No More Bitterness - It's Time to Move on!

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[@mindyann8903]

Sit in your honesty and take your power back. “What I had wasn’t even what I wanted.” POWERFUL !! 🔥

[@gorogorotodoro]

This is tremendously helpful. Thank you

[@Jakilyn]

It's ironic you posted this today. I just made the decision today, to STOP the bitterness and being angry. I am moving forward and trying to stop those emotions now that it's been 3 months.

[@reemb6571]

Omg me too. Good luck to you

[@eunicedith]

Stop! Same here. Coach Lynn, Your videos are the best. Thanks to you I'm a better person and not hopeless. Please never stop posting videos. 💕

[@garyfoster2262]

Three and a half months for me discarded as if I was nothing after three years. definitely time to let go and move on

[@eunicedith]

@@garyfoster2262 4 year relationship just to be discarded. A year after, today, he told me he is in a relationship. I really needed this video. God give us strength to rise above all of it. I pray for you and everyone here in the comments 💕🙏

[@user-qz5gi4uh6x]

Yes, I felt bitter today for the first time in years! Fortunately this person has left my life. Thanks for the reminder to accept that I have to move on from a person who only caused confusion in me.

[@cellostrings2522]

You are right. THEY DONT CARE. You can’t make the perpetrator feel remorse for what they did. It is a decision to not allow yourself to become a victim. At some point you have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and move on with your life. It is hard. But the alternative is worse.

[@anna-qy8nj]

People just push back harder when you’re angry or bitter. Move on with a smile. The best revenge is no revenge.

[@LabradoodleTofuBoy]

I went through a breakup 2 weeks now but had to go through 30 days NC prior bc he asked for it. As it turned out, he already decided to leave 30 days ago and didn't tell me until the end. Talk about betrayal. I did not eat nor sleep for 14 days. I looked like a zombie. Lost colors on my face & even gained a 6-packs for spending so much time in the gym. Now, I do a lot of meditations & hot yoga. I want to forgive and let go. I would never treat another human being that way. 7 yrs we were together & he treated me worthless in 10 min. Remember, you have a beautiful soul bc ur hearts hurt like mine. So be proud to have a compassionate heart. Let them go so we can move on for the better

[@pkilam]

I started living by the motto of “ i can forgive you for your behavior, but ill never forget and i dont have to have you in my life.” Its awesome and i dont bother trying to convince people of things or spend time trying when its not worth it.

[@blossom1643]

Wow Good for You! That’s a great motto Thanks for sharing

[@SkyePhoenix]

Yes! Well said. It's exhausting and a waste of time and energy.

[@Dpanytime]

Focus on yourself and stay busy. I’m a guy and I was taught she’s not yours it was just your turn. It takes time to heal trust the process and love yourself more then anybody else.

[@akaiyanagiteru]

Part of me wishes them well and the other part of me wishes they suffer hell. But deep down I just want all of us to be at peace. I don't want to be tormented by the pain anymore. I just want all of us to be happy and at peace.

[@Hizbullla]

I am extremely bitter, even after 1.5 years after my ex emotionally cheated on and left me for another guy. They ended up marrying in under one year while she kept our long distance relationship a secret for 3. The fact that I was manipulated, lied to and led on while she blatantly benefitted from having me just makes me mad because I was so naïve and unaware of her plans. And knowing that she's extremely happy, now giving all her best to the other guy while she gave me absolutely nothing in return has kept me bitter all this time. I don't want her to be happy. Narcissists and cheaters don't deserve a perfect life.

[@Naan795]

Are you sure they have a perfect and happy life? They have emptiness as everyone and they try to filk that with other people.

[@HansenFT]

Holding on to anger is like taking poison and expecting your enemy to get sick. She doesn't get less happy by you being miserable. Forgiveness (when it's not combined with reconciliation) is a SELVFISH act. Doesn't benefit her at all. And if she wishes you bad things, it's actually bad for her.

[@georginafronda496]

You ex girlfriend a not happy as she is a narcissist. You are the lucky one who got away. Count yourself lucky and move on. She did you a favour!

[@juanmeyer3798]

I feel you ... 😪

[@yishihara55527]

Stephanie, it's VERY hard to imagine any man leaving you high and dry. Like literally what woman out there is topping you? Insane world I swear.

[@Hooligan51s]

It happened because I didn't know about boundaries. I tolerated inexcusable behavior and ignored red flags. Thank you so much for the video! Your awesome!

[@rainspiritflower2385]

My child turned on me and won’t have contact. She blames me for the abuse that I received. Though it hurts to have her out of my life more than I can describe, I am glad to find out that unconditional love really exists because I have it for her. Anyone reading this please send me some good loving energy because I’m having a really hard time with a lot of things right now. Thank you❤

[@Soothsayer937]

I always felt the most angry for how his behavior impacted our kid. She got pulled apart by the whole ordeal. I understand your pain. 💖 Stay 💪.

[@blossom1643]

Sending Love & Energy. The Bible says to bring our heavy burdens to Him. Take Heart He Loves you both!! Best Wishes to you❤

[@becknapp7266]

I just read this and I feel your pain, my son lost his father to suicide and since then is just an awful person, cut me off from him and my grandson's. He got me to the point of telling him I hate him, and meaning it. Hope things for you are better

[@terranesha5784]

I actually woke up in the middle of the night last night in peace and smiling. Realizing how good it felt to not be woken up in the middle of the night from him calling or coming in drunk or losing sleep being up with him arguing. Having a good sleep routine feels good. Good and bad feelings comes with healing.

[@izawaniek2568]

It is a Wonderful day when you start feeling your power coming back to you! Life is too short to waste it on toxic people and the anger and bitterness on them!( for too long, at least) Thank you.

[@blastprosful]

Still waiting a year later. Can't believe it's taken this long.

[@lostincredulity5369]

This was brilliant! I’m a single dad and you are normally excellent at being gender neutral. Yes you are so right about picking the positives out of the negatives regarding your son. You are an AMAZING mentor! What you do feels really genuine and heart felt I don’t get that from other people on KZbin. Thank you so much!

[@martikabraidbar394]

That’s the Lesson, passing through the emotional Pain and building strength & confidence

[@corinnecords6834]

You made a good point during the last minute of your video that if we look at what we really had in that relationship, it wasn't as great as we have built up in our minds! When we think it was better than it was it builds more resentment and anger and grief. Realizing what it actually was help alleviate those negative emotions. Thank you for your awesome wisdom Stephanie! 💓

[@JenniferLaVine99]

Just went through a breakup last month , your channel has been such a lifesaver. Thank you for all your hard work Stephanie!

[@leahcollinge7594]

What an amazing video! I have been out of a bad relationship for 7 years and although I made great progress with a therapist, I have grown in more in 6 months just by following you. Please keep up the amazing coaching, you are helping so many!

[@KomalSingh-cm8gc]

very true: most people dont care that they hurt me. they are just concerned with living their lives in the way they consider best.

[@Independentlash]

I’m so ready to heal from this situation and become stronger

[@jocelyndelarosatv6102]

I'm having a hard time to move on and not be bitter because of 17 years of marriage that my husband didn't give value of it... Our family he just ruined it, he cheated on me it was a 6 months now that we're not together because he chooses his mistress over me and our family..

[@devin6510]

Same here. Literally exactly same. 17yrs tomorrow. Bs

[@georginafronda496]

Remind yourself you are lucky he left you. You won’t see it now but trust me you are lucky. Remind yourself of Jonny Depp and Amber Heard. He was lucky he got away too. You will recover!

[@brightpage1020]

Also - the why - because I was a strong person who hit a vulnerable patch in life. I was a strong person who fell for society’s lie that I couldn’t possibly fulfill my worth as a human unless I fulfilled this goal of having a family, bearing children. Because Despite having good career, growth and development of skills, confidence, education, and a good network of supportive relationships, I felt lonely and incomplete as a woman. Because I happened across the path of somebody willing to take advantage of all those things. And since I couldn’t seem to find anyone up to responsibility for real, I let myself believe the words when I saw the actions running the opposite direction. I hung my hat on words aimed toward my goal rather than acknowledging the feet attached to those were aimed away from it. I saw a lack of willingness in others to take on the challenge of a family as a character flaw in myself, rather than the economic realities of a changing world order. But I can still be strong, with a level of wisdom now I didn’t have before. I’ve earned that depth and strength and can rely on that to rise to my family’s future needs. With or without this person. And if they drag us down more than lift us up, I owe it to my kids to provide a sane environment for them, a healthy one. Can I trust myself to create that now? Against this? With this in the periphery? Can I put distance as a buffing barrier between us and the source of this pain that seems to lack true solution? Am I willing to lift that weight? To do the work he won’t do with me? Haven’t I always been?

[@TheBottemLine]

You said it you can't keep going back expecting the perpetrator to finally grow a consciousness

[@amberandrews2269]

I needed this video! I am 39 weeks pregnant with our second baby, my husband left when I was just 22 weeks pregnant. I have been very resentful and bitter. I am angry that I will be forced to share my kids and miss out- this is not what I signed up for when we started a family!! I know I need to work on letting go of this anger..

[@przemyslawgilewski8966]

I know what you mean.. Good luck! Be strong and positive!

[@TheVbarlow]

God bless you and your babies. You are stronger than you know.

[@ladiebugs]

Stay strong! You got this!♡

[@poohbear6759]

Give yourself time honey. You have every reason to be bitter. They say it takes 2 years to get over a betrayal, you have had one of the worst. Dig deep you can do this. Have to say though, what a bastard. Sending you the biggest of hugs. xxx

[@livethelawofone27]

I commend you! I was married for 19 years with two kids, and bitterness is something that can interfere with being the best mother possible. So glad your children will see you happy and thriving. Many blessings to you 🙏

[@naomi4836]

Thank you so much for revisiting this topic for me. Have to remind myself daily. Left a traumatic home life at 16, into arms of a narcissist 7 years older . Left him 6 1/2 years ago. 23 years of my life I gave. I’m only now doing the deep work of reparenting myself. Some days it’s hard to understand who you are outside of all the trauma. I do believe in getting to a place of peace in myself in time. It’s all about me now. When left, getting abused for long time after I was parenting my children and completing a degree. Went into burnout year ago then got covid really bad to top it off. Only just starting to feel little bit human but grateful for the space I have to do some healing. Looking back I can’t believe the experiences I was put through but stated in because it became normal. Until I woke up thanks to him. For anyone who knows there is more than what you are going through. It’s possible! 🙏🏻

[@tinawilliford5330]

This was very good to hear. I needed this right now. I just received my court date for final divorce. It hit me like a ton of bricks. It has been a roller coaster for the last 6 months. His narcissism has really come out. Leaving me for another woman, then breaking up with her 3 times. He's nice one day and then the devil the next. We have a business together, and he does not want me to have any part of it. That's when he wants to be nice.

[@iamgoddessoflove]

By making your mental health and personal growth a priority, you will heal much faster. I understand that this can be hard to do, especially if you have little ones to look after. However, if you do have little ones to look after, it’s even more crucial that you take care of yourself first. This is so you are fully able to take care of others. 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@angelamossucco2190]

This is beautiful. ❤ thank you for guiding us to learn from our mistakes. Just because we were targeted or hurt doesn’t mean we weren’t at fault in some level and it’s useful to see the full picture. Anything else is more propaganda. Ignoring blatant red flags 🚩 for example is disrespectful to the self. Or tucking away core values to stay in a relationship is a choice that leads only to the loss OF those values or an (eventual) loss of the relationship.

[@blastprosful]

I'm trying but I've never been so used and abused by someone that I loved and thought loved me.

[@MrPhillipAllen]

Certain experiences that people encounter, they learn from and choose not to try and touch the pretty flames of fire; all the while lacking the ability to use their hand after touching fire the first time. After getting burned twice a wise person does not play with fire; no matter the fascination with the flame; I walk away from the fire, and stay away from it. And I do give it my respect.

[@TheVbarlow]

Wow... thank you Stephanie! 3.5 years after learning my husband of 38 years and someone I've known since 8th grade wasn't who I thought he was, the timing of this message is perfect! I've traveled down every path you described since having the rug pulled out from under me and am finally in a place where I am ready to not just exist each day but to thrive. My mom swallowed the pill of bitterness and it poisoned her. I vowed to never let life poison me but have struggled moving forward with joy and anticipation of what's to come. This video explains so much and I am grateful for your reassuring logic and for God's grace to get me to this place of healing.

[@CarmenGomez-mq2bc]

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[@NFSMAN50]

Thanks for this Stephanie, I'm learning to not be bitter about things anymore it's tough though but I will overcome it.

[@SkyePhoenix]

My narcissistic mother is the one that really altered the course of my life from day 1. Everyone else was just me, on a subconscious level trying to heal my "mommy issues" I recently went no contact with my mother. I'm no longer entertaining anyone else that's like her.

[@tomstertz9033]

What an amazing video…you are an incredible coach! I’m going through this right now. My narc had me doing all the cooking, shopping, paying ALL the bills, and taking care of our 3 kids….she was out lying and cheating….left me for dude, 4 days afte we told our kids, in her new house she’s having him sleep in the same bed as my 5 year old and her…. It’s been sooo hard being the bigger person and being the stable parent and not hating her for the sake of my kids. I spend most days watching personal growth videos and putting in the work to heal. Thank you for your Chanel and thanx for what you do

[@Bweird501]

I’ve got to say… I have watched your videos from the start of the separation from my ex husband and you have really been such a HUGE part of my Recovery. I’ve really gotten to a point where I see your videos and watch them because I enjoy the content, although I mentally feel super confident in with where I am and where I’m heading in my Future. Thank you… from the bottom of my heart! Thank you ❤

[@joeb5578]

You scare me. I met up with someone who chose me and not me chossing them. I've learned what gas lighting is. I learned what 'Love Bombing' is, abandonment and toxicity all from one person. I've never been through anything like this in my entire life. I've come a long ways recovering from this mind control and rape, so to speak. I'm actually suprised I popped out of it so quickly. I'm still in touch with that person but on a lower level. That is where I've learned what gas lighting truly is. I'm not truly clear of her influence, yet.

[@Jazzysaz8910]

Moving past bitterness and anger is hard work but I guess it’ll come with time… I don’t want to feel this way. Life has so much to offer.

[@folumb]

This week has been 2.5 weeks since "taking a break" which wasn't my choice. I feel like my only two emotions are anger and sadness. We are in the same church and same job and everyone that knows me knows her too. She is a people pleaser and I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone anymore because no one believes or takes seriously the hurt that I'm going through. Our relationship was so one sided towards her and everyone thinks that's normal I feel like I'm going crazy. When I complain about it everyone just looks at me like I'm pathetic adn I don't know where else to turn. She wants to talk it over and I know she's just going to apologize but nothing is going to change. She always says sorry but never fixes anything and I'm so frustrated because she tells other people how sorry she is and they look at me like I'm evil for not being satisfied with an apology when all I want is for things to be more fair - for things to ACTUALLY change. I don't know what to do. I feel like she is a fake Christian and I know that's not fair but I just can't understand why someone would do this. I hate her and I don't want to but at the same time I don't feel like she deserves what she is getting compared to what I'm getting. I don't feel like it's right for me to have invested so much into our relationship compared to her and then I have to also go through this too. All the advice I am getting from men in my church is to take responsibility for whats happening and take ownership but I truly don't feel like I did anything to make this happen and I don't know how to force myself to believe this is my fault. I feel pathetic because this is the only place I can say everything I'm feeling because no one else is going to listen or understand it.

[@deniseburg1460]

Stephanie you are helping so many hearts. I am amazed at how you have such an deep grasp on the dynamics of abuse. Thank you

[@meganmorgan7491]

First of all.. thank you for your videos! They’re wonderful. My husband three years ago treated me horribly for about three months saying suddenly he wasn’t happy anymore. I cried and begged and he laughed and smiled.. never really would tell me what he wanted then one day he was just like I’m done acting like this. A year later he gaslighted me saying I freaked out about him turning his phone away but as I’m showering him with gifts on his birthday I see he’s messaging a female coworker on snap chat and proceeded to tell me he had no idea who she was and deleted everything about her from his phone. A year later we’ve been great! We booked a concert of a new band we are loving .. I bought us matching shirts and once again he’s turning his phone away from me only to find out he’s talking to another coworker and sending her videos of this band we like bonding with her over it and he says there was minor flirting but he deleted every last bit of the conversations they’ve had for months. I don’t even know what to do or how to feel anymore.

[@ylana4444]

Doing things to take my power back was the jump start I needed to rebuild the self I lost in the relationship . It feels good to have myself back!

[@HYPERLLAMAS64]

I've learned this stuff on my own, but it's so amazing and validating to hear that the anger, sadness, and self-pity that I once felt so strongly are incredibly normal. It can be messy at the start, but I know that I don't need to feel guilty for ever being in that place.

[@Horizon25]

Moving on is key it helps others to just be happy in life

[@jmarietv]

omg...had a horrible devastating break up...he is still trying to ruin me after 10 years being together...i fear he is not getting his karma...a woman broke us up and knew she was doing it....thank you for your videos

[@gl9295]

it actually a blessing in disguise God has a better way I needed to go thru the fire in order to see what needed to be left and change because he and i know that whats coming is a whole lot better it was a necessary outcome to start shining ✨ and work not only in healing but to start building that bitterness is but a phase in a Transformation of a better me.

[@brightpage1020]

Love this - because my (or our family’s) future is not up to him. Not reliant or dependent on him. I can grow into that responsibility and earn it back for us (me and the kids).

[@kitten0331]

You are amazing. Your channel has helped me so much with my experience with my narc ex. I'm on my journey to move on and focus on the things that I do want. I've grown so much, learned a lot about myself and I'm carrying the positive outcome of this experience with me to make better choices and to focus on loving myself and knowing my worth/boundaries.

[@murielsmyth5047]

Stephanie thanks a mil…. I really needed to listen that. You have made me realise I have to work harder on myself or else I will be in an early grave.

[@SinisterScoundrel6562]

I'm certain you're not self loathing but never put any trust into other humans, only in yourself.

[@natsdaley9615]

Better not bitter if I let that emotion control me I've lost and I'm no quitter. Thanks Stephanie 😀

[@justiceforall3973]

This is so therapeutic, thank you so much! I hadn’t talked to my ex in almost 3 months and she reached out today but it wasn’t good! And I swear I saw the title of your video.. and I took my power back! I didn’t become bitter or argue with her, even though she called me all. Kinds of names and insults. I calmly answered her and let it be… I really feel good about controlling my emotions… thank you so much🙏

[@RippleDrop.]

Well done. Not so easy always. Proud of you.

[@bmorebutterfly5259]

Thanks Stephanie. Your video came right on time! I felt like was losing the battle. 🙏 🤍

[@FrankLombardo-ev4dd]

Thanks so much Stephanie. I made a mess by loving a m2f. I loved her so much i forgot she was a man. She abandoned me after 40 days of marriage with no notice or adult conversation. She jumped into another relationship. I finally realize that no matter how much i loved , i was never going to receive womanly love in return cuz she is a dude. I cant get her off my mind.

[@lisavansant961]

Great videos Stephanie it helped me immensely you're a blessing...

[@biozio186]

I feel that with being bitter you have to learn to just let things go. Holding on to the past will do that

[@biozio186]

@luly thanks

[@sueferguson6827]

Watching this had made me ask "What is my lesson",I think it is to find the inner strength that was a constant,not there one day and not the next, I have to re find myself,even if I made mistakes

[@DesireeGarcia-fj5fh]

Your videos are so thankful to me I'm going through it all and I have seen already 3 of your videos I relate to it. Your an amazing woman as coach and I will continue watching all your videos the rest of my life

[@jannaw9000]

I found out he was living a double life behind my back… I’ve had a hard time moving on 😞

[@ericlee419]

It sucks! I am sorry. You are not alone.

[@gregoryking9348]

I'm struggling to let go of it all too. I've had what I consider sufficient time to leave this is the past but I'm just getting more bitter. The damage they leave in their wake is almost incomprehensible. Best wishes in your journey to recovery.

[@sherri5525]

Hi Janna my story is like your somedays I have hard time even leaving the house I know how you feel

[@mindyann8903]

SAME !! I thought I had met my Prince Charming ! I was engaged and he bought us the most beautiful home in Nashville TN. I was planning my wedding and get a call finding out he’s married with THREE small children. He had just upped and left his wife and children in California and started a new life with me ! When I found out I was in absolute SHOCK & disbelief. Come to find out he had been barred from practicing finances in California & why he was traveling. Complete con artist … sociopath. I left him and he called my family and friends telling them all personal things only he knew. So sad to mourn someone you don’t even know !! 🥹

[@sidgrover8628]

You are such a fantastic source of reality and I thank you from the very bottom of my heart for all you do 👍🤠❤️

[@tonyg5132]

Thank you for this video in particular. You say the right things with such precision, I still have yet to find anyone else who comes close.

[@felif360]

Thank you, thank you, thank you, for this!

[@jamespage9201]

I am 64 years old and my wife is 75. Back in November my wife discarded me and when to live in her daughters house. My wife had never wanted to make friends. My biggest problem is I am now in place where I have no friends. The loneliness is incredibly debilitating. I have no family near me. Luckily, I have made phone friends and they have been wonderful. Another thing that has helped me was finding out the she was a covert female narcissist. Finding out that there was nothing I could have done to save our marriage. It was not my fault.

[@christinejames5631]

I get how you feel, but I am glad he isn't with me, I miss him in part but I really do not miss the abuse that came with him

[@davidhodgson5252]

Thank you Stephanie you are the best explaining everything I appreciate everything you do

[@kgourlay6717]

WOW…so applicable to me for years I’ve dealt with all this. Thanks so much for this timely guidance.

[@Kitofthearts]

❤ listening to Stephanie & her coaching skills. Such an excellent teacher & able to relate to her emotions. Highly sensitive 😅

[@minalimichel2630]

You always describe exactly how I feel!!!

[@SU-fj7bv]

This video was very much needed today ❤

[@melsteverding3117]

Thank you 🙌 ✨️

[@melsanchez]

Thank You…your wisdom and message comforts me and brings me hope. Thank you again

[@ulricka2131]

You' ve really said it all!!100%👌🏾

[@jmelinda6232]

Thanks. This was so real. Bless you for that. Especially today, after watching some BS on another channel.

[@amarrookie1097]

Oh my God !!!! This is the explanation I f my bitterness, I always wanted to hear so that is why when I heard other solutions it never hit to the brain and heart. I truly believe you are a God sent to me. Wish you were my sister. Really want to meet you and hug you. God bless!

[@lorraineniblock1673]

After 53years in a marriage then in5minutes discarded your comments about it not being as good as t thought is right now to take my power back

[@callme_b]

Thank you so much for this video ❤❤I really needed to hear this.

[@RiFella]

Thank you for your loving and kind words.

[@theophilus46]

This was a great walk through to healing and wholeness...............could have used this 16 years ago. It took me years to let go and forgive. I listened to a series from Dr Charles Stanley on anger/bitterness ......and then it hit me.. the need to let the bitterness go, and forgive . This was a good refresher of letting go.....thanks

[@SinisterScoundrel6562]

Well it's either that or die an early early death. There's no other way!

[@mariacliment2767]

Thank you for this video♥️

[@ree2675]

This is absolutely inspiring especially the end part. I didn't even realize this was how I was seeing it. Thank for the great insight.

[@robertlhamilton5769]

You ticked all the boxes. Hit a lot of issues. You're pretty darned good! Thank you

[@moonlights9061]

Thank you Stephanie ❤

[@emanuelmakonnen72]

You are very good at what you do!

[@tjfSIM]

For me the difficulty is that it's just not possible to work through these emotions with a narcissistic person. If I say that I'm feeling hurt, I just get 'trust me, we're absolutely fine'. And it's difficult to know where to go from there. I could say "we're not fine, because I'm feeling hurt, and we need to talk about this", but then she'll go on the defensive and I'll just end up apologising for upsetting her, and then feeling even more resentful and hopeless. It's just a downward spiral.

[@asing197]

Thank you so much. "You think that the thing you had was perfect" :D No, I should be thankful to be out of it rather than resent that it ended. Can't sum up how much you have helped me in my touch time.

[@edimathews8462]

I absolutely love when you said to think about what you've accomplished by yourself by going through these things...I love that!

[@jeramiekerns1753]

Thank you for the great content, especially this one. Thank you!

[@BrEyeBabyDoll]

I needed this today!! This channel has saved my sanity the last few years

[@mylesmcilwain253]

Thanks Ms. Stephanie. Your videos are great. Thanks for the validation!

[@KittyHendrix3]

I am so excited to just move on and let God do his job/correct or work on those ppl...God made them, not me.

[@brightpage1020]

If you stay bitter, they win - they’ve made you like them. Bitter and jealous and biting. The ones you love who support you now deserve better. Give the ones who depend on you your best, instead of your resentments about this person or the reality of pain they set you up for. Say you’re sorry - to yourself - and forgive gracefully, the way you would a friend who’d fallen down the same rabbit hole. Welcome yourself back into your life and stay watchful on your behalf. From this point forward, you can recognize the signs and know when you overextend your boundaries. It will feel like pulling a muscle even before the main pain hits - you’ll recognize that little tug and be able to duck out to rest up and recover quicker if it happens again. You’ll be able to nip it in the bud at a pulled muscle level instead of waiting for a torn ACL or hip replacement first. The words, “oh, it’s just a pulled muscle, not even a sprain - this is nothing. No big deal. I can manage to keep lifting heavy burdens” won’t even cross your mind. You’ll be like “ooh. I feel that. And I’m old enough now to take better care of myself, so I gotta sit this one out a while.” Your maturity will thicken and strengthen your sensitivity - to yourself. If others mention it or mock you for that, you can be like, “Yeah, I’m super sensitive to the slightest discomforts. Listening to my body’s signals is why I’m so strong. In my experience, it’s better for me to be sensitive now than let the pain escalate later. I rely on myself to act mature now, even if it makes me look old. Better to laugh at myself for sitting out a slight pain now than pay a big hospital bill later. Right?” Your heart is a muscle, after all. One of the top 3 most valuable muscles in your body. Might as well protect it for the team.

[@memocardenas9535]

I can honestly say you have saved my life!!! I love who you are!!! ❤️

[@danielrsson2171]

I'm a man in my early 30's and never been in a relationship - something I have a really hard time to admit to people and even myself. However, I am becoming really bitter at women from years and years of having them more or less ignoring me! Look, I don't mind being the one who makes the first move as a man and start talking to women. I am fine with that and would say I am ok when it comes to initiating a conversation with a woman. However, the conversations always fades out and many times the women I do talk to only answer me one or a few words, normally no questions back indicating no interest. At this point I am really frustrated and quite desperate - even though I hate to say that - but I feel like the years go by and being in this situation really makes me very stressed. I don't want to feel like shit but that's sometimes the reality. I want to stop the bitterness towards women for several reasons but at this point I feel that it has to happen something serious in order to make that shift. Not only positive thinking. I am trying to stop that negative thinking and many times it works, I've been using positive affirmations for that and they have worked many times. I can stop myself many times from from going down too far into negativity but some days/periods of time these feelings such as anger, bitterness and frustration can come back. And in those situations, I don't see the point in starting conversations with them at all, right now I've been there for a long time. But as I said, I feel like in order to have a serious, lasting change in my view of women it needs to happen something. Because you can't go on and on thinking positively without having a real change in life. I need a serious change in my life in regards to women. I accept the fact that some women probably won't like me since you don't click with everyone. But the real problem starts when it becomes a pattern over and over and over... and that's my situation... I am super frustrated about this and really need help. Thank You! / Daniel

[@mahimashrivastava8048]

Can relate to everything... Much needed video

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

So glad it help!

[@melanieboerrigter2844]

Thank you for that. It means a lot.

[@JChristo1984]

Stephanie, you have a real talent in delivering your content. Highly impressive. BTW, has anyone told you that you are a doppelganger for Alyssa Milano? Absolutely beautiful!

[@chericeabelard7654]

You are so knowledgeable and your videos are so powerful. I resonate so much with you. Thanks for doing what you do. Your a blessing and inspiration.

[@dianecole1982]

Perfect timing! Thank you

[@timwattison4419]

I'll always remain bitter at my age of 59. What's he did to me was brutal and left me on the brink of suicide, massive debt and jobless. I've battled for 2 years to to get my life back in order and still owe a massive amount of money on my home. Her and her bastard friends haunted me for 18 months and I've become reclusive to a degree and my smile has diminished severely. Trying to find an understanding new partner is also a struggle as most women these days are Narcissistic and damned right cold hearted.

[@Sparksflymich]

Thank you Steph please don’t stop making these content and especially on moving on break ups ❤

[@cardude6617]

I'm still single after 5 years and yeah I'm bitter because I haven't met anyone better only worse or just as bad and I am not settling for it!

[@12mohameda12]

its been 2 month since she left me for her manager. I didn't even realize why I was feeling like shit and angry till I looked at the date. everyday is its own new sets of challenges and fights. one day its calm, the next is not. hard to find consistency.

[@Naan795]

Yes the feeling to be abandoned or discarded is so bad but now you have the chance to rely on a higher force to give you more power on your own value and give less value to others.