Natural Hair Jealousy Is Real

[@bre9328]

Sometimes they're just mad you have the audacity to wear your hair. They don't even want it, but they can't understand why you do. I had a preteen biracial ask me, "You really like wearing your hair like that?" When she found out I was going to cut my afro, she was so excited. I was indecisive for a few months, and she would be disappointed when I'd come back to visit and still had my fro. When I finally did get my low cut...Chile the disturbingly, relieved, smile that crept across her face 👀

[@lola0600]

I think long 4b hair is beautiful, I love it! Not saying short hair is not beautiful

[@Timetrae]

That’s DEEP!

[@AngelicaEstherxo]

WOW! interesting

[@emptynester547]

Sweetheart I would’ve told her my hair goes with ALL of features and it compliments me!!

[@ms.evegene]

I've seen that smile before as well

[@jahmekmi2165]

It's because our hair is exotic.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎

[@maatiangoddess9890]

No one else has it!!!!

[@daughterofzion14]

And versatile, defines gravity .

[@Mii..]

Like daughterofzion said. It's versatile. It's also unique, looks like clouds and leaves. And no race has that hair. That's why they want us to be insecure of our hair. So that we don't see how beautiful it truly is.

[@PrincessYonna1]

Which is why I don’t understand why bw won’t wear it out more. It is our pretty privilege

[@Joyinthemorn]

Has anyone ever had non Black women start playing and tossling their hair when you are around? I have gotten the masculina comment when Im minding my business, nothing masculine about me..they feel intimidated and want to humble you.

[@TwiztidPixiel]

I notice it all the time. If your hair looked bad, they wouldn't care.

[@ladyd8028]

I like to let them all see how easily my hair moves: It's bouncing & behaving hair!! (That's a line in a shampoo commercial from the 1970s.) 😉

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Yes I have noticed this smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ thanks for mentioning this one…and it definitely is an attempted humbling tactic 🤎

[@emptynester547]

I get it all the time and come to realize, wow my hair doesn’t get lice!!

[@emptynester547]

I most definitely noticed it. As soon as I see them do it, it makes me thankful for my hair that it doesn’t get lice.

[@Ferrist1]

When a whole group of women assimilates (forced or otherwise) to your aesthetic, I imagine it inflates one's ego. You can say "I'm the best in the world. Everyone loves me or wants to look like me" what a jarring experience when that same assimilating group starts to say, actually no, I love my look the best in the world, and that look happens to be something that cannot be duplicated and is the antithesis of the status quo. So many people's ego boosts are predicated on deflating or keeping in check blk women's self worth/esteem.

[@msliberated3899]

💯💯

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree 💯 percent 🤎

[@StephHester]

This

[@AshaHassell]

This is the comment!!! 🎉

[@LonnieBhi]

Exactly because it defies the false notion they have of themselves. In their heads, its like "how dare you try to feel good about yourself?!". If you are living in God's truth, you will be attacked.

[@OrganicAlumination]

Okay they say natural hair is childish but usually when a woman wears her natural hair she tends to look younger, like if you always wear wigs and stuff you tend to look older than your actual age

[@india3285]

Childish? 😂😂😂😂😂

[@444lex]

@@india3285 yep there’s plenty of bw on TikTok that talks about how “childish” our hair looks on us.

[@hourexodus5204]

The other day I got carded at the gas station. I was like “how old do you think I am???” She was like idk maybe 20. I’m 34 😂😂😂

[@libfuzzy4629]

Natural hair doesn’t look childish it depends on the style

[@geemai435]

True

[@ThePinkSwanCulture]

I believe there is jealousy towards black women who wear their natural texture hair because they stand out compared to other races of women. Sonia Barbie Tucker truly radiates exoticness, femininity, grace, elegance, class, and pride with her natural textured afro. She is the woman who encouraged me to embrace my natural beauty. There is an earthy and ethnic beauty that radiates when a black woman wears her natural hair. 🖤

[@charmaineespeut4627]

We absolutely do stand out especially when we wear it in a fro. I stopped wearing my afro in high school because I got so much attention and then random people started to touch it (I was a teen who didn't know how to establish boundaries).

[@Mii..]

Exactly. All other races look the same or similar in the same room. But bw stick out, just from their hair alone, they force an entire room to notice them. Just from their hair...that's why they're mad.

[@Mii..]

Exactly. All other groups look the same or similar in the same room. But bw stick out, just from their hair alone, they force an entire room to notice them. Just from their hair...that's why they're mad.

[@butterflygirl01]

Sonia is adorable. There is this other bw on tiktok who used to travel around the world and many ppl would stop to take pictures with her. I forgot her name but many blk ppl especially the men didn’t like that and thought it was fetishizing towards her afro . Afros are unique and pulls lots of attention.

[@KarlaBedminister]

I'm afraid to try the Afro on Afro Day because I don't know how to prepare it so it won't tangle. Help!

[@Cookie-tz7hd]

they do seem bothered when black women are not wearing those hot mess wigs and weaves. They will stare and be so angry it's weird. And don't let them see your hair blowing in the wind smh..

[@clenasmavanklompenberg6524]

Our natural hair is a connection to nature

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree 🤎🤎🤎

[@myhair_issafoodie9191]

As supposed to what? Other races hair connection is unnatural? I wish we could build self esteem without sounding delusional or exactly like the oppressors. White ppl are as much human as we are. Evil ppl but ppl just the same 😂Also we are just as evil to our own and just as unrepentant.

[@Sacredwoman22]

I can’t wait for BW to realize that natural hair is where it’s at baby. Everyone else knows

[@CoffeeCuties777]

@@Sacredwoman22 I agree 🤎🤎🤎

[@shaylow8938]

Girl, no matter I’m gonna show up and shine in my natural hair that’s in my DNA..look or not look, compliment or not, I really don’t care. I love complimenting my beautiful sisters rocking their natural hair. Walk in confidence with any style you wanna rock. Keep your head held high and embrace your crown. Enjoy the journey.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@COOKIEM260]

19 years old here. I stopped wearing weaves in 11th grade. I wear my hair in an afro basically everyday if not then it's twist. Tell me why every now and then at my job I have mostly foreign African black women who have in weaves majority of tims coming up to me saying "oh you wear hair natural, yknow I can do braids, lace fronts, crotchet, etc" or when I keep my twist in for a long time and it gets into the dreading phase (which I personally love) some older black women come up to me saying stuff like "Oh don't dread up that pretty hair". It's really disgusting tbh, I guess to them wearing my hair natural means I can't afford or find anybody to put a weave in it and if I want my hair to look like locs it's my business.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for sharing your experience and smh it’s really sad that a lot of people assume we all want a weave and if we don’t wear them we must be broke …it’s actually the opposite for a lot of us because we are saving so much money by embracing our natural hair🤎

[@jupiterdrops7752]

I relate to your experience I'm 17 and I recently just put in micro twist. But I've noticed that black people are more likely to give you the nasty looks regarding your hair because anytime we were our natural hair out its "unkempt" or "Childish" when this is our natural hair growing from our scalp.

[@JO-fk5ho]

That’s crazy, I’m African and have worn my 4C hair naturally. When I came to America, Black American women were quick to tell me how unkempt and poor I looked. I was told being African and Natural wouldn’t work in my favour in the US. The miseducation is global

[@PrincessYonna1]

@@JO-fk5hoAfrican women think the same hence they wear wigs and bleach..

[@EtherealSolana]

African people were colonized HARD ignore them HARD. Trust me I know. My parents are African!

[@hereforit2347]

Since going on a hair health-and-length journey in 2016, my hair is now a little past hip length. I do not normally wear my hair straightened. The last time I got a silk press was in 2020 and I was at tailbone length at the time. I got a LOT of hateful looks with my long straightened hair from white and other non-Black women. In my experience, long hair on a Black woman, especially if it is also dense, shiny, and healthy looking, PISSES them off! In their minds, long hair is *just for them,* not for US. They hate seeing us with long hair, but they are perfectly happy seeing us in wigs and weaves. I wear my natural hair in plaits under a head wrap most of the time. Every now and then I will wear it in two “Indian” braids hanging down and sometimes I pin the braids up. I will get mean stares from white women and other non-Black women then too. Whether my hair is straightened or in its natural state, they HATE seeing very long hair on a Black woman. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@xxxarimaxxx]

Sometime, it's even hard to tell if it's just the hair they're getting so pressed about

[@anonymouspotato432]

tailbone length, daym, can u share ur tips on how you achieved that for a fellow black sister on her growth journey (me.)

[@zenaidawilson7058]

Beautiful

[@shamika5300]

Blk American n proud to rock my 4c I can careless about these haters . Y’all cannot ever shame me with god blessed me with a head full of super thick kinky 4c hair .

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@aminam6430]

My own mother spent the first 3-4 years (I went natural in 2013) of me being natural calling it ugly, messy and ghetto in order to bully me back into the creamy crack. My mom suffers from self hate and absolutely hates being a dark skin black woman (which I understand because people around her made her feel ugly by bullying her due to her features. It took her to stop using relaxers due to major hair loss for me to have peace about my hair. Most of the time when I wear my natural hair out, women tend to glare at me, no matter the race. Natural hair jealousy is definitely real

[@Lex2034-f7y]

Same! My mom hated when I first went natural. Now she say she loves it. I could care less. They love that creamy crack.

[@EtherealSolana]

They don’t understand how deep of a wound they create in their daughters. Sometimes I feel like completely distancing myself.

[@BelwillCoily]

On natural hair being “childish”… My hair is so “childish” that when I am out and about with my 23 year old son, I’m mistaken for being his sister rather than his mom. Considering that I am in my 50’s, I’ll keep on trekking with my “childish” natural hair because it’s doing me right, as far as I’m concerned, if I’m mistaken as being decades younger than I actually am on the regular. 👍 I do believe the youthful look that natural hair is giving is a source of jealousy both in and outside the Black community. For those inside the Black community it’s their unwillingness to explore natural hair for themselves or to explore the versatility of natural hairstyles on their own hair. So they get mad when they see another naturalista sista pulling it off. For those outside the Black community, jealousy of standing side-by-side with another of a different race who is the same age but the Black person looks decades younger has always been something that can and does happen. It can happen the other way around, there are always exceptions. But more often than not, it doesn’t happen the other way around 🤷‍♀️

[@beautifulinc1869]

The woman in the visuals of this video are BEAUTIFUL 😍

[@Mii..]

Facts! They're all so majestic!

[@whatsonhermindblog123]

Agree

[@PrettyPrincess9609]

I have long thick 4a natural hair and I dealt with a lot of nice nasty hair stylists in the past. They will make comments about my hair being too long, too thick, and blamed me because it took them a long time to do my hair. They would often overcharge me as well. They would also cut a lot more than what I asked for off. I also had a really bad experience with a stylist earlier this year where she not only talked bad about about my hair being too long and thick, she braided my hair too tight to the point that I was in pain and couldn’t even sleep at night. I was getting faux locs but she put my real hair in cornrows before attaching the faux locs to my hair. I took the style down and some of my hair came out. It wasn’t a lot but I literally cried when I saw that some of my hair came out after a DAY of wearing faux locs. Fortunately I started going to my sister in law to do my faux locs, twists, and braids. I wash, detangle, and trim my own hair now. I can do plaits which is what I do to my hair after I wash it but I can’t do other braid hair styles so that’s why I go to my sister in law. I also came across nice nasty strangers and ex friends who would ask me if my hair was real or if it was a wig. I have also been denied jobs in the past for wearing my natural hair. When I first did my big chop, I got nothing but nasty comments of people comparing me to Side Show Bob and calling me “ bald headed “. I was literally bullied when my hair was a TWA and I use to get a lot of stares and people would laugh at me with their friends. That motivated me to grow my long hair and now I just get nice nasty comments. I still get stares now after I grew my hair long and often times I’m the only one rocking my natural hair when I walk into a room.

[@Aniexo_]

lol girl look in the mirror and see if you look like me 😂 this is my story to the Tea!

[@AshleyWilliams-kl8ff]

So true, I have had stylists do the same, and I started doing my own hair.

[@444lex]

Omg this is literally my life 😩 I got teased in school for being bald headed, pointing fingers at me, and yes laughing with their friends. My hair is long now I get hate from black preteens, teenagers and adults (I’m 24) the stares I receive are just .. out of spite. Damn if you do have hair damn if you don’t 🤷‍♀️

[@demi5378]

Yes, the only one in the room wearing my natural hair.😮

[@callmecanolli322]

All these behaviors tell you everything you need to know about them. Sis! Rock your beautiful crown right in their faces. Laugh and let them choke off of their jealousy.

[@emptynester547]

The naysayers will realize one day that weaves,braids ,wigs, and perms will be their detriment!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree🤎🤎🤎

[@Ferrist1]

Braids are cultural expression. Wigs/weaves though we created them no longer are. We hide behind them. Relaxers. No comment.

[@Opinionatedcancer]

⁠@@Ferrist1wearing braids back to back isn’t okay but that’s what happens

[@Userw493]

@@Opinionatedcancerwhy is it a problem? I wear my hair, wigs, and weave. Natural hair is Beautiful! I’m so sick of being a BW we’re judge and police by everyone. Now BW! Can we all stop the divide. BW are beautiful how ever we portray ourselves. Other races treat all BW like crap! Doesn’t matter how we wear our hair. I get stared at all the time. I had a stylist take my hair out.

[@xoxo_lilbitt555]

Judging how we wear our hair is detrimental you think being natural going to solve black problems & it’s really not

[@EarthEnergy2024]

When I'm around other American Black women who usually wear weave, false eyelashes, and chemical covered nails, they never make any comments about me wearing my natural hair in twists up in my natural hair protective style. So I continue to wear my natural hair, make DIY hair care products, and wash, dry, and set my own hair without giving a damn who likes or dislikes me for embracing how the Natural Organic Divine Source Creator and Mother Earth created me.

[@maatiangoddess9890]

Same. It’s SO quiet around the baddies. BUT, I salute them because I also know that they are still in their heart space about what we are doing and who we all are as sisters.

[@VillanVee]

Don’t act like a light skin that is not true

[@Mii..]

​@@VillanVee what is "acting like a light skin"? Why are Blk people so outdated in their own community? 🤦🏽‍♀

[@Mii..]

Blk american women are also the ones that hate on other bw because they have long natural hair. It's not just yt or asians, it's our own community being ignorant. It's the same with the light skin and dark skin "war" in the community.

[@Mii..]

​@@VillanVee what is "acting like a light skin"? Why are ⚫people so outdated in their own community? 🤦🏽‍♀

[@ms.evegene]

In my city they want you bald. I stopped letting anyone touch my hair here. " I have to cut your hair or else I cant do it" Me:🖕🏾

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ I guess this is a problem everywhere 🤎

[@callmecanolli322]

Our hair in it’s glory is absolutely breathtaking. I am newly natural. Just 18 months and I can’t wait for my Afro to be really high.

[@ms.evegene]

I am a Black woman. I am everything.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@leannaadams8015]

I remember 2004 to 2006, in Seattle at a Black church I faced bullying from our pastor wife the first Lady. She was light skinned and wore perms and sow in weaves with occasional wigs. During those years I was wearing short dreads in a bob,, two or 4 inch afro that I pinned into a French roll. It was a women's night service and the first lady was preaching in the pulpit talking about. She made remarks like , " some of you all wo dwr why you haven't met you husband yet. You need to do something with your hair. I'd you can't afford to get a perm from the salon go buy a box perm" I was like what is going on. She talking about me. It was not an issue of money, but I wanted healthy natural and to preserve it. I had 2 grandmother's both lived beyond 90 years one never permed her hair. The other permed her hair and heat pressed it too. The one with no perm ever but pressed it for occasion She had hair . The other grandmother who used excessive heat and chemicals did not have any hair on top. I didn't want to be bald in the top in the age of 40's from relaxing hair. I stop perms in 2002. Thank Jesus I been 20 plus years without a perm

[@Jasmine-uu2xo]

straightening hair to keep black men that don't like black women is crazy. Lightskin bw self esteem relied on skin/hair back then. Today, latin/white women are more accessible and that lady husband is most likely cheating on her today with the women she straightens her to emulate. Our natural hair is appreciated by everyone else but our own.

[@Sinadarling]

Trying to humble black women by downgrading our hair will never work. Our hair is definitely our antenna/connection to spirit. As Halle Bailey said in her song “Heaven wears your halo. They know you’re an Angel.” 🤎

[@ET-ki5df]

I learned how to do my own 4c hair and it has saved me money!!!!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

It saved me so much money as well🤎🤎

[@gmcmim1]

Hairstylists are the worst. Like you said go to a stylist who knows what they are doing. Also long thick hair is very enviable. Regardless of texture.

[@ladyd8028]

A woman's hair is her glory, Scripture teaches us. Be cautious about who you allow to get that close to you. 💡

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree🤎

[@AminaPhilosophy]

Go to a stylist that LOVES Afro hair.

[@janeenharrison1953]

The comments makes me so sad! This is what Black Women deal with on the daily? No wonder we suffer from high blood pressure, heart disease and fibroids. The daily stress is real.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for commenting and I agree it’s very sad to see so many people bothered by black women embracing their beauty but we are going to shine bright regardless 🤎

[@DalidaSabbat]

I also do my own hair now I don't trust going to the hair salons nomore 😔

[@zakitibengu4915]

Wise woman

[@emptynester547]

The next time someone comes “side ways” about my God Given Hair, I’m going to tell them to take it up with the creator!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Good one🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@Mayousse]

👏👏👏👏

[@TammyTheQueenBee]

💯

[@Gracemiama]

I love it. " our hair sits on our head like a crown" 👑

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@YSLDIVA]

This is exactly how I feel, when wearing my hair in two big afro buns. :) It truly feels like a crown.

[@jasminscarbrough2596]

I can definitely relate to the people constantly accusing you of having weave. Women typically know but black men and nonblack people constantly be trying me lol. I don’t know if it’s envy but people definitely don’t expect black darker skinned women to have long hair.

[@ms.evegene]

It's an insult

[@444lex]

They just mad because they cant fit you in the “bald headed” stereotype.

[@Ferrist1]

I actually feel like I want to do an act of vi0lence when blk men pull that bull ish.

[@5.10brwnskin]

@@444lex yeeeep!! They always want something to look down on.

[@robstar1a]

Yep. Don’t go to hair stylists with dry heads. They will cut all your hair off.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@infiniti__alex]

Danggg😂

[@ddf7202]

Natural hair is only hard when ur trying to do other hair texture styles and methods. Do what ur hair can do.

[@ms.evegene]

My puff is HUGE AND BEAUTIFUL. I don't like when certain people touch it. Don't let me straighten it ...they think that I'm a sucka! Til I open my mouth. I rocks ruff and stuff with my afro puff. Straight up 😶

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@india3285]

Rock on witcha bad self!

[@sheritownsend5359]

When I did the big chop in the early 2000s, I was surprised at how many black beauticians said they didn't do natural hair. Many just didn't want to switch over. I, now, see more and more naturals and I think it's due to seeing these natural styles more on tv. Truth is, what is often shown in the media is what people gravitate towards.

[@2ndworldcountryusa583]

I knew this it’s so obvious about them being insecure

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree 🤎

[@juliemesser2053]

Life's too short for jealousy! Keep rocking that natural hair!😊

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@isolda980]

Thank you for your bold commentary & what a great channel! Today my natural hair is in menopause but making a comeback. When I was working, I had a black woman urge me to straighten my hair for a promotion! I didn't get the job, but I kept my pride, dignity & afro!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

That’s awesome and thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎

[@TaqSoto]

I think that's black issues in general. Whenever the conversation is about black people, you always see the "what about us?" brigade come out. We saw this with the whole black lives matter movement and people wanting to change the conversation to All lives matter. Yes we know that, but right now we're specifically talking about black lives. I'll never understand why its ok for everyone else to have their spaces, but when black people try and do the same its always a problem.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree 🤎

[@Mayousse]

Couldn't agree more. And those stupid "all lives matter" memes are still around. Then they throw the "police arrest more white people or white people get harassed more". It's exhausting. But we need to continue to fight so our children won't have to go through this.

[@8SixSix3ISTwoICE]

Do you really not understand? If so, start with videos here by Neely Fuller.

[@514Exc]

Black people? No just Black women, us men wear are natural texture and have no problems at all.

[@camjamcam1]

6:26 ; the Tignon law was enacted in the U.S. in 1786 to force Black women to cover their hair with a scarf known as a tignon. Previous to that, similar laws were enacted in the Caribbean. White wives were so jealous of the attention that their husbands were giving Black women due, in part, to the attractiveness of their (Our) hair. They probably had massive hissy fits! Perhaps some wife of a lawmaker or judge forced him to create such a self-serving restriction of Black beauty. I've read that it was a classist as well as racist attempt at control, although the Black women often turned the scarves into elaborately attractive adornments.

[@VillanVee]

She’s right about gatekeeping long hair

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for commenting 🤎what was your experience with this?

[@shellygarland8766]

white women actually listen in about our hair ALOT and wait until we're speaking on a topic of hair to try to call us insecure

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree! There are a few in the comments right now smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@CalvinNkosi-op3hw]

I am glad to see black women embracing their natural hair.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@I.am.hooked]

African girl here, I started my hair journey last year July 1 and it’s been one year. My Afro has gotten bigger!!!? 😊😊❤ I was shocked when I saw my Afro.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for commenting and that’s so awesome 🤎👑👑

[@I.am.hooked]

@@CoffeeCuties777 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️

[@Pearliemaie]

I used to hate my natural hair I wanted to have straight hair so bad now I love my hair I love myself I feel like people want to keep us down including some of our family because they can't Embrace what they truly are everybody wants to be black but they can't and that's okay they should just love themselves for who they are hating us it's not okay and trying to put us down for what we are and who we are doesn't change who they are and in fact it makes it worse for them

[@LavenderDream-j5h]

I blame stereotypes and propaganda.

[@ms.evegene]

My hair is better. My puff is huge huge and my hair is longer than most of these white girls in my area. I like my hair more than rhan i like most people

[@eclipsedeucy1144]

I been knew there was jealousy of long, type 4 hair.

[@fatimamanneh9432]

I have small size locs that I have been taking care of for 5 years 5 months now I started with ear length hair now my locs are armpit length & still growing I get stares some ask if my hair is real I guess because I am Carmel brown skin tone I’m not supposed to have long hair it is ridiculous

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I really would like to do a video highlighting locs. If you want to share your experiences please email me at [e-mail]

[@sakuraesther6309]

Yes please share your experience 😊

[@DrSueRob]

Great post. Relaxer hasn't touched my hair since 2007 and I went through alllllll the persecution. I love the versatility of natural hair. Now, at 62 I'm transitioning again to grey and fully expect to have a dope salt-n-pepper fro' by next year and a fly bob when I blow it out.

[@janayflowersmedia8817]

Yesss! I recently began wearing my long, type 4 hair out again and I feel the most beautiful and confident with my own hair. I think this says a lot because I feel beautiful and confident most of the time, regardless of how I wear my hair (I thank my upbringing and family for this) 😂😂 I do think our hair can easily make those close to us a bit jealous. Our hair is an attention grabber, and if you’re around people who crave attention… you know the rest. It’s all good though. Just don’t let anyone dim your light, because they will try. ✨

[@brookesmith3476]

I think black natural hair is soo beautiful. The styles with locs are sooo beautiful also.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@JO-fk5ho]

African and it was a culture shock being ostracised by both Black and white Americans for my 4C hair in social and corporate spaces. I’m glad we are shifting perspectives.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for commenting and I agree🤎

[@wello5839]

Self esteem is everything

[@clearly.pearly9377]

My friend said I’m fake when I wore my big puffy ponytail after taking my wig install out??? Confused me.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Wow smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@AminaPhilosophy]

Friend? 😬

[@thisaintmeee1790]

That's not your friend.

[@ketly27]

That’s a hater.

[@hereforit2347]

I have an unpopular opinion when it comes to the “Don’t touch my hair.” situation. When I was a kid, I wore a completely virgin Afro from 1970 to 1974. I grew up in racially diverse but predominantly white communities in Southern California. A Jewish family came to live with us for two years from 1970 to 1972. When we moved from Santa Monica to L.A., they came with us. The daughter was my friend and classmate. My mom’s best friend was another white woman married to a Mexican man and their four kids were the same age as my siblings and me (there are three of us). That family gave a lot of get-togethers and we spent a lot of time at their house. There were no Black people in their neighborhood and we were always the only Black people at their parties. One day, in about 1973, one of the daughters, who was my age, asked if she could touch my Afro. I said, “Sure.” and she commenced to squeezing my very dense, tightly-curled ‘fro. I don’t remember any adjectives she might have used to describe how my hair felt. I think she may have said it felt “neat” or “neat-o”, which we used to say back then. After that, her siblings took a turn caressing my hair. I knew even at that age that Afro-textured hair was often considered undesirable. But many Black people, mostly adults and boys, wore Afros. I refused to feel ashamed of my hair or apprehensive about anyone touching it or fearful of what they may say or think. I agree that people should ask permission to touch another person’s hair, regardless of ethnicity. But I don’t agree that someone’s desire to touch a Black person’s hair is always coming from a negative or judgmental place. I remember as a kid, little Black girls always wanting to play in white or Latino kids’ hair. If a Black, mixed, or bi-racial girl in the neighborhood or friend group was thought to have “good hair”, the other girls were constantly combing, braiding, and touching it. Why can’t we assume that maybe, just maybe, other ethnicities really do admire our hair, it’s look, it’s feel, and it’s texture? After all, when the Afro and Jheri curl were at their peaks, white people were running to the salon to get tightly-curled perms. Everyone from Barbara Streisand to the Brady Bunch dad was rocking a faux ‘fro. Look at these Asian kids today getting perms to make their hair kinky. There was a white boy in my Jr. High school with stick-straight super-fine hair who came back from a Christmas break with a freshly-permed Afro. He wore a cake cutter in it like the Black kids did, but they didn’t have the techniques they have today and his ‘fro was bouncy and blowing all over the place and the comb 🪮 didn’t stay very well, but he was trying, HARD, to be like the Black kids. What I’m trying to say is, when we proudly rock our natural hair, when we act and think like *BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL,* other ethnicities see it and feel it. They envy and admire us because no other group of people is like us or looks like us. No one else is as graceful or dignified as Black people. I grew up in the days of Black pride. White people were copying us left and right, even more than they do now. In the aftermath of the Civil Rights movement, there was a unity and sense of community that disappeared somehow. I’m not saying we should let people touch our hair if we don’t want them to. But we should be proud of our beautiful, natural locks and tresses and not be afraid of what anyone thinks. We need to “normalize” our natural hair in all places and spaces.

[@camjamcam1]

Well said! 👋🏽

[@hereforit2347]

@@camjamcam1: Thank you. 🙏🏿 Sometimes I feel very misunderstood. 🥰

[@camjamcam1]

@@hereforit2347 You're so welcome! I remember those days, too, I love that you wrote, "What I’m trying to say is, when we proudly rock our natural hair, when we act and think like BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL, other ethnicities see it and feel it." and "We need to “normalize” our natural hair in all places and spaces." Those words resonate!

[@hereforit2347]

@@camjamcam1: 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@dianabryan7421]

I love this perspective ❤️ if we truly believe our hair is desirable and beautiful, why wouldn't others!

[@FreeWilliams08]

I had a jealous stylist burn my hair on purpose. Killed my curl pattern.

[@Yougotthis1212]

When someone stares at me for a long time I always think they think I’m exceptionally beautiful and they cant take their eye off me ❤

[@CoffeeCuties777]

That’s a great mindset to have 🤎🤎🤎

[@Margaret-c1k]

Natural hair growth is still a new revolution to many.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree 🤎🤎🤎

[@danyelleedwards4570]

Natural hair is so gorgeous. I adore it.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@Mayousse]

As a professional belly dancer, I PROUDLY dance with mine. I am blessed to have this crown & I'm not letting any hateful, jealous, disturbed, or demon posessed "person" (remember they attack in all sorts of ways including making you feel less than) tell me how I can wear my hair. I LOVE looking different; unique, exotic, etc from other dancers & people. I AM ME & I LOVE IT. Love your hair family & be blessed 💐🌷.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Oh wow a belly dancer…that’s awesome and I agree 💯 percent 🤎🤎🤎

[@brexxy21]

After I had someone be scissor happy in my hair, I'm the ONLY one that can put shears to my hair

[@kizziekente2468]

I see why they jealous cuz I’m jealous lol! Y’all’s hair is BEAUTIFUL! I went natural because of a home girl who has 4c hair!

[@joelledavis4547]

Yess! That's right, you better tell em' ! Get some sunglasses bc we're SHINING over here!!

[@margaretwhite3899]

We better recognize that we are the Queen's of all women!!!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@micahrose7566]

Yessir 😊👍

[@ras_mal]

I like the photo comparing the hair to trees because I’ve noticed that and realized that I like looking like a tree or plant tbh

[@CoffeeCuties777]

It’s so beautiful right….thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎

[@jenn6638]

So TRUE! Those hairstylists would whack off my hair EVERYTIME!!!

[@rachelwashere12-1]

I thought i was the only one that noticed that i have 4b but when i wet it its around 4a its crazy how jealous they be of your curly hair ...

[@Herhighness211]

Ur texture is ur texture whether its wet or dry. If u have 4b hair then it’s still 4b while wet.

[@KimberlyByrdPR]

Yes, I have experienced other races/ethnicities being jealous of black hair and its unique beauty

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎

[@FineNaturalHairROCKS]

Such gorgeous Black women wearing their stunning natural hair! I'm so here for this entire video!!! 😍

[@CoffeeCuties777]

@@FineNaturalHairROCKS Thank you for watching…I just subscribed to your channel 🤎

[@FineNaturalHairROCKS]

@@CoffeeCuties777 Aww, thank you! Welcome to our Curlfriend Crew!!!! 💛

[@Jordè1222]

Something special happens when you embrace yourself ❤ i wish this for all women❤

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree 🤎🤎🤎

[@Ariana0999]

I always get... "Is that your hair?"... From blacks & whites (men and women) ... I even had a lady say "that's not real hair, stop lying".. After she just asked me and I told her it's all me ... I heard her whispering to her husband saying aint no way ...

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I have a video about black women being forced to prove their hair is real dropping today so make sure to subscribe 🤎

[@eclipsedeucy1144]

Thanks for this video. Our hair issues need to be in our talks all the time.❤❤

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎

[@thebalancedmotherhood]

No lies told in this video.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎

[@jacklyneverage3881]

Love this video. Very true.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you 🤎🤎🤎

[@sandradavis4101]

Since 2020…..I retired……No more Relaxed hair,…..so liberating,……I love it I wear it in twisted Style,,,..it is growing,,,.and I’m loving it,…..and yes it is Growing,….,❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@waitandsee2024]

When I started wearing my own hair, this past June, I wasn’t comfortable with it. I went to a natural hair salon. The stylist assessed my hair and told me I needed protein and moisture and to to stick with a consistent routine. I did that and curls have popped. I now love wearing my hair, I think it looks better than any weave or wig I have ever worn. Wearing your own hair makes you feel more confident, and you embrace who you truly are instead of hiding behind a white woman’s hair. that is the epiphany that came to me all those years I wore wigs I was hiding behind a white woman. I am a beautiful queen in my own right. And my hair is gorgeous. I’ve also noticed I grab the attention of more black men which I have never done.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

@@waitandsee2024 That’s awesome…thanks for sharing 🤎🤎🤎

[@stephaniepink9060]

That’s right!! Exposure is also sharing information!❤❤❤💯💯🥰🥰

[@WEAREFREENOW]

Thank You,😍 Coffee Cuties With Blessings Overflowing.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@noodlesuzuki5513]

This video gives me very much of my mom telling me they just hate me because I’m beautiful AND I LOVE IT. Helps me break out of my insecurities and self hate thank you for this ❤

[@CoffeeCuties777]

@@noodlesuzuki5513 Thank you for watching 🤎🤎🤎

[@Tiffanytaliah]

I just wanna say I learned a lot of important information from this channel, I personally am on a journey and the styles and pictures I see of the beautiful girls 4c or 4b or any type 4 style has inspired me to try it on mine 💜

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you so much for watching and supporting 🤎🤎🤎

[@MissNolver2]

Quite frankly, people aren't jealous of short type 4 hair, only when it's big and/or long.

[@MissNolver2]

​@trahadbad To me, your story *definitely* doesn't sound like jealousy, but plain ignorance. If they were jealous they would give you evil looks, like many black women are doing when they're being envious of other black women. Short natural hair is not being seen as feminine.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for commenting and I feel that people can be jealous of more than just length…some people are also jealous of things like the density of the hair and versatility of the hair etc.🤎

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Short natural hair is feminine as well…I have examples of feminine women with short hair all over my channel 🤎

[@MissNolver2]

@@CoffeeCuties777 Of course short natural can be feminine, but in overall it is not seen as feminine, that's what I'm talking about.

[@MissNolver2]

@trahadbad I personally think they did that out of ignorance, not jealousy.

[@asalynnn]

I wouldn't say this is rooted in jealousy but in texturism and racism/colorism but I understand what you are trying to say.

[@AnimalLover2400]

It is rooted in jealous, modern day racism is entirely rooted in jealousy + anti-Blk indoctrination from society.

[@meraki9284]

Hi I'm new to your channel but I'm glad to hear you talk about this topic I had a experience just the other day I was out running errands I had just done my hair in a twist out it😊 was full and fluffy and difined yt women walk past me look at my hair i glanced back and caught patting and running her fingers through her hair it was clear to see she was insecure after she saw my hair i love showing off my hair so theres not many natural women where i live so alot of people are shocked to see me with long natural hair

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for commenting and yep a lot of people get insecure seeing a black women embrace their natural hair and beauty 🤎

[@JadetheGoober]

I feel like bc im a light skinned alt black woman, the wildness of my semi free form locs is celebrated, but my dark skinned sisters and sisters with more african phenotypes don’t get such grace.

[@8SixSix3ISTwoICE]

Light skinned? Girl, bye.

[@Lady_Clare4]

CONFIDENCE!!! YES GIRL❤!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎

[@geemai435]

I think i am suffering the backlash of someone else's jealousy on my natural hair. In the last two years i have had inflammation from nowhere which has caused me grief, bleeding, and breakage. I have tried all medication and even went to a hair specialist and told there is nothing wrong. No topical applications work however when started praying over my crown, i started getting relief and healing. Before all this began, i joined i work project which got me from working from home to the office. I usually wear my hair out in twists and never even wore braids or any type of extension. There was a period i met up with different women from other companies as the project progressed (it is a 4 year thing) and i couls get questions like " is that your hair? What do you do to make it that long? Are you from this tribe? " proceeded by unwanted touching or comments like " i wish my hair was like yours, it seems it has grown longer than the last time i saw you. You have good hair. Her hair always like this." My hair is the typical 4c, tight coiled Z pattern hair that was at bra strap back then. I am very dark skin and just as African as i can brle with no mixed background. So, its not common thing for those who look like me to have such long natural hair. My scalp troubles started within this period all of a sudden. I've changed products to no relief. Bought medicated shampoo and conditioners, oils and grease, nothing works. However prayers do and i am slowly getting better each week. Hair jealousy is real. Most who had the loudest comments were from those who looked different from me. Those who are the standard of beauty where i live ( standards are being lighter skin shade. Certain tribes in my country have these traits and they make up most of the population. Some ladies bleach to get this look. I think its the disbelief that a darkskin person can also look good and ...even grow long hair. Likw how dare you exceed our expectations? How dare you not fit what is expected from people who look like you. Gosh, i am even thinking of wearing a wig as my hair recovers and lie if possible in situations to avoid unnecessary envy. Example, "is this your real hair?" Answer: " No, it isn't. It's just marley hair." Jealousy is dangerous

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you for sharing your story and I’m so sorry you had to experience jealousy smh 🤦🏾‍♀️…you’re right jealousy is dangerous🤎🤎🤎

[@TheDevilWearsPrada.0]

I wore my long natural hair back in Jamaica in what they’d call bush everyone was family or friends of family and of course every bald victim of relaxer and self hate someone told me ppl were saying my hair didn’t look good but wouldn’t even tell me who it was always something but I was the best looking in the whole town make it make sense I realized later they really hated on anyone young and attractive without baggage especially if ur from foreign (not Jamaican born ) they assume ur life is easier it didn’t help that I had the complexion and body type they worship along w curly kinky healthy virgin hair even my granny called me a whore and kicked me out for All the attention I was getting men started fighting over me and their gfs were wanting to fight telling my granny they want their men to leave me alone (mind u I entertained nobody but one man the whole time and he wasn’t even one of these losers w a woman lusting after a new girl it was complete chaos I was insulted and picked apart by women and men a lot very insecure set of ppl made me look at my country diffrent

[@anaiyacooper6518]

Y’all this is real because I wore my hair out a lot during school and my “friends” would say the most questionable things like why do you keep wearing your hair like that, or even this other girl said your hair kind looks bad.. and YALL MY HAIR DOES NOT WVEN LOOK BAD it’s beautiful curly hair don’t ever think your natural hair is ugly yall

[@emptynester547]

The nerve of people assuming you’re broke or poor because you embrace your God Given Hair. Sorry, my car and house is paid off. I refuse to make other nations rich by purchasing weaves, wig and extensions. My money continues to grow through my investments!!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Right💯🤎….thanks for watching 🤎

[@angelam9495]

Our hair is beautiful 😍 🤩 ❤

[@CoffeeCuties777]

💯🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@Shrimptera]

Love the video. Such beautiful images.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you 🤎🤎🤎

[@notesofnara]

Can you make a video on locs please??? Because...girrrrrlllll...i don't even know where to begin. I had a fro beginning in 2008 and then locked it up in 2014. I rock freeform locs. It fits my lifestyle.....i love it! However, the people...

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Yes I would love to do a video about locs….can you please email me your experience with locs so I can properly represent the loc community in a video. [e-mail] 🤎

[@Idjirina]

sending love to all coily hair baddies, you're gorgeous❤

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎

[@christinenounoute9219]

“Nobody likes hair that sticks up”… you mean hair that defies gravity? Yeah, I guess I’m nobody 😂

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Right lol 😂 thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎

[@jeminawallace6105]

Giiiirrrrl, why am I 52 and just hearing this kinda glorification of my beautiful hair. I'm just getting acquainted to my natural hair since childhood because of having "nappy" hair. We'll guess what? I LOVE touching my coils, naps or whatever you wanna call it.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

That’s so awesome….thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎

[@namewithheldnamewithheld2725]

We are wonderfully made.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

💯🤎🤎🤎thanks for watching 🤎🤎

[@gmcmim1]

The woman who said white and asian women come up to her and ask if her hair is real. I cannot help but laugh. They probably are genuinely concerned but it comes off as funny.

[@fatimamanneh9432]

I had a Mexican woman ask was my hair real I don’t find it funny at all because they also believe blk women can’t grow hair

[@ladyd8028]

@@fatimamanneh9432 ...And so do many black people... 🙄

[@twcrazy]

@@fatimamanneh9432Any time a nonblack woman asks that question, I just respond with “thank you.” Doesn’t matter what my hair is at that moment “thank you”.

[@gmcmim1]

​@@fatimamanneh9432Honestly you even have black folks who say black women cant grow long hair. That is worse in itself.

[@ms.evegene]

@@gmcmim1 I dont like that and if someone that look like them wanna touch....watch me go from quiet to nUtZ

[@cmo828]

New here 🙋🏾‍♀️. It’s sad we even have to have this conversation in 2024. I’ve been natural for 20 years now…loose and now loc’ed. I can careless what people think especially when they rock their insecurities on their shoulders. Life is too short to entertain ignorance.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree that unfortunately there hasn’t been more progression up until this point but that’s what pages like this is focused on changing so we can move forward 🤎

[@Liiinda4]

Non-Black women with BM, usually Hispanic, Asian, and some white women definitely notice when I wear my hair naturally, but I honestly get the most flack from African women. I find them to be extremely jealous.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

What are your experiences with African women?

[@Liiinda4]

@@CoffeeCuties777 They are very hostile towards me for no reason. I will encounter them running errands or even traveling. I remember moving my hair (I have thick long natural hair) out of my face at the airport and catching an African woman mean mugging me with envy. In African braiding shops they have deliberately tried to damage my hair…I’ve just had the worst experiences with them.

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Out of all of the variations of the human race in the world, nobody has hair like us. 🥇🏆 I can certainly see how it is the object of both scrutiny and envy at the same time. Envy and jealousy more than anything. When we wear our hair out, both the men and the women gaze. When we wear our hair out in a crowd of fellow highly textured counterparts who do not showcase their natural strands (especially in societies where we are not the majority population), it instantly projects confidence, and we know how some people feel when you’re confident…..

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎