No Bad Kids | Destini Ann | TEDxRutgersCamden

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Жыл бұрын

Bad behavior does not equal a bad kid! There’s always something else going on. Unfortunately, labels like “bad” keep parents from finding and understanding the underlying causes that, when addressed, can lead to positive behaviors. Destini Ann is a certified parent coach who is a compassionate and relatable source for navigating motherhood! She takes the psychology of parenting and turns it into fun, digestible content for her community. She teaches with empathy and empowers parents to shift the culture of their homes to more intention, grace, and presence. From the public school system to her own home, Destini has been developing her connection-based approach for 10+ years. In a society where we are more stressed than ever, Destini reminds parents of their innate power so that they can give that same gift to their children! This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@megangifford6554
@megangifford6554 Жыл бұрын
I am beyond proud of you. As a therapist, I genuinely think I’ve learned more about parenting and how to help my clients with parenting than I ever learned in grad school. Thank you so much for being who you are and allowing us to see you.
@celesteallen3574
@celesteallen3574 Жыл бұрын
Yes! I just sent one of my clients a link to her Instagram account.
@Heyvee
@Heyvee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. "Connect before correct. Listen more than talk. Be curious than judgemental." All children deserve this! Beautifully said!
@amytorchia5498
@amytorchia5498 Жыл бұрын
Respecting children as whole, complex, and layered beings is such a gift to them and to us. Thank you for sharing your wisdom in such a beautiful and meaningful way, Destini. My daughter is now 25 and I am still learning every day how to be a gentle present parent.
@cassialupo2148
@cassialupo2148 11 ай бұрын
I honestly think this is how we change the world. I don't have kids but I was one. I know I would have had such a hard time if I had had kids without having learned these things from my parents, who had not learned these things from their parents. Thank you, Destini!!
@val12jb
@val12jb 7 ай бұрын
This was soo incredibly important for me to hear right now… I BLEW UP on my 5 year old daughter today… it’s been a difficult couple months. I need to be more present with myself, so I can be more present with her…
@LauraGonzalez-lb2uu
@LauraGonzalez-lb2uu Жыл бұрын
Everyone needs to hear this. So good. We need more from Destini ✨
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
Big love. Thank you thank you!
@Selfhealers
@Selfhealers Жыл бұрын
Sister! I was not expecting it but you made my inner child cry when you uttered the words “children’s feelings & emotions are valid”. Thank you, dear Destiny!!! Sending you much love from London, S☀️ 💋
@respectfullymama
@respectfullymama Жыл бұрын
So beautiful written and said. This is just the heart of humanity, the world would be a better place if the world prioritized humans’ wholeness from the womb. It seems so simple. Respect is at the core of it, and it’s respect for the self and the other.
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
"If the world prioritized humans' wholeness from the womb..." chills. big love
@KimmyeDawson
@KimmyeDawson Жыл бұрын
I was in tears watching this... One I didn't know Destini had did a Ted talk, because I absolutely love her and her Gentle parenting tips and healthy habits. Two this made me feel so bad because my son was throwing a tantrum right before falling asleep. I didn't know how to handle it, so... I watched him throw a tantrum, walked away and grabbed him a bottle and I feed him hoping it would stop the crying. once he finished he continued to cry and I just laid in bed letting him cry till his dad came in the room and soothed him to sleep... I say all this because I felt like she was speaking directly to me in this moment. Thank you Destini!
@jarrettbakersr
@jarrettbakersr Жыл бұрын
This was dope! Destini, you’re a world changer! 🌎💪🏾
@mineburhan
@mineburhan Жыл бұрын
We are lucky to have you!! Thank you for showing up!!❤
@RMoore713ify
@RMoore713ify 2 ай бұрын
This woman is a tremendous speaker and her message is spot on! Labels are inherently stigmatizing. They've got to stop. Let's lead with empathy, not labels!
@missbasic1035
@missbasic1035 Ай бұрын
This deserves more love!!
@newmoneystyles5967
@newmoneystyles5967 Жыл бұрын
Cousin I needed to hear this today. Labels are powerful that carry on into your adulthood. Thank you. I will be mindful of the words I say.
@RobinsonJennah
@RobinsonJennah 17 күн бұрын
Thank You! 🥹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@AliveBoldTV
@AliveBoldTV 3 ай бұрын
Whew adolescent therapist here who is so appreciative of your voice. ❤
@jennifersumpter7754
@jennifersumpter7754 Жыл бұрын
Wow. I can relate to this on so many levels. Thank you for your transparent and vulnerability. It takes so much courage.
@roxannedaily7685
@roxannedaily7685 3 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this, it really opened my mind. What you said made so much sense to me 💕💕💕💕
@marissabarbee240
@marissabarbee240 10 ай бұрын
Thank you for your message
@TheWordQueer
@TheWordQueer Жыл бұрын
This was so good Destini!
@Turkeyhill19
@Turkeyhill19 Жыл бұрын
My niece’s bad behavior started showing up in school. I was surprised when her teacher called me at work because I had no idea the school or my niece had my number. After I talked to the teacher I called my Sister and told her what the teacher said. I know how my sister so it was no surprise to me when she replied that my niece “does good in school and has good grades”. She said “I don’t know what that teacher talking about”😄like her and the teacher had beef. When it was time for her to graduate (a few years later) she wasn’t allowed to because of her grades. I think that was the wake-up call for my sister. My niece now lives with my mother (her grandmother) and has two kids under the age of one with no job. and nobody can tell her anything! My sister and niece now hate each other. Discipline isn’t a bad thing all people young and old need it.
@FaerieElethia
@FaerieElethia Жыл бұрын
Thank you for all you do, Destini 💛 We’re all so proud of you! You’ve taught us so much 🥰
@shahedahfornah553
@shahedahfornah553 Жыл бұрын
Awesome job, Destini. Thank you for bringing us along on your journey and showing us daily that it's not about being perfect but embracing your imperfection and offering our children the same grace we would want to be offered to us as we navigate life.
@moniquemerrill7739
@moniquemerrill7739 Жыл бұрын
Destini this was absolutely amazing! As a mom of 4 I’ve had my “bad mom” moments and I’ve learned so much from watching you and practicing “gentle parenting” with them now. Hopefully it’s not too late for me to turn this around for my kids and myself. Thank you for your guidance!
@karissamonique2075
@karissamonique2075 Жыл бұрын
So glad I got to watch this. Your instagram is so helpful. You are full of knowledge. Thank you!
@annas5441
@annas5441 Жыл бұрын
This was soooo beautiful and a great reminder of how to be with our kids, ourselves and each other! Great presentation Destini! Always love the way you get to the root…the heart 💛
@hannabanana85
@hannabanana85 Жыл бұрын
So excited I recently got her audio book!
@BebegotBack14
@BebegotBack14 Жыл бұрын
This is AMAZING! Thank you!!
@oliviathatcher1459
@oliviathatcher1459 9 ай бұрын
You are a gift. Thank you so much for this. So timely. Two steps: Connect then correct.
@ciarafoster1920
@ciarafoster1920 11 ай бұрын
Omg I appreciate you so much for this! You are truly amazing and I learn and gain so much from you!!!! I pray you continue because I promise you, you are my guide!!!! Wishing you peace, love, and prosperity. Forever grateful for you and your teachings🌹🙏🏾🖤
@hunnersmiles
@hunnersmiles 10 ай бұрын
So proud for you!! I can’t wait to practice intentional parenting with my littles one day! 🫶🏽🫶🏽
@roshanscott9136
@roshanscott9136 Жыл бұрын
So good Des! I’ve pocketed so many tools from this to use in my parenting role (even thou I’m just an aunty) but as always, I’m so proud of you ❤
@skua757
@skua757 Жыл бұрын
Well said! Totally loved it
@child_connection
@child_connection Жыл бұрын
At the risk of ignoring your entire message 😉😉 - Destini, you are genuine and authentic and your story is so real and relatable. You're a damn good mom and such a great teacher, too!! (and you can take those labels any way you want!) And some real appreciation: your talk massively fulfills my needs of feeling a strong sense of purpose and being part of a community creating positive change for parents everywhere. ❤❤❤
@shannacanada9219
@shannacanada9219 Жыл бұрын
This was great, Destini! More parents need to hear this. 🎉❤
@rheynawijsman8087
@rheynawijsman8087 Жыл бұрын
I love seeing you on this stage. Great reminders and insights! The reason why I follow your socials.. honesty and handy tools 👏🏾👏🏾 well done!
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!
@seraphinas189
@seraphinas189 Жыл бұрын
So awesome you made it to a Ted talk!! Your content keeps getting better, so happy to follow you on your journey
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
thank you for this!
@ericawells6086
@ericawells6086 4 ай бұрын
Oh my gosh girl you nailed it!! 😍
@chibicheez9507
@chibicheez9507 Жыл бұрын
I’M SO PROUD OF YOU!!! ❤️
@pamelan2261
@pamelan2261 Жыл бұрын
Loved this!
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
thank you!!!
@thatsteee
@thatsteee Жыл бұрын
This was good. You are not a label!!!
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
Yes yes! Thank you!
@cgmax7271
@cgmax7271 Жыл бұрын
SO good 👏🏻 yes to everything!
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
Big love!! Thank you!
@NMW21299
@NMW21299 Жыл бұрын
That’s was so beautiful ❤
@christinal3721
@christinal3721 Жыл бұрын
So so good!
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@user-fe9yd6qm3h
@user-fe9yd6qm3h 4 ай бұрын
So amazing 🎉
@monebridgewater6464
@monebridgewater6464 Жыл бұрын
Girl soo proud of you.
@alwayswandering7668
@alwayswandering7668 Жыл бұрын
"You are not a label". Thank you.
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
Thank YOU!
@tamragoodson8678
@tamragoodson8678 Жыл бұрын
Well done!
@destinidavis1682
@destinidavis1682 Жыл бұрын
thank you!!
@chokmahyahvlogs
@chokmahyahvlogs Жыл бұрын
Amazing ❤❤❤ truth! Knowing the creator helped me learn this.
@grilledcheeseWITHsyrup
@grilledcheeseWITHsyrup Жыл бұрын
🔥🔥🔥
@thoughtsbyN
@thoughtsbyN Жыл бұрын
I was also labelled as a bad daughter. Ouch!!😢
@scsmith15
@scsmith15 Жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@beeedot
@beeedot Жыл бұрын
THIS❤🔥🔥🔥
@biancasobral1456
@biancasobral1456 Жыл бұрын
I don’t even have kids and I love this ❤
@Lockednvegan
@Lockednvegan Жыл бұрын
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
@miacooley8176
@miacooley8176 Жыл бұрын
For the “bad kids” everywhere!
@bellet0305
@bellet0305 Жыл бұрын
🤗❤
@sativavie4001
@sativavie4001 9 ай бұрын
I feel like when you parent like this, there is less that your children have to heal from/relearn/reparent themselves in the future.
@UnveiledBeauty_byJudy
@UnveiledBeauty_byJudy Жыл бұрын
What’s her KZbin page or Ig???
@deardewette
@deardewette 6 ай бұрын
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