The True Story Behind Baby Reindeer | Netflix

Baby Reindeer is a true story from writer and creator Richard Gadd. “It shows the messier side of stalking, the side that isn’t necessarily black and white”. Richard shares how one kind gesture went on to cause extreme ramifications in his own life, and what drove him to create the drama Baby Reindeer.
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When a struggling comedian shows one act of kindness to a vulnerable woman, it sparks a suffocating obsession which threatens to wreck both their lives.

[@Bleep831]

His father broke me. The “good luck with the transsexual” line was the funniest and most touching line

[@bianca7614]

I was sobbing so hard I literally couldn’t breathe

[@RickyRicardoMJF]

I also would like to add in the hug (instead of the handshake that they made seem like is the norm between them) and the extra giddy wave he gave his son when he said good luck.

[@20000dino]

As a trans person myself, I loved that lmao.

[@XteenGorgeous]

Same lmfaoo I literally laughed! Hardest I laughed during the show.

[@milo8425]

Was funny, wish I could be touched by it though. Instead it just seemed like settling for more insanity.

[@bangerpickleball]

"i hated myself so much more than i could ever love her, and i loved her so much"

[@chloe79437]

most heartbreaking thing I’ve ever heard

[@yocomet]

Insane line

[@MylezNevison]

It's unadulterated self awareness

[@mistydayremainsofthejudgment]

i was sobbing so hard at this part

[@DavidDieni]

1.6k up votes = 1.6k abandonment fears, and how disgustingly inadequate services are to deal with a serious pandemic of the 21st century

[@conforzo]

"Would you see me less of a man?" Absolutely amazing

[@tionak]

That did it for me!

[@Henry-qh5zf]

Me too!!!!

[@tjsera1837]

Absolutely brilliant!

[@tjsera1837]

Such humanity!

[@shelleybartley8913]

Sobbing!! 😢😢😢❤

[@amandaevans3761]

When I first started this series, I thought the actor was playing the role TOO well. His trauma, his mannerisms. It made so much sense that it was played by the real victim. So well done.

[@ilmnt.guidance]

I think thats the amazing thing about the story. He didnt tell it the way that he's the victim. It's a very nuanced territory.

[@pintoproof5728]

By the surviver non the less.

[@lokimirazita1809]

He had an amazing take on it. This was so brave, and I hope he can heal from all the trauma.

[@dominicijavier1575]

@@ilmnt.guidance true. he was honest about being toxic himself.

[@matthewhalloran5445]

Fantastic Series

[@morriemariani9646]

That part when the dad says he was in the catholic church...sent chills!!!

[@Ririfentynews]

What happens in Catholic Church?

[@morriemariani9646]

@@Ririfentynews paedophilia

[@kuchuyobenai9461]

@@Ririfentynews dont know if this a joke, but the catholic church has a reputation for a lot of priest being caught diddling kids by abusing their position of power and the church tries to protect the priest by paying hush money to the victims families. And it make sense because religious people are easier to control and priest are trusted by a lot of church goers and kids are more likely to listen and do whatever the priest tells them to do and then you have the backing of your church and other weirdo priest, its a very easy position to get and easy to take advantage of for kiddy lovers and in general for people who are abusers or people who like to have power.

[@aleakey9527]

⁠@@Ririfentynews it’s so hard to fully explain because unfortunately it’s prevalent not only in the Catholic churches but other religious “churches” as well, but it’s a well known fact that many Catholic Churches have been grounds for lots of sexual abuse of minors, notably with young males. There’s been hundreds of cases that have been reported and thousands that have not been formally reported due to religious trauma and backlash towards victims.

[@niamhduffymusic511]

So much said in so few words

[@MadelynDwyer]

This is one of the bravest pieces I've ever watched. I laughed, I cried. Brilliant, just brilliant.

[@belandmarie-eve9672]

I feel exactly the same about the series 🙏

[@John_The_Fourth]

Bot (or just another account made just to make more reviews), literally an account made a few hours ago at the time of me posting this comment.

[@rayhelmathews3829]

Literally the courage to go back to the darkest times in your life and create something good out of it isnt something most people can do. This man is absolutely amazing

[@macphallic]

Me too. Wiping up the tears now. Brilliantly heartbreaking.

[@stefaniejanejones87]

Incredible 😢

[@chiflynex]

The way he can go through this all over again is just flabbergasting

[@SlasherChick]

That’s the part that amazes me. I just keep asking - how did you do that again?

[@mammybelle7302]

🤦‍♀️ That's the part that helps people gets through their traumas. Not talking about it is the trauma.

[@rayhelmathews3829]

Thats why hes amazing. Literally amazing

[@illogical001]

@@mammybelle7302This!!! You have to face your past or you’ll be stuck forever.

[@fh5047]

same, especially the abuse part, it was hard to watch

[@IcallCAP24]

“Some people run by packing their bags and some people run away by staying in the same place for too long!” -- that line was deep and profound.

[@missfrostproof07]

Me too.. it might help me 😥

[@Marie0575]

Me too, literally many of the scenes/ lines called me out. Triggering.

[@dillimeinbilli]

Me too friend.

[@DamianDC]

I loved that line. Kinda scary that as I read your comment it just played that bit.

[@tinytysquad8990]

exactly this

[@jayduncan9315]

“What did they do to you?” I literally gasped at that line. The mentally ill stalker saw right through him! Amazing piece of work.

[@HildaJ8]

I actually think this is a phrase and tactic used to make him feel vulnerable. A narcissistic move.

[@chicken0w044]

@@HildaJ8I’d say, in context of the story, maybe not so much, because she later insists, and even says something along the lines of “it wasn’t a woman, It was a man right?”

[@aligrimm]

@@chicken0w044notably only after she already asked „it was a woman right? a heartbreak?“ and he doesn’t react to her satisfaction. she asks the same question but with a man a couple of episodes later, it‘s literally just manipulation

[@Wahwahrah]

The actress who played Martha is phenomenal

[@lizzie404]

She really is!

[@Celiuccia]

@@amanda.s9948the real Martha herself thought she was Scottish so…

[@lily5458]

fr she made me mad asf

[@Lady_Brompton]

Baby Reindeer is an undeniably bingeworthy masterpiece! But what truly sets it apart is that we get to see the psychological complexity of being groomed, abused, stalked through the eyes of a man - a perspective sadly often overlooked. It shines a light in that dirty corner that no one wants to look at. I'm sure a lot of people who lived in the shadows of their own shame will finally feel seen 🖤

[@Aurora59730]

The confession of his parents when he told them. I sobbed so hard! 😭

[@sleazeberg]

For real.. I assume you watched the whole thing and I'm not spoiling anything but in the final episode when his dad looks at him and says, "What about me? Would you treat me any differently?".... The confused look on Donnie's face as his dad says "I grew up in the Catholic Church"... and then his realization that he and his father had both been raped was a gut punch. So much shame washed away as they healed together. 😢 Beautiful

[@Lady_Brompton]

@@sleazeberg Totally 🖤 I loved that it wasn't just between father and son - the mother knew well what her husband had to carry all these years and now her son too...although it was heavy, the scene lifted a weight off everyone's shoulders. No one had to carry it alone anymore

[@umhewow]

This 1000 percent! Very well articulated.

[@plumduff3303]

Men get abused too women don't seem to understand that..where I work is always about the wrongs of women no voice for men no opinion allowed just agree..the worst abuse I ever had was from women and I'm a man...this film is very important.

[@MelodyHoefdraad-pf7dg]

It deserves all the awards. From beginning to end: absolutely brilliant.

[@rayhelmathews3829]

Literally. This show is unlike anything ive seen before

[@sugarbear1965]

@@rayhelmathews3829 Thank you

[@Iden_Elihio_1999]

@@sugarbear1965 For what ?

[@h.b16]

What blows my mind is that Richard is my age. He’s only about to be 35. You can tell he’s lived a long life already. His story is wild. And I think his retelling of it is a form of therapy for him. He’s wise beyond his years, out of necessity. I’m glad he’s come out the other side of all these experiences.

[@WilliamsPinch]

35???

[@nataliebella1586]

Retelling always heals... even more when your not alone.

[@SlitWristMisfit_]

He's also a psycho who enjoyed getting stalked to some extent and got off on the "shame" he felt when dating a trans woman when there's nothing wrong with dating trans people if that's what you're in to and subjected her to that emotional roller-coaster. I'm not saying he deserved to get stalked but he low key got a thrill out of it by his own admission and even slept with his stalker.

[@SarahParsons-t7t]

He looks about 50

[@vincentsmith8190]

@@SarahParsons-t7t That's what drugs can do to people. My great uncle was an addict for most of his life and I've seen pictures of him in his early 30s where he looked about 60.

[@kassyyar97]

My fiancé asked me “why did you watch it if you knew it could harm you?” I told him about my experience watching this, while also being a victim of sexual assault. He knew, since a long time ago. It was… triggering, to say the least. But I stayed. And I watched. And I cried and panicked and had to pause a couple of times. It wasnt the scenes of the actual abuse what triggered me. It was the aftermath, your description of shame, the pathetic sense of worthlessness… When you go through these things you kinda know who really went through this and who is writing it just for show… I knew you knew. And I felt seen. No one tells you how to go through this. No one tells you “omg girl same!” Its so hard to find a place to talk about this, without being seen as a victim, as the poor thing, as a broken person. Watching this was so so harmful but at last, I was seen. Thank you. I wish the best of recoveries for you, you are a brave soul. Edit: Thank you to everyone for all the kind words, I wrote this on a very VERY vulnerable state,, but I needed to express myself somehow. I wasnt expecting to reach so many beautiful souls. After writing this I seeked therapy once more, the wound was once again open but it made me realize how many things I havent talked about because of shame. Richard Gadd, you are making a difference. You may not read this but to anyone else who has: Help, compassion and understanding are always out there. Be kind to yourself and others, we've all been through so much.

[@annalo2152]

Yes! I agree

[@ovrtherainbow]

wow thank u for sharing- i couldn’t describe my experience watching better than this.

[@mariemcbride3918]

Thanks for sharing your story iam going to watch it tonight iam Surivior of domestic violence and sa my son said might be too much for your mum but I said I want to watch it .because we come through and come out the other side stronger hope ur OK now darling ❤❤❤

[@insertname2035]

What's wrong with being seen as a victim or a broken thing if you are those things? You're just reinforcing the shame and stigma

[@kassyyar97]

@@insertname2035 I dont think you understood what I meant to say. Talking about this with friends, loved ones, family: you see their faces and how they see you either with distrust, disgust, sadness. Specially coming from the culture I come from. You are “dirty” afterwards. I cant really talk about this with no one I know because all these emotions it brings. At least watching baby reindeer I felt seen. Thats what I meant.

[@ReliableMyke]

The line that stuck with me the most was “I’m addicted to hating myself”

[@priscillae93]

This story was traumatic and it made me super uncomfortable. Thank you for sharing bits of your story. From being groomed, sexually assaulted, stalked, abused in every way. It needed to be shared. Let your success be a MASSIVE middle finger to the villians who tried to break you.

[@Soleil-vk9ts]

He also wanted to bring empathy, understanding toward Martha situation. Not a middle finger but a way to open a conversation on mental illnesses, the complexity of the mind and traumas.

[@priscillae93]

@@Soleil-vk9ts Yes, I noticed that. I work in Healthcare, therefore I have empathy for those who are clearly unwell. No doubt he was living a nightmare, however I admire how careful they were in her portrayal.

[@sjanex]

@@Soleil-vk9ts Stop feeling sorry for this woman 🙄 she’s not only stalker but a racist too judging by her social media posts! I have no Sympathy, she has ruined lives.

[@mattisketels8939]

He was abused but could have handels the situation better, like not taking drugs, keeping contact with martha etc .. not to be rude but u sleep in the bed u make. he did this on himself.

[@priscillae93]

@@mattisketels8939 Nobody said his decision making was right. However, if you've ever been in a difficult mental state, you are vulnerable to anything. Can we congratulate him on getting to other side after his failures? There are so many souls who go into a spiral and end up early in the grave.

[@WilliamsPinch]

Him reliving the assault scene is actually pretty crazy. I still wonder if he’s ok…

[@markdouglas1601]

Good point. Pretty wild

[@MextizaCalifa]

He needs a lot of support and help I think he has this, he probably also has ups and downs but I hope he is well

[@accuser_of_the_brethren7816]

As a victim myself, it's kind of a weird and very personal situation and only those who've been through it, know the best way to heal. A lot of the times, victims are re-traumatized each and every time they share the details regarding the abuse that took place. Some victims go on to victimize others in a desperate attempt to reverse the shame they still deeply feel by playing the role of the aggressor. Then their are the very few who can openly talk about it or in even fewer cases, walk not only themsleves but the entire world through what happened and eventually that pain will start to evolve into catharsis when others suffering with the same trauma feel open enough to let you know how much they relate to your experience and can finally find the courage to confront their own pain in turn beginning a process of healing as well. I may not have worded everything right but I hope it makes enough sense to try and explain it a bit.

[@moodforever]

He will never be okay but he will have better days than some

[@louisemiller3784]

@@moodforeverdo you know him?

[@sylvee2]

The lady who played Martha was absolutely brilliant, very talented she reminded me of kathy bates in misery, she deserves an award she is so talented!

[@dougiet1999]

Jessica Gunning! Very underrated actress

[@aces9057]

My thought exactly!

[@stefaniejanejones87]

Watch her in The Outlaws written by and starring Stephen Merchant........oh and the inimitable Christopher Walken. Her performance is flawless.

[@LUCKSREVENGE]

Not quite Annie more tender and torn without the brutal murder

[@Al-RashidHassan]

I agree, she gave justice to the character.

[@patrickm7754]

The on stage mental breakdown scene has to win some kind of award

[@marieromero291]

Indeed.

[@magicalgrasshopper]

It was so uncomfortable to watch cause it was so raw and real,like you were right there in the audience reliving this nightmare with him

[@Dontatmebruv]

Yeah but that didn’t even happen though. Watch the real video of it. Completely different

[@user-threetimes]

i really feel pain and cry on that scene

[@kampdf19]

@@Dontatmebruvdoes that matter though? he never claimed every single piece of content shown is an exact recreation of his real life. It’s a true story, but it’s also art… which means he’s allowed to fiddle with it in ways he sees fit. It’s like the stand-up scenes, majority of the responses to his jokes are dead silence, in actual videos of his comedy shows there’s laughter here and there; that doesn’t make him a liar, that’s most likely how HE perceived it. a lot of us view embarrassing moments 10x worse than they actually happened. That’s what a lot of this show consists of, things he would’ve wished happened; things that actually happened & things he feared happening, it’s all intertwined left up to the viewer to dig into. That’s what art allows - interpretation. My final point being, his experiences are very much real and should not be invalidated by dramatized scenes & storytelling.

[@henriettakanya8605]

The lady who played martha should win awards. She is completely marvelous!

[@ES-hv9nv]

You could say “Marthaless”

[@henriettakanya8605]

@@ES-hv9nv lol good one

[@wortflorist]

The story, the camera, the scenery, the film set, the cast... everything is phenomenal. Plus: Not a single bad actor. No unnecessary dialogue, no pointless scene. I can't remember ever seeing anything better.

[@ChrisJ-ru6ek]

The wig the glasses the catch phrase, brilliant

[@mygamingrecollection]

Couldn't agree more

[@Andalaeknir86]

It's a surprise to me that it's the director that played the main character. He wasn't acting but exposing his raw emotions to his audience. I teared up and cry cause i know victoms of rape and i know the kind of emptions loved ones deal with. We need more unfiltered things like these

[@mumumeme8496]

true! I didn't fast forward, I watched

[@NostalgiaEdits111]

and no forced inclusion bc he really was attracted to man at some point and also woman. The trans woman was a mixture of two. And she was a necessity character on the plot. All the actors were amazing. 😍😭

[@ishiruji]

He could easily make this story about being a victim, but the choice to investigate and ask himself his actions is so brave and made this an unique peace. 11/10.

[@SlitWristMisfit_]

The trailer does NOT do this justice AT ALL. Each episode hits harder and harder. I wasn't ready for this. Anyone who's ever struggled with self hatred or is LGBT should watch this.

[@floralendurance]

I had to take a break because ot felt so real. Can't wait to finish

[@Holiday-sDad]

Honestly I think all of us should watch this, if for nothing else; understanding.

[@mistergrieves]

As a gay man, I find it pretty insulting that you think gay men and lesbians would be uniquely affected by a show about a confused bisexual with a thing for MTF transsexuals. Also, it is literally impossible to be “LGBT.” Homosexuality and bisexuality are mutually sexual orientations, and transgender identity isn’t even a sexual orientation at all.

[@camilleconnaughton6325]

yeah this show was incredible !!

[@proxycsgony6697]

@@floralendurance the first episode w/ the male abuser. i had to stop watching for a bit after

[@egjw]

I just stayed up all night watching this, an incredible show that highlights the best of British television and filmmaking. Never seen anything like it before, amazing!!

[@meemo5796]

Same here❤

[@Melinda-f3l]

Me too! I can’t stop thinking about it.

[@adamthemango09]

Me too!! I was so sleepy but I needed to watch it through. Very unique limited series. Loved it.

[@chrismack2677]

Samezies! ❤

[@macphallic]

I thought of Micaela Cole’s “I may destroy you”

[@northa3617]

Dear Richard, you have no idea how life changing this series is! I was challenged, cried, realised things from my own life, felt less alone in my own abuse, and grew more empathy for people in my life who are self-sabotaging. Seeing you look better now provides me peace. If you have the energy and emotional capacity, how would you feel about sharing about why you returned to your abusers home? I hope you're in a place in life where you feel deserving of happiness, fulfilment and love for self. Bless you

[@shkendishala3200]

this!!!!

[@MauriAllure]

I hope I feel the same way when I watch this later today.

[@l33t07]

The way I perceived it Richard was deeply manipulated by the alleged success to fulfill his dreams of becoming famous and finally liked by other people that led him through that hell over and over again. The inner need to pursue his dream being worth the abuse in his manipulated mind, a necessary sacrifice to make even though it hurts. And if it hurts less with every time it happens and you've come too far to stop now, you just close your eyes and run into the same wall again and again.

[@janetDT1904]

I wanted to ask the same question

[@ReaJean420]

That's a very thoughtful way of asking this question that I also want to know the answer of! I also want to know what drove him to catalog & continually listen to Martha's voice messages.... my husband found it very odd. Lol

[@Hello_Spaceboy]

Just finished watching this and I'm blown away. He really found a way to express how complicated abusive situations are. Really beautifully done.

[@bogw1tch]

He's truly an artist!! The rawness and vulnerability in this series is just something I've never really seen before

[@swannielake]

I found ‘the making of’ as emotionally powerful as the series. Richard deserves accolades for this raw piece of writing! And both him and Jessica Oscar’s. Amazing. More as real and powerful as this please Netflix!

[@christophergonzalez1893]

The line about how abuse draws in people who are unwell. Like they can smell the wounds on you. That part broke me. As someone who also empathizes with people who are sick and unwell. How hard it is to turn away when you understand there pain and delusion. The delusion that helped them survive there own life.

[@shedidthathuh]

You'll never read this Richard, but this show has been relatable on so many levels for thousands of viewers. Whether its quotes, plot, characters, you have offered the relatable and raw story we need. Thank you for speaking on behalf of so many victims!

[@mel_issa__]

This show deeply moved me. I've never seen storytelling done like this before. The creator should be extremely proud

[@bliss_555]

Baby Reindeer is an incredible work of art. Having gone through sexual traumas in my life I can relate to a lot that is depicted in the series. It's not all black or white. Thank you for showing that. The cinematography is also impeccable. Very, very good work.

[@thrasherbuffy111]

Richard Gadd you are an amazing and brave man. I finished all 7 episodes in one sitting I was hooked. I laughed and I cried. Phenomenal piece of art and man! Bravo!

[@Charzzzz07]

so good!!!!

[@bramsrockhopper3377]

The part with his father made me cover my mouth with my hand and just bawl like a child. Oh the things we conceal…the dark things we don’t want to air in case it makes others judge us, blame us, hate us, freak out, turn away from us. We all do it. Everyone for different reasons, everyone to different degrees. It’s a brilliant piece of writing. It’s got everything. I love that he doesn’t try to hide his own mistakes and dark thoughts and feelings. That’s humanity. No one is totally good or bad. Everyone is some shade of grey, some darker than others. Brave piece of work. And Fiona Harvey is clearly a darkly terrible stalker of many people over many years. The platform she has given herself by ‘outing’ herself is exactly what she loves. She feels important. She feels validated when people stick uo for her or attack him. God people are dark and complicated. Imho

[@wendihowieson7340]

I watched it back to back, couldn't stop watching, I found it very very moving, the part where Donny breaks down during his set and describes about how being abused makes you a sticking plaster for all the weirdo's brought tears to my eyes, I found it extremely poignant and actually brought me a moment of personal discovery an aha moment that stopped me in my tracks and reflected something back too me..... Thankyou for writing and sharing this with the world, the world needs to see it 😊

[@Hasthuri]

Richard, I want to express my sympathy for what you endured. Shedding light on the nuanced experience of being a victim is crucial for people to grasp, especially in today's society. I admire your courage in sharing your story with us. The show was exceptional, delivering humor at precisely the right moments. Jessica Gunning's performance as Martha was truly phenomenal!

[@mimibfr]

I just want to say I watched this series tonight with my mum, both of us having been through abuse. This series for both of us, started out as a random show we popped on to spend my last night at home watching together before I travelled back home. This series that started off as something lighthearted, ended up having us laughing, crying, angry and everything in between. By the end, this series had us left with tears and goosebumps. We both couldn't believe a series could communicate the cycle, stages and fonts abuse can take form of. The love bombing from and for someone who has suppressed emotional repercussions of abuse, the fear, the anger, the parts of your life falling apart, missing that gap when you need to cut ties and force every part of your manipulated brain and body to follow through with it, the lingering and limerence, the confusion, isolation, the fun and lovely times and the absolutely worst when you have to force your natural senses to walk away and deal with the shell that is left, knowing you won't experience that high or comfort again because it wasn't real or healthy. You'll know it's wrong next time so you can't excuse yourself to stay, as well as showing the shame and guilt from it all and the emotional rollercoaster it takes you on is INSANELY beautiful. THANK YOU, for putting yourself in a position to make this and to make viewers who might not always get it if they haven't experienced it, experience the highs, lows and mindfuckery all the same. The best series I've ever seen, absolutely terrific.

[@Mariedk08]

5:35 I got out of my situation after watching this. You sharing your story, how it affected you and how you acted out on it made me realise that I am doing the exact same thing and im glad you shared this because it’s the reason I had the gut to put an end to it. I finally understand what was going on and I feel relieved that im not alone and that I should not feel ashamed. Thank you ❤

[@Whiske_Y]

The show was indeed very heavy, yet comforting in it's own way. Richard Gadd did absolutly fantastic!!

[@karenskinner7799]

This series is simply a masterpiece. Well done Richard Gadd. Well done Netflix.

[@CJ-ft9yo]

He relived this all over again - bonkers brave … sat through it all evening, could not look away.

[@Norciusz]

The whole show was absolutely stunning, brilliantly written. He deserves all the success in life, and I hope he finds his own peace.

[@jenniferjones471]

This is the best piece of art I’ve seen in years. Richard is a truly phenomenal writer. It’s real, brave, honest. So honest it put things I’ve experienced in my own life into words I’ve never been able to express before. I’m blown away. Thank you Richard for sharing your story so that others can understand, learn, and feel empowered to share their own. Thank you.

[@frankieengelstad8966]

Absolutely loved this series. Disturbing, sad, courageous. Such a wonderfully told story - and Jessica Gunning was phenomenal! ❤❤❤

[@marianneyag4106]

This was the most intense series I have ever watched. Many times, it was so hard to watch and yet I was magnetised and drawn in to the outstanding acting. Richard is incredibly brave and to react and go through all those emotions again and tell his side of trauma he endured. What a phenomenal and inspiring person. Also the actress who played Martha is award winning actress, her acting was out of this world. I wish this series the best success!!!

[@ParanormalRoadTripUK-vd4yd]

Phenomenal this is a masterpiece of brutal truthful storytelling. A very brave move by Richard Gadd to take this to the screen but this deserves so many awards. Simply amazing.

[@nadineneu]

I thought the series was a great watch, but what makes it so special is that the person playing the troubled character is what lived through it in real life. Really a brave thing to do.

[@LizzyGiggles]

What incredible emotional intelligence and honesty in showing the ways you see your own flaws and the flaws of others. Nothing is black and white and it takes time to see that for most of us.

[@lisawarner7220]

This show was incredible. Showing sides of life usually hushed up. The acting was amazing. Such a brave man

[@laurathepoet]

He is clearly still processing everything, which is also brave to do that publicly here in an interview. The phrase that got me was, "I needed my mum and my dad." A very brave endeavor, for sure.

[@LiaM-om3ec]

Absolutely incredible series. A MUST watch. Best show I’ve watched in a long long time.

[@GatecrasherSlim]

Not sure if you ever read this Richard but jesus that was one of the most incredible things to go on tv and mind boggling you acted that all out. People will be talking about your work for a long long tike bro and you will have given a lot of people the confidence to talk about things because you were not only brave as hell but a damn good actor

[@davidbutler2676]

Just finished binge watching the whole series. Absolutely amazing in every aspect. We laughed, cried, gasped, and felt emotionally invested from beginning to end. Wow! Deserves so many accolades.

[@karsttjoelker6509]

Being 38 years old and being into television series since I was 21, I have seen a LOT of shows. I am totally blown away by this, and I have not been so touched by a show in a long time. I am so happy to see something that has this level of sincerity, emotional depth and ambiguity. The acting of Richard Gadd and Jessica Gunning is simply amazing. Well done you all, and thank you so much!

[@PoppyMom1]

Incredibly brave of him to not only be so open about his experiences but also to be so vulnerable about the trauma and the truth about it. This was most definitely a vital conversation that needed to be had and shared; it has helped so many others to be able to share their own experiences, whether that was through a helpline, a family member or a friend and I hope that this conversation will continue to grow. And to those who haven’t felt like they have been heard yet, I truly hope that one day you will be able to, because you are just as important.

[@isabellasalaou3976]

Most amazing piece of work I’ve ever seen, I cried so much for him. Then I realised how I could feel so much empathy for his story that I could find empathy toward myself for the similar things that happened to me. I didn’t think any of it was his fault so why would I think it was all my fault? When his Dad said, “would you think of me as less of a man?” It broke me and then mended me back together in one line. Absolutely amazing

[@ManHar-pc2kd]

Absolutely incredible. Raw. Real. Heartbreaking complex. So many layers. Best thing I’ve seen forever.

[@tracy488]

Thank you for sharing this very personal story with the world. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in my hurt and confusion.

[@trinideryck]

This is perfect a series I have ever seen. It should be nominated and win every award... 10 out of 10. Absolute perfection!

[@bullcrap8696]

The amount of courage and the absolutely well thought out writing and directing is absolutely incredible. It is extremely jarring because of the topics it covers but I do believe this is exactly how these topics should be covered; with such clarity on how horrible and disgusting these things happening to a human being really are. Absolutely brilliant and truly a good example of how media is supposed to be an awe inspiring of piece of art reflecting on the human psyche and experience.

[@margarethamaartje3716]

I just binge watched Baby Reindeer and the series is going to help me process my personal traumas better. I can feel it. I have never felt so understood or been able to make this much sense of myself by watching something. And knowing that there are so many people that will gain as much as I did, and feel like they can relate like I can, makes me feel less alone. I am very grateful.

[@francescapowell1538]

The show was original to say the least, wasn’t expecting it to take the turn that it did. A very thought provoking show. Side note: The dad had me in stitches, his acting was phenomenal. All the acting was.

[@wortflorist]

Agree 100%

[@k8tisawesome]

Jessica Gunning deserves a BAFTA for her performance - she did so scarily well as Martha it was almost believable

[@TheHouseOfFierce]

I watched all this yesterday in one day and strangely was on a train to my parents place. My life has been extraordinarily similar to some of Donny's and I am also very lucky that my family supported me. So they held me in their arms whilst I absolutely collapsed after the Ediburgh episode. The whole series felt like my insides were being carved out with a blunt rusty knife. But - this interview actually helped. Understanding that the nuance of your own reflection of rhe experiences and the shame around whether/how/why you participated in toxic and dangerous abuse- this has given the sense of comfort that Richard hopes for here. It's a rough watch. I can't say I even recommend it- but that's only because the whole thing feels so unbearably real. It's fantastically written and shot. It's performance by Jess is breathtaking. How Richard performed some of the scenes from his own memories is genuinely confounding to me. The bravery in making this and knowing how unkind audiences can be.... it just floors me. But yeah- I can't say I recommend it. Unless you're lucky enough to have no trauma of your own- or a very strong support system to decompress with after

[@karenneill677]

I'm so sorry you went through similar. I hope it helps you heal. Knowing your not alone

[@jenncece5858]

I've never seen anything like this before and am so very grateful to Richard for being so incredibly vulnerable in so many ways to share these stories SO honestly.. All the absolute best to him!

[@beensybaby773]

i am genuinely so thankful he got the chance to create this doc. i truly have never felt so seen in a netflix show and having been through similar traumas, it’s so validating to know i’m not the only one who felt the feelings of self doubt & blame for being assaulted. he’s truly changed my life with his story.

[@RWRogers]

It’s amazing looking back over his older work today now after watching his Netflix show and learning WHO he is… and was. This man just wanted to be famous and to “make it”. The success of his series on the platform around the world and how it’s performing globally amongst viewers is bringing him tremendous recognition and fame in the best way possible because its putting a spotlight on some things that often get overlooked, ignored, and underreported. Especially being a man and his confusion amongst various things and the circumstances he lived through… that’s resonating with people for a reason. He’s bringing awareness and interesting new perspectives to subjects and topics that aren’t often told or shown in such a way. Which makes all of this that much more amazing and exhilarating - I’m stoked for him! I know I’m not the only one that’s only recently learned of him who is now going back in time and looking over his old routines and stand-up specials (from 10+ years ago!). People like HIM. He’s got a lot to offer society, so much talent, so many experiences that need told, and he’s got a sense of humor and brilliant way to craft it all together into content people want to watch. I know he’s only just getting started because Netflix found a longtime creative partner in him - especially for their audience over there in the UK and Europe. But America as well. He would be a strategically smart business decision if they formed an ongoing closer relationship with him going forward. I couldn’t imagine them not doing so. They’ve probably already got him contracted for future projects - And if they haven’t, then I’m disappointed as a viewer and customer. But you know others would be.. so dude isn’t going anywhere. I hope to see much more from him!

[@mooonayla]

The comments here are all so nice, just as he deserves.

[@natet5959]

The courage he had to tell his story is astonishing. Masterful performances too.

[@luchan1638]

this is such a brave thing to portray. And being able to act in his own story must have been one hell of an experience! It is raw, honest and just absolutely stunning but also haunting

[@fabric.soundz]

thankful that he shared his story to the world in a perspective that you can't undo or unsee.

[@fatsausbelachao]

I think the portrayal of guilt and attachement to the abuser is a huge relief for so many people out there. Thank you for this, my soul was comforted that someone showed people this nuanced aspect of it. This wasnt only good filmaking but a social service as well.

[@28FineLine_]

This show deserves ALL the awards!! Richard Gadd you brave beautiful man❤️

[@martaruiz3085]

It captures in a very profound way how abuse is actually, really good job, masterpiece 👏🏾

[@JacWarner]

I wish all the happiness in the world for Richard. This broke my heart so profoundly. Everyone I think will feel deeply about this. So much love for this person and this work.

[@ruaraiobriain6397]

All the actors were so perfect for this. The story was incredible. Funny, weird, and at points, deeply touching. Couldn't help but fall in love with the guy in this. A crazy but very relatable show. Thanks to him to share and Netflix to bring to life. Highly recommended 10/10

[@Dubhaltagh]

Such a testament to his personal strength and character to be this open and vulnerable to critics and audiences. Such an insightful person. I hope he writes a book

[@joeb5765]

Extremely accomplished piece of work. Insightful, accurate, funny, sad and hopeful. Superbly well acted. I suspect Gadd and Gunning may be nominated for awards. It affected me in a similar to POSE, the show created by Ryan Murphy. It treats sexuality and the fluidity of gender in a very casual yet central and essential way. It's something that is both as natural as breathing, and yet for some, also a great source of pain. When I say it affected me in a similar way to POSE, I mean this: it increased my empathy by making me less ignorant.

[@lydia3528]

An incredible man. Went through so much crap and turned it into a piece of art. 👏

[@valevale3873]

This is a masterpiece: writing and acting so good are rare. It's so harrowing and honest and intense...wow. Thank you.

[@weirdpuppetexe]

"do you see me as less of a man?" from his dad was simply. wow. the entire thing left me with such a heavy heart, everyone around him blaming him, him being unable to break the cycle of abuse and continuing to go back to those who hurt him most... a degree of nuance and intimacy you don't usually see while treating real cases on the screen

[@Kboss00]

I’m mindlessly scrolling through Netflix yesterday, and I hit this show. I look at the preview and I think to myself “oh boy I’m probably going to watch this in one day.” I just finished this show in 24 hours. Baby Reindeer hit different emotions in my body. It felt so real, the acting was spot on magnificent. My eyes, ears were glued to my TV screen. Well done. Well done. 👏

[@eleanorrhiannon]

The absolute strength of this man to reenact some of the worst experiences anyone could go through. Incredible work and so important to show a male perspective of abuse and grooming.

[@sonoluminescent]

Everyone is praising the actress that played Martha and rightly so but the actress that played Teri absolutely stole every scene. If you told me that was the actual person playing themselves I would believe you

[@cordyone]

Actually I thought her acting was the only weak thing in the show

[@tluvsbeauty1]

@@cordyoneI unfortunately agree:(

[@grandpa_doom]

this is representation i have never seen before, and I am so thankful to richard gadd for his bravery in sharing his story. so much love, thank you so much.

[@Cove_Blue]

This is one of the best series I've ever seen. It took a tremendous amount of courage to put his story out there and it has affected so many people in so many meaningful ways. He should be beyond proud. Everyone involved did a stellar job!

[@tui_anko_korte_parish_na]

It takes a lot of strength to break free from harmful cycles. It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable, not only to yourself but also to millions of strangers. Allowing others to see your darkest moments and past failures requires a great deal of resilience. It takes a lot of bravery to exhibit empathy even when you're feeling your worst. It takes a great deal of bravery to cease seeking validation from others. So I simply want to say thank you. Thank you for standing up for yourself and encouraging other victims to speak up and never give up. Thank you for crafting such a complicated imaginative drama with so many layers and complexities. After a long time, I consumed such a vulnerable, sensitive, and authentic piece of art. You don't know how much I appreciate you for what you have done. It takes a lot.

[@eyecandie0822]

Honestly I was really floored by the realism of the story. Yes very brave for him. Shows that well all have triggers...bad memories...but we can change or adjust the outcome on how feeling about our experiences. I walked away feeling like what did i watch...but ultimately feeling good that he made it through and continues to still work at it.

[@tluvsbeauty1]

You have captured the experiences of the hidden masses of us who have lived through similar things to you. Despite the intensity of the content in the series, I did find a sense of peace in watching it. It was beautiful. Thank you for being brave enough to utilize your immense talent to portray your experiences so wonderfully in this show.

[@BonJoviBeatlesLedZep]

"The things I've been through, they take a toll on parents. And my biggest regrets, some of the things I put them through. I had nowhere else to turn, I needed my mom and my dad." Fighting various mental health issues and now cancer, I relate to this so hard. My parents deserve so much better than what they've been given

[@jbri1]

it's bloody scary. i was certainly getting a feeling of claustrophobia watching this. It's very very good though.

[@bobbysmartt3154]

Perfectly said.

[@xoMrsWentzxo]

Certainly uncomfortable but compelling

[@fionak1007]

This story and the way Richard Gadd has so bravely brought it to the screen is absolutely amazing! X

[@tur74d56]

Yes so why do you assume it all truth , Fiona said it all lies , remember there are 2 sides to a story and he is making big money , something he wanted all along so as yourself is it true

[@alexx6446]

The most amazing series I have ever seen. Anyone who struggles will resonate with at least one of Donny's internal battles. It is a masterpiece because it makes you actually feel what is being told.

[@bubblegum8959]

What i love about it is that hes not afraid to say what he did wrong, how he is partly to blame to why the situation got as bad as it did, how he unearthed trauma that also affected his rational thinking, there were a few lines so relatable i felt like i was the one on camera this was a great show and it showcased many important topics that should be talked about, and it brought up how we should be thinking about these situations and how we should react, you can be a victim in the situation but you can also be a catalyst, so we need to be the people to stop the situations from happening period, however sadly there are situations out of our control. But not always.

[@lizzroth8134]

This is one of the most vulnerable and unspoken stories that I've ever watched. Truly brilliant!

[@lit96743]

Brilliant and honest interview. What a brave person, for anyone who has experienced trauma and at some point, wakes up and sees the long term consequences when you live with guilt and shame, this is a reminder. Freedom is on the other side of recognizing it’s not your fault. The things that happen to us are a matter of circumstance. How we choose to live is up to us.

[@KunalIsTrying]

This show is so well made. Profoundly heartbreaking. The acting is just at an incredible level They deserve all the awards

[@nataliebella1586]

I related on so many topics. You spoke what my heart has felt at times. Very heartfelt and WELL DONE! His breakdown speech had me in tears, I know his feeling of shame.

[@Treeofwysdm]

Incredible. Never seen anything like it. Truly refreshing and courageous of Richard to tell this story in the way that he did; from the survivor's perspective but including all the dark, ugly, confusing, messy pieces that survivors often feel they can't share; The pieces that, to outside eyes, make survivors look like they were complicit in their own abuse and degradation or look like they're not the "perfect" victim. There is no perfect victim, just as there are no perfect people. Abusers are damned good at what they do. That's what makes them abusive.

[@cassieopia532]

This was billed as “a true story.” The stalker’s identity was poorly veiled and she was easily found. If any part was exaggerated, Netflix is looking at a massive lawsuit.