

[@denisefisher2782]

The covert narcissist I encountered triangulated me with his daughter. When I realized what he was I now see why he played the victim narcissist widower. His poor wife hanged herself from a tree and I can see why she'd done that. You're right they are functioning lunatics. Unbelievable deliberate pain and deadly harm they cause to good loving warm HUMAN BEiNGS. They are non human species definitely.

[@tamaliaalisjahbana9354]

His poor, poor wife. What she must have suffered from that functional lunatic.

[@lisakaler4121]

Wow! How did his wife die Denise? Because people get sick from these creatures all the time.

[@denisefisher2782]

@@lisakaler4121 apparently she put 3 dog leads together climbed up some wooden steps and did it in the English countryside, all alone.OMG ,how lonely sad and painful is that? The complete annihilation of oneself as sacrifice to covert narcissist.

[@lisakaler4121]

@@denisefisher2782 Thank you for answering me Denise. That is so sad. I'm so happy you got away and recognized that he was trying to triangulate you with his daughter. These channels and stories are setting people free, thank you and God Bless you. 😘

[@sharonshepard2628]

Yes indeed I am sorry too hear that

[@starseeds8121]

They definitely use family as reinforcement. In my life they also used religion as an extra tool as well.

[@user-ss8fc2yz2q]

Yes. He would always bring God into his excuses. Blaming God. Spiritual abuse. There is no accountability. Horrible. ❤

[@northofthefray]

Wow!! I wondered this because my ex took me straight to his family for everything. He doesn't take the ns around his family. His family was the tool for me because I am family oriented. It was another tactic to pull me away from my family and isolate me as fast as possible. Thank you for sharing. I love your videos. 💜 They love bombed me and made me feel like I was one of their own. They are an evil bunch.

[@NarcCon]

Just Say No to Narcs a heartfelt thanks beautiful woman...Your act of kindness to me has picked me up where I had fallen and put me back on my journey after Hoover interaction..I’d see it as god sent to come at such a time..it also inspires me to stay in this army and keep fighting for good brothers and sisters in arms 🌹☀️🙏

[@psychictruth5037]

@@NarcCon 💯👏👏👏

[@b1rds0ng57]

This is exactly what I'm going through. I'm so utterly heartbroken from everything he took from me, and then how cold and distant his mum was to me the other day. It feels like the pain is never going to end

[@Summermoon7.]

Yup I figured out it was a narcissistic cult dynamic. Ex was 39 and lived in his mothers house with the rest of the family. Mind you everyone in that family has slept with each other at some point: he asked me to move in the first 2 weeks after meeting but told me that I’d have to send my 10 yo child to live with her dad as she couldn’t come. He worked on me trying to get me in there and the mother who (didn’t like me at first) was so sweet to me and love bombed me. Soon enough he found a supply easy to control and moved her in and then the whole fam turned against me and helped him abuse me. They have this girl up on the pedi stall now and his mother is saying she will adopt her.. weird being she’s in her mid 30s. This supply gave up her child to live with him and I wasn’t doing that! I can dare even think about what the future holds for this supply in that house, she’s completely brainwashed and thing they all love her. They have a history of doing this with women.

[@NarcCon]

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[@ms.rashay]

Was sent here by “just say no to narcs” I’m sending support n love. Thank you for being apart of my healing ❤️

[@NarcCon]

Riche’ Denson thank you 🙏

[@starseeds8121]

They did make me feel like an animal for sure. The way I was treated was like an animal.

[@uradalic5969]

Oh my God ... exactly. He took me to meet his father after only three weeks. We "happen to be near his house", so he asked if I am willing to meet him. Never again did we go to that caffe near his house. His father praised me as if I was the revard his son always deserved. Thinking back, his father, and possibly late mother were narcissists aswell. They thought their son was a little god.

[@pauleastwood3694]

I had exactly this, I felt bullied as she was going to her sister and brother about every argument and telling them all the details including showing them my messages I sent her. All 3 of them had a very very darkness about them, evil

[@bruji2001]

Omg! Paula you’re absolutely spot on! Like a pack of hungry wolves! Narcissists & enablers of different types. Horrendous all of them. Bless you and thank you for such a brilliant video! 🤗

[@NarcCon]

Thank you Bruji for your support 🌹🙏

[@bruji2001]

@@NarcCon 💓

[@emilytaylor1001]

Yes! My ex-narcissist would be on his family of origin side when he was drinking. He let to have in our house all parties for years: drinking, smoking, listening to loud music and all while we had 6-18 months old babies. No empathy. It was my codependancy issue, I was afraid of my ex-narcissist. But no more. 6 months no contact. ♥️

[@KristineLange-kb1ep]

I’m watching you 3 years on and I’m so grateful you didn’t give up! You address concepts no one else does. Lots of “experts” just regurgitate the worn out haggard Wikipedia explanations. You however, are fresh and very insightful. You discuss new concepts, new questions, things we targets have all had questions about but you actually address. Or experts talk about the in-your-face overt Narc but don’t understand the covert Narc’s evil world. You do. And for that I’m grateful. This vid actually explains why my exhusband demanded we spend every Sunday with his family. For 17 years I did that. If I wanted to do something different, he pitched an all out temper tantrum that would make a toddler envious. Then he’d frost me out, ghost me, I paid dearly. When I left my ex, I heard crickets from his family. You finally explained it. Thank you!

[@NarcCon]

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[@starseeds8121]

This has helped me understand how I was used and manipulated in my own family, thanks. There definitely feels like there is a psychological prison created by the narcissist that has been very hard to get rid of or get out of.

[@oddysod]

I moved to the countryside in Ireland. And that's how it is everywhere here. My last manager said "sure, we all lie!"

[@user-dd3ny4xb3w]

He didn't take me to his family right away, but has done this with his ns even before he discarded me. They love her!

[@jackgoodings]

I think, for me, the most validating thing you said was about the rejection from not only the narc but from the whole family .. and the social circle around them. I really embraced her family .. both exes. And it's the most painful, biggest betrayal, jaw-dropping unbelievable thing. Hugely difficult .. to be part of the family, and then you're nothing. The BIGGEST loneliest pain .. and it takes years to recover from, the whole experience. And your own kids are engulfed in it .. and you cant get in .. they close up around them. You literally .. lose .. everything! And when you realise, you then have to do your utmost to not let them see that pain. If you've survived this, you are one amazing heart and tough cookie. Crikeys.

[@sheilamurry9875]

Very well said,Jack and the Narcs. I did express my feelings at them a few times,but it was not planned,it just all what you said in your comments, Our children (I like how you said ENGULFED in it) (i used to say the children are in the crossfire) when they were getting toooo close and all (invisible threats/court system)I was getting and that's when I spoke the truth and boy,narcs of all shapes and sizes young and old DO NOT LIKE TO HEAR THE TRUTH. But you think to yourself they never heard anyway before or after the illusion. So it was tough and I made. Let the NARCS BE WITH THE NARCS

[@user-qv9nw1dq2f]

It is so very true Pola. The narcisists are created in families and their families reinforce the invisible walls of the mental prison the narcissist puts us in. It is really dangerous to get involved with the narcissist and then with their family as well. As you mentioned there might be some empaths who do not have the power or will to walk away from the dysfunction and it only creates more confusion, doubt and anxiety in you when you want to leave .

[@randallbrinkman2570]

Yes. I have experienced all that , toxic . I was a sitting duck , was looking for family , without the understanding of what a healthy functiinal family was , and fed to my ex,s family is exactly what it was . Got involved , and learned the hardway when i got burnt , and my ex found it entertaining , thsts the way they are , and you didnt warn me , i wouldnt do that to my worst enemy . Recognized then the woman who i married , who gave the impression , of being so loving , and tender , had a very dark , troubled , and seared side . Wolves always single out the vulnerable , and they can wear a disguise of a lamb .

[@dreamlessdemand]

you are one of my favourite narc-related channels. thank you! 🙏

[@winnifredcox]

My narc got me fooled by introducing his small child in a very early stage... I would never do that until i was sure about the person.

[@katgray63]

This helped so much.I have tried to explain this to people but they never understand.The pain when the whole family discards you and all start smearing you is brutal.I had a child with the narcissist and they love bombed and then when I was horrified to find out he was cheating and doing drugs.The whole double life betrayal and I went to the family for support they blamed me and said I was overreacting and tried to get me to return with a new born baby.Unbelievable cruelty.When all the masks of people you trusted come off the pain is breath taking

[@lynneivison5773]

absolutely. invited to huge family within a week

[@briankwiatkowski1733]

Same here. My ex female covert narc threw me right into her family. Within 2 weeks I have met every member of her family, including her brother who lived out of state. Most of her family lived close to her, so I was always with the family. Little did I know her mother was the queen narc. Explains why the mother always had me over her house fixing stuff. I think I was over her parents house every other day doing some kind of project. Losing the entire family at discard was probably the hardest part. Luckily I still retain a close friendship with her neurotypical brother. Throwing you into the family works like a charm, it makes leaving during devaluation extremely difficult. I held out during devalue just because I didn't want to walk away from the family, they were all good to me, except the mother used me like crazy. I was definitely an extension of her mother, she treated me like a possession.

[@AsheepAtthewheel101]

OMG. My covert narc ex triangulated me with her phycopathic head narc sister.....for years. It was brutal. I was married to all if them (3) and scape goated to the bottom and treated like garbage...ex would never stand up for me or support me and then I figured out why. It was all on purpose. I was like their feeding trough. She brought someone into the family they could all feed from so they could Elevate themselves to feel Superior. It was sick and twisted evil and cruel and she pretended she had no idea what I was talking about. It was vile. Wow! Cant believe I just found this video. Thank you for validating my horrible experience they all deny. I am in the process of court and the denial is going to fail there!

[@christinafreefromnarcs5948]

Yes! So true! Thank you for helping us heal. This is my only support videos like this . No one else understands ! It’s hard not to feel like I’m crazy until I hear videos like this, that sound so similar to my experiences. Forty seven years of a family of narcissists .

[@NarcCon]

Christina FreefromNarcs 🙏🌹

[@jaradonwigington1936]

I experienced this absolutely right, and I tried to reach out to them on Facebook because I have kids with the narcissist and the kids live with me, anyway they never have responded to any attempts. Now that I look back it still pains my heart but what comes to my mind is I wasn't alone after all because my father and his angels were with me and not a hair on my head was harmed. To make a long story short I was naive and moved with the narcissist to her home town which is a county across a mountain from my home I could have easily been hurt or killed.

[@denisefisher2782]

Please continue. You're great .

[@NarcCon]

Denise Fisher thank you very much

[@denisefisher2782]

Thankyou you're amazing! Speak the truth everytime. Saying it as it is. Glad I got to see your actual face walking on the beach the other. Fantastic. You help so much, to confirm that it was all crazy making by morally insane predators.

[@margaretsanfran7317]

OMG...EXACTLY WHAT HE DID A LIFETIME AGO....& EXACTLY WHAT HE DID WITH HIS LATEST SUPPLY & ON LEAVING RAN TO HIS FAMILY AND U GOT IT HE HAD ME STRANGED FROM MINE .....AND YES THEY GOT NASTY & I STAYED AWAY ...HIS DAD WAS DECENT STRANGELY ENOUGH THE LUNATIC THINKS HE IS HIS DAD...MAGICAL THINKING ON HIS PART YET AGAIN ...

[@annemann9134]

You are looking refreshed and beautiful...you will heal very very nicely...it has been great information...blessings to you from across the pond...

[@kirkhogan2688]

This is bang on, I was invited to meet her daughters and sons straight away, The red flags I had disappeared as why would a narc invite me to meet her kids, I got on great with one of her daughters and would turn to her , if I was getting silent treatments etc,from her mum, as I didn't get it , I even told her how worried about her mum when she thought she had cancer, Once I got discarded I was blocked by her daughter, found out that the cancer was all a lie and her daughters were as narcassitic as she was... I told her narc mum that the apples don't fall far from the tree, I then got smeared and it was used as the excuse for the discard.... Luckily for me I kept the text she sent me stating I'd done nothing wrong, and that she had just fell out of love with me, and didn't want to belittle me with slagging me off, She wanted to stay friends, I declined this, and knew she'd been cheating and been highly toxic and abusive to me, This video is bang on, Love your videos.

[@NarcCon]

Awful stuff Kirk..many blessings now for you 🌹🙏

[@kirkhogan2688]

Yeah, Got my head back together, nearly All my friends and family still don't believe what I tell them, Your videos help, as I was thinking I was going potty 4 months of peace, She won't hoover, she nws I nw.

[@starseeds8121]

We have to push each other to keep going.

[@philwertz9936]

This is spot on… I wish more people could see this and will share

[@sherryc1498]

Wow! It’s like you are describing my life. They all seemed so genuine but at the same time some were jealous of me. I thought we were getting close but they were actually flying monkeys reporting back to the narc. It is very dangerous and sick 😩

[@sheilamurry9875]

Oh yeah,they talk about you behind your back. Just like when you met them."What were they doin"????.....talking about somebody else to you and you didn't ask any questions.

[@Scorpio200]

I just seen this video I being watch all your videos old and new.. this video is 1000% truth word for word that is exactly what happened to me with the narcissist and his mother and his ex-wife and his daughters and an aunt and a couple of cousins they called me a blessing thought I was wonderful because I had brought the narcissist up out of the dirt to get him back in good graces with his wealthy enabling narcissistic mother I was completely used by him and he drained my resources until his mother replaced all of his after mine were drained financially mentally spiritually and at the end of the day I was left with nothing and he had gotten a new home a new truck a new job through his mother mask came off she was all too happy to help me leave not work it out this a woman that thought I was a blessing to the family A year prior and how could her son have found such a wonderful woman and now in a 10 minute conversation she was like I'll help you pack I was floored then I realized the sick relationship between him and his mother and the Dysfunctional Family I was a new toy you are so right on with this video in the family Dynamics

[@theforensicbadass]

Paula!!! Look at you now! From 100 subs to 6,000!!! How wonderful. Congratulations. And thank you so much for being so brave so vulnerable so helpful to all of us. Youve been so wonderful to listen to during a relapse period ive been dealing with the narcissist hovers. By the way, ive dealt w narc army of his amd new supply family going in 3 years. Its insane and painful bc all we want is to be left alone.

[@NarcCon]

❤️🙏

[@darrellbutler884]

❤ I feel for you and anyone this senerio has happened to. Like game being brought home for noshing. I experienced this exactly. I didn't have one with love, but they became monkeys with sharp teeth with the dismissal. With the grace of God I was sheltered from severe damage.

[@itsallaboutnothing2672]

Thank you Please keep going!

[@NarcCon]

I will a lot has happened to make me stop but I will much love and appreciation

[@kaytiedidd1780]

You are SO describing my husband's family! Wow! One man, however, once humorously described my husband's family as the the English pea, because people say they are all so much alike. Pick the pea from the vine in the garden, rip open the shell; the peas fall and scatter; just pick them up, place them back into ANY indentation in the shell, and they fit perfectly and comfortably. Simply close the shell back, and it looks as though it has never been touched! That SO ACCURATELY describes them. Thank you for your kind videos.

[@fidelmashelton9491]

A pack of Vampires on a hunt. 😈

[@NarcCon]

👀😊🌹

[@Scorpio200]

His mother bought me things purses fur coat gorgeous furniture for the new house she had provided for us but it was really for him I thought she was wonderful but I seen it was a game with her also that no other woman would hold value in his eyes but her even though she had completely cut him off but then when he found someone that was presentable had a good job he could show to his mother then he gained value in her eyes again and she went overboard I did see who created the monster in the end.

[@lisatyler659]

Please continue your videos for us. You are helping SAVE many of us. Thank you and God bless.

[@NarcCon]

Blessings to you Lisa and thanks

[@RosasResources]

I just can't believe it, it's like being in a dream.

[@billfitzpatrick8148]

For 35 years, her family treated me well, but since the discard nearly 3 years ago, none of them has had the decency to reach out and hear my side of things.meanwhile, my family was on the phone to her consistanly , asking, wtf is going on?

[@NarcCon]

Very telling Bill..

[@audreyconway7846]

These videos are absolute fantastic 👏 Thank you so much 💓

[@maxjohnson4354]

Yes it’s true the old family knows what’s going on they will help the narcissist all the way

[@juliacross2713]

Exactly spot on Paula Thank you .I got on to them some years into the marriage,they were a jangling family who all met at mother's house , he would always come home a different person, I finally cut myself off from them , so it made more issues because I refused to be involved with the janglers

[@theharringtons2010]

Your channel is amazing..you are spot on about this..everything you said happened to me..

[@NarcCon]

Thanks Hilary..blessings to you 🌹

[@simonfidler696]

Thanks for another great video

[@-Godlovesme-]

Thank you so much this makes complete sense to me. My narcissistic husband wanted me to do things with his family but my family in his opinion we're all crazy and effed-up. I now know that his family carry a lot of dysfunction and I just didn't care to see it but now looking back there were so many things that I just wasn't putting together. I hope you keep making videos I am watching newer ones now, but because you are just awesome, I'm back here in the older section, watching the first videos you did.. I hope one day I can do something similar you are so inspiring. Thank you so very very much I hope that you stay blessed.!

[@NarcCon]

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[@padosipano7886]

Amazing 💐🙏

[@fidelmashelton9491]

Spot on. 👍

[@michellerose7591]

This is the experience I had

[@lynndyer9292]

This happened to me when I was nineteen.

[@yauneeplantbeautyservices3135]

Love your time story telling pace knowledge so easy to absorb and fresh points of view Don't stop 🥂🍾🌹🌿

[@NarcCon]

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[@majolie555]

I think they also bring you into the family soon so that they can begin all the triangulating and drama , badmouthing you yo the family, badmouthing the family members to you…. just creating ill feelings, criticism, distrust etc etc. Very unhealthy and very unsafe, while the narc is acting the ‘victim’ .

[@missbcritiques9209]

Yep!!!!

[@Lulu-bt6cj]

My first experience that something was just not right. When the mother sneakily told me she would be happy to break us up. I was so shocked at this from an old women to another grown woman. I told him immediately but knew more drama would follow. A few minutes later his sister pulled up to see the mother a minute later his phone ringing. Mams crying! So he went up so did I, mams crocodile tears to daughter she was so upset. 'So was I' shed said something truly awful to me and I'd told him. So in that situation I had him and his sister gang up on me for upsetting his mother. I felt so shocked and threatened by this. Having just moved country for him. To be bullied in this way. Prior to this happening I'd experienced this old woman's cruelty locking doors so I couldn't get out back door and would have to walk through where they all sat. Shed turn the heating off so freezing in his bedroom. He was going to digard at that stage years for upsetting his mother! I was so shocked. He changed his mind he said his sister had said if you live her don't let her go. Hed also said which I found strange that his sister would make it difficult for me as she would tell the women in the locality not to like me? I was so shocked never experienced this before. I was prior to this very good friends with his other l sister in country I left. I had no idea they were like this. Said I was posh totty ! All very close infact oddly close relationship with the sister who seemed to rule the roost. At the latter I said to him in used to autonomous adults. Not a group of middle aged adults still dependent on mother for their identity. It's a shame but one relief is not having to hear the whining of these big children. The energy was so negative for me from this one woman it made me feel physically sick being around her. But she's popular in her circle and sure has good friends. But in relationships you can't be forced to like everyone surely. Even if you try? Not everyone is comparable and the initial behaviour and aggression towards me didn't help. Even on a first long outing she accompanied us and took away special moments. And wondered of with him. I was shocked. It's like we've had our fill now.

[@Lulu-bt6cj]

I had broken the rules and we had enjoyed a couple of Christmas together without his tribe. It was bliss. Relaxing and enjoyable. Not a series of miserable faces playing head games with each other day in and day out year in year out. I remember initially thinking this is like a scene from the family at chain saw massacre. Very odd. But had no idea of the full gravity back then xx

[@belladonna70]

we need to understand this, it is so manipulative .

[@-Godlovesme-]

Oh my gosh you're going to think I'm crazy leaving all of these texts, but I was texting while watching and had to add this because I watched the end just now. Sorry I'm a bit of a scatterbrain but you said at the end that they have to get you involved quickly and early on with our family. I just remembered that my narcissistic husband took me when we were first dating to a funeral to see his grandfather whom I had never met ever in my whole life and he was Tethered to a bed and was combative and was dying. It was the first time thinking back that I ever met his mother. And actually actor that he passed I met his whole family mostly at a funeral house sick I thought it was rather weird I didn't know anyone. But I honored his wishes when he asked me and did go but looking back what a sick twisted game they play.

[@goldbrick2563]

My brother's a narc currently on wife #2...i am am empath and keep my distance b/c i know she'll be gone eventually. It's sad, but i dont waste my time getting involved deeply. I know i'm a prop, i just play my part on holidays and make bet to myself when the split will occur.

[@jacqueshowell1400]

My ex narc parents lack eductation the father had a gambling addiction and her mother was always telling gossips of everyone in the neighborhood but they always treated me with respect but my ex was very disrecpectful to her mother something I disagree with that behaviour....Her parents were divorced...my ex narc was their only child...

[@mendey14]

You are a beautiful princess

[@monicabelle8581]

Best

[@psychictruth5037]

Narc con 💯👏👏👏

[@tamaliaalisjahbana9354]

It's so strange: the narcissist that I knew used a tribal face mask as his photo on his WhatsApp photo. It looks just like the one that the cannibals are using on your film. I guess before one even got to know him he was already announcing that he would kill you and eat you.

[@NarcCon]

Tamalia Alisjahbana strange 😊

[@denisefisher2782]

Hi Tamalia that's not so strange to me ex covert narc gave me photo of himself , holding up a crocodile, whilst he was abroad on one of his jaunts. I think the meaning of that ,was that crocodiles, take chunks out of their prey ,then hide them away under rocks, for later consumption. Not dissimilar to hoovering , in my mind. I ripped that photo to shreds when I realized what he was.

[@tamaliaalisjahbana9354]

@@denisefisher2782 I am so glad you got away from him. It's quite horrible, really. I wonder why they do that. In a way tell us through symbols what they truly are. Perhaps there is a small part of them that is still healthy in their subconscious minds and it is that which is desperately trying to tell us who we are dealing with. In a way that can escape the detection of their very sick conscious minds. The vulnerable covert narcissist that I knew actually told me exactly what he was without really realizing it. After weeks of supporting him emotionally and psychologically through all his problems, depression etc I asked for just a tiny bit of acknowledgment for a problem I had. He simply lost it and began screaming at me over the phone, "I used to care about other people's needs but I was abused and now I only care about my needs and what I want. I don't care about other people's needs. And nothing you say can change me. Nothing you say enters my mind. No one can change me but me." His reaction was totally out of all proportion to what I asked for but he was telling me the absolute truth and the sad thing is that I don't think even he could change himself if he wanted to which he does not. So, I take very seriously now what people tell me about themselves, whether directly or through symbols. His subconscious mind was telling me exactly what I was dealing with and it was saying, "Run, lady!".

[@djangoapple8230]

It's not a family. It's a cult.

[@Cherry-kt8zo]

He and his family were drama filled narcissists,especially the males.

[@World-Sojourner.22]

❤

[@SuperSelenochka]

💯❤

[@suzannedesylva3805]

OMG

[@emmasmith5859]

I know it’s not the point but you have very pretty eyes

[@jessicaa.6690]

Can you please tell me what you consider the difference between a co-dependent and am empathy? Aren't most or nearly co-dependent's empathic -- tuned into the emotions & needs of others? When you listed them off & talked about the family members including empaths & co-dependenta at 11:32 , it almost seemed that they were considered different. Thanks

[@NarcCon]

Jessica A. Empaths can be co-dependent for sure but also healthy and just empathic..hope that clarifies thanks for asking

[@jessicaa.6690]

@@NarcCon ok, thank you.

[@patriciajohnson9587]

WHAT IS THE TWIN FLAME 🔥? YOU SPOKE OF?

[@NarcCon]

Patricia..there’s info on utube on this subject..really I use the term as your soulmate match other half..there’s other interpretations

[@fidelmashelton9491]

👍❤🙏

[@collie8]

your experience is a copycat of other narc families, including lasting super "friendship" with his parent. Power. That "closeness" they have, it's called cult family in some 70's psychology.