“Nice Girls” Finish Last! - How To Stop People Pleasing & Start Being “Selfish”

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@ayanime_edem 7 ай бұрын

I’m sorry I’m being a burden, becomes thank you for being supportive I’m sorry I can’t help you, becomes thank you for understanding I can’t help right now You can add yours and “thank you” for watching 🤍

@merrymatthews5696 3 ай бұрын

The most helpful advice was replacing Sorry with Thank you game changer.

@starlightltd 7 ай бұрын

For me it was over commiting to friends, family and others until I was burnt. Well, I noticed this and start learning how to say No to people. I am glad that I am fully committed to prioritizing myself now, it wasn't easy but I worked on it intentionally. Thank you❤

@ayanime_edem 7 ай бұрын

I’m glad you were intentional about it 🤍

@baisinbu98 7 ай бұрын

I needed the reminders raised in this video. I am still working on this and sometimes when caught unawares, I still fail myself which annoys me. But work in progress… Thanks Ayanime!!

@ayanime_edem 7 ай бұрын

You got this! 🤍

@Alyanasworld 2 ай бұрын

We must strive not to people please, but please God alone!

@YvetteKayee 6 ай бұрын

Your videos are very insightful! My focus for 2024 has been reinventing myself and elevating my mindset. As the eldest daughters of an African household i’ve been functioning wayyyy in my masculine energy and it has not work in my advantage further in life. So now i’m finding ways to be more feminine. I’m glad i’ve found your page you share very useful information ❤️

@ayanime_edem 6 ай бұрын

Wonderful! I’m glad to have you here beautiful 🤍

@YvetteKayee 3 ай бұрын

@ProlificLuluthanks love❤

@Xo_Jeanette 3 ай бұрын

Same here sis I’m glad I found this channel❤

@Xo_Jeanette 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this insightful video ❤

@AnimsoniaKah-se6vr 3 ай бұрын

For me, it was over apologizing..

@onwuegbuijeoma7998 2 ай бұрын

Over committing to others and replacing sorry with thank you. These two are unique for me

@ijay_achinike 2 ай бұрын

Wow, so much value!!!...I love when you said, "it is not your responsibility to manage people's emotions"!!!

@NonyeNwandu 6 ай бұрын

This ‘I’m sorry’ is one I’m currently battling with cause I always said it as a way of being polite or showing concern/ empathy to others in challenging situations…. But I’ve come to see that it’s not the right usage for it when I started meeting more people from other races

@ayanime_edem 6 ай бұрын

Now that you’ve set the intention to stop, different situations will come up to help you do that, so watch out for those situations and use them for practice. If you make a mistake, forgive yourself quickly and look out for the next time 🤍

@OffTheCuff.Original 2 ай бұрын

I'm so glad i stumbled on your page. I was a people pleaser until very recently, I'm gradually moving out of that zone A lot of people don't like it And I've stepped on several toes in the process But, I've been happier

@Alyanasworld 2 ай бұрын

Proud of you🩷, we don’t need to be people pleasers!!

@HelenSunday-xu9vi 27 күн бұрын

Ayanime thank you! I noticed some friends feel entitled and expect me to do certain things for them even when I'm not comfortable. When I say, no, it becomes a problem. Please throw more light on this. I think the statement, a friend in need is a friend indeed doesn't mean you should kill yourself to help someone

@ayanime_edem 27 күн бұрын

All that has been covered in the video. If you’re not comfortable then don’t do it. People need to get used to hearing no from you

@NeauxLasLittleCrescents 18 күн бұрын

Over-apologizing has been a big part of my communication skills, and I have gradually improved. I am so proud of myself and so happy I found your channel. I shared your video today with a friend who could also learn from your work. 😊 Thank you ☺️

@larrynlee Ай бұрын

Substituting "im sorry" for "thank you" is BRILLIANT!!

@RukkyCole 7 ай бұрын

U are the best thing that has happened to me thank u so much ma , U have help me in so much ways like a big sis I never had 😢 spiritually physically thank you so much more

@ayanime_edem 7 ай бұрын

I'm so glad! I’m right here cheering you on one video at a time 🤍

@shalomakaelu 7 ай бұрын

Hi Ayanime. You changed the name of your channel. Love it!😊

@ayanime_edem 7 ай бұрын

Yes I did… I made a post about it. I’m guessing you didn’t see it. I love it too 🤍

@LynAllure 6 ай бұрын

Everything about this was so spot on! New sub or 🙋🏾‍♀️💕

@ayanime_edem 6 ай бұрын

Yay! I’m glad to have you here 🤍

@RahmaSaleh-o6n 3 ай бұрын

I love this content i see one habit i have and it's others opinion before i act.I want change that.

@ifeomaaaaaaaa 7 ай бұрын

"The Intentional woman" love the new name ma'am.....#theintentionalgang#

@ayanime_edem 7 ай бұрын

Oh yes! I love it too 🤍

@splendydom 3 ай бұрын

Ayenime has shot me right left and center.😂 all point is me and I'm really trying hard to stop all this. Thank you.

@marylusenie3970 2 ай бұрын

For me saying “NO”. But working on it bit by bit

@FavourDaleon 3 ай бұрын

😅😅 I have been watching your videos for a while now, but I am a stubborn person who finds it difficult to subscribe and like posts, but my God, this video deserves to be subscribed to and liked.e. I recently made the decision to start saying no, and I can assure you that it is not funny. I am still working on getting my sister to forgive me for turning her down when she asked for my assistance with something because i wasn't fit.. 😊😊😊 Thanks so much ma...

@Joan1able 3 ай бұрын

I got boundaries down to a science😅🎉

@ayanime_edem 3 ай бұрын

Good for you! Love that...

@Samayuki827 Ай бұрын

This is a very nice video but I have a question for the last point. I live in a big family and I’m the oldest. Most of the time, I don’t have time for myself in the house because I need to do stuff like getting my siblings off from school when my mom isn’t available, giving my siblings food and monitoring them, I also need to help my mom with online procedures such as renewing an insurance policy or checking import emails and if that wasn’t even enough, I also need to help my step-dad apply for jobs, check his emails and respond to some of them. I’m also at uni so with the tiny amount of time I have, I use it to submit work. Thus the only time I can actually study and do something is when I’m at Uni. I don’t know what to do, I really need advice. I was thinking of getting an accommodation however ik that if I do that the stress is going to be too much for my parents to handle…

@ScottSamuel-i3e 11 күн бұрын

Thank you so much l really needed to watch this and l really admire the way you speak 😊

@Grace2Grace3 Ай бұрын

I just came across your channel andI must say, I admire your videos

@ShiyghanNyuysiysi 3 ай бұрын

I just clink on a link on someone statues and here IAM. It's was like your talking to me I almost shouted" prophesy" I fall in all categories I really need to fix this If you can then I will God help me as I work on it