r/AITA UPDATE Refusing To Let Boyfriends Daughter Have Her Own Room In Our House

[@alymatronicdeeare8265]

Aw, thanks Mark! It is my birthday today! I'm 19 and have even waking up with you for a good while! Here's to another year!

[@kemonono]

happy birthday! Hope it's going/gone well

[@MarkNarrations]

Wehey happy birthday!!! 😁😁❤

[@katiesmith2031]

Happy birthday hope you have a wonderful day much love 💙

[@alymatronicdeeare8265]

@@MarkNarrations oh thank you so much!! Love you man

[@Mewse1203]

🥳🥳Happy birthday!

[@missveeta8872]

Story 3: "But my wife says..." Dude, you're relationship with your kid is DOOMED. Take it from someone who got shoved aside for trophy wives and re-do families. My dad is contorting himself to make up for the past now. That's you in 10 years.

[@RockinTheBassGuitar]

Yeah, it blows my mind that people would let their child's step parent make rules that completely dismiss their own children's needs. It's more than wrong.

[@carolroberts4614]

I feel so bad for that lad! I hope he can go to his mum! It's a long time until he's 18. In the meantime, I would take anything valuable to Mum and get a lock on his closet if possible! I'd be hiding stuff under the floorboards if I could!

[@b.f.2461]

I hope the dad takes the same laid-back approach to personal possessions when Joshua takes his car without asking and totals it.

[@marshawargo7238]

@@carolroberts4614 I know I'm late to the party 🎉 but I think OP should start taking things from all 3 of them! First take anything of his of value or valuable to him, to his moms. Then just start "borrowing" from dads room stepmoms drawers & her sons prized possessions. Maybe some stuff might break, oops sorry, or "I accidentally forgot to bring it back from mom's house, sorry I'll bring it next time I come here" How do you Break LEGO??? Those things can be walked on by Bigfoot & He's the one to get hurt!

[@carolroberts4614]

You're right! I hope things are better for him now! Merry Christmas to you , by the way!

[@pansprayers]

Get rid of the boyfriend in the second story. Sue him in small claims. You don't mess with your partner's tools - especially when it's a specialised set of tools. An oscilloscope is not something that is easily replaced. This is an ADULT.

[@lily-zg6io]

Right?? My little cousin is 5 and even she knows that you don't take something from other people without asking

[@brigidtheirish]

As soon as it got to the tools being strewn around and the *oscilloscope broken apart* I nearly *screamed.* Who the hell *does* that to *someone else's stuff?*

[@odysseus2656]

Actually an oscilloscope is easy to replace, if you are willing to settle for one from WW2 that weighs 300 pounds. BUT modern, light ones are more expensive, but there is a huge market for used oscilloscopes.

[@eloraandkhan3288]

@@odysseus2656 an old oscilloscope makes for a good decor piece, tbh, but I wouldn't trust it for accurate measurements.

[@sonia94ist]

I'm a fashion designer and my living room is full of expensive art supplies, specialty pepper for flat patterns, special sketchbooks and because I live in Greece, I pay a fortune to have everything shipped from abroad. a law suit is the list of this boy's worries if he messes with my things, I have very poor impulse control due to adhd and I'm Greek, I have a Greek temper! I'd skin him if I was her! I'm a textiles engineer as well and some things are not to be messed with!

[@razeredgerose]

Story 2: As an artist, NTA. Girl, make sure you get EVERY SINGLE PENNY he owes you. DO NOT let him get away with this. Sure inspiration can hit hard, but that doesn't mean sense of value is suddenly gone. A smart artist gathers their own materials, even stockpile, for use. He is wrong, and knows it.

[@Skyfire_The_Goth]

I like to modify hats and clothing to be goth and steampunk. I don't know if I'll sell what I modify or just modify for myself, but either way I'll need the things to modify with, I have a couple of storage drawer cases with the gears, spikes, skeleton key, charms, etc. I use, and if I have an idea I need something I don;t already have, I never once think about looking through anyones stuff for it, if I don't find it at a local store I order it from ebay or something. Theft is only ever excusable if it's done to survive.

[@benry007]

Imagine the sob story he told his mum. What a loser.

[@sonia94ist]

I agree! fashion designer here and I have specialtiy items for the job and to me at least everything cots 1/4 of my income to replace. don't touch my stuff. I don't touch his!

[@sonia94ist]

@Random Platypus with Internet yeah being an artist doesn't a give you a free be an asshole pass. Hollywood have portrait us as these weird neurotic irrational types, some are. that still makes them assholes though. ask first always before you touch anything of someone else's.

[@crazyminegamer2339]

As another artist, I know I would be screaming at this man, even if the possessions weren’t mine. I haven’t gotten past the part where OP yelled at him, but I hope she wrings him dry. I know this is super petty, but he doesn’t get to even touch other peoples property without asking. HE SHOULD FUCKING KNOW THIS! Honestly, he doesn’t sound like a proper artist - not a respectable one at least.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

My stepmom called me a guest in her and my dad’s house too when I was young. That really was the beginning of the end of my relationship with my father. Unlike OP’s boyfriend my father didn’t stand up for me. It wasn’t the only event, but when I look back it was definitely a key moment in our collapse that led to now which is us having not spoken in about 10 years.

[@crossedwires2629]

So sorry. This is so awful.

[@Russman67]

Story 3: So the wife's son can go in and break OP's son's things and OP won't let his son protect his shit? It's obvious that the wife's son has free reign on the house and doesn't give a damn about personal items. And now dad is letting his son down. Wow, what an asshole.

[@eloraandkhan3288]

yea its pretty clear who is the golden child vs scapegoat child.

[@lilolmecj]

And it is a terrible life lesson to teach both boys. And I wonder how much the Not Scotty really likes sharing versus performing for the gullible adults.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Story 3: Scotty is either going to break something of Joshua's to make a point or leave and live at his mothers. OP needs to get their head out of their ass and be a parent, not a doormat.

[@pupperpalace9889]

Or both.

[@songohan3321]

It's nice to see Reddit stear someone away from making a terrible decision that can lead to long-term resentment and consequences. Glad for the update in the first story.

[@demonic_myst4503]

Definitly especialy for somthing as first world problem ad wanting a guest bedroom

[@astroidroach1873]

I just can’t believe she thought that in the first place. He wasn’t gonna make his daughter a priority

[@troublemcallister730]

not sure that's all of it. I've seen this in another video and someone was saying that the evil cow from story 1 PRETENDED to be all nice because she realised the hate she was getting & had been snooping and found the ring, so wanted to be sure to not scare him off. Have seen her reply again, and with a lot more detail (it seemed shortened before), I think it IS bullshit and that little girl's life will be hell, especially as Mrs Evil wil no doubt get pregnant as soon as the last box is unpacked. I doubt this has a happy ending for that poor kid.

[@PrincessAfrica3]

I loved the update

[@lauriemeyer7030]

Coming out to detail the car, I do understand why he wanted to see it first, because he doesn't know how dirty it might be. That being said, bringing the crew and putting the gripe pressure on, was wrong. You are❤ NTA.

[@missveeta8872]

Story 2: Uhhhh...OP's boyfriend's behavior = world's best birth control. Are you serious?!! He CRIED for being called out for destruction of OP's property?!! Just what kind of reaction was he expecting?! I agree with comments saying he did it on purpose out of jealousy or resentment or something.

[@catandrobbyflores]

Not just her property but her tools needed for her job.

[@pippo17173]

Its very obvious how the mommy raise him. Like this guy litterly is having a spoiled brat hitting the real world moment here and the mom is fucking ok with it. Sue the shit out of him, have mommy pay and hopefully it will result to him betting himself.

[@dustyrose192]

He literally had a trantrum on the phone to his (hopefully) ex-gf. Thats not an adult, thats a child

[@wmdkitty]

He sounds abusive.

[@simonO712]

Not in any way trying to justify his actions, he deserved everything he got, but I wouldn't blame anyone for crying after someone explodes upon them to such a degree that thwy don't even remember what they said.

[@andreamunoz6088]

Story one: YOUR OWN CHILDREN ARE NOT GUESTS. Period. No other argument

[@dannietea]

Story 2: NTA. OP needs to break up with him and sue him for the money because he’s not going to pay the bill.

[@ceeshnia]

Story 4: “Hey everyone, since people don’t want to be “burdened” by having my husband as part of the family, enjoy your lives without the “burden” of us both.”

[@songohan3321]

Actually this story should be called, "My SIL thinks I am just as stupid as she is." The SIL reasons for doing made my head hurt and SIL's husband demanding an apology for this insanity was equally headache inducing.

[@odysseus2656]

Yes, that is really the only path forward. The family has been bought by SIL so leave them be until SIL leaves brother flat broke, and then both of them should throw a party and tell them "I told you so."

[@Lili-ib2rh]

I'm either a horrible person or really protective of my loved ones (you choose) but this is one of the few times that washing your dirty laundry on Facebook would be worth it. Like, show everyone what kind of person she is.

[@JW-vd4il]

Besides SIL just being plain horrible... I'm only occassionally out with people in wheelchairs, but what "burden?" People are getting out of your way everywhere and letting you skip the line, etc. 😁 When you make a restaurant reservation with a wheelchair you're often in a more roomy area while other tables and chairs are packed in like sardines. 😂 I so hope the husband didn't take this to heart. I've had several friends with various disabilies and never felt ANY burden at all. That SIL just likes making trouble but I'm still shocked at how awful she is. I just remembered a John Lennon lyric that applies to her, "One thing you can't hide is when you're crippled inside."

[@marshawargo7238]

Being The Devil's Advocate I'm thinking maybe the SIL really does think of it as a burden and she was just trying to help OP get out from under the burden. God help OP's brother if this is the case, and he ever gets hurt in an accident and has to depend on his wife!!!

[@AnymousScreams]

I love how the first OP's partner included a willing stepdaughter in the proposal. Glad OP saw Kate needed her own room, and that Kate was so excited for her father to marry OP. Gotta love kids being excited at wholesome events. That said, they should still work through things better in the future.

[@missveeta8872]

Wasn't that precious? I want to put Kate right in my pocket!♡

[@AnymousScreams]

@@missveeta8872 Te update was nice after the initial story.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. That was so cute! Hope OP takes the lesson to heart in future decisions.

[@mama_of_carl1317]

I hated that the fact the boyfriend laughed at her and called her insane. So is that going to be a regular thing whenever she disagrees on something? They won't last

[@bettreon]

@@mama_of_carl1317 that not an issue. Especially when that's exactly how she was acting

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA He took thousands of dollars worth of equipment that didn't belong to him and destroyed it. Full stop. There is no defense to this.. It doesn't matter why did it, he used expensive stuff that wasn't his and now has to pay the person back. The fact that he knew it was her work equipment and could have cost her job makes this worse. Also, having his mommy call to defend him is childish.

[@carolroberts4614]

This happens in so many stories! Why are these grown men and women too, running to mummy when they have a row with their so?

[@Mewse1203]

@@carolroberts4614 "mommy she was mean to me" 🤣

[@carolroberts4614]

Reminds me of when we were kids, if someone was mean, the other would be saying"I"'ll tell my dad of you"! (UK)

[@stephanien6237]

😂😂😂 yeah. I read that a lot and always wonder if this could actually be a thing people do these days.

[@DystopianOverture]

My heart breaks for the husband in story 4. I'm disabled and I've been uninvited to things because of said disability. It's soul destroying.

[@lilolmecj]

I am astonished that this has happened to you! I am completely floored really. I have never suspected that people could be so awful. If you were my friend or family you would be included no matter how many accommodations had to be made. I am sitting here trying to wrap my mind around this.

[@brigidtheirish]

2: What the hell?! Is she dating a *toddler?* Who the hell does that to someone else's things *regardless* of value? I *bet* he ran away. If I was in OP's shoes I'd probably have grabbed one of the ruined screwdrivers and *chased him with it.* He'd be paying for those tools in *blood* if he refused to pay in cash.

[@marshawargo7238]

"He told his mommy"!!! Good she found out Before marriage! Mommas Boy ✅️ Tattle Tail ✅️ Irresponsible ✅️ & I'm sure the list goes on...🇭🇰🚩🇮🇲🇳🇵🇲🇦Red Flag Alert ⚠!!!🇰🇬

[@SpiderRiderKya]

Story 5: 'How unprofessional' well, good thing the OP wasn't the professional in this situation then. NTA. He was the one trying to trap you into the service.

[@odysseus2656]

"Brusque" is a word. It is like being short with someone.

[@missveeta8872]

Story 5: Total unethical sale's tactic. Way to shame a customer hoping to gouge them! Unless you're Jules Winnfeild and Vincent Vega just shot Marvin in the face in the back of your car there is no reason that service should cost so much. I steam clean and detail my own car all the time. Machine cost 50 bucks and it only takes 20 minutes.

[@lunaticbz3594]

Getting my late aunt's car detailed came to $300, I'm not sure if that was a bit overpriced or not given that the backseat was covered with dog hair, and I don't mean covered as in it had a few hairs I mean the seats almost looked like they were made out of hair. They did the inside, outside and it had an amazing new car smell by the time they were done with it. The quote for the work was given in advance, and they kept to the quote.

[@missveeta8872]

@@lunaticbz3594 I guess services that clean for you have a ton of overhead to pay for. I've always just done it myself.🤷‍♀️

[@graceful_rose_thorns]

Story 3: So just because Scotty is fine with everyone using his things Joshua had to be too? Scotty is gonna agree with Joshua when he takes his things without permission and breaks it. YTA. teenagers need privacy. I’m also creeped out with the fact that no one in that house has a lock on the door.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. Taking stuff without permission is *stealing.* Doesn't matter if the kid returns it later. Theft is theft. Honestly think bedroom doors should come with locks as a matter of course, not only privacy but as an added layer of defense in case of an home invasion.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. Bedroom doors should have locks by default. Granted, the bedroom doors in the house I grew up in only *technically* had locks since they were the better part of a century old and so required keys no one had. I'm also wondering about how Scotty broke the pieces. I mean, a model ending up partially disassembled can be fixed about as easily as it was broken since that's what Legos are *for.* If Scotty managed to break an actual *piece,* there's no *way* that was an accident. Legos are dang near indestructible.

[@davidburton3447]

@@brigidtheirish plastic cockpit windscreens that some models have are pretty fragile. could have been an X-Wing and Scotty maybe broke the windscreen or a turret

[@brigidtheirish]

@@davidburton3447 Ohhhhhh. I'm in pain just thinking about it.

[@legendaryscarletlunala7927]

Joshua is the one stealing and taking the stuff not Scotty.

[@Musiyca]

Story 3: Younger kid doesn't like to share at all. What Joshua is doing is taking other's possesion. Sharing would mean he shares his possesion with others. So yeah, OP is TA. There is no consequences for Joshua at all, but Scotty is punished twice: first by having his possesion destroyed, secondly by not being taken seriously by his caretakers. OP, stop coddling Joshua!

[@Ambidexter143]

Joshua is a thief and Scotty is trying to protect his stuff. OP is showing that he doesn't care about Scotty and so is definitely TA.

[@idontknowwhatimdoingsims3075]

Yeah he's got to be a thief cuz I'm sorry Legos are like hundreds of dollars for a set unless you get the 500 spare piece one

[@jakeand9020]

I've had LEGOs all my life, what I want to know is how the heck do you "accidentally" break LEGOs?

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 4: I hope OPs Brother never becomes disabled. SIL sounds like the kind of person who will leave his ass as at the doctors office as soon as the diagnosis is given. SIL actions make me sick. Caring full time for a loved one is stressful and had the lie been a truth would have been a nice event. You call people like this out on the spot when they can't craft the perfect excuse. The fact OPs Mom and Brother knew is sickening.

[@kratkartan1486]

Better yet, SIL better hope SHE doesn't become disabled. With her attitude, no one will help her when she needs it. And in the off-chance it does happen, not going to wish anything upon her like that, It might humble her.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

@@kratkartan1486 She sounds the type to pull that "The vax disabled me!!! T_T Look how #strong I am for trying to live with my new normal. BTW Here's my go fund me link.~" While doing an over acted derogatory portrayal of (in put disability here) she's faking. Stunt for the clout and attention

[@imanijohnson1340]

Her husband was very obviously hurt too, as he went out of his way to get a gift… I don’t think I could handle rejection like that, even just the description of how he reacted to the news that they basically viewed him as a “burden” is VISCERAL IM STEAMING

[@ShatoraDragondore]

@@imanijohnson1340 It's good that OP and Hubs now this about that part of the family now. Should Hubs level of needed help to stay independent drastically change.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Yea. If SIL's husband ever gets disabled or sick SIL be like: "ohhh feel sorry for me, my husband got "crippled." My life is over, look at how hard my life has become." 🤮

[@missveeta8872]

Story 4: I LITERALLY GASPED OUT LOUD at what SIL did. WOW.

[@missveeta8872]

Holy smokes I LITERALLY just read a story about a woman refused service at Dunkin Donuts because she was deaf. Look out for each other, people!♡

[@andredunbar3773]

@@missveeta8872 Wait, where did that story about the deaf woman come from?

[@Tammohawk1]

2. NTA He cried like a baby? After destroying OP's tools for an "art" project? He knew what he was touching when he did it. 3. YTA OP and his wife have failed to teach Joshua to respect other people's property. Scotty has every right to be upset, I would be upset too. Joshua loves to share, but Scotty doesn't and that is fine. He needs to learn to leave other people's belongings alone unless he as permission. He's also more than old enough to go live with his mother, no questions asked. My mom never stopped my sister stealing from me. 5. NTA He won't give a quote over the phone but says he will at OP's home. And then shows up with an entire crew to clean OP's car? Nope, that would have put me off right away. I'm taking bids right now for a septic system, and if an entire crew showed up, they wouldn't have been hired.

[@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog]

Story 3: YTA. OP is showing a lack of respect not listening to his son.

[@celestiafanforever]

agreed, especially since by the looks of the story Joshua wasn't even punished for breaking Scotty's legos. And by the sound of it, it may seem that Joshua may have broken more of Scotty's things that OP didn't put in.

[@gaxalee7392]

He’s also dismissing Joshua’s actions by saying he likes “sharing”. It’s not sharing or borrowing if it’s done without permission; it’s stealing. Plus, the fact that, instead of permission, Joshua knows that Scotty doesn’t want him in his room or touching his belongings. I bet if it was Scotty invading Joshua’s privacy and stealing his stuff, Joshua would be throwing tantrums. If Op doesn’t step up on behalf of Scotty, he’s going to lose his bio son just because he doesn’t want to upset his wife.

[@celestiafanforever]

@@gaxalee7392 agreed. Then again I would be surprised if Scoffy said he wants to go and live with his mom just so he could get away from his stepbrother just so his belongings will be safe from being destroyed.

[@carolroberts4614]

I hope he can go to mum!

[@lokisgodhi]

RE: Party OP handled this all wrong. Upon finding out about this. She she should have loudly said this: *EXCUSE ME! Can I get everyone in the restaurant's attention. This is my sister in law, (give name twice so everyone gets it.) and point to her. She lied to me about this being an all women's party to get me to come without my disabled wheelchair bound husband so she could exclude him. So I'm leaving because of it. Sorry to interrupt your meal but I thought you'd like to know. Thanks for your attention.* Trust me, a lot of her social peers likely patronize the restaurant. Publicly shaming her in front of them will likely cause her to be ostracized by them. She and her husband will also likely never get another reservation at the restaurant.

[@pickle_pup8187]

SIL is a ableist. Period. Calling her out like you suggested would have been epic. OP needs to cut the family off. They are behaving toxically.

[@michamocha]

Story 2: NTA and I think that comment about rage fits was spot on, especially after Op's response. He knows he can't come at Op because she made it crystal clear she will return the favor so he targeted the items that are important to her job. Was he expecting her to take it and cry? It had to be it since the moment he didn't get that response, he ran to his mom and threw a fit over the phone. He's an adult. He damaged the items, he can take responsibility and pay for said items. S3: my wife said this, my wife said that. YTA. Your son is asking for privacy because his step brother refuse to stop touching his stuff without asking and you say its "disrespectful" for your ex to send a lock. That's HER son too so no, she's not overstepping.

[@SapphWolf]

Story 3: I am so confused... neither me nor my sister had locks on our doors growing up, but neither of us would have DREAMED of just going into their room and taking stuff without asking. Why? Because our parents wouldn't have tolerated it. The hell is wrong with these parents?

[@dm9078]

Full on bawling. If OP doesn’t sue him she’s a fool! Crying and screaming. What the hell is it about this “man” makes OP want to have him as a BF. Yeah NTA. And get a new friend! 450 for a car washing! This is a set up NTA!

[@gaxalee7392]

He’s screaming, crying, throwing tantrums, and tattling to mommy. I hope Op gets him for everything he’s worth; that child needs to go home to mommy and suck his thumb.

[@mindyschocolate]

Story 3: OP is an AH. They won’t teach the 14 year old to not take stuff that doesn’t belong to him. His son should be allowed a lock.

[@KestralKuthule]

Personally I think it's more everyone but Scotty sucks. As much as people may hate it, OP's wife does have a point about someone else deciding to set up locks in their home. Yes the kid needs privacy but a lock that only Scotty or/and his bio mum have access to in OP's home is both stupid and dangerous. It's a fair boundary to establish as a parent plus a lockable safe/closet is a fair compromise. Yes Joshua should stop but in terms of safety for everyone the safe is safer.

[@sharontalladira]

What is up with no locks!!!??? These parents are morons!!!

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 3: Why the hell did OP and New Wife let Josh get that bad. Scot should push to be full time with his mom. I'm sure the Judge would love to hear that his step sibling is being allowed to get away with theft.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 2: I'm glad OP saw the writing on the wall. Using their tools was a clear deliberate move at some back handed power play.

[@lancerevell5979]

This was outright theft and destruction of personal property. As it was needed for OP's work, makes it especially egregious. Make (hopefully EX) BF pay to replace it all, full price. And, this relationship should be ended!

[@carolroberts4614]

She certainly needs to be far away from him! If it's not nipped in the bud, it will surely escalate!

[@ShatoraDragondore]

@@carolroberts4614 This is Divorce/Brake up levels of abuse. You should never forgive a partner for knowingly, deliberately, PURPOUSFULY destroying your property! Regardless of the value! (ex)BF was testing how far he could get away with. If OP goes back and forgives him, well now he knows "I can go this far, next time". And there WILL BE Next Times. Next time, it won't be Work Items. Next time it could be a gift from a friend that (ex)BF hates. Or a memento from a departed loved one of OP.

[@Jack-pm1ve]

Sixteen is old enough to expect privacy! I'm surprised he isn't gone already?

[@joaolima7131]

Unfortunately there are a lot of parents who think their kids don't deserve privacy

[@TheLunarWitch5162]

Story 4: NTA, this is what my ex aunt in law apparently did to me when I was younger. She would host my cousins’ birthday parties in inaccessible places and lie to them saying that it would be "impossible” for me to attend. It was more about her trying to exclude our side of the family, but still. Good on OP for noticing that immediately and calling it out

[@hybriddragonwolf168]

I feel sorry for you that should never have happened.

[@diarradunlap9337]

If that's how that aunt was, then you're better off not knowing her.

[@brandi5126]

S1: YTA. And the boyfriend is TA if he moves into a place that doesn’t have a room for his daughter.

[@pansprayers]

There was enough room for the daughter, the OP was just being really, really weird about it. She came around though.

[@brandi5126]

@@pansprayers Yeah! I’m glad she took the advice. The update was great! Hopefully the little girl can grow up in two supportive households.

[@mk_gamíng0609]

@@brandi5126 What about future kids there planning for tho They will have to move again. This entire thing is not planned well by either OP or her partner

[@brandi5126]

@@mk_gamíng0609 then there you go. They can plan to move before or when they add to their own family, keep baby’s crib in their room, or share rooms with the child until they can move. They can plan better when starting a family is a sure thing but while it is still in idea phase it’s nonsense to alienate a child that IS her for a hypothetical one.

[@krossrenterainment1319]

From the sound off it wouldn’t not let her get her own room

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 4, if I was OP, I’d get SIL a christmas gift and say “this is _exactly_ how I think of you” and inside is a jar with a pile of shit inside it. There is no way people can’t see how ableist she was being and actually defends it unless they are pile of shit too

[@stephanien6237]

Yeah - that woman and her family are disgustingly ableist and the fact that she considers OP’s husband less than, and made a decision to exclude him (so OP doesn’t have to stress?!), What a disgusting attitude. I agree with the commenter, she is a liar, a bigot, a coward and a judgmental bitch. And OP’s brother is digesting for agreeing with her and defending her.

[@ThePinkBinks]

Oh my god! I need a wheelchair. That is so heartbreaking. And the whole family went along with it?? WHY??! People are so cruel. He’s a big boy but not big enough to manage a trip to a restaurant? What? Shunning someone is awful but shunning them for being disabled?? You’re a wonderful wife though. They cut him deep.

[@stephanien6237]

I’m sorry people like that exist in this world. They should be ashamed.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: YTA he is her daughter. She is not a guest in his house. How can OP say she loves this little girl, then call her a guest. Also, they're going to give her the room when their baby comes? They have 2 rooms besides their bedroom. The daughter needs a room, period. If they have a kid, they can give up their office for their new baby. Edit after update: Listening to these stories a lot can make cynical about the world. There are a lot of awful people out there and these stories just make you think that the world is full of nothing but assholes. This story gives me hope.

[@gaxalee7392]

I’m happy Op was just being a moron and not straight up malicious.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

Yeah she should have thought it through. If she wanted her own kids and the space she should have bought a bigger house or not bought a house with someone already with a kid.

[@Mustario]

he is her daughter

[@demonic_myst4503]

She was being an ass such a first world problem to want a guest bedroom

[@Mewse1203]

@@demonic_myst4503 it get's worse. She didn't want to give a child a room so she could have a guest bedroom AND an office. First world problems is right.

[@aikikaname6508]

First story: I REALLY think even with the update, there’s a LOT that should have been discussed before they made this commitment of getting a house together. Why is Dads custody/visitation so low it’s only in summers and ‘now and then’? Is it a terrible ex situation or Dad works odd hours thing? Is he planning on getting more custody? When you have your own bio kid together, is he gonna want more custody and expect you to do a lot of the childcare for him as you’re already looking after mutual kid or keep custody the same? Is this a ‘first’ house rather than a long term house? What will be your role in future stepkids life (if she didn’t understand his kid is going to have a permanent room in their mutual house then I do wonder what convos she had at all). I’m glad she learned from her judgement. But if she’s so clueless to think the kid wouldn’t have a permanent room in her fathers house, I do wonder how well they discussed the kid situation on the first place

[@AnymousScreams]

That's a valid point. Kate's mother may have had unfair court opinion or OP's partner could work crazy hours at times. Nothing seems too off, but you never know.

[@aikikaname6508]

@@AnymousScreams Yeah, it could be me reading into it. But less than alternate weekend custody for an active, loving father who lives under half an hour away is a bit odd and this doesn’t sound like a toxic ex situation. And a woman at a stage where she’s buying a house with a single Dad seems to be acting more like a woman dating a childless man with a favoured niece who visits time to time than a major responsibility of her future boyfriends who could potentially become a more major part of their household. I dunno. It’s reasonable for the Dad to think his kid having her own room in her fathers house is a given. But them not discussing what happens when they have a baby and there’s no viable room to be used as a nursery? No Long term plans about how the kids are going to be raised together ? This is more troubling since it’s a known thing for single parents to suddenly up their parental demands on their childless partner once they move in or get married. I really don’t think OPs properly thought about what dating a man whom already has kids could entail since she apparently thought the daughter would stay on a sofa bed or stop staying overnight once the guest rooms a nursery

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

It's possible that op’s partner didn't have the space or time for 50/50 custody and that's why he laughed at op when she showed him the post and said “hell no it's kate’s room” and had his daughter do the proposal to op showing that she a part of him even if she's not there all the time. But then court are super bias and often give more custody to re-married men because they have a wife then single dads.

[@iamalbertwesker2]

well with OPs partner's comment in the update it sounds like he'd chose his daughter over her in a heartbeat, so I doubt it's anything bad

[@brigidtheirish]

@@MorganVsTheInternet Yeah, I suspect a lot of court bias at play, here. Men in general are often shafted in terms of custody, though it's getting better. At least now you don't *usually* see obviously unstable women getting nearly full custody just because 'children need their mothers.'

[@minagica]

Kate's stepmom is absolutely the AH, she acts like her not even existing child would be more a part of the family than an actual existing child. I am extremely glad she saw the light, oh boy! It turned into the most heartwarming of stories 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️

[@shanittathompson2039]

ARTIST STORY..NTA...OP WAS SAVAGE AF!!! LOL! SHE WAS NOT PLAYING WITH HER TOOL SET!!! I DONT BLAME HER. OP..DUMP THAT CRY BABY!!!

[@dagnytheartist]

Story 1 had a wholesome update. I was pleasantly surprised by OP's realization and change of heart. Sounds like she's done a good job making up for everything and helping Kate feel welcome, so much that Kate and her dad returned the favor. Congratulations OP!

[@sylviajones6745]

Probably cuz everyone called her an asshole. Ya know...

[@Dracojax]

Story one reminds me of my Dad. If I ever (rarely) stayed over it was always in the spare/guest room. Definitely sends the vibe it's not your house

[@jlady4110]

Story 3: with the bedroom lock - when its taken without permission IT's STEALING not borrowing. OP is sooo TA

[@stirlingarcher7972]

When Kate’s dad read OP’s aita post that should have been the end of their relationship. I can’t believe he proposed after that. ‘She will be welcomed as a guest’ 🤨

[@thebarefootwitch5564]

She tried to shove his child to the side, and he repaid her by proposing?!? Man is an idiot

[@CurliFox]

I thought so as well.

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

story 2 having worked in the industry of selling medical equipment like OP uses in their work... WOW the audacity of him to use those tools. NTA big time, I'd say that even without having worked in the industry, but also knowing how expensive some things are, and that they can take time to get a hold of sometimes. WOW is all I can say

[@rachellittle7671]

My bf is a mechanic. He keeps his tools at work, but there's no way I'd ever touch them outside of their intended purpose, much less destroy his property for some tacky art project. How the actual fuck do you destroy a screwdriver?

[@bibliowolf5735]

Story 1: If OP really cares about her stepdaughter & wants to have at least one child in a 3 bedroom house both bedrooms should be for the kids. No office etc. She's the child of OPs spouse not a guest. The stepdaughter should get one bedroom now. If OP has one child the 2nd child gets the 2nd bedroom. If OP eventually has both a boy & a girl the stepdaughter should be made aware that she will need to share with her halfsister at that time. Good update.

[@alr3764]

this. if you want a blended family, each child needs their own space, and the parents are the ones who should sacrifice their own space.

[@fionaeckert4556]

Great expectations for Kate... having to share her room with a toddler while she is pre-teen. That's a disaster waiting to happen. Nah, bf should have thought about how many rooms are actually needed BEFORE buying the house.

[@bibliowolf5735]

@@fionaeckert4556 It's not ideal but in a 3 bedroom house that could be the only option depending on the number & sexes of subsequent children. Ideally they need to add a bedroom or get a bigger house if they have 2 or more kids.

[@fionaeckert4556]

@@bibliowolf5735 I know. My point is that when you are at the point of buying a house together you talk about the needed rooms before you seal the deal. That includes bedrooms for x children, office, fitness, art... He just can't buy a three bedroom, promising his daughter one of those rooms, without talking about everything and distribution of rooms with his gf first.

[@bibliowolf5735]

@@fionaeckert4556 I give couples a pass on that point bc houses are so expensive. An affordable home with 4+ bedrooms may not exist in a given area.

[@81babyruthluv]

Story 1, the fact that someone has to take to reddit to make sure they are a jerk about this issue is just beyond me.

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Story 2: Oh my GOD, NTA. I also live with my boyfriend and we share everything BUT WORK STUFF. I have my work laptop and my work station that are off limits to him and he has his musical instruments and laptop which are off limits to me. I would never touch his instruments but if I accidentally broke one I would immediately offer to pay. I know he'd do the same. My boyfriend is a mummy's boy and even he wouldn't run to mummy to defend him if I told him to pay me back for damaged work equipment. OP needs to throw him out - her boyfriend should be proud of her accomplishments and lift her up, not tear her down in jealousy.

[@monky7628]

Story 4: Exclude SIL from every Event you hold and watch who complains to you about it and exclude them from your life as well.

[@lenamarist574]

Story 1: isn't it funny how she said it's not fair for the daughter to have her own room because she won't be there for 90% of the time but other guest who I assume won't be there for 99% of the time do get a designated room... That's not a person who should be in a relationship with someone who has a child. Like what would happen if the mother is suddenly unable to take care of the child?

[@redconvoy]

Story 4: remind your brother that it's what she did for the rest of the family. OP does not owe her crap and he needs to shut his mouth! Tell your mother you're so glad she is willing to sell you out even though SIL is wrong.

[@Ambidexter143]

"Sharing" does not mean stealing and breaking someone else's stuff. OP will lose his son because he shows his disdain for him.

[@KittenUndercover]

Story 3: OP replied to another poster saying he and his wife made Joshua apologize for the Lego incident but that’s the only update so far.

[@phoenix5044]

I feel like making him apologize for the Lego incident isn't enough IMO

[@KittenUndercover]

@@phoenix5044 cool..it’s not

[@courtneywoodbury5198]

"Stop spoiling your husband, spoil my wife!"

[@catandrobbyflores]

I just googled what type of tool from story 2 is and it's like a voltage meter thing that looks like a switchboard mixed with a computer or a pip boy from fallout. And prices can be up to 30,000 usd. Bf just glued this thing to his "art"

[@odysseus2656]

An oscilloscope could be up to $100k or more, but that is for very specialized high speed electronics. AND you can get them used for $50. You need to know which one was used. It displays electronic waveforms and we used it in design to perfect the operation of circuits.

[@bunnyslippers191]

@@odysseus2656 Since OP's oscilloscope is used to check repairs to medical devices like MRI's and so forth, it would have to be a pretty danged good one, not $50 used off Craigslist. People's lives can depend on accurate scans and tests and OP needs to have a good oscilloscope. She paid $750 for the one the bf destroyed, so she deserves to have the same make and model as a replacement. If the manufacturer isn't making that exact make and model any more OP needs one that is at least as good as the one bf stole and tore up.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 3: YTA x 1,000,000 I wish I could rip Scotty through the monitor so I could tell him that in the majority states and other countries by the age of 16 you can go to family court and pick which parent you want to live with permanently. What happened to Scotty's lego collection was a travesty and if I were him then I'd hit Joshua once in a tender spot for every model that he broke in any way. One good ass whopping could be all it takes to keep Josh from "sharing" with Scotty ever again!

[@krism8335]

Or instead of child abuse that solves nothing do what responsible adult would and simply make Josh replace the entire set if Josh takes something without asking or without consent take something of Josh's teach him to respect the boundaries and property of others

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

@@krism8335 Tell me where I mentioned child abuse. Scotty is 16 and Josh is 14. If Josh wants to "share with his brother" then he should get treated like a brother would be if they broke their brother's things. This typically involves violence aka Scotty pummeling Josh. So once again I will ask you, where did I mention child abuse?

[@dustyrose192]

@@janglesthearsonist5265 the spanking. Its consuidered children abuse

[@HackiePuffs]

Story 3: YTA. It’s good that Joshua likes to share but he needs to learn boundaries. Teach him to ask if he can borrow Scotty’s stuff and if Scotty says no that’s the end of it. If Joshua doesn’t curb his behavior now he’s probably gonna start stealing in the future and you won’t be there to shield him from the consequences. Scotty deserves to have the privacy of his own room let him have it and stop enabling Joshua.

[@wmdkitty]

He's already stealing.

[@starbird3939]

Story 2 - NTA I expect this from a 5 year old, not an adult man. Sue this man when you kick him to the curb

[@lalvarez5151]

Step daughter no room story- Is an AH. And the bf is an AH for proposing to her. The GF showed her true colors when she would rather a room sit Vacant and be a guest room, than be occupied by the step daughter. She said she didn't want her "toys there" and for her to think the room was her. People that messed up don't change. She is the evil step mother

[@donniejefferson9554]

I'm just confused about why Kate's room can't double as a guest room. Me and my brother's rooms were always used as guest rooms when we were kids. We'd just sleep on the couch and play video games late because no one was awake to stop us. If Kate is barely even going to be there I really don't see how there will be a problem with her room serving as a guest room as well

[@alr3764]

i mean not everyone is like you and your brother. i can speak for myself that I would’ve felt hurt to have my bedroom used as the guest room at my dad's house, even though i only went there once every two years.

[@donniejefferson9554]

@@alr3764 I don't mean make it a guest room that the kid can't use how they like. Personally I just don't see the harm in letting a guest use the kid's room while they aren't there. Definitely let them decorate it however they like and call it their room though.

[@RevWarRev]

Manipulative Service Set Up: What was unbeleivable to this AH is someone wasn't bullied or embarassed or uncomfortable to say "No" just because he was there and setting up. Guessing most people feel obligated to go ahead with the service. Good on OP! That's the risk he runs when he won't offer at least a ballpark quote.

[@aikikaname6508]

Story 1: They REALLY should have discussed her role in his daughters life and stuff like this before purchasing a house together. He’s the father and one with expectations so I hold him the most responsible for not clearing things up. If they weren’t on the same page about this then I think purchasing a house together is a mistake at this juncture

[@ettinakitten5047]

Story 5: The fact that OP was uncertain enough to ask AITA saddens me. There is absolutely *no way* OP would be TA in that situation.

[@DenMotherArkala]

Story 1: Your boyfriend and his daughter are a package deal. She is not a ‘guest,’ she is your STEPDAUGHTER. You are her guardian, act like it, or get out of the relationship. 🙄

[@meezerluvr]

Story 2 - Why? Clearly because his mother didn't stop this kind of behavior when he was young. This is EXACTLY the kind of behavior common in small children that has to be "unlearned" as they grow up.

[@maurer3d]

Story 5: NTA, if he doesn't want to give quotes over the phone, he needs to plan for people to say "No that's to expensive" and take the no, give a handshake thank you for your time.

[@rebeccay480]

Story 3: op is TA all the way. Son set s reasonable boundary and the household stomped on it Story 4: NTA. Wouldnt bother with that woman ever again. And yes call her on her bs.

[@calisparks3145]

My cousin literally has one spare room in her house, it’s her nieces room. Fully decked out in kid toys and stuffies for when she visits. And my partner and I still slept in the room no problem as guests. OP is ridiculous and honestly disgusting for saying her step daughter was meant to feel like a guest. That’s atrocious. She sounds like a stereotypical wicked step parent.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: OP’s right on one thing. When they do end up having another child Kate is going to freak out and assume her daddy doesn’t love her anymore when they have to take away the bedroom for her in order to turn into a nursery for her new sibling. she’s going to think she’s been replaced and that’s gonna be a whole shit show. Doesn’t this house have a bunch of rooms? Why can’t one of them be kate’s room

[@fionaeckert4556]

Because OP said it's a three-bedroom... master, office for op and bf and guest. That whole thing wasn't thought through at all. You talk about how many rooms are needed for what purpose BEFORE you buy. I would say latest three years from now they need an additional room because the baby can't stay in the master bedroom anymore. They will have to move again.

[@ADWebTV]

That's not abnormal to have room changes. Honestly I see nothing wrong with it being Kate's room and a guest room (it just doesn't have to be said to her). Neither are there all the time.

[@wickedgreen1784]

Story 3 - "We had Joshua apologize..." YTA. Apologies don't mean a damn thing when everyone knows he's just going to do it again, whenever the hell he feels like it.

[@RevWarRev]

Joshua is a thief story: Taking someone else's stuff without permission isn't borrowing, it isn't sharing it's theft. THEFT. OP is a horrible father, blind to the abuse his son is suffering at his wife's hands. He allows his stepson to steal from his son without consequences, and sides with his wife and stepson when Scotty needs a champion. Joshua is NOT Scorry's brother, and doesn't need a lock - he's the thief. Wish Scotty's Mom would make this an issue and ask to have custody revisted.

[@cchastant8251]

A 16 son has an issue with a 14 stepson making free with his things? Very reasonable! OP better realize that his son is old enough to cut you from his life.

[@EvilTwin559]

27:51 "This is so unprofessional." You know what's unprofessional? Refusing a quote over the phone, rescheduling last minute then using high pressure tactics. Scammer behavior.

[@sunsignhealer]

If your worried about Kate having " her room " taken away if you have a baby, the answer is simple! You just tell her that she and her sibling will share a room. If the House becomes too crowded, or the kids get old enough that the boys and girls each need rooms, then you move!

[@VidWatcher01]

Thank you!! I feel like alot of people here on YT & reddit are being way to sanctimonious about it and/or throwing their own personal hang ups into the mix & going all "Justice Warrior". Some people just want to point the finger & call someone an Ahole just so they can feel morally superior which in turn make them all Aholes. It's not that serious

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - OP is NTA. how about BF go to his mom's house, break her plates/glasses and china and use THOSE on a project? is that okay? why does this person have unfettered access to OP's house when they are not home? someone that reckless and irresponsible has no business rooting through anyone else's possessions and just taking shit. is BF such a great artist that selling the canvas will pay for those tools? if not, he - and his mom- are just deluding themselves about his 'artistic ability'...

[@lokisgodhi]

RE: Lock There's a simple solution. Scotty can get his friends to lay a beat down on Joshua every time he takes Scotty's things without permission. When Joshua comes home a few times with some black eyes, bruises and bloody noses, maybe OP and his new wife will get the message. Scotty can put the lock in a sack, give it to his friend and he can use it to beat Joshua. OP is the asshole.

[@greenbeacon394]

Story 3: Even Sheldon knocks

[@RevWarRev]

Story 2: The BF's MOMMY called!?! He ran off crying and his MOMMY called to berate OP? OP, why are you with this manchild? He deliberately chose OP's specialized tools she needs to do her job - this is disturbing, passive-agressive, hurtful behavior. Legally this is also theft and destruction of property; whiney jerk is lucky OP hasn't filed charges with the cops. Don't think the bank would take such charges lightly. SOOOOOO NTA!

[@mindyschocolate]

Why would you give away Kate’s room to a future child? Siblings share rooms all the time. I shared with my brother for the first five years, and then with my sisters when they came along until I was a teen. And what guest will stay longer than his daughter, if she’s a regular visitor 10% of the time? None of those comments make sense or hold up.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

YTA 3rd story. My own dad refuses to let me get a lock so he can storm into my room because "it's my house so I'm allowed to go into any room whenever I want" regardless of what situation I'm in. OP, you are acting like my father. Your kid is gonna run when he can and you'll regret it eventually.

[@maureenclarke8120]

Have you ever considered using a door stopper? They are small, inexpensive and at least can stop someone from barging in when you really need privacy while you are in the room.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

@@maureenclarke8120 I've tried to do something like that and my dad just screams that he should have unhindered access to my room in his house

[@maureenclarke8120]

@@lovelysakurapetalsyt I’m sorry to hear that. It must be frustrating.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

@@maureenclarke8120 It is but I just need to bide my time here

[@jacquiethebibliophil]

First story: old fashioned, I know, but marry before you buy a house and have babies. If you think a marriage certificate is just a piece of paper than break up or die without one. All HELL will break lose when dividing up assets. Sweet story ending--indeed, so sweet I needed an extra dose of insulin. However, it never dealt with a question she raised: where to place sibs she plans to have. If at all affordable they needed to have purchased a home with a den/office in order to allow for a work-from-home office doubling as a guest bedroom. But, realistically, working with what they have, if they have one child together, who happens to be a girl, than Kate may or may not have to share--but if she doesn't they lose their office. One boy means they lose the office altogether because it is not realistic to expect Kate to share a bedroom with a boy. It also isn't realistic to expect Kate, a school-aged child, to share with a newborn, then toddler. But suddenly expecting Kate to share is a recipe for disaster--they need to prepare her for that. What if they have two or more children? If one is a is a girl same scenario. One or two boys go in the office but then what becomes of their needing a guest bedroom/office. Guests can stay at Motel 6 but if an office is truly needed, what then? "I should have been concerned with welcomed into Kate's home." Vomit. Unless Kate is paying the mortgage it is OP's house or if they bought it together, OP and her fiancé's house. That attitude is how you have an entitled child. It IS Kate's house in that she lives there as family; however, that doesn't make it HER house with OP subservient and requiring some sort of invitation to be welcomed in the child's home.

[@brigidtheirish]

Agreed that there's a certain order things should be done in. Generally, I don't think people should have sex with people they aren't married to because you should only have sex with someone you completely and totally trust beyond a shadow of a doubt and if you trust the person that much, you should be married. Then again, I also have opinions on the place of marriage within our legal system, since marriage implies a couple having sex and that isn't the only way to form a household. As for the situation with theoretical future kids, get a bigger house. My parents and I were in a tiny bungalow when they had my first sister. Mom was pregnant with my youngest sister when we moved to the house most of the family is still in. Same number of bedrooms, but the other rooms were larger and there was a walk-in attic that Dad converted into a study so he wasn't taking up a bedroom. One of the bedrooms was a playroom until my little brother needed the space, then the play room was moved to a corner of the attic where we'd already had some toys. We were also spaced out enough in age that I was in college just a few years after that, leaving both my sisters with their own rooms. You have a point with the "Kate's home" bit, but I think the point is that Kate was part of her boyfriend's life first and so takes precedence.

[@aikikaname6508]

Yeah, I agree and I think it’s odd that OP clearly had no clue where bfs kid fits in with their future family if she thought she’d either sleep on the couch/travel cot or no longer visit overnight when the babies are born. It sounds like there’s some serious conversations about how daughters gonna fit into their future that haven’t been had, and yet they’re making this huge commitment to each other.

[@wmdkitty]

You're an idiot. They can move to a bigger house if they need to.

[@jacquiethebibliophil]

@@wmdkitty Yes, that is true; however, once one buys a house and starts having children, that is not always easy to do. You do know you can disagree with someone without being brusque and insulting?

[@katherinekurzius290]

Scotty's dad: YTA, HUGELY! I hope you weren't expecting an invitation to your son's graduation, wedding, etc.

[@debl3063]

My impulsive 9 year old is smart enough not to mess with a toolbox like OP's boyfriend did. Not even the cheaper toolbox in the kitchen. I don't understand what he was thinking or why OP didn't ask him when she caught him in the middle of his "art". She handled the situation well, but I would want to know what in the heck he thought he was doing.

[@holeymcsockpuppet]

Story 1: Sad ending. This type of person, one who can't see the emotional implications of her nice looking guest room, shouldn't get married. This guy made a huge mistake asking her to marry him.

[@sophiescott143]

Story 2: "Neither [teenage] boy is allowed a lock on their room? They're teens. They have a right to privacy, and if one boy is going in and taking things without permission it seems like the other needs a fucking lock. They both deserve to be able to have their own space they can lock up. They're not toddlers, they're teenagers. Practically (if not legally) young adults. Treat them like it.

[@MildredCady]

Story 2: My gods… that (should be ex) BF is an AH and needs to pay for the stuff he destroyed. He’s an AH for calling Mommy when he was being held accountable. Dump the BF and take him to small claims court.

[@songohan3321]

That (should be ex) BF sounds like he was high as a kite. Who does that? Also the moment I here, "How can I do that to my baby?", it became an r/entitledparents story.

[@SherriLyle80s]

My husband had been a ride engineer mechanic for Universal Studios for years and before that was a telecomm tech. I know better than to touch his damn tools. They are expensive af! This guy is a tool. 🔧

[@CrystallynRose]

Story 4: I would've been so mad. My husband is wheelchair bound and I know he struggles with feeling like a burden on people. He has been welcomed into my family with open arms and when we visit they happily accommodate him by putting up a portable ramp and helping him inside their house. He's never been excluded from my family's events. Even though my family has never treated him like a burden he has told me he still feels like one and I need to keep reassuring him that my family love him and he's now a part of it and they'll do whatever to make sure he's included. They do it out of love for us and because they want both of us there. If this had happened to him I don't think he'd handle it well and it's likely he'd not want to do things with them again. Her whole family are the AH. I would seriously consider LC after that stunt.

[@keshaponso2034]

I'm so glad that OP came around. And I hope Kate has accepted OP into her home and family. x

[@TheArnaa]

Story 2: I’m wondering if boyfriend broke the tools because he resents OP liking their job when he hates his so much.

[@somedragonbastard]

The SIL in the dinner story is lucky she didn't get mauled for that

[@GreenSkye42]

Perfect time for a Mark video ^^ Im going to enjoy drawing to this

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Ooooo

[@phoenixsky6124]

Story 3. You’ll never see your son after he’s 18. Is it worth it. YTA. I understand no locks but someone keeps going into his space.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@vickyvic8619]

Ditto

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@vickyvic8619 🤗🤗💜💜

[@mage1439]

She wants her to feel welcome all the time, but if it's not her bedroom she can't personalize it so it feels like home. Whether or not that qualifies her as an a-hole, it definitely is harmful to this girl. Also, being welcome as a guest, since she's the BF's daughter, is tantamount to just not being welcome. I do know something about this from personal experience. I think that guest remark is very telling. God forbid the two of you do your work from laptops at the kitchen table.

[@CharlesGriswold]

Story 5: "Man, this is so unprofessional. I have never seen anything like this before. This is really unbelievable." Absolutely! I couldn't have said it better myself. Oh, wait... He wasn't talking about his own behavior? OK, never mind then.

[@wraith176]

Omg that second story hurt! That stuff is not only expensive but it’s really hard to get a hold of right now! That hopefully now ex bf is insane!

[@wraith176]

@@phoenixfire8978 Microchips, colored plastic, A36 steel, wood! All of it is near impossible to get right now!

[@rustyshackleford1697]

Story 3 wow. Okay, so it's not like they're going in to his room to harass him but still some people need their privacy. That's his one space he can go to relax and have things the way he left it. It comes down to a lack of respect that his brother won't respect his boundaries. I think getting the lock would be the best option if telling the other brother he can't borrow his things without permission. Privacy, respect, and boundaries are key in a family relationship to instill trust.

[@nikkid7838]

Story 1: I was fuming mad. Until I heard the update. Story 3: reminds me about our blended family. When the girls were younger (21 &23now) my stepdaughter had a habit of stealing my daughter’s money and clothes. It caused a LOT of tension in the house. I had to put a lock on my daughter’s bedroom door. Lord stepdaughter was a nightmare in her teenage years and caused a LOT of problems in our marriage. Thankfully she has outgrown it and became a lovely young lady. The girls have gotten closer now.