body positivity was never real

[@linabn2946]

Literally as a human im tired , go skinny go curvy go tan go pale go baddie go old money …… never satisfied never enough

[@NkirukasWrld]

That’s why true acceptance comes from within, you will literally go crazy trying to get accepted by everyone else or by continuously following the trends

[@LoXena]

Right? I'm staying right here black with kinky hair and little bunda, no BBL, no Ozempic, no skin bleaching, no relaxer.

[@noalynndecastro7368]

Who are you trying to satisfy? You do you who cares

[@angelcore1669]

just remember you don't actually HAVE to do any of these things. i swear it's like sometimes we all forget we have free will.

[@fairygodmother139]

No one’s forcing it upon you lol

[@larathvmgy]

The skinny era never ends

[@NkirukasWrld]

That’s what it seems like! It’s literally a never ending cycle

[@pipe.down.]

do you want people to be fat

[@BatkoNashBandera774]

@@NkirukasWrld and it denies us men the sight/date of beautiful bodacious females. It's more akin to a crime against humanity at this point.

[@Josephine-lr9fh]

:(

[@fallfanaticstudent]

True that, it just shifts in how prominent it is in the mainstream, but there is always a flourishing subfield that promotes it.

[@RMNTZ]

Skinny era never ended. Some things were adjusted for some time, but now they're back as they were. 100% all celebs and body positivity ambassadors WILL go on ozempic and become skinny. No doubt.

[@NkirukasWrld]

You’re spot on! Can’t say I’m surprised but just disappointing smh. I’m mostly concerned for the people who are more impressionable, I don’t look at these celebs and actively try to look like them but I can’t say the same for others!

[@RMNTZ]

​@NkirukasWrld same goes for me! I was very impressionable as a teenager, and having tumblr and its prevalent skinny aesthetics weren't easy, and i still have some psychological residue, but it's much better now. I'm really worried about other young impressionable teens and adults who now have tiktok and a lot more negative influence going around. Thank you for doing youtube videos and discussing those things, as I'm sure it will help a lot of people to just get some awareness and maybe get out of echo chamber ❤️

[@thelastromeo4848]

Are you whack, lizzo was making songs running down skinny people big people have been doing us skinny people for a while now because of the body postive movement where if your big it's ok to praise yourself but if you say your happy to be skinny it's fatphobic so seriously y'all whine about anything and Meghan the stallion ain't skinny.

[@PhysicsAndPuns]

​@@thelastromeo4848 Look me in my eyes and tell me that Lizzo made the entire world anti-skinny for literally ANY period of time

[@Afrogirrl]

@@thelastromeo4848this is what I’m saying! The body positivity movement was toxic asf! And also such a “crabs in the bucket” movement, if you even dared to lose weight you were “self-hating” and “toxic”. People have began to clock the nastiness!

[@kimbelkisdelancy1229]

I'm sick of all this, just be your own beauty standard.

[@BatkoNashBandera774]

This.

[@NkirukasWrld]

If only it was this easy, unfortunately it’s not

[@BatkoNashBandera774]

@@NkirukasWrld nothing good is easy.

[@lalac7207]

Thiiis

[@jellyrolly]

It's not easy when beauty standards are literally what many people aspire to have, regardless of who created it.

[@ewlulu]

9:26 lip filler turns out to not be temporary actually!! Stephanie Lange on youtube has talked about how the filler doesn't go away fully, but it travels to different parts of your body and face which is why a lot of celebrities faces look a little weird or even old.

[@grizzlyalmighty2]

idk how they ever expected a LIQUID to just stay in place inside of their FLESH????????????

[@WilliamsPinch]

licensed physicians have been saying this for years.

[@XCaptianXChaosX]

True. I saw Stephanie's video, as well. Not to mention that Botox literally means botulism toxin.

[@AnnaP-vw4yw]

​@XCaptianXChaosX nooo, I thought botox was different * starts punching air*

[@dovahkiinchickennugget4182]

Exactly, the filler doesn’t really “dissolve” it just moves to other parts of the face, it’s scary how little people know about it before they get it done.

[@mahogara]

Skinny has never gone away, especially living in East Asia. Even in the west, the whole curvy and plus size, still leant on the illusions of skinny - basically having big boobs and butts on a skinny frame, and no double chins, small faces and so on. I'm so tired...I feel so much older than I actually am seeing all these body trends coming back around. But also I'm old enough to not really care about them as much. I feel so bad for the younger and impressionable kids, it's not like the world isn't already a shithole for them.

[@K.C-2049]

"Even in the west, the whole curvy and plus size, still leant on the illusions of skinny - basically having big boobs and butts on a skinny frame, and no double chins, small faces and so on." dude EXACTLY. even when we were hyping up plus sized models, those women always had hourglass figures, big boobs, wide hips with a little waist, and somehow comparatively little face fat. the whole body positivity thing was always kind of a joke in the mainstream, I'm not surprised it fell apart and we're right back to "skinny is in" again :(

[@firefly3003]

I remember when I was at my lowest weight in highschool. I got so many compliments and recently as a woman in my 20s, I had someone ask me "Why'd you let yourself go?" I'm very blunt and speak before I think sometimes and I left them shook because I said "Because I wasn't eating when I was a kid." And it's true. I came from a poor household. If I wanted my siblings and my sick mom to eat, I had to skip breakfast and dinner. All my food I got was from the free lunch program. I also passed out A LOT. Even at that smallest weight, I felt like I was too fat thanks to the 2014 tumblr girl thinspo stuff that was floating around. Edited to add: I also haven't "let myself go." I'm a normal body weight. I'm actually considered underweight for being postpartum, but that was because of medical complications during pregnancy that could've killed me.

[@NkirukasWrld]

I’m sorry to hear what you have gone through. Life is unfair and people can be cruel. Good for you being blunt and speaking up for yourself because they had no reason to ask that question in the first place! It’s good to hear you are doing better now ❤️❤️❤️congratulations on your baby as well, labour scares me so much! I’m glad you are doing better

[@firefly3003]

@NkirukasWrld Thank you! I'm doing better, and I think the only thing that kept me calm during my birth was the fact that they gave me an epidural and had me on a morphine drip 😅❤️. I definitely think since I was a part of tumblr and other internet spaces instead of instagram at the time in high school, I had a different POV and ideals of the body type that was popular in the 2010s. Seeing H*roin Chic come back into style genuinely made me feel deep concern for a lot of young girls and women because of what I witnessed online at the time and what I witnessed my friends who shared the space go through. Now that I'm back on Instagram, I'm already seeing a bunch of people in comment sections trying to further push the unhealthy and unrealistic thin body types that got circled around back on Tumblr. That whole phase occurred when Lana dropped her album, and "aesthetic" mood boards got popular. In every mood board, there was always an image of a really thin girl/woman either crying, smoking, looked sick, and/or had bruising and visible ribs. It feels like the internet has gone full circle.

[@autumnolguin1990]

I have always been skinny & exercises & had high metabolism but I had a baby & I gained a bit of weight, stopped exercising, my metabolism slowed down, & didn’t do my makeup. I had people tell me the same thing & I even had family who was heavy tell me “wow you’ve gained a lot of weight”… those same people when I was a child made fun of me for being ‘too skinny’. So my point in writing this is people are jealous and those people will do anything to make you feel low about yourself regardless of shape & size

[@kristinaisayeva7169]

In freshman high school, I got extremely ill, and I couldn't eat because I literally had no appetite. We had our physicals to do for the volleyball season, and when I stepped on the scale, I was 128 lbs. The last time I was 128lbs was probably in 6th grade or even elementary school. Even my coach was worried and told me to eat. I had hollowed cheeks, and my ribs were showing. Apparently, though, that is the required weight for my height according to the BMI calculator. My parents, to this day, say that I looked so good that year. I've seen pictures of my mom when she was my age, and she was 103-105lbs then. She was literally sick looking. I understand that being skinny is better than being obese because it's healthier, but there's still a limit with even being skinny.

[@firefly3003]

@kristinaisayeva7169 BMI calculators suck. Before I was pregnant, I was considered overweight because of the fact that I had a decent bit of muscle on my arms, legs, and some on my back. Now that they're gone, I have loose skin on my arms and back. I'm trying to get back to that, but I know it'll take some time as it takes a whole year after giving birth for the body to go back to it's normal hormone cycle and completely heal. I'm sorry that you experienced that! I definitely worry for a lot of women and girls with the current thin body trend coming back because of exactly what you experienced. It's all too common of a mindset to have. My poor SIL is actually going through what you did right now, but luckily her mom is actively trying to help her instead of shaming her.

[@AaiaAl-juboori]

I think that the rise in popularity of Kpop has had a huge influence on the public turning back to the skinny ideal as well. anyone who is aware of the Kpop industry knows that being skinny Is one of the biggest beauty standards in Kpop, and curvy figures haven't always been praised in South Korea.

[@hannahb9999]

ooh, this feels like a really good observation

[@ningsquaredddd]

kpop is still quite niche in the West, and a lot of kpop fans (for a better lack of words) tend to be queer, overweight...etc, not at all like k-pop idols though. I will not deny that kpop probably does lead people to gain eating disorders, but you're overestimating it

[@northrnstar]

@@ningsquaredddd no, they have a point. i know a lot of kpop fans are not like kpop idols, but the beauty standards in korea do have a very strong impact in the west, or at the very least in spaces where people consume kpop. like glamourizing idols being super thin and being "body tea" while shaming idols who are more muscular or not super thin and reinforcing certain beauty standards such as nose and face shapes and even making fun of idols who have naturally darker skin tones. it's also not a coincidence a lot of girls with eating disorders compare themselves to skinny female idols.

[@бронза.вафля.конус]

@@northrnstar The point is that most people are not not kpop fans and are therefore not comparing themselves to idols. In fact I've heard more people (non fans) say that idols look disgusting (too thin) compared to the number I've heard say the opposite. The people comparing themselves to idols are fans or living in a country where it's extremely mainstream and popular (aka Asia). You might see Jennie Kim or Lisa Manoban on the red carpet but most people don't know them

[@tomatosoup1304]

I totally agree! The rise of East Asian standards of beauty have definitely come here from being skinnier to wearing a bunch of spf as to not get tan. It's prominent not just kpop fans but in skincare, diet, hair and fashion spaces

[@reidjohnke231]

As a man who works in quarries for a living, this feels like another world, it’s so fascinating to hear perspectives I don’t think about, thank you

[@mpazinambao2938]

damn, that's hard work!

[@rubyrootless7324]

honestly, super cool of you to be interested in that then. a lot of people i know in hard professions like yours just go "well these people would stop thinking they had problems with these things if they worked a job as hard as mine, they'd know real issues then" which can be really dismissive, cuz two things can be true at the same time. so i think it's really cool to see someone understanding all sides, feels rare

[@chelseaperkins9708]

In high school i got made fun of for having a butt, then suddenly i was told "I'm jealous of your butt" now its back to "you have a butt so youre fat" make it make sense NK 😭😭😭

[@KN-hg2nv]

west is insane cause making those kinda comments in the east, even if youre a woman makimg them, is considered sexual harassment. tell them to mind their own business

[@beeprince4652]

I KNOW when i was younger i was RAVAGED for my big butt. apparently it was the funniest thing one can ever see. and now that ive grown up and started being more introverted, its a trend. and now its going back to before. ill just live in my 5xl hoodie and hide in my room until it goes back to being a trend

[@Lilnil]

As a young woman, these beauty standards are detrimental. One day we need to be skinny to the point people assume we’re on drugs, and the next day we need to have the bbl body with impossible curves. Beauty standards will always be unachievable. They’re pushed by celebrities who have thousands of dollars to throw away, just to stay relevant. It’s exhausting.

[@Pickle_Panther]

As a man I feel similarly. Gone are the days of the everyday man in movies and media. Now, every man looks young forever, is built like the god of thunder, or has that perfect unconventional attractive skinny guy look. Genetics aside this just isn’t realistic. Normal dude with a normal job cant get jacked like Chris Evan’s in captain America. He has money, personal chefs, personal trainers…. It hits men and women different but the media is out there fucking us all up with body standards that most regular people cannot achieve in a healthy way. It sucks

[@Justanothercog24]

​@@Pickle_Panther it's interesting to watch what's happening with the male collective now. It seems like corporate/ media suddenly realized "holy crap, we have an entire male population here that we never tapped into... let's change that!" I do wonder if that was the idea behind pushing the whole "modern dating standards" that everyone focuses on now. 10+ yrs ago, the triple-6 nonsense was NOT a thing... but the best way to get ppl to spend money? Create insecurities so someone can sell them the fix. It's exactly what they've been doing to women for yrs.

[@jackief03]

@@Pickle_Pantherwait you actually bring up a good point I’ve noticed so many men are getting work done to look younger not sure what they’re doing but it’s so noticeable

[@foxiefair123]

@@Pickle_PantherI long for a regular dude, lol.😂

[@Pickle_Panther]

Don’t let the media tell you who to be or how to look. Don’t let rich corporations tell you what to do with your life

[@sam.onella]

EEEEEXACTLY

[@Dulcibella444]

Let’s just have a trend where we become ourselves FOR ONCE🙏

[@PossibleBat]

It cannot be a trend, it is something that comes from within and for everyone is different. If made into a trend, it will be vacuous and superficial, completely loosing the meaning. People will posture and fake it, as they always do with all trends…

[@DrCocofruit]

They tried, and everyone did the exact opposite

[@danielas3374]

yeah i'm not gonna do that but go for it girl lol

[@iiNaoki]

That's what the body positivity movement is/was for.

[@IshtarNike]

​@@PossibleBatthis is it. If it's a trend then there will still be arguments over people who are doing it "better" than others. Gotta divest from the trend mindset altogether. It's not easy.

[@julyaa.777]

i love being a woman, i wouldn't trade it for anything but all this hate comming from men, putting woman against each other, being seen as bodies, useless, wasted, onlyfanns material... I know there are good men, they're not all mean, and generosity and kindness will always exist, but I can't help to feel hopeless and afraid

[@Dee--]

you're looking at a very small vocal minority thats like a man thinking all women are 304s and onlyfans creators lol

[@fulstakdigitalmarketing8575]

Wait till you start ageing. Its even worse. If you can believe that. My self esteem has never been as low when I stopped looking 25. Which was recent for me because of my culture I don't age as quickly. But it's been shocking how invisible you become. And I don't mean like attractiveness to those around you, I mean just being an older woman and the things people feel at liberty to say to you; the things you hear about your age group being said online, all the ads and rhetoric basically saying you should just go die in a hole somewhere because you're 'past your prime'. People are far less kind in general. Your body is changing and it's so hard and everyone has a comment on how you're 'fat' now or your face is not as attractive. OUT LOUD TO YOUR FACE. Its horrific. The only way to combat it is having. sense of self that doesn't rely on other's opinions. Its hard though. And a constant battle.

[@Dee--]

@@fulstakdigitalmarketing8575 men dont get treated nicely and are invisible all their lives at least we had that "prime" to enjoy lol

[@stuffystuffsityas6302]

What I found worst when I was a teen (I’m 20 now) was how much pressure there was to look like what guys like. There’s a corn star they’re all talking about? A rapper? An actress? They’re arguing over which is best, doing smash/pass on random students walking by? I for one felt pressure to look appealing - else I would be “ugly” “not it” “mid”. Girls would be chatting about personality - cuz when you have so many teen boys talking only about body, our standard is lowered to “see me as a person first, then a hot chick”. I hate the patriarchy.

[@toxiczombiewolf5692]

True so I look opposite of what men want and look how I want. I see men shame women who work out and have big muscles. So I'm aiming for big muscle so men don't bother me and I can look and feel my best for me and not men.

[@Kamakshi-q1p]

!!!!!

[@grizzlyalmighty2]

whole time those boys are literally nutting in socks.

[@moonamoonz]

Exactly. And then men go "boohoo women are so picky nowadays!" when the main thing most women want is for a dude to be respectful and see her as a person, is that so difficult for males?

[@moonamoonz]

​@@toxiczombiewolf5692 Same! my main focus on the gym isn't losing weight, but gaining muscles and getting physically strong.

[@divine_khemi]

Honestly as a bigger girl that Is taking care of her health step by step , body standards does not make it easier to choose healthier habits . I delete ig and learn about what the human body needs , and I get along just fine

[@WiinterKitten]

As someone with little exposure to social media, skinny has always been my standard, I was never into to thicc and bbl trends😂 My goal was always to be healthy and skinny 😂

[@divine_khemi]

@@WiinterKittenskinny does not equal healthy but okay

[@Im_Autistic_6_4]

How dare KZbin hide this from me for 5 minutes

[@NkirukasWrld]

How rude of them, they are opps fr

[@Wednesdayfan2006]

​​​@@NkirukasWrldI agree KZbin has many Problems and KZbin definitely has Favoritism nowadays. KZbin Was so much better back in 2010,2011,2012, & 2013. WWWWWWWWWWWWWWW Take 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@babygotback476]

the problem is everybody is worried about and trying to copy someone else😭 like be your own person social media will be the death of some of y’all fr fr . Yes being called fat, big, overweight is traumatic. Also vice versa, being called underweight, too thin, etc can cause body issues as well because what you see vs what someone else sees is different most of the time. Stop feeding into trends or these clothing companies! Everyone is beautiful in their own way.

[@chxrii866]

GUYS WAKE UP MOTHER JUST POSTED!

[@NkirukasWrld]

Awwww 😅😅😅😅don’t hype me up too much 😂😂

[@raheem-t8u]

😂​@@NkirukasWrld

[@Beauty_and_the_Beats]

The hair is cute girl. And also i feel sorry for these young women. In my day we didnt have all the social media pages and lace fronts and lashes and beat face. These girls look GROWNNNN. When i was 12, i looked 12 😂

[@NkirukasWrld]

Thanks lol the hair is a bit old that’s why I don’t like it but I also overthink dumb stuff too😅😂 but I agree it’s so easy to see 18 year olds who look 30 nowadays lol

[@northrnstar]

same like im so glad i grew up in internet spaces that weren't all that focused in beauty. i was 12 dressing like 12

[@naririnya]

beauty standards can be extremely detrimental for people my age. i'm currently in high school (17) and have found myself absolutely DESPISING the skinnier girls because i'm slightly overweight and have struggled with ED for 5-6 years, but my body composition just won't let me lose a lot of weight. there's a girl in one of my classes who is that "perfect" skinny and i hated her just because i wanted to be like her, but she turned out to be one of the nicest and most encouraging people i've ever met. i'm not exactly sure why i'm sharing this story aside from the idea that the bases society holds towards skinnier people is not fun and has a very strong effect on people.

[@juliev7148]

Taking social media breaks is so important! I deleted instagram and Tiktok 4 years ago because I noticed myself feeling bad every time I opened it. I only just installed instagram again and went from following 1000 people to following 300. I posted some pictures for the first time in 4 years and I dont feel bad immediately after opening the app ❤

[@bivianaromero7083]

I had to delete too. I was more so envious of woman that were more financially successful than me. The “perfect life” clothes shoes supportive partner. Etc.

[@chanmarr8118]

I'm naturally skinny. I just stay the same until my body type starts trending again lol I think it's crazy to change your body to fit trends. Do that shi for you, not for strangers.

[@______8845]

Imo I feel like it’s not as simple as just not following trends but for girls to constantly see certain body types it might be hard for them to know that they are even looking at a trend while in retrospect they are. I feel like even for me while I know what is a trend sometimes it’s hard to realize that when everywhere on fyps or randomly scrolling on insta is promoting random girls’ posts. It’s definitely a mental thing and commenting this definitely reminded me to know when to put my phone down 😅

[@consumerism]

I agree. I am skinny, too. I am trying to gain weight, but it is not working. I grew up during the bbl trend era, and have always been insecure about my body type. Now I see that it's trending again, and it's extremely confusing.

[@ciqured8525]

i feel like this is still a privileged take. in a farphobic society, its easy to say „dont go with the trend“ when u fit the global underlying beauty standard of being skinny. i dont think its as easy for a fat person to „just accept themselves“ and „not go with trends“.

[@fairygodmother139]

@@______8845well then get off social media, real people don’t care. Lmao such first world problems

[@fairygodmother139]

@@ciqured8525get off social media lol. It’s not that deep

[@stuffystuffsityas6302]

Social media has ruined us ;-;

[@Beeninmyglo]

That’s why I deleted it 😭

[@medea5235]

But even without social media people were still affected by beauty standards, so yea social media isn't the only thing causing it but it is a big factor

[@Imsjsb]

Yup 😭

[@cecevanfran9836]

It’s not social media it’s the people the problem are people because even before social media beauty standards existed

[@simonalisa5572]

The beauty standards will always shift because it’s human for us to want what we don’t have. Also keeps the beauty business alive for us to strive to what we’re not by buying the next makeup enhancement, weight gain/loss supplement, or procedures.

[@jellyrolly]

It's far worse for women than men. Men's beauty standards hardly changed since the early 1900s.

[@Musiclover1276]

I disagree about trusting influencers more than celebrities. To me they are one and the same. The amount of fitness influencers that lie about how much they eat and how they actually grew their butt is astounding. So many influencers are out here photoshopping their photos and videos. Of course there are some that are truthful but to say you trust influencers more is a bit naive. On the topic of Megan, I’m not gonna speculate if she got work done but I’ve seen her throwback photos and her body was always tea.

[@audreywheeler3786]

Marlon 😂😂 i can’t stop picturing a fish in her iconic dress

[@spaceyjacey_]

Forreal im glad im not the only one who noticed her butcher her name 😂😂

[@fl4minratbag]

@@spaceyjacey_ I’m surprised more people didn’t mention it. I feel bad but it was just so distracting to me 😭

[@minaarinnaa]

the amount of things she says wrong in this vid honestly stun me like how do you say so many things wrong?? it was bothering me the whole time

[@jiovannalopera4224]

@@minaarinnaafrrr

[@MeredithNicole-ig8ir]

I am one of those people who had a surgery really young, at 16, and I do believe people should wait until their mid to late twenties to have anything done. I had a breast reduction at 16, due to me being a 38 E cup, and was so embarrassed of my body, and the weird attention it would attract by men who were way older than me. I had the reduction, but the size came back, due to me not being done with puberty. So, I have scars but nothing to show for it. Please wait until you are fully developed before doing anything permanent!

[@iiNaoki]

Thank you for covering this topic. I want to warn: "evolutionary psychology" is not really respected academia. It's just eugenics, essentially - it's full of racists and misogynists using theory that kinda sounds legit to justify their prejudices. They can literally explain away why skinny or curvy or fat women are the "evolutionary standard" with the same arguments, based on their personal preference. Same goes for their explanations for white/European beauty standards and the antiblack explanations for why lighter skin is preferred. The way body standards are determined is cultural. This has been evidenced by how standards keep changing every decade or so and how different cultures can have very different standards simultaneously. Also how women and men have different standards and preferences for themselves and each other.

[@bb1ny]

YESSS I wanted to say this

[@Afrogirrl]

Calling everything eugenics is tired asf.

[@cutebloons]

Im sick of people responding to this information with "just stop caring". Like WOW OMG YOU SOLVED THE PROBLEM!!!! AMAZING 🙄

[@gibbyjibby0]

Well I mean that’s kind of what it is though. I doubt we’ll get to a place in our society where there isn’t some form of beauty standard any time soon. So I genuinely stopped caring cause I know I’ll never be the standard because it is constantly changing. It’s like an unfair game where the rules are always changing and everyone’s cheating. I’m not playing the game anymore.

[@oncetwicelove7524]

your editing always eats!!

[@allih615]

Lip filler isn't temporary, it actually just migrates to different parts of the face.

[@jamiew.6606]

Marlin??! Love your content girl lol! But I sometimes have to double take while listening to your content. Either way, great video as usual, keep being you!

[@Thesilentvoice...]

Trends always change, so it’s best to like what you truly like and stick to what fits you. There will always be people who appreciate you for your authenticity. It’s just sad because many women altered their bodies to please others to get a look which is now out of style. Those same people will gravitate to something else and they cannot go back to their original bodies. It’s a dangerous slope.

[@arj3733]

Lmao every youtuber is trying to sell me Raycons, a VPN, or a vibrator 😂😂😂

[@magneticflowerbooks09]

Fr, don’t forget the Hello Fresh💀

[@yogibearpeep8068]

I love how this so called progressive generation called out late 2000s media outlets like Perez Hilton for invasive things like dissecting women’s bodies and yet here we are… apparently it’s still the norm 😂😂

[@NkirukasWrld]

It will always be the norm😅😅

[@gummipaws]

i dont understand why people are so easily influenced and idk, shamed? like... a man tells you to look flawless or else they wont like you, and women just follow suit like there isnt billions of people on earth. why would you ever want to please and attract someone like that? im aware that my style is unique and most people dont like it, and im fine with that. im introverted, so honestly its only a bonus. i only attract friends and partners that i actually would like to be around, because theyre unique too. it feels like everyone is so fake these days. do people actually like the way they look like, or are they all just following a trend? its just genuinely confusing to me. its like watching a flock of sheep walking in circles, following each other and getting nowhere. im so happy im blessed enough to take a step back and realise im my own person and dont need to follow some silly trends, created solely to sell me something.

[@electrarexx]

I was much more happier when I had depression and didn’t care about my appearance at all.I know how that sounds,but it’s truth.

[@breakdiinternet7186]

Great video but I gotta say for Megan, her body didn't change overnight at all. It's been years she's hitting the gym and you can see the gradual changes through all her instagram posts. I feel like some videos you showed are before lockdown when she just started training. It's her bitter ass ex who spread this rumour in his lame ass diss song...

[@sparkleytxt4041]

This! You can tell Megan has a more toned body now

[@PossibleBat]

As a woman who grew up chubby, later on I lost some weight, and I was considered curvy, and now I’m just fat again, yeah, the obsession with being skinny never went away, I don’t blame them, I also want to be skinny, but I’m not going out of my way to do it for others, no way in hell lol also important to notice that I don’t worship being skinny, my skinny is probably different from other people, I enjoy being curvy, even if I’m considered fat by others, I like myself more, so win-win

[@Sumi_the_floofy]

I’m not gonna lie I never really liked listening to people just like talk for a straight like hour but if I’m being honest, you make it actually fun to listen to even if it is for an hour!! :)

[@DaadirHusseinRoorow]

As a man, just be yourself and do what you like

[@CooksFSH]

I had a glow up in my late 20's.... honestly, focus on you health. Take care of your mental health, your emotional health, financial, your internal health and your skin. Learning to take care of what you have helps you to love who you are and not looking to exterior factors to accept yourself. Wishing you the best on the journey!

[@PFaith99]

I remember seeing a video a KZbinr created titled: You’re Not Ugly, You Were Just Born In the Wrong Era !!! And I couldn’t agree more. I have a tall naturally slim built. Not super curvy and I just feel like I’ve would’ve been that girl if I grew up in a different era 😂😂 but idk if the skinny look applies to non famous Black women. I think the standard of a black women being curvy no matter the current trend will still apply.

[@yev_tte]

your era will be back. don't change your body/self to fit the season.

[@moonamoonz]

Honestly, i'm just so tired of body trends and beauty standards. Why can't people just leave women's appearence alone? Also, if only all of us stopped caring about always fitting in these crazy standards, i'm sure they would die very fast.

[@Amirasuperdope]

Is it just me or you’re literally prettier than all of these celebrities in my eyes 😍

[@Minttu-ek1rc]

no need to put women against each other and compare their looks like this. why didn’t you just say she’s beautiful? why did you have the need to do the exact thing this video is speaking against? this is just ridiculous already

[@Amirasuperdope]

@@Minttu-ek1rc omg .. you can’t please everyone 🤷‍♀️ You missed my point. She’s a natural queen and stunning but when people pay thousands to “fix” what’s not broken, they tend to look worse. And that’s my opinion

[@fifi_3807]

i think we all dress to the standards of men, and it’s also the beauty standard women have for themselves. so when we see someone (a woman) who fits the male beauty standard we see them as pretty because that’s the look we’re all trying to achieve.

[@mikaela_mofu]

as a Jamaican that "Bomboclaat" was hilarious girll 😵‍💫😵

[@yoteti929]

I wanna say a few things: 1. this is one of my favorite hairstyles of yours PERIOODDTT EVERRRR YOU ATE DOWWWWNNN 2. Secondly, it's honestly crazy how we will probably never escape the cycle of trying to force ourselves into boxes for a temporary period of outside validation. Like just when we settle into a certain "era", a new one is ushered in. And we fall for it EVERY TIME!! It's a never ending loop

[@itzxstarzx]

bro the fact that i actually hate history but i could listen to u yap about it for HOURS istg u make it so interesting ❤️

[@rachelb7558]

One hour can’t wait to dig into this!

[@NkirukasWrld]

Hope you enjoy! Warning : I yap a lot 😂

[@jMARCEI2779]

I love your hairstyles they're so pretty

[@levik.3343]

love the vid! i like how you go into some history that proves the changing standards. Just a suggestion on how to make it next-level: looking up some of the pronunciations of these things would help! (example: heroin chic is pronounced heroin shee-k, it is the french word for fashionable or stylish instead of "chick"... also Marilyn, Bardot, Michelangelo...not a big deal but definitely a small thing that makes a lot of difference for the listener and they will know how to say it correctly after your video when they talk about it with others :) )

[@misssherlock2991]

All these trends are proof that we all need to surf the Internet less and touch the grass of reality more often 😂

[@st1nkylulu]

I swear as women, we will never be at peace with ourselves.

[@viv4188]

WAS WAITING FOE THIS VIDDDD i remember idk if it was you but someone said watch with the return of the y2k early 2000s aesthetic the body is going to come with it too

[@patrizziad3446]

They truly are puppets. All of them. Ignore these "celebrities". For good. Be your own person.

[@sansonkrylow1997]

I am just happy the BBL era is over now lets just be healthy pls 😂❤

[@whitneymccuiston6236]

Marilyn, not Marlin. I'm sorry even my subtitles picked up the mispronunciation.

[@whitneymccuiston6236]

To add: Bardot, is pronounced like 'Bardoe'

[@ElizabethNonsuch]

And the brand Dove is pronounced Duv, like the bird, not ‘doughve’ like the past tense of dive. It’s a soap brand in the uk.

[@ElizabethNonsuch]

Also, heroin chic is heroin sheek, not shik. ♥️

[@Lispylisperson]

@@ElizabethNonsuchand it’s Michael Angelo! But great video nonetheless

[@acaciah5063]

and she pronounced famine as fa-meen. but this doesnt take away how awesome the video is!

[@makaladeclouet6582]

Honestly every time I see your videos I always think you look so lovely❤

[@itss_theenellz]

Omgg I loved the video the content eats as per usual!! ❤ But damn NK you kept on saying “You know what I’m saying” the whole time after your points it became an ad-lib that was distracting and a bit shaky to listen to😭😭.. love you loads tho queen, you’re doing great xx

[@Czena]

off topic but girl your hair is so gorgeous in this video!! im obsessed

[@carlap748]

I feel like the "ideal" body changes when the current trend gets too out of control. Like when everyone wanted to be skinny and some people became anorexic, the curvy trend entered. Now that curves (specifically bbls) are becoming too over the top, the skinny trend makes a comeback. The same happens with any beauty trend. The current trend becomes too extreme so the opposite to it becomes the new trend

[@stephanieg4554]

Girl idk if this is the video you were talking about but your hair looks GOOD!😍

[@rattusskelly6393]

Yesss not enough people are talking about it😍

[@stephanieg4554]

I will never be perfect, as for everyone else, cause we’re already perfect in our own way. In this society, so many people judge each other, it’s not gonna matter if your skinny or overweight, have a big butt or not, everyone will judge so might as well love you for you since your’e the only person who’s opinion matters about you!

[@agatafurczyk9149]

More and more studies show that fillers (including HA) stay in one's body for long years - they just migrate to different areas than intended. They may also block lymphatic system = body's detox in that area doesn't work properly. This may potentially lead to cancer... Unfortunately, hyaluronidase - used to dissolve hialuronic acid - has it's own set of serious side effects...

[@radukian]

Yay less than a minute!

[@NkirukasWrld]

You early early 😂thanks hope you enjoy! Look forward to your thoughts 😊

[@Madi-zw3vl]

Not me getting a weight loss ad whilst watching this! 😂

[@krsnasakhi3329]

Do what the fuck what you want. As long as you are healthy from both inside and out, don't care about what others think. I have gained body fat this year but I feel better because my body is more than for appearance. It's meant to keep me alive. I can't slowly kill my body and expect it to keep me alive.

[@shadowwolf5877]

Exactly my friend

[@Whimorbood]

The thing about body types as fashion: like you said a lot of trends are inspired by POC. Not even recent years with fuller lips, braids, tanner body, BBLs and wasps figure but also in the past! Some historians think that victorian bustle was inspired by black body types (often fetishized and sexualized seen as "exotic"). Saartjie Baartman comes to mind, paraded and whose body fascinated victorians and sadly her body parts were displayed in Musee de l'homme for 150 YEARS. Her body was repatriated after 200 years after she was born. I think heroine Chic is just another example of things that are cool when rich, but seen as bad when a poor person does it. Artifically ripped jeans on a skinny middle class person? Cool and stylish. Ripped jeans on someone who had one pair untill it literally ripped on them because theyre poor and cant mend it? Its seen as gross. Its also very similar to when tuberculosis was seen as an illness of rich, poetic and romantic people (turns out its out of lack of hygene). It would show that someone is sickly and fragile and also doesnt have to work manually. People would draw blue veins on their chests to make their skin look thinner, sheer and delicate. Whats popular is whats least attainable too. You plucked all your eyebrows into skinny arches? Now a new trend is popular - bushy eyebrows. Besides the fact that throughout history, fashionability wasnt as much about the size of someone as about the shape of their figure, thats why people who dont do research about historical fashion include a scene of tightlacing a corset on a skinny actress (not many people tightlaced and corset were comfortable, many women wore them while working in factories and in the fields) to force a sinched waist while to achieve a fashionable sillouette people would use padding. Or even edited their photos! some people did care about a small waist but it was usually achieved by illusion. (im not talking about people who most likely had some sort of eating disorders, starved and tightlaced often). And today after wasp figure isnt "popular" anymore and celebs are removing theirs or going on ozempic, poorer people that saved so much money to get it now cannot reverse it. Similarly how a rich person that plucked all their eyebrows out like i mentioned can just buy a hair transplant for their eyebrows, but a poorer person is stuck with pencil eyebrows. tiny nitpick: The thing about prohibition: it was about piestic protestants that saw the society as sinful and evil and thought the root of it was alcohol. It was also about women wanting to get rights. Also also Flappers werent seen very well. They were the first generation of sexually progressive women (white women got a right to vote in 1920s in US) and being a loud, woman that loved alcohol, partied were seen as threatening to the moral order. I agree tho many women were drawn to the idea despite not being able to be one. Many flappers were from richer families who had time to not do much besides having fun. Many women joined the workforce (about 2 million) in 1920s but it was still just around 25% of population (i dont remember if it was total population or 25% of women). Hope my rambling is semi coherent im watching the video late.

[@Cletusdugumfrey]

just discovered your channel recently and I am in love with it. You talk on issues I've always thought about but never have really seen anyone feel the same way as me. Very grateful you are a content creator and I wish you all the subs!

[@livya135]

my freshman year of high school I did swim and sewed in little pads into my suit because I was so underweight and didn't have any curves at all. Later I developed anorexia and bulimia but it really does start so young. thank you for sharing that anecdote!

[@lishan222]

beauty standards are such a strange thing, growing up in australia skinny was always the "in" thing and still is.. I started living in New York and all of a sudden it's the more weight gained the more compliments I got. When I tell you I was confused 🤣 we all have to really just accept ourselves and do our personal best whatever that is

[@Lalaland099]

Compliments don't mean much. People only complement people they can relate to or see themselves in. Plus most people in America are fat so of course they'll like thicker women.

[@edithe4119]

i just don’t think it’s okay to talk about others bodies. even if they are a celebrity or you say you’re concerned. don’t do it! you have no idea why they are gaining, losing, or changing weight! but this video is really informative 💚

[@bri4026]

Hi gurl, I’m happy to be this early on such a great video/topic! Based on your comments, I thought to share a bit of my own story regarding skinniness and thoughts of plastic surgery. This might be a long one, so apologies in advance!: When you mentioned getting surgery at such a young age, I can’t help but think back to when I wanted (and honestly, I somewhat still do) to get a breast reduction/lift after losing about 60-70lbs after corona. Growing up super slim, then gaining a decent bit of weight from ages 13-18, I often struggled with wanting to change my body and/or appearance for both health & vanity reasons. Constantly trying to lose weight (I even had a journal where I would write my feelings….which was a funnnnn read when I found it a few years ago) during my critical moments as a teenager, I only lost weight during the panacea b/c I decided to only do it for me/myself. Without the pressure of being around others in school/events, I truly sat with myself and decided to eat better & exercise on MY terms. Fast forward a few months before I went to college, I was left noticeably “slim”, but almost more insecure than when I was plus size. Feeling down about my breast shape and size (or lack thereof at the time lol), I ended up leaving school during my first semester to receive consultation on a breast lift. Almost like a sign from the universe, I was never able to get ahold of the proper surgeons to move forward in time - beyond the multiple referrals made by my primary care doctor (which he even said I didn’t need). As the months rolled on and I continued back on campus that following semester, I realized it was something I should solely do for myself when I was ready. Not wanting a guy to find me “less attractive” b/c of my breasts, it was actually the men I dated/talked to who almost couldn’t believe I had such an insecurity. With no one besides my sister and my best friend attending the same college as me, I forget these people had never seen me as anything other than skinny. This was even a distinct characteristic my friends would describe me as - which was funny as I was the one forced to sit on peoples laps during carpools to parties 😂. Creating a weird complex in my mind with this information alone, I still to this day struggle with body dysmorphia. Having been on both sides of being plus size and now “slim-thick” lol, I can’t help but wonder how much of my feelings are perpetuated by societies standards? I appreciate your perspective on this topic, and how there truly is more to the issue than meets the eye. Graduating with my bachelor’s this past summer, I have learned a lot about myself during my last four years of college. Sharing this to anyone who might also struggle with body image issues (regardless of weight loss), just know it’s not a one-size fits all battle. However, it’s a journey that evolves as you continue to grow and change. Considering surgery at such a young age to “fix” what I believed I caused with my weight gain/extreme loss - it’s truthfully about not only loving yourself, but finding yourself eternally beautiful inside AND out! 💜

[@ObichukwuUgochi]

Hmm beauty standard have been around for a long time, speaking from my home Nigeria i live where being skinny is a problem 😢 my mom tends to make feel down a bout myself but i thank God for my friends 😊who loves me for who i am . Thank you for your video it was very educational ❤❤❤

[@kayl3r]

3:08 the BOMBOCLAAT caught me off guard 😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@hopeworld_2190]

Can definitely agree that it’s affected how I view myself when I was a younger teen to now (21) I have a low regard for myself, now I’m trying better to focus on being happy with what I look like while still going to the gym to lose a bit of weight but what I lose I want to gain in muscle! Definitely not a whole lot better but I’m trying to keep myself at a consistent pace

[@fifi_3807]

i tell myself i live with my parents food and bills won’t be free forever so i gotta make the most of it😭

[@urfav.haley_]

over the thousands of years still not everyone is being treated well because they’re not “hot enough”. it’s disgusting.

[@kevinedge254]

It doesn't matter what you look like as long as your healthy and in control of your body feeling confident.

[@WilliamsPinch]

When I was skinny, my family, friends and random men let me know that I looked sick. Weight is generally not just an indicator of health & attractiveness, but an indicator of social class.

[@KatieUnoXX]

As someone who’s been in recovery for an ED for nearly a decade this is such a terrifying trend to see come back :(((((( makes me believe all the “body positivity” of the 2010s was complete BS and anyone would have the ability to purchase being skinny if they could :(

[@kikiza123]

People calling Megan the stallion skinny is kind of funny. I mean she’s a very full bodied woman. The difference is she is very fit

[@user-cs3ee3mz9j]

let's stop treating our bodies like fast fashion pls

[@gibbyjibby0]

Oh my god thats a really good way to put it

[@Lalaland099]

The reason why this effects people is because they dont know their social standing.

[@strawken700]

Being a bit bigger especially in Asia can also make it harder for you to find a job because people expect you (as a woman) to be pretty and skinny. So yea, it kinda sad

[@JulianSteve]

Great video, N.K.! I really enjoyed the history lesson part of the video. History was always my favorite part of school, especially while attending college😅💯

[@rinku_yay]

girl your hair looks nice dw you were making it sound like a disaster in the community tab 😭

[@shadowwolf5877]

Honestly as long as you’re eating healthy and exercising daily or as often as you can it doesn’t matter what body type you have. Just my opinion

[@oathforblessed]

im get really sad, seeing girls my age be so insecure about their looks, once in a while i also get self-consious, but we are human, thats what makes us real. I never used ANY social media till my 17(aside utube and pntrst), and it helped me w having a great self-identity and i'm positive that if we would ban social medias for everyone who is under the age of 18, we would thrive.

[@briartwined]

I couldn't agree more. Australia recently announced a social media ban for under 16s, which at least is a step in a positive direction - let's hope this catches on more widely.

[@corry9]

I've had my own issues with these trends. In my family, being thick has always been in. No matter what. I have two gorgeous sisters who are curvy and have that hourglass figure. My cousins too. I, on the other hand, have a more rectangular body shape with hipdips. For a while, I kinda knew my body was different to theirs, but never knew why until social media made these things an issue. However, at uni, I have skinny friends. I was always stuck between wanting to have a big butt, smaller waist with huge boobs and being skinny with a flat tummy. NOW, I'm like f**k this. I just try to prioritise eating healthy, getting good sleep, and working out.

[@gibbyjibby0]

Me too girl🥹

[@withpeacelove366]

She's very eloquent and so far I've enjoyed the videos I've seen that she's made, but she pronounces a lot of words wrong like Marilyn, Bardot, Michaelangelo, and chic. I love that she says "period" though

[@crystaldripp2398]

COSMETIC SURGERY CAUTION⚠️ When I was 25, about 2 weeks before turning 26, I got breast implants. I loved them- but a year in I began having horrible chest pain and swelling above my breasts. I’m 29 now & I’ve been suffering somewhat often incredibly. I didn’t know that you can get Breast implant illness (BII). I had never heard of it. Nor did I know that you are supposed to undergo surgery to get them replaced every 10-15 years. Now as soon as I have the money again, I’m getting them removed. Natural is so much better.

[@Sitandspinpls]

I think what we should be promoting is that there's someone out there for everyone. If men and women both stopped trying to be other people and fit into these constructed social norms, we would all be a lot happier. But i fear that wont happen anytime soon because beauty IS capitalism. Its too ingrained in society and media to the point it's essentially permanently wired into our brains to fit into the mold. I hope that we can all collectively break out of our fears of being considered outside of the norm. It all starts with community after all

[@fimakei]

it's so satisfying and interesting so listen to you. thank you for your videos and important info!!

[@LLawrah]

Try pronouncing it Merry Lynn Monroe. Marlin was so cute tho 😂☺️

[@jamiew.6606]

I had to look at the video to see who she was talking about lol.

[@sseuregi147]

i am so confused, like so many models and celebrities are super skinny while all the xs dont even fit skinny girls

[@LadySilence]

Girl the way youre saying Marilyn (" Marel-Lyn") like Marlon...,😭😭😭