Nigerian Men Are Refusing To Marry South African WOMEN??? |Ep. 54

In this video, we ask whether Nigerian men are just using South African women for a good time. We explore the cultural and social factors that might contribute to this phenomenon. Join us as we navigate this sensitive topic and try to find some answers. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more thought-provoking content!
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[@Kenganda]

Thank you guys so much for supporting the PODCAST! I never seen this channel this active! We are going to make this best Podcast in AFRICA! P.S. Stop being mad!!!

[@africanglobalnomad]

Diversely panel participants and diverse topics! Great 👍🏿

[@ronniewamala5768]

@@opeyemiadegoke361 The podcast covers a wide range of topics which are very engaging by the way.

[@sweetie539]

Look at what is happening in Papua new guinea. There is nothing wrong with monogamy. Monogamy has nothing to do with the west. It just makes sense. Polygamy only creates poverty and unhappiness. Do these people even know what they are talking about.

[@antwangordon6918]

@@sweetie539Wrong, Polygamy in most cultures isn’t about desires. It was a necessity because a lot of the men of particular tribes were killed off from wars. Women globally outnumber the males. So in order for those women to be married and have children, they shared the man. In Rwanda for example, there’s certain towns and villages where the women literally have to pay the men to marry them. Because it’s only a few men. Even in America, the city of Atlanta alone has 20 to 1 ratio of black women to men. So get out of your insecure feelings.

[@israelolupelumi8208]

@@sweetie539 You are wrong. First let me make it clear that, I am not an advocate for polygamy and I won't be a polygamist. However, for what it is worth, let's get into the discussion. In those days in Africa, men with many wives were richer because they raised male children that worked and expanded their father's farms, fishing, or other trades. In Utah in America, the Mormons are predominantly polygamists (even presently) and they are very rich. The Arabs are predominantly polygamists, its just that they don't display their harem of wives all over the social media. Polygamy was given a bad wrap in Africa by the Europeans in order to further reduce the indigenous people's population, for fear of reprisal against them for what they didi to the people of colour. Polygamy is a choice provided you can afford it. I would rather agree with polygamy than homosexuality. I think every polygamy participants in a relationship should consent after properly enlightened of what polygamy entails. There shouldn't be a kind of 'bait and hook' situation. It should not be based on someone, parental, community, or financial pressure forced, or cajole them into it. Having said all that, your argument that polygamy causes poverty does not hold water; as a matter of fact, what constitutes poverty in the US, or South Africa might not be the same to a family in Checks Republic, or Romania, or Cambodia. The way the world is going now with the number males and females ration differentials climbing daily, polygamy will most likely be the new order in relationships. Besides, all these men shortage and rising numbers of single women compared to men, call it polygamy, if you may, had long been prophesied in the Scriptures (Isaiah 4:1). We must bear in mind, the Scripture cannot be broken.

[@stevenwilliams3015]

You guys are misunderstanding Nigerians. To a Nigerian, it's normal spend on their wife, not just wife, but kids, family and all. It's a duty for us

[@thabomaphalala4352]

But that's everyone it's not exclusive to Nigeria, it's the love boomer culture which we find strange

[@activeobserver1150]

Thabo it isn’t. You are not Nigerian so of course our culture will seem “strange l” whereas to Nigerian men, lack of spending means you are cheap or stingy if not dirt poor.

[@boywonder8114]

@@activeobserver1150 yep you’re correct I’m cheap But I’m not stingy and I’m African American who gets mistaken for Nigerian all the time😂

[@hutup9092]

@@boywonder8114 you get mistaken for Nigerian. Until they get close to you. You're not Nigeria. End📌

[@lozi4163]

​@@activeobserver1150 Nigeria is poverty capital of the world with more people living below poverty line than anywhere on Earth, why you people like to come online and lie about things that don't exist? An average Nigerian man is too broke to even do what you are claiming

[@alveem7295]

Please Nigerian women provide enough value to go round. Why do you think Nigerian men find it easy to spend on us to start with? A Nigerian woman cooks, cleans, will be holding down a job or a business or both without complaints, are respectful and responsible. The Nigerian man sees mad value and in turn he spends on her, and that is the same behavior he takes with him outside Nigeria to every other country and the men are upset 😂😂 Its not their fault their Mama raised them right.

[@ucakpan]

Correct yan!

[@jacnamo4641]

True!

[@markgodwin2525]

God bless you dearly.

[@With_all_due_respect.]

Their FATHER raised them right. Correct yourself.

[@oluwatobiadegoke13]

Yes, we're family oriented.

[@fistandpen2505]

People need to understand Nigerians. We raised in a culture of chivalry. Even on a guys hang, EVERYBODY makes themselves available to pay - much less your date, woman, wife or family. It goes back to a sense of responsibility and ownership. Imagine going out to hang and letting another man pay for what me as a grown man consumes. No - I work, I earn a living, and I play and therefore when called to account, I will be accountable.

[@Gemini3K]

No you lead with money coz you don't know how to talk to girls.

[@ijeonu2405]

Leave them to argue. I am Nigerian and I have to beg my male friends to allow me spoil them. Men I have no emotional or sexual attachments to. I invited my male friend to an outing to celebrate my job offer. He was happy and agreed to a meetup. Dude refused for me to handle the bills. I respect him till tommorrow.

[@ronniewamala5768]

Oshay summed it all up "you get what you deserve", as men we know who to have fun with and who to take seriously.

[@blissug4290]

Haha

[@Calcium-mn9eq]

Same as with women. We know who to use anyhow vs who to take home to our parents.

[@fin-rb3yz]

@@Calcium-mn9eq amen....

[@ZomziWeAfrika]

Exactly

[@jmorgan5870]

Nahh... you get what you tolerate

[@marinesam6021]

My parents were married and in Love for 45 years. My mom didn't perform wifely duties until she was a WIFE. My dad is Nigerian. My parents taught each other so much. Mom took care of him at home until he passed away two weeks ago. She bathed him until the day he died. It wasn't one sided, they took very good care of each other.

[@efemzyekun900]

She is a good wife. Congrats bro.

[@tranquilvilla9956]

That is beautiful, lovely memories

[@johnfamoroti4298]

Awwnnnn😫... that's soo moving.. their union is bliss.. emulate theirs bruv🙂

[@With_all_due_respect.]

Stop lying.

[@user-wc4ls9gt6s]

meaning?

[@mncedisigodi3116]

I've never seen South African women complaining about not being married by Nigerians. Most decent South African women prefer to marry their own and vice versa. There's this stigma in South Africa towards these girls who date Nigerians, most South African men even don't go near them.

[@mama-bp3yu]

This is exactly what im thinking about,they are using the 1% as an example to represent all of us,which is crazy.

[@auntyb4130]

Exactly

[@Thegreatest342]

​@@mama-bp3yushows you how they put us on a pedestal then try to humble us. But when we speak on nigerian women theyll cry and complain we anti black when we point out noone wants them Such a shame.

[@lesimoletigeli9702]

What do you mean by decent South African women?

[@Nawal_SA]

🇿🇦I'm a South African lady 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🇳🇬🇳🇬🤮🤮🤮🇳🇬🤮🇳🇬🇳🇬🤮

[@eastenderirl7607]

A friend in college once said to me "if you want to know if a Nigerian man is wealthy look at his woman or family".

[@sylviasworld9397]

Yes, especially if he is Igbo.

[@heyor_izjeem4210]

@@sylviasworld9397 not only igbos all tribes use the world some igbos period

[@efemzyekun900]

@@sylviasworld9397 una don carry una pride come here again? Arrogance no dey tire una ni?

[@xtopuzee]

@@efemzyekun900 why are you insecure? You can say "Yorubas have the best party" but igbos can't own their bragging rights

[@samnwo1007]

Especially if it's Igbo mainly from Anambra or some parts of Imo

[@danielmadukwe2502]

This African American brother is spitting facts! Every high value man, Nigerian or not, want to wife a woman that has values.

[@fin-rb3yz]

Women also want men who adds value.....unless you are comfortable marrying or dating prostitutes ....

[@sakurakou2009]

Men basically want mother a wife not Instagram model

[@MatkalYael]

For sure! Any man, responsible just has to take care of his woman. Now spending money on a woman, is not taking care of a woman. And this is what these brothers are saying hare! When the money runs out, what then? Am no hush puppy!

[@RastaAfricanGentleman]

But how do you look for those women in notorious clubs and think you will get a wife of calibre

[@user-do1qf8rm7b]

No most men want the baddest women they can find trying to turn her into a wife.

[@olalekansalami5773]

DJ... seems to know what time it is with Nigerian dudes, to be frank... it's a cultural thing.. and we take pride in spending for our friends..(male/female) not necessarily for anything in return... and that actually means something else to other cultures especially among other Africans and more... good job, guys...

[@ubedet]

I support this message as a Nigerian. You have to pass the mum's test ooooo.

[@glennis-dankuwel6020]

That's in ALL Black families.

[@abayomibello1103]

Nope! Your choice not your mum's.

[@stephenmadikologa3155]

Cannot understand all this hype about the Nigerians other than running internet cafes and peddling drugs

[@mrlij6534]

@@abayomibello1103 if u are living overseas then it doesnt matter. but if u are home, u do have to pass mum' test oooo, lol

[@97VIRTUESHEART]

Hw I wish a Nigerian man is there to explain. Nigerian men has a habit of spending on their woman very much, that why many other African women see it as high value maybe because their men doesn't spend a such like that.

[@stevenwilliams3015]

Exactly

[@lozi4163]

Delusions are not okay. I will speak for my country, Nigerian dudes get the bottom women who are either been ran through or not wanted locally, for them as long as is South African they will worship her ground. Nigerians in SA are looked as lower people and women who mess with them are automatically reduced to the bottom level. Nigerian dudes don't spend more money, but is the only way they can even get a bottom chick in SA by spending the little last penny they have. Most Nigerian dude in SA are poor and hustling, this women who don't have morals and who are cheap abuse Nigerians. A Nigerian dude will end up committing crime just to maintain a lifestyle of a low quality woman..is super sad but then Nigerian dudes worship everything about our country

[@bofloa]

Its Nigerian culture to spend money on women they are with regardless if the intention is there to marry or not...same in Nigeria

[@africaine4889]

Same in Congo. But frankly i dont care how much money a man flaunts, money does not impress me. Its actual a turn off for me that a man would think he could get me by flaunting his money. I grew up in money so find something else.

[@6feet6figures]

@@africaine4889I hold hands and open doors money is the last thing you should be thinking about

[@davidngwesa]

@@africaine4889 Haha, Congolese men are flashy men!!

[@ohlangeni]

​@@africaine4889 what you wrote is virtue signalling. No one believes you ma'am. We are adults here. Stop the cap

[@stevenwilliams3015]

​@@africaine4889 Story story story

[@ayankunleakanbi1650]

The're many Nigerian men who are married to non-Nigerian women. Why don't U guys ask the South African, Ugandan, Kenyan, Tanzanian etc women who are married to the Nigerian men? What makes anyone feel that they can speak for those women? 🤷🏾

[@fistandpen2505]

Can't agree with Oshay... at least speaking on Nigerian women. Yes, they believe they deserve the world (no lies told lol) BUT... naija women will for the most part play their part. They cook, clean, manage family and even hold down professional jobs. As long as everybody's doing their part it's all good

[@ucakpan]

Well spoken!

[@omzy8700]

Yes I am not Nigerian but I ‘ve seen many Nigerian couples that have a strong family culture and structure and that they stayed together,also Nigerian men do like spending money on women and do like romantic thing ,my friend is Nigerian and he is doing the exact same thing to his Nigerian woman and they are soon going to be married while his woman makes sure that she makes him happy ,cook and clean and work too .BTW I live in the UK

[@stephenogbuabia8674]

Nigerian men are sought after by these women not only because of money, although money is part of it Nigerian men are seen as cool too. They are thought of as having good taste in fashion, clever and ambitious.

[@meganakinsanya4702]

It’s fine for nigerian men to seek other women other than Nigerian women, can y’all tell y’all African American women to stop coming for Nigerian women. I’m tired of being bashed as a nigerian woman yet they are slurping nigerian men 🍆. I don’t know what y’all be telling these women, they seem very old attacking nigerian women and their looks

[@itsmob4life]

They also stone women to death

[@activeobserver1150]

@itsmoblife more like SA men stone and rape their women.

[@misspzar]

LOL 🤣

[@nellatl]

It's all about the money. If the money not right everything is bad

[@ireneugeba5282]

Big up my Nigerian brothers. I love that SA woman love them. I am from Guinea Bissau. Guess what? I love Nigerian woman. Naija woman are great too. Big up and God bless Nigeria.

[@tyaler9805]

❤

[@aminuadam8150]

Thank you for the love brother. One love

[@Thegreatest342]

We dont love them though

[@natasharules6737]

We love you too ❤

[@loritakusiwaa4164]

I like Nigerians they’re easy going open minded and a lot of them threat women very nice and sometimes we like easy going men ❤️🇬🇭🙏

[@loucadoida3327]

That American guy is talking a lot of nonsense, he has no respect for black women and he wants black women to respect them damn respect is mutual not one sided , and the audacity he has saying h.saying black men are marrying other races because those women have value,what value the colour of their skin ? Because most of the time these women are either models or some Asian actress where is the value there.what is the difference with those and the instagram black model . I have seen well educated black women ,financially independent and the same black men won’t date them because they feel intimidated by her successi think it’s about time black men stop making all these excuses and start taking responsibility that they should be protecting the black women white men protects white women ,Asian men protects their women, black men disrespect their women and children abandons them a it’s just a disgrace going about making baby mamas and never taking responsibility

[@Lulu-wv1nt]

It's a black American mentality. It's just self hatred.

[@Lulu-wv1nt]

You will never hear African men saying African women have no value. Why paint everyone in such a broad brush and automatically other races have value. How. Make it make sense

[@akhonazasembo3016]

@lulu 😅😅stick with your own bafethu we always tell you the tgings people say about yall kodwa ker vele nibaningi kunathi bathatheni abafokazi asinamona as long as nithandana vari you have our blessings

[@Lulu-wv1nt]

@@akhonazasembo3016 hayi don't add me into that madness🚮

[@cossy6678]

As a Nigerian woman, i speak for most Nigerian women to say that we set a high standards for our men. It is very rare for Nigerian women to date or marry other African men.

[@Jessesgentscave]

Or instead, In humility why not celebrate certain aspects of our cultures and religions that have galvanized Nigerian men into playing specific roles which turn out to be worthy of notice. The key behind why Nigerian men are noticed outside is coming from a deep inner pride in a purpose most of us commonly take up from birth as we watch our fathers play such roles and a society that celebrates a unique lifestyle. 🍷

[@Nethanda]

@@Jessesgentscave Because those qualities come from your mothers too. But I suppose your ego is thru the roof. Nigerian women can outhustle many men. We get approached but we turn them down. But it's changing now.

[@theasvtperspective8950]

many Nigerian ladies married to cameroon men living in cameroon...but there's more Nigerian men married to cameroon women, when I ask them they say the food is amazing

[@kemmoneR]

you think south African men are attracted to Nigerian girls? Never mind marriage, you think a southy man finds you guys attractive? You must be dreaming

[@asiphejohnson6543]

Stop lying your men are simply not choosing to date/marry y'all. Coming from a South African pov. Your men will date anything that doesn't resemble y'all. Only a few are loyal to y'all.

[@philipogunmola9333]

Nigerians have a very old saying. If you want to know how rich a man is, look at his wife. That should give you an idea about how we were raised. I will really love to see how men (rich or poor) in other countries treat their wives

[@Silverbackugx]

Oshay closed with a truthful mic drop that should be enlightening to some women .another SLAPPING show.

[@suezcontours6653]

OK. If he keeps this up then Africa will surely stop black Americans from coming over and completely tourn over to China. Black Americans are the issue all around the globe. If you encounter the same problems every country you enter then it's YOU.

[@victorylapp]

28:06 This here sums up everything . I have said this about a girl I once dated. I was looking for just 1 reason , an excuse to marry her but she gave me none . Besides side chick vibes (plus she was pretty) and so I had to go my way and be true to myself 🇳🇬

[@joehouston2833]

She's a concubine

[@thepoeticpainter8032]

These pods are getting better and better. Excellent conversations. Keep them coming Oshay.

[@amahleamazulu]

Haibo guys! the 2nd lady who said the guy she wants must be nigerian is not south african, the accent is not south african. she is pretending to be south african for some reason. Secondly, south african women love their own south african men, knowing your man's family is important to us and our traditions. You are busy chasing after slay queens and generalising by giving SA women a bad name, for what really? Black on black hate? very disappointing!

[@promiseihunna4714]

Now, why will she pretend to be south african?

[@michaelstamike]

So true both women are not SA

[@Thegreatest342]

​@@promiseihunna4714west africans are capable of anything. They are evil hearted.

[@childofthesoil1163]

The truth is decent South African women who are taught well who are not gold diggers prefer their own .only those who are after money & material cheap girls but most South African women are indepennd and prefer South African men .South African men are respectful very calm not as loud & arrogant as Nigerian we are calm people by nature so they shouldnt confuse 1% with majority we prefer our Kings

[@Lulu-wv1nt]

So true, they see a small % and think that's the norm. Most South African girls are not like that

[@Motswako]

Exactly

[@mr.blackzonrackz7055]

niyibambe njalo ladies please 😂

[@childofthesoil1163]

Again u come in this country disrespect the ladies and our men by making stupity comments generalising as if Nigerians women are perfect i pity women who date u .we are the one of the 2 countries in the world who still pride ourselves with maiden girls who are still uphold our culture & customs .please respect us u dony c South African men disrespecting your women that says a lot about u .i wonder why most people dislike Nigerian

[@Lulu-wv1nt]

@@mr.blackzonrackz7055 😂😂bayasijwayela laba

[@shell5988]

Loving this, I’m a long time viewer. It’s good to see it all come together. Well done Joanita!! Oshay and Maintain are magic together, their different delivery styles makes even the long form content fly by. The topics are serious but hilarious at the same time. Wondering what happened to King but enjoying the new talent.

[@olalekansalami5773]

King has gone WEST... lol

[@shell5988]

@@olalekansalami5773 word, I didn’t know that. Where Ghana?

[@maliwoodtalks]

I’m glad you guys brought it back. This pod is the real deal. The best pod in the game. Especially the black world.

[@Kenganda]

Thanks brother

[@theoolyn282]

I'm a south african and from what I've seen in the clip is a lady who has no cultural value and doesn't understand what how she behaves is a reflection of her background. I can tell where she's from by the words that are coming out her mouth however if u come to the rural parts of south africa u will see a different kind of women and a man. South African men from rural areas don't tolerate that kind of behaviour and they don't stand for guys from outside who date their women and have no intention of building a community. South African guys will always marry someone who they have something in common with and that would be cultural values.

[@avuyilemayekiso2254]

True bro

[@boywonder8114]

I love women form all backgrounds So if a SA woman likes me and I like her its on and I’m African American Who gets mistaken for Nigerian all the time 😂

[@josephedokwe6177]

Oh really, and you feel Nigerians don’t have cultural values. This is really sad cos it’s an indictment on South African men’s attitude towards their women.

[@boywonder8114]

@@josephedokwe6177 NEW FLASH were all black No matter what country Fatherland OR. ABORD ✊🏾

[@jonnynasz]

I think you are speaking from the place of hate, we all have preference so you can't condemn the lady for having a preference

[@activeobserver1150]

It is cultural for Nigerian men to spend on women. It isn’t about “ tricking” or whatever is misconstrued here.

[@stephenford6132]

Lol man tricking is tricking if you don’t use your personality to attract women, you are definitely tricking. It’s like prostitution out here now days.

[@tranquilvilla9956]

Its beautiful the female as admitted evolving, thats what life's about, growing, learning. I love all the mens honesty, really refreshing. This podcast will go far, definitely subscribing 👍🏾

[@ninety2gs97]

kudos, i really enjoyed the conversation by the panel and the musical and edited additions that were made when you made certain comments!

[@michaelanthony6173]

It is very irresponsible for any Nigerian man not to attend to his girl friend properly, regardless love or no love. Nigerian men are very proud people and they never let a girl down, NEVER!! I can tell you that!

[@amalmystic11]

Please don't let oshay to contaminate Africans 😂 I had no idea he was in Africa. My ethnicity is East African but raised and born in the states. I know of this guy because of here and it was always refreshing to go back and forth between the two communities but seeing him here really surprised me 👀 I can't.... I don't... I won't...abeg 🫥

[@queenana9]

Thank you! Toxic self hating effeminate dude contaminating other communities. I hope these men don’t listen to him or they will have mass division and destruction amongst their men and women like here in the US

[@truetwinflameandspirituala8211]

​@@Aquagirl-in6wr Oshay bashes Black American women. He is an Incel if we want to all be honest. He does not respect women.

[@tanyacaberro2546]

Contaminate? I'd Africans are already doing it seeing as how they are openly shitting on the floor in lots of areas

[@israelolupelumi8208]

That's not nice, Oshey has always been candid and unbiased in his posts, as well as analysis. He is more Afrikan than many of the sellouts that only identify with Afrikans when they are in our communities either online, or outside in the real world. You need to stop that crab.

[@JtheGlorifiedOne]

Nigerian men never wimp out on approaching a woman that appeals to them. Spending money on women is also a tradition. The man always takes care of his woman because her appearance also reflect on him as to whether he is doing a good job.

[@stephenford6132]

Bwahahahaha most of these dudes are taught to be tricks basically but do what you do

[@TheSomaliHorizon]

@@stephenford6132 😂 The only sensible comment I’ve seen, most these comments encouraging buying pussy under the guise of “tradition” no wonder why Nigeria is so westernized, they become so materialistic.

[@james56660]

@@stephenford6132 + Touché. The green colour doesn’t become you.☝️😃😀😄😆😁🤣😂😀😃😃😃😆🤣😂

[@joehouston2833]

​@@stephenford6132 = Bum

[@mikepaul3957]

​​@@james56660 bros abeg tell that guy man 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@paulo.8921]

There is a culture in Nigeria called the Effik culture. Before the women get married they are sent to the fattening room. In this room old women teach the lady how to be a wife and have a successful marriage to get their husbands to catter to their needs.

[@menzimngadi6793]

I bet most tribes in africa have this even though the details may differ.

[@HOOKZIE]

I'm looking for Love in Africa instead of the UK! Summer 2023.

[@blissug4290]

Welcome home bro

[@HRL.]

😂😂 now I know I'm not the only one 😅

[@pmambongwe8640]

@@HRL. Lmao

[@HRL.]

@pmambongwe8640 😂😅🤣 trust me, no jokes. You'd be surprised at some of these ladies' unrealistic demands and expectations, even when they are well over their spring chicken prime.

[@pmambongwe8640]

@@HRL. You'd be surprised. We're demanding too

[@baphithi]

Are South African women wanting to be married by Nigerian men? Since when?

[@asiphejohnson6543]

That's what confuses me.

[@mama-bp3yu]

😂😂lol dats what i was asking myself...they dont understand south african culture and how looked down upon these kinds of relationships are😂you are immediately seen as a slay queen then ur chances with a south african man become very slim.😢

[@baphithi]

@@mama-bp3yu LOL honestly!! Inene 😌

[@Thegreatest342]

They are trying to flatter themselves Self hating nigerians all over the world causing havoc and confusing.

[@yvonnememela918]

It's a myth, really. No serious South African woman wants to marry a Nigerian. I don't even understand how this was even elevated to a discussion topic.

[@RealStellaStella]

Hahaha😂😂😂. This is one of the funniest episodes of the Repat Podcast I have heard/watched and I agree with everything y'all said in this episode. I don't know whether y'all were looking for a fourth co-host. But I'll say Joanita and Oshay you got the right line up of 4 co-hosts for the Repat Podcast: Oshay, Joanita, DJ Maintain, Agaba. I hope you keep Agaba as one of your co-hosts the way you do with DJ Maintain.

[@africanglobalnomad]

I like Tina too.

[@RealStellaStella]

​@@africanglobalnomad Tina is alright too. But Tina relocated to USA after she got married. However I like the line up I mentioned because Oshay represents Black Americans that relocated to an African country; Joanita represents the Ugandan that's never been to the Americas/Europe; DJ Maintain represents the Black British that relocated to an African country; Agaba represents Ugandans from diplomat families that were born/grew up in USA. Its a great balance.

[@RealStellaStella]

@African Global Nomad I thought you meant a different Tina because of how you spelled her name lol. But I later realized you meant the Black British Teenah. With that said, Black British Teenah is alright too, but there is already a Black British on the Repat Podcast by the time she came on. I think Oshay might have a budget for 4 co-hosts.

[@joanitamaaya]

@@RealStellaStella Thank you, I like the balance too

[@tranquilvilla9956]

This is a excellent podcast, love you guys, just honesty so refreshing. Hats off to the lady, saying she as evolved and grown. You guys have got me dying with laughter🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ibinabos.amachree8762]

You guys are biased, a Nigerian should've represented in this discussion. You don't know us we are thought to take care of our women and family. This is what is instilled in us from our youth. Our focus is our family that includes our women we are not doing it for competition rather it's our orientation. In Nigeria a man is respected the way his family and his wife appears. We are generous and confident, if we don't like you we tell it to your face. If we like you we take you home.

[@Kenganda]

You are being emotional man we defended Nigerian men why do you need to be represented when we are defending you? 🤣🤣

[@favouratta6047]

My thoughts exactly not even one NIGERIA was there to represent.. plus you can't use what one NIGERIA said to all the NIGERIANS..

[@ibinabos.amachree8762]

@@Kenganda I am not emotional and doesn't care, just want to put the record straight most of Oshay's assumptions are wrong and misleading. He doesn't understand our culture or orientations, Africa is diverse with every country and tribes with it's uniqueness. How could you generalize Nigerians as spending to spoil ladies wherever they go. If I may ask has Oshay married all the ladies he dated . For the record we have so many Nigerian men married to SA women. Just because you had fun with a woman doesn't makes her marriage material same goes to the women. It's the same everywhere the difference is that we Nigerians are thought very early to assume responsibility of taking care of our home, women and family no matter the tribe or country you are married into. Even concubines are provided for and taken care. Polygamy is African traditionally. Please go and make money to spoil our sisters and make them feel like real queens 👑 which they truly are and deserve instead of misrepresenting. " A man who doesn't have money to buy a bottle of beer 🍺 to relax will always say beer is bitter" buy for him he will finish one carton .

[@Kenganda]

@@ibinabos.amachree8762 obviously you do care...you just wrote a 1000 word essay in the comment section bro. People who don't care don't waste their time doing that lol. Thanks for the comment.

[@missmadam2797]

@@Kenganda I thought representation matters?

[@Fufu041]

These women on the first 2 videos you showed are not even South African 😂😂😂

[@gedenironald8635]

I am an Indigenous South African man living in the US, I advice Black American man who believe in conservative values to avoid Black South African woman, if you are trying to avoid the Western woman then go to Asia, South America and Africa but avoid South African woman, the Black South African woman is not that different to Black American woman particularly those who live in the township. The Nigerian man are doing themselves a favor. If you happen to marry a South African woman, marry them from the village or the suburbs.

[@suezcontours6653]

Why is this news? South Africans have been terrorizing Nigerians. I advice ALL women to avoid black South African men, they are worse than American men at breeding.

[@davidngwesa]

Oh really? But even in "Africa" you still must be careful. Most women from Nairobi are a no-go zone if you want conservative values. They are less and less submissive and too masculine!

[@Babskay_14752]

Word! I'm Nigerian living in South Africa. You are spot on. I always see the same energy in my African-American sisters, on my SA sisters. Same Whatsapp group.

[@ohlangeni]

I am a South African man. I approve of this message. Our sisters are entitled Feminists who want traditional man while they modern women. If dont play the traditional male role (she is herself is a Slay queen modern women) expect shaming and weaponised victimhood.

[@stevenwilliams3015]

You are advising men to leave South African women then go to other part of the world instead of advising them to go to other African countries. I pity we Africans

[@henryemeka9527]

As for Nigeria men is a cultural thing not a big deal

[@user-ul8xh7dk5p]

Essy going 😂😂😂

[@Diomedes3000]

Another excellent episode!

[@stefanwolf4978]

Planning on moving to South Africa 🇿🇦 before the end of the year so I need to hear this

[@AGirlNamedVan]

go after what you are looking for ...the good time girls will always be around , but they will be headaches in the morning when everyone is sober lol . but be careful dont lead with your money and do know that some women could actually be setting you up and could be working with unsavory people to do harm or rob you . rather join a social group or something to meet people with similar interests . in my opinion .

[@mmmotives7452]

Don't come if you plan to be abusive!

[@queenana9]

@@mmmotives7452 👏🏾👏🏾Facts bc that’s Black Amer guys generally speaking

[@anubizzzzz]

They will dudula u...better go somewhere else🤣🤣🤣

[@dee3489]

Have to tell the truth this show is becoming great but it is really duh to me Jackson always keeping it real.

[@bmalcolm7903]

Oshay, you're making sense. Wish there was a way people could call in & make contributions. Good work, ma bro. Cheers,

[@Chefnonso]

Honestly the day i spoke to few ladies on tinder in my search results to South Africa, honestly i was so surprised how educated they were. I honestly i would have loved to fly to SA and find me one girl to care for but honestly its a dream i will achieve someday

[@ninestrong9589]

Look forward to seeing you Oshay and Jonita soon....shout out from Ghana

[@lebogangsedumedi143]

I am a South African woman all I will say gentleman is pick wisely.

[@The__Watchmen__]

Like most men with a sense of culture and value, NIgerian men are very picky who they commit to. They will happily spend money on you to have a good time, but they won't commit to you. I know many NIgerian guys who have dated Jamaican, South African, European women, sometimes for several years, but at the end, the Nigerian guy dumps them and goes to find a Nigerian wife.

[@Aquagirl-in6wr]

Been trying to warn many young women about this. To stay away from Nigerian men coz of what you just said. If only they listened, lol. But yeah best to keep off Nigerian men, good thing I've never fallen for their tricks.

[@FAMD4SH]

@Brother j Yet these same men go out and cheat on their Nigerian women with the same kind of women they dump. How is that healthy?

[@Lulu-wv1nt]

South African girls are warned against Nigerians. So it's those loose girls that they will get anyway. Not well raised girls

[@lozi4163]

Besides, Nigerians get a very few ladies in SA and mostly is women who don't have local market at best. Basically ladies that SA men don't want. A typical example is this, an SA lady who is a reject by most standards of guys who are in middle class doing well, can be accepted by a middle class Nigerian man and he will see her as a price while if not, she would settle for a lower middle class level because that is mostly her practical market in the SA standards. On avarage, a Nigerian dude will have to offer something beyond what a local guy can offer just to be given attention even when is by an avarage SA lady who doesn't have many options. The truth is, Nigerians don't hold a high value status in SA mostly by just been a Nigerian, mostly get women we don't want

[@trutru720]

That's because they are users and hypocrites. Why date a woman without having honourable intentions towards her, wasting her time and years, denying her the opportunity to find and be with a man that actually wants her. That is nothing to be proud of, just as 419 is nothing to be proud of either. A lot of Nigerian men tell lies and one of their most corny chat up lines is''I tink I seen you in Lagos'', 😂😂😂

[@seanberry2728]

This was a great show, I am married but I appreciate it all the same.

[@mmmotives7452]

Quit generalizing on SA women.....leave us in peace. Stay away!

[@Kenganda]

ok lol

[@Thegreatest342]

​@@Kenganda🦍🦍🦍🦍🦍

[@tebogoandnaumgeneraltradin1724]

They are obsessed with our views

[@shetrieseverything2206]

Very good episode!!! Funny and informative.

[@iGetPuddy]

Excellent show! I have learned quite a bit by watching.

[@LeahTVdotcom]

I do not think Nigerian men are ‘ refusing ‘ to marry South African women. When a man is a player, he not looking to marry anyone he just having fun. Not all women are looking to be married, some want to have FUN 🎉first, finish school. Then maybe some years down the road.😢 get a husband. Leah Tunkara

[@nizolehompashe766]

Don't blame it on South African women, Nigerian men can spoil a woman until that woman get spoilt

[@Gemini3K]

Nigerian men don't know how to get girls without money. They need it to get love from women.

[@thabomaphalala4352]

That unsustainable business model , the long game is better

[@florarice592]

@@thabomaphalala4352 Young man that is not true

[@ghostchipoko6929]

until he either goes to jail or goes home and has a second family. qhubeka sisi

[@lozi4163]

While Nigeria is poverty capital? Spoil women with what? People who don't understand generational Wealth behave that way and is not a suprise because Nigeria is not really big in banking systems or investment hence the country itself is dominated by South African businesses and European business. Richest bank in Nigeria by assets is Ecobank, largely owned by Nedbank and 5th richest bank in Nigeria by assets is stanbic bank of South Africa. Anecdote theories with no evidence won't help Africans, when you do research, an average Nigerian is broke and poor but the very few once with money don't mind going around spoiling women of countries that are already doing far great than theirs for an average person. What will matter is for Nigerian men to increase standards of living for their people and build infrastructure, prostitutes in many countries will always appreciate the free money but we're is Nigeria to show how great they are????

[@williamhaynes3729]

I love this podcast...always the topics are great

[@Tony-ku5oq]

Really good points!

[@top-gnews8333]

This women are everywhere in Africa not just only in South Africa, this women loves money

[@israelolupelumi8208]

My brother Oshey hits the points right on, I hope our sisters are learning wisdom from this show..

[@suezcontours6653]

Why is this news? South Africans have been terrorizing Nigerians

[@LeahTVdotcom]

@ 42 mins. Yeah that’s right ✊🏾everyone got to much EGO etc. meet in person and keep it REAL. Good show trying to hit on hard topics. Leah Tunkara

[@ivankintu778]

YOU GUYS ARE DOING GREAT WATCHING ALL UR OLD CASTS 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@kachi70]

As a southeastern nigerian man it's common trend in our culture to have mistress and, spending on your woman or "women" is normal. As an igboman, we have this believe that a man's wealth is seen on his wife and kids. Am enjoying your conversation. Keep it up.

[@joehouston2833]

You have concubines?

[@kachi70]

@@joehouston2833 two wifes like my father, uncle and great grandfather who had 3 wife.

[@mikailm6934]

@@kachi70 do you put one of your wife above the other or you treat them equally?

[@kachi70]

@@mikailm6934 I have favourite but love them both

[@user-ul8xh7dk5p]

​@@kachi70but ladies say u are easy going pple

[@Pula732]

There are a lot of South African women married to Nigerian men . Some of these women are even living with their husbands in Nigeria 🇳🇬 . To be honest Nigerian men actually understand the nature of a woman than most men. Most Nigerian men are honest about their intentions when they meet a woman. A woman is only being used if she’s under a false impression when it comes to a man eg . Shacking up with a man for years who’s not her husband, having his babies , financing him while in the mean time the man doesn’t have the intention of marrying the woman. With a Nigerian the woman always knows where she stands and acts accordingly.

[@menzimngadi6793]

I am sure they are many in terms of numbers but it's a fraction of the population of SA woman. Basically what I am saying is that the notion that SA women are after Nigerian men is incorrect infact the opposite is true. Generally SA woman despise Nigerian men.

[@Thegreatest342]

No bru stop lying .

[@tumizasation]

Its true, in general SA women despise Nigerian men they are called drug dealers

[@zazzleq6139]

SA women are feminists. Their relationships never go anywhere beyond the naija guy getting an SA passport.

[@Tommy-km4wo]

Loved this one. Nice and positive, wise words.

[@shhagley]

Wow great show guys,

[@vat81]

SA women enjoy the pampering of Naija men. But you cant take a Naija man home.

[@randychris2249]

Fool!! More like we can't take a SA woman home 😂😂

[@Lulu-wv1nt]

It would be hard for parents to accept that

[@sundayodabe8150]

Talk about your parents. My South African woman took me home and we are married now

[@Thegreatest342]

​@@sundayodabe8150your woman was fatherless. I'm speaking for majority we cant take you home. We dont like yall.

[@jerryterwase9027]

Since I was a kid, I heard about how South African women had more educational previlege than their men. It's not a question as to why some of their women aren't attracted to their men, but it makes sense why Nigerian men don't fancy them for marriage partners. Most Nigerian men have their pride and don't marry feminists. They rather have virtuous and respectful wives. My two cents.

[@kaybeeMoAfrika]

You're lying

[@Lulu-wv1nt]

That's not true. Everyone had a right to education in South Africa. That includes women. You must have a really fragile ego if you don't want your women educated. South African men don't have that issue. They prefer their women with brains

[@ezinnetorti9540]

Joker.

[@jerryterwase9027]

@@ezinnetorti9540 I struck a nerve on someone, didn't i ?

[@jerryterwase9027]

@@kaybeeMoAfrika very convenient response to what has already been acknowledged as an opinion. Quite a show of high intelligence.

[@kylemorton9767]

That hour interview got dam 🔥

[@skylarmarchae9919]

What South African women???? I’m Cape Townian coloured women?? Who is after Nigerians .. please be accurate and clear on who you are talking about. South Africa is massive and different people..

[@thabomaphalala4352]

That not a reflection of South African women, that a slay queen a subculture lol

[@ayo30s]

Agreed! 👊🏾🇳🇬🇺🇸

[@tranquilvilla9956]

I love you guys, so entertaining but true. What is the time, god damn just asking the time (Nigerian men)🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@1stflytdjboss]

So So Educational. Thank y'all

[@siroboo9471]

I love the conversation 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@ingababy5196]

I think women should become financially free so they don’t have to take any disrespect in the name of a man providing for them.

[@sylviasworld9397]

Even if you have it, they should also take care if you in some ways. There is a protector /provider instinct you have to nurture in (some) men. There is a difference between "can't" and and "don't have to" Imho.

[@Worldwide_Hodge]

you see how it played out America

[@james56660]

Bhahahahahahahaha. But they are actually however their cheap skates don’t take them far.☝️

[@eddyidemudia7356]

There is nothing wrong if a man has money and make his girl friend happy by spending on them. men who don"t have anything to give a woman only criticize other men that can afford it.

[@stephenford6132]

Nah stop making excuses for weak tricking men

[@Blessthemicciphers]

Brother Oshea is dropping it on the relationship status! Whoa! Peace!

[@josephdappa1340]

I salute you guys. You said nice things about Nigeria. I am a Nigerian; but some us Nigerian misbehave some of the time. I know nobody is perfect!!! jtsdrd, USA

[@lungeloisms]

There's 3 types of women in South Africa. Model C high class, Hood Chick and Farm Girls. I'll be honest, men in SA like to date the Hood Chicks and Farm Girls for long and short term relationships the Model C chicks are hard to date because they mostly believe that they have hella options or they date hood dudes that run through them. The successful brothers marry the women that have a Farm Girl mentality because he knows that she is Traditionally minded. Hood Chicks collect Government money off them kids and then the Model C Chicks work hard and can almost never keep a stable relationship or marriage. Women in my country listen to western women and look at their shiny shows and want that but they're in a country where keeping it Traditional actually leaves you much happier in your elder years...

[@AuntieCheri]

Nice explanation!

[@donaldekpo1817]

I think the rest of Africa seem not to understand what is normal or abnormal in Nigeria.. It is a Nigerian thing to take care of a woman, Family or friends.. it is obligatory.. The guy saying we spend money to get a girl we can't get normally knows nothing about Nigeria.. If we want to buy you, we will make the offer and buy you.. but if we show love, that's just our nature.. Well.. all is well.. Oshe Baba.. you made sense and the other guy from London..

[@Babskay_14752]

@joanita, are you married? I'm a follower of your podcast and must say that I'm liking more than your content. I think you have the most beautiful smile I've ever seen.

[@vanessawestbrook6976]

This is a conversation I do not mind listening to. Only because it wasn't ignorant and abrasive like some of these other podcasts. I did not agree with everything BUT the conversation was so respectful I could listen to it all the way through. Some good points made.

[@jerryterwase9027]

Salute to the Nigerian brother , Mr think tank 👍👍👍👍

[@pmambongwe8640]

Which is perfectly fine, we also wanna marry our own

[@howimetmyugandanwifebrando579]

Dope Conversation!

[@victorbeasley7031]

I Love this show ...Ms. Vita is a praying woman,and sucess will always follow her

[@hhhwwww]

I think they just get y'all papers. Once they get it, they zoom! The good thing is that they are nice during the process. That way, your not hearth broken when they zoom.

[@lozi4163]

This is sad because men who supposed to build their country are been reduced to seek papers and better life in a country build by other men to a point of simping and begging most of our rejects just to survive. You will never ever in your lifetime see a South African man trying to go to survive in Nigeria to a point of using women there just to get by in the country, we have pride in ourselves to fall so low

[@hhhwwww]

Lol. Who is this? Come to nairaland.. come!. Lmao

[@DJDavis844]

@24:58 Oshay went off. I had to rewind to hear those golden bars being dropped. Were still expected to be traditional but women don't have to be and they are worse being single mothers in the work force now

[@drewbranch7700]

Damn Oshay,I missed you fam,I am glad I found you fam.👊🏽

[@reneejones53]

Great Show. I appreciate all the information. Some hard pills to swallow, but I swallowed them😅😊 thank you

[@theafricanjumbee4057]

If you want your woman to wash your feet, love her unconditionally. The love you give to her is so sweet, she will surrender to that love 100%.

[@sthe_zar6341]

Without mentioning SAns,there's nothing to talk about in Africa 😏.

[@jobetownprince1341]

Hey are obsessed with A.S

[@mcdonald1821]

Well i think the topic is centered on Nigeria.

[@sthe_zar6341]

@@mcdonald1821 But there's South Africa included in the title so it definitely wasn't about only nigeria.

[@lozi4163]

How is this about Nigerians when is about people leaving their countries to South Africa and SA women??

[@Thegreatest342]

We are the topic of conversation Starving for us as usual

[@evetats235]

Why must black women compete for black men when other races of women are not expected to compete for their race of men? The double standards and unrealistic expectations for black women need to be reconsidered. The woman on the panel appears to be finding it challenging to present a feminine perspective or point of view. The guy asked what do black women bring to the table. Well if you’re Christian, women are told to submit to their husbands, and they have been given an example of a good wife via the Proverbs 31 woman whom they can emulate. He said the requirements on men have not changed (provide, protect and love) and that’s true, neither have they changed for women (submit).

[@perceptionresources]

It is cultural thing for a Nigerian man to be in charge of the family by providing and not sharing his responsibility with a woman.

[@LeahTVdotcom]

When I am in West Africa, young women expect that a man can have up to 4 wives. This African man culture is not dead. I even fell in love with a man that wanted me to be his 3rd wife. Being American he knew it would be hard for me , yet he was so amazing 🥂. Made me consider it. 💯✈️

[@TayongoExplores]

Women do it everyday in the West. They just don't formalize it. Women share men everytime because they are all interested in the top 10 percent of men. They would rather share a high status male with other women than have to themselves a low status male. So when women live in a country where the law supports it, they don't find it that hard to do. It's already in their nature to.

[@Advic77]

Ive said it before, Polygamy is coming back whether we like it or not. If 80% of 'maidens' and non-maidens are chasing 20% of Bachelors as fathers and stepfathers what is the likely outcome?

[@dubemellit2932]

It depends on which country, tribe and religion !

[@stephenford6132]

His wallet made you consider it smh lol women be lying like shyt 😂

[@LeahTVdotcom]

@@stephenford6132 No it was his DICK not just his money 🤣 fucking amazing. 💗🤪 Dark shin very good looking man , plus a first class gentleman. I call him my black prince. Yeah I was so in love with him, I would just cry when I make love to him. But he had to many wives and to many children (paying SCHOOL FEE’s) Not enough ‘time’ to be with me. The way I wanted to be WITH Him .....forever 💋! I let him go , I decided he had to many responsibilities, An he’s a responsible MAN, I love that, but children come first , I had to face that reality ,it was very painful for me and maybe for him too. Leah Tunkara

[@favouratta6047]

I've noticed in all of your podcast and I'll say, OSHAY is a really difficult person and I'm sure he's going to find a hard time getting any good woman really because his way of thinking is so weird like bruh just wants to be worship cause he's a man that's his mindset / perception of how men should or are being treated in Africa 🤦yes men are RESPECTED in Africa cause we're thought from a young age how to be good wife's and husbands, but you should also know that a lot of men tend to use that advantage to control & mistreat women OKAY and I feel like that's exactly what someone like oshay will want to do cause of the way he speaks about it.. but maybe I'm wrong 😏 he really needs to learn a lot from the two other gentle men especially DJ maintain.. cause he's going on and on talking about American women not being/ doing this and that, sitting there talking about asking them what they bring to the table bro you don't go around asking any woman that, 😂 just do what you have to do as a man to provide and protect and watch her do all the good things for you.. can not just do nothing and expect All the treatment you talked about plus they're actually many MEN out there who are getting the value they deserve as providers & protectors cause you mentioned saying men don't get the value of what they do as men & that's a fat LIE okay.. just check yourself see what value you're bringing if you're a good man? &If you will be a good husband? And you'll see & will definitely get a good woman that will give you your values to..✌️☺️

[@Kenganda]

Man I’ll take your wife or girl from u 😅😅

[@db6881]

That's black American men hands down, deluded. Take a look at their communities, they've destroyed them, their women and their children that's why they want to spread their dysfunction worldwide now.

[@aeiou0123]

He will definitely not get a good woman. Can you imagine someone like Dr Ola sitting with a guy like him? She will be repulsed. These men ddid not grow up in good homes. He will probably never marry or end up with a woman who go use am clean mouth finish. Typical bm who cant solve his problems and goes around looking for other women. They call them passport bros nowadays. Destroy their own communities, no fathers, lack responsibility, look up to lonely men on d internet and then fail ultimately will fail with d foreign women too. It is a matter of time. Their insecurity screams in every video they make trying to tarnish other men/women

[@favouratta6047]

@@aeiou0123 my thoughts exactly like they just keep going on &on saying all this things about women like women are the problems while they've refuse to look inward look themselves people like oshay and the so called passport bros, they need to check themselves to know if they're good to, for them to want a good women like be what you want okay be that good woman or man that you're looking for, cause we're not in the 50th /60th again people eyes dey open now I'm African and I know that many African women now are & will not tolerate what their mother/ mother, mothers did so this men need to look at themselves to see what is wrong with them to if they're the problem.. cause no woman will never want to respect or submit to a good Man non I've never seen the issues is we just don't want to give respect and submit to wrong bad men we're scared and instead of this men to reassure us that they're getting it together they'll work on themselves go the therapy and counseling but instead they're here making all this Interviews showing their colors & making us even more afraid giving us reasons to not want to submit to them that's it they should get it together please..

[@Kenganda]

@@db6881 but you are here watching a black american do something nobody else in Africa is doing right now it's called Talent don't be mad lol

[@isaiahkenny3544]

Honestly I feel that's all us Black men in general regardless of your tribe you know a tree by its fruit! Great Video a lot of wisdom poured out I like the connection of us bridging that gap a lot of us here in America are IGBOS Yoruba Ashanti Lemba Negro Land know what I'm saying before it was called Ghana Nigeria congo Angola imma leave it at that

[@Kinglioncrown]

I appreciate the show I love the show