No Genders, Only HONK | Nonbinary Memes

A little look at those memes of nonbinary
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[@jasmineogrady4837]

the most gender affirming moment I had was in a doctors waiting room and this toddler was looking at me all confused and I heard him say to his mom: "girl? boy?" and then he said "boygirl." while nodding affirmatively. so wholesome

[@Foxiz]

🤭

[@upliftothers4599]

Best gender euphoria

[@depaula1710]

That sounds like such a gpod moment. Hope there will be more of those

[@Romanticoutlaw]

what a little chad. Proof that children aren't doomed to be "cOnFuSeD" at the existence of queer people, that kid figured it out real quick

[@Foxiz]

@@Romanticoutlaw Yes! Children are pretty self aware, since they have to understand the living experience for the first time. Personally I suspect that the ones saying "they're just kids, they don't understand things yet", are: 1) The ones who have forgot how it was to be a kid, or 2) The ones who doesn't want to think about how open minded they were when they were kids

[@SilverAceOfSpades]

My transmasculine identity made me more in touch with my feminine side. Being a girl sucked, so I was an "I'm basically a boy" tomboy. But by learning about my gender identity, I discovered that feminine things don't cause me discomfort, being female does. However, I'm never buying women's pants again. The lack of functional pockets is a dealbreaker for me.

[@maskedmallard537]

Choose gender: [ ] Man [ ] Woman [✅] Pockets

[@normalhuman9878]

I’m too smol for mens pants 😭

[@transShork]

​@@maskedmallard537noooo mine is going to be [ ] Man [ ] Woman [ ] Pockets ✅️ No Pockets

[@nat3007]

Who chooses no pockets?

[@teritt]

@@normalhuman9878 Ooh, life hack, get a belt and when you put on xs men’s pants, if you fold the back so in like a sort of two sides over the middle fold way, it fits nicely and the belt holds it in place :D I’ve been doing this with my Dad’s shorts cause I am _very skinny_ and his shorts sometimes shrink in the wash

[@pixiesouter9461]

Coming out as non-binary comes with the extra stress of having to explain to your older family member what non-binary is.

[@teritt]

This is why I’m glad and comfortable to be called literally anything. I prefer they/them so I typically correct at least my family cause they’re super used to she, but ya know. I’ve answered to bingus before so lmao

[@toni2309]

Yeah, and it's not guaranteed that they get it if you explain it.

[@SteveTholomule.]

@@teritt oh, hey Bingus

[@teritt]

@@SteveTholomule. Steve?? :0

[@orbracha25]

@@teritt Donkey!

[@toni2309]

As a genderfluid person, part-time gender actually describes me well.

[@blockytheblock1]

ikr

[@Yes_this_is_my_cat]

If someone asks you if you're a boy or a girl, you could just respond: "Yeah, parttime" And watch as chaos unfolds

[@toni2309]

@@Yes_this_is_my_cat No one asks, though. People just assume whatever they want, based on the clothes I wear, while I just put on whatever from whatever's section, and end up being surprised by how people gender me myself.

[@circleofsylvan5906]

Biggest of moods

[@ZombieInvader]

My gender is sometimes full time but is zero contract hours

[@LadyDreamfyre]

"There's no gender. Just honk." This is perfect *Honk*

[@30000beesinatrenchcoat]

*Honk*

[@SkyeSkyeArt]

*Honk*

[@YourLocalGenderfluid]

*Honk*

[@transShork]

*Honk*

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

*Honk*

[@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening]

The bee movie is proof that cishet people can’t handle gay couples, but they are perfectly fine with a girl falling for a bee… like, what?

[@Jammidodger]

Ikr 😅😅

[@ShinyAvalon]

It works pretty well if you assume Vanessa and Barry are both heteroromantic asexuals. :)

[@SilverAceOfSpades]

He has a stinger. Transmasc rep?

[@film9491]

I don’t think anyone was ok with that in the bee movie. Also the bee was a worker honey bee, which would make him a sterile female. Which means he’s trans?

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

Most of the cishet people I have known in my life are not at all like that. I hate to say it, but assuming they are is like those of them who do, assume and generalize about all non cishet people. We must all be wary of hypocrisy, or it will be to our own detriment, and the detriment of society overall. Please remember that 70% of Americans want LBGTQIA+ to have the same rights and privileges as everyone else. Most humans in general want peace and prosperity for everyone. But the natural sensationalism of media would have us believing otherwise. Also, in case some here don't follow politics by the numbers, the republicans are Nowhere near "half of the country. At their most numerous ever, in 2020, the entire republican base was less than 30% of the country (74 million out of 255 million). Our greatest weakness, and potential great salvation, are the non-voters. And we have known for many decades now that conservatives almost always vote, so the non-voters overwhelmingly lean left, liberal or egalitarian. I do feel bad for those who grew up in places where being accepted is far less of a thing. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of bigots in the SF Bay Area, but they are the exception rather than the rule there, and that makes them easier to ignore and the bigots were less likely to think being a bigot was okay. That said, I also remember when I was a child in the 70's trucks filled with homophobe/cowards would sometimes drive through the Castro District in SF and throw rocks at the gay men. It used to make me so mad, and even mad at every adult I could find that didn't say they supported the rights of everyone, equally. But by the 90's I never even heard of that happening anymore. We progress, even though evolution is a very slow process. But each generation for the past century has become noticeably less bigoted than the last. I'm proud of every individual in every generation that has worked to make that a reality. We all stand on both the shoulder of all of society today, and all of our ancestors going all of the way back to when we were just slime in the oceans. The good news is, no one can stop the evolution of their own species, and so bigotry is dying now faster than ever. This is why the bigots are losing their minds lately. They can see their precious bigoted ideals dying even better than we can because we want it to just go away and life just feels good then, but for them their bigotry is all too often seen by themselves as part of who they are. That's ridiculous of course, but it feeds into the fear that creates conservatism and the delusions that create regressivism. _"Given a long enough timeline, we win. Guaranteed."_ --Beau of the Fifth Column Anyway, I wish you and all of my fellow Earthlings peace and prosperity.❤🌍🌎🌏 May we all continue to become even better anti-bigots.😊

[@widowkeeper4739]

I'm 46 and non-binary. I've always known since I was small that I wasn't exactly my gender assigned at birth. I didn't think it was wrong, but I knew it wasn't the whole story. It's been REALLY obvious my entire life that I don't fit binary expectations, and I REALLY HATED anybody trying to make me look/act/get interested in traditional gender roles/fashion. It's only now in my life and in our history I finally have the language and people willing to consider me outside of a binary context. It's been very cathartic to my middle-aged heart to finally have that.

[@chadfalardeau5396]

I'm 44 and it's only been a year since I realized I'm non-binary. Since I've been on social media I've heard stories from other enbys and finally found the words to describe what I've been experiencing

[@aqtpotato1674]

Sending lots of love to all the older non binaries here. Slay.

[@Gulamaja]

I'm so happy for you!

[@neuralmute]

Same! I really knew somewhere that I didn't fit gender in any normal way - when I was a teen "girl"in the 90's, I refused to wear makeup until I saw Robert Smith, David Bowie, Trent Reznor, Peter Murphy, and other goth/glam guys looking good in makeup, and I wanted to look like them! Now, after years in the kink and queer communities, I figured out that I'm non-binary in the last 5 yrs, and it's been really freeing. I just wish I could decide whether to T or not to T...

[@bigjedimullet]

41, and I went from a world where you were either Boy or Girl (and if you didn’t feel like either you kept it to yourself) to a world where not only is there a word for how I’ve always felt, but people are talking about it openly! I started figuring things out in my mid 30s and this is my first Pride month completely out as non-binary. It feels amazing. To the younger folks: thank you so much for supporting us, and for being brave enough to be yourselves in your own time instead of letting yourselves be packed into the closet. Things are so wildly different now than they were when I was growing up, it’s difficult to believe sometimes. I promise that even though we’re playing catch-up with some of the language and concepts, the older folks have your back and are rooting for you all the way.

[@katashworth41]

My partner sent me a screen shot of a for that had a gender option that went from “Strongly Agree” to “Strongly Disagree”. I think the whole village heard me laughing.

[@toni2309]

Gender: [ ] yes [ ] no

[@toni2309]

@☆chara☆ I feel like I'm Gender ✅ yes ✅ no which is probably confusing even for non-binary people.

[@S0nnyDoesStuff7]

I feel like Gender: []yes []no ✅ most of the time

[@toni2309]

@☆chara☆ I'm kinda fluid between yes, no, and male and apparently it's hard for people to understand ^^'.

[@toni2309]

@☆chara☆ That's really cool! I've kinda been struggling to explain why I want to medically transition ftm though I am non-binary, to me it makes a lot of sense though.

[@ShinyTillDawn]

Daily reminder: You're all valid just the way you are, in terms of gender identity and sexual orientation.

[@This_dumb_b0y]

Thx u 💛🤍💜🖤

[@freddiefishton]

As long as it’s legal

[@eliotb.1219]

Adding to your reminder: you’re also valid just as you are in any other terms (outside of identity/orientation) as long as it’s not hurting anyone (:

[@eliotb.1219]

@@freddiefishton what’s illegal about having a gender identity or sexual orientation? Unless you’re in a country that for some reason one or both are illegal In which case, your comment still doesn’t make sense. Because anyone living in those countries is still valid in their identity or orientation. They just unfortunately can’t be open with it at all

[@freddiefishton]

@@eliotb.1219 sorry if you took it the wrong way, I just have my own saying “If it looks legal, sounds legal, and is legal, then who cares” As in if there living adults the why should I take another look

[@timothyisstupid]

I love Enby memes I have a friend who is Non-binary who jokes that since they go by all pronouns, they are immune to misgendering

[@tjenadonn6158]

My enby cousin was given a rather gender-neutral name at birth and has decided that they aren't going to change it. They're undeadnameable.

[@StormsofPeril]

Recently, being misgendered hasn't bothered me as much!

[@timidartst]

​@@StormsofPeril same here. A lot of times I don't even tell people I'm Non-binary, I'll just say "I'm trans" and let them sort it out

[@MsFitz134]

True, except "all pronouns" is very rarely an option in situations when there's a menu. And the other option is not listing pronouns, which feels like a political statement. Being forced to choose one set of pronouns when you're an "all pronoun" person could be a whole series of memes. 😆

[@30000beesinatrenchcoat]

I’m still deciding between all pronouns and just they/them, but honestly I don’t really care which ones you use.

[@Phantom682]

I cannot express how much I love that title. No gender only honk

[@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening]

Fr

[@AroaceZelephant]

*Honks in approval*

[@JustanotherGOOSE]

Honk!

[@ZianXiou]

Only *HONK*

[@toni2309]

HONK

[@ThatMoonBoy]

I once had a little kid run up to me in a foodcourt at the mall and ask if I was a prince or a princess, and I told them that I was a knight that makes friends with dragons instead of slaying them and this kid's eye lit up with amazement.

[@kajsan760]

I love that! At 45 I'm probably too old to get that question, but if I ever do, now I know what to answer.

[@galax_dragon]

I came out to my family (parents+siblings) as non binary today and they were accepting!! :)

[@transShork]

Nice!

[@andeeharry]

congratulations, that is great news.

[@SuspiciousTemmie]

Nice!! :D

[@Foxiz]

Congrats! -:)

[@andysartz]

Yay!! So happy for you!! =)

[@iupiter.161]

i came out to my best friend yesterday, and she had the GREATEST reaction! she said that she’s thankful for me talking to her and that she can imagine how hard it can be to come out, and that she’ll keep it a secret until i’m ready to come out to everyone. and she isn’t even queer!

[@zaffre8865]

Wooo 🥳!!

[@melissabarrett9750]

@Robin She clearly IS your BEST FRIEND

[@toni2309]

It's nice to see some positive content on being non-binary. It feels so hard being non-binary. I'm scared being too out with my identity will get me in trouble with my insurance and they won't cover surgeries. There is no they/them in my language, and my experience with neopronouns...has not been great, and I don't really like them. Overall, I struggle to feel like I belong with people, like I can be respected as non-binary person. Sigh.

[@This_dumb_b0y]

Ur valid and deserve the best 🩵✨

[@amethystt727]

You are valid and wonderful and worthy of love

[@toni2309]

I mean, thanks, but I also want like people in my life not just like trans friends but like people at a workplace or uni or at hobbies or when dating to be respectful and I don't really trust they will be.

[@eliotb.1219]

@@toni2309 I get that. I don’t have any lgbt or supportive friends either (to be fair I don’t have friends at all except online) It can be pretty lonely and feels like there’s no one to talk to who actually understands. Is there a way to message ppl on here or something? I know I don’t live where you do (I’m in the USA), but even having someone to message about these things can be really helpful. Im a trans guy FtM. If there is any way to message on here we could share details for somewhere better to talk, if not I’m willing to take the social brunt and give you my social media info in the comments lmao Figured I would offer, let me know if you want a friend who can (almost) fully understand what you’re going through Im 20y/o not a minor

[@Foxiz]

Oh yes, I totally feel you with the new pronouns. (I'm Swedish, if that's of interest) Can't stand it, if I were to be gendered by others by the new words, I would feel even more misunderstood. I'm sorry that you have it that way, for what it's worth. 🫂

[@toni2309]

If I ever do a party and invite all my non-binary friends, the requirement will be to choose not a gender, but a gander. I AM THE CHAOS GOOSE.

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

What's good for the goose, is good for the gander. lols But also, a gander is a male goose.😉

[@starrywizdom]

HONK!

[@sdfghjasdfghjk8175]

Excellent. I am the Whoose. The Goose who's just a wee bit of mischief and mystery

[@KitTheAnkafolk]

Hjonk hjonk am goose

[@bigjedimullet]

“Thanks for inviting me to your party, but I think there was a typo on the invitation. This is a gender reveal, right?” “IT MOST CERTAINLY IS NOT 🦢🦢🦢”

[@DinosaurNick]

"There is no nonbinary look" "I want to look nonbinary" This is painfully relatable

[@jordanenby9734]

So true ;-;

[@millakatariina64]

Literally- Especially since like I'm afab and still like clothes like skirts and dresses so I just look like a cis woman, but I am very much not female so it's just like fhkfhkdh. Just trying to manifest nb energy somehow through my general behaviour and other more eccentric clothes and accessories or something :'D

[@kashiichan]

​@@millakatariina64Gender feels transgressive to me. Having that "hidden" just feels wrong, somehow.

[@Morrislover.they.xem.]

Ik. And just the thought that people look at me and go boy or girl is painful

[@kitpy]

my nonbinary ass who presents mostly androgynous and masculine "i look nonbinary!"

[@mirandarensberger6919]

I haven't seen Bee Movie, but I appreciate how people are using it for chaotic good. In some places, like Missouri and Texas, governments have set up websites for people to rat out their transgender neighbors and acquaintances. Activists have crashed the sites with ridiculous false reports, including uploading the entire script of Bee Movie.

[@fluffly3606]

Malicious compliance is more Lawful I think

[@ProfessionalBugLover]

i live in texas i’m gonna do this

[@e_m_m_a_0122]

Closet agender here! Worked in a swimming pool and got the question "excuse me, are you a boy or a girl?" By a little boy. The validation I felt still sits warmly in my heart

[@arcadiaberger9204]

I'd like to throw a gander reveal party, but I think I'd have to have all my ducks in a row.

[@Mithcoriel]

Add DUCKLINGS.

[@WombatMan64]

That's a fowl joke!

[@WishGender]

you're such a silly goose

[@dr.gwendolyncarter5048]

😂😂😂

[@thethirdtime9168]

With regards to kids making questions of your gender - I'm NB. Worked very briefly taking people out on nature trips. A LOT of school kids / kindergarteners were among here. Even before transitioning they'd ask, even kids who only met me once. My response was always 'What do you think?', which started a lot of arguments between kids on what made me male or female which hilariously many opinions and weird reasonings about it. The conversation would probs have been a lot less free and welcoming if parents had been aorund to 'correct' their behaviour.

[@nettalie4435]

You:"Well what do you think" Kid you have never met before in your life: *Honks goosely*

[@toni2309]

That sounds weirdly fun.

[@silverghostcat1924]

I think another question/answer could be "why does it matter?"

[@Foxiz]

I find it satisfying when people ask me "what gender I am", regardless of the persons age. ...I wonder what the heck is going on in the heads of the adult strangers that asks this though. 🤨

[@toni2309]

@@Foxiz As someone who is currently in this phase of taking testosterone where I look kinda androgynous, and also presents varied/androgynous, I wonder what goes on in the heads of the people who gender me in a binary way.

[@tilltab]

I love the idea of having sliders for how much male and female a person is. I’m generally happy to identify as a cis woman, but sometimes it feels like a betrayal of the tiny part of me that feels more male. Being able to boop the male slider up just a touch would feel nice. It would feel like, yeah, that exists too!

[@melissabarrett9750]

Fortunately, literally everything in our world is on a spectrum, not a binary

[@wintergray1221]

I'm agenderfluid, though I usually just say nonbinary. I would need a separate slider under the first to denote whether I'm feeling a gender at all.

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

Wakko Warner is actually considered a nonbinary icon, due to an Animaniacs comic from the 1990s. The three are trying to get on Noah's Ark and Noah tells them, "One of each gender." Yakko says, "Male," Dot says, "Female," and Wakko says, "Other." When Yakko questions his sibling about this, Wakko says, "Ya wanna argue, or you wanna get on the boat?"

[@queerqueen098]

I love that!

[@ronan-outoftime]

wakko is truly iconic

[@MochaCatJheraldyne]

One time I had a substitute teacher who argued with us on why instead of using he/she we use he/she/they because some people use they/them pronouns. Her heart was in the right place but she didn’t listen to us when we said that instead of writing out all the pronouns it would still be proper grammar to just use “they” when referring to multiple people in a sentence.

[@Romanticoutlaw]

my gender got lost in the mail and I haven't bothered asking for another copy

[@NoxBVansyn]

Mine got thrown in the junk mail and I emptied it before I could look.

[@ronan-outoftime]

which one did you order? i think it may have been delivered to me by accident

[@tweedledoo22]

you guys ordered genders?

[@orion88127]

I always get misgendered so much at work and people call me 'miss' all the time, and then one time this kid comes up to me (I think around 8 maybe) and full out goes "SIR can I ask you something." Barely even looked phased when I replied and my voice was feminine. Man that kid made my day I was smiling so much

[@mjb7015]

I once saw a form that had, instead of gender tick-boxes, a message along the lines of "gender isn't necessary, but if doing so would bring you joy, feel free to type your gender below:" and then a text box.

[@sharkofjoy]

My favorite gender thing was a website for a service and in the FAQ under "who is this for?" the list consisted of "Men, Women, Executives". I'm still laughing. I guess you left me no options so.....I identify as a CEO?

[@milcerise2360]

Yesterday I was roller-skating in a place where there are always a lot of people riding. A 9yo girl on rollers came to me to ask me if she could play with me and said "It's okay cause you're a girl", and I answered "It would be okay if I was a boy too". To which she answered "True! I can't imagine you as a boy though!". My transfem heart broke. Charisma (Passing) +3 🥰

[@realbedo]

My gender and sexuality is so chaotic. I've used the same pronouns for a while (he/it/xi mainly) but rn I identify as genderqueer and lesbian (I'm afab and am fem presenting) I really like being called a pretty boy or seen as a feminine boy though. Being called bro > sis and if I had a partner I would love to be called lover not boy or girlfriend. feminine compliments are nice. It's just a very chaotic mess and I think I'm an enigma.

[@Foxiz]

That seems about right, You're not alone -:)

[@realbedo]

@Foxiz thank you, it seems so complicated I don't even know if it's valid sometimes... but gender is like that ig

[@nathryl03]

@@realbedo It's always valid. I know I'm just a random person on the internet, but I wanted to tell you that :)

[@realbedo]

@nathryl03 thank you

[@antiamatus]

Love this 💟 it's very reminiscent of my own experience. Other people's genders seem so much less complicated than mine !!

[@moonlight_cat_27]

"Are you a man or a woman?" "HONK" "I don't understand..." "HONK!!!!!"

[@Link_the_enby8087]

I got called a boy by kids so often, and I was always happy about it and didn’t know why. I’m Afab nonbinary btw

[@dutchvanl]

Ahhhh! When I first came out, my 5 year old niece asked me if I was a boy or a girl... And then proceeded to correct her mom every time she messed up and misgendered me! Love that kid.

[@cedpete7434]

So you could trick a 5 year old? And you're proud of that? Hopefully, you realize how crazy you sound.

[@thrashbin2001]

Thank you Jamie ❤ I have surgery in few days, bisalp and ablation, after years of fighting for it.. Nb folk deserve gender affirming care, it was so difficult and I still can't believe it, it's alot recently, getting crap for it from family etc.. so I'm feeling down but u always make me feel abit better. Love your humor and intelligence always sooo good to watch you dismantle transphobes 👌❤️🏳️‍🌈

[@missnaomi613]

Please accept some mama hugs. 💛🤍💜🖤

[@HaleyJo1992]

Be kind to yourself while healing. Whatever emotion you feel, let yourself feel it and resolve to address it once you're healthy. I had a bisalp last year - not NB here, just childfree. Best decision I've made, but I had weird bouts of regret in the first few weeks afterward during post-op depression. Luxeria's vid on her ffs procedure helped me be braced for that possibility before going in. Hope your surgeries go great!

[@thrashbin2001]

@@HaleyJo1992 thank u ❤️ I'm childfree too lol it just went hand in hand with the dysphoria solution :))

[@thrashbin2001]

@@missnaomi613 thank u 🥺❤️

[@SimonClarkstone]

7:43 Those gender sliders are even better than that! They are min-mix sliders that each have two slidey bits, so you set a low end and high end of how "man" you feel, and a low end and high end of how "woman" you feel. Shown is approximately: Man = 5%-35%, Woman = 5%-20%.

[@Alicia-zf3nq]

I once made a survey and accidentally used the wrong template so I ended up with "what gender do you identify with?: strongly agree - neutral - strongly disagree" If it hadn't been for a serious uni assignment, I would have kept it in

[@antiamatus]

strongly disagree

[@wintergray1221]

But I'm moderately disagree 😭

[@galactic_goat_217]

this is what we need: both _ / \ man | | woman \ _ / neither and you can slide your selector anywhere in the circle.

[@user-gz2rg9di3p]

yessssssssssssssssssss

[@al_eggs]

the RPG stat spread of gender

[@maskedmallard537]

The irony of my ADHD ass being a focus. 😂

[@mariaanjos9229]

YESS SSIR

[@mattfolmer7481]

The bit about looking nonbinary when there is no set way to look nonbinary really hit home. I'm AMAB and more or less masculine presenting, but still nonbinary. I'd love to look more visually queer but I'm not really sure how to do so while also being authentic to who I am and not embracing stereotypes simply for the sake of appearances.

[@teek1917]

I'm AMAB / demiguy, masculine presenting in how I dress, but even with facial hair I still manage to confuse people. I decided that changing my look to reflect being more "in between" would probably just wind up being redundant. People already have a sense that there's something "off" about me, and if I start presenting less masc, the outcome will probably be even more confusion / people thinking I'm a woman.

[@justineberlein5916]

11:09 Ah, so like Fallen London, where the options are Lady, Gentleman, and "My dear sir, there are individuals roaming the streets of Fallen London at this very moment with the faces of squid! Squid! Do you ask them their gender? And yet you waste our time asking me trifling and impertinent questions about mine? It is my own business, sir, and I bid you good day."

[@Julia33066]

Omg I figured out I was non binary like a week ago! This is the perfect video

[@andeeharry]

congratulaations

[@newsjunkie7135]

Congrats!

[@jujugatolliat9644]

How ?

[@missnaomi613]

💛🤍💜🖤

[@Imidentifiednow]

*welcome to the fold*

[@Leena79]

I had to pick my gender in a questionnaire just yesterday, and I ended up choosing woman, feeling very uncomfortable doing so. I don't know why I did that, and I regretted it immediately. I'd be so happy for a gender slider, where I could choose how I feel each day. Or, if I could be a part-time waffle, occationally crepe, that would be cool, too.

[@wintergray1221]

I had this problem on a job application. Because I'm not out publicly yet, and I just had this vision of a coworker accidentally outing me to my family (which would NOT be a good thing to have happen in public), but it left such a bad taste in my mouth to say I was a woman.

[@deKahedron]

The problem with being an enby programmer is I can't pull the "I don't speak binary" line

[@coderamen666]

I do speak binary. It's my second language, however

[@PeachJaguar7597]

I accidentally came across a video that was really disappointing to me, it was mostly about how gay and bi people think we should take the TQ+ out of LGBTQ. I guess as a trans person i didn't realize how many people really thought that way. Anyway, this video cheered me up, it's always nice to see all the amazing, supportive people in the comments :)

[@teek1917]

We've always been with them. (I'm in the "+" part of "TQ+") Those anti-TQ+ people are outliers, not the norm. They imagine they will somehow be magically accepted by the cisgender heterosexual majority if they act "normal" (read as "conform to other people's expectations".) They're wrong, of course, because at their core, their sexuality remains non-conforming, and that will never be acceptable to those who want an unrealistically simple world where there are only cisgender men and women conforming to ideals of masculinity and femininity, and heterosexuality. Tossing us under the bus to please the unpleasable is a lose/lose for everyone.

[@coderamen666]

Right wing propaganda is what that is. The reactionaries are deathly afraid of solidarity among marginalized people so they will pay unscrupulous jerks to push out divisive bs.

[@elliottrae9355]

Yay! Thank you for this, from a non-binary peep. Much love ❤ Can't wait to read your book!

[@LeadTrumpet1]

Explaining nonbinary to most adults is hard. Kids understand it better. It’s sad that a grown adult fights me on my own identity while a 5 year old understand the simple explanation I give and will be fine with it. I’m waiting for Inside Out 2. There’s a lot of speculation that Riley will identify as nonbinary, gender fluid, or something similar because the emotions are mixed genders, unlike the parents and the boy she was crushing on, who had emotions of all the same gender. Pixar needs to make it canon. This nonbinary would love some main character representation for the little nonbinaries out there. Conservatives are going to hate that movie anyway for talking about puberty. It’s also set to release during next year’s Pride.

[@CodaBlairLucarioEmperor]

Just like they hated on Turning Red for mentioning stuff like pads.

[@ConstantChaos1]

Weirdly I'm Cis-NB, I'm genetically intersex meaning scientifically my identity marches me on a genetic level I love watching peoples heads explode over this

[@jess_iguess]

This timing is perfect lol. I just came out as nb about a week ago after questioning for 3 months

[@Jammidodger]

Ahh congrats!! 🥳

[@Foxiz]

Happy new life!

[@jess_iguess]

@@Jammidodger thank you so much! I really needed to hear that I don’t have a supportive family. I appreciate everything u do!

[@jess_iguess]

@@Foxiz thank you!

[@harlivie.]

YESS SLAY👏✨ i finally found your comment hehe

[@nonofurbuisness5106]

As a non binary person I can confirm these r infact relatable memes

[@ItsJustTim]

LETS GOOOO ENBY MEMES! One of my favorite, as a nonbinary individual this makes me happy lol, I also love the r/LGBallT videos, love ya Jamie!

[@greenbeevideo765]

As someone who is nonbinary and who literally works in different classrooms of elementary students (ages 5-12) every day, I get the "are you a boy or a girl?" question probably an average of once or twice a week. To stave off the exhaustion of constantly being asked that I like to respond with "the answer to that question is No." in a cheery voice and try not to laugh openly as I watch the kid freeze and attempt to process how that works. (If the kid presses for more answer I tell them that I am neither, then have to steer the conversation elsewhere/end it because I usually am trying to squeeze an hour long environmental program into 45 minutes.) I get misgendered constantly at work, by students and teachers, but I keep reminding myself that I am doing double-duty education/representation. I've had 12 year olds come up to me after programs and tell me that they are also nonbinary and that I'm the first nonbinary 'teacher'/adult they've ever met, which honestly makes it all worth it.

[@user-mv5zt8qd9l]

Hate isn't innate; it's something people learn. Just know that you're shaping a generation of people who are going to be able to drop the arbitrary standards of gender assigned to them and truly explore who they are without restriction.

[@jordanenby9734]

No gender Only *H O N K* Also, I have found I DO dress similar to Wakko...

[@Jammidodger]

HONK

[@NekoChanSenpai]

I'm a Yakko enby myself! We should find a Dot enby and join forces!

[@jordanenby9734]

@@NekoChanSenpai Animaniacs enbies unite!

[@foodofthegods]

sorry, no dot here. just yakko

[@loco4570]

Great video ! I have seen the bee movie, aside from the « romance » between the main characters I think the weirdest thing is they made a movie about bees but apparently have no idea about what bees do, why they are important and how they fly. And scientists had conducted research into bumblebee flight at the time and solved the mystery. The mosquito lawyer was funny.

[@stargirl7646]

I’m currently questioning my gender… is it normal to just feel kinda “meh” about the whole thing? Like my gender is whatever is most convenient for me and takes the least work 😂

[@HumanoidEyeball]

that can be a few things, two notable ones are agender and genderfluid. if you find yourself re-questioning your gender identity after trying to pin it on one thing like 2 or 3 or 4 times, you might want to look into the two of them, i hope this helps! remember, whatever pronouns you use at any point in your questioning process or when its complete is all valid, and its worth the effort to think about it and try to find an answer that makes you happy and comfortable

[@RosaFriend]

Love this so much! As a transfem enby, it's so lovely to see my heroes celebrate my community!

[@engimoon3954]

2:55 what's funny about you saying "I'm a honk" is that in german, we sometimes use Honk as a different word for idiot, maybe because it sounds less mean than idiot but it kinda does have the same meaning xD

[@wintergray1221]

Is it pronounced the same or differently? I love learning about language stuff.

[@Lulu._.1]

@@wintergray1221 it is pronounced the same :)

[@wintergray1221]

@@Lulu._.1 Cool, thanks

[@chemistress293]

We in Austria do too ^^

[@lilymoon4]

Having only two options on those "select your gender" things is like going to a resteraunt and finding out they've run out of everything on the menu except for your two least favorites.

[@aime562]

I have seen the Bee Movie. It was a very odd movie.

[@CollecTortoise]

The most you can say about it is that is was very movie

[@sophiejones3554]

I would just like to say to everyone: you do NOT have to come out if you don't feel like it matters. While I identify as nonbinary, I haven't told most people. Strangers can call me whatever they like, I really don't care, and people who know me already get it (it was actually a friend asking me "are you nonbinary? You have enby vibes you know" that led me to realize). The word "nonbinary" wouldn't mean anything to my parents (they do get it, they just wouldn't use that word which is totally fine), and I don't have dysphoria so there's no need for medical treatment. Only come out if you feel like it is going to enable you to live the way you want to. If you are happy with how people treat you, and how you are able to express yourself, then don't feel pressured to come out. We live in a culture that generally pressures us to share information about ourselves without any really good reason. Please remember that when you choose to share information this is a gift you are making to the people you care about and who care about you. NO ONE is entitled to know all aspects of your identity.

[@antiamatus]

💟💟💟!!!

[@girlwithtehface5880]

My best friend is non-binary, and I love and support them so much. I came out to them during the pandemic as an ace man, later they came out to me as non-binary, and then later still I came out again as a transgender lesbian. It's funny how queer people find each other before we know we're queer. We've been friends since junior high school, and have remained best friends for years.

[@electricerger]

I ran a site where we were a bit "lawful evil" about gender. It was a safety patrol thing so we wanted to have our teams consist of masculine and feminine individuals for everyone's comfort. For the scheduling software we dealt with this by assigning people as "female" or "non-female". As a gender fluid person I got a chuckle out of that.

[@apolloismydad]

It’s 1st June according to my time zone…. HAPPY PRIDE MONTH EVERYONE!! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@wornouthoodie]

🏳️‍🌈✨❤️🧡💛💚💙💜✨🏳️‍🌈

[@wilyriley_]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH (it’s still 31st May in my time zone but shhhh) 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🩵🤍🩷

[@stargirl7646]

Happy pride month! It’s also my birthday month! 😃🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🎉🎉🎂🎂

[@wilyriley_]

@@stargirl7646 I wish I could’ve been born during Pride Month (only three and a half hours left in my time zone!), but alas, I was born in April

[@apolloismydad]

@@stargirl7646 HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN ADVANCE 🥳

[@jaelikesjackalopes]

Lately my answer to “are you a boy or a girl” is “no, I’m liberated from gender.”

[@xiaosha1558]

I don’t think of myself as non-binary, but I present kind of androgynous, and the other day the checkout guy at the store asked, “What gender are you?” and it made me weirdly happy.

[@vaughnhaney7020]

A month later and I'm wondering if you've had a realization or if you still don't consider yourself nonbinary lol

[@nesssp706]

the most affirming moment i had was picking up my best friend's little brother with them and him asking them wether i was a boy or a girl (especially since we've been doing that for three years and he knew me before coming out and being more neutral presenting). the best part was my friend answering "neither" and him thinking they were teasing him 😂😂

[@organous8870]

Apparently it's canon that Wakko is non-binary, and this wasn't even a new thing from the reboot (although that literally has "gender-balanced, pronoun-neutral" in the reboot opening). It was literally just to make a joke justifying Wakko's existence on Noah's ark, and apparently it stuck. He always counts himself as one of the Warner brothers, but he's been very ambivalent about gender as opposed to just being Wakko.

[@camille_la_chenille]

I confuse my parents so much because I prefer masculine or neutral pronouns but dress like a Disney princess and act so traditionally feminine it's almost cliché. and I'd describe my gender as a gender soup (up to one's interpretation)

[@teek1917]

"gender soup" - I like that one!

[@nobodyofconsequence6522]

3:58 - "Any outfit is non-binary if it's weird enough" Hope that helps anyone who's trying to look non-binary

[@CelestialBunnyPaws]

I swear he's speed running that intro. 🤭

[@Jammidodger]

I like to see how fast I can say it 😅

[@CelestialBunnyPaws]

​@@Jammidodger I've noticed. 😂

[@PloverTechOfficial]

2:13 the second I heard that be said in the series, i knew it would become an enby meme.

[@PansyPops]

6:54 I signed up for volunteering one time and the gender box was like this. I just sat there thinking “wtf do I click” since NB is transgender (by definition) but there’s a massive difference between transgender and non binary. I then realised I had been sat there for 10 minutes, contemplating gender and overthinking a box nobody would look at.

[@simplymeowlogical]

I shall yet again request aro ace and agender videos!!! Edit: I asked on stream, and Jamie said, that they will come!! We just have to be patient

[@antiamatus]

Yess !! I want more aro videos in particular

[@AroaceZelephant]

First! I love your videos and you made me feel really confident about who I am so I’m really grateful for that!! Lots of love ❤️❤️

[@simplymeowlogical]

Why hello there fellow aroace!!

[@AroaceZelephant]

@@simplymeowlogical hi! :D

[@maskedmallard537]

AYYYYYY! Found the fellow aroace thread! 🧄🍞

[@Syurtpiutha]

11:50 Wakko is the one most often considered non-binary, so that tracks.

[@alexvainio]

A Finnish gendervast transmasc/boy/"man+" commenting to send some enby support! 🏳️‍⚧️⚧️ I used to use non-binary for myself for 5 years, so I know the wonders and struggles of the NB community. My identity now basically includes many genders within one, so I experience woman and enby (and other smaller) genders within the 'man' gender! I'm having a hard time with transfobia around me and gatekeeping from the transcare clinic so I'm spending my free time in supportive online spaces to reduce dysphoria and other negative feelings. Thanks for being here and keeping me sane. 💟

[@nyx1642]

I'm- Well, I'm constantly confused, but I'm mostly nonbinary, so I appreciate this. :) I love your videos Jamie.

[@km1dash6]

I am so happy Jammi was talking about surveys. I design surveys, and we do need to know a person's gender for grant purposes (a lot of grants require promoting participation of underrepresented groups, which includes gender). For anyone who identified with or doesn't identify with the gender binary, how do you want to be asked about your gender? This isn't a survey or a poll. I just want to see what ideas are out there.

[@TransIsBest]

​@@barryledgister4496 Male and female are not genders

[@pathevermore3683]

@@barryledgister4496 LMAO, damn, what a way to be a drama queen.

[@TransIsBest]

@@pathevermore3683 Always is. You tell them reality, and you're infringing in their rights lol

[@teek1917]

Tough question, especially for those who don't want to be pigeon-holed into a singular category. It may not be practical for having to parse large datasets, but I'd say three choices: Man, Woman, or Fill in the blank (Please don't give it a label of "Other" - that's irksome by itself.) Maybe a 4th category for "Refuse to answer". If you start trying to come up with a finite list of possible options, you're certain to upset someone who feels unseen / left out. (As someone who doesn't fit any of the letters in any of the versions of the unwieldly LGBT + whatever letters are added, I can speak from experience about that.) For those who want to self-report their gender identity, some of us would rather define it for ourselves, than be told it has to fit into this or that option. I know it's inconvenient. I've had to sort out catchall categories myself processing surveys - though it's usually been a question about culturally-defined race. Since there isn't uniformity, it's just a pain in the neck no matter how you try to accommodate people. Of course you'll have the fun of deciding how to fit those things into how the grant presumably classifies gender. Complete accuracy probably isn't possible.

[@teek1917]

@@TransIsBest Exactly. We can clearly see who the authoritarian was in that exchange, and it wasn't you.

[@notyourjakey]

"What's your gender?" "Buy me dinner and you can choose"

[@arvintrevino4622]

Binary people: What is your Gender? 🤔 Nonbinary: 🔥😠🔥Foolish mortal! Your feeble concept of Gender and the Patriarchal system can not comprehend the thoughts of Immortal Beings. Binary people: 🤯🤯 Nonbinary: 😈😈

[@junetime_panic]

"Are you a man or a woman?" Double it and give it to the next person.

[@MxPotato84]

As a non-binary person, I appreciate this little switch up of a video! I was having a crappy day and this made it a tiny bit better. 💜

[@teritt]

11:30 This has to do with the fact a lot of us nonbinary folk are artists I think

[@teek1917]

"When life gives you a flat tire, make pottery." It's weird, but somehow satisfying.

[@shadowldrago]

What are nonbinary people's favorite insects? EnBEEs.

[@Jammidodger]

🐝

[@iniyama]

the lack of "definition" for how a non-binary is supposed to look is why my therapist advised me against applying for gender affirming surgery with my health insurance company, basically saying there's no way they'd cover top surgery for me when they're already denying so many mtf/ftm trans people and i get that he's just trying to help me avoid unnecessary stress and heartbreak but at the same time I also wonder how anything is supposed to change if we don't even try i wish i had the money to just pay for the surgery myself 😪

[@DaddyMoogie]

nb here and loved these thank you for sharing them. I especially felt called out by the two buttons meme, its a current struggle of mine.

[@harperisntcool8031]

im gonna come out as nonbinary tomorrow for june 1!! I'm super exited, i made a scavenger hunt for my family to find my coming out letter! i hope it goes well 🙏🙏

[@TheHoliestCow]

Good luck

[@harperisntcool8031]

@@KateWick1997 what?? it totally is what are you talking about bruh

[@teek1917]

@@KateWick1997 Said like a person who has zero understanding of how hard it is for people to come out - because of people who go around spreading hate. Find something better to do with your life than harass us in KZbin comment sections.

[@RainbowMama143]

I work with kids and I had a little girl ask me if I was a boy or a girl. I was 0% upset about the question but the mom was mortified and chastised her daughter for asking. I’m glad she asked without assuming my gender! I tried to assure the mom that I was glad she asked, but the mom stayed upset and kept chasing her kid

[@Pip299]

I've noticed it for several videos now and I just can't unsee it The little bit of hair from your beard that sits just under your lower lip looks like a little bow tie and I love it.😊

[@sarazapata4621]

Not me being one day away from coming out as transmasc enby to my very supportive coworkers, this feels like a sign

[@killer_rabbit42]

Love the video It's only been in the past couple years that I've leaned more about the different genders & have wondered what gender I am. I've always called myself a woman because that's what was assigned to me at birth but I never really felt like one gender or the other. Growing up, I was more interested in things that were considered for boys but never felt like a boy. I never really cared about my gender & if someone called me a man, it wouldn't bother me & I don't think I would feel the need to correct them. I usually dress in t-shirts & jeans from the men's section because they're more comfortable, tend to last longer, & have pockets. However, I'll wear more feminine clothes if I'm in a situation where I need to look more professional. And when I have the chance to wear a costume, I'll wear whatever I think looks cool. I don't know if any of that means I'm non-binary or maybe just apathetic about my gender.

[@toni2309]

Have you looked into being agender?

[@SeraphGamingYT]

consider looking into agender, cassgender, and gender apathetic

[@eliotb.1219]

No one can figure it out but you in the end, but just know there’s no pressure to put a label on anything in any sort of time frame. Just try some things out, learn who you are more deeply as a person, and in time it’ll all get figured out

[@killer_rabbit42]

@@toni2309 I recently found out about agender & that does seem to fit a bit more with how I feel about my own gender but I am going to read more about it.

[@killer_rabbit42]

@@SeraphGamingYT I recently found out about agender, but have not heard of cassgender & didn't realize gender apathetic was actually a term. I am going to be reading more about each of these to see if any of them feel right for me. Thank you for the information.

[@faefolkarts]

I remember one time I was at my church, I was wearing leggings and a baggy shirt, and a kiddo came running up to me and asked if I was a boy or a girl, I said "Well, what do you think I am?" and he paused his running around and playing and said "I think you're a boy" I said "Okay so I'm a boy" he went "okay bye boy" and ran off. I was doing sound work in the children's program.

[@adonighttime]

Speaking of kids having moments of validating your identity: I am genderfluid, afab, and in the closet. I was a man while at an event but could not tell anyone. I knew i would be misgendered the whole time but i went anyway. There was a little boy tagging along with his mom at the event. After it was over, i was hanging out with him and he was showing me some of his toys. His mom came up to us and she asked what he was doing. He said, “im showing him my cars!” and pointed at me. I had to try and hide how happy i was while also assuring his mom that i did not mind being “misgendered” at all. he used he/him pronouns for me once or twice more and it made me so happy!

[@omni-one376]

on my uni campus thers only two gender neutral bathrooms wich r both in the main building, only one has bins so it happens that if i need to use the bathroom after class i have to run across campus and up to the second floor for a week one a month 🙃 (and all mens bathrooms have no bins at all)

[@silverghostcat1924]

All bathrooms need bins. I'm from US so I'm guessing they're the same as trash cans? 🗑️

[@omni-one376]

@@silverghostcat1924 yeah, just sth to throw a way sanitary products in general would be useful

[@tubebrocoli]

I love it that you can upload the original DOOM in the chaotic neutral gender upload box

[@stargirl7646]

Omg haha

[@foxross]

As a cis man that sometimes dresses androgynously, I can absolutely see how non-binary people should not be obligated to dress androgynously. It’s exactly like telling guys that they have to dress in a manly way.

[@Liggliluff]

(4:10) It's the same for binary transpeople, where there's no way you have to be male and female, and no particular way is wrong. But there are still things that are disphoric and euphoric for transpeople, so there's some conflict there.

[@MyVanHaven]

My favorite thing about the "upload custom gender (maximum 10MB)" thing, is that a compressed version of the original classic game "DOOM" is less than 2.5 MB. Do with that information what you will. (Something something "but what's in your pants")

[@coderamen666]

DOOM is my favorite video game. There is no gender only rage.

[@ItsMzPhoenix]

12:30 reminds me of when we were coding basic websites in my high school computer sci class, and I was making mine on nonbinary/other identities; one younger student in the class sent a private message in binary, followed by some thing about said binary message disproving nb genders, like ?

[@cannedshrimp1037]

LOVE YOU JAMIE 💗

[@PowerlineIsGod]

I have a strange obsession with the Bee Movie. I have nearly half of it memorized, and I think it's hilariously strange

[@jaytheidiot79]

The little “honk honk” Jamie did made my day lol

[@foodofthegods]

_high pitched honk honk_