"No such thing as a bad boy" Ignite compassion for problematic behavior | Dr. Pat Friman | TEDxOmaha

Time to ignite compassion. Especially, says Dr. Pat Friman, in a world where we are faced with circumstances beyond our control, that may cause us, and those around us to react in ways we would not normally. In the words of Father Flanigan founder of Boys Town when the community were quick to condemn the bad behavior of roaming bands of orphan boys plaguing the city, he said, “there are no bad boys, only bad environment, bad training, bad example, bad thinking” therefore it is the bad circumstances that causes the behavior. This circumstantial view of problematic behavior seeks to fix the problem not blame the person, because the cause is unknown. We don’t know what the proverbial ‘baby in the backseat’ might be, and we don’t know what is causing the behavior. Time to show compassion and take that first step to change. Compassion ignited civilization, it is time to follow the example of some of the greatest human beings throughout time, who have shown compassion towards those who have sought to harm and hurt. Dr. Patrick C. Friman is Vice President of Behavioral Health at Boys Town and a Clinical Professor in the Department of Pediatrics, University of Nebraska School of Medicine. Former positions include Johns Hopkins University, Editor of the Journal of Applied Behavior Analysis, President of the Association for Behavior Analysis International. A published author of over 200 scientific articles, chapters and three books, focusing primarily on scientific and clinical work is in Behavioral Pediatrics and Behavioral Medicine. Dr. Friman’s work in behavioral pediatrics has concentrated on the gap between primary medical care for children on one side, and referral-based clinical child psychological and psychiatric care, on the other. A secondary focus is on adolescent behavior and development. He also specializes in consultation regarding workplace issues such as motivation, dealing with difficult people, change, happiness and pathways to success. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@erinbertoli393]

The PERFECT, correct view of behavior analysis: compassionate care. The world needs to hear this (and everything that comes out of this mans mouth). Listen in it’s entirety and SHARE, SHARE, SHARE!

[@lor2rose]

When I begin to lose my focus, listening to Dr. Pat Friman always helps light my path.

[@amrmoustafa3991]

Oh my goodness how influential is this talk. Dr Pat friman is always amazing

[@earlaweese]

*I was never a bad boy or a bad person or a bad man. I’ve just been less aware than other people.*

[@aporajitabangali1408]

Such a pleasant speaker Just want to keep listening to him

[@virgosoul]

Awesome I'm here from my Motivational interviewing teacher

[@janneukam5329]

I think I’m in love!❤😊

[@yinafrentz]

"Is time to go easy"

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[@beardedbehaviorist]

Why is closed captioning turned off on this video? This is a major accessibility concern.

[@paulshelton4920]

If the car in front of me doesn’t move through a traffic light I honk first then I roll down my window. Are you OK or what’s wrong with you? Then I get out my car and knock on the window if the window rolls down I see the baby in the backseat and I offer help! My crew does the same so I think there’s better metaphors out there than this

[@sornlooksorn5776]

@9:10: Do this when u meet challenging, "problematic" person.

[@Melissa-jy2be]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@justinmatthews2899]

Steven Hayes brought me here

[@tonyburton419]

Same here - but there is also a need just some more realism. And for this, my suggestion above is recommended. Of course, there are also a number of real-life crime channels on KZbin. Some of these perpetrators need care and safety, but released back into community living for many... no. There are folks with no guilt or shame, (maybe in some this is seriously repressed taking a psychodynamic view). BA is extremely useful, but is not the only answer.

[@ukeef]

@@tonyburton419 BA does NOT say that people with a history of harming others should be released into the community. You may have missed the point..

[@dcdno_one2393]

@@tonyburton419 You lost us all at "repressed" and "psychodynamic." Making up stories about why people do what they do is not science. Even individuals who have low levels of appropriate guilt can be conditioned to live civilly. They did not choose their circumstances.