No Fats No Femmes No Dark Skins

[@larrenstephens4917]

There's also a standard on LGBT series where everyone is masculine and thuggish or extremely flamboyant. It leaves those of us that aren't either and are in the middle to feel left out

[@melvonjohnson5711]

I'm not feminine or I'm not thuggish bro---pretty much I'm invisible in the black gay community and the black straight community.

[@suchaclassylady]

Straight men do the same thing. They stay clowning BBW's, but where are all these big-boned-baby-mamas coming from?

[@214InnocentGirl20]

Right lol

[@itinavarait]

Ikr! a guy at my work place said "man please she too big, that ain't my type" and ended up having a baby with her.

[@SouthernB3lle]

I swear I'm so tired of black men saying I only date light skinned women or white girls. I understand you like what you like but I couldn't never discriminate against someone because of their complexion that's pathetic 😒

[@SeriousMindsTV]

+Symone Loi you right. I love all black women. I mean i love light skin women but i love all black women. with me its personality over everything....no matter what shade the tone is if the personality aint clicking i cant be with them.

[@SouthernB3lle]

+SeriousMindsTV you have every right to like whatever type of woman you like... You might prefer a lighter skinned female but I just can't stand how people can say oh no brown skin or dark skin women! That's crazy like all light skin women are better 🤔😒. I know plenty brown/dark skin women who are very beautiful and have their shit together but have been told oh I couldn't date you because of your skin complexion

[@SeriousMindsTV]

Symone Loi yeah thats true. as a darker skin man myself i face that kind of hate as well. i mean i be hearing how women be like oh i want a light skin man cause i want my kids to be lightskin. what the hell. I dont get it. its that Willie Lynch theory. i hate how darker skin women get treated. shit i love me some chocolate lol

[@SouthernB3lle]

+SeriousMindsTV yeah I've heard guys complain about that too. lol I want light skin kids wow. My great great grandparents were both dark skin and out of 12 kids 9 were light to medium brown... Yeah I hate that you've been discriminated against. Maybe one day we (the black community) will change. In everyone else's eyes we are all black light or dark skin

[@Gunngirl]

And it's always the darkest and most heavyset men that boast they only want a skinny, light skin woman with long hair.

[@sleepyccs]

Thanks for saying this. When dark skinned women say some of this stuff we are called bitter, jealous and insecure.

[@KyeKaiN]

Yup

[@tyeshab2010]

I darkskin and I love my complexion I just hate the "youre pretty for a darkskin" or "I usually dont date darkskin women but you..." like come on who cares just compliment me without bringing darkskin women down

[@monaleon7184]

girl yes it gets old i get that comment too smh

[@pimpindymepiece]

Girl yes! I hate those comments- and sadly they usually come from black men. I usually experience black men telling me "you're pretty for a darkskin girl," whereas white men just say "wow you're pretty." It makes me sad that my brothers are the ones discriminating between light and darker skin smh

[@Gunngirl]

I remember in elementary school whenever an adult said someone dark skinned was pretty people would laugh. I mean host do we get that ingrained that dark skinned automatically equal ugly. And only light eyes get compliments and ohhh and ahhhh over. I see very pretty dark eyes but no one says nothing about that. Some people act like a black person with light eyes is like finding a unicorn.

[@marissa___explainsitall]

It's so funny that I only hear that comment or "I talk to darkskin girls too" from guys who are my complexion or darker like wheeet?!

[@annettejenkins383]

I remember being told this as a child-I have to admit-Some of it stuck with me. I make it a point to tell all little girls especially my complexion that they're beautiful. I was picked on by black people(my people). Funny other races always called me beautiful.

[@HeartBr8kRach]

"I'm still living still learning still paying bill late" 😭😂 I love u Justin.

[@geraldbean1]

This is exactly what black women say continuously, only to be told we're bitter. To be honest I'm surprised this happens in the gay community, because black men who are darker are seen as ideal (in the straight community). If you're a dark skin woman, nope, you're ugly; light skin man, nope, you're soft. Definitely not surprised about the femme and fat thing. It's just disgusting and everyone is tired of it but the people who swim in this shit. Even people that don't fit any of these beauty standards, expect these beauty standards from other people ?!?!?? Crazy And wear what you want Justin, you're a Leo. It's about how you feel about yourself, not what they think.

[@npkandi]

Seems like the colorism transforms over to the gay community. My daughter is dark and does not look like the light skin girl woman. I have always put it into her that she is beautiful and worthy. Take pride in YOU Justin

[@Dollpuri419]

One thing I noticed with a lot of gay web series is that it makes it seem like gay males are overly sexualized. They put sex and being sexy out to the fore front. Its never about a man going to school and his experiences like Different World was but maybe with gay males. You usually dont see that.Its always shirt less, nice bodies, gorgeous faces and hook ups. So I do hope you create something where we can maybe see your experiences and how it really is. I would love to see that.

[@Shegotthajuic3]

Noah's Arc was a true gem, that show showed a little bit of Everybody!!

[@jameskthompson9469]

+James Smith III Absolutely!!!

[@devinngeorge]

it was predominantly fem representation and they never had a masc couple only masc and fem couples.

[@imgrownforreal]

+diondra01 I loved that show!

[@KhaliaKearn]

love that show!!!

[@toyaza10]

loved noahs arc!!!

[@Tululah87]

I understand exactly what you're saying. I would like to see more variety in web series and such too. I used to watch Noah's arc and i remember seeing a dark skinned character who wasn't fat but wasn't exactly muscle bound but he was still attractive. I'm a dark skin guy who was obese for most of my life (almost 300 pounds only 5'8) and even though i'm 165 now --i'm still struggling with my self esteem and the damage that was done to me over the years. Honestly, at 30 i'm starting to like what i see but still don't feel comfortable with the gay scene because of how superficial they can be but i'm learning to move past that. I've still never had a boyfriend and guys still reject me unless it's about sex .Honestly, i've learned that it's always going to be something someone is not going to like---you can't fit into everyone's dream. I'm not for everyone and everyone is not for me and i'm actually beginning to be ok with that. overall, it takes a smart person to see past the many "ideas" the media tries to spin on us. Not every man with muscles is attractive and there are plenty of men who are dark skin that are just as attractive as white and other . Features and self presentation are what makes someone attractive not a skin color---at least, this is what i've learned. In conclusion, media is sex and image based---that's what they claim sells but honestly i beg to differ. It would be nice to see real people on TV once and for all. I'm currently working on a comic book project about a rock star who is gay and black and this comic is not going to be focused on sexuality but more on seeing people as people.

[@ochenkrasivy86]

I'm one of your viewers watching from Moscow, Russia. Loved the shout out. Not many black people out here so I try to keep up on what the black LGBTQ community is talking about by watching your channel and a few others. And it's a nice way to keep up with the slang. I've been here for almost 6 years now. Sending you positive vibes my friend.

[@chrischris571]

+ochenkrasivy86 +Nice looking.

[@KingofReads]

+ochenkrasivy86 wow omg thank you!

[@desreegraydesigns4106]

There is this one black guy in my business class and he loves to yell out "black lives matter" but then he turns around and says racist things about Indian and Chinese people, and it annoys the hell out of me because I dont understand how minorities can bring down other minorities. SMH

[@whatreallymatters571]

I agree

[@ekenzie1530]

Yes, I know I realise that happens often. Being discriminated against and then turn around and do the same damn shit towards another race. Trying to elevate ones self in a pecking order of race or sexual desirability.

[@OnTheOcean007]

"Got degrees but ain't got no soul. . . ." 💀💀😂😂 #Message

[@kkain123]

That is so true....if we all noticed, when they replaced the Moms on Fresh Prince and Family Matters, they always replaced them with lighter skin women.

[@Jessica_Beee]

I live in Baton Rouge...actually moved here after living in Atl for 30 years. Anyway, honey Baton Rouge is NOT all that cracked up and there is NOTHING upper echelon about it. You come as you are baby and keep it moving. Do not change who you are. The objective is to get your voice heard, not for it to be a fashion show. So do not go all out to get a tux for an event in BATON ROUGE! Chile, get u a polo or button down collar shirt and some khaki's & call it a day. Stay true to yourself.

[@ieshajohnson7398]

Yes, Justin there is a skin problem in the black community. All the time thats all I hear is they so cute and light they make it seem like being full black is a problem we have to be mix with something to be pretty.

[@thenewlifeofme]

Us black folks hating our own features and then wondering why we're at the bottom. We are are where we put ourselves in the first place.

[@sarahlangston7525]

Have you watched Saints and Sinners on the Bounce network, it comes on at 9pm Sundays. I think they have a very diverse cast.

[@monea85]

This is why the #JayHive rocks with you. Real topics, Real discussions!! Thank you!

[@yoka955]

I've pretty much given up on gay dating apps. like you said, most people painfully lack communication skills. honestly, i think they just don't care. People should get real.

[@kayceecoco5840]

I felt the opposite, I support the lbgt community but I feel like mostly gay black men we see on tv or on the Internet, are the over the top gay men, the dramatic ones, always shading, or starting gossip my cousin is gay he has shown me a different world to other different gay black men.

[@realityskanks1]

+KayCee Coco That's on tv shows made by straight people, I think he is talking about gay based web-series. He means the gay community themselves making gay shows with a certain look and usually they do choose no fats and no feminine gays... but you are right, on straight made shows and mainstream media they are usually portrayed too over the top.

[@kayceecoco5840]

+Eric Duffy ahh okay. Thanks !

[@tjtanner9311]

In a conversation, my dad recently said, "Can you imagine being a baby and that dark like *shudders*?" (referring to dark Afrrican babies) and I had to correct him. There's nothing wrong with being dark and you can be a cute dark skin baby too.

[@trinettaj381]

Sleigh bed Justin!!!! LMAO. I agree about the color thing. Yes, there's an issue with skin tone. I happen to fall in the middle of the spectrum as far as color so I have never really experience negative or positive due to my skin tone.

[@Brooklyn79h]

Idk about anyone else but I love me a dark skin man😍😛

[@Dea9274]

Colorism in the black community is a really serious problem and people tend to sweep under the rug instead of admitting that its a big issue I'm a dark skin female and its like you have to work a thousand times as hard but in the end you will always will feel like you aren't not good enough because your not light skin, biracial or racially ambiguous.

[@Nina513]

Since I been seeing the promo photos for the new season of Empire, I began to question the same thing. No one would be as interested in that show if the Lyon men were dark skin. The only brown skin person in there family is Cookie and she's not even dark.

[@SHutchinson]

I think that colorism is a worldwide issue as well as weight. I think that it's wonderful that you are willing to speak on many topics that others will not even touch because honestly, most people are only concerned with what people want to hear and not what people need to hear. I did blogging back in the day And also did some for another blogger his website is still up mine is down because frankly at the time working and keeping up with a website was overwhelming. I would love to see you do some interviews, I know you are not the celebrity kiss ass type So I think that you would give us something that has been yet to be done. Anyone who is going to do a blog post for you, make sure you check them out from the Rooter to the Tooter and allow them to send you the story, you review and post. Please don't think that I'm talking to you like you're stupid, but I know that some Bloggers will allow others to access their website and I can tell you that is a recipe for disaster. You know how it goes people love you today and hate you tomorrow. Justin is Justin and I know my Lane But if you ever get into a pinch where you just need somebody to do some writing just let me know.Just because I write fucked up on KZbin, I know the difference between KZbin and Blogging. Also, never give your writers all of your secrets or tips matter fact, no shade but less is better. I have seen it happen so many times, they will come under another Blogger and Then Try to take you out. Granted, I know that you are your only competition. I just gotta make sure my Boo is good.

[@JuvaniRichardson]

Keep it going Justin! These topics you choose make you relatable. That is why I support you. x

[@naediggs4816]

Yessss Justin! I am with you. So many of these stories are just lackluster and lazy! And in the lgbt community, the colorism is soooo real. Everyone looks the same/likes the same things because we've been gentrified to accept just one standard of beauty, and it's very sad. The world is so beautiful and so diverse and that we close ourselves off to so much of it is tragic. I'm of the mentality now wherein if you cannot be bothered to try and represent any of the groups I am apart of, or cannot try to represent any one else and be inclusive to more than a particular archetype, then I cannot be bothered to support you with my viewership or revenue. I've always liked animation because honestly speaking, I always found more diversity there. I write and draw so when I get my bearings together, I'll be creating more myself as well

[@jboepro1]

Its a large segment of the gay black male community that love admire thick, dark skinned brothers.

[@snakeskinshoes20]

I agree with your video because I am dark skinned and heavy. I feel not represented on the media platform.

[@blkbutterflii]

I hate those pointy toe shoes too! Walking around looking like a leprechaun. What you're saying about Gay men experiencing a mainstream idea of what they should look like applies to Black women too. Thank you for this video, and you're right, Black is beautiful. All shades included. Now only if we could get each other to honestly believe it and not just hash tag it.💖

[@randitohoward2582]

a lot of your old videos are being recommended to me for some reason and all your points are making sense but i have to say you can really see your growth. you can tell you've definitely gotten a lot more comfortable making videos and voicing your opinion. i think it would be really cool and beneficial if you could revisit some of the topics from your old videos like this one or why black gay men don't like going into barbershops with some of your friends if you haven't already :)

[@jamesgirl37]

Your well spoken Justin and your experience in the military counts towards a lot of course with personality . Go to the men's wear house the will help you pick out app route out fit and tailor you clothes and have sales on the pants and sales on nice dress shoes.

[@MrCocoabutter101]

Speak, I literally just deleted all my apps because I got tired of the bullshit. I've just decided that colorism is played and to walk in all my melanin glory!

[@quilaquila5462]

I love listening to you talk

[@Jazzedup521]

This topic is so true not only in the gay community but in life in general. My best friend was thick and is dark skin and gay. He had the same problem he didn't feel like he fit in with the image. He lost a whole bunch of weight and changed his wardrobe. He is happy on the outside but the inside is still damaged from that. It is society that makes people feel like if you don't have that perfect imagine then you aren't shit. Every time a picture is posted of gabby you should see the disgusting comments people post about her. We as people in general need to be more supportive of each other.

[@loeuphoria]

mmmm that Empire comment true true trueeeee. I guess you can lowkey say that about Blackish too. hmm

[@DivinefrequenciesXL]

Riiight

[@MsAmiina]

The whole time I was thinking about "between women"

[@naediggs4816]

Saaaaame!!!!! I really liked it at first, but after a while it became eh (season 3)... Also I really didn't like how the butch lesbians basically categorized themselves as men, and tried to stereotype the other women because they were femmes. There were scenes when Rae would say stuff like "a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do," and saying stuff like "you females are so emotional." Like, huh?? Did your vagina get lost somewhere? You're on a show called between _women,_ what is all this man shit?? And I understand trans, and that's fine, but I felt like they devalued femininity to affirm and validate their masculinity, which was some heteronormative, binary bullshit (sorry for the rant lol)

[@DivinefrequenciesXL]

That series has a diverse look to it. Finding Me the web series is what i think he's talkin about.

[@MaeSekou]

Interesting video. I saw a flier on Facebook for some type of gay event (sex party basically). The requirements to attend were be attractive, no fats (don't be obese), no fems or you will be turned away. I'm not fat or fem and I'm a handsome guy. But I was very offended my that and was highly over the Black gay scene.

[@Karl_95]

Right on

[@LindaLynn93]

Amazing and very informative video! There is also a problem with the black community in Urban Fiction books nowadays too! It is such a shame the way creators, publishers, producers, and content creators are truly allowing image to be their guide line to getting views.

[@sirblkalot]

!!!!!!! thank you for this video!!!!!! you are absolutely right. the lack of diversity is sad. the point of these videos is to create a space where the marginalized are represented and although folk are entitled to present their work the ways in which they choose, but marginalizing the marginalized seems to defeat the purpose. there is a notion that sex sells. sex does but sex ain't the only thing that sells. cotton sells. beans sell. water. collard greens. support is needed. and I always say create what you don't see. aesthetically the work Lamont Pierre does is beautiful but that's about it. street behavior is about as diverse body type but the editing and writing on that joint is a but off. as a bunch of other shows. you are asking for quality. which isn't much to ask for. and I don't need these show to be realistic, I do appreciate when the shows understand more than a penis works.

[@GlamQueen728]

i totally feel you I watched the L word and in all the seasons they only had one black girl on there and yes they all were skinny not all shapes and sizes and thats not real life

[@kmcharles92]

Just be yourself Justin! You have a big fan base because of who you are not what you wear and I am in graduate school now so I attend my share of seminars/conferences as well. I connect the most with the people who don't seem to be "putting on" for the bragging rights. Like you said half of those people sitting up on their high horses without souls in their bodies! Fuck it. Be who you are!

[@soubanealiq5]

yes thank you for making videos like this very important could not wait to hear your perspective.

[@msfantasico]

I'm glad your tackling issues like this ,I never really see it from other black gay youtuber. ... thank you 👏👏👏👏👏👏👍😙

[@bobgray6498]

This was a great video. You almost never see black people on instagram. >.< Makes me sad, black people are so beautiful, but the only ethnic people you see on instagram are like Puerto Ricans with green eyes :\

[@demimatthews4309]

I am not seeing what you're complaining about, not to say it doesn't exist. What I thought you were going to speak on, is how the gay masculine men, not wanting anything to do with Fat or Fem gay men, of which I'm sick of. As far as skin color, the gay world loves their black,( dark skin color) men, as long as they're MASCULINE AND NOT FEMININE! You're GORGEOUS, minus the profanity! I rarely see light complexion gay men with green, gray, and light brown eyes, on these shows you speak of.

[@Karl_95]

Nice comment.i agree

[@simplydeep1985]

Justin the only way to stop this colorism and sizeism is to make films of our own we can make movies or show how we want instead of depend on other people and that's another problem with us we lean on other people to fix our shit like they owe us but the bottom line is they don't own us shit.

[@Babyphatluver]

Colorism is happening within our own community not just the outside preferring lighter skinned

[@GOGETTAVISUALS]

when u coming to baton rouge Justin

[@getoffmywifiwityolookingas6034]

Justin you have a nice build. Especially if you got muscles

[@saleemah2438]

you worry about your weight too much per some of the videos I have watched of yours....I personally think you are just one of the most hansom men ive see hands down...but when you said if these bullets hit you let me touch and agree with your spirit...lawd I love you lol

[@savonndelivrus1488]

I look terrible in most photographs . Some people always look good. Television and film want photogenic people.

[@alesiayw]

Who is this guy???? He seems So cool, down to earth, very well spoken.

[@kgrace9360]

Aww! I needed my JustinJ fix 2day, & 4 a minute I felt sad 4 u! There's the problem w/ light & dark & hair texture, size & what have u! My mother is Cape Verdean & my father African American. Although both sides r black, it was my father's people that sort of disgusted me when I would lay out 2 tan, & they said that I'd ruin my pretty light skin. ugh. U just have 2 b true & confident because that's real beauty. U r beautiful just the way u r, & I'm not just saying that, cuz I myself hate false compliments! It's not how beautiful u r..is more important of how 1 is beautiful. Find out "how" u r beautiful, & let it shine. 💋❤

[@johnajjakari80prooftruth19]

Thank you so much JustinJ,for making this video, much love brother, GODBLESS.

[@sandersa813]

👍🏾keep on doin ya thang Justin 😘

[@zombiedprince08]

Justin you need to put my husky azz in the show I have credentials lol.

[@Thesweaterfactory]

I would go with a black guy or asian or any other race but I would probably be more inclined to go into a relationship with a white man because I am white and that is my preference. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. It doesn’t mean I exclude anyone, I just prefer people of my own race. It’s like you go with certain types of guys just in a lustrous way, if you have kinks etc but you may not want that in a relationship, I know it isn’t really the same but to put it into some kind of sense. If someone is attractive, or you click, at the end of the day, you will wanna explore and sometimes your usual preferences go out the window.

[@DailyPositiveAffirmatives]

Justin, unabashed colorists are a blessing in disguise. The word "preferences" is often incorrectly used. There is nothing exclusionary about having a preference, e.g. "I prefer to date men who resemble Morris Chestnut, but I'd still go on a date with those who look like Shemar Moore." What most really mean and may not even truly know it, is they're into people who look as far away from black as possible. Consider yourself spared, because you truly are. Never date someone who hates themselves.

[@Refining1]

After listening to the rest of this, I think you spoke a lot of truth here, Justin. A lot of these gay web-series' I don't even watch. I want to because I want to support anything gay and black, as I think we need to be represented much more in the media, but I just CAN'T! The story-lines are all the same and 95% of it is about sex and lust, and that becomes pretty boring when it gets run in the ground. Like where is the actual STORY? Plus, the acting is usually pretty poor; just being honest. But they're trying, so I don't judge them too harshly. The reality shows are usually the same old storyline about reading, shading, and materialism. I can say that "The Boyz Next Door" is a little different from the rest. I never get bored watching that series; it's well casted and put together, production and editing wise. And I've seen a few great short stories on KZbin. Even the DL: Chronicles was really good when it was running...very professionally done. We just have to be professional and inclusive/relatable with our productions and we'll have no problem holding people's attention. And I can really relate to what you said about not fitting in. It's why I don't post a lot of pics or go to a lot of events. I'm even feeling nervous about this big gay event I'm to in a couple of months because of the same reasons. Gay people, in particular, are often so bougie and snobbish that it'll make you feel very intimidated and unworthy if you don't have what everyone thinks you should have.

[@dsww7485]

Man if I was in ATL I would be at your door to help you with this project! It is so true man we don't all look like we either don't eat or in the gym 24/7...Hell I am a medical neuroscientist and do not have the time to be in the gym all the time, I AM DOING EXPERIMENTS!

[@devigainey64]

Hey Justin! I was wondering did u see the series Noah's Arc, if so what is ur opinion of that show?

[@sandrarobbins5770]

Justin, I can't dictate someone's finances but you would represent yourself beautifully with a suit on. We can't control everyone's prejudices but in business and social networking, a suit is appropriate. I truly enjoy your videos and I would want you to look dapper in all situations. Don't sell yourself short, you would rock a suit because your naturally handsome. I'm a large woman and I have never thought I looked less than anyone. I hope you feel the same. Chocolate skin is always beautiful. A nice white long sleeve shirt with a vest and slacks is an alternative look. Good look on the networking.

[@cherelleroberts4316]

@justinj1232 you think K was wrong for clapping on Yee?

[@curli-lettey4319]

People are so wrapped up in the makeup, the bigbutt and the overstyled fashions and the weaves tend to forget all these things are trends and trends come and go. Its going to come a time where the basics of beauty and style are gonna be in again and will stay around longer than these trends that are being overemphasized now partly due to the transgender life, people are gonna want to know who is actually authentic as the person they are presenting themselves to be.

[@FashionParadise04]

Can you do a video on your opinion of the Kehlani drama

[@realityskanks1]

@Justinj1232 Okay I may be lighter skinned and dye my hair blonde but I ACKNOWLEDGE fully that colorism exists in the Black community as a whole and it is SAD that we let something meant to PROTECT US from the sun, something natural, and beautiful as the presence of PIGMENT decide whether someone is attractive or not... It's just silly, but I digress... Now I am not skinny, so the heavy set part I can relate to and actually see from my shoes. The LGBT community is very shallow, and I never felt I fit in unless I was claiming to be a Bear or something and that is just not a box I wanted to be forced into...Granted I don't watch gay series, but I am not surprised on your dissection of them, because I see it all over instagram and tumblr, Justin you are so right, they all look the same and we do have an image problem... and even by looking at one of your comments that said "Oh fat people cannot expect to get attention from a skinny guy, blah blah blah"... just totally missing the mark! It saddens me that these people think self worth comes from whether you can get some dick or get laid, that is not worth! Worth is what you make of yourself in life and dignity. I get what you are saying, you aren't complaining that you can't get any dick, you are simply saying that we need more representation of colors, shapes, and sizes. We need all spectrum of Black gay men, because when a young boy is kicked out of his fucking home for being gay by his parents and then he is shunned by his fellow gays as well because he don't look a certain way... That is hurtful as hell.... Oh by the way, I wanna touch on another point about men being so sex driven... It is actually scientifically proven that gay men are the MOST sexually active, followed by straight couples, and lesbians tend to be the LEAST sexually based in relationships, and that IS NOT because gay men are nasty or sinful, it's just that we are two men and men are usually more sexual in thoughts (sometimes). I totally got your point Justin, I am a huge fan of you, thanks for making worthwhile videos that spark conversation that is much needed. Keep up the good work my friend.

[@asktheglutenfreechef3072]

JustinJ Im just now catching up on all these youtubers finding time to make whole videos to shade you? No mam? Pay them DUST. We love you

[@Razorfendown]

You are projecting. I feel like deep inside there are some insecurities. I am a dark skinned guy and I get attention from every gender and race. I am able to do this because I focus only on self improvement. U can't be fat and expect to date a skinny guy/girl. Everyone wants the best regardless of race/gender. If you are not offering the best, then you have nothing to complain about.

[@KingofReads]

+Razorfendown completely missing the point. Fat, thick whatever you want to call it. I get attention from men and women all day long. It's not about attention or dating. I'm talking about the representation in black gay media.

[@PhenChare]

+Razorfendown I'm a bit confused about your statement. What do you mean you can't be "fat" and date someone skinny and that the "best" has to be slim or light? Do you hear/see yourself typing? Who told you that one human is superior to another based on what they look like. The only thing you can say about so called fat is maybe a health issue, but that's not the case all the time either. But the media has screwed your head with their standards of beauty or attractiveness and I think that is what Justin is attempting to state here.

[@KingofReads]

+OroraMonroe GO IN!!

[@PhenChare]

+Justinj1232 I'm just tired of some people and their shallow thoughts judging others by how they "look". I often receive the reverse kind of discrimination which is also prevalent being a light skinned black woman. I've been told that I look "high maintenance" or "like a gold digger" or that I'm not black enough. How stupid is that? These kind of thoughts on both ends of the spectrum is what has couples of any sort ending up in break up after break up because they didn't look for the true substance of a person in the first place.. up until they learn that they are involved with a "pretty asshole" is when they choose to double think their choices. People can miss me with that BS. Give me real.. even if it's real so called "ugly".

[@Razorfendown]

+OroraMonroe You are probably insecure about who you are that is why this people can get to you. There is a standard of beauty out here and you have to live by it. You can complain all you want and you will always lose the argument. In everything in life, there is always a spectrum. From light skinned to dark skinned, from black to white, tall to short, and skinny to fat. Humans will always pick one end of the spectrum to be superior to the other. This is how natural selection comes works. Even animals do the same. We are wired this way. You can rant and rave all you want. At the end of the day, your one opinion does not affect that of the majority. I am a well known Yoyo dieter and I can tell you, when I am chubby, I get no attention. However, when I get ripped people come out of the woodwork. This is life n I have accepted it. Self improvement is the key. Focus on yourself and not others. Natural selection is a part of life.

[@simplydeep1985]

and Justin check out this show on youtube called street behavior it's a good series and please check out another show called the dl chronicles and do you watch any kind of professional wrestling like wwe, tna impact wrestling and lucha underground?

[@ksay1625]

Sorry off topic but no Potomac review?

[@robertanderson258]

We all BLACK to white people we the only ones that talk about light skinned and dark skinned

[@Karl_95]

Yes my white friend referred to my high yellow skin friend as chocolate.i was done.

[@deshawn18]

The Real Gaywives of Houston I s a webseries that you can check out and fices you something different(dark skin, big guys, feminine). I don't feel like every show has to show every different gay man. About Him is too cute!!! Its the best out right now. I support you wanting to see bigger, darker, more feminine gays on screen.

[@naenaeboo5488]

Did you watch Empire last night Justinj?

[@dionneking8]

amen this post is life!! 2nd one coming? ?

[@TheDreemchaser]

This was great, it has been, and will continue to be a conversation that must be had- because nothing's changing.

[@OfficiallyDiamondDash]

LMFAO I'm so tempted to name drop these webseries you're speaking of !! you're hitting on the HEAD !!

[@jennifertroupe6947]

I Dont see what the problem is with a darker skinned dude. I personally love chocolate. ain't nothing better than a dark brown brother. nothing. well that's my opinion anyway

[@TumbleTyme757]

This is the Justin J I love, I agree with everything you said.

[@chronicmovin8183]

honestly they portray all gay men as these perfect muscular beings and all of us are sick of it but gay men arent actually like that i will admit most gay guys are looking for sex ALOT and i dont realy like that either

[@cogmrvee4322]

you rite they come down on dark skin people in the industry I'm dark so the darker you Are the better

[@JmeHayGreenz]

absolutely live 4 your videos! love you J x

[@dariush8858]

its how we were raised. Justin I have watch u alot and even you have used the term good hair. The do this in every outlet though. modeling, acting, gay and straight.

[@biancalord488]

He is bringing awareness

[@bobbob-sv4mk]

You like what you like. Skin color has been made political thus not liking a certain skin color is political. But skin color is no more political then height, weight, eye color etc

[@hannahanthony1714]

god bless you Justin j 1232. I hope many good things come your way

[@nichellewilliams9912]

and whenever they scream no fems u know they a lady

[@shaunm1314]

Colorism is still a serious and depressing problem in the Black community. Sad...

[@Refining1]

I, honestly, don't know where you are seeing all of these 6 ft, chiseled, tattood, light-skinned, "masculine" men in these web series', but I would like for you to show me. To me, it looks like 90% of gay men, in the media, are portrayed as effeminate. I, as a masculine gay male, have always felt left out because all I see are eccentric, exaggerated depictions of gay men. There are only *two* gay web-series' I can think of that actually have some men who are masculine, and that is "DL Chronicles" and 'TBND' series, and TBND series also has a variety body types. Other than that, all I see is effeminate (and "in-between") men. I wonder if you guys who are more effeminate or darker skinned would have a problem if every single gay man in media was feminine and/or dark skinned. Is it that you just want everyone to look like you so you don't have to feel insecure? You guys do have to give as much acceptance as you are asking for... But I do get what you're saying, for the most part, and I agree. Gays tend to be very shallow and superficial...especially the men, as we're already very primal creatures. I also agree with you about the light-skinned craze. Gay black men (IDK about lesbians because I'm not a gay female) do tend to be obsessed with light-skinned men, but this colorism has been a problem within the black community, in general and at large, for a very long time; it's not just the gays. Us black people still have this color complex going on that really is troubling/annoying once you grow up and realize how very ignorant and shallow it is. I've seen some beautiful black men, in my life, who were from an almost snow-white complexion to as black as burnt charcoal at mid-night, and I never thought "if only he was lighter" or "if only he was darker" because their complexions fit them so perfectly...and that's the way everyone would see it if they were really mature.

[@codedlulu8821]

what about that brother in am unbreakable kimmy

[@mochantaziousbarnes5794]

I love you JustinJ

[@campc1]

The only PROPER business SUIT is black with white shirt, short or long sleeve, black pants, solid black socks, black dress shoes rounded. Any color tie, but MUST HAVE RED in it. Preferably solid red. AND the tie should be double Windsor period. No half knots. Tie tacks are for church. cuff links simple/optional. And if you think I'm lying about this, try anything else and wonder why you got overlooked. No pinstripes either...

[@songjames4609]

So true... hey Justin I know exactly what you were saying. I was just saying that to one of their creators of a popular LGBT show. why are there not any plus size lesbians in your show? the characters on your show does not represent the diversity within the community. Thank you for addressing this topic

[@giadesplas1314]

I'm glad ,I'm married ,I fear for my gay friends and the dating scene .even for my straight friends . if I was single ,I wouldn't know where to start dating.dangerous and scary out there.

[@sidior12]

This psychosis is endemic of the Black community at large, and the gay community mirrors the larger society.

[@YBSPEAKSTRUTH]

love the video topic and totally agree with you on every level. my question is when will the black gay community be able to be featured on mainstream tv networks or even on other networks ? shit im sick of seeing us play the bag lady holding fish bags or being apart of their team such as wardrobe stylists or hair and makeup crew im so sick of this shit. you have black gay men out here with good normal jobs makin a living. all shapes, sizes and ages. child please this image that we all look flawless is a scam some have a acne with bad ass skin and some are alil more hefty than others like myself. so yes totally agree. they feed this image to the world and you have so many young gays trying to aspire to be this phony thing that isnt real in the everyday normal world and you have some who even go broke or even develop a self hating mentality due to what society deems sexy or appropriate.

[@desreegraydesigns4106]

what does no femmes mean?

[@pinklamborghini5624]

"No feminine gays"

[@desreegraydesigns4106]

+Tomy Roe thanx

[@Maimuna_joy]

You are speaking to my heart. I feel exactly the same. So many people do not want to admit it but it's not that were hating it's just how we feel there's not a lot of black women or black gay man shown in a more natural realistic light. So let's create our own narrative! IG: anyah101

[@MsFitGoddess]

Not for nothing, since I missed it. I thought this was an empire review, lol. I didn't realize how complex the LGBT community is when it comes to these topics. Even watching gay bloggers, gay beauty guru's and gay personalities. It's divisive.