Nikki Glaser: The Drug of Feelings

This week outrageously wickedly funny comedian and actor Nikki Glaser (The Nikki Glaser Podcast, FBoy Island, Nikki Glaser: Bangin') stopped by the podcast to discuss all manner of important and vulnerable topics ranging from the struggle to be more present, to the art of feeling your feelings. She opened up to us about what it was like to be raised by an anxious parent and how, after therapy, her relationship with both of her parents significantly changed. Nikki revealed the origins of her previous suicidal thoughts, how she went from being scared of boys to being known for her overtly sexual humor, and why she is considering a major life change - a transition away from stand-up comedy. She bravely discusses her disordered eating and body images issues, the heartbreaking experience of losing a friend to suicide, and her decision to stop drinking. Mayim and Nikki consider the benefits of weighted blankets, explore sex drives and feelings of attachment, and explain why they are both grateful that social media didn’t exist when they were young. Mayim explains the neuroscience behind picky eating in another installment of Ask Mayim Anything.
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[@kylelassiter1044]

As a therapist I can affirm so much of what is being said, but I wish someone in my profession had been there to help earlier in their life. Close to the end she talks about "beating herself up" about something and she is so right. I'll ask clients, "How much has beating yourself up helped so far?" No one has ever said, "it helped.' This is the first time I've seen this podcast. two thumbs up.

[@MarleneAug2010]

I’ve been dealing with some guilt lately, and have been thinking horrible things, and I finally said out loud, why are you being so mean to yourself? You don’t treat anybody this way but yourself. 😢

[@jackbuck5219]

I am 75 years old, many times things were said that brought tears to my eyes. Too many issues were delt with, I still have things that were said by my parents that rear their ugly heads to this day. Kudos to all of you to bring this to the surface, thank you Nikki for your honesty and to quote a miss used statement " I feel your pain"

[@4eyedjack523]

I like you guys sitting side by side and seeing you react and laugh together better than at separate desk. Make this permanent!

[@HH-gv8mx]

Are they best friends?

[@monroejj6222]

They look so happy and cheeky 💕💕💕💕

[@MarleneAug2010]

I agree!

[@hotlikefire7225]

This was SO GOOD. The only thing disappointing was that it had to come to an end.

[@slackerman9758]

No kidding! Two of my favorite personalities talking openly on fascinating topics. 👍

[@marisamartinezolivera]

While waiting at Barcelona airport to my flight to Lisbon, this podcast was my companion. How brutally raw and honest are Nikki’s thoughts. Self forgiveness, love to oneself…that’s what I get from today’s episode. Such important and relatable points we use to forget in our daily troubled life..or voluntarily or not we keep them hidden in “the closet” of our brain..This podcast is going better Tuesday after Tuesday! 💎Thank you to you both, fabulous Mayim & Jonathan! 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@jennifermoran2884]

I'm glad I watched this episode. I found it quite relatable when Nikki highlighted the need to empathise with other people based on your own experience. Compassion never hurt anyone. Nikki seems like a very genuine person.

[@vixenvalenzuela]

My mother passed on her anxiety to me too!! Holy crap, Nikki I have a lot of the same issues and addictions you have. This makes me feel so seen and validated …

[@11UncleBooker22]

Nikki's going to help many people who are struggling and as we know: "Whoever saves one life saves an entire world." Great episode you guys.

[@JimAllen-Persona]

I'm 50/50 on Mayim's podcasts - it depends on whether I know the guests. But I really love this one... and it's really eye-opening yet reaffirming to know that people that seem so strong are just as fallible as the rest of us.

[@RosscoPeko187]

Just curious? Why does it depend on whether you 'know' the guest? If anything these podcasts create empathy, that without experiencing what they have experienced, we get an insight into what they went through and can feel just a little bit of it ourselves and preferentially be more conscious of it in the future. I've never experienced an eating disorder, but from hearing Nikki talk about it so openly I can imagine how I would feel if I did based on Nikki's account. I then have a smidgeon of an understanding of it so I can empathise with anyone I know in my life who HAS experienced it! What makes you 50/50 on Mayim's podcasts out of curiosity? Not an attack, just curious :) It sounds like you've definitely listened to more than one? :)

[@HH-gv8mx]

I know the guest. The podcast is still good but Nikki is chin deep in denial about her very much active eating disorder, her addiction to speed Adderall ADHD medications. She’s shallow and narcissistic. And seems to be getting worse. Her entire podcast she focuses on other peoples bodies and superficial bullshit. It’s too bad.

[@keithpadamonsky456]

I was a kid of the '70s and a teenager of the '80s and everything that she says is crazy the things that we didn't talk about and the things we were told. I love this woman which makes me a 52-year-old male think you can't learn anything new you learn something new everyday love her for being so honest and an amazing comedian..

[@roncenti]

I want a 5 hour Mayim - Nikki podcast.

[@esmeraldagreengate4354]

Mayim, please please pretty please have Jewel on. I just saw her podcast with Joe Rogan and her insights on therapy and mental health are amazing and it would be fantastic to here your thoughts and insights on how the neuroscience works with what she is saying.

[@wendyolson7110]

This was an amazing podcast. I wasn’t quite sure what to expect because I’ve heard Nikki a bit of her comedy. It’s so fascinating to hear peoples stories and to begin to understand what makes us human and how we all operate. This was very eye-opening and gives me much more compassion for people with food issues. You would look at someone like Nikki and think she has the world by the tail. I think what it teaches is just to show compassion for others.

[@MayimBialik]

Such a beautiful lesson that we can continue to learn over and over again! Thank you for your thoughtful comment and for being apart of our podcast world.

[@wendyolson7110]

@@MayimBialik I appreciate your response. We just have to keep encouraging each other with practical knowledge. Thank you for that. Jonathan too.

[@HH-gv8mx]

Nikki’s eating disorder is very much active and she is knee deep in denial. I listen to her podcast now she talks about his weight and peoples bodies and beauty and surface level bullshit. It’s too bad that she surrounds herself with people that enable her eating disorder. And her addiction to Adderall and other ADHD meds to stave off her hunger and keep her thin.

[@snowwhite3794]

I completely agree with Nikki. I am so grateful I wasn't raised in the days of social media. I'm embarrassed from people's stories, imagine it being on social or someone downloading your most ashamed memory. Ugh. Kids these days deal with such a different set of issues.

[@nunyafinbiz]

I too am glad I wasn't raised in a social media/cameras/ and being recorded era.... Now I just assume I'm being recorded video and or audio... when I walk out of my house... I do love technology but it's a love/hate lol

[@ashleelarsen5002]

Ya at least we had an assembly about not sending photos, 😂 What a mess

[@soicancommentonvideo]

for kids who grow up with it I dont think its as big a deal. like seeing kids on tiktok now and they literally post anything and everything that comes to their mind its ridiculous the lack of filter they have sometimes

[@ashleelarsen5002]

@@soicancommentonvideo the Instagram live posts are bazaar, I'm just going to say it. If you haven't had a relationship with your kid, don't "reach out" on Instagram, it's so insencere.

[@careyhunt63]

I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Thank you Mayim and Nikki, and you too Jonathan!

[@orland0110]

Thank you Mayim for making my Tuesday with this amazing podcast and for bringing Nikki Glaser, she's amazing!

[@kellypurath6657]

This is a fantastic episode. I related to and appreciated so much of what Nikki shared. I completely understand not understanding feelings. Thank you Nikki for sharing so much of yourself.

[@melindamcdaniel2479]

Mayim, thank you, Jonathan, and Nikki for this episode. I appreciate Nikki as a comic, yet did not know these things about her experience. It has allowed me to come to some awareness today regarding a particular, or some particular, limiting beliefs. In particularly involving food, but having the limiting belief brought to my awareness - realizing it has been effecting several aspects of my life.

[@bobbiek1976]

This episode is SO RELATABLE!! So spot on…I’m so thankful you did this episode and I’m gonna continue to try to be gentle and mindful. Self love and forgiveness….Thank You!! 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

[@sunshine3914]

I’m old enough to be their mom, & I can’t even begin to tell you how relatable Nikki is.

[@TinyTotPropShop]

I love Nikki so much. She is a breath of fresh air. Great episode!

[@matthewsisti4382]

Love Nikki. Could see her becoming one of the biggest stars in the next few years

[@jennabolmgren]

Thank you so much for this conversation. Empathy is such a huge thing missing in the world these days. ❤️

[@AL-gp9id]

Thank you so much for this episode. This conversation is so helpful.

[@GG-kk9dr]

" Bill Clinton lost everything because his balls were full"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kathleenquilausing255]

I would love to see Nikki on your show again. Her honesty and humor is healing . Please Nikki come back to this show again you all have great chemistry

[@dicktaylor9054]

Thankyou for being honest, objective and practical. This will help so many people simply because they no longer feel alone, weird or confused by their own feelings. Intelligent, informed and interesting is the trifecta of podcasting.

[@danielafurlan322]

I can only say: Thank you very much, to Nikki, Mayim and Jonathan. LOL, did not want to end.Thank you!!!!

[@kodamaz]

I didn’t know I needed this one but I did. Thanks for such a raw, necessary conversation 💚

[@honestlee3556]

I loved this show. I feel close to all 3 of you. I love the honesty and courage! Thank you for sharing

[@corgicuttie]

This podcast is the best thing. Full stop.

[@AndreaAvila78]

I love her! Nikki dares to say many things that I think but I never say out loud. I can totally relate to many of the things she said. Excellent podcast!!!

[@matthewsisti4382]

She is amazing. She found God, passion, insight and love. Truly rewarding to see someone that overcame struggle and is in a good place.

[@rachelgrig9985]

Love Tuesdays! Listening to this on my way home from work ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@alexandralevin1202]

this was great I loved being more gentle to ourselves it is something that resonated deeply for me thank you so much to Nikki, you and Jonathan

[@djme5215]

Oh! I love everyone and everything in and about this episode before I've even seen it!

[@ashmac87]

Wow, I am super grateful to Nikki for sharing all of that. It makes me feel less alone 💜

[@BriJo91]

Phenomenal!! So glad I stumbled upon this. What an enlightening and entertaining episode.

[@monroejj6222]

What you said at the end about fearful mothers would have helped me so much about 5 years ago! I had undiagnosed adhd, ocd and postpartum anxiety which turned to postpartum psychosis(wasn’t ever admitted etc) I strongly believe if someone had told me worrying as a new mum was normal I wouldn’t have got into the state I did! I’ve always loved you as a actor and now I am a super fan 😍 keep it up we love you! Xx

[@leahswenson7776]

I'm a recovering junkie and no truer words have been said. It's fun then it's fun with problems and then just problems. Let me tell you if you OD and end up in the hospita lot of lack empathy. It's very much like being in an abusive relationship. I would say being in a abusive relationship is just as addictive and intoxicating. This was hands down phenomenal. Please please please bring her on again!!!

[@darrenchesson7429]

Real people get to the crux of the problem to dig deep and release the pain. Only the truth will set you free. Well done Nikki. Your an inspiration for girls.

[@kathleenquilausing255]

Fantastic show. Thank you , I can relate to all of you. Feelings, yup. They can ruin a day or make a day. I’m highly sensitive. I feel so comfortable listening to this podcast thank you again

[@interrhian6065]

Please invite her on again! I have ADHD & trauma issues & this has blown my mind! I wish this was 12 hours long 😍

[@bronsonmcdonald5473]

Thank you Nikki, Mayim, Johnathan, and team for this interview. Near the end when Nikki was talking about eating the row of cookies, and the different reactions we have, it made me think of 'the second arrow' concept that i learned about from Tara Brach. It is a part of Buddhism. Basically our reaction (second arrow) to a negative situation or something 'bad' we did often causes as much or more angst than the original event (fist arrow). I have learned ( am learning) from my therapist to use , try to feel, more compassion towards myself in these situations to ease, soften, how i react. It's alot of 'work' to make such a big change, but i hope this helps someone.

[@cj10109]

I love Nikki’s comedy. Hearing her past in depth explains why she’s the way she is… love her honesty 💜

[@freelovedragon1417]

I didn’t expect to be moved to tears.

[@fabernet123]

Mayim, I think you are awesome and yet so down to earth. I am really enjoying your podcasts etc. Very refreshing!! and very real. You are something special. And of course, always great to see you on Jeopardy.

[@messybench]

Jonathon seems amazingly secure. Mayim tends to eyeroll and cut him off when he hasn't made his point. Maybe she knows his story and can jump to the end but we are watching and listening to gather insight and perspective. So an inside story is defeating my purpose for watching. I was amazed at how much mic time Nikki got. Bravo on that. She has an interesting arc. I've been a fan of hers for years but never knew of her struggles.

[@jarodlacher9720]

I just started watching/listening to these recently…. Yeah I noticed how much she cuts him off and corrects him lol or if you watch or listen to the Matthew McConaughey one… she is totally hitting on him or at least gushing about him right in front of Jonathan… I think she only let him speak a couple times that whole episode lol… I do like some of their 1:37:51 exchanges… pretty comical.

[@paulkohut294]

Exceptionally well done , a real mind opener. . This degree of honesty is what we all need . Thanks! 💗

[@brinsonopinion]

I enjoyed this so much - this was a lively, intelligent, emotional funny conversation between interesting, insightful people. I first became aware of Nikki through her appearances on "@midnight" & was an immediate fan of the style & delivery of her humor. Always tuned when I saw she was appearing on something in the ensuing years. I had no idea of her struggles until this podcast. And I could relate to so much of what was discussed here, from the use of ANYTHING to avoid or stuff feelings to having fear instilled at an early age to the coping mechanisms we can learn through recovery...and so much more! Most of all I want to say how much my admiration & respect for you, Mayim, continue to deepen as I watch more & more of these. I respect so much what you've done with your life & how you've navigated the unexpected changes life has brought. I connect with your sense of humor very very much, but I also love how the breadth of your knowledge ebbs & flows through the conversations, dovetailing with that humor. You & Jonathan are doing great stuff with this podcast!

[@m_brokenleg]

How I adore Mayim’s laugh and Jonathan delightful embarrasment! 😆🤣This podcast always make my Tuesdays better! You both are a ray of sun in it! 💜🥰

[@katythriftyunder35homeowne57]

As someone who has struggled hardcore with anorexia over the years, it would be awesome if you put in a note about trigger warning I remember the feeling/high of not eating for long spans of time when I was in high school. The pressure to be skinny is so awful in high school, as a young woman. I'm thankful I 🙏 survived that time. So thankful

[@kalonakitu]

Thank you for this interview. I can relate to so much of what Nikki talked about.

[@4mtnkat]

Great pod b/c of how raw, honest, intelligent, and still compassionate ❤ thank you hosts and Nikki

[@tracymc6007]

Hi Nikki...I read the quit drinking book you mentioned by Alan Carr. Haven't had in a drink in over a year. I have you to thank. Love your show Mayim. You're a natural interviewer. You too Jonathan

[@8656737s]

I love seeing Mayim laugh so hard 😂 I Relate so much too Nikki. I grew up in the middle nowhere I have ADHD, dyslexia maybe a bit of autism. I started getting very depressed at around ten years old. I'm glad she did so well life ❤

[@Dstone3314]

Mayim, your podcast is like my therapy ! So happy I came across this. I'm trying out a new therapist tomorrow 🤞🤞

[@anthonymcjilton107]

WOW! I'm a new fan of Nikki's Comedy like 3 days of binge watching new because you can see the honesty in her comedy. I tuned into this just thinking it was another great comedy bit and yes it was comedy but so much more . In our TMI world we wonder are we sharing to much are we just talking about ourselves but I believe when we do someone else is looking in the mirror and seeing themselves . We see we are not alone and most of us deep down feel like we are alone . We are afraid . We are more so afraid to laugh . Thank you

[@erinantonello942]

Most relatable one yet! Thank you

[@anunnaki1475]

Its always pleasant ,entertaining & motivational hearing Nikki talk..🙂🤗

[@artiemuse]

I loved this episode. No one is more candid. And I love she talks about things others don't want to, like the reality of s3x.

[@amandasample9830]

This was such a fun watch!

[@Carolina-ji8pp]

This was amazing. Definitely my favorite episode and made me all emotional!! Because i now know that Nikki and I are the same person lol

[@DartJedi]

Great show. I have liked all your shows actually. So many things I agree with, so many things to think about, so many questions I would ask as well. I definitely agree about berating yourself over the cookies. I do this, and I finally got to the same outcome. If you get mad at yourself it will just makes it worse the next time and it almost guarantees there will be a next time.

[@Thomas1954]

Smart and funny, teachable moments, leading to understanding. Well done.

[@teriscallon]

this was so great, I love Nikki

[@ashmoutt]

This is my new favorite KZbin channel. ❤

[@mistipassarello5350]

The cookie story - thank you for that. That will help me immensely from here on out, seriously. 👏

[@hipnhappenin]

Nikki talking about her mental health is everything. She's so honest and candid and hilarious about it. It's hard to not find some kind of kinship with her.

[@usmc8985]

This was such a great episode.

[@katherinegerdes2565]

I completely understand what Nikki meant when she said "I understand what is like to be an obese person" when she was talking about her eating disorder. Whether you're on the binge until you're sick and then binge more side like I was/am (it never really goes away) or the starve yourself until you're just skin and bones; you understand that as soon as you walk into any room or building you will be noticed by every one and then be judged by them.

[@tanyatj7121]

Loved this, love and appreciate you guys so much.. Annnd oh Boy, I just get you 😁 💙💕🥰😁! What an inspiring Guest.. She's so Beautiful and funny, so real and refreshingly honest!! Dam why are we so dam afraid to feel. We think we are healed from our childhoods but still carry the fear and broken parts of ourselves when in reality, we are capable and educated to deal with it all.. what's the missing link. Thanks for constantly reminding me I'm whole, great and ok. Being single (happily and by choice) at times you feel so isolated and alone when needing to be intospective! Mwaaa 💕🇦🇺🌻

[@bretheinemeyer963]

I will say I do not agree with all of it but that is the point of speaking freely! How honest and forthcoming Nikki is, is absolutely awesome. Even topics I don't agree with she deserves credit and respect for bringing in forward! Well done.

[@alettertovanessa]

@Jonathan - loved the extra rapid question and the post interview analysis about parents being dismissive. I think you’re def on to something re: anxious and/or avoidant attachment & parents being dismissive affecting future vulnerability (& emotional expression). Brenè Brown has a great story about this in Gifts of Imperfection when her parents were dismissive about her looking out of place and not making the color guard team. Brown points out the seemingly insignificant event mattered due to the combo of identity development, social groups, vulnerability and shame.

[@Diane43000]

Oh. My. God. This is the best podcast EVER. I can relate to so much of it...sadly.

[@internetgirlygirl]

I’m early! Thank you for all your help Mayim

[@NatTayHill]

I am making a bee line to her podcast immediately. I need to hear more. Wow!

[@clairedouglas1726]

What an amazing podcast yet again Nikki is fantastic I loved this episode so much this is definitely the best show ever i watched from Spain last week but back in uk now ,iv never loved a podcast as much as BialikBreakdown it helps having the best hosts Mayim and Jonathan you guys really are brilliant 🤩and I love you Mayim your my hero and such an amazing role model for me 😘💕xx

[@JanelleVocate-Ames]

Yay! Early to say THANK YOU!

[@destiniemaxham]

I've never related more to someone's life and personality than Nikki's. This really was an amazing podcast!!

[@HH-gv8mx]

Nikki’s eating disorder is very much active and she is knee deep in denial. I listen to her podcast now she talks about his weight and peoples bodies and beauty and surface level bullshit. It’s too bad that she surrounds herself with people that enable her eating disorder. And her addiction to Adderall and other ADHD meds to stave off her hunger and keep her thin.

[@ChivyDCom]

I related to so many things Nikki said I was terrified of sex and boys the only way I thought I could do anything was if I was drunk or high. always worried about the pain of it worried about bleeding.

[@estelleox]

Amazing episode!

[@nunyafinbiz]

wow this was one of her best episodes!

[@Danaman62]

I need this today. Thanks I thought you guys were an item. Good for you.

[@joannaurban2418]

Kudos to Mayim for becoming a much better interviewer ♥

[@susanbennett9062]

This was fantastic 👏

[@nicolewilliams2468]

Absolutely fascinating - love your guest! Also, the wrap-up topic about dislike of certain foods & allergies - my mother-in-law has a ton of allergies & intolerances & swears this is true. In seeing my own allergy testing (mine are minor; nothing life-threatening) I can see some of my childhood / current dislikes match up, as well. Unfortunately I REALLY like some of the things that my body doesn’t, so that might water down the “your body just knows...” argument. I wonder how many of those items are massively processed foods vs. foods in their more natural variety, though. Food for thought...(pun intended). 🤔

[@KristinM626]

This is one of my favorite episodes in a while. It was like a lightbulb went off when she talked about liking the feeling of the lead vest thing at the dentist. One of the reasons I enjoyed going to the dentist as a kid. I also appreciated the ask Mayim anything. I’ve always been a bit of a picky eater & my food allergies have something to do with it. Even at 32, I struggle with new foods because I’m scared of a new allergy

[@savannabrewton9566]

I love that you talked about picky eating at the end of this episode, like your son I HATED the taste of milk and eggs as a child and upon allergy testing discovered I’m allergic to egg whites and the caseine protein in milk.

[@tudormiller887]

She's one of my favourite comics. Sending much love from the UK.

[@juliebrown8381]

Loved this.....so honest

[@juliebrown8381]

Please have her on again soon 🥰

[@jonathanjollimore7156]

Thanks for the help Nikki

[@Ladybug211211]

Guess where I first learned about FORIA.? From Nikki…in a tv discussion with her and 2 or 3 other young comics…years ago!! Thank you Nikki!

[@TinyTotPropShop]

I'm an attachment parent and my son has anxiety (he's 8). There are anxiety disorders from both sides of the family. People blame my parenting style, too, but it has NOTHING to do with how I parent. I've always encouraged his independence and will continue to!

[@ThatMissQuin]

Wow. The title had my eyes rolling and an hour in I've never FELT more understood.

[@stephlalalitta]

I've got Mayim fever!!! So in love with this

[@SonicBoom00]

Thanks! Great video!

[@themarygproject]

Probably one of my favorite episodes / along with the Anthony Green ep.

[@JAHughes1988]

Nikki is just awesome!

[@Gobi512]

Great episode!

[@ArinSauls]

Listening to music helps pull me out of negative feelings and brings me almost a sense of high or happiness when listening to different songs.