Never Try Hard When You Really Like a Man! Do This Instead

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[@aehutmacher]

I lose interest when someone pulls away. I don’t need constant contact but I need consistent contact, otherwise I assume he’s got his priorities elsewhere

[@Sunflower-uh3em]

Yeeah, probably chasing other women 🤦🏻‍♀️.

[@allthingsjana7870]

Exactly 💯

[@alysonj7227]

Great that you have an appropriate and healthy reaction to someone pulling away. For those of us who don't, it is the most frustrating and energy sucking thing to deal with.

[@aehutmacher]

@@alysonj7227 my ex husband had pulled away for the last five years of my marriage and I spent those five years begging for his attention. In other words, this response to someone going quiet is one I learned over time, not something that comes naturally. It may also be who I’m still single though 🤷‍♀️

[@alysonj7227]

@@aehutmacher Then there's hope, that we can learn and not be forever at the mercy of our fears of abandonment. Thank you.

[@Milycabrera92]

No matter what u do ladies mind games go slowly or fast..we cannot control everything. What is yours will be and when the right man had came to stay..you will notice his consistency and actions he will be there for u and it will go easy not games. A right man is a good friend ❤

[@chrissy_rose8052]

I was gonna thumbs up this but see that you have 111 thumbs up and I will NOT mess up that angel number 😂❤

[@Milycabrera92]

Hahaha thank youu!! 🌸😇😂😁 I also believe it 💕 wish you love ❤️ 👼 it means we r both in alignment and near to get to know our lifetime love😁🌸 remember this when it happens and u see the 111 🌷

[@anastasijapilnikova5732]

Exactly! 💓💞🥰🙏

[@parvathyapsubramaniammoe7699]

I agree with you!

[@iMikkeysat]

Right ☺

[@rogerzambranomusic]

If he likes you, you’ll know, if you’re confused, he does not like you.

[@wln8888]

Solid advice 💪🏼

[@notyourmom4ever]

And if he comes running back, it’s his ego

[@jenniperkins4260]

Perfectly said

[@davidjaye244]

The problem is that if you have an interest in someone and they ignore you, you distance yourself and focus on yourself. But the issue comes when you realise that when u finally let go these people comes back showing full interest unfortunately you can never like them as before. Its done and dusted. If I meet someone and they pretend not to feel anything for me but will only show interest after not chasing them I'll be completely done

[@wln8888]

💯

[@alinaivanov5536]

men are so simple yet so complicated. they chase the woman and then disappear as soon as she shows interest. they keep saying they can’t find a good woman but pretend that she doesn’t exist when they do. i’d rather die alone than play games honestly

[@cv6176]

Men should NOT chase women, like you should not chase cats. Women should chase men, its the natural order

[@sodapop83]

@@cv6176 ok troll...

[@muazbaharin2964]

@@cv6176 i agree with you. Most high quality men I know, woman chase them. So we must be a high quality man

[@luchionaturals.9766]

​@@cv6176. Big lol

[@sosha4050]

Like seriously! It’s annoying

[@josephineacolicol1990]

Just take it easy . If the right man comes, he will be consistent.

[@nikxxxee7565]

I’ll never understand why men need space to love more. All that does for me is I loose interest. Absence doesn’t make my heart grow fonder it makes me forget you even exist. For me out of site out of mind. I need someone with me all the time or I forget you have you.

[@mufasahm8238]

That sounds clingy though

[@kentuckyvolunteer5001]

Absence only makes the heart grow fonder--only If they were already fond of you!

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

@@mufasahm8238 it’s not clingy. It’s normal to want to be around someone you are romantically interested in. Not sure who told this generation that healthy attached people need distance to like you more. What do you plan to do when you’re married sleeping in the same bed? 😂

[@mariamoooooo]

@@mufasahm8238it’s not clingy to expect someone to be consistent.

[@deec411]

I think there's a happy medium. I actually heard recently that a man's testosterone will drop and his estrogen levels will increase the more he spends time with a woman so testosterone is the sex drive. I'm happy to give my man space if that makes him happy. We still communicate every day and we see each other two or three times a week. Thats good for me.

[@leah__gail]

This is what I teach my clients, “The only thing we can control is our thoughts, our emotions, our passions (anger/frustration), and our own stability.” Let go. Allow. SURRENDER. Do not attempt to control any outcomes. You do you! Do not chase, attract. In the animal world, it’s ALWAYS the male who is peacocking for the female. We’ve got to come back into that balance. It’s, literally, the female that chooses, but we’ve become so codependent on having to “have a man!” (or woman!) the attractant has lost her essence. She has given away her power to men that will use her abuse her and take advantage of her. Also, no male in the animal or human kingdom desires a woman who is a stalking, chasing, brow beating, complaining, screeching banshee. You get more flies with honey, honey. Just don’t take no shit, from anyone. The Empress calmly stands her ground and chooses HERSELF over any nonsense from a toxic masculine, (male or female) All angels are warriors. Just remember, taking your power back means coming into balance, and that has nothing to do with emasculation.

[@sunny_dhende6289]

Perfectly written madame! Bravo bravo. You may now take your standing, O!👏👏

[@leah__gail]

@@sunny_dhende6289 Thank you! Thank you! Glad you commented, I needed that reminder for myself. 😉🥰❤️

[@sakshi.johari]

Amazing❤thanks

[@jenniperkins4260]

This is perfectly said you should do vids

[@FauziaPires]

Focus on yourself If they are meant to stay they shall otherwise no loss

[@viktoriiatemchenko5478]

I have always wondered why there is so much advice for women. Woman should do this, shouldn't do that. While a man has the right to come into my life and spend several years dating me, so that in the end he understands that I am not his person. Perhaps it is important to remind men that if after a few months of meetings, you finally understand that you don't want a relationship with this woman, you just leave. Easy. Or if you're determined to play games with another living being, you just don't come near to me.

[@artbabyjade]

supply and demand. Most men wouldn't watch this type of shyyyt. New generation of podcasts are here to fill the gap. Unfortunately ahha

[@christinamclorry2052]

Eish! I second you Vik, always Men men men yes men...

[@estherbabatunde9955]

and that's on period

[@alysonj7227]

Something similar happened to me. I had a 5 year relationship with a guy only to be told when we broke up that he began to have doubts about me in the first couple of months. I was furious. I moved to another country to be with him and he led me on for years because he didn't want to be alone. There were red flags though, but I was too 'in love' to see them for what they were and respond appropriately...

[@candacewilliams9829]

I love the part where you compare watching other videos about how to touch/please a guy the right way, when that individual probably doesn't deserved to be touched by you at all, so true!! Very nice to hear that kind of honesty coming from a man himself, thank you brother for helping women too see their own worth and values.

[@aileen2193]

This was posted a few minutes ago? Wow bcuz this was exactly what I needed to hear so I'm not messing things up again. My last 2 was me doing the exact opposite as Brian had said in this video to do! I knew I had messed up, and knew I needed to hang back a little and just let things blossom, though my personality isn't a sit back and wait! I like to make things happen and Brian is correct and I don't need to try so hard.

[@jillg7321]

Totally agree! My last few relationships as well. My 2023 goals are to be more in the moment and not obsess about finding my forever man

[@TheHiggs_]

SAME❤

[@Dorafran86]

Men say you don't show an interest if you wait for their initiative, but when you try to be consistent with them, or just show you are also interested, it's also bad for them. I think the right woman can do no wrong in a man's eye, and they will chase gladly! It's only a woman they aren't into to chop through the loops. But why do men approach women they aren't interested in the first place? They shouldn't be wasting their time if there's literally nothing a woman can do to "get" them.

[@MsNG82]

They’ll be selfish. They’ll stick around either for sex or companionship or whatever, pass time until they find that one they really like/want. If you see red flags you’re better off discussing it then bounce. We ignore red flags too often.

[@DoubleRainbows-fp6ih]

@MsNG82 - Well said. As Maya Angelou said:" When someone First Shows you who they are Believe them. "

[@ruru9400]

So basically absence makes the heart grow fonder for men.

[@nbee6217]

Tragically I am an out of sight, out of my mind kind of woman 🥲.

[@rickimcfarland2269]

​@@nbee6217I am as well. Which is good in a sense but if you go too long without contacting me I will absolutely forget about you.

[@sodapop83]

@@rickimcfarland2269 i think most ppl are like this

[@summerhall1371]

It’s not entirely true, I text my man every day and it becomes a routine to him, when I don’t, he panics

[@ruru9400]

@@summerhall1371 so when you don't, you're "absent" from his life, right? Therefore he panics. Him "panicking" as you say is not a positive thing.

[@soussitalabelle2394]

you are right sir , i am am a rational woman but it end up being alone all the time , some times I think I should change ,but when I listen to your advice you confirme that I am right and that encourage me to keep respecting myself ,thanks a lot your are like a loyal friend for a only person ,♥

[@faith.111]

Like others have said, the timing on this is perfect, thank you 💜💙

[@jazzy_rose4166]

I watch all of his videos to the end specifically because "he loves it when I do that". that's such a cute and humble thing to say. 🥰🥰

[@jelenahristov4094]

I am new to this channel and this message just hit me in the center, it came at the right moment in my life! It is an eye-opening truth to let go, even if it means that guy isn't right for me! Thank you!

[@cindy032143]

Thank You! This is what I needed to hear this morning. 😊

[@sayeedakhan5033]

Yeah.. Definitely enjoyed, Brian. And most importantly, enlightened too. TYSM, Brian

[@a.d.b535]

He has always made my ❤️ skip a beat in our year together but found out he cheats so I ended it. Still, will miss him.

[@Kittylyne78]

This came up at the perfect time🙏

[@bcvc3365]

Knowing yourself is the key to compatibility. These are things you will need to figure out about yourself and him: extrovert vs introvert, agreeable vs disagreeable, conscientious vs unconscientious, orderly vs disorderly.

[@sup8447]

My fourteen year old son said love is like a fart......the harder you push and your gonna get crapped on, aka shart. So nice and easy, gentle gentle, don't force it, don't push too hard.

[@halcyondays8945]

Dang! Smart kiddo!

[@islandgirl6576]

🎯😍😁

[@marlajacques6947]

This checks out 😆

[@Catherine22518]

Your son is wiser beyond his years!! 😂

[@mmommo10]

out of the mouths of babes!

[@franboston6309]

Thanks Brian great advice. Keep up the great work. Xxx

[@ninajones6622]

Always amazing advice, thankyou so much Brian xx

[@ljroberts3739]

A HAPPY & HEALTHY NEW YEAR TO YOU, BRIAN 🎇🎉🥂 😘 This video is VERY well done as always!! Succinct is the key word here!

[@snuggie2018]

Thank you Brian for your content! Please don’t stop guiding us! At times when we care about someone so much we forget to love ourselves first it’s a good reminder

[@ItsSoarTime]

OH MY GOD WHERE DO I BEGIN WITH THIS GUY!!!!! FROM VID 1 HE HOOKED ME!!!!!!! THE HUMOR IS NEEDED!!!!! AND VERY ADDICTIVE!!!! IT HELPS TREMENDOUSLY IN SWALLOWING THE DIFFICULT, NOT FUNNY PARTS! I LOVE THIS FRIGGIN' GUY!!!!! LOVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@ekaterinaozernaya6628]

Brian, you are rhe best! thank you so much!!!

[@pmao1998]

Your videos are always on point. Full of knowledgeable stuff on relationships. Thank you! 🤝👌

[@vertikasrivastava3837]

Great information Sir

[@Iam_ramankaur]

Thank u so much 🙏 You explain it so well with different examples. We should leave space for the desire ❤

[@rhizzamaevendencia643]

This is very helpful

[@swetayadav28_13]

This was so on point..💯🔥

[@_Ibarbi._]

Love your Videos and Books ! 😍💝💝

[@drkra2003]

Brian you are soo right !

[@av2581]

Thanks for such eye opener video at this moment is was what I needed.

[@capricecraigmill9926]

DIVINE timing ✨️ thank you universe ✨️ 💖

[@77Pearl22]

Very true! Need to give them space! Room to desire …

[@vylia]

Happy new year, Brian. :)

[@finitachiinga1482]

Thank you Brian

[@monaedawson4523]

Great advice ☺️ thank you

[@jenniperkins4260]

You are so right ! Wow amazing insight. Thank you for helping women

[@Daisy.368]

If there’s mutual interest, then why do we play these games?

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

Love this. Thanks 😊

[@susane945]

I LOVE the way you talked about weirdness!! You're so right!! 😊😊😊🌸🌠

[@deec411]

When I finally let go of the need for a man and wasn't looking, I met Ed and I'm letting him chase me for a change. It's very refreshing.

[@FM-gv4yl]

Indeed, Your TYPE is not always your KIND x HNY thank you

[@lavernedevos3244]

As always, a BIG THANK YOU! 🐘💕💕💕💕 La-Verne Claire

[@Laura-uq3xk]

"Otherwise...in all honesty, it's better to get a cat or a hamster, because they are less work"😂😂😂

[@joannahjane4416]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

[@asenathogallo2154]

Great advice..👌

[@mommy244]

Thank u for your video my dear. Watching from Manila, Philippines

[@Rinndery]

I really like that kind of videos by you .. I often come here when I get obsessed by people which really don’t deserve it , I also like you explain everything in a simple way .. instead of saying do this and that like most gurus which work only for some type of people making us not our true self which is destined to fail in the future .. so .. thank you :)

[@renoaczhary1232]

Love it, thank you

[@katwilliams9483]

THIS! Listen to this again - it’s true!

[@juelleburrell3916]

Love this so much

[@Nastya-oe4xn]

Love this👍you are so Intelligent

[@MsChampion1982]

excellent video

[@Latoija]

It’s so sad how true this is. I’m so over being a human.😢🙄🙄

[@susane945]

Why wouldn't we still be there at the end? Geert - making so much sense as usual AND with such humour also! ❤😊🙏🌸

[@kimberjennings1163]

Brain, I'm loving your channel pls... Keep them coming where are all of the good men, Because I'm searching for a good male that doesn't have junk in his trunk and crazy games .

[@wln8888]

I love you dude thank you 🙏🏼💕💜

[@phionahnyakato9414]

Thank you so much. Now i know why i have been facing hardships in dating. Thank you once again. I am Phionah from Uganda

[@TeutonicTribe]

Bedankt, thank you, tack, tak, danke schön, all gratitude to this sweetheart guy who reveals facts just to help us all get that good luv xx

[@deborahlongshaw4029]

I’m reading a book called this is me letting you go

[@pepsiimash7591]

Any good?

[@marietabanao1150]

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@roxanekeeley-monet9352]

Wise words. The waiting can be tough but it's worth it.

[@juliemathews9751]

Brian your terrific ♡♡♡°

[@claire5648]

Omg!! I have been waiting 30 years for you Brian! Incredibly sound, real, and healthy advice on all the videos I’ve seen!! I so could have used this in my 20s!! I am using them now though and they are so helpful!! Thank you!!

[@martasalgueiro8330]

I love you😊 you. Everything you said it’s true.

[@madhuraverma4682]

Especially there!😂

[@user-fg12435ldtspbw]

This is so true

[@maiseycassworld746]

Thanks ❤

[@netpunk5890]

I’m in a weird spot. I haven’t been chasing the man I’ve been seeing, but I recently had to cancel a date because a friend of mine died and I was too upset to have a good night out. Since then he has been more distant. I’m torn between wanting to outwardly express that I’m ready to see him again and not wanting to chase him. Is he distant because he’s being respectful, or does he think I’ll be “trouble”? Obviously, nobody here can answer that, but those are my thoughts. If he’s being respectful, I can work with that. But now that I’m writing it out, if he can’t give me a few days to grieve on my own (I haven’t asked him to help me through it, I explicitly told him it wasn’t his burden) then maybe he’s not a long-term kind of guy.

[@kennetajzamcdonald6374]

I fell all the way back now he consistently calls however it is not enough to just have phone conversation occasionally. We've been friends for a little over a year. I take it at face value=friendship.

[@brooklyn3299]

Stop answering all the calls and start seeing other people ASAP. He doesn’t even make the effort to see you. And switch up the vibe be more mysterious and talk less. Hell have to do more and if he doesn’t ✌🏼

[@wanderlust1334]

Thanks. Need to drill this into my head.

[@NanaOneAZ]

Thank you! I'm at this point with a guy. I think we're compatible but we'll see. This video affirmed that I'm better off waiting for him to say something about us.

[@kaneejehp6450]

Keep thinking of him after we met last month

[@neommuduladi1369]

Powerful

[@rainfloye7670]

"The harder you try to fall asleep the less you will sleep"wow

[@viperb4148]

I let him go. 3 months later he texted and I said I'll think about it. I already know that I am planning on texting him in 2 weeks but I did not tell him that. I told him I don't want to do this again I'll think about it. This time on my terms. Let's see how it goes

[@ambro5523]

Updates?

[@annatheawesome1]

Some of the things I look for on a first date: does he take care of himself; can we have a good conversation; does he laugh at jokes; do we have similar interests/goals and is there interest. If there is interest, it covers a lot of deficiencies

[@aanandee3306]

A man 'you' really like.... It's pathetic wen it's one sided...if there is no reply or reaction on ur likings or love then it's only 'you' trying n it's very annoying to receiver as it's not what they want from you

[@lanarea7734]

Restraining orders....lol.. that's really good

[@janeenandersen546]

Can you do a story on short man’s syndrome?

[@blackestpanther21]

You're cracking me up in this one. Get a hampster 😄

[@northshorelight35]

This just sounds like games. When the right man comes along you won't have to worry about any of this. Whatever you do just works, unless you're a horrible person. Even then, horrible people find someone.

[@brooklyn3299]

Well I guess we’re horrible, or maybe just Autistic lite - or hyper intelligent which makes us weird

[@tonitv9991]

I think it’s testosterone and the scientific fact that men mature a decade later than women. We have to endure lots of mental distress while bleeding each month. I think we need higher incomes and discounts at sperm banks😭.

[@oBluePandaO]

What you are talking about is a kind of ideal world, the only big problem is that a lot of women and some men, just dont have any sexual drive if there is no chemistry and just cant fall in love with someone just because it's a good person. Of course if you feel that you like a lot to be around that person there is already a lot of affective and mind chemistry (lets call it like that) and it can evolve in a very important friendship OR a lover. But if you just think that this person has all the qualities you need and you feel respect of his persona but dont have any chemistry or any attraction even after you tried to get to know them ofc you cannot begin a relationship.

[@Violets14]

I agree. People just do not have as much commitment and values these days to cultivate the chemistry that has started.

[@riabombia909]

You are so funny … and cute 😇 … and your advice is 👍

[@RitoniaFernandes]

I really need to get this off my chest….how has the plant at the back never moved? It’s been years 😅 I understand it’s probably fake but fake things would have shifted over years. I’d love to know so I can stop getting distracted like a golden retriever. Love your content btw Brian!

[@cleopatrajones7096]

This is off topic but Brian I think I know how to say your real name. I’ve watched so many videos of yours! How do you spell it?

[@Salsaholic1978]

You spell it "Geert"

[@sarajune444]

Many coaches saying we must want get the right person....wish for it, but others like Brian that we should dont want love and it comes. So confusion😊😮

[@rururue]

most of my crushes end quickly because I get to now their real character. bu then there are people that I don't constantly see, like some guy who I see at the course once a week who I don't even know the name of. at first I like him just by his looks or vibe, but then I create a perfect ideal bf character to him in my head, so that crush grows bigger in me even tho the guy might be an ahole. if I was good at meeting new people confidently I would just go meet the guy and most of the time my feelings would probably be gone the minute he starts to talk

[@hexe.walpurga]

Am I right that this applies especially to shy guys who act like a very cautious bird for example? Do you have some advice for approaching a very, very shy, cautious and restrained INFJ man? I myself am an INFJ and I'd like to be able to prove him that I really mean the fact that I appreciate his personality and behavior in general. There have been some really strange happenings recently that made me feel that he is observing and analyzing me, but also may not trust me yet. One time a week I compliment him or make a joke, but his reactions are very tentative. This situation lasts for six months now. Thanks for all the videos and great advice in general. What would I do without them? Completely freak out, I suppose. xD

[@melmel7011]

Do not focus on him too much. This is what Brian is saying, why do you want to approach a man. If the man really likes you, it will be him worrying about proving himself to you not the other way round

[@ruru9400]

Even a shy guy will approach a woman he's interested in. If he sees that you are interested, it will be enough encouragement for him to move forward. You have done till much, just fall back so that he doesn't look at you as desperate.

[@Mary-lb3lv]

Stop trying to prove yourself to him. It's a big turn off and they sense you are doing it. Back off and stop complimenting and trying to talk and joke with him and let it be what it is or is not. You may not realize it but you are chasing after him.

[@nathalie_desrosiers]

2 INFJ together? Hmmm that's sound interesting... I'm INFP. I don't see myself with another INFP.

[@kimberbites]

Yes. I'm shy and reserved with a shy and reserved man. On occasion you may express more, but this all applies. Shy men will step up too. Same rules apply. If he isn't, he may just not be the right fit. If you feel relaxed, it fits. If he makes you anxious and constantly worrying? Not a fit. If used to drama/trauma and he makes you feel bored? Might just be the right fit. Weirdly so. If we're used to chasing, the good guys we need tend to kinda feel boring. Back away and focus less on pursuing him, getting him to open up, and allow him space to show you his feelings and effort, and you'll find out his feelings. Let him pursue more. His actions and words will tell you everything.

[@damarisfuenteslorenzo]

How can i know what man do i "need"?

[@evag2660]

Yesssss

[@evag2660]

@@SandeepMaheshwari7817 huh?

[@vforsejrv7801]

Especially there😂😂. Brian you are funny…and hot🙈😉