Narcissists Do This All The Time

[@marijaparlov2101]

So...., what is your story?!, 'cause you're basiclly just described everyone

[@RICHARDGRANNON]

Everyone? That’s an interesting perspective …

[@smc4043]

@@RICHARDGRANNON ​ speaking for myself, I thought wow I think I know a lot of people that do that, so now I’m wondering if I may be surrounded by narcissists lol I imagine any one may say something like that here or there but narcissists might do it more consistently like a pattern? It’s a pretty short clip to gauge if only narcissists do that (if that makes sense)

[@killodendron]

I think it's different when someone uses that type of phrase, and they actually mean whatever they're claiming. Like if you're just getting to know someone and they legit are just telling you about their personality or interests. Obviously, some people lie because they're just trying to manipulate you (luckily, you quickly find out who is). Every human I've ever met has shown some degree of narcissistic tendencies at one point or another, some are just way extreme compared to others.

[@Sevvin89]

In the last days people will be lovers of themselves..

[@irisseer2773]

​@@Sevvin89 Oh, God! The thought that narcissism is only going to get worse is horrifying. Our armor, I think, is the fruit of the spirit.

[@carvercapitalequitypartner122]

A narcissist will criticize you freely but will never never accept any criticism of themselves.

[@MrCoffey23]

Aint that the truth

[@billybob9691]

That part lmao

[@angelwings7930]

I don’t get criticism as much as just rude behavior and taken for granted type things. No apologies. And recently unbelievable back stabbing and let-downs. Thank God he’s an EX husband but due to 2 adult kids I’m still in a certain amount of communication with his dumb a**.

[@isabelcruz3423]

Exactly 💯

[@juliemclain5841]

They'll run it over and over in their head actually, but never admit to do having any issues or wrong on the outside.

[@user-fl8yv7rz6f]

There's an old saying " the louder they proclaimed their virtue, the faster we counted the silverware"

[@triciamedora9274]

PERFECT! 😂😂😂

[@ursula4632]

Not sure i understand it🤔

[@user-fl8yv7rz6f]

@@ursula4632 virtue signallers tend to be completely lacking in virtue.

[@seaweedeater3104]

That’s great. Love it. Surprised I haven’t heard it before. Is it a British English saying?

[@user-fl8yv7rz6f]

@@seaweedeater3104 I heard it in Ireland, but I don't know where it originated.

[@evelina787]

“You can't force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.” “You will never really see how toxic someone is until you breathe fresher air.” “Stay away from people who can't take responsibility for their actions and who make you feel bad for being angry at them when they do you wrong.”✨☘️🙏

[@sperez3275]

Bingo. All 3 hit me with what I’ve dealt with

[@evelina787]

@@sperez3275 God bless you Really hope you're now far from the cruel treat ment, & you have good strong, kind, compassionate strong, friends&supportive network You deserve the very best life can bring... God bless you✨☘️🙏

[@Geniosa06]

@Evelina That toxic air thing is right. My friend was in a toxic relationship for almost 6 years, talking to me about it for 6 years. She comes down to visit me (I live in a different state) for the weekend, goes back home and BREAKS UP with the guy. It was just from seeing my non-toxic interactions between me and my husband. Had I known that’s all it would take.🤦🏾‍♀️

[@evelina787]

@@Geniosa06 God bless you Erica Most definitely better late than never👍✨☘️🙏Well done to you for inviting your dear friend to yours & that she unwittingly got to see how wondrously brilliant, a healthy happy relationship is😊✨☘️🙏This is supremely superb news, & i'm sure your dear friend is eternally grateful for having such a sincere wholesome compssionte friend like you I'm praying she, meets someone healthy & wholesome just like your partner, so she can be happy forevermore & the four of you can enjoy precious times together God bless you all✨☘️🙏

[@kaiulanijecika]

This comment!!!!!

[@Morpheus-pt3wq]

The louder someone is trying to persuade you about their qualities, the more you should think about what are they trying to hide.

[@diamondonpurpose9145]

💯

[@josephmoody5418]

I'm an asshole. We don't discuss what I'm trying to hide where.

[@enneaf1676]

Especially if they embody anime characters as versions of their sense of self

[@Sarah-with-an-H]

My narcissistic mother does this weird thing where she gets extremely defensive over something when I'm not even accusing her of. The going so hard on the defense is concerning it's like a confession.

[@PRINCESS2527]

Him:”I don’t like drama” *proceeds to cause drama entire relationship *😑

[@dustdivesterover4782]

😂😂YOU SAID: "HIM"😂 YES IT'S "ALMOST" ALWAYS A MALE ( FEW AWFUL 🌟FEMALES THROWN IN. "FOR GOOD MEASURE"😳😳

[@Hebrews4.12]

And fantasizes on the fact that nutjobs get another go in the world after getting called out big time.

[@TheNinnyfee]

Or: "Please don't create drama, this is a wedding of our friends!" Full-blown narc meltdown in front of everyone 2 hours later.

[@aking3624]

Translation: Drama is their childhood trauma & therefore "their" drama is the only one tolerated...

[@transcendence8888]

I feel you

[@scorpiolove674]

" I'm the kind of person who is painfully honest ALL THE TIME " turned out to be a cheater/liar/thief...

[@Victoriah.29]

Heard that one too! Famous line “I’m the most trustworthy person you will meet” turned out to be nothing but lies, cheating, abuse.

[@Kristain473]

😝 yes

[@nz630]

Exactly!!! My covert narcissist husband fooled me and fooled everyone he knows by presenting himself like the most wonderful human being, very honest, great moral values, etc. He was actually a chronic cheater and liar.

[@scorpiolove674]

@@nz630 yes!! Covert narcissist are THE WORST to deal with because of their fake boyscout mask!!!

[@RenaWith]

This

[@flexcapazitor1940]

I never trust a person who says “trust me”. Trust is earned. If a person has to use words to convince trust, they usually aren’t trustworthy.

[@anthonypettit3713]

What gets me the most is when they say I would never do this or that when they just did it the day before and you saw them and called them out

[@erciliaflores]

Yes, they do seem incapable of seeing the obvious. In my case, I know someone who always needs to preface whatever accomplishment her kid has achieved with, "It's so funny, isn't it? I never force her to work so hard. I never control, I am not a strict mom. But she is so serious, I don't know why, haha" And the creepy thing is she believes it wholeheartedly that her kid is tough on herself...just because🤷🏿‍♀️

[@AZDC99]

That's because they have an incredible arrogance and underestimate the intelligence of their targets. Thanks to their grandiosity

[@erciliaflores]

@@AZDC99 "Underestimating the intelligence of their targets..." WELL SAID!

[@lilynguyen8167]

😂😂 Seriously!!

[@sergiomarki]

" a child trapped in an adult body " got me . Have a nice day .

[@tenningale]

Narcs remind me of 9-12 year-olds a lot of the time. The gossiping, lying, projecting, acting up for pretextual reasons, gaslighting, disrespecting personal boundaries... They're emotionally stunted people.

[@Mexicobeanpole]

“Oh, you know me, I’m a live and let live person.” She was the most mean spirited, gossipy, judgmental, POS I ever met.

[@nomg563]

Had a friend like that. Key word is had. Chucked that out super fast once I noticed it

[@delilabuchanan6437]

😂 JAJAJAJA!

[@jbird1012]

He said, "You know me, blah blah..." TWO days after I met him. I remember thinking, "No, I don't." I caught the red flag and immediately dismissed it. Like an idiot.

[@nikiepunt8631]

Yes me too. Everything in me screamed to not go further but somehow i still deceived myself. Like a fool.. I believed his words over my own because i was raised by a narcissist. I was made to believe that my feelings didn't matter. My feelings from the first conversation with my then bf were: He does not listen to you or respects your wants and needs and puts his above everything you are. He does not care about you, he cares about how you make him feel. I now know this. But at the time i didnt know how to translate my feelings into words. Now looking back, i should have let him go right away like my feelings told me to. But i was so much made to believe that i didnt deserve better that i have let the wrong ppl in. Your feelings are screaming but you somehow block them out. First calm down and listen to what your feelings are trying to say to you. If it is your gut feelings, listen to them before you get too attached to a wrong people. They are wasting your time..

[@charjennable]

@@nikiepunt8631 great insight and ability to express yourself at this point! It’s the challenges we encounter in life that are our biggest teacher! WTG girl ♥️

[@ari3lz3pp]

Creepy

[@lasse8445]

​@@nikiepunt8631 Ouch. I recognize myself so much. Thank you for sharing and putting your feelings into worlds 🤗

[@natashawiley]

Wow he would say that to me and everyone I would always say no I don't.. Here iam 8years later 1week in no contact glad I found this podcast

[@lumikello6579]

"I never hurt you." When someone says so, run to the hills and fast🙌

[@Camillyahreal]

You can hurt someone and not know it 😫

[@marydarnell973]

Still run for the hills!!!

[@sonias9722]

I truly should have

[@vhayashi7369]

Nailed it!!! 🙌😂😂😂😂

[@famboyoot705]

Also run from the sentence before this one "you don't think you hurt me? You hurt me every day" *"I never hurt you"* And then they say "I'm not talking about physically, you can hurt people in other ways"

[@MAV-xq1ch]

If you ever hear them say "I'm the most honest person youll ever meet" RUN

[@wiredforstereo]

...or how they like to talk about "speaking truth to power."

[@valcourtd100]

Or “I never lie” meanwhile all they do is lie.

[@MAV-xq1ch]

@@valcourtd100 truth

[@wiredforstereo]

@@valcourtd100 Real truth tellers talk about their struggles with remaining authentic in the face of specific situations where a white lie would make everything easier.

[@gabriellaschweska2054]

Lol right my favorite is “I’m a terrible lier” suuuuurre buddy.

[@leverage-fl9mi]

Yep. People who are true don't speak, they act 😌

[@LavendLady]

Sometimes they speak too though ... if their actions align, then you know.

[@HISprincessV]

Exactly let their actions attest for their character

[@victerrios6509]

​@Lavender Lady THANK YOU! Cuz I speak AND WALK! But these comments had me worried like.. DAMN I can't say "im a person who..." !?! That's a very basic simple English sentence. I'm a person who.....

[@ultramarine3527]

​@@victerrios6509so remember these are "just comments" yes peoples opinions are their own. But nothing and I Mean nothing takes the place of a licensed therapist or psychologist. And I mean that with no ill intent to the creator.

[@Beachtrader0007]

@@victerrios6509 Im a person who is Always early. .. I am always a man of my word and Do what I say,,,,,, but I dont think that is the kind of thing he is talking bout..i hope...lol

[@RBNY]

“I’m very loyal.” Literally, turned out to be the most disloyal person I ever met. 😂 This video is so spot on with the narcissist I knew!! Like, so spot on!

[@MrsOctober-kc5de]

"I don't like gossiping" He was the biggest gossip I've ever encountered.

[@fearless7989]

Totally they never "like gossip or drama". (THEY LOVE IT)

[@iloy1218]

😂

[@geraldfriend256]

From In Living Color” I don’t like to gossip none , so you ain’t heard it from me”

[@maggier836]

😂😂😂

[@SoigneWave]

Ah yes, "I'm really big about loyalty. I don't like gossip. I can't stand a liar!" Said the most disloyal, gossiping liar ever. 🙄

[@LiminalDrag]

"I'm a very deep person". It took all I had to restrain myself when she came out with this gem, always out of nowhere, with no context😄 She actually thinks that her constant planning and manipulating people around her counts as depth of character.

[@r.coffman1431]

Maybe she meant like throwing a 🌭 down a hallway

[@bethmoore7722]

I know a couple of men who would make a nice match for her. Why don’t these people just find and torment each other, and leave the rest of us alone? I actually know why. They are all incapable of providing supply. Just like vampires, they have to suck the supply out of a relatively normal person.

[@wifeoftheparty9839]

​@@bethmoore7722 because they are woke to the game

[@jenniechurch5337]

​@@r.coffman1431 😂😂😂 I was thinking the same thing!

[@SandraStachowiczLtd]

More like deep shit 😂😅

[@jessicamailman2546]

My favorite is the self proclaimed “martyr narcissist” … stories of grand achievements, how they put everyone first… a person shouldn’t have to convince you of who they are .. their actions should show who they are

[@angelwings7930]

My narcissist is a martyr when confronted. Instead of paying attention to the BS he commits he gets bothered about being called out and whoever calls him out is “negative” or “lecturing” or can’t “let go” of the past. 🤮

[@geraldfriend256]

Communal narcissism . Flaunt altruism HARD.

[@TedsHoldOver]

"There is something you need to understand about me." - RUN!

[@susanfisher3655]

Lmao!!!😂

[@pinkroses135]

What if they just have ibs and need a friend that doesn't mind frequent toilet runs/interruptions

[@tawn9949]

This is so true. And they always lead to “but” and then blame you for the reason their behavior is the opposite of how they think they are.

[@publicserviceannouncement4777]

The "but" also excuses their behavior so they don't have to change anything.

[@lianav707]

I have found when first meeting a narcissist, they tend to speak of themselves as though they were being interviewed. Like reading their made up resume to impress you. Those who use Grandiosity will speak of amazing achievement. Those who use sympathy will speak of terrible trauma. Those who use wealth Will list monetary things

[@alextomlinson]

​@@fjetcjnarcissism is viewed as a complex PTSD coping mechanism by many professionals

[@alextomlinson]

@@fjetcj it's not my opinion of course, I'm citing another psychologist's opinion

[@alextomlinson]

@@fjetcj CPTSD is way more complex than just being survivors of abuse. It can actually generate those abusive behaviours in the victim. Continuing the cycle of abuse. I'm not trying to villianize sufferers of PTSD or NPD. I was simply stating that some professionals are of the opinion that narcissism IS a form of CPTSD coping mechanism gone awry

[@michellebyrom6551]

Terrible trauma. Not really. They will make a mountain out of a molehill, taking a bumped car as a life threatening crash, for example. Real trauma isn't revealed on first meeting. I have heard it falsely used several months into friendships to play the excuses card. When you have cptsd, your gut instinct tells you who is truly traumatised. Analysis shows discrepancies in words and behaviours.

[@margottfon330]

​@@fjetcj))excuse my "shouting", but I feel like writing in capitals...EXACTLY! THAT'S WHAT HAPPENS AFTER TRAUMA, CPTSD ITD, AND NOT NOT NOT NARCISSISM!! THEY'RE BORN THAT WAY. THEY AREN'T TRAUMATIZED!! You can look up Behaviorals on this, Robert Here (spelling, always forget??). He's considered to be #1. You probably have had a look already, just in case. Wish you recovery 🌹

[@leeci33]

YES. THIS IS SO IRRITATING constantly telling me who you are and showing me someone different. “im a super empath, im always there for people, i’ve never been called selfish, i NEVER think about myself. NEVER” 🙄

[@margaretannlillard3546]

I automatically tune narcissists out as soon as they start talking. I have a zero chance policy just for them.

[@eveefoster3697]

My ex-husband would say after he called me something hurtful or demeaning..."You let my words affect you"

[@maryeve69]

Me too

[@inspired1114]

Evil!

[@publicserviceannouncement4777]

My mom would use the good ol' "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" after saying something offensive to me that obviously hurt my feelings.

[@andrealynetta3733]

I get told i have victim mentality 🫠

[@luv2dancesalsa465]

This is where grey rock and detachment comes in handy. Your Narc was right. You did let his words affect you. What else could you do? Ask him… well, you’re important to me. Don’t you want your words to affect me? I’m listening to you. In other words… we have to learn how to “fawn” (go along to get along) whilst we plot to get very far away from them. We also want to plot their demise but that’s easier done from the comfort of your couch, years later, after you’ve become so happy you’re away from them you outsource the deed to a voodoo queen in New Orleans (or Jamaica). :D * I’ve yet to not see results from my forays into the dark arts. It might take years for me to find out but boy, people do get their karma. The best part is giving your intention to the universe that they will see their karmic balance manifested ASAP. Then let go of that part of your healing. Just know it will come to fruition. It always does for me. And generally in short order. Sometimes I even believe I’m making it happen. People that hurt you hurt others, too. That’s a lot of karma.

[@rubycubez1103]

My mother does thing where she humble brags about herself every time she tells a story. She'll find a way to include how the person thinks/ says she's so humble and caring or some other self sacrificing quality. It's so odd. Every. Single. Story.

[@chakkakon]

“Everyone tells me I look great for my age. Nobody can believe my age.” “Everyone likes me and they all think you’re crazy.” That’s the shit I hear.

[@arteCee]

funny..those were the covert narcissist i knew, her exact lines. Delusional to the extreme seems normal for them.

[@kellyhoward8800]

Omg I just heard this one yesterday!!!! I was like oh ok and who is everyone? He couldnt answer that and got mad and hung up

[@LouLou10000]

I find theyre so caring and compassionate about people who they don't know, apparently giving to charities, reading left wing publications etc buying this or that person dinner then bragging about it to others but then when it comes to the person they're bragging too, they're the opposite ,like, judge me according to how I tell you I treat others but ignore how I really treat you, sort of thing

[@jdnrust1590]

Narcissistic people want to be individual powerhouses they resent the fact they need others at all. If your close to them they resent you for needing you it legit depresses them and they can’t have that they are addicted to feeling powerful like a drug addiction for real like it’s a compulsion, they refuse to feel bad they don’t like it they are children . they want total control over everything what is said around them what is done around them and how that effects their current emotional state. Oh watching tv will be ok today and anything goes then tomorrow they are struggling with their self esteem so no TV might make them feel jealous of something they see so they will be rude if you turn on the TV or a show that makes them unhappy BUT they lack the emotional maturity to just say today has sucked I feel like shit about myself. Because they are incapable of feeling bad about themselves because they don’t like uncomfortable anything. They are happy if their egos are satiated and less controlling in these states but if they feel even 1% less then the God they are run for the hills because it is everyone and everything’s fault except theirs.

[@angelwings7930]

YES. In fact even one of his kids thinks he just great. Has no idea. 🤮 Acts differently toward me and always did

[@HISprincessV]

Wow 😮!!. Spot On...like SMOKE &MIRRORS trick

[@nancyshelton2525]

Naw. They’re self centered. Do nothing for others generally. Like 45.

[@indiesindie1984]

Nailed it 👌

[@namastea]

The one for me "I'm a really nice person" LOL mind fuck

[@elizabethoneil4723]

Or “I’m known for being brutally honest “….err..maybe you’re just known for being brutally abusive.

[@DanzoSan]

"People really like/love me" is quite often a term many Americans use. Narcissism and selffish-ness are rooted in the American psyche.

[@namastea]

@@DanzoSan exactly, oh my, my narcissist sister who harshly judges everyone just told me the other day " people really love me because I tell them the truth" the delusion is astonishing

[@namastea]

@@DanzoSan we are not American tho, just FYI.

[@mickiofthemountains]

the " I'm a good guy/ boyfriend"

[@JordDraugr]

My dad, he always talks to people like they're hiring him for a job

[@lcolon5606]

This is exactly it! Lol

[@pamelahough3896]

"I always have a hard time telling people what to do because I'm just not like that" PROCEEDS TO BOSS PEOPLE AROUND 🙄🙄🤣🤣

[@greylady4818]

“I’m all about communication”.

[@publicserviceannouncement4777]

If you only knew...🤣

[@britaniblossom4186]

Endless times

[@Freespiritedqueen]

My narc ex fiance used that line.

[@tanyacarlyle1422]

Or the “I’m all about relationships.”

[@StephanieJ777]

I remember constantly being told by my parents growing up “you have it so much better than most kids! You have it so good! We are amazing parents! Most parents don’t care about their kids like we do! We actually care.” As an adult I see this was a classic narcissistic grandiose statement and an excuse for abuse. Yes I was always provided for financially and had nice things, that doesn’t mean I wasn’t neglected in my childhood or make the mistreatment in my childhood okay at all

[@laketa716]

Same for my childhood too..smh

[@BEnyart454]

My ex thought she was a self taught awesome musician. She couldn't play a single song but thought she had some ridiculous gift for music.

[@ari3lz3pp]

Wonder if we knew the same person. I know a woman like this but she actually had a decent career LOL Today it seems very easy to fool people if you have a mediocre aesthetic. Embarrassing videos of them at bars and concerts sounding like an angry goat. Lol That's the problem. People are too shallow and fall for the act. Her brand was strong feminist woman but she was a cheap sad person, and a very selfish leech, not strong at all. Always feels good to cut out those types!

[@sperez3275]

😂😭😭 mine thought she was a real, decade-trained dancer. 😭😭 OR what got me… I was I’ve been a basketball player all my life, elementary to college… and I’d get to talking about basketball, or it would get brought up, and she’d just say “oh yeah I played basketball”, “when I played basketball..”, like talked as if she PLAYED basketball in the past. I had to ask and reconfirm, that she played once in like fourth grade at a tournament. But she’d talk as if she’d PLAYED, & was speaking about if her years of experience with, basketball for years. We’d even be in the gym a couple times at our university, and this girl COULDNT EVEN CATCH THE BASKETBALL. And I’ve seen a lot of bad shots, or players that just aren’t good shooters…but when I tell u this girl could NOT shoot a basketball. Like you know how people shoot when they don’t or have never played basketball, or how really young kids do. it’s all kinda got that, throw from the chin with two hands. But this girl would just reply sometimes to me or in conversations with other people, so casually that she played basketball, as in the context of like, how it’s normally used “oh I used to play football”. Just threw me off.And I didn’t even notice until ur comment 😂😭😭

[@arteCee]

delusional is their base frequency.

[@Smcsnacks]

The phrase I hear all the time is "And you know I'm right." At the end of every sentence that's a personal attack.

[@Nick-cm7qz]

Ask a narcissist to define 'Love,' there will be a long silence

[@Living_the_dreamz]

100%… they just don’t know how to feel it…. Or will just give a very literal explanation… my ex said to me that when his kids were born he didn’t “love them”… he said any father who says it was love at first sight when they first meet their kids is lieing because how can you love someone you’ve just met and you don’t even know….” Lolol I should have ran as soon as I heard him say that….

[@anon_ymous91]

Not so sure with this one. I've met one who could easily BS their way through that question and make it about themselves. The reality is though, with their response it will be obvious they're a narcassist

[@solala1312]

usually they answer that one with some form of transactional exchange and show how conditional their "love" is.

[@margotbakkers9508]

I wouldn't know how to answer that. Have to be a narcissist.

[@sophiachin1262]

Jerk offs

[@ChooseTruthAlways]

Yes they boast about all of the most virtuous qualities a human being could possess, yet they are exactly the opposite! 🙃😶

[@jill4268]

Exactly

[@ibabechanel]

What if they boast with how good they are with their kids ?

[@chriscorbart]

@@ibabechanel then it’s the opposite …

[@ibabechanel]

@@chriscorbart Gotcha.

[@publicserviceannouncement4777]

Master gaslighters. I saw this sign the other day that says "frost" but the word was written with flames around it. Sums up my experience with narcissists...

[@kittypurcell]

He said "I'm a simple guy" all the time but was never happy with anything and complained about everything constantly that it was never good enough and made everything more difficult.

[@tequilap9527]

My husband exactly.

[@jfionamoore4673]

My ex husband too.

[@wtfover1372]

ALSO, they like to do b video shorts while wearing a black shirt against a black background whilest setting themselves up to the camera in a sideways camera angle to appear as if they're momentarily breaking away from some other task to describe themselves as they themselves do exactly what they are currently describing. PLUS they tend to add a lot of darting eye movements to"talk with their eyes" in a pseudo-conversationalist, pseudo-contemplative "style".

[@retroredo9850]

My ex always had to send food back in a restaurant when nithing wrong with it! Just had to have someone else be imperfect! Also I had to have my tastes controlled. I liked a variety of bread, I got why is all this bread in here? For me and the kids!

[@littlebit8]

Thinking about how my ex after treating myself and other women misogynistically, began talking about how concerned he was for women's rights. Totally infuriating after experiencing his abusive behavior. Also, I knew at the time he was lying and attempting to illicit a response. Mmmhmm was all I could manage

[@RICHARDGRANNON]

I only ever had one self proclaimed male feminist as a “friend”. Only to find out later from his ex girlfriends that tearing women to shreds was his private hobby.

[@lunamaria7467]

I saw on Facebook today that my misogynistic ex narcissist is hosting some women’s rights award show in London tonight 🤮 they are so fake and all about image 😈

[@DanzoSan]

@RICHARDGRANNON be weary of people throwing around the 'misogyny' term as quite often that is a simple sign of "I dont like what someone had to say so I'll label it" incorrectly.

[@MaynardsSpaceship]

​@@DanzoSan Nice projection.

[@Think_4_yourself_plz]

​@@MaynardsSpaceshipDanzo isn't wrong though. Especially in today's society. You can be 100% honest with someone. Say absolutely nothing misogynistic, and still get called a misogynist or a bigot. It's sad

[@TaylorishKid88]

“Everything bad is always happening to me” woe is me all the time 🙄🫤

[@diane4488]

They say: I've always been..... I've always believed...... I've always wanted to...... I've always known...... I've always been better.... Like they think they came out of the womb, educated, fully developed, and wise.

[@Lifeafterfourty]

This is something I haven’t heard but absolutely have experienced. It’s like they are telling everyone how awesome they are yet they are a total mess of a human being

[@diane4488]

@@Lifeafterfourty Part of the arrogance, I guess. A belief that they are never wrong, and always perfect.

[@davidcorliss158]

I agree. I've been irritated by this forever. It's definitely that line.... "I'm the type of person" I was taught you don't tell have to tell people who you are. You show them.

[@niviapratt8019]

I don't understand how this is a narcissistic trait. What if someone is just explaining to someone else the type of person they are because they want to know? I don't get it

[@rachaelb.]

I wish there was a way to unlock that inner child and set them free (very carefully and safely), so they can love and feel empathy as adults, mainly to make them less dangerous. 😪

[@carvercapitalequitypartner122]

I believe a serious narcissist is too far gone. No fixing them. They resist being exposed as a narcissist. Walk away.

[@ACSuperstar]

I wish the same, because I feel bad for them that they're that miserable, and they make everyone else miserable & suffer... It's just so unnecessary.

[@mik7564]

This is lovely to say

[@Shanchelle]

I agree. There should be more quality info on parenting to help prevent this. I truly think most parents mean well and my heart goes out to ALL struggling due to this disorder/disease or whatever we want to call it. 🙏💛

[@spacecat3198]

It’s a lovely idea, but it’s difficult to get an NPD into therapy, but yeah, it’s not up to us. It’s up to the NPD and therapists, but yes who knows, one day we might just figure it all out.

[@aprilrushing2646]

From a narcissist in the family, who treated me like crap for any help I received but expected all of us to bend over backwards for them. “Family helps Family” with a cavalier shrug.

[@buttercupchickadee623]

Thank you for this. There are a lot of people out here, usually the silent ones, who are slowly listening, absorbing and using this content to heal. For me, I was raised in a religious cult, broke free 10 years ago, dated several narcissists because it felt familiar. Please keep producing content.

[@susanfisher3655]

Epiphany today: I AM NO LONGER A NARC WHISPERER! 👏 Reclaimed MY life and brain 💛 NARC free for life. 💥(And thank you for educating on narcs. Knowledge is power.)

[@asavoy6333]

Thank you !!! That's so spot on . They are a child that will never grow up .

[@susanfisher3655]

FACT

[@Mllascelles1]

I personally love “everyone knows…”, “everyone said…”, or my personal favorite “everybody does …”. Although you’ve never heard nor seen “everyone” do anything being discussed. It’s the same scripts.

[@relie6476]

Replace “everything” with “I” in those statements and you have the real statement.

[@franklinloll2229]

Or dave Chappelle " I know a .. ".

[@vivila9907]

My husband does this. "Other people do this when I", "Other do that when I", "Other people don't mind when I" willingly ignoring the fact that he's a completely different person when he's out and about with other people.

[@KingoftheJuice18]

You're describing the 45th president of the United States.

[@sonias9722]

When you call him out on something, "everyone else thinks I'm a good person", "ask my friends they don't agree with that"

[@stephaniehancock6462]

“I can’t help it that I am so deeply attractive”, when confronted about cheating.😂😂😂

[@britaniblossom4186]

Literally. Lol

[@geraldfriend256]

When talking about his affair(s) “ I prefer the European model” where that makes it ok?

[@genevieveaniko6492]

They're also prone to putting others down and are notorious for looking for faults in others to make false comparisons, so that they can feel better about themselves. Usually highly critical and nitpick over pointless things. They don't realise that they're a nightmare to be around.

[@oliviadunkley1146]

I find they tend to have ‘strong values’ about ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, to create an expectation with your behaviour, beliefs and appearance, and yet these apparent moral rules don’t apply to them. They are walking hypocrites.

[@kittypurcell]

Yes, everything was labeled as "good" or "bad"...literally everything. If he's doing it and saying it about everything, he was thinking and saying it about me as well

[@janicelee3148]

My sister has her own book of etiquette. Apparently, I never read it. Good for me 😊

[@JordanCarlin-qy5ed]

💯...My ex was exactly this. Would speak highly of themselves in knowing what was "right" and "wrong" but their actions didnt quite match their words. If you want to know someone's true intentions, look at how they act not what they say.

[@jacquelinefroehle3583]

They gaslight them selves using the term "Everybody "...Everybody is jealous of me. Everybody judges. Everybody knows. Everybody hates her. Or "all people do it"....they justify lying with generalizations like Everybody or All people.

[@marydarnell973]

You might as well say "the world" and don't ever accuse them again and leave

[@NightMystique13]

Or like Trump loves to say “I have heard people are saying…blah, blah, lie, lie”.

[@ari3lz3pp]

My mom had an easy go of it and completely wrecked her own life by blaming everyone else for not recognizing her greatness. My grandparents worked their butts off to give her all of their money and she just blew through it. Definition of privledged. Now she's trailer trash in one of the worst states and towns I know of in the US. 🙈 But it's everyone else's fault...LOL

[@ari3lz3pp]

​​@@NightMystique13 He doesn't show signs of being a narcissist in a diagnosable sense though. He's high in narcissism sure, and confidence but he's not A narcssist. He cares too much about other people. Narcissists don't care about anyone else, their children their parents, their spouses.....they only care about their image projected by that person. It's ok not to like Trump but you don't need to misappropriate the definition of being an actual narcissist because of it. Typical, expected.......but just not cool.

[@publicserviceannouncement4777]

"Everybody?" More like, "you and what army?!"

[@martyrose]

That's why I call him Baby and it isn't meant as a compliment.

[@alexisgreene8952]

I called him baby head!

[@maggier836]

😂

[@tinamarisia123]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... you have just given me the best way to deal with having to listen to how kind he is yada yada... (and be grinning instead of irritated)

[@martyrose]

@@tinamarisia123 It's interesting how it cuts down on the swearing, it replaces any foul name you're tempted to use, and it also lets you enjoy your own inside joke. Have fun!😂

[@MorgueInTheVoid]

I'm so stealing this 😂 they're gonna brag about something and I'm gonna be like, "Oh well look at you go! Aren't you just such a good baby! A good big dumb baby!"🤣🤣🤣

[@Nesterou]

On dating apps, I usually avoid like plague those bio with "I'm honest and I hate liars". Or people being able to describe themselves as being super attentive and ready to help others blahblah Turns out more often than not, they're the exact opposite. Don't listen to people. Watch how they act.

[@kelleymcclain7380]

They use extremes and absolutes. “You never, you always, all of the time, never”

[@newworldastrology1102]

💯

[@alberthernandez4298]

I'm the type of person who can appreciate that information. I'm always looking for more ways to help others.

[@huntawpn]

I love hearing "I've grown so much over the last X year(s)." When you see the exact same person you met X year(s) ago. Yeah, they've "changed" but they usually get themselves into the same life situations they always have.

[@ashleys1655]

I fell for the shit after being separated only a month. 🤦🏼‍♀️ He was worse than ever before! Demanding me to move back in, demanding me to wear my wedding ring again, demanding me to do this or that. One morning I woke up and just never text him back. Our divorce was final within the month separation. His mommy or someone needed a divorce date, so I sped it up to make it happen faster. That was 2.5 years ago and he still texts me, not understanding why I won’t talk to him. I refuse to answer but his guy friend, who is married to my female friend, will randomly ask me when he sees me. Each time my answer is because he’s toxic but his friend isn’t giving him that message. 😂😂

[@MaynardsSpaceship]

​@@ashleys1655 Ashley, change your number.

[@ashleys1655]

@@MaynardsSpaceship shhheeettt no! He doesn’t control my life like that anymore! I can block his number, I just find the messages funny now. And it’s not daily.

[@jodilynn2017]

Yes this is one of their most annoying traits. I’ve had one flat out say “I’m the greatest man in the world” and then get angry when I giggled and said that was the single most narcissistic thing I’ve ever hear anyone say….so weird

[@kennethlapointesongwriter3330]

Sounds like a certain orange man....

[@markdrew8977]

@@kennethlapointesongwriter3330 yes, that senile decaying corpse in the white house, I agree

[@annieirish2229]

@@kennethlapointesongwriter3330 TRUMP 2024

[@dons1177]

@@kennethlapointesongwriter3330 He just says it in a direct manner, haven’t seen a USA president not boast about being goat in some way or other. All exhibit major arrogance in any case. You gota overvalue yourself to feel worthy of presidential status I guess, 🤷🏼‍♀️ comes with the territory.

[@RobertMcGuckin-ws6pe]

@@kennethlapointesongwriter3330 Come on man! TDS is so 2019. Get over it and get angry that the current administration wants you dead.

[@brain-gymnastic]

If someone says I'm very sensitive when you get to know the person. Then run away. These are usually the most insensitive people ever.

[@rachellecooper2263]

“I’m the type of person who….” I had a visceral response to this.

[@charmee4045]

Mine said "I will never hurt you" and proceeded to do just that. I totally agree.

[@ashleys1655]

My ex narcissist husband family would say this while meeting new people… “we’re Christens and we don’t judge anyone.” Before I divorced him, I ended up calling them all out on what a dumb phrase they use when meeting new people because they judge harder than any group of people I’ve ever met! I said it immediately following an introduction to a new person. 😁 None of them like me anymore 🤣 and I’m ok with that! I don’t want to see or speak with any of them again!

[@karl-ivan-iceberg-icebear]

You where lucky it wasn't your family, it's hard when you need to separatete from your parents after an entire life with narcissistic abuse. You realized it after a while (when you where an adult), and you think "What a non normal upbringing I had!". It's painful to leave people behind, but you need to live your own life.

[@ashleys1655]

@@karl-ivan-iceberg-icebear my father is a narcissist and as I grow older I see it in my mom also but I’m not so obvious ways. I’m also prone to calling people on their bs. I expect the same thing from people to myself. I enjoy growth, point out my faults. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@karl-ivan-iceberg-icebear]

@@ashleys1655 I'm the same way. I overanylazing my environment and what I was exposed to, when I saw their abusive behavior towards me. I just left. Left an email. Do not contact me. I think the best way to move on is to distance yourself from everything they are involved with. But then you lose more people, then you would like. But that's life.

[@iliostalahti]

So you married into the Pharisee class 🤔

[@ashleys1655]

@@iliostalahti I did 🙁 but am no longer affiliated! Every wife in the family thought they were royalty and treated their spouse as a pheasant too. They were all such pains in the butts! I’m so grateful to be out of that mess!

[@doc_in_the_woods]

That's totally true. Both the clichés and the notion that narcissists are made by a combination of trauma and spoiling... The worst thing is that there is no good response to those clichés apart from going greyrock, which feels kind of counterintuitive when someone is telling you something that sounds important...

[@redhotz21]

Truely sad, for themselves and the rest of the World, I hope even a few with get treatment

[@tgardner5968]

This was the way my now ex husband wrote about himself in the initial divorce response- it was so strange. He cited his “Favorite”philosopher and author. I never saw him ever pick up a book the entire 20 years of marriage. It was even like pulling teeth to get him to read to the kids.😂

[@MotherofWeePigs]

🤣 damn! Haha have to laugh at those sorts

[@jld75-75]

"When I love, I love deeply!"

[@ettamae05]

“I give myself away to everyone and no one ever gives to me!”

[@marilynmonheaux]

That was my favorite. “Everyone has always taken everything from me every time.” Meanwhile, the new supply was sending Uber eats to the house before I could even leave.

[@christopherqueen3194]

Another expression from my own time with a narc: “Respect is earned.” And then she proceeded to denigrate all of my efforts to earn her respect..... therefore she didn’t have to show me any respect!

[@gulillal5085]

When you meet a narcist, run. You can not change them. They are evil, they can not feel something for others. Don't try to explain their behavior to yourself. Just run. No contact is the best.

[@transcendence8888]

NPD is a disorder caused by trauma and those with NPD who accept help do actually make progress. The problem is most of them will not admit they're the problem.

[@geraldfriend256]

@@transcendence8888I heard a licensed psychologist say only 4-5% of the clients who go to him for npd improve. And think about what percentage of them are humble and self aware enough to actually seek help . Rare air

[@stumpyjoe3507]

You have helped me so much❤ I have to watch one of your videos every day to keep reminding myself that a) it is absolutely NOT me with the problem and that b) they really are just children and can’t help it. Thank you!

[@susanfisher3655]

True, they might not be able to "help it" but that doesn't make you have to be the NARC WHISPERER!💫

[@Butterfly-cl6wb]

Don't forget "I'm a good person!" They never end up being good people...

[@kittypurcell]

Yes! I've heard so many times "I'm a good person...I'm just trying to go through life not causing anyone any hurt."

[@nomg563]

Good people do not exist. Everyone is some way isn’t chaste or clean

[@lajoyahill3139]

Bro, you ain't never lied!!!!!!!!!💯

[@tristawiles5015]

My ex narcissist used to say " just look at you".

[@sinotna1able]

I think the worst is the narcissistic mother

[@susanfisher3655]

True that!

[@rosalynjolly2565]

Sheep knows the sound of their Shepards voice ❤

[@demo3456]

After watching Richard for years I finally think I'm the problem hahah

[@thompson2240]

Learning how to shut them out

[@2Jeezuzisreal]

The inner little child is scarred so they create false tough guy.

[@MotherofWeePigs]

Yep

[@nomg563]

As do most people unfortunately

[@Clare0116]

"Look what you made me do!"

[@kellysmith1792]

So, so true. It is so mind boggling to hear this, for it has been my reality for years but could never explain it, &/or even comprehend it. Always screaming inside my head "what the heck is going on, this can't be reality".

[@shalomrachelchi3284]

You're absolutely spot-on. I'm going to keep this post for myself. I understand what you're saying it is irritating. It's like the person always saying I'm a good person aren't I? Evidently they're looking for a slap on the back annoying.

[@TheSheila4444]

And then they give you a speech and turn around and do the opposite. They’ll call you and tell you they’re always on time and really drive it home and then the next time you see them they’ll be an hour and a half late.

[@ΜπαμπηςΜπ-π8ξ]

Well..that's me and I know it's annoying but I can't stop doing it

[@jasonhumber5378]

One problem with this is in some circumstances its hard to express that your very high quality without being mistaken for a narcist.

[@pamleonard7330]

Actions, not words. If someone is “high quality” it’s usually self-evident and doesn’t need to be talked about or proclaimed verbally.

[@joeferreira657]

Spot on,well put. Yes,so true. False self, and big bullshitters, never trust. lie a lot, then talk badly behind your back, but never in front of you. Cruel cowards, unsecure liers .

[@LoriEarp]

VERY TRUE ! I know someone who is EXACTLY like that & will never shut up about himself & how he is always right & how everyone mistreats him yet many have given him CHANCE AFTER CHANCE AFTER CHANCE yet he continually tries to destroy families….& even his own family…..until we said as a family…decided WE ARE NOT DEALING WITH THIS MAN ANY LONGER !!!!! WE WILL NOT ALLOW HIM TO DO ANY MORE DAMAGE TO OUR FAMILY !!!!!

[@SanchosBro]

I am someone who always only talks about narcissists and I am definitely not a narcissist

[@jessicacarrillo5262]

And that's why I'm blessed to be divorced. Felt sorry for the kids he has with is new wife. I pray for them

[@Xalgucennia]

My dad always goes, (translated from another language) the type of person I hate most is (whatever thing he's on about at the time), and then he'll do exactly that thing later.

[@robynkellogg808]

Spot. On. 🙌 Don't say it - DO it.

[@583sagitarium]

I just want to give you a hug. I was thinking about how, hard that must of been with your family having there issues and growing up that I am happy you have on shown Other there is a light❤️

[@will_Iam61]

My covert doesn't talk like that, however, they do seem to use absolutes an awful lot. You always, I never...even to the point of ridiculousness.

[@negativeaffirmations69]

I thunk people who overexplain due to having a narcissist parent may do this as well, having had to "prove themselves" to a narcissistic parent who doesn't listen.

[@triciamedora9274]

I enjoy the shorts. Was listening to RG for years wasn't sure I would enjoy the metamorphosis and to my surprise I found the change to be quite enjoyable.

[@d1na207]

I'm the kind of person who appreciates honesty and people who speak truth above all. I dislike proud, selfish, rude, egoistic, lie-loving people. I also like to keep these away from children. 😊

[@reneehouser2925]

Some of them even give warnings this way- "I'm the kinda guy/gal- your parents warned you about!" they think it's cute & if you don't believe them & walk away, you're screwed! They're tangible evidence of evil demonic financial vampires that will make everyone turn on you as they also tell you that your friends/family are garbage... I'm guessing! Thanks for the daily reminders, Richard! You saved me & my kids years ago...🙏

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

...demonic financial vampires? caring about money shouldn't even be a motivator. you should be happy with life without needing things

[@khaosssssss1727]

​@@whenimmanicimgodly4228 children cannot be naked in public and women need sanitary towels and underwear. Also toothbrushes and paste, food of some kind, utensils. You make a very stupid facile 'argument'. People, all of us need safety, security, warmth, privacy, tools for existing in the public sphere. False legs, dental work those are needed and expensive. 🙃

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

@@khaosssssss1727 you don't need money for 95% of fhe things you listed

[@jenniechurch5337]

​@@whenimmanicimgodly4228 you obviously have never experienced the financial aspect of a narc! 🤷

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

@@jenniechurch5337 wdym? Could you elaborate?

[@ooopticnerveee]

Haha, I used to have this boss who said he valued open communication and honesty but the culture he created at work was one of spying/reporting and secretive whispering. It was unbearable.

[@laviniaasofiei9054]

I recognise this character, it's exhausting to have a person like this around. I worked in the same environment with different type of narcissists, they are just everywhere. If you have a narcissist around, I advice you to not take personally anything from what she/he says, it's only the expression of their inner struggles.

[@DanzoSan]

When people see narcissists all around them and go diagnosing without proper trained educational experience, it's quite often that person who is foisting a label onto people that is actually incorrect. Quite often it is the person who is throwing around blanket terms they have no professional expertise in that requires the actual professional help as they are the ones who are showing mental personality disorder. Not everyone you don't like is an actual narcissist. Don't be so quick to misdiagnosed especially when you really, don't know what you are talking about...

[@laviniaasofiei9054]

@@DanzoSan Tks for your reply but I didn't give a professional advice, I gave my opinion based on my experience. Alright, not all of them are narcissist, could be other some sort of mental disorder. If mental health would be the norm these days the world would not be so fucked. I don't need a professional expertise to have an opinion. If so what entitles you to have an opinion?

[@DanzoSan]

@laviniaasofiei9054 I'm a clinical psychologist with over 20years experience. I don't give 'opinion', I gave you factual information based on years of scientific study m dissected and evaluated by millions of professionals all around the world. You yourself are not simply giving 'your opinion'. You are gossiping. Which has the potential to damage the personal and/or professional reputations of the people you are labelling. Which is why there's a saying "it's best to keep your opinions to yourself".

[@francinesmith8109]

​@@laviniaasofiei9054 lol Theres always " one" on these pages that just hates ppl taking about this topic and all the sensitive information out there available online for everyone. It's just not near as easy to get away with certain behaviors anymore without being called out. It's way too funny reading the responses sometimes. Not funny though.

[@laviniaasofiei9054]

@@francinesmith8109 I suppose that in this upside down world if you protect yourself from narcissistic abuse and you advise others to do the same "by not taking it personally", you are considered as being a narcissist who gossip about narcissists.... Fk sake, it's laughable.

[@christinav3383]

Yes true narcissists praise themselves. Praise is your hard work that impresses others.

[@tasmine772]

🎯 so acutely and honestly put. i love the forwardness on fragmentation and especially on the child psychological state they live in. narcissists albeit socially harmful need a lot of compassion and “tough” love to get them to address trauma & their bad habits

[@genericname7020]

I'm the type of person who always needs to sleep with a blanket. I guess I'm a narcissist.