NATE COTTMAN Shares His Heart Like He Never Has Before by Being Accountable | Dear Future Wifey E909

[@KristenMira]

"If men take their rightful place, the family flourishes!" Facts, facts, facts! Love your mission🤩

[@cshell75]

My prayer is that men will hold other men in their circles accountable. We really have to be trying to live according to the word of God.

[@Treebee6009]

I agree. Responsibility/Accountability groups for men (like in The Forge) would completely change Black families and communities.

[@TruLeeFree]

It’s more challenging to have a Christ centered marriage when each individual isn’t already living a Christ centered life before entering the marriage. I’ve personally learned post marriage that GOD being my FIRST LOVE is what allows TRUE LOVE to show up in a marriage/any or all relationships. GETTING MY RELATIONSHIP with GOD RIGHT FIRST IS HELPING ME LOVE BETTER AND LOVE WELL!

[@smileyperlishia]

Yessss!!!Exactly!! Totally agree! I learned that as well…because if one is going towards God and the other isn’t before marriage..things could really go wrong because God was first at the beginning!!!

[@tylynn256]

This is the truth!

[@handscreate6505]

I absolutely love This an totally agree with you 100%. If more people thought like this boy marriages would make it. Christ needs to be your first love. If we focused more on our relationship with God endless on marriage everything else will fall into place. Like his word says seek thee first the kingdom of God and all his righteousness and then all these things shall be added unto you

[@TruLeeFree]

@@handscreate6505 yeeeeeessssss!!! I’m thankful that I have learned and am still learning all that I am about Gods Love!💕 (it yields HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND will yield a HEALTHY MARRIAGE) I now have that which is true wealth to pass on to my children! Seeking first the kingdom of God and all his righteousness leaves us in that sweet place of receiving all the things (spiritual and material) that he has for us…. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Jesus Christ is the way.. God is blowing my mind now. Im super excited about what’s to come!

[@thelovelymissmonica1938]

"I take full responsibility for the demise of my marriage." "I didn't have the courage to do the work to repair the damage that I had done." ...the confession of those words is so healing...

[@teecharee6069]

There is nothing more masculine and honorable than a man who can accept responsibility and take accountability..I pray God restores him and his second Chance at being a husband is rewarded.

[@Simplyblessed32]

This podcast had helped me realize areas where I’m still dealing with trauma and pain from childhood and relationships. God keep working on me .

[@kimberlywhite7794]

Wow! "You are still my brother in Christ." She is a victorious woman.

[@svieux572]

Seriously!!! She is!

[@sisionie]

Wow awesome like this

[@tylynn256]

I love this comment because it's the truth. The way he said it. I felt the sincerity vs. Sarcasm in those words.

[@chikaed-obi8657]

That's a high level of maturity. Shout out to her !

[@Lovely-wy4fo]

I agree, that's spiritual maturity.

[@mmhmshebad]

Nate’s ex wife is a very close friend of mine. She is quite literally the most loving and caring woman I’ve ever met. Let me text my friend and tell her how much I love her.

[@alicetheegreet]

Amazing! @mmhmshebad

[@Jess_quez]

I’m so glad she has you as a friend!

[@savhannadorvillier9819]

I’m glad she has you bc I just watched a whole lot of posturing from him

[@dty6555]

@@savhannadorvillier9819 I since his deflection, thank God for Laterras ability to ask questions directly.

[@flydollronda1926]

@@dty6555same way I felt watching it because he basically said all of , he had an amazing woman, and it didn’t matter to him…he still cheated and wanted out….so wait, this is what they are seeking out good women for? To break them down?

[@molovefive9]

I commend his ex wife for remaining true to her character even though the same wasn't given to her. Let your light continue to shine my sister. Nate thank you for your transparency and getting the counsel needed to stop the cycle of hurting women.

[@lovefaith2022]

A man who can face his wife and confess all his discretions . That's simply respectful to her healing. "Forgiveness is for yourself." I personally have never experienced a man who could say it to my face. I forgave my ex fiance because healing was the goal.

[@ykeemo2819]

I watched this twice. "I forgive you, you're still my Brother in Christ" This is hard when you have forgiven an ex-husband and he continues to behave with disrespect and with no repentance or accountability. I valued his message and applaud his journey and apology to his ex-wife.However I believe there are still so many of our black men who are not willing to do the work to heal for their future. I can forgive, but I can 't respect and we as women have to create the boundaries to remain healthy and on our healing journey. I may need to watch this again.Thank you Laterras another good episode.🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@shawnitamurdock4369]

I am a happily married woman, but I just want to say how beautiful this episode was to see men take full accountability for their wrongs in a marriage and is now on a journey to be the husband that God planned for them to be! God bless you on your journey.✨

[@susanakaan810]

Taking accountability is a sign of humility ,maturity and growth. Great episode

[@pamelamashaba4515]

The transparency on this episode was so powerful, thank you 😊

[@KeSpeaksLife]

Whew. I hate that men wait until it’s over to have these revelations. I wish more men would fight DURING the marriage/relationship. Breaking hearts and families up is so sad man. So sad.

[@lisacox3750]

I don't know his whole background so I won't speak to that. I was just going to say I wish people wouldn't marry until they find themselves first. This isn't a man thing either - it's a people thing. There are women that don't come to these revelations either until it's over. I don't know how involved he was in church, but I do blame some black churches. People are taught to get married - but not taught how to BE married. They aren't taught how to be who they need to be for their future spouses.

[@iriemo721]

Thank you!

[@basketboutiquebysha]

While I appreciate and commend his transparency, as a woman this is all too familiar and such a painful thing to experience. Lord please heal and guide us all. 🥺

[@evelyntaylor9215]

That's WORD!!! I NEED TO BRING THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF TO MY NEXT MARRIAGE!!!

[@Triece-trulyblessedmom]

Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness but rather a representation of the highest level of strength . - Laterras Whitfield

[@iaintprettyforabiggirl]

This was a great conversation, and I have to admit, there were moments that triggered me. I found myself wondering why it seems like when a man leaves a relationship, he finally acknowledges the issues he had and then heals and grows, only for the next woman to benefit. It felt unfair. But then, I was moved to tears because, at the end of the day, he’s still a child of God, and we all fall short and go through our own processes. This episode helped me recognize areas in my heart where I still need to forgive my ex-husband, even though he has never sincerely apologized. Thank you for this conversation.

[@casandrawilliams5141]

It’s not easy but I support and encourage you sis to let it all go. The moment you forgive with your whole heart is the moment God honors. A overflow of love understanding and wisdom to share will surround you. If it’s ok I want to pray that God puts on your heart to pray a prayer lead in unconditional love mercy and grace for your ex-husband?

[@chinweifeanyichukwu5572]

God is faithful,He will give you a whole man as your compensation.your labor of love will not go unrewarded.the bible said that we will reap when we sow not where we sow.let go,and live

[@benitahughes1696]

You are not ALONE!

[@cre8whatyouwant]

My heart hurts for all the wives who have experienced this kind of hurt.

[@patriciapadgett3715]

This was one of the most powerful episode I have seen whereby a man take a King position and be transparent and honest. Nate’s humility to confess his faults shows a man of integrity. Nate’s confession to take full responsibility for the demise of the marriage. covers the woman that he hurt. As well as other women who heard his story. Wow! If more men would do this the whole family can be healed. Praise The Lord🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Thank you Laterras Thank you Nate Thank you Lord🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@ina0603]

I love how you promote others, Laterras! Directing us to his social media accounts is so generous. May you prosper and be in health even as your soul prospers.

[@Thevoiceofrealestate]

Not this episode making me teary eyed 😭There’s so much masculinity yet the same level of vulnerability, so beautiful to listen to. You both are so amazing for sharing all of these.

[@tlwilliams-boucher6866]

At about 43:00- that was like whoa…. I have been disciplining myself to walk so close to the Lord that a man would need to be close to Him to find me. We as humans are full of pride and don’t always know what we need but our Father knows and He knows our end from our beginning and know who to align for longevity of purpose. Blessings brother🙏🏾

[@alicetheegreet]

I love the second hand smoke and broken glass analogies. Thank you for that.

[@SimplySheika]

Me too!!!

[@faithwalkwithpurpose]

That's so good! It's not about what we think we need. It's about what God has for us. So Lord, if he shows up in a way that I didn't expect, I will know because I will be the best version of me as a wife. Brother, your story is inspiring 🙌 Your wife will be blessed 🙌

[@SimplySheika]

Amen!!!!!

[@tiffmat9475]

So good when he said, you don't get disqualified just because you failed at something...got my own revelation from that. Keep up the good work, I also do pray for men out there because the devil really is out to destroy and he knows if they get it together it's a problem for him

[@Spaceandgrace-z7p]

Amen! That prayer! You got me in tears speaking life into this man! Hallelujah ✝️🙏🏽

[@czhanell]

Yes when the man is in his rightful position, we acquiesce along w/the family. This is phenomenal

[@lesleyaddison1999]

Nate bless you. God has placed you in a place of greatness and purpose. You have inspired us. You have our support.

[@irisfynntherivergirl2197]

Agree about her trying to be an imposter of what you said you wanted but there are also women out here that need to vet you before we choose You! Great episode! Love how he took responsibility for not being the kind of husband he was supposed to be. 🙏🏽❤️

[@shantakoa8596]

This is a great conversation. Two men being transparent about their past marriages and taking accountability for their actions during the marriage.

[@ashleytucker9472]

For some reason, I was led to hear this podcast this morning. This was an awesome episode! I enjoyed hearing the speaker Nate!

[@shaywatts6338]

I feel so validated listening to this episode. That’s all a good woman wants is for a man to stand on business & be accountable for his actions! ❤

[@Passion84GodAlways]

🗣️"When you share what you want, you've given them the license to be an IMPOSTER!" SOOO SAD (and unfair 💔😮‍💨) YET SOOO TRUE (not for all but MANY)!!!

[@janicetaylor1272]

I shared what I wanted and he pretended to be a Christian but I saw the signs. I pray I am wise enough now to share what I want and pay attention when God exposes the IMPOSTER because he will, we just have to listen.

[@TedraScott-u9n]

This exactly why I didn’t share what I wanted. Instead I allowed him to show me who he was.

[@joyceevans6961]

Thank you for being a man of God reaching out helping others Nate Cottman a blessing for speaking out sharing his testimony we needs more people to be honest for healing the of Nation Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@WellnessForMoms]

Beautiful conversation!🥰 Healing to see godly, humble men be so vulnerable and transparent. Honest vulnerability and transparency! Gold! I pray you guys get to work together! Praying that God produces something epic from that meeting of minds! Remember the young kings coming behind you…😊

[@beulahjamali8233]

Great episode. Thank you both. These are the kind of conversations that trigger healing to begin and also become a lighthouse to others who find themselves going through the same.

[@mnorwo2]

I'm curious... why aren't ppl AWARE of the integrity & discipline that is REQUIRED prior to marriage!!!???? It sounds like he had a phenomenal wife and because he didn't prepare PRIOR to marriage, now some deep damage was caused.

[@kristinesmith1665]

Damaged spouses damage their spouse. If we can uncover that part before the engagement, would minimize the stress, disloyalty and inconsistency ahead of time.

[@iriemo721]

Exactly!

[@AndreaSylve]

Transparency & Accountability on display. Bravo gentleman, bravo 👏 ❤

[@sankhar2484]

Wow. Yes!!! The best version of yourself. Following the will of God!!! Super Powerful!!!

[@bonitamcneill3256]

That’s why I love Dr Tartt’s explanation of understanding your wants!

[@vivianclark5097]

This conversation is so healing! Thank you both for your vulnerability and transparency!

[@ykeemo2819]

Again 3rd time. I took the time to listen also with my heart and not just my head and experiences. It takes courage and accountability to divorce and walk away from a marriage. Divorce is painful but it can also release and allow you to walk towards the steps of healing for everyone. Thank you DFW! I'm glad I watched again. Great season!

[@Jess_quez]

I believe a man in his situation should have repented, became the husband his wife deserved and endured to the end given the opportunity (if the wife offers forgiveness). Why do men think it’s okay to take accountability for being a terrible unfaithful husband, walk away from the marriage and think that’s right? No…repent and redeem yourself. Men who can do that are the real ones!

[@harrycallender]

@@Jess_quezI fully agree.

[@Birthat40]

That was deep! (What his wife said when he apologized)🥰🥰🥰 GLORY TO GOD! FOR HIS PEOPLE 💚

[@stephanieashley2141]

Y'all really did a good show . I keep re-rerunning; it's full of nuggets.

[@aricks1237]

OMG this was so good and I picked up what y'all put down. Thank you Kings!

[@valentine_b_ndlovu]

How refreshing and humbling it is when men after God’s heart take responsibility 🙏🏽

[@karengray8121]

This is my personal journey with my last husband. I honor you king for being honest and sharing your truth with us. Miss Karen

[@CarmenDrake-tz5pq]

This podcast was everything. I love, love that these two men of God are encouraging and empowering each other. Their desire is for our men to take their rightful places in their homes to positively impact their families and ultimately the the Kingdom of God🙌🏾 Nate Coffman thank you for creating a space for people to ‘love, feel, and heal’ Laterras I did receive and accept the apology of my ex husband even if I never get the apology from him. All is well! I’m learning that it’s safe to love again. God hears my prayers and his plan is perfect.

[@andreasimon77]

As men when we take accountability for who God has called us to be then everything in our life begins to align itself with the purpose he created us for.” This will heal a lot of marriages. 🙌🏾🙏🏽❤️

[@nathifablanchfield8925]

Amen 🙏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾

[@MsBdoll87]

Wow it seems like his ex wife’s ability to forgive him produced this fruit. It helped me so much. I had a similar situation but we weren’t married

[@faithwalkwithpurpose]

Some of God's best work comes from a mess. All things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and are called according to his purpose

[@Taytimethursday]

It really annoys me that so many women go through terrible things with men, then, those same men refer to them as a Proverbs 31 women. The woman usually go through hell with the trifling man and she’s left broken and hurt, resulting in the man moving on with his healing journey and treating the next women like he should have treated his so called, Proverbs 31 woman. Just a bunch of bull 💩

[@abawitx]

Yeah its incredible how much damage is done to black women and we're expected to be impressed or forgiving when years later they wanna do better. And leave us in broken pieces everywhere

[@warriorwives6896]

It's good to heal but even better to heal to help. Divorce does not have to be the end...God restores marriages everyday.

[@cubavsusa]

I love how the Holy Spirit encompass our faults and Nevers give up ...after a lot happening and Adam still listen God in the garden ...the story of a great father and a man.

[@fredajohnson506]

Wow this was very good interview with this young man Nat I love how he was so transparent about his marriage he took total accountability which so many men's don't because they're not mature enough but they are grow up little boy Love this podcast Dear Wifey Laterras Whitfield you're doing great things with this ministry God gave you pray God continue abundantly bless you and praying he will send you that Proverbs 31 woman soon

[@Jayngondi]

This kind of accountability is what heals us ❤ I applaud both of you because you are brave enough to show us your scars and sin. Watching you brings growth and healing to us. God bless you! Your ex-wives are truly women of splendor and virtue 😢 I pray they will be found by healed man of God who are suitable according to Yaweh 👐

[@shywonderful81]

This episode was such a blessing. Thanks more being so transparent. Keep shining your bright light Kings. ❤️💜🦋🙏🏾

[@tonyaandrews6371]

Thank you for this truly amazing message. Salute to Nate for his journey and transparency. As women on my journey of accountability and healing I too have been unauthentic in my past marriages!! As I am writing this alot of what you both discussed makes me want get the proper help to be better. Thank you I love this podcast!

[@zinclaires]

That “out of the game” wisdom has healed me shuuu 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@89Platinum]

Powerfully bittersweet. I don't see Posturing thats grandstanding I see reflection, what I did, didn't do, working on to become used to do. Working on yourself is a lifetime progress that requires assistance spiritually and humanly. Thank you.

[@kealebogalepholletse8062]

What a beautiful conversation ❤

[@SheSharpNotFlat]

So many similarities with you and the guest! Great points from both of you! Profound episode!

[@tamarajohnson8328]

🔥🩵🙏🏽 The prayer at end was excellent as well 👏🏽💯

[@zenaniv]

It is such a blessing when a man grows up and finally becomes the man God envisions, to take care of his daughter. Most men have been an instrument of destruction against women. May our men heal and realise the power they have to build and not crush their women.

[@iriemo721]

Men love to applaud women for being “great women of God”, and for “showing them the love of God” after they’ve betrayed them. Whether they stay together or not, it’s always this period of enlightenment about what character of god they saw through a woman who didn’t treat them as they deserved. Save all that. She was showing you that all along. You chose to ignore it, not value what you had, and seek the approval of someone else.

[@taranazare2633]

Great questions, Laterras, as Nate said. And an exclusive :)

[@Spaceandgrace-z7p]

I feel like the only way some men learn is when something is taken away. I wish it wasn’t this way.

[@vanessiajohnson3279]

Speak that Word LW always flowing in obedience. Loved this episode, accountability displayed and the powerful statement from the ex wife👏

[@danimrose]

This was an awesome message for both men and women! Been waiting on this collab! On target! 🙌🏾👌🏾

[@WellnessForMoms]

🎯

[@1valerie_oakley]

Great interview! The entire interview was 💯💯💯 but it blessed me when he said the enemy will sometimes try to make you feel unqualified for what you speak on. Thank you for that reminder. I can do ALL things through Christ which strengthens me. 🙌🏽. Blessings on your endeavors and journey🙏🏾

[@kealebogalepholletse8062]

This podcast is such a blessing 😢😭😊

[@deidrehudnell9165]

Save the Seed! Pastor John Cherry Sr. Taught that back in 1985. When men are aligned, the family will be aligned with God!

[@WendalynBrooks]

That woman is BEYOND a Proverbs 31 woman, Amen! I would’ve been yelling, you are the devil but hey I loved ya 😅

[@Geneva89]

Same because God is still doing a work in me bc honey. 😂

[@flo-dd5sw]

She did initially have words. That was her response AFTER time apart, wise counsel, and healing. The host was misleading others as if she felt that way in the moment or right after the divorce.

[@savhannadorvillier9819]

I’m still trying to figure out where the true accountability takes place on his behalf🤨

[@loriwrites3653]

LOVED THIS EPISODE!!! Subsribed to both! Thanks L-Boogie!

[@bigshirly73]

Done!! This was sooo good!! So many nuggets!!!

[@latonyabarber]

Yes please talk about the flip side!!! Thank you for Acknowledging this

[@1Kandie1Krush]

Top of the A.M. DFW!! Happy Wishful Wednesday!

[@alicetheegreet]

Laterras, look up Karen Cherry Brown. She shares her story, and her story of how she met her now husband, Ken. They have the cutest story and are so funny. I think you'd really enjoy a conversation with them.

[@gardellthomas4856]

Truly some people don't realize that not because someone is nice person or say the right thing is the person for you .... people have hidden desires

[@Jess_quez]

24:18 as someone who is separated and headed for divorce, had a husband just like him and a situation similar to his, I would not want my ex husband to reach out to me after a year to tell me EVERYTHING he did to me so HE could get it off HIS chest so HE can heal to then put that on me so I can relive it all, ruminate about it all and start the healing process all over again. NO THANK YOU! I would not give him that opportunity. Go tell someone else. A friend, therapist…whoever but not me. Leave me in peace. I’m healed or healing and I don’t need you to dump all of that on me. I knew enough to know you were no good when we got divorced. I don’t need to know everything. And I don’t need your apologies. You need to take your apologies to the Lord and ask Him to forgive you for not being the husband you should have been and fumbling the blessings He gave you. And repent! Some women may want to know everything and need an apology or their ex to take accountability for their wrongs but I do not. Don’t need it.

[@Shavonalovely]

Exactly!!

[@FeliciaMJai]

Emotionally impotent men, believers and non-believers, should sit themselves in a corner and realize the harm they do to good women...smh.

[@tylynn256]

I completely understand what you're saying, but he was following the Holy Spirit. I believe the intention was different. The fact she was so connected to God was what allowed her to respond in forgiveness.

[@Jess_quez]

I understand but at the same time I think the offended spouse should get to decide whether or not they want to receive all of that information. One can receive an apology without having to hear about all of the ways they’ve been betrayed. Sometimes you also have to question the sincerity and protect your own heart and emotional well being. Are they just wanting to clear their conscience or are they truly remorseful and repentant for the way they betrayed you and sinned against God. Because a lot of people are sorry for what they did because of how it affects them and not because of how they hurt the other person or God. As far as his sincerity goes I’ll leave that for God to judge.

[@Jess_quez]

Some women want the details and some don’t. And both are okay as long as they’re okay with it. I agree without God it’s hard if not impossible to forgive betrayal. Psychologists agree that betrayal is one of the worst kinds of emotional pain a human being can experience in life. I just wish people would stop hurting each other and playing with peoples hearts and lives. Sounds like he lost a good godly woman! I hope she finds a good, faithful, honest and godly man one day who will love her like Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her! 🙏🏼

[@FlorentTshibwid-o3z]

Thank you so much Mr Whitefield for giving us such a awesome plateform which bless us with wonderful testimonies about marriage and live in general. Shout out to you for helping us young men to do better especially us who are in the process to get married. God bless you.@Florent watch you every episode from the Congo.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Man, that means a lot. If you ever need advice or just someone to talk to, hit me up.

[@FlorentTshibwid-o3z]

@@DearFutureWifey I'll do , thank so much

[@taranazare2633]

Beautiful prayer at the end

[@sethiamoore4439]

I am watching now as wait for the judge this helping me so much one I be able my dear wifey podcast is helping me😢❤

[@HeartFeels-j]

Wow!!!! Awesome testimony and growth. #Healing Journey

[@chereemcarn8464]

It was important to me to have a man who is okay and supportive of my relationship with Jesus and had one too. They used to say a way to a man’s heart is through His stomach. I said thats was a lie because I can cook. I learned from my grandma how to go into a kitchen and create a meal. What I wanted was a man I could trust and love me. I got that and to see him Serve in the ministry and to hear him pray for other is what I wanted.

[@smileyperlishia]

Awesome interview 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@IdaC-y2n]

He’s being honest now… but something about this doesn’t feel right. Prayers up 🙏🏾

[@dw9054]

It’s challenging, I appreciate their honesty. These convos are great and needed. It’s interesting all these single saved divorced men many of them still don’t have the discipline for celibacy now which means in marriage there will still be issues. God has to be the fortifier and reason first for all of us otherwise we could compromise our relationships. If we can’t be faithful to God we won’t be to another overtime

[@alicetheegreet]

How so???

[@alicetheegreet]

Good morning Fam!!!! This episode sounds like it's gonna be LIT! 🥳

[@AmberMellon]

Love the transparency & vulnerability 💚💚✨✨💫

[@mellikamonteiro7474]

Another Gem 💎 Thank you!!

[@lesleyaddison1999]

Another Blessed Podcast.

[@thyrajoseph2720]

Laterras will make you say things you had no intention of saying..LOL! I agree that he is a great interviewer! This was a powerful conversation between two men who are committed to doing things God's way! They have taken responsibility for the hurt they caused in the lives of the women who married them and thought it would be forever. My children's father apologized to me because he thought I was stuck on him, and I would take him back. When that didn't work, he went right back to being nasty...LOL! I'm just thankful to God that I didn't need his apology to move on! Loved your letter, Laterras! Keep allowing God to use you! ❤

[@karissa2795]

This brought tears to my eyes

[@sharonmccann-rickerson7403]

Great episode. Thank you for allowing the lord to use you. ! ❤

[@kirazyng]

🗣and another one ... great episode! Thank you for sharing.

[@mitchella5954]

Powerful episode. Thanks for sharing. As meb we need more open dialog about being accountable.

[@sethiamoore4439]

POWERFUL 🔥🔥🔥🔥