Neighbor Has An Issue With Me And Is Punishing My Daughter For It r/AITA

[@MarkNarrations]

Firstly apologies, apparently I forgot the screenshot for the update...my only excuse is it's too hot to think. However, I hope you're all super spicy today, whilst I was away at the weekend I really missed coming on and doing a recording, sad I know! Haha Much love all :)

[@katiesmith2031]

Hope everything is better now

[@FuckAssName]

I just had eggs w/hot sauce, so I can positively say I'm spicy

[@FlamesofJagger]

Much love 💘 Mark. I just hope you had a great and relaxing weekend

[@nyxnightly6708]

How does the first story end

[@momotaro1236]

The text was pretty funny

[@fate_clotho9596]

"Found" a dog "wandering around in A YARD"?! WTAF?! Dogs don't " "wander around" a fenced in yard! What a gaslit, entitled way to say; "Oh, yeah. I stole your dog."

[@puli_dreadhead]

Didn’t get an invitation because it was a surprise party? OP isn’t the one the party was for so that excuse is worthless.

[@terramarini6880]

Girls were fast friends, op daughter might have let the secret slip but OP could have been told not to tell daughter and just bring her over at the time... I'm on the fence with this one.

[@brachiosaurus6350]

@@terramarini6880 I feel the the mom could’ve told op and just told her not to tell if she didn’t find out through friends she probably would’ve never known

[@ilbercgross4736]

Maybe OP cannot keep her mouth shut. So there were two parties? One at night and one during the day? There are a few maybes I can think of for not inviting OP's daughter. The biggest of those, maybe some cousins were coming over and they do not care for the daughter. Might be why there are two parties. One mainly for family and one mainly for friends.

[@GMAMEC]

@@terramarini6880 I am on the fence too. She should have waited until the party was over. She allowed her imagination to run rampant.

[@ivymcassey2405]

The dog was in her own yard!!! She mentioned that the neighbor opened her gate and took the dog from her fenced yard. It is always ok to have your dog off leash confined to your own yard!!! You only have to walk your dog on a leash if the dog is not combined to your yard.

[@insideAdirtyMind]

OP call the cops at all of them, also the facebook people for harassment and live a normal life again

[@CensorshipVictim]

Also get the dog CHIPPED!

[@Davtwan]

Don’t want emotional stress, then don’t play stupid games.

[@ivymcassey2405]

Yes. Even if I truly found a dog or cat I would wait AT LEAST 2 weeks to tell my daughter we were keeping it and try to find the owner with the exception of if their was abuse or serious neglected then the owner can kick rocks.

[@lizgawin899]

@@insideAdirtyMind indeed the advice about getting cameras, filing a police report and the doggo chipped is great, oh and call the neighbors bosses and explain the situation with Mikey.

[@CatsOverBrats]

You can't compromise on children. You can't have half a child. You should never be in a relationship if you're not on the same page. No one should ever think the other person will change their mind for them - no matter what side of the fence they're on. It goes both ways. Only heartbreak comes from this way of thinking /acting which that story clearly shows now that they're getting divorced.

[@songohan3321]

Technically you can have half of a child, but it is not advised.

[@anapplepie306]

I agree Having a child is a big responsibility, and if she really doesn’t want one, she should consider weather or not she wants a child before making promises. Op should have been more sensitive. Even though it is true, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to be nicer because she is at a low time. Letting her heal a little first would probably be the best idea.

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

@@anapplepie306 I kinda disagree on the harsh comment part. Usually, I would think that’s not okay too. But because sister and the parents were basically harassing this man for not compromising on something he really wanted, I think it was needed. Maybe she can learn from it and not lie to the next husband.

[@darkshadow5581]

Yeah, I can't believe the YTA/ESH. She didn't want kids and still didn't years later, but decided to lie. She lied about something she knew was a deal breaker for years past marriage. She needs a slap in the face to ensure she doesn't do this again.

[@thechaoticelnier7850]

@@darkshadow5581 It's a small fault that gets made in this subreddit, but being TA doesn't mean you are wrong, op needed to be a AH to ensure his sister got the message, so he's right, but an AH

[@maddy8328]

"she's had enough time with him" what. He is OPs dog, not a fucking toy

[@janet6421]

Has she "had enough time" with her kids? is it time to rehome them to another parent? If OP had been abusive or neglectful it would have been a different story, just like child protective services getting involved with a family. This was strait up dognapping

[@personneici2595]

"Mum said it's my turn to kidnap the dog!"

[@Takisan111]

Holy crap, the rat lived 4 years? That's a long time. Her brother must have been so proud of himself for giving that rat such a good life that it managed to hang in there that long. I remember how proud I was when my hamster Benny managed to outlive his expectations. I bought him when he was in such a rough shape that people told me he might last the week and then he proceeded to live 3 years. I miss that quirky little cyclops.

[@ettinakitten5047]

Yeah, my oldest rat was almost 3 when she died. Four years is *ancient* for a rat. He must have been super attached to that rat!

[@CooperGal24]

"Walk an Akita off leash"?! IT WAS IN THE BACKYARD! You can have dogs in the backyard IF YOU HAVE FENCING!! OP did have fencing, her Entitled Neighbor just opened the gate, stole the dog and gave it to her friend because "OP's had it long enough! Let the others have a turn with the dog!" What are they, kindergartners?! It's a DOG! Not a toy to share with others! I mean good Lord! Anybody that tries to lie, manipulate or even gas light others for the wrongs *THEY* did aren't good neighbors! They're Hellion Spawns!

[@Jamlf]

The response isn't for when the dog was in the backyard but when the dog was taken for a walk.

[@mareekeay8670]

@@Jamlf agreed I didn't understand the reply as walking a trained dog off leash is acceptable.. I googled the breed and had a much better understanding of why this could be an issue.. Not saying stealing the dog was right either, just helps to understand the comment though.. 😉

[@CooperGal24]

@@mareekeay8670 Isn't it against the law to not have a dog on a leash though? For safety reasons.

[@mareekeay8670]

@@CooperGal24 I believe there are off leash dog parks and special areas where a leash isn't required. Reading about this breed explains why it would be risky to not have complete control at all times. Please also note: To break into the backyard and steal the dog shows they weren't concerned by he's attitude. They had no right at all to remove the dog, if they had any concerns they should've called the authorities..

[@lina9535]

​@@mareekeay8670 even the most well trained dog can slip up when walking off leash. It happens, so a good owner should have the dog on a leash. Always. If the length is the issue, there are leashes that are very long. But distractions can always occur.

[@colleencook382]

Akita story- I love my pets like they are my children. I call them my fur babies. I also have 6 kids. I even have grand fur babies-my daughter's dog, and son's dogs. If anyone had taken any of my animals I would have gone full scorched Earth. Not only would I have called the cops but I would have made sure to blast that Facebook post with the REAL story. Take no prisoners, leave no witnesses, 😆

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA What the hell? This is weird and I don't have an issue if OP decides to not do things for them. This is so weird. It's hard to tell whether you want to let your kid be friends when you don't know who or why she was uninvited. Edit: dude remember the other day when that person used the acronym Darvo? That is exactly what the mom did. She denied it, attacked OP and then tried to reverse who was the bad guy. Poor kids. One mom being a shit is gonna ruin a good friendship

[@terramarini6880]

There is a good possibility that neighbor mom was waiting to give a last minute invite because the girls were VERY close friends and daughter might have let slip the surprise party. I would have waited that one out and if the party happened without an invite then start deciding what to do.

[@hiigguys7395]

@@terramarini6880 Yeah. I thought OP jumped really quickly to "the mom is lying" I think fueled by internet strangers assuming the worst. It really just sounds like the person who told OP about this misunderstood something.

[@XcelesteXmagixX]

@@terramarini6880 she could have told the neighbors' mom and told her not to tell the daughter if the kids are that close. Adults can keep secrets 🙄

[@mareekeay8670]

@@terramarini6880 How hard would it have been to give OP a heads up and asking for it to be kept secret from the daughter til the party? How does one organise for a party, gift, dinner, time etc if one hasnt been informed? Not to mention asking other parents of invited kids not to mention it to OP.. NTA The mother got caught and her biggest issue was who told OP about the party.. 🤷‍♀️

[@mareekeay8670]

@@XcelesteXmagixX lol exactly how I saw it, sorry didn't read your post til I scrolled down.. 😉

[@PetitTasdeBoue]

4 years is actually old for a rat. That's why I'm never getting this kind of animal, their average lifespan is around 2-3 years. It's way too depressing, they die so fast...

[@aba1design]

I agree. Maybe I'm old school but honestly birthdays don't really matter. They are nice and all but really low priority in the grand scheme of things

[@ilbercgross4736]

OP is TA. Selfish little brat.

[@gaxalee7392]

I love Mark’s little chuckle when he read the “waffling” bit from one of the commenters for story two. It made me smile!

[@msredux]

NTA I would have press charges, she took him out of your property, and done a lot more than curse at her.

[@liacaburian2092]

Story 3 nta i would do more than curse her out. Op needs to keep a vigilant eye on these crazy moms. She admitted she went into op's yard and opened the gate to get the dog. My dog goes potty off leash i keep her company as she doesn't like being alone. Unlike one neighbor who leaves their 3 very small dogs off leash and unattended. They rely an elderly woman as a lookout whenever the dogs run off.

[@kaylaboesche5803]

If i let my dog out front I don’t bother with a leash

[@OverTheMoon891]

Story 3: I would respond to that facebook comment with "gee, looks like if you steal someone's dog and give it away to one of your friends, the original owner gets upset. who'd've thought?" xD NTA.

[@JR-zi4bj]

S4 - So, the day sucked because OP learned that nobody really cares about her feelings, she actually isn't that special to anyone, life is unfair, and things seldom turn out the way we'd planned? Well, then her 16th birthday truly WAS a step on her way to becoming an adult!

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

I would have been crushed, too. Sweet sixteen is such a special birthday.

[@JootjeJ]

Netherlands, sitting in the back yard after sundown now that the sticky hot has finally left the sky for the night.

[@sylvestercat1898]

Story three: NTA. I don’t get the commenters arguments that OP is a bad dog owner, yes I understand that Akita’s are protective, but, they are also very intelligent and while stubborn, with the proper training it can be done so that they can be walked off-leash and won’t go off on everything that goes near their owner. OP had Mickey since she was nine and possibly younger, Mickey has been doing this for a very long time and it is likely that he’s so used to this that nothing really bothers him. It sounds like he is a friendly dog because he willingly left his yard with a stranger and I’m sure that if Mickey was protective he would not have like a stranger walking into his yard and taking him from his yard and home. Not every Akita is the same, so it was presumptuous for the commenter to assume that their Akita’s were the same as OP’s Akita.

[@incineroar9933]

Keep your damn dog on a leash. My yorkie isn't friendly and I keep him and my pit mix on leash. I've had "friendly", large dogs attack mine. Without my big boy, my yorkie would have gotten seriously hurt. My pittie has literally stepped over the yorkie to get between him and much larger dogs to fend them off. He's only 30lbs himself and has gotten between my yorkie and large dogs like GSDs and Danes.

[@fate_clotho9596]

@Sylvester Cat I don't care how well trained your dog is. Keep them on a leash on the public streets! Period!

[@KittenUndercover]

It doesn’t matter how smart and friendly a dog is, they could still get hurt or hurt someone else. In residential neighborhoods, dogs belong on leashes. No exceptions.

[@emberslayedyou8770]

I agree 100% with this. I had fluffy mutt dog when younger. my older sister used to go to a church that was a walking distance so she would bring said dog with her and it wait outside for her without a leash!until she was almost stolen by two kids. Also I like to point that the on mom lied mostly likely about thinking it's a stray it was in op's fenced yard ffs!

[@incineroar9933]

@Melon Sauce Yes but the owner also let the dog out of the yard without a leash. She went off on a bit of an aside to talk about how she walks the dog without a leash. That aside constitutes the owner as a terrible dog owner. I've had supposedly friendly dogs start fights with my leashed dogs, seen a dog nearly get hit by a car because he was off-leash and saw mine, and even my friend who was adamant about her dog's obedience had her dog nearly hit coming across to play with mine. She was a lovely dog and super friendly, but skunks don't like big, friendly dogs. She got sprayed in the muzzle, then ran up to us, shaking skunk juice everywhere.

[@CARMAT0918]

Story 4 - NTA. For brother's next birthday, buy him a rat trap. Tell him to keep one eye open as his vermin can have very short life spans. For Christmas buy yourself a cat. Remind him 1 down 4 to go.

[@azuredutoit4278]

I agree she should gat a cat.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA She lied: To herself and to her husband. She can't expect him to stay with someone who lied to him. He made his feelings clear and she lied. It goes both ways. If she said she didn't want kids and he tried to force her it would be the same thing. This is not a tact situation. She was engaging in delusional thinking. She lied but thinks the person who was lied to is the bad person? No. Also, hearing Mark's reaction at someone else using the word Waffling was awesomeness.

[@lennaedaley8676]

People was way too easy on the the sister. To be hurt is one thing, but then to blame him is another. Also it does seem like she may have flat out lied to husband. While she showed her uncertainty to OP/ family, why would he marry someone who is unsure, leaning toward no children. Considering what's hes been through why would anybody in their right mind waist their time. Also I feel that was implied by OP so I say NTA.

[@Mewse1203]

@@lennaedaley8676 the blame is what got me firmly NTA. It's like you said. It's one thing yo be upset he is divorcing her but another to blame him for it when it was her actions that caused it.

[@jraxreviewsxcosplayxmore6934]

Literally! She bloody flipping lied. Not him. He was straight up with her and she lied

[@pippo17173]

Its worst when the husband got two failed marriages and non of it is his fault when one cheated on him while sis here lied. What the fuck man.

[@ItachiUchiha-sh6of]

I went with esh. I'm not sure she lied. It is very possible she changed her mind on having kids. To me it seems like she had more of a problem with the birthing and pregnancy than having kids. Based on what op said about the cousin. An based on the fact that sister mentioned adoption as an option. I also think op shouldn't have said what she did, at least not in that way. People are always a fan of "brutal honesty" until they get hit with it. It normally doesn't work and you just end up pissing the other person off. Then they won't listen or confide in you at all. Not to mention kicking someone when their down.

[@brianna_lynch]

For story 2, definitely NTA. When you’re in a relationship, you either need to both be childfree or both want children.

[@BeadleJuce]

Story 2: why was surrogacy not an option considered? It sounds like sister didn't want to be pregnant or give birth, but was open to being a mom and raising kids. With a surrogate, the kid could be biologically his (or biologically theirs), but she wouldn't have to carry it. Best of both worlds. I don't blame BIL for not taking it tho - he probably felt lied to and manipulated. ETA: the post says "as to why BIL wants biological children? He was previously married and has 2 children and he found out that neither of them are biologically his." It doesn't say *anything* about "the daddy experience" (he likely got that with the 2 he found out weren't his) nor *anything* about him wanting his wife specifically to give birth. Only that he wants *biological children.*

[@Transcreations_]

Collecting eggs isn't easy either

[@BeadleJuce]

@@Transcreations_ Ik it isn't easy, but it's an option that could have made all parties happy: BIL could have biological children and sister wouldn't have to be pregnant or give birth. It would be a more difficult and expensive route, but it exists.

[@CensorshipVictim]

It's also expensive

[@BrokensoulRider]

He didn't want someone else having his kids. He wanted his wife to have them. That's fully understandable. And you do also underestimate the price of surrogacy programs. That's super expensive and there's a high chance that the woman who has the child will want to keep it.

[@BeadleJuce]

I did not say he was wrong to not want to go that route, but OP says he wanted a biological child, not "a child his wife gave birth to." There IS a difference. Also, ik it's insanely expensive, I never said it wasn't. But we don't know what BIL and sister's financial status was. All I pointed out was that it was an option that deserved consideration as it is *the ONLY option that would be a compromise rather than forcing either part to settle.* ETA: a surrogate legally *cannot* keep the baby, so that's a bad argument against.

[@StormyPeak]

The 16 year old is a FAR CRY from even begining into adulthood....so callous that her brother lost a beloved PET...not a 'thing' not just a 'rat' and having other pets doesn't help that much when losing a pet.

[@bunnyslippers191]

Sister who is angry her brother was sad on her birthday because his rat died "and he still has 5 more!" sounds like the sort of person who can't understand how a parent who just had one of their children die is terribly sad "because they still have 5 other kids!" His pet died, FFS. OP, YTA.

[@piratsnygg]

Right? Rats are such awesome pets with huge personalities too. I've had eight, and they were all their own little person, and I miss them all for different reasons. F*ck that "it's just a..." -mentality.

[@ScooterBond1970]

She's just a classic case of "I find no value in it, therefore no one else should."

[@lolahaynes7554]

i think this could’ve been a good opportunity for him to learn how to compartmentalize.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

So... she's an AH for being excited about a milestone birthday that was ruined and that she was ignored for? Lol

[@ScooterBond1970]

@@TheZombifiedFairy No she's an AH for thinking brother has no right to grieve the loss of a pet just because she personally doesn't like it. It ain't like brother deliberately killed his pet on her birthday for the specific purpose of stealing the attention so she needs to stop acting like it. And "because he has four more" is also not an excuse; pets ARE NOT TOYS. That said, YES, as far as I'm concerned, death of a loved one (be it human or animal) trumps birthdays every single time.

[@sandracox4341]

Who sees a dog in a gated/fenced yard and say, " look a stray dog" opens the gate, takes the dog and gives it away? File charges against her.

[@thislookslikepatrick5070]

S2 NTA the sister and the family were blaming the BIL who did nothing wrong. Sister did lie to him whether intentional or not. She and the rest of the family needed a big reality check.

[@bluedragonfly8139]

Succumbing to a loved one's manipulation or pressuring isn't lying.

[@thislookslikepatrick5070]

@@bluedragonfly8139 it wasn't manipulation, he said what his boundaries were and she lied to get past it instead of facing the fact that they weren't compatible.

[@Fete_Fatale]

@@bluedragonfly8139 Clearly you didn't actually watch the video.

[@FredRated1967]

On that story with the dog, how the HELL did that neighbor think a dog IN SOMEONE ELSE'S BACKYARD was a stray?

[@takkycat]

I would call that a case of “willful ignorance”

[@dagnytheartist]

Story 3: That mother was totally stealing the dog on purpose. My guess is that she has friends who *really* *really* wanted a dog, and she saw OP's dog as an opportunity. Then she told everyone that she thought it was a stray as an excuse, but stray dogs cant get into closed fenced-in yards on their own. It was so obviously your dog. Also, since she clearly has a Facebook she could have posted a picture with "I found a stray dog, does this belong to anyone?" but she didn't do that because she wanted to give the dog to her friends. She belongs on r/Entitled Parents and you absolutely need to chip AND collar your dog. I don't like the idea of walking your dog off-leash, sounds dangerous, but with a collar and chip nobody would be able to steal it and get away with it. Even if the mother is entitled, we don't know for sure if her friend is entitled too. I know they were both talking trash about OP, but you'd be surprised how many good people can be persuaded by bad friends to believe false narratives. Her friend (the dognapping neighbor) may have convinced her that you were a bad dog owner who neglected your dog and that she found him miles away from your house, hungry and alone, or another sob story that makes you sound evil.

[@CrypTicCMaK]

If someone stole my dog out of my yard and had the nerve to say something like that they better pray to whatever God they pray to and hope a little bit cursing is all that happens.

[@starwarriorterra8373]

The people in story 2 who said OP kicked her sister while she was down...did they miss the part where OP said she was also giving her soon-to-be-ex shit and trying to get him to come back alongside her parents? ("Parents have been giving BIL shit for days now and so is sister now about how stubborn he is and wish he could see it before") It's clear she does not see where she was the wrongful party in all this, and at that point "reading the room" is irrelevant in my opinion. You have the right to grieve, up until you are harming others around you with your grief. Berating her former husband certainly crosses that line. Obviously, it's possible that OP is lying about the sister being involved in the harrassment, in which case I'd certainly say that OP's an AH for punishing her sister for their parents' behavior.

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 2 : OP is not the A-hole. Sister is the A-hole to her husband, because she knew the deal before they got married. She lied to get what she wanted which is despicable. Parents are enabling her. She needed a dose of truth so that she can get on with her life. Personal responsibility is a real thing.

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 1- NTA. Surprise party? Yet the mutual friend knew? She probably already sent out the invites and didn't want Op and the daughter to come

[@nefretiricapestany5430]

Trying to paint my boys room and I make it through almost the whole video thinking "Wow I am handling some of these things like a trooper today." Mainly because nothing is shocking or making me mad then comes the Dog story. Seriously a freaking dog that size with its kind of temperament should always be on a leash! Then the neighbors. "I know this dog is hers but let me take him and rehouse him." What the hell? Yeah people... just some people.

[@goofygoofymf]

Story 1: NTA. That hits close to home... I've been purposely excluded from events with people I considered to be my 'best friend' like that. Only I'm pretty sure it was the actual 'friend' making the exclusion. OP is a good mother for doing what she needed to in thst situation. I hope the daughter is able to move on.

[@becausemynameiscommon5609]

The birthday one. My birthday is on Christmas. Every one of my birthdays were and are celebrated on a different day. I've never really had much of a problem with it. It was just nice to get a day that was special for me.

[@vernonjackson3435]

On the dog story, if the dogs in a fenced area behind a gate someone coming in to take the dog collared and or leashed or not anyone taking is a THIEF! NTA

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 3 OP needs to get her dog chipped. OP needs to file a police report for dog theft. OP should not have let it pass. OP is not the A-hole. Her neighbor is a thief.

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

Story 2: 100% NTA. This post is the equivalent of the “Why are you booing me? I’m right.” meme. I think there’s a time for harsh truths, and this is one of those times. OP’s comment was entirely necessary and justified; especially since sister and the parents are basically harassing and bullying this man for not “compromising.” There are some things you don’t compromise on, like having kids. You either want them or you don’t. Maybe OP’s comment will keep sister from lying to her next victim of 2 years.

[@reasonpeason847]

This exactly. I’m firmly NTA because of how parents and sister are treating BIL for leaving.

[@katwiltz1134]

Emotional Devastation is exactly how it feels to be coming home to your yard and it be empty and your friend who found a dog in your yard gave it away that's emotional devastation

[@charlotteflick3667]

#2 I don't think she was wrong - sister needed to learn the truth.

[@littleowl22778]

I'm from England 🇬🇧 I've listened to this video while In the shower, it helps me gauge how long I'm taking. ^-^ I also listen to them while cleaning the apartment, washing dishes, cleaning my guinea out.

[@allineedismusicnlove]

Story 2: why TF is everyone so hard on that woman. It's not clear if she was certainly lying. Maybe she thought she did want childrenbut seeing the pregnant woman changed her mind. Im also on the fence about getting pregnant bc of how hard pregnancy is in the body.yeah maybe she liked the guy a lot and tried to change for him but there's no reason to shame her. Also the misogynistic comments???? "It's not certain if that man will ever trust women again" disgusting. That man needs to go to therapy

[@vanivee3931]

The dog story: The entitled neighbors should count their blessings. My dog is like my daughter and I can almost guarantee you I would have said more hurtful things and probably followed those words with some actions I would have regretted later on.

[@dragonriderabens9761]

I wouldn’t have said anything I got a .22 rifle and a 9mm revolver to do that for me in those circumstances

[@sylviajones6745]

I think the brother should've apologized to OP, for the family taking over her birthday. What a crappy thing to do. Being the better person, always is supposed to suck it up and not be hurt. Well, damnit, he wasn't the only one hurting and that's why she behaved that way. Jeeze

[@iris5678]

I'm in Oklahoma in the U.S. Currently at work, doing work while listening. I also listen to you on my daily commute to work!

[@lina9535]

Story 4: It doesn't even matter that the animal in question was a rat. It could have been any kind of pet and his emotional response would still be valid. OP is lacking empathy, and I suspect it's because she views the rats as "not pets". 100% YTA "It was just a rat". What a soulless sister OP is. I'm 30, and I'm heartbroken each time I've lost a guinea pig. If my sister was like OP, I'd never talk to her again.

[@johnniekilgore3499]

Yes, make a police report about your neighbor and your dog, she knew the dog was yours as you told her. She had no good reason to go onto your property and take your dog. Get your dog microchipped and a lock on your gate. I would put up a couple cameras as well. Also walk your dog on a leash, you are no longer a child and your dog should be on a leash. It is what is best for your dog and for you. It will help protect you and your dog from law suites that can happen if you come across someone who is afraid of dogs for any reason. I wish you the best in the future. Having your dog on a leash could save you from a lawsute.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

Lol, so she's upset her birthday is ruined and she was mostly ignored for a HUGE milestone because her brother decided his rat was more important? No! She has every right to feel ignored and pushed aside! Since when do we tell kids their valid feelings don't matter because of someone else's feelings?

[@swaginton1180]

when it comes to the second story I do feel it's NTA not because what she said was kicking her down, but more so because it seemed like the wife was personally deflecting, trying to pin all the blame on him for being so stubborn and not giving up on this when this was a clear and set dealbreaker for him if this part of the relationship could not be met. I would have personally said something along the lines of "don't blame this entire thing on him, you two are just incompatible and he did pretty much make himself extraordinarily clear that having bio kids is a must for him."

[@bluedragonfly8139]

I mean, if my sister didn't want kids and then got into a relationship and suddenly started changing her mind, I'd actually ask her why. Maybe that's because I know how annoyingly common it is for people who want kids to get into a relationship and wait for/convince the other person to change their mind, no matter how clear said person is on not wanting kids. Personally, I think the sister should have broken up with him when she realized they were at an impasse, but people do stupid things when they're in love.

[@eco921]

@@bluedragonfly8139 so you’re just here defending the Sister when it’s clearly her fault. Are you her family or smth?

[@CooperGal24]

Mom's MORE like an Entitled Karen, if you ask me. "Well I found a dog in your backyard, so I just took him and gave him to my friend! You've have it LONG enough! And if you don't do as we say, we'll just talk shit about you on a Facebook Chat Group! What're YOU gonna do? Call the police?" Uh, DUH! Personally, kinda surprised OP DIDN'T call the cops on the EM! I would! Not only that, but I'd also take her and the other woman to court for theft of a dog AND false accusations on a social media chat group!

[@personneici2595]

Someone kidnaps your dog: PRESS CHARGES

[@ApocalypticEmu]

Over in the states, cleaning an AirBnB I work for and spent most of this video searching for the correct sheets, maybe a third of it actually making beds lmao. Thanks for being my work soundtrack!

[@celestialangel666]

I’m updating my schedule and journals, drinking coffee, over here in California on my workweek “Friday”

[@SorenPenrose]

You get a birthday once every year. A beloved pet will never come back once it dies.

[@victorvaldez8869]

HOW CAN A DOG BE A STRAY IN A YARD!?!?! If the neighbor didn't KNOW that was theft she's certifiably insane & I question what morals she's teaching her kids. I would have also posted the fact that she stole the dog out of a fenced & gated yard in all those FaceBook Groups she was whining in. As the other Mom's how they'd feel if their kid's beloved dog was stolen out of the yard while they were at school because "Somebody else thought they deserved a turn with them?" Me? Denver CO, USA The USA is BIG.

[@justozzy5559]

For story 3: the last commenter had great points. Get a collar, chip and a lock. All would definitely be worth it.

[@Darwinsmom]

I'm in New Brunswick, Canada, as I am every day enjoying Mark's efforts. We are dealing with a major weather shift here, a brewing storm maybe, so my cats are being insane running around the place or as we call it in Newfoundland, "galing" in response to the change in air pressure. Hope no one else is dealing with schizoid felines and changing weather out there!

[@Neighbor-assistantYN]

The birthday party one is still rude. I'm sure the daughter would ask why her best friend didn't show up to her party. Definitely would hurt both girls.

[@elizabethedgerton2062]

Story #1. That little girl is going to find out the hard way about that party. She will be devastated. Those little girls won’t be friends much longer because kids talk and they will gossip about the party and why OPs daughter wasn’t invited.

[@cassandranightingale8358]

I’m from the U.S. and I’m doing laundry, and giving my dog a haircut while I listen!

[@Eowynd]

I'm from Chile (SouthAmerica) and I listen to this stories while working

[@nonbinarybannana]

Shiny hunting in the car. Perfect timimg!

[@momotaro1236]

What Pokémon are you hunting?

[@buglover6000]

No way!! I’m shiny hunting too :D Good luck with yours !!!

[@duchesseebene1273]

Québec, Canada 🇨🇦...washing my dishes while listening.

[@JohnSmith-xq1pz]

👍 from the sea bound cost

[@ayeshakhan3823]

I’m in London, painting my nails! Meeting one of my partners friends for the first time so excited for that too!

[@drawcula4025]

I don't get the YTA/ESH comments for the divorce story. OP watched their sister mislead the husband (even if she was initially willing to have a baby but changed her mind, she should have told her HUSBAND that and not kept it to herself) despite knowing what he's already been through. And now that her house of cards has crumbled down around her, OP has to watch the family put all the blame on him and none on her; of course they snapped! Anyone probably would, because it's not "kicking her while she's down" so much as reality check. I mean, given what we've learned of the sister's personality in this story, can you imagine what kind of story she's going to start spinning to friends and family once it hits her that it's really over? It will be all about saving face, and OP let her know that there's at least one person who's not buying it.

[@wmdkitty]

Uh, BIL sucked for pressuring Sister into agreeing to a kid she didn't want.

[@drawcula4025]

@@wmdkitty @Shawna Burt At first, yes, but I think that's more because he was ready to start a family and didn't want to waste time in a relationship that couldn't offer him that, so of course he wanted to make sure the option was on the table before investing in the relationship. She wasn't FORCED to do anything, she could have said it's a dealbreaker and walked away, but didn't. Instead she kept changing her tune until she got called on it, and now she's playing the victim. You know full well if a guy did that to a girl people would lose their minds, and there was another comment on that story that also made good point; he's what, 40 now? In order to date someone that could still offer him bio kids he'd likely have to look for someone almost 10 years younger than him, which is definitely going to look weird to some. And why did this happen? Because one woman cheated and the other was more interested in telling him what he wanted to hear instead of admitting they wanted different things. Any way you look at it, this guy gets screwed and all they got was dumped. But yeah.. let's blame him. 🙄

[@jayc7171]

@@wmdkitty he didn’t even pressure her ffs

[@Cheycartoongirl8]

Hello everyone! Raise your (hopefully Waffle Gang, just got mine!) mugs of coffee and tea for the great videos by Mark! Life Hack: Did you know you're actually suppose to keep your door closed at night for fire safety? This delays the fire and the toxic fumes.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Reading this made me want to dip waffles into a cup of coffee. I have no idea why.

[@oakenshadow6763]

Dog kidnapping garbage bag. should have gone to the cops. She trespassed and took your dog! Who the hell thinks a dog in another person's yard is a stray?! Should have gone to the cops.

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 4 : OP is not the A-hole. She has a right to be upset. The 16th birthday is a special birthday for a girl. OP is nicer than I was at 16. Brother would have lost all his rats. At 52 I could let it pass. At 16 I would have fed them all rat poison. Since OP is a better person than I am. She should accept the makeup day and exclude brother he can't mess up the makeup day.

[@Steampunkkids]

At 10:02 @Mark Narrations gave me the little laugh I was hoping for! I had heard another KZbinr read that story yesterday and I had my fingers crossed that Mark would read it today! Hallelujah!

[@rachelleswain1034]

I likely would have waited until after the party to talk to the other mom, so she couldn't lie like that.

[@faeriefire78]

Not many people are answering that last question, but I'll play! I almost always either do needlework or housework while listening, and I'm in northeast Florida. This is one of my favorite channels across all the types I follow!

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

Haha, your giggle when you read the word "waffling" in story 2 was cute XD

[@rabbitgirl1187]

I haven't even finished listening to story 4 and I have a YTA judgement. As a rat owner, I know just how awful it is to lose our ratty fur babies. When I lost my first rat I was devastated and when my second rat died in my arms I was howling emotion and pain. For her to be so selfish and entitled disgusts me and this would be something I cut contact over. Whether you like rats or not, they are this man's pets and his fur babies. He deserves respect and empathy, just like any one else who is grieving the loss of a dog or family member. I doubt the brother would see, but congrats for getting a rat to live to four years. That's a huge achievement and he must be such an amazing owner.

[@huinismith]

Story 2: Oh my word... Poor BIL's faith in humanity might be FUBAR after this. OP, if you are reading this, you are NTA. Story 4: YTA Let's talk about milestone birthdays: I spent my 30th in a pediatric ward with my 2yo (luckily, he eventually outgrew his respiratory issues, but that was one of the most frightening moments of my life) and I only remembered what day it was when the "Happy birthday" messages started popping up. What I'm trying to say is that although the birthday is literally the only day of the year a person is entitled to make about oneself, this will not always be the case. This year will be my big four-oh. I just hope everyone will be healthy. Sorry for the rant, and sorry if it sounds odd. English is not my... You know how it goes, lol.

[@susanminer2088]

Just show up at the party. What are they gonna say, that you weren’t invited, in front of everyone?

[@PrincessZombear]

Playing Stardew Valley in Somerset, UK. Livin' the farmer life lol

[@somegalfromcan]

I always listen to you at the end of the day as I am getting ready to go to bed. I live in Victoria, British Columbia - on the west coast of Canada.

[@Reyyvii]

I always listen to these at my job! I work in a poultry research farm and let me tell ya: standing up and weighing 3000 eggs can get boring pretty quick! Listening to your channel always seems to make such tasks go faster. Thank you for doing you, much love! ❤

[@MarkNarrations]

I once had to weigh around 20,000 eggs. However! They were Cadburys cream eggs for market research, I feel your pain my friend 😂❤

[@janet6421]

I am in the US waiting for the oven to finish while cleaning up a bit in the kitchen.

[@nojhii1256]

Story four really hurt, OP is 100 % TA. I’ve had two rats before and they’re very sweet and intelligent creatures, so it sucks to hear people think they’re “” just rats “” when they’re practically small dogs based on intelligence and emotional capability. Rats bond very closely with their owners, so having a rat for four years is a huge deal as it was probably as attached to the brother as he was to it. Having to give away my two rats due to moving was one of the most painful experiences I’ve had to go through, so I really sympathize with the brother. Animal loss is very painful, him shutting himself away is probably the best thing for him to cope. OP will have plenty of birthdays, but they only have one brother and they need to support him during times like this.

[@KittenUndercover]

I still don’t get why the daughter wasn’t invited to the bday party. It was across the street..couldn’t she have just walked over alone without her mom if the friends mom didn’t want OP there? Also, story 2..I get that he was hurt that the kids weren’t biologically his but it hurts my heart that he abandoned them. It’s not their fault.

[@lenamarist574]

Yes I agree that it's not the kids fault and it would have been kinder to stay in touch with them. But the guy wasn't at fault either, it was his ex that put all of them in that awful situation.

[@djayostormx1522]

He didn’t ditched them he was banned from seeing them.

[@cocoidiea8643]

Story 1: After hearing the update I still don't feel there is enough info to make a judgement. Does neighbour mum have a reason to worry that OP and/or daughter couldn't keep a suprise a secret and was actually planning on inviting them last minute so they didn't unintentionally ruin the surprise? That is the only reason I can think of other than the neighbour being the ahole.

[@susankaempfer8427]

Yeah, I’m still confused about why.

[@wasabipea57]

Down in Tasmania, listening as I’m getting ready for work! You are effectively my alarm clock, I listen every day right when I wake up ✨

[@sacilexi231]

Age 46, Fargo North Dakota USA I really like stories..so never apologize about waffling on..love it.

[@the-nina-beans88]

My birthday last year was on Election Day. My parents forgot. Half of my friends forgot as upsetting as that was I understood 2020 was a wreck and everyone was on the edge of the election. It all worked out with a delayed celebration on the weekend.

[@TsukiKageTora]

I enjoyed the scenery of the story 1 update, so no worries on forgetting the screenshots! :3

[@gordondebruin536]

I would report her to the police. She stole your dog from your property. That is trespassing. Also, put a chip in your dog. That is a very good way to prove it’s your dog and can be tracked down if your dog is missing.

[@lenimayer3769]

I am actually watering my garden in Frankfurt 😋 it is so nice of you to keep me company during those muddy times!

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA. OP shouldn't be walking her dog without a leash ESPECIALLY a dog that big. However they STOLE HER DOG. Then for them to shit talk her and put her on blast. Op walking her dog without a leash almost makes this an ESH situation. And as far as emotional distress: what did the mom think when she stole someone's dog.

[@missluciddreams3472]

Walking the dog off leash has NOTHING to do with the story. They took the dog from her YARD! Sheesh...can people not stick to the story?

[@Mewse1203]

@@missluciddreams3472 which is why I judged her NTA. However, if it has nothing to do with it...why include it?

[@missluciddreams3472]

@@Mewse1203 she was just giving an idea of how big her dog is and a brief encounter with her entitled neighbors. Has NOTHING to do with someone breaking in her yard and stealing her dog.

[@Mimiroo]

Final story: I understand the OP is a teen and still learning to handle life situations but yes they are a huge AH. A pet whether it’s a dog, cat, bunny, rat, etc is loved as a family member and a little empathy would go a long way towards their brother. Until I met a good friend in uni, I never understood how much a person could love a rat. He treated his rats like royalty and while their lifespan isn’t much more than 4 years they were the best kept pets I’ve ever met. He bottle fed most when they were little, sewed special poches into sweaters so they could cuddle in and go outside safely with him and would educate anyone interested about his rats.

[@HackiePuffs]

I’m around the same age as OP and I know better than to act this entitled and selfish

[@Mimiroo]

@@HackiePuffs and at the OP’s age I knew better as well but not everyone develops emotional empathy at the same rate. Sometimes it takes making selfish mistakes to get the point that the world doesn’t revolve around you and your priorities. I’ve had to have the “it’s not all about you” talk with (ex) friends who are going into their 30’s and still not fully learned this 🤷‍♀️

[@Davtwan]

Plus, OP’s brother is a pre-teen. They tend to be extremely emotional as they have no clue about ramifications yet. Of course he’d be extremely upset.

[@moonie4423]

Not the 13 y/o being more mature than the 16 y/o 😳

[@XxxBelladonna]

I sooo missed this! I'm in the Netherlands and am sowing a pocket onto a cardigan I crocheted ^-^ Have a good day everyone!!

[@LadySynako]

Cleaning on-call rooms at a hospital in the U.S.!

[@teufulhunden4921]

Story 3: NTA for walking dog without leash I have a Rottweiler that I have trained to be walked off of the leash. He has been jumped at and barked at by other dogs and whilst he had the opportunity he has never fought back. He's not on the smaller side either weighing 90 lbs. Just be responsible with your dog no reason to shame do owners for not leashing their dogs. Many leashed dogs in my area are more dangerous than my dog.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

The editor's comments when Mark forgot the update. lmao!

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Got dinner simmering on the stove right now. Windows are open. Just sitting here enjoying the smell of the food cooking and gentle evening breeze blowing through. Maybe my neighbors are loving the smell too? NW Ohio, USA

[@ElleriaZer]

Worst birthday: on my 21st, the one in my area in which alcohol is legal, I had a final exam, and two the following day. I got myself a cake and ate cake while I studied.

[@mpmansell]

Story 3: NTA. I think that with the lying, the police need to be involved. I think that should she be prosecuted, that mums group can STFU and start wiping egg from their faces. I would also contact the platform directly and demand action, and records for the court case. Regarding the cursing, NTA. Cursing a lying, slandering thief is warranted.

[@beverlynaquin1256]

If she keeps whinning about him divorcing her then you were right to tell her this is on her and if she doesnt shut up then send her to your moms

[@scepticalhyenas5750]

"♡♡♡ _Hey M, I was walking by and there were these kids in your yard? I figured they were homeless or feral or something so I opened your gate and grabbed 'em._ _Figured I could drop them with some pals of mine with no kids of their own, you know? Like, maybe give them a turn? Lol idk. Anyways!_ *_Love u lots!_* *-OP* ♡♡♡"