NARCISSISTIC EMOTIONAL ABUSE | MY STORY + RED FLAGS

[@jelena3757]

As someone who is gone through abusive relationship, I will share some signs that could tell you to run away from that person: 1. Love bombing at first that is so intensive, so that your confidence level goes straight up when you are around that person. 2. Intimidating behavior, when he/she is trying to isolate you from other people, so that you think that jealousy is cute, and that he/she cares, he also wants to know everything about you, he studies you well, what are your triggers, your interests, your goals, so that he/she could provoke you later. 3. Then, they start to sometimes leave a mean comment, and when you confront them, they say something like: "I am just joking/ Don't take everything so seriously/ Relax, you take it too personally." Remember that abuser will always accuse you for the damage they made. These mean comments will become very often as the time goes by. But they will NEVER apologize! 4. Ghosting- they all of a sudden start to ignore you, but they do not want to find a solution to the problem, "because, once again, you hurt their feelings" Read: you are the bad guy again, and they are the innocent flower. 5. Comparing to other people - one form of abuse is also to compare you to another girl/boy. For example, if you are a brunette, all of a sudden he will be so attracted to blonde girls. He could leave comments in front of you, about that girl on social media, or in a real life how sexy someone is with that blonde hair. Remember, he will start to like everything that is opposite from you, just in order to piss you off and make you insecure. If you are long enough in this kind of relationship, he could make you to change your looks. So, be careful. Please remember this, no matter how exausted you are from that relationship, you will be ok. But you have to stay away from that person even if you are attracted to them. If you can, try to show them that they can't trigger you and manipulate you, not with your words, but with your behavior. Show that you don't care and just continue to be yourself. You can also try to treat them as a shit and see their reaction. Trust me, nothing pisses them off more, than realizing that their game is not working on YOU. And then dump them, and offer yourself a lot of love in the process of healing. Add up in comments what are other behaviors abusive partners did to you, and let's educate people how not to let anyone to treat us like shit. ;)

[@emilynelson4609]

He always apologizes and says he’s going to change but never does, he hurts me so much then says he’s sorry he was just angry because of what I did. And that I need to work on myself. He’s never the problem, but he will apologize to flip the fight on me. Idk it hat makes any sense I feel like I’m going crazy

[@emilynelson4609]

Oh it’s also my fault that he feels bad after yelling at me, so he ices me out and becomes all sad so I cater to him to try to make him feel better after he screams at me for forgetting a coupon.

[@jelena3757]

@@emilynelson4609 Oh honey, I get you. But the good thing is that you realise that he is manipulating you. Your brain gets it, but for your heart is hard to let him go. I would suggest you to talk to someone else, who won't judge you and who will be there for you. Start planning with baby steps how to leave him. At the same time try to do a lot of self care whenever you can, literally look yourself in the mirror and repeat affirmations about how much you are valuable and smart, and beautiful, because you are. And don't judge yourself for what are you going through. When you start feeling stronger, cut off the contact with him. It will be hard at first, but at the same time you will feel like you got rid of a huge baggage. Good luck! And if you have the possibility, go to therapy, or at least try following instagram accounts about toxic relationships and how to get out of it. ❤️

[@emilynelson4609]

@@jelena3757 I got help from my family to leave him, but now he’s showering me with compliments and promises of changing, going to therapy and anger management, he’s telling me how he knows he was abusive and wants to change. and that he needs me to live, Im the only girl for him and that he will wait for me for the rest of his life. He has probably has sent me 500 paragraph longs texts over the past 2 days. I don’t know what to do, I hate hurting him, so I promised him I wouldn’t block him. The other thing is he’s homeless without me, I took care of him, made every meal, did all the laundry and dishes, and he wasn’t working at all because he kept getting fired from his jobs because of his anger. Im just worried he’ll suck me back in.

[@jelena3757]

@@emilynelson4609 Oh please, don't go back to him. I know it's hard for you to distance yourself, but know that he is an adult, capable taking care of himself. This is not your responsibility. He won't change, he can only become worse, and you know that. You deserve better.

[@lisaariottiart]

these people have personality disorders -and sex addictions - jezebel gets them- always follow your gut ...it knows -don’t confuse excitement and anxiety when you first meet someone--Ladies take it slow -sex attaches you to these people -hurt people will hurt people...read “the Gift of fear” and heal your self love deficits. ❤️🙏🏻

[@tonasha6952]

Thanks I'll read it. This is a wicked spirit. It's very real

[@ladyoftheveil8342]

They will do anything to get into your pants, mine got a younger woman while he was dating me . I felt I had to step up and sleep with him

[@ladyoftheveil8342]

They can drain the life out of you ! Whether it’s looking at other women or public humiliation

[@ladyoftheveil8342]

It didn’t take him 30 days to start his womanizing ways . I’m feeling like what is wrong with me ???

[@ladyoftheveil8342]

His is shopping addiction and eating addiction

[@lynette599]

This girl is SO intelligent...I am SO impressed by her 'emotional IQ'...

[@Angel-td3kt]

Based on her experience I guessed

[@jaklumen]

@@mrsmallpinky9041 Semantics. Emotional quotient, emotional intelligence quotient.. I don't think it matters to most folks.

[@adela152]

Goals

[@kellypawspa]

"If you don't protect your heart, if you don't know yourself, you can become the victim of what you don't know." Man, I wish someone told me that thirty years ago.... But thanks with a big heart for saying it now. 💙

[@jennSalvate]

Right, so true!! I wish I had heard what you quoted her saying years ago. I have never really had a narcissist in my life to knew the signs until I met one 3 years ago. It to me 2 years to figure it out. It's awful.

[@amixedgoddess]

Amen

[@saintessa]

Flags I've noticed: 1. when the person happens to have eneryone against them and they think it's everyone else and not them. 2. When they call all their ex friends and partners toxic, they abusive ect

[@saintessa]

When they call you abusive for saying something back in an angry or hurt tone. Or when you raise your voice to match theirs when they're yelling at you and then they say you're the one who's abusive and yellling

[@saintessa]

When one thing isn't the problem, it's another. You just hurt them, you don't care nor love them, you just want to be upset it's how you live, ect ect ect projection all the way!

[@taylerrenee9710]

What about if your ex shared the same friend group and one of them was his cousin he lied, an manipulated my friends against me and I have nobody other than my kids. I feel so alone and I feel like I have lost a part of myself (the best parts) I don’t have drive or anything I want to do. I’m so sad all the time and I blame myself for giving him 13 years of my life. I can’t trust anybody I don’t think I ever will. I feel like every one I try to get close to will eventually fuck me over. If I didn’t have my kids I wouldn’t be here physically.

[@joannconboy2838]

@@taylerrenee9710 I have felt all of those feelings and I am sad with you because I was once there. And the pain and loneliness is outrageous. I pray you become free, as least as free as possible in any way you can be. Please believe you are lovable and deeply loved by your Creator. I was in church every Sunday of my life and never heard that. Knowing the truth is what sets you free. People who live all their lives in actual prisons with bars become free. I ask Christ to reveal Himself to you in a way you cannot possibly miss as He did me. Prepare to receive love.

[@chrisk1832]

Actually no to number 1 is both wrong and right they will manipulate people against there target and when you point it out they well turn it around and act like they are the ones being singled out instead

[@ggakaana]

My wounds are so raw, I cried the entire time I was watching. Now I'm sitting here in silence, still crying. I just 'escaped'. It felt demonic, like a poltergeist infested house and as if he became possessed. He turned on me. He became so evil, lying to cause unnecessary legal problems. All I knew is that I felt broken. I had no idea what was happening until about the last 4 weeks thanks to my psychiatrist and God, who enlightened me with a spiritual awareness, I swear, as he was taking to me mid sentence my mind WOKE up....like my inner spirit woke up in my body to a new consciousness. Everything after that not only made sense, but I was able to predict him, understand him, even go back and discover his lies. It blew my mind. My abuse was physical, mental, emotional, financial, spiritual and sexual (lack there of). He was deceptive, controlling & manipulative. He had explosive anger, rage and would break things. It was frightening. I was physically sick. Im healing and recovering. I am not ready to deal with my emotional baggage. One thing for sure....I'm never looking bag. Ever! Its amazing how blind you can be to what is happening.

[@WDBDWK]

What an amazing post. Thank you.

[@sadibarry]

My ex was similar to this, just remember you will be able to get through it. I've been NO CONTACT for the last 5 months & it's been a journey. I've learned a lot & I'm finding myself along the way. You will get thru this!! You'll be more confident & resilient than you ever were. I believe in you!!🤍 Good luck 👍🏽 🌟

[@imaginethat1276]

Dear G. Just came out of a narsicistic relationship.,7 months now.still fill the after effects from time to time.it seems my mind won't let me forget.ive tried.lird knows I've tried.and still trying.getting better though with each new day.took me awhile.was in it much longer than I should have..I thank God for his deliverence.prayed for her change often.not so.in Jesus name bless you hun.i know where your coming from.desire your prayers.will do the same

[@karlashmeedavlasta6365]

Almost killed me. Education is essential, should be mandatory at school.

[@jaklumen]

yes. There are narcissists in the schools, however. I had a band teacher in high school that couldn't keep his violent hands off the students, OR the teachers. He assaulted the choir teacher in full view of faculty and students, and it still took a few more years to finally get him fired. No, it was not his first incident- he was kicked out of another high school for slamming a student up against the wall.

[@katielarsen2630]

It really should, I think more lives have been ruined by narcissistic personality disorder than substance abuse which they spend tons of time teaching about

[@victoriavitoroulis3273]

Narcopaths ..are like sharks they sniff out ppl w childhood wounds , abandonment , ppl who weren't taught boundaries , self love .. they know bc they have the same wounds .. but just took the evil root instead of the empath root .. they suck you into their vortex or web , quick sand and it's hard too get out

[@amixedgoddess]

🙏🏾🙏🏾💯

[@victoriavitoroulis3273]

@Alicia Mulder Duh

[@pjmrees]

YES! Demonic connection to narcissism.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

It’s so deep!

[@hugmc]

Yes they are the sons and daughters off Satan 🤷

[@natashakersey4259]

@@hugmc every were

[@natashakersey4259]

@@hugmc minions

[@kelenl5033]

I think so. He follow the father of lies.

[@HeatherDMorris]

When you realize you were duped it messes with your head for years ! You cant believe it happened and its overwhelming. But, you can move on ! Jesus heals.

[@WDBDWK]

Heather, when you say “Jesus heals” it can hurt people. Religion has been a source of so, so much abuse and has been a vehicle for relationship abuse (my case). Negative religion. A relationship with a higher power is the foundation for getting out of this horrible dynamic, and by saying “Jesus heals” it can chase away empathy inside for others. Not me, because I know where you are coming from. But SO many people who are in need of help may not get it when you say that. The label is loaded. God is love. It simply IS, and it’s important to understand that words are powerful. They can ignite prejudice. Love doesn’t. Here is something that can help a lot in my opinion. Seeing the origin of the problem. Imagine saying “Jesus heals” to a person who could dramatically benefit from this kind of information, and is not religious. Terrible! kzbin.info/www/bejne/g57ElGl3i52VoMk

[@imaginethat1276]

Dear Heather. In agreement with you.in Jesus name bless you hun.🙏🙏

[@kelenl5033]

Duped is a good description and I am not a stupid girl. I just did not know what I was dealing with. I can't trust no men.

[@imaginethat1276]

Dear Heather. Yes it's true.jesus does heal.we must overcome the thoughts and memories of the past.many times that is a battle within its self..the wheels of time do turn.but sometimes they do turn slow.bless your heart dear.hang in there.by the strength of God.and the inner peace that Jesus can only give.we can make it.hun.Gid bless.🙏🏻🌺🙏🏻

[@imaginethat1276]

Dear heather.came out of a narsicistic relationship bout 8months ago.youvate so right.i prayed for her change.it never came.iam doing alot better.the wheels of time turn slow.but they do turn.in Jesus name bless you.sweethear

[@jas2beinspired146]

These type of people don’t walk with god. Well said girl, I went through the same thing. 💯

[@ggakaana]

I just got out of one and after 12.5 years of marriage and feeling spiritually broken as I prayed, trying to save my marriage, he finally admitted he really didn't believe in God. Its the reason they treat others so terribly without remorse or empathy or fear of consequence. Their anger, & depression is because they are empty inside lacking God. I feel sorry for my ex

[@josephwhigham3490]

This boy told me, ''she isn't hurting in anyway if you are her friend then let her just be happy with me.'' I was like he is looking at the relationship like he has his whole world in his hand because he is controlling her. She doesn't have a emotional connection with him, but she does with me. She's a friend and she helped me when I was depressed denying my feelings for her last year when she was nice to me and caring, but I was a jerk to her. She wants to get out the long term relationship, but she can't. It's sad it really is. She's changed in this relationship because she is like depending on him and she use to be a independent women. He knows she never had a boyfriend before, but she is physically attracted to him and he's a narcissist. God knows you were going to go through those things and you need to get out of it the healthy way... tell them straight to their face that you don't want a relationship with them anymore. Pray for those who are suffering from unhealthy relationships.

[@jaklumen]

Jezebel spirit. I was fortunate and did NOT marry a narcissist, BUT.. my family of origin is FULL of them. My mother, my maternal grandmother, my two aunts, and at least one female cousin. I did meet male narcissists, but outside of my family. Like my rage bomb H.S. band teacher.

[@amyjjewel]

Yes ma’am

[@WDBDWK]

@@jaklumen I’m totally on board with you. Note that most people who use the term “Jezebel” remain sick because they would NEVER connect it to “family of origin” as you have. They use the term to describe an abusive relationship and compartmentalize it. Then fall into “good-bad” morality and freeze their healing. Narcissists live in the “good-bad” illusion, and project out onto wounded targets that accept being “all bad” so that they can be “all good”. They do that because they are a false self. They have become an entity. That is evil. Darkness. They aren’t bad. It’s more than that. I can be bad, but I’m here. I can be healed. They cannot. People who leave out attachment (family of origin) won’t be able to heal because they don’t know that the personality disordered person is an absence. Evil. That has nothing at all to do with good and bad, which belongs to the human experience. Who we really are. I don’t know how many people who use the term “Jezebel” have a “family of origin blackout” perspective, but I used to believe it was everyone. The percentage seems to be really, really high. That’s going to scare off people who need this awareness (how serious the situation is).

[@Eskit749]

"Trying to dig a hole in you." That's a powerful realization.

[@Chloe-licious]

This is my fiancé. He is a narcissist. Whenever I share something personal with him he would later use those exact words to insult me and use it against me. Run for the hills. Narcissism has no cure.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

Please do not marry him!

[@Chloe-licious]

@@mariangelaserrano1078 thank you, am mourning because I know the relationship has to end, soon and thanks for the motivation babe. U inspire us to be strong! God bless 💓💓💓

[@tricem.2123]

I understand this. I grew up in a home where my narcissistic father abused my mother. I wasn't taught about boundaries or self love or self worth. Which unfortunately made me a target for a narcissist for 15 years. I lost myself and was severely depressed in that relationship because of all the lies, cheating, manipulation, put downs intimidation and financial abuse. It was when he started targeting my 12 year old son that i said enough was enough. I didn't want him to damage my son. So i left. And I'm one year narc free

[@dicentralyreflora7848]

I feel so sad about you, I'm on a journey of healing and forgiving, My brother is a narcissist and it's quite hard because of the pandemic plus all the insults and abuse.. it's just so hard to forgive him but thank you for giving me a motivation to keep going

[@Niqua10023]

I had that problem too. He still tries to talk to me. I moved on and did not turn back. No more abuse. Just stay away for your safety even if you're stronger. Just leave and move on from it all.

[@lisas8735]

Each story I hear is the same. There may be differences of circumstance, but the pattern is the same. Target, idealize, mirror what you like, love-bomb, overly attentive, get their target into some sort of locked in situation, thennnnn they show their true colors. Berate, belittle, isolate, alienate, insult, blame, gaslight, devalue...then finally discard. Some get hoovered after the split. If the narc can’t find a new target they recycle their old supply. I’ve seen it with my own two eyes. With multiple women too. These people are not curable. They will NEVER live a normal or fulfilled life. They will always be predators. All we can do is educate ourselves and be alert to the warning signs. These people are demonic in nature and, quite frankly, the ones who are so far along the spectrum should be removed from society.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

Lisa Senkbeil I agree, when I was trying to understand my situation and I looked for other people’s stories I realized it’s the same for everyone. That makes me so sad, specially because nobody teach us about this things 🤦🏻‍♀️thank you for watching

[@lisas8735]

mariangela serrano I plan on doing what I can to educate others. Thank you for sharing! I think you’ve open people’s eyes about these behaviors and patterns. Yes, there should be an emotional wellness/boundaries course, or something of that sort, in school. They teach us about many things, but not how to deal with other sick individuals. That’s the real world tho. There’s scary people out there. If people were educated about such things they would be better equip to spot these types of people quicker and maybe also avoid any further attachment to them. Thank you for sharing!

[@bioluminescent6205]

Lisa your last statement is so power and true

[@lisas8735]

Dana Kenney thank you. I hope you and your loved ones are well. Be safe

[@ElizabethGonzalez-ng7zq]

I came across your video because I simply typed on KZbin emotional abuse relationship. Part of the reason why I did is because I don’t even know what to think anymore. Like you mentioned in your video you start to question you own sanity and your self worth. I could relate soooo much to your story. I’ve been married for 3 years and my husband is emotionally abusive when his drunk and at time even sober. There is hardly any information other there or videos about girls talking about this kind of stuff. Just like you I grew up in a family where my parents were divorced and no taught me about self love and self worth. Your video really answered a lot of questions. I can’t believe this kind of stuff happens all the time. Keep making more videos like this please ❤️ so happy that you got out of that relationship!

[@aphroditestan]

It is unfortunately so so common. Luckily there are more brave, resilient women and men coming out w their stories and shedding light, letting ppl know that they're not alone, that this behavior is not "normal" or ok and hopefully empowering them to leave when it's like this. I hope things have improved for you❤❤❤

[@maris661]

Manipulation makes you feel crazy, I think it's sort of like brain washing. A healthy relationship will not leave you feeling confused and questioning your sanity. A healthy relationship also doesn't lower your self esteem. You deserve to grow and be happy

[@MrsNsf74]

When the devil can’t get to you he sends his charming prince . Pray to God you see it coming

[@mariahconklin4150]

Just like Katy Perry’s “wide Awake” song

[@kassandravazquez6040]

30:05 Amen!!! I just discovered i was in an emotional abusive relationship. Now i know he is a narcissist, I feel stronger after this. He was toxic, and I thank you for providing this video to make others heal.

[@TheSLK1973]

When you go through this shit it makes you so wise.....hang in there anyone who is in pain....fight hard ❤

[@amyjjewel]

Narcissist are devils that try to destroy. The devil literally deal with so many I left them all in my life it’s hard to trust

[@christinagrant3252]

What do you mean? That they are devils that try to destroy the devil?

[@amyjjewel]

@@christinagrant3252 Sorry I meant to put a period between destroy and the devil meaning they only try to cause destruction in peoples lives and chaos they are “ The Devil “ in human skin

[@victorialindstrom4633]

This girl is so brave to share her experience. I'm sure she will help so many people.

[@claudiadehoyos2447]

Dr. Carman Bryant and Dr. Romani are wonder teachers that may help you in the recovery 🙏🏼

[@janelleespinosa6247]

The best is HG Tudor who IS a Narcissist and has a completely different approach and also how to divorce one and deal with children. I thought I knew how to extract myself, but his knowledge was invaluable

[@lavonnevalencia7068]

Beautiful

[@justberealalways]

Thank you Claudia💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@kungfupanda1705]

It took me years to figure this out - good for you young one!

[@Lilmissgenesis]

I just got out of one I’m so glad I came across this 🥺💜 My heart goes out to any who’s experienced this or is currently going thru it..

[@keonnaofficial]

Thank you.

[@colindoingstuff3047]

I feel like we all need Jesus and sex is for marriage, and staying pure until you see what is real and then you can save it for true intimacy and the holy spirit can change everything...i rely on prayer and saying...we can do all things through christ and love is patient, kind, charity and long-suffering

[@gigijoon7663]

I swear to you this is not an attack. I just want to put this out into the world. I read a really interesting book about sexual addiction and I was so surprised to find abstinence listed amongst the types. I'm not saying all who restrain themselves are, but there is a type which does and it is explained as "where there is abstinence, there is a constant focus on not having sex" = sex on the mind all the time. It explained the phenomenon of certain types of people for example being attracted to religious positions of authority where you are required not to have sex. 🥰

[@laurynrose1111]

what i got so far from this is that we never knew such peoeple exhisted to deliberately &systematiclly inflicted torment & pain yup, me neither.

[@trisha1217]

You validated my feelings so much you have no idea how much I needed to hear this.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

There is hope for the future 💓💐 I’m sending you a big hug! Keep pushing forward

[@trisha1217]

@@mariangelaserrano1078 Thank you! It means a lot 💜

[@paigebudden26]

I’ve been stuck in this type of relationship for 12 years and I’m still only 28. I now drink alcohol daily to cope. Thank you for this video

[@catherinet6256]

I pray the angels give you the strength & guidance you are seeking🙏...everyone deserves to live in a beautiful state ❤

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

I’m so sorry you went thru this situation Paige, nobody deserves to endure such pain. You are very young, I think time can heal a lot of things but the most important part of it it’s how we use our time while we heal from this emotional wounds. I’m sending you a big hug and I pray God gives you strength and love for you to move on from everything with grace.

[@Fingerscrossedout]

I drank 2 so I could cope with the daily suicide threats and manipulation.

[@gloom_mental1761]

@@Fingerscrossedout I do too

[@writingpad7142]

Paige Budden get out! I became a raging alcoholic because of such a relationship

[@luciostherpos7997]

Wow, yes to everything. I was addicted to the toxic roller coaster.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

It’s very easy to get deceived, but once you see things for what they are you’ll never be the same!

[@luciostherpos7997]

@@mariangelaserrano1078 , so kind of you to reply. Thank you.

[@keonnaofficial]

The excuses I made for them were for my self harming me.

[@jo-annejansen5566]

I was in a relationship and I am so traumatized about everything. I really had to reset, re-organize my brian and restructure myself because I was so emotional but I am getting better day by day. I am literally taking it one step at a time.

[@wendyhannan2454]

Good for you Jo-Anne stay on track, keep watching these videos. I’ve learnt heaps, I’ll never get caught in the narcissistic web again. 🙏

[@jaklumen]

I'm sorry I couldn't stay long enough to watch the entire video just now. Yes, I'm a man. Yes, I managed to marry someone 22 years ago who isn't a narcissist. But my primary narcissist is my mother. She terrorizes my wife, and my two kids. Her mother- my maternal grandmother- finally died last June. She's a narcissist, too. I was her golden child, so Mom made me her scapegoat. My father is from a family of enablers, and he and his brothers ALL married narcissistic women. I don't mean to share my life story off the bat but your video popped up in my KZbin feed and I wanted to you to know that a man is listening, and just a little piece of my experience. What you say about upbringing- I lived that. My family of origin has very little boundaries, if anything. I am working to bring healing boundaries and recovery to my little family. Thanks for reading.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

I’m glad you are recovering 🥺 I’m sending you a big hug!

[@shariash1537]

Unfortunately our family of origin sets us up for disaster if they don't teach us self respect.

[@thebemphahlele4773]

The first time I watched this, I just got out of the abuse. Now I'm watching this just to see what I got out from. God is Good

[@Ginnitapreciosa]

I can relate so much, they try to make you loose your self ,drive you crazy and the worst part no one around you can really tell what’s going on . Thanks for making this video. Your beautiful 💕

[@kinshasawilson835]

THESE NARCISSIST ARE DEFINITELY DEMONS From SATAN

[@avellaneda275]

When they Say "I love You", what they mean is "I love how You let me control You", "I love how naive You are". That's the reason that words sound so real. Awful people.

[@kristenandco.2223]

I’m SO proud of you! I am in the midst of leaving my covert narcissist husband. I kicked him out in June. He still tries to get supply and pulled the silent treatment AGAIN just the other day after months of no contact I contacted him about the divorce and bills. Ugh. These people are not even human. They have no empathy or love or conscious. I’ve educated myself for years and it allowed me to leave him. He almost killed me. Thank you for being courageous! I will also be sharing my story soon on KZbin. Stay in touch!

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

Kristen and Co. yes! This people truly gave no compassion nor empathy And they are so entitled. I’m glad you left the relationship 🙆🏻‍♀️ at the end you are the one who wins because this cycle will be repeated in his life. Thank you for watching the video and when you upload yours just let me know I’ll love to watch it

[@writingpad7142]

Yep... everytime I cried I got told they were crocodile tears

[@aphroditestan]

I've said it before, i fully and firmly stand by the fact that narcissistic abuse is spiritual warfare. Regardless of religious views, I'm simply spiritual and i just cannot be convinced otherwise. Im so glad u got out❤

[@aphroditestan]

@@writingpad7142 narcissists always say things like that. Gaslighting, stone walling, crazy making. They literally cannot comprehend having empathy & feeling feelings like 'normal' ppl do, so in their mind you're putting on a show. They live in they're own little world's and they can stay there

[@simplyxmaddy6139]

My life sounds exactly like yours! Much love it's so damn hard. I did this for 20 years and I'm just now walking out the door. I will die if I stay. But I had a child with this man. If possible for others, never do this! Never have kids with these people. I'm getting better day by day, but some others may not survive it sadly. RUN!

[@Mangoliveson]

Major kuddos to you!! It took me until age 60 to figure out that my older sister was an emotionally abusive narcissist: gaslighting, silent treatment, love bombing, rage, etc. The damage is devastating, and invisible to others, so I’m left to deal with it silently: anxiety, depression, health issues. But I’m free now - I “broke up” with her! These traits apply to all relationships! You are wise and I look forward to more of your perspectives.

[@johnconor9934]

I can definitely relate to it. Just got myself out of another one. Felt stuck in it and my body knew the whole time. I’m a very happy person but feel depressed in these relationships. You look much better 🙏🏻❤️

[@needes8559]

You are right. My narcissistic partner did the same to me. I relate so much to you. I also grew up with uncles and grandmother though my parents were in my life. But I understand this so much. After breaking up my narcissist spent about a year bashing me, sometimes being friendly, and gaslighting me. Finally got the courage to cut them off completetly last year.

[@Anywhooo]

One of the best explained videos that I have seen about this subject that I have been studying for years. God Bless you for being brave enough to tell your story to those people who are no longer here.

[@iuliia5833]

I agree with you ...I was in the same relationship. Narcissists all act according to a pattern - because it is a pathology. they have no one at home.. The most important rule after breaking up with them ,is not contact. This is only one way to get out of this relationship completely and heal your emotional wounds after it.

[@sadshawty2092]

I left relationship where i was physically and verbally abused. It took me two years to end that relationship, i did it with help of police and later my family. My parents always stood up for me but I didn’t want to tell them about my partner’s behavior because i was deeply convinced that he actually loves me. I will not talk more about this because talking about him and thinking of all awful things he said and all the kicking in the head and my face still hurts me. I just want to tell other girls/boys that they should seek help and should not feel sorry for the person who did them harm. World is full of good and bad people equally, love yourself, be brave, look for help through internet. I’m alone now, i lost all my friends, but my family stood up for me and i will start college this year and i’m learning to laugh again.

[@snowredsnow666]

Thanks so much for opening up about your story. I went through the same hell. You are beautiful, kind and without a doubt a loving person 🖤

[@umjackie2497]

i’m not even done this video yet but you are SO emotionally intelligent. so much of what you are saying i can relate to. i respect how introspective you are and how in tune you are with yourself. ❤️

[@veronicanewgard5526]

I feel I was meant to see this today. Thank you SOO much for posting this. This video confirmed my doubts about my current BF. Everything you described about the narcissistic abuse(silent treatment, gaslighting, manipulation) I'm living a much lesser quality of life now prior to starting going our with him. I'm isolated, exhausted, confused as opposed to being a firey positive happy person.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

I’m so sorry to hear that 🥺 I hope that you can take some time to think what you want to do. Definitely do some more research there is this girl on KZbin her name is Nu Mindframe, her story helped me a lot. She also has videos talking about trauma bonding and stuff like that. Knowledge is power! God bless you.

[@chacha4840]

There's no age that we experience these type of people. I'm older than you and been through so many of these behaviors I'm glad you found it out and are loving yourself. I'm proud of You!- keep believing in yourself, follow your dreams and stay true to you. You're so worth it !!

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

Thank you 🥺💐

[@bobbybee7403]

this is extremely powerful - thank you for sharing your story. I have been lucky enough to never experience an emotionally abusive relationship myself, but I am acting in a play where my character is suffering and your video has moved me so much, I feel like I now have a glimpse of what going through this must feel like. you speak so honestly and passionately and this absolutely IS an issue that more people need to be educated on! thank you again.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

Wow I'm so happy that by doing research you found my video and now you are learning something so important! Thank you for watching, and I wish you the best of luck in your Play. If you need more information there is amazing creator here on youtube that have shared their story in regards to emotional abuse from a narcissistic person but outside of a romantic scenario, people who have employers, parents or even friends with the traits of a narcissist and it's super interesting to see how the abuser unfolds themselves with their victims outside of a romantic relationship. Either way thank you for watching and leaving a comment

[@Shadows_memes]

I have NO tolerance for liars. With Narcissists, you have to keep careful records and have evidence, like texts, voice mails, or even digital recordings of then so that you can come back (in court if you have to) and prove that they were lying to you, especially if you are telling your side of the story to mutual friends, relatives, or acquaintances who move in the same circles. It's scary when you're dealing with someone who puts double standards on you and also is a chronic, pathological liar who seems to lack guilt or empathy about gaslighting you. It's like being in a funhouse full of mirrors in one of those bad horror films and looking for a way out.

[@tuttopassa10]

Extremely well shared. It’s been so hard to find words to articulate the experiences that were so mind numbingly confusing and insane. I’ve been out a year and the trauma and physical reactions from the constant emotional abuse keeps creeping back but there’s so much recovery to look forward to. Thank you

[@Mandy3141]

I went through the same. Thank you for making this video. You are so beautiful! Love from Italy 😊

[@carelissayoung6572]

I’m so glad you shared your story. My story is very very similar to yours. It’s been a year but I still have triggers and finding your video helped me through one. ❤️

[@CookieNYC]

I’ve gone through ALL of it plus more 8 years and I promised myself that this year is my year to regain my life!

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

I believe in you ✨💛💐

[@CookieNYC]

@@mariangelaserrano1078 Thank you so much🙏🏼

[@jessicazuniga6984]

mine started out with me complaining about how I was breaking out and he said maybe its because of my shitty food habits and that's how the criticism initially started for me.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

I’m so sorry you had to go thru that, it’s crazy how this kinds of comments start breaking us down from the inside out 😓

[@chilloften]

Beauty-full being. Thank goodness you realize this pretty young and will be stronger now. There are so many folks this way, in workplaces, schools, church, government, families. Trust the first instinct that something is off. My last romantic encounter took me 2 months to figure it out, for sure, that it was toxic. I left 5 months because it was worsening and so blatantly disordered.

[@bettinag8274]

Thank you for your sharing your story. From your story I now know I am in the middle of an emotionally abusive relationship. As of 2 days ago I needed to go on anxiety medication - I was blaming myself for the way he treats me. My self worth has depleted completely. He threatens to end our relationship and puts conditions on me - I am constantly walking on eggshells where I am so scared to be myself. My partner is an alcoholic yet I am never to mention it; and when he drinks everything is worse - he calls me names, critiques me and puts me down even more. Now I see Gaslighting is a major part of what he does to me. Constantly yells at me - why can’t he speak to me normally?? He is charming to the outside world - no one will ever believe me. I really need to get away....I just don’t know how...

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

Bettina G the best way to start is to write down the pros and cons of this relationship. Then to talk to yourself and plan how to be disciplined while practicing no contact with the abuser, you gotta reach out to a group of friends or someone who can help you and hold you accountable and after you take the decision just say: I’m done with this, done ever speak to me again. This is not an easy journey but your life will improve once your are past the fear. Often times we have a trauma bond with the person who hurts us which makes it difficult to leave them because we rather be in pain than being free because we don’t want to be hurt by anyone else but just keep in mind that you need to protect yourself and do what’s best for you! You got this 🧡 if you want to talk you can send me an email or reach to my IG: @mariangelaserrano [e-mail]

[@lynette599]

I would suggest the following....tape some of the abusive conversations. Listen to it back...THEN IMAGINE your daughter (in place of you). If this was your daughter being mentally abused, what would you say to her? In other words, look at the situation from a distance, as if it was happening to a person who you loved very much, such as a daughter of yours, or even your mother or best friend. Then do what advice you would have given to HER. Because you might not love YOURSELF (mostly narcissists target people with low self-esteem) but you certainly LOVE YOUR (imaginary) DAUGHTER...and therefore you would NOT STAND FOR HER TO BE ABUSED IN SUCH A WAY, not even for one DAY.

[@debbierobertson9221]

Oh my gosh! I am a 60 year old. I am so proud of you! This saved my life today! I cant believe I came across you today ! Thank You! With Gods Love!😥🙏🙏❤❤❤

[@lizajohnsen4353]

Well done sweetheart... I know your pain been there. God bless you stay brave ❤️

[@LonjeMarie7]

You are absolutely beautiful thank you for making this video. Your English is absolutely perfect and you’re not rambling. You were authentic and you spoke from your heart you will be a blessing to many people thank you for talking about it

[@ANNNEWALLET1234]

hi dear girl, bravo to you , i find it very alarming that there is no association between the fact that sex education is a very sensitive subject and should be in a segregated environment , a class for men and a class separate for women, no one seams to connect the fact that when men are being instructed in this environment , what it does to the male brain is disassociate from what boundaries really are and what gender respect really is, the problem is always right there, the powers that be use our emotions and our intelligence to attack our freedom of individuality to enmesh and the core they use is our sexualities', its wrong, to teach sex education with both men and women in the same class, think about it we are stripped of our femininity and our privacy , there is a real thing with the powers that control our classrooms and our education, think about it, i would never want to learn about sexuality of my inner would as a female, with men around that i don't even know , i would want privacy and boundaries, really the world is upside down, walk out,

[@jennywager6228]

Protect the heart ♥️ We are worthy and thank you 🙏 for sharing what so many of us find hard to verbalise xx

[@arzooray3145]

Oh my gosh you are 100 percent right. I’m victim of narcissist abuse and he is still throwing trash even though I’m not seeing him anymore. I never I wished I knew it before 😰😰😰made me mentally emotionally , physically drained sick.

[@Sarassmile76]

Thank you so much for making this video. I’m still in it and know that heavy pain in my heart all too well. I am becoming anxious before I even see him now.I have felt like throwing up when he rages at me. I know it’s not him I am in a relationship with anymore. It’s the hope that he will magically become the man I married 2 years ago. My father was extremely emotionally and verbally and sometimes physically abuse to me as a child and when my husband treats me the way I was treated by my dad, I become a helpless little girl again and freeze. I just go into my mind and watch the abuse as if it’s a movie and happening to someone else. I have even asked him why he is so abusive and his response is I made him do it. I didn’t know I control the one who always needs to be in control.

[@omnistgangsterenlightenmen3788]

Thank you so much for this beautiful message. My heart feels so full just hearing your story because I went through this in a lesbian relationship and one of the toughest things is experiencing this in a same sex relationship. You feel utterly and completely alone and at fault, I went through extreme depression trying to cope with having my first love being a narcissist. I hide a lot of things from family and friends because of how ashamed I was and my ex always told me not to let others into are relationship as if it was us against the world, and she often felt like it was her against the world, and I was apart of the world so that meant sometimes she felt like I was the one attacking her character and against her to. I trauma bonded with her and as a empath felt so so sorry for her. But I realized her demons where pulling me down under when I had already previously been through so much, I couldn’t let myself get that low and sink to a place that dark again. Sometimes at night I would go into the bathroom and just panic and cry on the floor feeling so helpless. I thought I loved her but I just loved the potential of who I thought she could be but the thing is, she stopped believing in her self long ago and just allowed all of the negative shit to possess her.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

Thank you for watching the video and gathering the courage to share this with me. I wish I could hug you! My heart breaks every time I read a comment of someone telling me what they have gone thru because nobody deserves this kind of pain. It’s been almost two years and I am married now and sometimes I still think about everything that I went thru and I break down in tears because this kind of trauma doesn’t just go away, but overall I don’t know if it’s a personality thing or if I just forced myself I have been able to turn my anger towards the narcissist and most of my insecurities into something that pushes me to move on and look forward to better things for my future. I hope you get fully healed in the near future🖤 there is beautiful things in store for you.

[@omnistgangsterenlightenmen3788]

mariangela serrano Thank you so much for your kind words, you’re very inspiring to me.

[@EveningTV]

You are speaking for a lot of women and helping countless girls. You say it took you a long time, but you are so much younger than most. I was in my 30s and a mother before I realized what was going on, and by then the cost had only gotten higher. It nearly killed me and it did kill my son. This is critical information that psychologists, school counselors, drug counselors and anyone responsible for children needs to know. Thats why I've been here myself. You have a whole life ahead of you with this wisdom and that is a blessing. Great video.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

Thank you so much for watching and for your comment. My wish is that nobody endures this kind of traumatic pain! It’s needs to be talked about more often.

[@kfarm3858]

Thanku so much for taking the time to share ur story! I can relate 💯 in so many ways and I’m just now healing finally. It’s so hard but it’s worth it ❤️the brain reprogramming is the hardest part because of the gaslighting and harsh words said to me over 7 years 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@itsverycontroversial8050]

Every Woman, Every home, Every Relationship, Everyday. ENOUGH! We are all accountable to call out this extremely degrading behaviour.

[@ying-fangchen8892]

Why are those that get crumbled in a narcissistic relationship always genuine and honest people? Im just so irritated by this fact that i can't forgive myself once being completely loyal towards my narcissistic roommate like that

[@damianavegamaisonet7960]

You did a great job on this video mariangela. God bless you. You are beautiful and intelligent and worthy. So happy for you. Thank you for this video. I was in a toxic situationship 3 years. Been free going on 3 years now. So happy, so at peace now. But yes always learning and healing even more. Loving myself and never looking back. Yes this is demonic. Thank you for your time. Yes I believe I am valuable and I don't deserve the crap and evilness that the evil covert narcissist puts out

[@tinahalle3575]

This stuff does need to be taught at an early age to . (I love how you kept mentioning that ) …..before we start getting into relationships but when we’re old enough to understand such a mature topic . We are taught about body safety ( if we’re lucky ) but not emotional , heart and mental safety . Hopefully with more awareness on these subjects that will change to .

[@realopinion5765]

She is very beautiful!

[@bluebaby3074]

thank you for making it appoint to continue on the topic of verbal and toxic relationships. Narcs have been around sense day one like vampires expect they dont have sharp teeth they are hidden. Yet although they are all around and praying on people , yet no one teaches you this no one talks about it. Either from the survivers or the abusirs it can stem from childhood for ex: the narc had toxic families where cheating was seen daily and accepted maybe even praised even from the women , for ex: the codependent maybe growing up your parents called you dumb stupid retarded and made you feel like you werent capable of doing anything. There are MANY examples of this. Because it relates to spirit realm , and generational curses.

[@philu4621]

Neglect is my biggest wound...I could totally become a narcissist...probably have traits that I inherited but I resist becoming what scarred me early on...

[@SharlenesJourney]

Yes I’m going through this now with this guy I’ve known for years he is playing games with me he is ignoring me at time when I need him the most 😔 it made me feel crazy for opening up to him about my feelings now I think I’m being discarded by him also my older brother is also a narc and unfortunately I live with my older brother my health has declined I’m completely ruined and yes he is an alcoholic going through suicidal thoughts but I realizing that I’m not the bad person here he is for ignoring me

[@umjackie2497]

i have been looking through emotional abuse/manipulation videos for so long trying to find something i really connect to, and this is it. not that our emotionally abusive relationship experiences were the exact same, but your advice and encouragement is something that feels very personal and helpful to me. thank you so much for this video and i am so glad that you are in a better place now. it seems like you have grown a lot throughout your life from what you’ve said, and that is beautiful. i wish you the best 💖

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

I’m glad you found this video and I’m so glad it felt somewhat personal to you 🖤 Emotional abuse it’s not joke, and I used to watch a lot of videos about people’s experiences with this kind of stuff until I finally got the courage to make my own. So thank you for watching and thank you for leaving a comment 🙏🏻 it means so much to me, specially because my only goal with this is for people to feel comforted and less alone after such traumatic thing. GOD BLESS YOU! I’m sending a big hug❤️ Love, M.

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[@sherridillon2767]

Thank you for being brave enough to share to the public. I went thru something similar and this helps me know I’m not alone being treated like this. You perfectly explained narcissism. Great job. My ex made me feel so inferior from his abuse. To me these monsters should be prosecuted for the damage that they do.

[@Langolin1998]

Yes! I can identify with everything you said. Good for you getting out! Once we’ve been abused, we know those red flags for the future. It’s a journey to heal, for sure. But sharing our stories helps. Good luck 😊

[@froggo7215]

Girl I'm sorry for what you been through, I'm really sorry , only wish you best. You are strong beautiful girl never doubt your self 💪🏼

[@miah2541]

You're so right..thank you for this wonderful video. I'm so very sorry for the pain you have endured. Narcissistic abuse is a very deep wound in me, im looking forward to healing one day at a time. Thank you for being brave and telling your story

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

I feel that physical pain in the chest that you are talking about.

[@andreawiatrek94]

Thank you for sharing your story. We must discern their evil patterns to protect our hearts. This will help many people to see a way to get out.

[@demigaines5644]

Thank You For Sharing I Was Horribly Tortured By A Overt Malignant. Narcissist For Over 7 Years. He Tortures Me With Months And Years Of The Silent Treatment.He Treats Me Like I Don't Exist..As A Result Of This I Have Developed A Low Self Worth And Self Esteem.Im Struggling Trying To Get Myself Back. Narcissistic Abuse Is Horrible...

[@robinrodenberg9110]

You are awesome, wonderfully stated. We are so exhausted , that it is better to be alone. Nobody deserves to be disrespected, EVER!!!!!

[@madisonchristine2848]

AHh, you are so Genuine, So True, So powerful, So Brave -- Pure Emotional Intelligence being shared here - life changing energy you share - emotional abuse is sooo bloody painful - iIve been healing from this for years myself and offer youtubes to help others. Thank You for YOU and Being a Brilliant Light in this world!!!

[@godsbeloved4253]

So sorry for your suffering! It isnt fair but you are strong. Your story is so much like mine exactly from my childhood to adulthood. Bless you and prayers🙏💙

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

Gods Beloved One thank you for watching 🖤 sometimes God chose us to go thru this things so we can be built up strong and encourage others. We are stronger than we think! God bless

[@hopjng]

thank tou so much for this, it’s been like 3 months no contact with my abuser and although i dated him for a year he affected me so badly and watching videos like this is lowkey triggering of all the bad memories but it’s so important for me to finally heal and move on. now im so uninterested in dating but i hope things get better. Thank you for this ❤️❤️ You’re helping so much people

[@monicasehuprt3298]

It’s good that you are learning this now. I did not get along with my mother all my life and I never knew why until about a year ago when I started watching utube videos. She is a narcissist and will not change. It’s good that you are strong enough to be independent of these people and realize all this on your own. I’m 59 years old.

[@maris661]

Thank you for sharing! We def need more education about emotional abuse and emotional intelligence in school. Especially because a lot of us do not grow up in the healthiest families. I wish I would have known this much sooner smh, knowledge is power.

[@CoachAbbey]

Thanks for sharing your story! I find many Narcissist love to have open relationships or be non-committal... but ALWAYS keep ties with a main EX. Wired... Happy you found the strength to get out!

[@alex-ln2ut]

this reminded me so much of my ex and made me realize how abusive the relationship i was in was. i’m so grateful i was able to get out of it 💖 thank you for this video :)

[@snoopy-mf7nv]

Trust your intuition. It won't mislead you. I grew up the same way and repeated the same patterns in adult relationships. I was conditioned to dismiss my intuition (among other things, "me"). Now I will never push it aside. Had I listened to it, I would have spared myself much pain. But I was in a deep state of disassociation my entire life as well.

[@ciscowarrior]

Ugh. These narcissists/psychopaths are 1 in 20 people who pass you by. They are everywhere

[@robinjohnston7202]

Omg I understand everything I've been confused about for 3.5 years. The love bombing for 1.5 years then the sudden change and everything else almost identical.

[@delaney5721]

I loved hearing your story and I wish you the best on your journey. ❣️ I know I don’t know you but I want to tell you my experience too. I’m very empathetic like you are and have a kind heart. My narcissist was also a “former” h- addict coke addict sorry KZbin is sensitive and will delete my comment. He did all kinds of d(rugs). People would say he is a narcissist and he would say that he is sociopath and would brag about it. I figured out he is a narcissistic sociopath. I turned him down 3 times before he convinced we should go out and I finally said yes during a moment of weakness. He told me he quit drugs just for me which was a lie. He was amazing at first love bombing stage and then something changed one day and he treated me awful he blamed it on me and my anxiety disorder ocd. He tried to say that’s what is ruining the relationship so of course to fix things I got on anxiety medication just for him to please him. We had a 2 year relationship he also had a five year old child who has got taken from him before. He cheated on me but I didn’t find out until after even though I practically knew because he would leave signs everywhere and it was so obvious. He abused me, his kid, his siblings etc. he also physically abused me but the emotional part was way more prevalent and worse. He started bragging about the fact he was a sociopath when I was already locked in and I didn’t know much about them but figured he was being dramatic cause I thought you only hear this stuff in movies not real life. But he said he lacked empathy and when I asked well what about me he said I have empathy for you which was a lie. When he finally discarded me I was sick with bronchitis, my grandma died from Alzheimer’s a week ago, and I was starting college the next day and that’s when he broke up with me. He was like don’t bother ever coming back again and then he moved on and blocked me on social media. This was 3 years ago and I still think about it cause I actually loved him and ignored the red flags. It sounds really bad and embarrassing I know but love is blind. His new supply tried to message and call me randomly and harass me and said I was an awful person I’m guessing cause the narc told him I was. She hates me and they both try to ruin my life he even tried to break me up with my current partner but it didn’t work. Telling him I was crazy etc etc when he’s the crazy one. Now the new supply is pregnant with his baby and she already has 5 kids plus his which is 6 now. He is not going to treat her child right it will end up in foster care just like the other one. She has no idea what world of hurt she is in and brags in my face how he treats her like a queen which isn’t true but I did think it was like was I the problem is he really a narcissist thought like that etc but I know that no matter what he told me it wasn’t my fault and I was with a narcissistic sociopath and he’ll do the same to her eventually sometimes it takes years this baby is a one way ticket to break up town. He wanted her to have an abortion and got mad at her for being pregnant but she wanted to keep it so they are keeping it but it caused a huge uproar and since he has said he helped k- Someone before he would always tell me he would cut someone’s break line if he hated them or wanted to erase something so she puts on Facebook her brakes “went out” and she almost died and it was right around the time she got pregnant and I can’t help but wonder cause I know he’s that evil and definitely capable did he have anything to do with it. He is truly an evil person and threatened to do that to mom multiple times because of my curfew he didn’t like back then. He would always tell me I couldn’t come to certain parties cause I wasn’t old enough but that was lies so he could cheat.

[@coffeetalktable4452]

You are an absolutely beautiful soul!! Thank you so much for this videl!!

[@Jg-qy8xn]

thanks for having the bravery to share this. I have a similar life story and its comforting to know that I'm not alone in that experience :)

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

You are not! This experiences only makes us stronger and wiser. I'm sending you a big hug and thank you for watching my video.

[@frankcrawford416]

Protect your heart at all costs!

[@pamgori8008]

I've been there..they approach you with attention and flattery which everyone enjoys..if you never heard that stuff growing up you are bound to be attracted to someone giving you that attention..I was raised by my grandparents who were great My stepfather was an overt Narc Mom was covert so either you have to deal with intimidation or manipulation so you keep trying harder to be better..smarter..prettier..sexier It's NEVER enough..then the Narc Seeks that out and exploits you For those qualities..glad to see your Own self worth and investigated this So the cycle won't continue They won't stop till they win the game they conned you into Happy to see your healthier and You love yourself first..stay on the path and teach others..society promotes narcissism..we need to stop this plague on humanity BOSTON 🍀

[@shariash1537]

Yes ma'am. Its a vicious cycle... and its so sad the abusers get away with it. Its not against the law to be a narcissist. Social Conundrum, hard to prove. I was so disillusioned from my last marriage I could not think straight. Thank God for Utube and people like this young woman ... putting it out there raw

[@denisevalley9021]

I'm 57 years old and you are spot on! I'm so happy for you!

[@Mo-ie7gg]

TY for sharing everything you said is dead on, you brought me so much clarity & hopes of a house having a healthy relationship.

[@jayjo77144]

Verbal abuse is horrible 😔😢 Many blessing to you ❤ t.y. for your video

[@truesician]

That's my story... It happens to men too. My relationship lasted.thirty years but I am finally free. It hurts like hell I am having withdrawal symptoms . I was addicted to her disdain. Lord help s us

[@lauraguiang6111]

I loved your video. I agree...we need to actively TEACH people self- love, and to be able to identify abuse. You are doing a great service because young women need to hear from someone so similar to them. I wish I could have my daughter listen but at this stage, she doesn’t want to think about it at all. It is far to painful what she went through. So, so similar is her personality and experience. Keep doing what you are doing...God is using you to help others. Thank you so much for facing this and sharing. The devil tried to stop you but I am glad you had courage.