No Interaction, No Existence

[@flapper27]

Thank you for unlocking mysteries about how narcissists act and behave. They're behaviors are quite frustrating. 💜

[@swinginga2136]

And that is why a NC regimen works so well. I have managed to vanish from all of the 5 spheres of influence that I can control, and I worry much less about the 6th one with this knowledge; no interaction no existence. This information is one of the key elements of understanding narcissism. It has helped me to reduce my fear and not overestimating the capacity of the narcissist. It is one of the aspects of narcissism, that I actually love; if I don’t have any contact with the narcissist, I don’t exist. That is exactly where I want to be; nowhere. Thank you HG What would my mental health be without your advice. Not good. Now I live a new life, in freedom and with a peace of mind.

[@predictablyunpredictable2757]

I am kinda like this, where once the person is away from me, I don't really think of them. And I easily forget, and move on, keep moving forward. I think people can get quite frustrated that you can just forget about them so easily. It helps having had early neglectful, abandonment, and unpredictability in parenting. But unless they contact me, I won't generally think of them. There has to be some kind of trigger. They also have to have had a "significant impact" on me in some way, for me to think about them regularly. Usually it is abuse of some kind. In another sense, I like to NOT exist. To dissappear as it were. A part of me likes it when people reject/ignore me. As it feels right. I generally do not wish to be on a person's radar either. I want them to forget me. I often just want to dissappear from everyone and everything. Guess they have to be "special" for me to go out of my way to contact them. But then again, I can go for months or years without contacting someone simply because I just decide to. I guess I'm unpredictable like that. I can attach... and yet I can also detach. Some people stay alive in your heart forever even if you don't physically contact them in some way. It feels like you have some kind of affinity with them... Sometimes I'll just come here because I'm curious... sometimes because of my addictive personality, and sometimes because it feels like self-harm I should really dissappear...

[@jans724]

HG is just so extremely pedagogical! It's great with such a condensed informative video!

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

You're spot on - he absolutely is

[@MargaretM-vd7bb]

Thankyou HG, it is no wonder that one’s head becomes messed up. Another Valuable lesson. ❤️🌻

[@leilaglen6435]

Ah, good old Object Permenance. Another reason why I seriously questioned whether I had N.P.D. So many similarities between being neurodivergent and being a narcissist...the key point, is that 'I feel a HUGE amount of guilt/shame when I forget someone/thing, or let a friend down'. A narcissist, would not.

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

4:04 how HG understands all this... I wonder? Is he sure he's a narcissist?

[@DonnaV411]

Would narcissists feel like they don't exist if there were a period of no interaction with other human beings?

[@WickedThingsThisWayComes]

So, what I hear you saying is, that to discern who is or is not a Narcissist, just figure out if they hold sustained thoughts about others when not in their company?

[@bill_quag]

I really don't see a problem with this particular behavior, as long as the person is socially responsible. So what if it's self-serving, and emotionally unengaged? It's far better to be detached than being emotionally dysregulated...

[@reneegardner2286]

Narcissists aren't socially responsible 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@bill_quag]

@reneegardner2286 I agree, but a highly evolved one will at least make the pretense of being socially responsible even if it's for personal gain...

[@bill_quag]

@reneegardner2286 For example, not everyone at a funeral who remarks "my condolences" emotionally means it. They are attending the funeral out of social protocol...

[@TheLastHopefulPlace]

💙🙏🏼

[@WickedThingsThisWayComes]

Also, when a narcissist plans and plots then takes revenge, is this an indication of psychopathy as well? Thanks HG 🤍